Krazy Truth about Swinging #342 Accountability is everything

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Speaker1: Hey, kids. The program you're about to listen to contains some adult situations, adult language, themes, and other adult topics. If you're easily offended, this show's not for you. Hey, you crazy motherfuckers. Welcome back to another edition of Crazy Truth About Swinging. I'm your host of the most. I'm Cole. We're the lovely, lovely, and terrified of fingernail clippings of Miss Amanda. Hey, I've been traumatized, damn it. Not my fingernail clippings. That was my boogers, and it was soft and squishy because it was fresh out of my nose. We're here to handle it too late and otherwise just to poke whenever we can. Well, you don't have a bra. Sure don't. Now my finger went further than I had anticipated. I'll be damned. Anyways, this is Season 8, Episode 342. Shout out to our sponsor, Smokin' Meats. Barbecue Treats was what we had today. Good. We love those guys. We need more ribs. There you go. Just saying. Okay. ASNLimestoneMagazine.com. We're going to the awards there soon. 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Anyways, so we are getting ready to go in about 13 hours, 14 hours, 12 hours, something like that, in the next 10 minutes. We're headed to Orlando. We're going to be on the road forever this summer round. We're actually going to be on the road for 11 days. That's a pretty good trip for us. I had to do my pills up because of my pill pack. It only has enough for fucking one week. So I had to double open my pill packages. That's old people problems. I'll make sure you don't fucking. Now I got to make sure I don't take too many. I'm used to just taking the hand. Now I'll be like. If I take too many. At least you can fit two days in one compartment. Yes. Because I'm the one of the two. I cannot. Beacon of health. Now yours are all supplements and whatever and whatever. Hormone replacement. Mine are all fucking like. So my heart doesn't fucking implode. Close. Similar things. Just saying. But yeah. Implode or explode? I don't know. Probably implode. A black hole in my chest. Deep, dark, foreboding. Womp. Anywho. So, but we're on, we'll be there. We're making a couple of stops. We're stopping in St. Louis on the way down because you have a shoot in St. Louis, which is our about once a year, twice a year shoot. You're on your way down there. My armpit licker. Yep. Mystery Man is what I call it. Yep, you'll be on your way. We'll be on our way down there, and then we will actually catch a... Nope. God, I'm exhausted. Full of yawning. I wanted to take your role. Then we'll catch a nap-ish. Look at a couple hours. And then we'll be on from there, powering down to the land of hurricanes, to Orlando, and lots and lots of rain. It's just gonna be rainy. Where we have a full fucking itinerary of shit going on. Yeah, from the moment we get there. From shoots and events, because we're obviously... Because we get there, we check in, we have a shoot, then we have the meet and greet. Which we'll be late to, actually, even. Then Friday, it's shoot. And then they have a white party. Yep. And then Saturday, it's shoot-ish. I don't remember the count, because I don't know. It's in my calendar. Yep. Dinner, and then dinner, and then the awards, and then a masquerade ball. And then a masquerade ball. Adverts. And then Sunday. Sunday I've got a shoot. Two shoots. And then we have our family dinner for a birthday for one of our friends. And then we're up and get up on the road on Monday morning, and we're going to shoot nine hours-ish back to Gulfport. Six. Six to go see your dad for a couple of days. for a day and a half. And on the 28th, we're going to get up in the morning of the 28th and shoot to Nashville. And where we have, we'll both have a shoot in Nashville and get up the 20, or no, on the 27th, excuse me, then on the 28th, we'll get up early to crack it on and shoot to home. Yes. So that you can already get home because you have to. Go a different route. So we don't go through Kansas City because we were made aware of a game, but we weren't going to go that way anyway because we went up at Dutchman's store. And I'm like, that's a U disease. In a place in Iowa, it doesn't really matter. Nobody cares. I'm like, I can't fucking think of it. It's not Clorinda. It's another C word. Cunt. Anyways, probably not, but it could be. But anyway, so we're going to go there and then we're home. And yes, hopefully we'll bring home some hardware. We're up to five awards. So hopefully we will bring home. Are we getting you an Amish hat and trousers? It could be. You never know. Hell, we could trade the card and get a horse and buggy. Take a little longer at home, but I'll never have to fuck you. You'll miss the Husker game. I don't care. I'll never have to get into the rest of my life. That's not true. Here, pony. Here, pony. Anyway, so yeah, so we got a whole plethora of stuff. So hopefully somewhere in there we'll be in golf for it on the next time where it's a time to do a podcast. So hopefully we'll have to see. We've done before. Oh, I got you. Depends on what time my dad decides he wants to go to sleep. So it may be like 20 minutes later than normal. Anyways, so with that being said. It might be like 9 o'clock, 8, 9 o'clock. So here becomes a great, the topic for tonight is really interesting because we're running into a unique situation. So we all know there's a huge thing in the adult world and the swinger world. There's differences and there's sort of rules and regulations and whatever and testing. So, an interesting thing is happening. They have what's called a content house. It's the part where all the porn people get together, and they schedule, and everybody's shooting. They rent a big mansion, and everybody does shoots, and it's trying to help each other get as much content as possible. The unique thing with this content house is, A, it's massive, okay, which is whatever. It's fucking huge. It's like 30 to 50 people, which is too many. There's a lot of people. So it's coming across as awfully chaotic. But then there's some people that just want to watch and observe. It's very chaotic. And this is a unique one. And on top of it, a massive amount of people in there are new. But what was the part that came interesting through was the fact that... This came apparent today. Last weekend, or this weekend we just got through, was a big Splash Mocha party down in Florida. Which is, they're a great time. We encourage you to get a chance to go to Splash Mocha. party go to one big lifestyle event and a lot of the people attended the or some of the people attended the splash mocha event and they're in the content house and the reason that's such a big deal is testing is everything that's you don't watch porns of people wearing condoms there's a reason for that there's some there's some but not very often so and it's not that i want to talk about the relation between swinging and porn but what i want to talk about is is the challenges that there's been uh and it'll be interesting to see how this all plays out because all of a sudden there's been this concept of the honor system has applied. We don't play in the honor system because that's why they do testing. It's not going to affect us directly because we've already talked to the people we're shooting with, blah. That's the indicator there. But what I do want to talk about is let's talk about accountability for our actions in the lifestyle because this has brought to the forefront some very important things that go on and that are fundamental differences in our world between the lifestyle and the swimmer world. But it brings up the concept of how do we prioritize things in our life? I mean, quite honestly, because, you know, let me give you an example. In terms of we want to go to an event that's a high-profile event, but, oh, my God, we don't want anybody to see that we're there because it costs us jobs, whatever. Right. We want to, you know, it's that we want to, there was a time on Facebook you could put dick and pussy pictures and sex videos and it was awesome to do that in the private thing. But, oh my God, we don't want anybody to walk in a bar and if we, somebody recognizes for a job, sweet mother of fuck. And, and there is a degree of accountability on how we do things and how that affects the lifestyle. So in this case, it's going to affect some people in their supposed wannabe job or side jobs, right? Which is obviously porn. Because just like us, we have shoots to go to after we leave here. Which obviously falls within testing, so testing is important to us. Not to mention the fact that two weeks after we're home, you're gone again. You go back to the ranch, which you already have appointments lined up. at the ranch waiting for you, so it becomes a huge... It's not something we can just blow off, and I think that's a key. I thought that was a really good topic overall for the lifestyle because we see so many things go on in the swinger community, and a lot of people have some very definitive, hard, Yes or no things they do or don't do. Except for the fact that they conveniently overlook all the gray in between. And that's what I want to talk about. If that makes sense. Okay. So let's talk about the gray of protection during sex. Okay. Because this is a big one. Okay. And this is one that is huge in the swinger community. Okay. When you go to the brothel, if somebody wants a blowjob, they have to have a condom on, correct? Mm-hmm. If they want a handjob, you have to have a glove on, correct? Correct. We don't know on a foot job if you have to wear a sock or not, we'll find out. But the bottom line is if they want to— You can probably put condoms on each foot. But if they want to eat your pussy, they have to use a dental— Use protection, whether dental dams some girls use saran wrap. But there's, by state law, there is no skin-on-skin contact. Great. When we get tested for things, right, for the adult side they test, everybody, you get anal swab, oral swab, genital swab, bloods, because they know that STDs, you can get gonorrhea, But you can get gonorrhea of the throat. You can get gonorrhea of the anus. You can get the same with syphilis, same with all the way across the ports. And in the swinger community, a lot of people are very adamant about safe sex. We're going to use condoms regardless of condoms. But in 14 years, I've never once had a female turn on and go, you need to use a dental name before you eat it out. And you've never, I don't think you've ever had a guy say, hey, let me put a condom on before you suck my dick. And I've never said it either. I mean, I'm not throwing stones at it. I mean, the brothel's a different story, but yeah. Right. But the thing is, is the point that I want to make with it is, you can have the safest sex intercourse rules that you want, and you can stick with condoms 100% of the time. If that's your choice, awesome. Mm-hmm. And it is absolutely zero value if you let a girl suck your dick without a condom on or you suck a dick without a condom on or you get your pussy eaten or eat pussy without protection. Mm-hmm. That is just a truth. It's science. We live in a world where science isn't always liked anymore, but it's science. So my question is, as a swinger, what would you do if somebody turned, and it's hard for us to ask each other this question because we're different, we're in a different environment, if all of a sudden a guy said, or a girl said to me, excuse me, I'm not going to take your day, let's put a condom on. Because I can tell you, there would have been a time, now it would be like, ooh, okay, condom choice, get it. But there was a time that that would have fucking I'd have been like, what? It would have totally sidetracked me. And part of the reason I bring this up in the lifestyle I'm just one of them too one reason guys hate condoms because by the time they get them on the sensitivity's not the same blah but it's by the time you get them on you can have issues. Me opening a condom is like watching a monkey fucking a football. It's probably the funniest fucking thing in the world. Because if it was a bag of chips, there'd be chips flying all the way around by the time I got that motherfucker. He flounders, yes. So the thing would be is, what would you do in that situation? In which situation? As a guy and you're asked, you're told, not asked, if you want this, you have to do this. To me now, it wouldn't bother me. Right. Not in the least, because I've done it. Right. And I understand. But, you know, if back then, if a guy would have said, hey, I need a condom, I'd be like, what do you have? Not necessarily what I have, but what do you have? Right, right. Because I would take it defensively. Yeah. When we didn't know, because a lot of people in that situation. Because we weren't educated on it. Yeah, we didn't know. That's exactly the first thought would have been like, well, what the fuck do you have that I can't, that you can't, I mean. and whoa, not even thinking about role reversal. And here's what's funny, in the house, in the ranch, because that's a good example, but you've had to tell guys, no, you use, if you, because guys, not just guys, women would try to, but it's like, oh, she won't know. They've tried to move it aside. It was like, no, do that again, and we're done. We're done. And it makes me wonder, it's like, what do you think? I mean, can you fathom? Picture one of our events. And all of a sudden, that scenario unfolds. I can honestly get people going, people being everything from, and not our people, but people being offended. An horrible, awkward silence. I can envision people coming to me going, I think somebody's got someone because they made me do this. Or I can envision other people coming to me going, I was so fucking assaulted, that's bullshit, they would accuse me of having this. When what people don't understand is I've had people from other parts of the country ask me if they had to bring results, test results, to come to our event. But I think it varies regionally. Yeah. Because you hear, you read on Facebook on different groups that Some people are like, oh my gosh, can you believe we went here and no one was using a condom? Well, it depends. Are you going from here to there, you know? Going to, let's say, Las Vegas or something along those lines where it's a bigger variety of people from different regions, I'd be more apt to say, uh-uh, you need a condom. Only because when we were brand new, We were accused when a couple played with us one night and then went to Vegas. For a week and fucked everything that moved. Right. And she went to the green door or some shit. And she got gonorrhea and accused you of giving it to her. And I'm like, well, I'll go get tested. And then which test proved? No, you didn't. No, no, we didn't. You got it in Vegas. No, we were pretty careful. Apparently not. Yeah. Because we didn't give it to you. So that taught us a lesson. When you go to people you... Not that you're safe with people you know, but even people you don't know. There's no social consequences when you... And that shouldn't be the underrated score. But there's no social consequences when you go to a place like Vegas. A million people fly in. It was an eye-opener. A million people fly out. How many people go to the Splash Mocha parties? I don't know. Are they from all over? because it's a vacation. What about Naughty in New Orleans? I mean, you've got these big, huge events that people from all over go to. We have people that come in from all over the country. Gosh, what was the one testing company that the guy developed the company because they were accused of giving another couple gonorrhea and come to find out they had it in the throat and didn't know it because the test that they did did not include throats. And they were horribly offended. because they got tested. They went to their doctors. They got tested very, very regularly. After the plane part, they got tested. But their doctor did, like a lot of doctors do, a blood test. Well, they went to a different place, a clinic, and they're like, okay, we need to do the throat swab. And they're like, what? Well, you can get it here. And sure enough, they had actually caused a gonorrhea outbreak in their community. And they felt bad because they had no idea. They were mortified. Yeah, it was not an intentional thing. And the challenge is when you go to big national events and you have no social consequences. What I mean by that is you're not going, you go to Las Vegas and you go to a bar, I don't care, wherever, you pick somebody from Las Vegas, Sin City, right? You go and you fuck them. The odds of ever seeing them again, slim to none. Even if you're there for, like we're there for, we've been there for, you know, of our event for four or five days. After that four or five days, the odds of seeing a... Good luck getting their name. Well, here's the thing. Nothing's going to show in three or four days. So you're not even going to know. They might not know that it's going to show. You're never going to see them again. So there is no social consequences of, oh my God, I would hate to get somebody to have to face them. And you shouldn't use that as a safety guide, but even up here, Even if you're in your local area, you have that social consequences. Here's the reality of it. There are diseases and things out there that are part of the population never shows any symptoms of. And the reason we're talking is this isn't necessarily just about testing, but it's about the fact that you, if you choose to use the honor system, for your safety. You and I talk. You tell me you're clean. I tell you I'm clean. We agree to okay with that. Rock on. Not telling you you're wrong, right, or otherwise. But there are potential consequences that go with that. Just everything has consequences. Just like, you know, the swinger community, it makes you ask. How many of us actually ask, can you get pregnant? Us old people thought you only work hard until you get pregnant until we learn differently. Everybody's drinking. Everybody's having a good time. Everybody's partying in the moment. I haven't had to worry about knocking. you up for... 26 years. Is that how long since you had your head, something like that? No, my tube side. Your tube side. So you forget... 1999? Yeah, 26 years. I'm 53 years old. I can tell you I don't want another family. Are you sure about that? I'm goddamn sure of that. I am damn sure of that. Surprise. And we forget that, you know what? 40-somethings. It's not just the 20-somethings that can get pregnant. Mm-hmm. How many of us do you want to ask? I can't read it. I've seen a couple posts on Full Swap 101 this week talking about people testing positive for things. Any sex, lifestyle, or adult or personal is playing Russian roulette sport fucking as a gamble to everyone. Yes. Yes. I think it's funny, Jan, but Rachel asks that question a lot because you've always, You've been the one. You've asked me that question. What? If we're pointing somebody, is she fixed? Yeah. Because I'm not. Yeah, I mean. I need to go on at half price on one now. Okay, that's funny. But no, Larry, you're exactly right. And the thing is, is. What brought, okay, so just to bring what brought it up. What brought it up is that there was a group of people that went to You went to Splash Mocha over the weekend. You do a test on Monday. It isn't going to show anything if you caught anything. So I was like, hey, went to the host and I said, hey, so there's a group that went to Splash Mocha. And this is not a rip on Splash Mocha. No. They went to a swinger event. Yeah. And I said, I know it's a swinger party. I know not everybody plays at swinger parties. But what's, you know, If they did, it's not going to show up on a test. And she goes, well, I talked to them beforehand, and they're supposed to use condoms. And they all agreed, and I touched base with them. And I touched base, and they all used condoms. Okay, so I'm supposed to believe that? The honor system, the swinger community is a community. But we have to take accountability. For our own actions. Okay, so with that in mind, so there are several things that you can do to protect yourself from certain things. You can do, oh, what's the one prep for HIV? It's called prep, right? And then they have doxyprep. DoxyPrep is taking doxycycline for however many days leading up to your chances of exposure to prevent from chlamydia, gonorrhea, and syphilis. Okay, great. I happen to have some because I'm going to prep myself accordingly because I don't want to get caught. So it's like, okay, well, I can protect myself against that. It's trick. We're all good. So I'm not concerned even if I play with somebody that happened to play with somebody else who played with somebody that went to Splash Mocha. It's all a trickle effect if one person has it. So you can prepare yourself ahead of time. Right. But this is the part of the lifestyle where it's become so important. And we use testing because it's the example. But it's about accountability. The problem in the lifestyle right now, there's a big push with a big problem with this is it's the blame game. It's the, well, this happened because of society. Exactly. This happened because of this, this. No, stop. It doesn't work that way in every part of the lifestyle. Look, here's the deal. If you ever, we deal with this all the time. We see it all the time. People, They run their fucking mouse. Flap. Loose lip sync sips. Blap. And eventually it comes back to bite them in the ass. It's not the people that spread it from initially beyond that that's at fault. Who's at fault? If you flapped your fucking jaw, you're at fault. We've all learned that. Last time at the house, you said something you thought was innocent. It got taken out of context. It wasn't about that. It was just internal drama shit. It was just internal drama shit. I've cracked a joke out at a meet and greet. Somebody heard parts of it and off it created its own story. Whose fault was that? Well, you know what? It was my fault. Because if I hadn't said it to begin with, it wouldn't have happened. And in the lifestyle, you know, it's like going to an event and having a bad time. Yes, there's certain things we all can do to make it a better time. And hosts should try to do this and this. But the reality of it is, it's our own accountability of what we get out of an event. If we, if you choose to find everything wrong with an event, it's easy to do. Doesn't matter whose event it is. If you, but who, and then you don't have any fun, whose fault is it? I mean, seriously, If you absolutely unequivocally refuse to make yourself open to anybody whose fault is it. I mean, it's... You take a note to this? Fuck off, bitch. Wait. But we have to... The thing is, we have to own a lot of the things that happen. You can't... If you have a degree of... Here's a cold one. Here's a fucking cold one. If you know me, you know that although meant as harmless and good fun, my ego can, as a general rule, there's usually me and then a second card for my ego. And the thing is, is that if you're going to be eager to ego and you're going to talk a good game, when you fuck something up, be prepared to have people take that ego that you've been slapping around and turn and grab it and point you over the head with it. Yeah, but you're the first to take accountability. Well, I try to because the thing is, whose fault is it? And the reality of it is, that's one of the things in the lifestyle that's going wrong. Here's another cold one that's a huge one in the lifestyle. Nobody wants to have sex with me. I tell you this every time. I'm like, no, this is being nice. You know what? Maybe, maybe what it really is, Cole's not listening like the way he should. So when we go, oh, we go, and nobody wants to talk to us, or we go to somewhere, and nobody gives any attention. Well, maybe we weren't open to hearing it a little bit. I mean, again, we understand there are things outside, but accepting accountability for our actions. You can't play unprotected. Larry said it earlier. It's a game of roulette. That's what it is. You want to make sure you never have anything, don't fuck anybody else. It's true. That's the truth. Not a lot of fun. But don't fucking spin the wheel, spin the chamber, and then get all butthurt to everybody else when you get fucking popped. It's the nature of the beast. And that's where we have to take accountability and go, oh, well, how did this happen? Now, you may choose to go, well, I'm okay with that. Rock on. That's whatever. But we can't continuously pass the buck. In the end, it all falls back on us as individuals or couples. We should be mature adults. Praise hallelujah. And we should be, it's not even mature, we should be adults. Adults. There's a reason why the lifestyle, the age of consent will always be in my world, 18 or above. I don't care what the rest of the fucking idiots try to do. But it's because as adults, have the ability or we're supposed to have the ability to make the right decisions. It goes back to, it kind of ties into the last week when we were talking about drugs and booze and everything else. Ultimately, unless somebody pins you down, forces your mouth open, and shoves shit down your throat, or pours shit down your throat, or sneaks something to your drink, Well, whose fault is it? I mean, granted, in a situation where somebody sneaks something, somebody doesn't tell you there's something in something, obviously that's a different story. But let's face it, most of the time that's not what actually happens. Most of the time what happens is we make a choice and sometimes the choice in the lifestyle, okay, so here's where this is really circling around to is, it's owning the choice. Because sometimes the choice in the lifestyle, and if you know me, you'll know that I'm number one with this. Sometimes the choice is, I don't give a fuck. And that's really, it took what, 32 minutes to get there. But that's really what this is about. It's about if you make the choice to say, and it is a fucking choice, to go, I don't give a fuck. I don't give a fuck what they think. I don't give a fuck what they hear. I don't give a fuck what anybody else likes. I don't give a fuck. When we make that choice, there are consequences. And they come back at a fucking mock a million speed, and they are harsh, and they are heavy. Because to make the choice to not give a fuck about whatever it is, you are absolutely, You are begging. You're going, give me your best shot. And that's fine, but at least own and acknowledge it's a choice. I know I rarely do that. I don't do that as much anymore. I don't do it as much anymore. But you think about when people have seen me train wreck drunk, a lot of times it's because I made the choice and went, fuck it. I'm getting fucked up. Like it didn't sneak up on me. Like the fifth time to the bar was not like, oh, I stumbled. I thought it was P. And oh, look, I'm at the bar. You know, it's a good shot to read. I can't read it yet. Everything we do is a choice. And sometimes the choice pans out. But as you said, sometimes there can be a dire consequences. It's just it's it is fun. It's a fucking blast to sometimes make the choice of Fuck it. Like, don't get me wrong. I... Testosterone won't get me near the boner that making that decision and just go, fuck it does. And it's a fucking... It is a hoot and a half. But generally the... And sometimes the fuck it can be fun enough to overcome the fucking bullshit afterwards. But a lot of times it can. When AIDS hit the porn industry, it ruined it for a while. Nobody wants an outbreak, but it can happen. It happens. It changes some of the laws when it happens. I personally don't know anybody that's actually happened to. I do know at One Exotica, there was one guy that it all blew up and a whole outbreak. I was not involved in that one thing. An interesting side note with that is that now, because they actually have drugs that with herpes and with HIV, that if you're taking your medications, you're not in an outbreak, it is undetectable. Which means it is not actually at that point in time, it's not a problem. Because if it's undetectable, it's unpassable. And so there's a, it's very unique, but the testing, like in the adult world, continues to change. They've just added, in the last year or two years, the MDEM. And they constantly add new stuff. Rachel, yes, everything we do is a choice, but we also have to know that sometimes that choice might affect our partner as well as us. Absolutely. I can say, again, look, hey, look, it's Cole using himself as an example. My choice to say fuck it, absolutely unequivocally, has altered her evening on many occasions because she senses without me standing up and going, hey, everybody, it's going to be a fucking kind of night. Sometimes I have said that, which is a good warning. When that happens, then it's party time. No, the warning is I'm not going to have much to drink tonight. Oh, fuck it. But it has altered her. Absolutely. Because then, yes, watch how much she's in tune. When I'm in that mood and that Watch. And it does have consequences. And when Cole goes, oh, by the way, we're going to hook up with this couple when we're new in the lifestyle. Yes, it does have consequences. And no, they were not always good consequences. We had lots of things to talk about the next morning when I was hungover at different times. But that is part of the challenge is that our consequences are never, never only affecting us. Whether it be all the other people at the table, your friends, When we say fuck it, we have issues. Now, do we still play Russian roulette? Well, yeah. Oh, yes. We do. It's just if there's a shoot coming up, not so much. You know, there's times where, gosh, there's one crazy summer night. I can't play. I can't. Events coming up soon and I can't. I just, you know, have to be tested. There was one that was like, well, if we do, it's got to be a condom. Okay. And that was fine. It was just, you know, it just depends. And those choices, understand, when we talk about testing stuff, we live this in our regular lives. Because there have been times, the last time you were at the ranch, they get to do weekly testing at the ranch. Her last day at the ranch was a Tuesday. They tested on the wind. Tuesdays. She had a client on Tuesday. So she had a client on Tuesday and then flew home. So a lot of times. Which I should say it'd just be tested because it's only 80 bucks. Right. But it was just one of those things. But the thing was is we like to have sex when she gets home. It's weird that way. But it was like. I won't until I go get tested. Until we get tested because consequences, actions, blah. The whole fucking nine yardage. So when we talk about this kind of stuff, it's, it's, we live it. And, and again, nothing, the, the key with this whole conversation about accountability is not telling people not to do things. It's just, don't try to pass the buck after you do. Right. I mean, that, that's the thing. Look, there are groups. That and be open-minded if somebody asks, you know, asks you to use a dental dam or a condom or a glove or. Or tells you no because they have something going on they can't. Yeah. You know what? You never know what the hell they've got going on. You know, here's a unique thing. There are people in our group and every group that have things like cancer where they have to, they can't get an outside anything. Right? There are people, there's a million and one things that people don't know and understand. And so it's a willingness to be open and acceptable. What? Brian, I know I definitely don't want my dick looking like an over-nuked hot dog. So we're careful when we play unless I trust no matter what. Over-nuked hot dog. Oh, my God. That's awesome. It's just a thing of— Is that shriveled up or is it exploding? Oh, wow. Thank you for that nightmare. The thing is, is that it's, and it's everything that we do, though. That's just it. When we're talking about this, I mean, I use example testing, but it's conversations that we have. It's what we share. 90% of the drama in the lifestyle is because someone made a choice. They made a choice to speak out of turn. They fucking shouldn't have shared information that they had no business to share. You know, judge someone they had no business to judge. And the thing is, is what I want people to understand is, if you're going to do that, don't be fucking pissed off and butthurt and all fucking wonky about the fact when you become ostracized by groups of people. Because you know what? You did it to yourself. That's how this works. It's Sesame Street. This is going to date me. There was this thing on Sesame Street. three years ago, and it was, don't play, you play ball in the house, the ball hits the base, the base breaks, the baby cries, mom will be mad. I heard this a million times in growing up because that was the thing. So what's the answer? Don't fucking play ball in the house. So the thing is, or understand if you're going to, this is what happens. So if you're going to flap your fucking cock holster about fucking shit, you have no business flapping it, and then You get caught, because you will get caught eventually. Take it like an adult. Take your medicine, because it could have been avoided very easily. And if you look at most drama situations, it's because someone made a choice. And then if you look at how drama situations end, very rarely does the drama end, because very rarely does somebody step up to the plate, go, hey, you know what? I spoke out of turn. I shouldn't have done that. I'm sorry. You don't hear that part. It's always, well, but fucking, you know, he said it too. No, you ran your fucking cock holster. Shut it. It's not that fucking hard. Cock laugh. Now, do you necessarily hear about a lot of people getting stuff? No, you really don't. safe, but it's always a risk. David, do you still play? If somebody has something simple like a common cold, that's completely a choice. Okay, here's what I would say with that. Here, Rachel responded to him, my husband and me don't even have sex if one of us has a severe cold because it actually makes the cold harder to get rid of. Well, there you go. You, I'm like, just breathe over here. because I don't want it. I put my CPAP on and I sound like Darth Vader fucking. And I put it over her mouth and go, Sam, your father. No. A cold is just a risk. Someone's not going to tell you, hey, I have a cold. Most likely they'll go, well, I have allergies. No, but here's a great thing to put with that. Choices and consequences. If your significant other has a cold and doesn't feel the greatest, No matter how much you want dick or pussy, make the right choice. And don't go out. And don't fucking force them. If they're not feeling up to it, respect them. Make the right choice. If you make the wrong choice. Because usually you don't feel good enough to go do that anyway. If you make the wrong choice and you force them to, understand the consequences are going to be severe. As well they should be. Again, it's about choices. And I go, well, tough shit. There's going to be a consequence for that, as well. There should be, right? And that's the thing. It's, you know, once you were instead of me looking like an idiot. No, because it's funny. Communication is still the key. Get to know who you're hooking up with. You can get a feeling about people just getting to know them. Gut feelings are real. They are. Damn straight, they are. And if their dick's big enough, her guts will be reaffirmed. I couldn't help it. See, there was a consequence. I made a choice. I was doing it for science. There was a choice there to make. I could have chose to keep my mouth shut, but instead, I chose to just blurt out what didn't pass my brain. It went right throat out. It didn't pass my brain, knowing that I was like, this is new, but you're going to get fucking bitch slapped when you say this. What are you doing? Really? I was just seeing who it was. I can't read that far away. Jesus Christ. You make your choice. Paying attention to the show or paying attention to your what? It was Twitter. I was trying to figure out what it was. Fuck off. What was it? I don't know. Something on Twitter. I saw an X. That's all I saw. You know, there's nothing on Twitter. There's nothing on Twitter anymore. Shut up. It's X. Fuck off. See, we're making choices. We did a show. We made a choice to do a show before we're going to be in the car together for 20 some hours. And there's probably going to be consequences. It'll be a quiet ride. No, it won't. Actually, it won't because she's going to have a bonnet on. Not a bonnet. He wants me to do the 50s scarf. No. Cunt. It is not me wanting you to. I said maybe you could do that because I'm going to have the window down. Do I need to find myself a pair of sunglasses? I told you you do and she'll be naked when you get pictures of that. I told you that. That's just for my phone. That's just for your phone. Seriously? Thank you. It's my nail color. Here's an example of choices and consequences. I know we've told this story before. Before a trip, it's a great one. Choice. We've only been together for a while. We're driving down to our dad's. Oh, no. You're talking about that. Yes. She's looking out the window. Why do we have to talk about this? I pick a booger out of my nose. No, we were on the way to your parents' house. Whatever. It doesn't matter. It was a very short trip. I pick my nose. I realize, oh, I know where to rub the booger. I sit here. Here, hold this. knowing, as she did exactly what she would, she stuck her head out without looking, wiped the booger in her hand. Now, choice one, pick my nose. Choice two, think of something funny that I think is funny. Choice three, follow through on plan. Consequences. Motherfucker, gross, ew, yelling and screaming in the car before the rest of the way she got in the car or she turned and faced the window and would not speak to me. Fast forward 30-some years later, if I say, hold this, she looks before she'll take anything out of my hand. See? Choices, consequences. I owned up to that consequence. I did not forget. Because all these years later, I still think it's fucking funny as hell. It was gross. Of all the fucking things I could have put in your hand. You were driving, it was gross, and I wasn't expecting it. I wasn't like, ugh. Ugh. I thought she was going to throw us. See, but that's what we're talking about. Choices and consequences. We get in the car now and if I make the choice, she makes the choice to never stick her hand out. We've had three beautiful children together. Three kids, whatever. We've had kids together. We have a loving, trusting, incredible marriage. But still, I broke apparently sacred trust of holding things without looking that 30 some years later. That's a great example. See what we did? We just educated. For all you new people. That I won't forget. What I love is the fact that the guys, that gets funny. I've done that just because that's gross. I agree. It's gross. Maybe I should do that to him while I'm driving. I just eat it. I don't need to vomit. The funny thing is, I probably would just to be a smart aspect. And I know me. That is so gross. Well, this show certainly went from any sort of education to completely out the window of stupid. Oh, stupid? Yeah, don't do stupid shit. Yeah, so the choice is... I had a really good message with this whole thing, but it's like... I love when I do dumb stuff to Courtney and she either rolls her eyes or smacks me. That's the consequence of my fun. Yes, he gets smacked quite a bit. Jessica, I would have started hitting her. God damn. I don't think I hit him. I was more going, oh, what am I going to do with it? You're like, ah! Probably the worst choice I made of all of this in that scenario was I could not stop laughing. In tears, couldn't breathe, surprised we didn't wreck the car, hysterically laughing, which did not... Help your cause. It did not. At all. Sometimes God's going to become learning moments. You could read that one. Just fine through your damn classes. You know why? Because that just, yes. And look, here's the deal. Like I said, sometimes your choices, you make the choice of fuck it. And, you know, that was not, I didn't choose to say fuck it. I was just too young to know that that was. He was just very young and immature. I thought at 20, like, I don't know, I was probably 20. You were, no. We had a kid. Well, you were 21. I had one of those ones. You were probably 21, 22. I had not quite hit the mature level that I am today. I always say guys do not mature until at least the age of 35. And yes, Larry, that was a very much hilarious situation. And some still don't grow up. Who? Guys. Not me. I do, except when I'm with the wrong person, so it's not my fault. See what I did there? See, when I make bad choices with Larry, it's Larry's fault. See what I did there? That's not owning. That's blaming. Not taking responsibility for my consequence. Sorry, Larry, I had to use that. It's a good example. People can relate to that, because if they've been to anything and seen Larry and I together, they know that we do that, and so I'm using that as an example. Now you know Larry and I are solely doing that, just so that we can have things to help educate younger gentlemen that might be making, you know, poor decisions. Wait, you're mature? He does have his moments of maturity. Very fucking many. In front of people, not so much. No. I keep forgetting I have a bra. I took it on to pack. I packed it, so I don't have one. Really? You packed that, so I don't have very much? Kind of. It's really funny. I will say this is totally off topic. Playing with your kids is getting the hardest, but I can never tell you it's amazing. I play with them a lot. Okay. Is any man mature? No. I paid fucking the money for the boobs because no at fucking you can be 112 and you see boobies and you're good and no we don't mature but all right well what a great show I don't even know if it's a good show or not this will be one of those like 10 people listen to but that's all right 10 people will enjoy it I enjoyed making it so quick shout out again to our sponsors as and lifestyle magazine.com motorbunny.com discreet and dirty co.com and pro pro dx We just got the word, they changed the name. Yeah, it was just today. We're still very happy to be partnered with them and testing. Thank you so much for listening. Patiently waiting for results. Yes. We'll be on the road, so hopefully we will do the show on the road. We'll figure it out. We're going to finish again. It depends on what time my dad will go to bed. It'll either be Tuesday night or it might be Wednesday night driving. Yeah, it could be. Or Wednesday night. Wednesday night we'll be driving. We'll be in the hotel. We'll be doing a scene. No, it'll be Tuesday night in the hotel. Either Monday night or Tuesday night in the hotel. We'll be in the hotel. Sorry. Who knows? Check us out. New stuff coming. Don't forget you can order calendars from a Samantha's calendar. My calendar pre-orders are coming out. First, well, mine might be the second week of November. You're going to be the first week of November. I have to take pictures of it. It's like, where are they about you first? So we're ready to go. So again, thank you very much, folks. We'll have updates. I'm sure we'll even go live from some things. If we win any awards, we'll go live. We'll probably go live from the ASN Awards at least once just because Michael wants me to. Because Michael wants me to. With that being said, kids, do it the only way I know how, the only way I want to, and the only way I ever fucking will. Kazma Style, out. Bye.