Krazy Truth about Swinging #338 a Comedy of F**K ups!

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Speaker1: Hey kids, the program you're about to listen to contains some adult situations, adult language, themes, and other adult topics. If you're easily offended, this show's not for you. Hey, you crazy motherfuckers. Welcome back to another edition of Crazy Truth About Swinging. I'm Cole. I'm the host with the most. I'm here with the lovely, lovely and construction worker, Ooglin, Miss Amanda. Hey, no. Probably. You don't know that. Did you look? Did you Google? Did you go out and Google? Did you show them your tits? Did you try to get to ride in the free equipment? I would have. That's just me. Anyways, for those of you following at home, this is... I stepped out one time to talk to the mailman. You did. And he was just like, oh, it's no big deal. I just walk anyway. I'm like, okay. I was trying to get the guy last time to bring equipment. I'm like, hey, can I drive it? Anyways, for those of you following at home, this is Season 8, Episode 338. And when you have to remember as much shit as I have to remember, yeah, it's all over. Before we go, a quick shout-out from our sponsors, ASN Lifestyle Magazine. If you want to know what's going on in the adult world as well as lifestyle, make it a habit each and every month to read asnlifestylemagazine.com. Check them out today. Got some good stuff. Got a really cool August issue coming out. And, of course, we will be in Orlando, which is home base for ASN, at the ASN Awards coming up in just Just about a little over a month. About a month. We'll be there. So that'll be pretty cool. Looking forward to that. Also, Motorbunny. That's right. Top quality names. Sex toys that you know you can count on. A name and a reputation that stand on their own. Motorbunny.com. You can get the new buck or the original. Either one. Quality products. Quality names. Don't sell for less. Also, our newest sponsors. Discreet and Dirty Company. Lifestyle Inspired Apparel. Flirty, Funny, and Dirty. 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It's a grocery list. No one will let me spend the money to invest in an actual teleprompter. So there we go. Imagine that. But give a quick update because it will be a unique thing because I don't know. We'll probably record another show on Saturday so that we can release it next week since she'll be gone next week because you're on a sexcapade. It's not a vacation. She's going to Connecticut to eat tacos for an entire four days. That's right. Her and a girl are just going to play and play and play. It's two and a half. Two and a half days, whatever. It's sex fest is the reason they're going. Anyways, whatever, rock on. But a quick update on your boobs. We are on week four currently. So what is nice now, here's the learning lesson, though. You still had it. If you overexert, they're not kidding when they say don't overexert because you kind of overexert with something simple. I think you were mopping or something. Or you were doing something with something. I was sweeping, and you don't realize how your pecs are being used. And I tweaked over here on the side, so I've been keeping this arm down. And we got a new gym membership, and so we So I didn't do anything like that. We started the gym today. Treadmill and stair stopper. I just followed her around because I don't want to run anything. He looked at me. He's like, how do you start this? I'm like, I don't know. I'm like pushing buttons. In my fucking defense, I look like a tourist on vacation. I had the shirt that I wore when I did the half marathon. So I have a sleeve shirt that I like to wear. My Colt shirt that says who wants it more. It's in their championship year with Peyton. And then my shorts are like literally cargo shorts. Did you call it the year of the Peyton? No, it's the year with Peyton when they won the Super Bowl. Like a fucking vacation. I wear black socks. I mean, push down with my black tennis shoes. I couldn't look any more fucking stupid walking in a gym if I tried. I thought he looked just fine. And I'm nervous about that kind of shit. But we went into it, so I don't know how to run anything on top of it. And then today after that, we went and got you a pair of athletic shorts to wear. Because you're like, well, do you just want the stretchy ones that look like an old guy? They were cotton. They weren't like the fabric whipping. I couldn't look at it. It was like I was trying to find ways to look dumber. But knowing how much I love technology, when you walk into a situation where everything is electronic, it's just like, oh, sweet mother of fuck. There was one piece of equipment I was going to use and pushing buttons and they couldn't make it work, so I just quietly got away from it so not to look dumb. So, anyways. In all fairness, I at least watched the video on the app to see how to use, not necessarily using equipment, but it gave like a tour of a gym. I had a plan. My plan was to go stand up, walk on a treadmill, and while you're doing this stuff, walk on a treadmill. I know where I'm at. I know where I'm not at yet, and so that was my plan, and then I get there, and everything's electronic, but that's fine. We powered through it, and after literally didn't make it five minutes on the stair stepper before that about killed me. Now I have goals. I've set my baseline. I think when we were on the treadmill, it was like a half hour. Is that what we figured that little program thing was? Whatever. I didn't start my watch until way after I started. I'm like. So I think it's like a half hour. So a half hour on the treadmill. I hit something that was a sprint. I hit intermediate. And it did me sprints. Mine kicked up to sprint. So mine went from all of a sudden. I was like. You never actually ran. No. How long have you known me? You still can't keep up with me when you. If you run, you can't keep up with my walking. So they didn't know that, thank God. So with my strides, when it kicked up, I didn't have to run because it was just me. It was me walking when I was pissed off. Well, then when it says sprint, I'm just walking. I get pissed, so I got that down. But the key is that I have a baseline, so I did okay on the one, but I wanted to push for five minutes on the stair stepper, and I'm watching my heart rate just fucking go up and up and up. His was what? Like 117, 120? 123. And mine was like 117. You take a shot for that. I can't, I look, I can't. I do not take, well, okay. Statistically, the odds of which one of us is going to keel over from a fucking heart attack on that piece of equipment, no, it's going to be me because I'm going to fucking pass out before you are. And you and I both know it. So the key is, we did it, I learned some stuff, and so now we're going, what is that? Gym is not about fashion. Everyone has to start, make their first step to the gym. I know. No judgment. Yeah, I wanted to go over and make my first step. And I was hoping it was going to be dead as fuck. And of course it wasn't. I was going to make my first steps over to the fucking McDonald's afterwards. But I didn't. So there was another step. There's a McDonald's in the parking lot. And I'm like, OK, where would you like to go? And he goes to McDonald's. And then we got in the car. I'm like, do you really want McDonald's? No. No. I've done very good not to fucking give in. The funny thing is, is one night we're going to go and it's super late and it's not busy. I'm going to take a Santa, my Santa hat. So I can get one picture on the treadmill with my Santa. She can get a picture of me. Santa. You know, but just other than that, I don't want to do a bunch of pictures there because I know that's not what the gym is for. I don't want to be that one of those people. But anyways. No, I'm kidding. Yeah, so we got that going. So, but tons of fun and goals because we got to hit goals. I need to be at 282 by KSN, which is only like two weeks away, basically. Yeah, ish. Two weeks away, and that'll be 30 pounds. So I'm still fat, but I'm just 30 pounds less fat. So I still haven't crossed a border from fucking still in the old morbidly obese. Go get them tiger. Whatever. But that's fine. We're getting there. Hey, if you put my weight in, it says, oh, you need to work a little harder. Yeah, but I paid for extra weight on you. So it kind of works out. You have that excuse. It measures fat on the scale. I need to fucking find somebody that wants an ass job so they can suck the fat out of my gut and put it in their butt. That's not how it works. I know, but it'd be fun to make money. So anyways, so you're actually, we're limited somewhat at the gym on week four, but still doing okay. Don't just let it out. Everybody knows you just wanted to do a whole fucking show. So, but, but still, so we'll continue to work on as we go through. How often are we going? I have no idea. I love how this has turned to me. So this is going to be like. No, I was a question mark. I have no idea. Would you have actually gone if I wasn't like getting ready? Yes. Yes, because I told you last night, look, I'm actually doing something really bizarre. I go to bed hungry. I am on absolutely zero diet helpers of any kind, right? Right. 100%, I'm only doing it because I've done it. I've dropped from 300 pounds to 223 pounds a long time back, 10, 12 years ago. 2012. Dropped that weight. I did that with Body by Vi. And I learned absolutely nothing. Because that's why I started back out at 312. So my thing is this. I know there's all the shots out there. There's all those things. Dead matter, awesome, great, whatever works for people, rock on. I'm going to lose the weight just by making the right choices. And as I told you earlier, the unique situation we have now is that as I lose the weight, because my goal is to get to, my goal by crazy, which is January 30th, is to be 250. So at 250, I will have lost 63 pounds to be at 250. Okay. If I'm at 250 by then, the reality of it is that when I lost all the weight in the past, I was still smoked. I was still a two to three pack a day smoker. So I've never actually lost weight, been healthy. When I originally hit 225, When I was probably, you know, you're out of high school, my peak of my fitness, I was already smoking. So I've never been 225 pounds in a non-smoker. I was that guy, we'd go, if we went to the gym or whatever, then as soon as I'm walking out, I'd have a cigarette. I trained for a half marathon smoking. And drinking. Drinking. And the only reason I didn't bring my cigarettes with me on the runs, because I wasn't allowed to, or I would have smoked while I was running a half marathon. And I ran seven miles without fucking even thinking about it. I kept running back for you. I'm like, that's dumb. You might as well stop and wait. So anyway, so there's lots of cool things to do, but whatever we're learning. Nobody cares about my fatness. Just saying. It's reality. It is reality. And part of the reason I'm doing it is because I want to get rid of my dick bumpers. Seriously. What do you call dick bumpers? You know how an orangutan, how orangutan has the big fucking cheeky things on the side? Well, my dick has the same thing. Just saying. So yes, a part of the goal for getting in shape and get part of the goal is losing weight because a guy's dick does get bigger as you lose weight. And so I used to have this big dick and now I don't. And so we're hoping to find the big dick again when I don't have to move the shelf out of the way to get there. So part of it is, yes, lifestyle related because as I shoot more and more and want, I need, I want to have, it hinders me to have the confidence to shoot because I'm always concerned that shit ain't going to work right. because of my size. So there we go. There you go. We can scratch it. Okay, but nobody cares about any of this shit. Oh, they do too. No, not really. It's real life. Oh, well, I know. Yay, pretty exciting. So the challenge will be is that we have two. We're on the road in August for a stretch of like nine or ten days. We actually got the gym membership that we got because they have spots all over the country. So we don't have to just go to the show you want at the gym. We can still form some sort of habit. And honestly, sometimes getting out of the hotel helps remind you that you're still having to work out to what you eat and all the way through. It's the purple and yellow gym. Right. And then. Yes, there's ones all over. There's ones out in Nevada. They have them all over. So we have it. So because this time when you go to the ranch, you're taking the car. You're driving down to the ranch. So you have it because this way you have a gym to actually go to to get out of the house for breaks and still keep the workouts going. Sanity. And then we also have a. We're on a nine-day, could end up being a longer trip to New Jersey and New York, which I know that we're going to eat shitty because we're going to go spend two days in New York, and that's part of the fun. So we've got those two are going to be tests, but the bigger test will be when you're at the ranch in September because you leave like the 7th or 8th, you'll leave 4 of September, and we won't come home until like October 2nd or 3rd. that will be the bigger time, because that's the time when it's easier for me to just say, fuck it, well, I'll just run and get a burger, I'll just go do this, I'll just go do that. He's already planning a chicken night. Well, look, I know. I'm going to, look, one night, between Holden and I, he gets 50 chicken strips, and I get the 12 pieces of Popeyes to last several meals. It's $100. I'm going to spend it. I'm going to do it one night. I do it every time you're gone. I don't care. But that's fine. It's about the rest of the 90% of time, not giving in and going fucking, just going to get Burger King or going to get McDonald's or going to get whatever, but actually still. Oh, we have one. But still actually cooking and doing it right. So that will be the big things that will make, and then in turn, obviously during September, it is going to force myself that is, and part of the reason why I went and bought the shorts today, besides just hemorrhaging money, is to be more comfortable so that in September, when you're not here, and I, so that I I have the courage to go to the gym by myself. See how that works. You can take a visit or just call them with your kids to go. Right. So again, so that I actually do something, I'm not going to worry about somebody else being, I have to be accountable for me. Yeah. And which means I have to be able to have the courage to go in myself, not if I can drag somebody else to be my safety. I was surprised today there were so many kids working out. So was I, but kids are helping. So in September, they'll be in school. You've got a nephew that went and potted. his own gym membership and goes up and works out. And at 16. His own money from his job and goes and works out. So, I mean, it's a thing now. The kids are healthier than we were. I went to the gym when I was young. I did, in high school. Luckily, I broke you that. At 5 o'clock in the morning. And now you just bitch about 5 o'clock in the morning. Larry's going to hold you accountable. See, there you go. Awesome. You'll be yelling at me. Just yelling at me. That'll be just like she's here. Anyways, again, still, nobody cares about any of this shit. They do. Okay, so let's go ahead. They care about you. Let's go ahead and go on with the question that we were talking about. Because actually, so in all, for transparency. Do I need to, like, read it? Just highlights. Well, I didn't bring it up. For transparency purposes. We always preach how we never practice what's going to be on the show. We never talk about it. But because after all these years, I get sick and tired and fucking, getting squawked out about that. I'm now like, okay, let's have a better show. And she's come up with the last three show ideas. So I'm just as excited as everybody else is. So she came up with none. Mine wasn't going to be as good, but I like hers better. So this was a post on another page that we're a part of. Obviously, we're parts of thousands of pages, it seems like. And I thought it was, we both thought it was interesting because, boy, does it cover. Paid site, Cassidy. So someone must have responded. They RSVP that they were going. Well, she sends out this form message, letter, email. I don't really honestly know. And it's like, we're excited to have you come. Here's what we need from you first. What we need is. Here's what I need from each attendee. Yes. Even couples. a selfie of you holding your ID, a separate picture of your ID, but you can blur everything but your name, photo, and date of birth. We do a quick national registry check to make sure the space stays safe, respectful, and aligned for everyone walking through the doors. Once you're verified, I'll send you the address your way. You may pay through Venmo or at the door, whatever is easiest for you. Let them know. Pause right there. A couple things to keep in mind as we go forward with this story. House party on a national page asking for personalized information for safety. Payment method. Mm-hmm. And she also said it was a no-play party. It was an educational BDSM slash kink event. And they are? New. Self-procribed new. She blatantly said, They've only been in it for two years. Okay. So, they send this out and then they get a, just give a basis of this guy's response. Somebody responded back of that they are not going to, they think it's wrong that they ask for a picture ID and a picture of them holding their ID. They've been in the last, and they were kind of aggressive. and they did it. They've been in a lifestyle 30 years. They know all this stuff. You know, why do I need to give it? I shouldn't have to. Former cop. I'm not. I'm the typical. I've never done anything bad. I'm not a pedophile. No, military. Well, he was also a former cop. And he does firearm training. Right. And that he's never done anything wrong. And he's printed predators and perks and all this shit. And so they would never, you know, he would never be one. And needless to say, short version, they got into it back and forth. I can't understand why people are upset. Doesn't everybody do this? And the guy, so here's, you have team newbie, team supposedly experienced guy. I've been in it for 30 years, blah. And this is a unique and interesting topic because as an event planner, this motherfucker is filled with more fucking red flags. On both sides. On both sides. than you can shake a stick at. And on top of it, then this, the original poster, went on another page, which is a large page with 52,000 members, bitching and saying, is this normal? I don't know how to take this. I feel offended. I feel whatever. I feel attacked. I feel attacked. Well, okay. Which is just fucking. Of course, all the comments are in her favor-ish. One gal goes, there's no way I would send a picture of my ID over the internet. And she goes, well, we do allow you to show it in person. You didn't say that in your message. Because a lot of people aren't going to do that. Right. You're not an actual club, like physical brick and mortar club. I can understand getting a picture ID when you walk into an actual club and you're paying and you're signing forms. I get that. But I can't imagine going to somebody's house and having to show ID to prove, that you're overage and you're not a sex offender. Granted, anybody can join a website and, you know, you're going to have predators. But, you know, all these comments, he's a narcissist and he's this and he's that, and it's like, shut the fuck up. Because he has valid points, but then, yeah, you have valid points, he has valid points. When is there, where do you draw the line? So it starts with the common sense of they're both fucking wrong. Okay? And there's no... Look, we're going to take this... Let's just take this down in order as we go through with these fucking yahoos. Because quite honestly, one, let's start with her putting a post feeling offended on another page. If you're going to... The lifestyle is full of disappointments. Right? We all can agree. There's a simple solution for it. If you feel that it's unfair, there's the door. It's not required to be in the lifestyle. If you're going to put yourself out there as a leader, because the perception is when you... I stayed at a Holiday Inn, so that makes me know what the fuck I'm doing. For some reason, if you start a group, if you put on events, if you put something like that, you are perceived then, quote unquote, as leader of the group. If you want to follow me, that's dangerous. But with that leadership comes disappointment, comes hurt feelings, comes times of being offended, being fucking, feeling like you're being used, feeling like you're being whatever. So number one, if you can't handle those parts of it. Don't take that leadership mantle. Step back. Enjoy the lifestyle as a member of the lifestyle. And don't even go down that path. Because all you're going to do is have miserable. It's just going to be shitty for you. It really is. It really is. Next part. Rachel already hit on. Only two years in the BDSM lifestyle and they want to educate others. Well, okay. Go ahead. They claim. That they don't have all the answers. They have educators that have been in it for a very long time. So they're still learning. She did put that. In her response, we don't know what the actual post was on Cassian of itself. Yeah. No. This part right here is one of the biggest fucking keys. If you're fucking new If you're fucking new And you think you should put on an event You're wrong If you're new and you think you can do it better You're wrong You don't have a fucking at two years into the lifestyle, not even talking BDSM, because BDSM is a totally different world. To give you an example, we started our alt CASBA page four years after we started CASBA and the CASBA pages, and then only put people that had multiple, multiple years of experience as admins. Okay? Because we didn't know, yeah. Two years into the lifestyle, you don't know Shit. You haven't even figured out yet it's okay to say no that you'll get to fuck somebody else down the road. You don't have a fucking clue what the lifestyle is about. You don't have a clue what your experience is. You have barely even nicked the tip of the iceberg to have an understanding of what the fucking lifestyle is. If you went out every single weekend for those two years, And every weekend, you hooked up with somebody different and had a different experience every weekend. That would be 104 experiences. You still don't have a fucking clue because you're going at it where your perspective is from somebody that's new. And the challenge with that is it's not that as a new person you can't have great ideas, but shh. Well, you had a good point earlier. You go, okay, so I can ask for your background check. If you're going to do a background check on me, I should be able to get a copy of your background check because you could be the predator. And where this goes from is, here's how you already know this is the biggest red flag. If I'm putting on a house party, I don't open a house party to an open invitation. If you don't know what will happen if you open a house party to an open invitation, Watch an 80s movie. An 80s teenage movie. You know, Mom, Dad, can I have a couple friends over? And then they tell everybody. And then there's 300 kids showing up drinking beer, trashing your house. You don't open up a house party. You don't advertise on a national page in a big city. You don't do it. We do it with Crazy Winter Nights because it is a national party. And it's not our house. It's a business. But a house party, the whole concept is... It's a more intimate environment. It's one that you should... And now you're allowing people to come into your home. Do you not think there isn't stalkers that aren't sex offenders that are going to stalk where you live? Well, I made the comment to you earlier. Okay, great. You've checked and made sure they're not on the sexual party list. Awesome. Because we know those lists are absolutely, completely, 100% perfect. No, we know they're not because you can't legally, some states don't legally have it and won't, can't, in their states, it's not allowed to put them on a list. So there isn't one overall database. Number two, great. I've never committed sexual assault in my life, but when I get drunk, I beat the fuck out of my wife. Hey, that's not going to be a list. You don't know that until you get there and I get drunk at your house and fucking beat the fuck out of my wife. See the problem? Like, that's the concept of a hospital. There are people, there are seminars and groups out there that have to train people just how to deal with the dynamics of different people at a house party. So now you're going to have an educational event. Great for admitting that you don't know all the stuff. But how are you vetting the fucking supposed experts? As long as we've been in the lifestyle, we're still learning because things change over years. No shit. Dan, that's a great point. As we've done, we're going to do our ninth Crazy Winter Nights. Jessica's on here. She can attest to this. We're still learning every single time. And so you just sit there and go, so before this even gets out of the gate, you have somebody new that is, that has somebody that's a supposed expert. You don't, we don't know shit about kink. But we've taken other people's word for it of, but we've asked around and go, what do you know about this person? Because we don't know. And what have we heard all the time and figured out really quickly? There's a whole lot of fake fucking doms. You hear that, you go to any, it seems like from our experience, a whole lot of fake fucking doms. So, red flag, you have new people putting on a house party on a national event they've found, right? Or who have found them, ironically enough, that's a red flag. And you're putting on a house party, oh yeah, and you're charging. When you start to charge for something, the rules completely change. Because once you start to charge, you're operating and acting as a business. There are laws and rules accordingly to go with this. In the state of Nebraska, it is illegal to have any event of any size that is specifically with sex is the only action, activity going on. That's why we don't have playrooms at crazy winter nights. It's illegal. We don't have playrooms because if you pay me and I have playrooms, that can be prostitution. Guess what? If it's your house and somebody has to pay $20 to get in and they get laid, that's prostitution. See how that works? See how that's a problem. How is your homeowner insurance going to do, especially with kink, if you have a pseudo expert who doesn't know shit that starts fire play? There you go. That's a great example. Fire play. We're just doing some cupping, kids. What could possibly fucking go wrong until this supposed expert burns your fucking house down and your insurance won't pay for it because you charged and were running a paid event out of your home? That's just the inner, like, event coordinator person in me that goes, ah! But if you think about this, and so many people in lifestyle go, these motherfuckers are doing it for the money. You're goddamn right I'm a business, and you're goddamn right I'm doing it for the money because I put on a lot of goddamn work to make sure it's the best event possible. These are the dickheads that you have to worry about. These are the people that are taking money that have no idea what they're doing. House Party. Folks, you can look it up if you think I'm wrong. People ask for if you'd like to give a donation. Because then it's not prostitution. And then it's not, you're not a business. If you'd like to give donation for food or donation for space. Cleaning. Cleaning. That's a totally different ballgame. So now we're just past the party. Now let's talk about IDs. One of the guys' argument was the gal used the concept of they wanted the IDs to check IDs. Totally understandable because, again, having a minor involved in anything is completely wrong. You can question them when they get to the door and go, no, bye-bye. His argument was Cassidy already has an age verification system, which, yes, he's correct, but by the same token, if I advertise at Cassidy for my bar, And just because somebody comes from Cassidy, I'm still responsible if there's a minor drink in my bar. Same thing. I understand that. When you buy something like on our sites, our sites do not hold your credit card. They don't hold your ID. They hold none of your personal information because systems get hacked. And now I have liability. So we live in a day and age where they tell people, don't give them your stuff. Like, do people understand? Remember when we were talking about Facebook games? All the Facebook games. Hey, everybody participate to learn about each other. What's your favorite pet's name? Where'd you go to school? Experts say don't do that. Because what that is, those games were developed by hackers because those are the most common things used for questions in people's passwords. And if people talk about discretion and then you want... I'm not going to send you my ID. I don't know you. Okay, so even in the porn world, in the porn world, you can give a driver's license, passport, whatever. Once I got my passport card, my driver's license is no longer used because I don't want anybody to have my driver's license number or anything or address or anything else. Passport, you have a passport number, your picture, I think your date of birth and when it expires and when you got it and when it expires. And that's all it has on it. You don't need anything else. It's verifies. It's a legal document. So I use strictly my passport now. So you know what? Good luck. And here's the thing with driver's license. Here's the other part of it. I just had to renew my driver's license. I can't show them on here. But in Nebraska, it's every five years. And you can take and you can do it online. I had not went and renewed the picture online. my driver's license for 12 years. Short hair. No beard. No facial hair. It showed my weight at 234, because that's what I weighed then. 234. Oh, mine's still a fat picture. Super young. No facial hair, no long hair, no wrinkles. I don't even look like this fucking cat anymore. I actually only went in because to update the picture. And he almost didn't pass the eye test. Yeah, I almost didn't pass the eye test. But even people send the ID. And so it's like you're sending this. If you weren't, you don't need to verify that they're not on the sex offender list if you knew the person, which is what you should do before you invite them to a house party. Or you verify because they know somebody else with, you know, like, hey, here's this friend of mine. I can vouch for him. That's why that happens at house parties. Now, okay, so here's a thought. So if you were one of those people that sent your driver's license or a picture or whatever to them and you got turned down. I'd sue the fuck out of them. What would you think? Would you think it's because, you know, the first thing that comes to mind is we're not part of the pretty people. So, you know, we're not, we're not allowed to come. Absolutely. And then the next thing would be, well, what did you do with it? documentation. Oh, well, we deleted it. How do I know that? How do I know that? The thing is, is when she goes, oh, well, they do have an at-the-door thing. No, you don't, because they won't give you the address until you give them this information. I know. That's why I'm like, she totally contradicted herself on that. And I understand, because we are relatively secretive of where our events are until people are paid. Again, there's a different parameters that happen versus a house party versus an event. If I hack your information, you can go find me. I'm incorporated. There's state and federal records of my company. There's a reason for that. This person could take all these IDs. You have no idea if you're going to a party, it's put on a national site, so you want to go. This looks like fun. What a great opportunity. Maybe new, maybe whatever. That's fine. You send it, and all of a sudden, oh, the party got canceled. We are afraid of picture collectors in the lifestyle. You know what picture I don't want people to collect? My goddamn driver's license picture. I mean, and it's like, so I understand I can appreciate their wanting to do an event to keep it safe. And I can appreciate this guy wanting to keep his identity safe. But if you want to put it on an event and keep it safe, you know what? We do not run background checks to go to a CASB event. Splash Mocha doesn't. Notting New Orleans doesn't. Nobody does. What we do have is we have security. And we have a lot of security. So here's a question that just popped up in my mind. So if they're concerned about a sex offender being there to educate themselves on BDSM slash kink, and it's a no-play party, would it really matter? Because there should be somebody monitoring to make sure that play isn't happening or, hey, that's not allowed here. So do you think they're going to get cornered? Do you think they're just going to get stalked? I mean, what's the thought behind it? And because it's a hot button. We all want to try. Anybody who gives a fuck about the lifestyle wants to try to eliminate predators. To a degree. And that's the part. That's the part that probably irks me. the worst with all of this, is that the reality of it is, well, single males are the ones that are always aggressive, and they're the predators. So we're going to try to price them out. You can't price out a predator. After a certain amount of time, if you're a sex offender, depending on what your sex crime was, in the state of Nebraska, there's three different levels of sex offender. There's lifetime, there's 25 years, and there's It's 15 years. And if you're not lifetime, after your time brings up, you're no longer on the list. Did it mean you didn't commit it? Nope. You're just no longer on the list. So that's not a for sure indication of safety or not. And the other thing is, I'm sorry, we live in a world where not all the sex predators have been caught. So a screening mechanism that has screen holes this fucking big in it. Like, you're not going to catch much water in a net. And that's what you're trying to use. You're trying to go, well, we're doing this for the devil's safety. No, you're not. You're doing it because it sounds good because you don't understand any other alternatives. The question becomes this. Great. So what are you doing when these strangers show up to your home? They're not on the sex offender list. Did you pat them fucking down and make sure they didn't bring anything, slip into somebody's drink? Oh, shit. Do you have somebody there in case they get unruly and they won't leave? You know, do you, you know, I mean, that, that's, that becomes the, that becomes the challenge. It's like, how do you, you got to read that. Okay. So Larry says, sorry to say, if you're going to invite anyone and everyone to a party, I would bet there will be play no matter what the rules. 500 people will not follow the rules. Exactly. Oh my God. Fucking. Perfect. If you have a house that can fit 500 people. Luckily, Larry's pretty good behaved. Most of the time, Larry follows the rule. Now, if it rains, watch where Larry and your wife go. I'm kidding, Larry. I'm just fucking kidding. But you're exactly right. And the thing is, if you don't have security, if you have 20 couples, I don't think people understand this. Have 20 couples in a room with a demonstration going on You're still learning So you're watching the demonstration as well Somebody goes off to the bathroom You don't know If anytime you need anything There's snacks in the kitchen And you can go use the restroom If you need a smoke Go outside Awesome And while you're busy Fucking around Watching the demonstration As shit's going on in your house Little Bobby And little fucking Joanne over here Sneak off to the bathroom And next thing you know There's somebody fucking in the bathroom Or somebody's outside And you're outside Where your neighbors can see you Banging Away in the Rosebushes. If you don't think it happens, put on a bowling event where people are like, can we fuck? But I mean... Thorn up your ass? No shit. But it can happen. Not to mention the fact, let me help you with this. When Johnny goes out to have a smoke, because you don't know it, Johnny ain't going out to smoke a Marlboro. He's smoking a blunt. So now he's standing out in your backyard fucking smoking weed. Hopefully it's legal. Hopefully your neighbors don't care. you smoke weed so your neighbors are used to it. Otherwise, you have an issue. Oh, by the way, when Cole's over and doing shots in your house because he paid to get in and he's drinking because he can and doesn't have somebody with adult supervision. You're assuming at a BDSM party that they're going to have alcohol. How would they fucking know? They don't know any of the other rules. They're still learning. So somebody heads out the fucking door and I'm drunk as shit, go get in a car and kill somebody. I just left your paid bar establishment and killed somebody. That's your ass. Not to mention, if Johnny Expert over here tries to be Zorro and thinks he's cute and doesn't have a clue what the fuck he's doing and bullwhips somebody right across the tits and ruins her new tit job, that's your ass. The challenge with new people doing this shit is that you make it harder for everybody else that is experienced because we have to come in and try to clean up all these fuck-ups. It doesn't mean you can't get to that point, but do yourself a favor as a new person. Sit back, watch for a while. Reach out to people. If you're that interested, reach out to people that are doing it. Find a mentor. Ask questions. Learn so you're not putting on Cassidy, the largest paid site in America for swingers. Come learn about BDSM at my house. Do they even know the fucking laws? In Las Vegas, you can't do BDSM. There is no form that you can sign in Las Vegas, Nevada, Sin City, that makes BDSM legal because you cannot, under their laws, give consent to have abuse done to you. It's not that you can't have great abuse, but reach out, learn, so you can avoid some of these mistakes. Now, here's the thing. Let's talk about the dickhead that responded. Okay? He's 30 years in, blah. Lifestyle people. If you're experiencing a lifestyle and you respond to something like this, whether it be to prove a point, whether it be because you actually want to go, whether it be because whatever the reason, you're the fucking problem. Don't respond. You're enabling. your fucking name. This bullshit, I just saw another person on that same page. People go, I just missed your whole day. There's the lifestyle of shit now and there's so much drama and blah, blah. The fucking drama is the same drama right now that was going on with key parties 40 fucking years ago. If I stick my dick in your fucking wife and you stick your dick in my fucking wife and they don't get along or there's an issue, it creates drama. Shit ain't changed. It has never fucking changed Never changed So this bullshit of this drama is new You're 30 years in You know this shit is fucked up So instead of antagonizing it Why don't you be a good member of the community If you generally care And reach out and go Hey, could we really talk? I have some concerns I've got a lot of experience I have some concerns Maybe I can help you Or concerns And ask questions Because you already know what you're looking for To help protect your group Yeah, because he supposedly had a big group a different state close by. And it was just like, well, instead of going on the defensive, you should have just either, A, not responded and just gone, you know what? I don't agree. I'm not going to send you that info. I really don't want to go to your party. He shouldn't have been wanting to go learn anything from people. He should have been going, who are your presenters? Because at 30 years into the BDSM community, in that same area, in that community, you know their fucking names. I'm just saying. And on top of it, oh my fucking God, he used every one of the same fucking bullshit excuses everybody uses. Well, I would never do that. I've been through years, so I wouldn't do this, and I used to do this, and I used to do that. Fuck you. You want to know what predators do the best? Lie. You want to know what assholes do the best? Lie. You want to know what people that want to break the rules at your event and cause problems do? Lie. You want to know what they do when they fuck up and cause issues and go to throw around? They lie. So why the fuck would you ever believe a motherfucker? Oh, by God, you'd know if I was a predator. No, I wouldn't. But that would be a key that would probably make me think you could be. That'd be a good way for me to mark for you to never fucking come to any of my events again. You know what goddamn drunks? You know who says that the most? Fucking drunks. Seriously, the shit, it's like, if you're in it for this long, then you know, and if you supposedly have a big fucking group, Unless your big group is just jacking off in the corner and you're a fucking Facebook monster. So I have a big group. Look at me go. If you actually do anything, then you understand the bullshit that goes into putting on events and how important it is to help new people coming up that want to do things. And maybe you could team with them and help help those people that want. Maybe they're great people. Help them learn. Help them not be misinformed. Help them grow and help yourself grow. Because I'm sorry if you're a 30 year veteran and you've got kids older than her, maybe you could learn from each other because your group is probably dried up by now. And, you know, a young person coming in could give you a little bit more insight or be a better draw. You know, we had somebody, they met well, and they did it in a joking fashion. But, you know, it kind of rubbed us the wrong way. And we're just like, wow, thanks. But they met well. They were having fun with it. But he goes, you know, We're the young people that show up to KSN. We're the one that lowers the average age. I was like, ouch. And we're like, excuse me, I didn't think it was that high. But they have fun. They fuck everywhere. The thing is, is that one of the best ways that our events get better is that when new people come in, they go, hey, I wish it had this. Sometimes, hey, I wish that this is something that we used to do. Well, we haven't done it for a while. Well, all of a sudden, now we're seeing, well, there's some interest in that. Or, you know, I wouldn't have done that. Other groups do. Like, it's how we learn. And so there's nothing wrong with being experienced and new people and new excitement. Nothing will get me. Sharing your experience. You didn't even live in the same freaking state. Yeah. You know, give a hint. He was like in the giant one on the West Coast, and she was like in the hot one. And I was just like, come on. The thing is, is that nothing gets me more excited when someone else is excited. When you find somebody new that they are super jazzed because they want to take over the world, the lifestyle world. You know what? If you knew me and know me from long ago, you know all I said I ever wanted to do with Casbah was take over the world. That goal has never changed, mind you. But I was that guy. But we waited four and a half years before we I ever started CASBA. There was a reason for that, because I'm still learning. But that, when somebody else comes in that excited, that gets me excited. That helps charge me back up. Now, I have a choice what I can do with it. I can be all ego-y and be like, fuck you, you're trying to take my shit. Or be like, as I was when I sold cars, here's the deal, you know what, I'm going to get mine and rock on, what can we learn? And if I can help that guy or that gal, If I can say, look, I have people come to me all the time and go, they're all excited about, we want to start a group. Let me tell you the truth first. Let me help you give the information, make whatever decision you want. And when they don't listen to me, which they rarely do, and they start a group and then they come, how do we do this? And answer questions and be there. It helps me grow because I have to think back. It's things that I've already dealt with, but I have to remember other people have it. So it helps my perspective change and stay more focused. and grow. And that's what it's all about. But just to go and attack... Look, here's the deal. There's a lot of groups that have come up through the years nationally since CASMA started. And a lot of them are a lot smaller than we were. And a lot of them have got a lot bigger than us. And they've went away. Some of them have stayed. Some of them have... Whatever. There's enough for everybody. But when you help each other and when you legitimately And I was high-pressuring to get that car to sell. I needed that sale. And I was in full panic mode. And there was a young couple. Now, mind you, this was 20-plus years ago, 22, 22 years ago. I guarantee these young couples never come into the big city to buy a car since. Young couple, Western Nebraska. We're talking new baby, like early 20s. And I got a hold of them. And holy fuck. I was pushing and hammering and hammering, and that's not my style to sell. and hammering and pushing. And before it's over, they literally got out of my office and sprinted out of my office with me in hot pursuit going, wait. Enough so that my manager, this is my first month selling cars, and I was figuring out cars that was really well. And he knew what I was doing. He not only grabbed me, took me down to the break room, yelled at me, and then he said, you're staying here for how long? He goes, the rest of the day. He goes, you're not in the right mindset to help anybody. You'll just burn more leads. Think about how to do better. So basically, he took and eliminated my chance to make that bonus. That was 22 plus years later. And I have told that story thousands of times training people, training salespeople, because I never forgot it. I learned. And you know what? It's the exact same thing. When somebody that doesn't know what they're doing puts on an event somewhere, you're going to have a new couple that knows even less that, for whatever reason, believes you're some sort of leader, and they're going to walk out going, what the fuck did we get into? Fuck this and never come back. They're going to get in the car and they're going to go, we'll just never talk about this. This never happened. We'll pretend we never want it and we'll move on with our life. That, you know what? The lifestyle is not for everybody, and that's okay. But it's not okay for you to be a fucking idiot and make it that way for somebody. That's the difference. And so that's why with these things, that's why it pisses. That's why I get so fired up on top of this, because it pisses me off. I suppose a 30-year vet doesn't step up to help somebody that's new and help them get better and yet maintains a love for the lifestyle. That's why it pisses me off when somebody, It's new that doesn't know shit from apple butter. Tries to proclaim they can help people get, you know, in the lifestyle. Both of you fucking morons. If you love the lifestyle, and help, it's not that difficult. And then, you know what? That whole scenario doesn't happen. And I guarantee the unique part about that fucking post, you know how we all hate drama in the lifestyle? I promise you. supposed to go to that party. Knows about that event, whether they knew the people or not. She's now, that person managed to blast it on a fucking page. Which you shouldn't do. Which you shouldn't do. So the whole peanut gallery knows about this drama. How many more people know about this fucking drama? We're talking about it on a show, on a national show, because of how many more people knew about something that never had to happen. And by the way, if anyone goes, well, why are you talking about it? Because you know what? We're trying to help people learn from it. Because that's exactly what you need for porn. Legally, we have to keep that stuff for porn. And I can tell you, just any time that confidence has ever been violated in the adult community. You are blacklisted. It is known. It is, you're fucking done. And the sad part for me with this is, I appreciate them wanting to try to make it safe. The worst part is you have the blind leading the fucking blind. Look, you don't need a college degree to be able to fucking put on being great. Okay, you really don't. But again, if you're new, if you're new, ask somebody, get some feedback, get some help. There's nothing wrong with asking. We were talking about the gym earlier, and you said, why don't you go ask those guys up there? Nobody likes to ask for help. I don't want to go ask them because nobody wants to look stupid. All the people involved in that have done more damage to themselves than they even vaguely have a clue. So, fuck y'all. All right. Well, what a great show. Hey, we'll find out if they listen. Two less listeners. Anyways. Come at me. I don't care. We don't take offense. I mean, I do. I take offense to anything people say. You used to. You used to take it more. Oh, I still take stuff personally, and I'll cry a little bit, and I'll get over it. Yeah. And I'm like, I'll give you something to cry about. No, I'm just kidding. I should kick my ass. 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