Krazy Truth about Swinging #339 the first overnight Part 1

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Speaker1: Hey, kids. The program you're about to listen to contains some adult situations, adult language, themes, and other adult topics. If you're easily offended, this show's not for you. Hey, you crazy motherfuckers. Welcome back to a very special Crazy Truth About Swinging. I'm your host with the most, Cole, and I'm here with the lovely, lovely and soon to be on the road for tacos, Miss Amanda. Is it really a special one? It's not really special, but you need to say hey. Thank you. I'm glad you tuned in for those of you following at home. This is our first show, but this is season 8, episode 339. You've done 338 shows without me. I have. Wait, where'd it go? Oops, now I can't find it. Where is it? Oh, there we are. Okay. Anyways, so this is a unique show because Because we in all of our eight years of doing this, we've never done a two-part show. Well. Not officially. Are you sure about that? Which one was it? I mean, we've had eight seasons. I can't remember back to 1997. You can't even remember back to fucking Tuesday. So I can say with complete honesty. He's got a good point on that one. That we have never done officially a two-part show. This is going to be part one. And the second part we will record a week from two. next week and then part two. So yes, this is our very first in eight years, two part. You don't fucking care, bitch. Anyways, this is a quick shout out to our sponsors because they love when I talk like this. Our newest sponsor, Discrete and Dirty CO. It is lifestyle apparel. It's funny. It's high quality. It's funny, flirty, and dirty. Customers are welcome. Make sure you check them out. DiscreteDirtyCO.com. Excited to have them aboard as well as MotorBunny.com. a trusted name in adult toys for many, many years. Don't settle for some secondhand made-out-of-my-garage shit. Motorbunny.com. You can get the original or the brand-new buck. And ASMLifestyleMagazine.com. Hey, guess what? You can find us. We were on the cover this year. Big fucking deal. We'll be up for best cover next year. We're on the cover this year. But if you want to know what's going on in the adult world as well as lifestyle, check it out. We've got some exciting episodes coming up. And in a couple of weeks, we will be actually at their award show at Content House. We got all kinds of shit that we'll be doing down there. Or people you'll be doing. So we think that's the plan. Well, no, there's a lot of activities going on, too. There's a white party. There's a dress up. We're five awards. We're excited. And all of a sudden, I got it. My brain is just totally fucking. And safety, it's my job. It's your job. It's all of our jobs. No excuse not to be tested anymore with basis DM or pro. 13. We use it for all of our testing needs for the adult world as well as the lifestyle. Did you say base is DM? Yeah. You did. It's DX. Yeah, I knew. But it's Pro 13. At home, it's cost effective, it's discreet, it's quick, and it's easy. And whether you need it for adult testing like we do for the porn industry or just regular lifestyle, no more excuses not to be tested safety first. There you go. Okay. So this week is a little bit different. So the reason we are... We Are Recording This. One is, yes, you're going to be gone on a regular night to record on Tuesdays. Correct. So this way the show will come out normally like it is on Thursday. But we also decided, because the reason this is a two-part series, so this is going to be probably called something like, you know, Big Trip. I don't know. We'll come up with the name for it. Big Trip. It's part one, because this is, we have coming up, we, you, us. It is actually a we situation. It is a we situation. For the first time, So a couple of firsts are going to happen. This is Saturday, the 26th. You leave tomorrow for three days, right? You're flying to Connecticut. Technically three days. So this is the first that are happening here. It is the first time a girl-girl play date of any variety that you've done. You've played with girls for a long time, but a specific going and just to play with a girl. It's the first, and actually it's a trip. You're flying to Connecticut. I'd hang out with this gal for a couple of days. Yeah. So, and then it's also the first overnight in our relationship that we've done, official overnight that we've done, we've been a part of whatever. And part of the reason it's so important to talk about is I think it's easy for there to be a misconception because we also do porn that, that means anything's like, everything's just like whatever. Because, yes, if you listen to the show, you know that you have went down to, you've flown to Houston to do shoots. You have flown, you've driven across Iowa to do shoots. You know, you went to Vegas to do shoots. You work at the ranch. Even though there's all these other things, when you come back to the core, those other times were work. Going to the ranch, going to actually shoot kind of, it's work. Well, honestly, shooting content, you've been with me with most of it, except my trip to Houston. In Iowa. I didn't go with you when you went to Iowa. Oh, that's right. You didn't go. I didn't go to Iowa. And you've been on shoots. A lot of the shoots, like at Exoticus, I've been the one shooting. Well, yeah. That's why I'm like, you've been there. But there's even been some there that I haven't been with you when you shot. Okay. I get it, but I think a lot of people have the misconceptions like, oh, well, this is, it's no big deal. This isn't, it's a big deal. What we want to show is that any part of, even though we have, we're professional sex workers, sex workers still have your real life as well. And when you're a swinger, still all those same things still apply. And I thought it would be good to, we can kind of talk about your feelings about it, whatever. Part two will be obviously recap and talking about the trip and how, you know, kind of how all that goes. But your feelings on it, our feelings on it, things we've talked about with it, so that people help to understand that all of this stuff is still part of the conversation. Why don't you talk a little bit about how this led up to why shut the door? Why shut the door? Because we have a dog peeping in going, what you doing? How did it come up to this? Let's see. I met her at an exotic event. I've been on her podcast because she has podcasts. She's full-on lesbian. Doesn't do anything with men. Even when she shot porn. She shot porn in the early 90s. Late 80s, early 90s. And she didn't even touch a guy then. But she said porn was much different back then. She met me first. She did meet you first. And she talks to you on the phone all the time. But they're a lot alike. She's a lot alike. We laugh. that she's the male version, or the female version of me, and we're all friends. She'll tell it like it is, and she doesn't care if you like it or not. She knows a million and one people, and if you've come to our booth, you've met her at our booth. I don't give a fuck if you tell people her name. She ain't going to care. Well, I know. She ain't going to care. And there's been flirting all the way through, because this would be the, well, what? She's been at our booth at Three Exoticas now. I think. And so plus we talk on phone. Because she's on Full Swap Radio. Hustlers to Housewives. Yeah. I had to think about it. So that's how we met. And you guys have always hit it off. Yeah. We try. It's funny. It's fucking hilarious to watch this shit. I don't know what you're talking about. And I have given them shit all the way through. Because you could see that there was a connection. But it's just like I've given her shit. And Leanne should constantly kiss. Well, I can't. She doesn't show it very well. No, no. She fucking. So I'm like going, I don't think she likes me. Yeah. So I'm going, I facepalm more with these two than I know what the fuck to do with. That's funny. But the super cool, the friendship factor is absolutely. And she said, why part of the reason should I explain with a married woman? Because it's noncommittal. Right. Right. There's a... She doesn't have to worry about them getting too attached. Right. There's a safety connection there all the way through. So how it ended up going to be... She was burned really bad in the previous relationship, so she doesn't want anything committal. Right. And so... So what's been funny is, is that it's when we are at the Exoticas, and this is where it comes in real life, work life type thing. Because at the Exoticas, I mean, you talk about a sexually charged atmosphere. People are shooting content all over the place. It was so funny because I remember one of the early times I'm like, hey, check out this picture. And it was you sucking West Philly Dungeon's dick. And she's like, that's really good. Why are you sending me a picture of that? And we're laughing about it. As someone that goes, when you get done shooting, brush your teeth first. I don't want to taste a dick. I don't want to taste a dick. But the thing is, at those conventions, that's work life. And it's been important to her and us that that part of it has stayed separate because you are working. The funny part about this is, and obviously we're not going to read her text. she's just as nervous about you coming out there right and it it just shows that there is still a real life that happens you know and and even though my god joke around laugh give her shit give you shit make you know the everything just like normal like anybody you see is out of the bars doing whatever and and but that's it's different when it gets into real life and it still has a real life factor to it So as we've talked about it, as it came up, finally, just an FYI, Connecticut is the most expensive place on the face of the fucking earth to fly. No, it wouldn't have been if I would have scheduled it like along before when I first said what date. Yeah, when they finally figured out a date and when it was going to work to go out there. And it's been interesting leading up to it because obviously we're trying to get your boobs done and exactly. Because we're actually going to see her. She's going to be in the ASN Awards also. But the thing was, is again, that's a work thing, work versus real life function thing. So as this started to go, when you, and I'm going to ask you lots of questions, so you just got to go through. Sorry. As you, when you came to me, because you guys had talked about going to see each other. I mean, I knew you guys were talking about, but when you decided, how did you feel when you were going to asked me about going to go out there. I mean, was there, and, and. No, I wasn't. She's a heartless bitch, just so you know, and I'm just kidding. No, because I didn't think of it that way. I just, I don't know. Just a trip to go out there. I mean, yeah, we know pretty much stuff's going to happen unless she chickens out because she's too nervous. And I will call her and give her so much shit. Right, right. She would need to be giving. Her dog hates Amanda already, just so you know. No, we don't know. Yes, she does. The dog's had to have like seven baths because she's from first grade. It's just funny. So, is it, leading up to it, I mean, for you, you've always been very good about, like, the separation. It's really funny because in the progression through the lifestyle, where you were the first one, like, no, why would I ever want to do that? And you've always been able to transition and make the separation better than I have. Right? And I think that's not uncommon in a lot of relationships, but better than I have. So, is there any, like, Unique Feelings or anything else going into it for the people that are hearing this for the first time or thinking about this kind of stuff for the first time. Well, believe it or not, with the exception of— You're walking on air? God, now you have me sing that song. Don't. Oh, have I actually had a girl-on-girl-only hookup? And I'm not talking, hey Amanda, come show somebody you can make me pass out. Okay. You know. That's just for fun. That's just for fun. But in terms of you and I, we're going to meet here, no guys, no nothing, and we're going to have fun. No. Never done it. How does that, does that make, is that, is that somewhat nerve wracking? Does that change anything for you? To a degree. Because the guy, you know, meeting them or having met them, who's going to make the first move? You usually do. No. Not all the time. No. But you can tell by the guy. Right. If you're going to have to be the one to make the first move. Right. This, I have no fucking idea. She sends me little GIFs of, oh, when I see you at the airport and it's these two girls making out, I'm like, okay, I'll hold you to it. If I don't get a kiss and I don't give a really good one at the airport, I'm going to throw you under the bus on that one. What happened to my kiss? Yes, dammit. So is that, okay, keep thought on the other part for a second, we're going to go back, but I added this question. Because she is, seriously, like, she's a take charge kind of person. You are notorious, especially for, not work wise, but like if we've been in swinger situations, when it comes to with the girl part of it, if it's girl and girl, you're notorious for like, lay down, let's go. Like, you tend to take Is that going to be interesting to you or different to you at all, do you think, in this situation? Because dynamic-wise, she is more like me, right? So do you think it'll be like dealing with a nervous guy? It could go either way. Because I can see her being too nervous and me just stopping and going. She says, stop a second. Let me plant one on you. We'll break the ice. All right. Right. I can see that. I need you to wear a GoPro. But you can see that. A, being late to pick me up because I've never seen her be on time to anything. Yes. I'm sorry, but that is the truth. Yes. So, you know, she might be late picking me up. I get in at almost 1 o'clock in the morning. Yeah, yeah. So, I didn't think she stayed up that late, but apparently last night she stayed up till 4. So, I have no idea. Right. So, you know, there's certain things I can see along the way going. Okay, she's going to be a nervous wreck. She about had an anxiety attack. She thought I was coming in tonight versus tomorrow. I'm like, wow. Okay, I hope you get everything done. So you don't think that, like, the plane ride leading out, like, for me, because I generally don't, like, pre-set up stuff because it makes me more nervous. So, like, the plane ride out to me isn't going to be a big deal. Her, it's going to be, she'll be JoJo the Circus Monkey on the way to get out there. I'm going to an airport I've never been to. You have an hour layover. That's the more stressful part for you. Right, that is the stressful part. Omaha airport, piece of cake. You know, I don't even have to show up two hours early. Fuck that. You know, but I'm going into one of the Carolinas. I don't remember which. And I'm like going, I've never been there before. Is an hour going to be enough? I don't know if an hour is going to be enough. Well, am I going to have time to eat? Because I'm going to get hungry. Am I going to have time to eat? Those are my thought processes. I don't give a fuck about anything else. That's my thought process. Okay. Then once you get there, it's like, okay. Are you going to meet me there? Are you going to meet me outside? Those are all things I haven't asked her. And I'm pretty sure when I land, I'll go, just hit the pavement like I do every time I hit the pavement. Just hit the pavement. So, you know, there's some nerve wracking along those routes for me mentally. As far as going out there, as we all know with every swinger event, every hookup. Right. When she's just like, well, I don't, I'm like going, you know, play is not required. Right. Right. If it doesn't work, it doesn't work. Right. Like if, like a dog wants to eat you. She's got a big fucking dog. She has a German shepherd. And I said, I'm more terrified he's not going to like me than anything else. Oh, he's going to love you. She's going to ride that motherfucker around the house. And I'm like, well, if you don't want to come pick me up at the airport, I can get a hotel close to the airport. Oh, no. I'm coming to get you. Okay. Well, if you'd rather me stay at a hotel. No. You're going to stay here. Okay. I don't know if I'm staying in her room, a spare room. Right. We haven't talked to all these logistics. I have no earthly idea. Right. So, but the overall, and you're very good at, you always have been able to just go with the flow of things. And you're awesome at making other people that get all JoJo the Circus money calm down about it's okay. Okay. So go back. I'm sorry. So we jumped off the thing of where you have never had just a girl on the road play day. Do you think that is there anything about that part of it that I mean, I'm going to guess it that it adds a different dimension than, you know, with the guy. But is it. My hope is that you have the ultimate experience because she had, as she said, last time I took a dick, I was you know and so that but that that concept of a girl just a girl girl play date is is is somewhat intimidating where she only does girls so you know um you're gonna be like me afterwards she told me the last girl that she really didn't do that great of a job and and I blatantly went well you're somewhat of a challenge for some of us because there's usually in of some variety, and you don't want insertion. So to get you off might be a little tricky. Right, right. So I was pretty much setting it up for cutting me some fucking slack because I don't know. I put on a strap on. All right, you know, I have a strap on. She goes, you're not using that on me, but I have a strap on I'll use on you. Okay. Okay. So you just like clitoral orgasms. Okay. You're going to be totally like me. Did you come? My tongue is going to be fucking sore. You're going to be tongue down to a nub. Oh, my tongue. It doesn't lie. So it's feelings white, everything else. There's nothing really ultimately that much different for you in the thought process other than as if it was a guy. I mean, obviously it's a new experience, new person, but the new person part of it is the exciting part. The other part is, I mean, I'm not wording that right. I'm just trying to get it. It's not. Well, I don't even mentally equate it to the same as a guy. Okay. I don't know why, but I don't. I don't think it has the same intimacy, maybe. It'll be interesting when we do part two afterwards to see if that's still the same. I mean, is she going to cuddle me afterwards? Maybe. The thing is- I don't know. The thing is, that's something that'll be interesting to see when we listen to the second show we do afterwards, because I'll be anxious to see if that's changed. Because obviously, you're asking, I'm asking a question about something you've never experienced before, so you don't have any way to know. But to see how that whole thing, how that feels and how that, you know, how that plays out or if it changes or if it's different. I mean, she's even like, I'm terrified you're going to hate me. I'm like, I already know you. I would have picked up on hating you a long time ago. And I so, but I can't. I would be the first one giving her a ton of shit. And I can't because I don't want to. That's, you know, that's like me joking out with brides and stuff. Like she doesn't like people to get all emotional. So Cole's like, what you need to do is fake cry. And I'm like, oh, I said, that would be so mean because she wouldn't know what to do. She'd be like. I think that'd be fucking hilarious. And then I'd be like, well, Cole told me I had to fake cry. And then she'd be like, oh, my God, I'm going to kick his ass. Exactly. But it'll be worth it. The. It's, is there any part of you that, and, and this would be kind of a weird question, but any part of you that goes, okay, you know, we always talk about with events. Don't start off a big event. We always do everything that's exactly, you know, first of every new hotel takeover. Yay. Is there any part of you that goes, that goes, I mean, this is kind of like a, I'm all in committal thing, you know, for a couple of days type thing. Is there any part of you that goes, ah, In hindsight, if I could have done, like, just went out one night with a, you know, a girl you're going to go play for a couple hours, is there any part of that that you guys wish that? I mean, that's not a big thing for you anyways. No, no. I don't think, unless I found another straight out lesbian, you can't even equate it. Because you're still, it's a challenge if a girl doesn't want anything inserted and you're like, well. There goes the finger part. Larry says, sounds like there are a lot of unknowns coming out. So many unknowns coming out. Yeah. There are. Because, I mean, I can now laugh on when they go, what's the farthest you've ever traveled for a hookup? Yeah. A long ways. But that's just funny. Would I go out there and just visit her and not do anything? Absolutely. I mean, it's not. To me, the interesting part of this is, so if you're a listener, you've never done this before, search lesbian porn because, and just like any other porn, there's different types of categories, but, or actually search porn for women is actually kind of what they title it as. It's more soft porn, yeah. And it's one of the hottest two-girl scenes I've ever watched was, I mean, it was, The porn itself was way more sensual, way more whatever. I watched one lesbian porn one time and I'm like, oh my god, that's so hot. And the thing is, again, you can't base porn as in real life. But that's where my mind goes. That'll be this kindler, gentler type thing. Now, I know her. I know, I mean, granted, when you fuck, even when you're into it, you don't fucking make a mess like I do. He means a mess as in terms of pillows are thrown all over the bed. Blankets are all messed up. I'm not that way. Yeah, exactly. It's not like you can get up and go home if things go south. You are there and committed. Very, very true. And I would probably just either suck it up until if it was horribly disappointing, suck it up for the two days and then come home. Or if it got bad, bad, I'd go to a hotel or something. Which, that's part of the thing. Obviously... Because I have friends that are like, well, you know, I'm not too far from Connecticut. And I'm like, you know, I'm going there to visit a woman. Well, but this is... So I have people I can have back up. I would put this disclaimer out there to people. That's something, again, we have met Leanne, you know, we know her, we've known her for a little bit of time now. This is not like, I don't know you. We talked this one time on the internet, and now you're flying out somewhere. But that's a good thing to put out there. Guys, girls, doesn't matter. I would not want personally to go fly across country if I'd never met somebody and planned for a couple of days. Just because. Even if you talk to him all the time on the phone? Yeah. Talking on the phone, talking on the phone, and meeting him face-to-face for the first time is... a different ballgame. Like with Leanne, I mean, you know, she's like my sister. I mean, you know, we have the time we've spent at multiple events. We've seen her public. It's not like you're going to get out there and all of a sudden it's like this person you never met is coming out of somewhere. So, I mean, people listen. It's like just because it's a girl doesn't mean if we didn't know her, there wouldn't be safety precautions and things like that. But Larry makes a good point of that's, you have to understand that concept. That's why it's good to at least know somebody. And even though we are people that have always been into sport fucking still are, it doesn't bother us. This is a little different ballgame. And this is definitely, this is definitely not sport fucking because there is a, there's a huge, there's a relationship, a friendship relationship that will still be there after, you know. So there's the question. Knowing that we're going to see her and, and, In a couple weeks. Yeah. A month afterwards. Any concern that, and I already know the answer to this, but any concern that after a couple days you're going to be like, oh, it's going to be awkward to see her the next time around. Yeah. And, and, okay. And right, right there is a, and that's, that's a huge, a huge part of it. So, okay. So let's, let's. No, no, whether she pretends that she doesn't do anything because she wants anybody to know her private life is. Right. Exactly. I can respect that. It's like a swinger thing. Yeah, exactly. Not everybody wants to even know their business. Well, and you're kind of shady. Kind of. You never know. And I'll give her tons of shit about that. Anyway, so as we had talked about, because leading up to it, so one of the things is that we've always been about, you and I have always been about communication on all the stuff that we do. Mm-hmm. Right? And so leading up to it, we had a discussion, what would have been actually on our anniversary. Mm-hmm. You keep touching it in one spot and it has a wire rim so it like fucks it up. Gotcha. We talked about it because it's still from, so when you look at it from our relationship standpoint, it's still traveling for a hookup. It's still, we don't know, but making it. We both traveled three hours for a hookup but then came home. Right. The reality is most likely the general accepted assumption is that it's an overnight. And it may well be where it won't. But even though it's still something that we're both okay, we still talked about it. Right. And I think that there is the misconception, again, this is where I think this shows why it's important, is that because of the adult stuff and everything else we do, that it's like, oh, well, it's nobody. It's still another step in our relationship. And it's still another step in our journey. And it doesn't, just because the other things we do doesn't distract that. And we still talked about what does it mean? How do you feel about it? How do I feel about it? What the concept is? In fact, we even talked about difference on how to in terms of what, it's not expectations, it's the wrong word, but what I need back home from you on this versus other things. And what I mean by that, like when you go to the ranch, we usually still talk every day. Like we still talk when you have went and shot porn, you know, you'll either text me or we still pretty much talk every day, whatever. And so talking about with this, because again, this is a different experience, so it was important for me that you understood that my needs were different in terms of I don't expect to hear from you each day. Thank you, Bill. Exactly. I'll probably hear from both of you. I know how this goes, exactly. But one of the things that I know that she's going to say to you, because we are good friends. If she's going to say to you, is Cole okay with this? And that's part of why we talked about it, so that when you get asked that question, you could answer that and know that you were answering it honestly, right? Because, you know, you're not going to go, no, he's fucking not. You're like, yeah, but this way we wanted to make sure we're on. We still put the priority of being on the same page because it's still a different, another step in the relationship. And then in turn, just like that, no, I don't, I legitimately don't, if I don't get a single text message or a single message until you're leaving, I know I'm okay with that because it's, you can be a third wheel and I've always been the world's worst of this for you all the time playing alone is that I'm a third wheel, an electronic third wheel. Okay. And that I've always been an electronic third wheel because I've always had, You know, I wanted to know. And so, even if I didn't say it, you knew that I wanted to know. And so, you would always keep me up to date. And basically, the reality of it is that it was me being an electronic third wheel. Yes, therapy helps you understand this kind of shit. Just say it. And yes, I'll be perfectly honest. I have absolutely talked with my therapist about this. And it was actually my therapist because I was like, I didn't want to say anything. Even though we communicate, I was afraid of sending the wrong message because It's different if I want anyone to send the wrong message. And thank you, Derrica, for again, no, no. You need to. And I'm glad that we did. Because otherwise, it still is about respecting the relationship. Like, respecting the core relationship. Because I think that there is a misconception. There was always a misconception when we played alone. and how like what you with pedals you like oh hey i thought that'll stay yeah you didn't have to call me oh hey is okay whatever and whatever so i think there's always been that misconception i know since we've gotten into the adult industry and with the ranch this is huge misconception of that like that core doesn't still exist and i mean i you know it does not that not that it really matters one or the other but it's just trying to help people there's a lot of people that that they want to do this other kind of shit. And they don't understand that you still have to insulate and protect the core. Right. Larry, it's not content. It's not a polyrelationship, but it's still an overnight play date. I would be nervous about it as well. If my wife was doing this for the first time, Chicago was a first part for us. So what Mr. Elmead's talking about is when, because he shoots and his wife's daughter, son, far, she went with us to Exotica to film content. And I can honestly say that the porn and all the other things with it, I think that, did it make this easier? It wasn't, this was never hard for me to be okay with. But does it make it like, yeah, okay. Yes. And I think because you, with plurine, you start to understand more than I ever had before the concept of the separation. You know what I mean? So it's, if there's a plus side of plurine, that's what it will do. It will help you. It can help you to see the separation. We've got someone that's going to be trying soon. And our biggest concern has been make sure they understand that there has to be that separation. And that sound. But it does help you. What do you keep looking at? Every time you go over here, you're looking up over here somewhere. My dick's down here. What are you looking at? I'm looking at the little thing. I'm like, oh, what's that in the middle? I'm going to call her and tell her, make sure she wears something shiny on her clit. so you can find it. Jesus. Seriously. Stop it. Oh, my God. So going into this. Wow. Going into this. Is there any other weird feelings otherwise that you have with us? What is your thought? Just tell us your thoughts. Just share. I don't have many. Yeah. Excited. Yep. A little intimidated. Why? But if you were to meet her, she's kind of intimidating. Which she's absolutely intimidated by you, which is really fucking funny. She's intimidating. I don't know why. I mean, she towers over me. She's got a fucking... Well, because you're not going for an MMA fight. She'd kick my ass. She'd kick my ass. But ooh, she got this nice ass. I'm standing in front of you. Well, it's about fucking almost face level for you. No, it's not. She's not that much taller. She wears her heels. Huh? She wears heels. You can grab all her hair. It'll be different. It'll be different. I don't know. You know, I know she's going to be freaking exhausted, so I'm like going, okay. Okay, so that's going to be the really funny part is there's The Overnight part. Because you are, and she is too as far as that goes, but you're the girl. You never leave the house without your makeup on. You never fucking, you know, you're like, when you go out, you're like, done up. You don't, if I'm on the phone, FaceTime with somebody, even with a friend, you're like, no, I'm not. I can talk from here. They don't need to see me and I'm not ready for the day. Obviously, It's the real life part of it. Is that it? Any part of that? Or did I just plant a new seed? The real life part of just, you know, you gotta shit sometime. I mean, that type of thing. Well, okay, that's gonna be nerve-wracking because I don't know. If you're going to have a giant dog following right with you, make sure you don't go in the wrong place. My toy, arrr. No, I'm just kidding. Their dog will be just fine. But I didn't know. Is that, I mean, is that going to be that like, you know. You're not going back to a hotel to go, oh, okay. Yeah, it might be a little. Because you're like, for you, my assumption would feel like you're on show. that you are. You don't want them to see your ugly side. And she's just going to have to be told that from the get-go. It's like the first time we stayed at exotic and we had other people on our AMS and beware, I look like ass. Right, right. It's the power of makeup. And no one cared, but I did. Right, right. I mean, it was nerve-wracking to me. So I'm like going, okay, so, you know, fuck me while I got makeup on because when you see me without makeup, I'm going to go back. See, that's what I wanted because People don't, we don't, you don't think about that part, right? You go to swinger events and whatever and hookups, but granted, you look different when you leave for a hookup and when you come back from the hookup, you look different, as everybody does. Every girl does. I mean, depending on what's going on. Well, it depends on how many people are licking your face or rubbing their face on your face and you're like. Yeah, balls slapping on your chin, whatever. Yeah, right. So, I mean, everybody looks different when they come back from the hookup. But it's that you get to go get in the car. And I think that's part of the people don't actually think about. That's part of the overnight is, you know, that morning. And that'll be... Well, if she... Well, I don't know. I find ways to sneak around. You ain't sneaking around anywhere with a fucking ponytail. running through that out because as soon as you here's what's gonna happen you're gonna turn the corner you're gonna be kind of quietly and you're gonna turn the corner and there's gonna be a really dog spot i level with you look at you going hey and you're gonna i know you you're gonna be like oh puppy and yeah you ain't you ain't sneaking around or the first time you start to move and he goes you're gonna be like hurt but you also know i'm around people and My makeup isn't done. I walk with my head down. Yeah, and so that part's going to be... That part's going to be... It's an interesting part to think about with an overnight because that's the part that people don't think about that part. Well, some people don't care. No, no. I do. But she does too. Okay. When we first got married, it'd take me two hours to get ready. He's like, oh my God, it takes you so long to get ready. Oh God, I used to bitch about it all the time. I'm down to one hour. Yeah. And that's pretty good saying I straighten my hair. Yeah. It takes her four. Yeah. It was weird in Exotica, New Jersey last year. It takes me four hours to get ready. Yeah. It was like last year in New Jersey because she needed something. We dropped you off over her hotel. I need to help her with her top. Yeah. And it's just like, and Honeybee and I were just like, oh my God, they've got to be getting it on because they never show up. You guys got there like four hours later. And I'm like. Oh, that was her strictly getting ready. I'm like, well, you didn't mess up your makeup at all. And you're like, well, why would I? She was getting ready. I'm like, for four fucking hours? You're like. But she talks and she talks a lot. And she has really long hair. So it was funny. But it's like. And so I was unrelenting on giving her shit. Then about that, I'm just like, wow. She's saying it takes me four hours. She's like, fuck off, Cole. I think she told me to fuck off quite a few times that exotic. Because I'm like, mom, I gotta go. I'm not ready. We're about ready. The fucking show. I thought the show was going to be over before. Then she couldn't find something. And then she was almost panicking because she couldn't find something. And I said, okay, what does it look like? And she goes, look at my purse. I'm like. It's going to be funny because you two, we, her and I are just a shit. And she's a little bit more vocal, believe it or not, than you. She's more in your face. Yeah, well, she has East Coast. I mean, there's, you take me, put me on the East Coast. And so, so, yeah, she doesn't, she doesn't, no, no, there's, there's no like, oh, I shouldn't say that. No. Then we talked about, talked about something about taking pictures and she She goes, ooh, I could take pictures of you. Okay. I said, no, I guess I should pack something, which remind me I need to pack something. She goes, well, you could just wear something of mine. Okay. She's a little bit taller than you, isn't she? Yeah, but we wear the same size clothes. I'm a little smaller than she is. And, of course, I've helped antagonize along because she asks you what you wanted for drinks and snacks and stuff. I go, tell her water. No, that's what I drink. She's like, what do you drink? I'm like, water. And I know that it's just driving her insane. Do you do weed? No, I don't. Gummies? I thought those were the same thing. Still no. Well, I need to get a shit from the store. What do you need? I'm like... I'm actually surprised I haven't got a text message from her going, what the fuck does your wife eat and drink? Because if she does, I'm totally gonna be like, water, bread and water. I'm just totally gonna... Because this is entertaining as fuck to me. Only knowing that I'll probably have to. She's a health nut. So just pick up whatever. I'll have to get my ass kicked within a couple weeks. Well, it's going to be cool. So you leave tomorrow. What time do I take you to the airport tomorrow? My plane leaves at 6. I'll take you there at 3. In fact, I can check in. Get out. Out the door, biatch. 22 hours. 616. So, yep. So, and then you will be back on Wednesday night. Like, late Wednesday night, I'm assuming, or something. I leave there at 6. And get home at midnight. At midnight. Excellent. Good. So, I get to have fucking tired girl. Yay. Lucky me. So. Like, isn't there a button to check in? Yeah. So, yeah. So, it'll be interesting to see. Oh, check in. what that whole adventure is like. And I think it'll be exciting. What's going to be interesting is we will get to hear on the way back. And maybe we should try to get her on the show, too. We will do that. We'll do the show. Because she's actually had you on her show individually. Yeah. And she's had me on her show individually. And she's had us on her show together. So, yeah. I'm pretty sure we can arrange it and she can record it and we'll be there. Absolutely. Absolutely. So. Where's your glasses? They're where I was getting ready and I didn't do. She can't read. So, yeah. So, but that's going to be cool. My eyes are bad. Make sure to tune in next week. So, the next week's show we'll have, it'll be part two. And it'll be interesting to hear feelings, how it went, your overall experience. Real quick, why we're still, before we go. So, we are going to be totally off topic. No. So, they just, we just had some folks reach out. out to us last night so that are going to have us in august we're going to be doing a couple of interview with a couple that have a show out of there out of virginia and they do they're just like us they do they've been long-term swingers for 11 years and have been porn for a couple of years so that's going to be really cool uh we got a lot of cool things coming up a lot of cool updates coming up because again obviously crazy summer nights uh our events coming up in two weeks, three weeks. I think that's what it is, three weeks. The 8th through the 10th of August. And then we're home for like a day. A week, and then we're off to Orlando. Down to Orlando. Right now, we're going to be doing events. We're shooting. We're shooting on the way down. We're shooting at the event. We are going to see your dad for a day and a half. And then we're backtracking to Nashville, and we're shooting in Nashville. Looks like we're both shooting. So we'll have all kinds of stories since Cole's going to get trimix. So we'll get Cole getting shots in the dick. So we'll see how that goes. That'll be entertaining. He's paranoid about it. Yeah, so we've got all kinds of cool stuff coming up. August is basically going to fly the fuck by. August is basically going to be here and gone before we even fucking know it. Oh, my God. We have to celebrate your birthday first. We do. Well, and then we got to shoot. You got to shoot on the second. My birthday is on a fucking Monday, officially. So, I mean, KSN is my birthday weekend, but... What's the second? The second is Saturday. That's when we're breaking into the new fella. I'm like... Yeah, so... My birthday is on Monday. Is that Monday? August 4th? Yeah. Fucking cares. So, during 53... It's my doctor appointment. Yay! There we go. All right. Well, so any last things you want to hit on or any thoughts, whatever, advice or things you'd tell people about leading up to this at all? Did we go through your feelings? I mean, you know, no, that's a really good point. So, yeah, I mean, my feelings on it, it's really unique because there is a difference where it's because it's a girl. There's a couple of different things. So is it less pressure because it's a girl? There's a couple things. One, because we've... Previous experience, I mean, anything when it's due the first time is more difficult than when you... Tends to be a bigger deal than when you go through the second time. Yes, I think there's a couple of things that make this really fucking different. One, where I'm at in my headspace is me as a person. Okay? This is a huge shout-out to the concept of understanding in the lifestyle. You have to understand your own mental health in life, right? Because where I'm at in my life is absolutely differently mentally than when we were going through stuff before. The reality is I had a nervous breakdown right at the very beginning, unrelated to that, which everything was spiraling. So I'm in a much different place. and having someone, again, to help remind me to just like that, to still talk. What do you want to say? Yeah, it comes so far. Well, you know, and part of the reason when we talked about when I said I wanted to talk to you, I had not wanted to initially say anything to you, to talk to you about where it's still a step in a relationship is because here's the shitty part of growth in the lifestyle. It means you have to acknowledge the fact that there are probably parts you fucked up the other along the way. And that was a big part of it is knowing how leading up to before the things that I really fucked up and not wanting to repeat those mistakes. After we had the conversation, even though the conversation was just me wanting you to make sure you understood that I was totally okay with it, I'm on board with it, it was still like a huge weight lifted off of me. because I felt like then we both, I felt like we were both on the same page, you know, and it wasn't a great, there wasn't going to be a gray area to fuck up the experience for you, based on what am I feeling, and it wasn't going to be a gray area for me. When I drop you off at the airport tomorrow, the reality of it is, my thing's going to be, have a great time, I hope you have fun, I'll be excited to hear all about it, make sure you take some dirty pictures from me. And at that point, stop. Then that's it. And then I'm going to go on with my life for the next three days. And that's something before I was not able to do. And I understand it. And the sad reality is, look, I'm going to be perfectly honest. I'm way better than I was then because, yes, everything in my world was spinning out of control. Perfect storm, wrong time, whatever. I also, honest to God, know that that left it. a huge... When a tornado rips through a field or when a natural disaster rips through, it will scar the land forever. It did. I don't know. I can't go back and go, okay, well, we can go do that now. I'll be just fine. No. It's a process. I'm a lot farther than I was, but it is what it is. I'm figuring it out. That's why my therapist was so fucking impressed that I actually said something because she was afraid I wasn't going to. because she knew I needed to make sure that we were still, that the home base was still insulated, which it always had been. It never had stopped being that. So I'm actually excited for you. From a completely sexist or kind of shitty way to say it, I'm absolutely excited for you to get to be with someone who is a lesbian. She's two years older than you are. She's been a lesbian since she's 19. Just like most of the experience or a lot of experience in the lifestyle, you know, you've walked away going, that dick was not satisfying. Right. I mean, it's whatever. And I've said always, it's kind of like a threesome. You need to get to have a threesome where you're the other girl involved in the threesome. So you get all the attention versus the one that the new girl gets all you get left out. To me, this is a huge thing for you to get to. I'm hoping that sexually that experience is off the hook for you. Whether that be just the sex or the whole process, I don't know. But so that it's something completely awesome experience. Because every bisexual woman in the lifestyle, even in porn, has had more than their fair share experience of girls that are bi, quote unquote. So that part of it, I think that yes. There is a degree. It presents a different... It's hard to let your mind wander off when you've got a girl going. I like going out with married girls because there's no fucking fear of commitment and the concept of just another girl. But I think I would throw this out there to people that are couples that are in this situation. Ladies, don't think that most guys, just because it's a woman, don't have fears. Asphil... I can't think of his last name. Anyways, There's a lot of people that have lost spouses. They determined they were gay too. Yay, bye. So it doesn't necessarily, if we hadn't had the previous experience, would it be like, could be. You know what I mean? So don't assume that and don't, if a spouse has a, not a concern, but a concern or wants to talk about it, you can't blow it off just because it's not. And that was one of the things that, like, because we were in the car, which I, that hadn't been the plan for me to say it. But it worked out well because we were at a point where we had an hour drive. There was not going to be the dogs. There wasn't going to be any interruption. So we had an hour to focus on it. We also had an hour, which meant I couldn't start it and then bail. And what was the first thing I said to you? I don't remember. You probably laughed at me. No, I said, why didn't you feel like you could talk? Oh, yeah. Actually, yeah. And I was like, because I didn't, I didn't, I was afraid I would say it wrong. And it's better to say something and say it wrong than say no. You know, but so, for me, as it goes through, it's really more of an excitement thing. Now, the irony is, yes, I'm supposed to have a play date Monday night. And I put this out there solely because of the fact it's not as a distraction. Because that's the easy thing. It's for dinner, damn it. It's for dinner, actually. Yeah, it is. No, but it's not for a distraction because I think that's a little It's easy to do that. And if it was just for a distraction, that's just as wrong. Right? And that's not the case. Really, you know, you always give me shit about I only play when you're gone. He does. I think some girls feel bad for him. Pretty much. I mean, sympathy fucks. I mean, the reality of it, it's more just... No, it's not what I meant. He needs to eat. The man is not around. Hey, you want to get together? It's one of those things that I do that more just because it's like, well, in this way, you know, we... I'm not taking time away. or whatever, it's not a deal. But I think that the nice thing is about what this one and how I feel on this one is, literally, there's not going to be, whether I had to play it or not, because then I'd say, don't. Yeah, but there's still time. No, I'm not going to be sitting there going, I want what they're doing now. I want what they're doing now. No, you know what? I've got ratings to do. I've got an event to get ready for. I've got booking. I've got stuff to just do. those things done, because my mind had been off all over the place, you know, my biggest thing is getting, you know, if I don't get some pictures, putting it back, I'm going to kick both your asses with the anecdotica. So, you know. I mean, during the day, we're going to be touring and not touring. First day, it'll probably be nothing but sleeping. No, shit. But then she said that she would take me to Salem. I'm like, we don't have to go. Oh, no, no, I want to. You got to go shopping. Yeah, she gave all of her clothes away. Make sure you mark your boxes before you tell somebody to go to your house. Just grab it upstairs. Mark the box or you'll lose all your clothes. So, yeah. But, I mean, that's... So, no. I'm excited. I'm excited for you. I think it's going to be a good time. I think you owe me because it's expensive to send your ass out places. But, no. Actually, what I'm really glad about is you were able to still do it this summer because your boobs healed in time to be able to do stuff. So, that didn't hinder it. And, to me, It's kind of a nice, it's a nice break or a little trip before, for you before we hit go on the road. Because, you know, the next two months, once August starts, the next two months are a lot between us being on the road and you being gone and the whole nine yards. So I definitely think, I think it's going to be cool. So I think it'll be all right. It'll be fun. It'll be fun. I think it'll be a good time. All right, so tune in. So we'll release this show this week. We won't have a show this coming Tuesday, but the following Tuesday we will. It'll be part two. The follow-up here all about it. So we think of the questions. If you have questions you want to ask, make sure you send them to us. Crazy.Kazba at gmail.com. And if you have, send us your questions. So if you have questions, we can ask Amanda, Miss Amanda, when she gets back. So we can have some of those. There you go. Again, don't forget Crazy Summer Nights. There's still a few spots left. You can now pre-order on her website Miss Amanda's 2026 calendar. So they will be going out the first week in November. We'll actually have them at Exotica as well. Check that out at MissAmanda.net. I'll go and say their website in case you say the wrong one again. I didn't say the wrong one. She put it in print. When I type any more, it knows all of my log, not log, it's all of my usernames is MissAmandaCasba. So I type MissAmanda, And it corrects it to Ms. Amanda Kazma. That's not my fault. I come back and I'm like, do you even know your own website? I gave her all kinds of shit. I'm like, what are you talking about? I'm like, fuck it. It's autocorrect. But you can get those. So check those out. She does have some other more new content getting ready to come out. So it'll still be released. 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