Krazy Truth about Swinging #337 Issues with people hooking up with your EX

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Speaker1: Hey, kids. The program you're about to listen to contains some adult situations, adult language, themes, and other adult topics. If you're easily offended, this show's not for you. Hey, you crazy motherfuckers. Welcome back to another edition of Crazy Truth About Swinging. I'm the host with your most. I'm Cole, and I'm here with your lovely, lovely, and fuck yourself, Miss Amanda. Why? Because you flicked me off at the start of the show. Oh, hey. Oh, hey. She already forgot. All right. Anyways, you can tell the birthdays are mounting up for us, can't you? We can't remember what we just did. Anyways, for those of you following at home, this is Season 8, Episode 337. We're happy to be... I was making sure my shirt was straight. Petting your tits, you good? They're still new. You're just trying to figure it out. I always pet them. They feel good. There you go. Little. I don't touch them. Anyways. He hasn't touched them. Because I don't want to hurt your boobs. It doesn't hurt. I'm just saying. Smack it and we'll have an issue. But, you know. Anyways, okay. Let's, real quick, shout out to our sponsors. Motorbunny.com, that's right. Don't take chances on a subpar fucking dog. Subpar. He sure does. Finish the fucking thing, would you? Because I don't know what he was doing. What are you saying? Motorbunny. Oh, motorbunny. Don't just trust your cooter to anybody. You can get one of the brand new motorbunny originals or the brand new buck. Check it out today at motorbunny.com. Also, don't forget... Fuck off, bitch. Don't forget... God. Why don't we make any money out of this? I know why. Oh, come on. Don't forget ASN Lifestyle Magazine. Because we're real? Yeah. ASN Lifestyle Magazine dot com if you want to know about the lifestyle. And the swinging world, check it out, asnlifestylemagazine.com. The award show, the award voting has closed. We'll be there. We'll be live or something there in August. 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We're super excited to have them. Make sure you check out all of our sponsors. We really do sincerely appreciate when you visit them. All right. So basic updates because obviously we've been doing that on your boobs. I'm going to spend a lot of time on it. We're going. Everything went really well. Your last checkup. You don't go back in until August. So until after you get back from your sex weekend in Connecticut. So your taco fest in in Connecticut. So that's pretty good. They've dropped quite a bit. I don't know. Seem to be. You've been out sunbathing. You haven't been at a constant itchy mess, so that's good. Scars are healing well. My boobs haven't been an itchy mess at this point. Yeah, so those are all good. Again, they're still kind of strapped down. One of these shows will have you. I didn't wear the strap strap. No, but one of these will have where you don't have like a sports. Right now, they're still compressed. You have got to see them some un-pushed in. Did you wear one of these touch bras for Friday night? No, I actually wore a regular bra. Yeah, so, but it's still, it's like, you're trying to do, like, play the right good girl and wear it as much as you can so you get it done with it. Today I've been, not so, I've been pretty lenient on wearing my correct garments, but. Which they said, they are, because, like, you go swimming, you go do something, they're totally cool. You've been doing some sunbathing, so check it out. Cool thing is, obviously with calendar, the 2026 calendar, we're going to have pictures. There's going to be some really cool pictures we took pre that we just took before we knew you were going to do a boob job. And then the other half are going to be with the new boob. So a nice mix of stuff. So I have a little bit of time to crank those out. We definitely are going to be up and moving. We got a lot of crazy stuff. So I'll be doing some at like KSN. I'll be doing maybe some in Connecticut. If I can talk somebody into it, maybe when I go to Salem. Yeah, absolutely. If she remembers we're going to Salem. I'll make sure she does. That's my job. I make sure we get stuff out there. So, we got a lot of cool stuff coming up, obviously, in August. So, once we get through, this is the kind of thing. Don't forget, you can get your appointment to Funkmas Amanda at the ranch. She'll be back at the ranch in September. So, check it out. We are on the road a lot. We're going to be in, so if you're listening and you do are interested in shooting content, we're going to be in St. Louis. We're going to be in Orlando. We're going to be in Gulfport, Mississippi. We're going to be, obviously, around here. That's all just in the month of August. The only place we're not going to be is home. And so that's in August. Like a week. Or a weekend. So we'll be exhausted. And we're going to be doing some shooting here already. You're breaking in a newbie. You're breaking in a newbie. Oh, yeah. You're breaking in a newbie probably the first weekend in August. You're breaking in a newbie. So there you go. Probably the new, we're praying to be a new member of the Casbah Studio family, I would guess. I don't know. So, we'll see how that works out. Okay. So, enough on that fun shit. Otherwise, nothing else has been going on. I got new ink. Nothing else fun. Cole got new ink. I got new ink. So, I got my Santa tattoo on my other form, which is really fucking awesome. And I'm super stoked about it. Ta-da. Nobody really cares. My only update is I haven't been sleeping. Yeah, well, you've got tits, so that's all nobody cares about. So, yeah. So, there you go. So, anyways. But we've got a really great topic to cover tonight. And this is going to be an interesting one. And the reason we're covering this one. So let's give a back story first, shall we? Obviously, we know in the lifestyle relationships, and I'm not talking the poly relationships, I started friends and benefit relationships. No. The core relationships in a lifestyle. So spouses or long-term boyfriend, girlfriend types. a long-time partners can go south in the lifestyle. Right? And so... We all know somebody or several somebody. If you don't, if you're in this long enough, you will. The interesting part of this is there's an interesting concept of how does it affect the lifestyle when both people either are... Regardless if they're in or out, but a lot of times both partners will stay in the lifestyle. Or sometimes they're in the process of deciding what they're going to do in their lifestyle. And the fallout from it. And what I mean by that is the off-limit. Watching people get really pissed off. They will. A relationship ends. And you will listen to them talk all kinds of fucking angry shit about the other person. And yet. If somebody that knew both parties reaches out or tries to hook up or does hook up or whatever, the fallout that can happen. And we just, there's some people multiple states away, a long ways away, just had a situation, husband and wife breaking up, getting divorced, a friend's dating, now there's an asshole and he's a dick and blah, and all kinds of shit. So we want to talk about this because this is not the first time we've seen this shit. Okay, so how it started, us talking about it. Okay, so let's back up. Tomorrow will be our 31st wedding anniversary. Yes, I'm acknowledging the love of my life. Okay. Used to be. So, obviously, we've been together since we were 19, 20. Dating-wise. We didn't date. Fucking-wise. Right, it was a one-night stand. Yeah. Yaddy. 94 is when we got married. It's not like we have experience in the separation, divorce, whatever. We've been very fortunate. We have been very fortunate. And we did not start off in the lifestyle. Has it come close? No, I'm kidding. Goddamn right. There's been times. It's had its moments. We did not start off in the lifestyle. And so we faced a lot of those, I mean, just a lot of life challenges. and whatever. Divorce happens. And I think before you, and not to interrupt, before you go on, this is not a judgment or some sort of opinion on a divorce. Because you know what? That happens in life. Whether it be lifestyle related or just life, and you just happen to be in lifestyle, that part's there. So go on. So anyway, somebody put a post on a different page about What would you do if your best friend was trying to hook up with your, you know, your ex? Well, I didn't realize I knew who it was because they posted an honest mistake. I'm like, I don't know who it is. So I just gave my opinion of, well, why not? Did y'all hook up before? Because does that, does, do they have to pick sides? That was my thing. I'm like, oh, what, what harm is it? Then they took it down because I knew who they were and I, I don't care who you are. Just because we knew who it was, didn't mean we gave a shit. That's not why I commented. I commented because I felt like I needed to give my two cents. Not that anybody gives two shits. It was on social media, so they must need my opinion. Maybe. The part that is so ironic about this and all these situations, and we've seen it in other groups as well, it's so funny how obviously when there's a breakup for whatever reason, there's a lot of emotions involved with that. And here's the part that I, just for the life of me, do not understand. If you're going to go on social media and fucking spill your guts, air your dirty laundry, they cheated on me, or they did me wrong, or whatever the case would be, and you're going to go in that concept, and you're going to name call, and you're going to basically have your therapist be social media or at events, if you're talking to somebody and they just blob all this shit out, if you just bash the fuck out of somebody, what difference does it truly make to you? Why do you or what right do you have to be pissed off? If I go on, I don't fucking bang her, but you guys only played as a couple and now, hello, and I go introduce my fucking self. Seriously. I mean, to me, That's the most asinine thing in the world. How you approach any situation, different ballgame. If you try to use the situation to get some dick or pussy, you're a fucking piece of shit. What I mean by that is if you reach out to the other person, as a guy, let's say I'm reaching out to the gal, to offer to console because you're trying to basically manipulate it, you're a piece of shit. of shit. That's a different ballgame. Right? And I totally understand everybody, in my opinion, should be pissed at any type of manipulation. End of story. But if you're just like, hey, I heard your relationship size changed. I've always wanted to hook up with you. Are you interested? At what, why, whether you and I are best friends, you know, whether me and the other guy are our best friends or not. Why is that a problem at that point in time? I mean, seriously. I can understand being a little upset if it was sneaky, like, hey, don't tell Bob that we're talking. And by the same token, it's none of Bob's business anymore. But I mean, I can see that. The one guy in the situation you're talking about brought up the concept of, oh, you know, bros before hoes. Well, here's how this works. in my world. You know what? That is an awesome concept when we're all sophomores and juniors in high school and we're sitting around getting outside our cars, listening to our music and bros before hoes. Now we're all adults and seriously, let's be an adult. Like, I don't know. You got to read something because I won't, you know. I've had friends get with my exes and seriously, I don't care if you're happy, then so be it. Of course, I'm friends with most of my exes. Not all. So in truth, if my friend and ex who is still my friend get together and are happy, then so be it. Yeah. And I would think, honestly, okay. It's an issue between the guys. So do women, I don't know, I haven't really talked to a lot of people when it comes to that. Do women have an issue if a female or a friend of theirs reaches out to their ex-boyfriend, ex-husband and say, Hey, you want to hook up? While it's still fresh. Let's put that. Not like six months has come down, while it's still fresh. Right, right. I know what I want to say here, but if I say it, I'm going to get fucking deranged. I'm going to get demolished. What smartass thing? Because you've been a really big smartass thing. Okay, I agree. Yes, it's between guys and guys. I see that. But I can't believe it's that much difference between what Because God's honest truth, if I have a group of guys that don't get along in a room, and a group of women that are just a group of women in a room, I promise you the group of guys in the room can work their shit out faster than the group of catty-ass fucking hens clicking over in the other room. Wow! Look, I know that's only because I'm not living it from their perspective, but... I was going, wow, to calling us catty-ass women. Just saying. Because? No, I can, no. The only thing is, is that I can agree with you because the guys will go, I don't care if you want to fuck her, fuck her. The girls will be going, oh my God, can you believe she did that to her? You know, but it depends on who left who or, I don't know. Maybe, I don't know. Someone wants to screw my ass, go for it. I would like to think that all of us would be, and again, I mean, I would assume if he broke your heart and your friend goes, ooh, he's single now, I'm going to go after him. You're a cunt. You're jealous. You're going, well, why the fuck is he going out with her? What was wrong with me? I mean, come on. But... I can see... To me, that's justified. I can see more after it happens from a female going, motherfucker, what the fuck do you see in that bitch? All of a sudden, you just couldn't wait to fuck her, huh? That's why you broke your heart. I can see the self-doubt. But then a guy can hear a guy going, you know, guys have needs. Well, yeah. And a female does it. You hear another guy going, oh, I railed her. I railed her. It's like, well, fucking she didn't do that. Again, I guess the blanket statement put over all the verses, it's always easy to have an opinion on why it seems stupid when it's not you involved. Because everything I'm saying right now. I mean, would there be jealousy? Well, yeah. But I guess it would depend on how pissed off I am. You would be like, I'm glad the cunt can have him. He's a dick. As long as I get his paychecks out. If you want mine, go ahead. Remember, you're the one hooking for money. No, the thing is, is that all this is like, I would like to think that's how I would handle it, but it could be if the roles reversed. Okay. Been divorced. And remarried to the same person. But that's beside the point. My opinion. Early on emotions run very wild. Jealousy is going to be there no matter what. Especially if the divorce is not a mutual decision. And that makes sense. That makes sense. So. And obviously anytime you talk about emotions. Emotions take every bit of rational life. in any situation and skews it, right? I mean, let's face it. How I make decisions when I'm emotionally charged, if you take that exact same decision, give it a little time, chance for me to calm down, breathe, talk me down, how I'm going to make that decision is going to change most likely. So that factor totally makes sense. What's the appropriate amount of time then? Okay, I can see that maybe there should be... Look, I laugh all the time when I said, if I died, a whole bunch of people come to the funeral to give you their condolences and try to bang your ass as fast as possible. I mean, what is the... Is there an appropriate time where it's like, all right, dude, you haven't been fucking... You guys broke up six months ago. You guys broke up eight months ago. You guys broke up a month ago. Yeah, that... Great. you're done you know it's it's i don't have to worry about that is there acceptable time for that to happen oh yeah read that one uh i would like to share a thought people have very strong need to have ownership over their intimate partnerships and their need to own rather than experience the sexual interactions in their life drives them to exhibit and engage you moved it in divisive behavior where their ex-partners are involved regardless of the circumstances of former partnership, marriage, etc. They can be entrapped in their jealousy, feeling of rejection, real or imagined, and from, keep scrolling, that place they began to act out. If you truly open, you would know to release yourself from the chains of conviction holding you to the past. you would move forward to new experiences and have gratitude for the past moments. Yes. Agreed. It was a great show, folks. No, I mean, that's... It's very true. It is very true. If something were to happen and we were to separate, I would go on a binge of just fucking whatever. Spending my money. No. Seriously, that's what it would take? After all the years of me begging you to do it, then you'd do it? Oh, I don't know. It'd be to take it out on you because I know that that would piss you off. I don't know if it'd piss you off, though. So your plan of attack is to slaughterize me. It depends on how hard I am. Your plan of attack is to slaughterize me. You just told a whole bunch of fucking people that now their best, a great way to maybe get laid by you is start shit and get us to break up. No, that's not true. It's a new game. Well, it would take a lot to break us up. Would it be anal or just regular or all of the above? Oh, shut up. Shut up. It just depends on how mad I was at you. Or if I thought it would get you back. Remember you tried that one time? No. Long time ago. Before we were married. No. When you went out on a date, when you were in college. I remember going out on a date. You went out on a date. And I remember kissing the guy. And you admitted, after you were trying to piss you off, Okay, whatever. It's the one I'm drinking. See, I would... But I can have unattached. I know you can, because you are just a dirty girl. No, the thing is, is I totally get that, because I know how I would deal with it. I would fucking... I would binge drink like a motherfucker. Actually, probably, what I'd probably do is just hide in my house. I would binge drink like a motherfucker. I mean, you know exactly what I do. I would... I would drink myself to a level of fucking stupid and maintain that level of stupid for a long time. I know me. I know exactly what I do. I'd be smoking again in a fucking heartbeat. Just saying. But we also talked about the fact that having, again, because our experience is limited, because we haven't, neither one of us went through divorces, right? So it always is, it is amazing. It's amazing, especially when you perform weddings. So I perform weddings for people, and these people, and you see this new, excited, this madly in love. I mean, there's sometimes you perform weddings and you go, man, three years, you guys will be fucking... But most people, you see this new, this madly in love. The world is just like, aww. To see people and how they end up a year, two years, five years, how many years later. in such a level of complete hurt, anger, hate. I mean, it's amazing. Two people, again, we're extremely fortunate. We've never went through it. Either one of us. So it's mind-numbing. I can see how, as a guy, there would be part of me, it's like, I would love to think, I think that if someone walked up and said, hey, I know you and Miss Amanda, you guys split up. I really would like to, you know, ask her. Like if Larry said, hey, I really want to ask her. And Larry already fucked her a couple times, so we know that's like, well, whatever. But I mean, but you know, that I would like to think, I know what I would say. I would say, absolutely. I don't care. Do what you want. Do what you want. Now, just because I said that doesn't mean that I wouldn't be, because I don't share that. I mean, I would internalize it to a motherfucker. You know, just like... So I can see where there's that challenge. And part of the challenge with this whole thing is the fact that we, not we, but people in general are so quick to share that we're quick to use social media and events or whatever, okay, or whatever, to use that as our therapy sessions, right? And... I think it's more to justify your feelings. Right. Justify your feelings. Vent. You know, these are... The shitty part is, like, in a perfect world, if that relationship ends, for the rest of us, what would be perfect is nobody tried to get anybody to take sides. That doesn't always happen. We know that. Then the next best thing would be is if everybody would just... a guy would just shut the fuck up and stay out of the mix. And the third best would be is don't share that shit and it's not for public consumption. But it's like sitting there and making out with you and then when you go, let's fuck, I go, we don't fuck because I'm sitting, why do I think you want, why do you think, why are you wanting to fuck me? Because I'm sending a mixed signal. So if I go on social media and I share my my heartfelt feelings, my true feelings, what actually happened, or my side of the story. It's kind of sending a big signal that... Well, okay, so think about it this way. The person that the original post was about doesn't even live anywhere close to here. Right. He didn't put it all over social media. All of a sudden, we're like, I don't think they're together anymore. Do you think they're together? I really don't think so. hints of stuff. So maybe, maybe the divorce hasn't even gone through. It's a little. There was some things that was more on the, on the, on personal pages that made you go. I'm not friends with her on social media. Yeah. I mean, it was like, wait a minute. That seems, that seems, uh, type thing. But it was just like, I don't think they're together anymore. And then come to find out that post was about them. I'm like, Oh, well, okay. So, I mean, is it best to wait till they're completely divorced before you go hitting on them? Or you're supposed to be there for emotional support? If there's, does it, does it, if they're still in the lifestyle, I mean, obviously. Because I, I literally commented, did y'all hook up when y'all were, when you were, when they were a couple? You know, if you hooked up when they were a couple, then what's the problem with him having sex with her now? Right. You know, I might go on, I don't get it, but I mean, even best friends, I mean, your best friends should know you if y'all are best friends to know that that would probably not go over very well. But see, here's the other part of that, and I agree with you completely, but it's what is the intent? That goes a big part of it. What is the intent? And what I mean by that, again, like I cracked the joke, if I died, people would come to the funeral to console you. What's the intent? Is the intent then... Of the friend reaching out to her? Yeah. Is it because you've always wanted... Or just in general, is it because the person wants to hook up? Everybody's still in the lifestyle and they just want to hook up and it's a hook up? Or are they trying to take an opportunity for a boyfriend-girlfriend? There's an intent factor that I think plays in. And to me, the reality of this is that this show, If you're worried about the intent when you're broken up, a lot of people in the lifestyle would do themselves a huge favor to realize you should be worried about the intent even in the lifestyle. It's really not that much different. All it is is a different door that's open, but it can still go either direction. I think that a lot of things depend on And not that I want to know more in most situations like this, but it could depend on, you know, was the breakup caused by the lifestyle or was it caused by outside things. There's a couple. Both members of the couples are really good friends with us and whatever. They have gotten divorced recently. They are still great friends. They are both in a lifestyle. They both encourage each other. and people to interact with each other. I mean, they actually did a really good job of, hey, they're still in the life. The exes saying, hey, the other one's still in the lifestyle. Please feel free to reach out to them. And I understand that not every relationship ends on those sorts of that quality term, but the relationship didn't end because of the lifestyle. It ended because of outside things. I guess my other part of it is the one that I say the people that are quick to try to jump into somebody who's a new ex even even let's say that you were married to somebody else and I really want to fuck you you guys broke up divorced or broke up whatever I don't like drama and if if that's fresh that fucking worth the drama that goes with it because here's the deal if I really if I'm not interested in anything besides just you. I don't really want to fuck you and then get to sit there and have you cry on my shoulder and hear all the drama before we get to fuck you. It's like, are we done yet? We gotta go. I think that happened to you at a KWN. It did happen to me at a KWN. I've lived it. You didn't know that they were separating. You're like, oh, that was the most awkward fuck ever. Yeah, because then after you're like, oh, okay. And then you're trying to chew your arm off to get the fuck out of there. Okay, so social media changed everything. It used to be you talked to your bestie and aired your job out the laundry. Today, social media enables you to air it to everyone. Vengeance makes you want to do everything possible to bash someone and ruin their reputation. I'll agree with that. I agree with that. And I'm going to add to that. I think social media has changed our definition of besties, our definition of best friends. We see all the time, and I say it all the time, because we're old. Right? Just because we met, just because we were at an event together, just because we're both, I've added you on Facebook, doesn't mean you're my fucking friend. And as I get older, like, even business-wise, I'm more than happy to say that. Like, here's the deal. Oh, we're really good friends. No, we're not. We're really good acquaintances. That's fucking it. My friends. I think that's more society today, though. If you talk to the younger generation, everybody they meet is a friend. Well, I remember when the boys first were going to high school, and the first time I went up with you, I think it was the oldest one, and they're coming out, and they're huggers, right? I was like, what in the fuck is going the fuck on? You're like, this is the... This is the new generation. They're all huggy and... And the thing is, is that, so there's a lot of people, like, people that are in my inner circle, If you're in my inner circle, you know it. You know it. Those conversations are ones like, you know. If you're not, you're not. But I think that if half the world thinks that, well, because we met this one time at band camp, or even in the lifestyle, I'll say it, I don't give a fuck. We hooked up once. Yeah, we fucked. You know what? We have sat at a bar and had somebody that we have fucked twice, not once, twice over an eight-year period that we didn't recognize. We thought they looked familiar, and they thought we looked fucking familiar. And you know what? I'm like, I fucked you. Yeah, and they're like, that's right, we did fuck. And everybody had a great way to tell them all three times we fucked. So just because of that, I'm not your best friend, but I think that there's that concept. so people put something like that out there. When they need to understand, half the people hearing that message, if I went on a rampage saying, that fucking cunt, I'm done with her, fuck this shit, our marriage is over, I'm done, I kicked her fucking ass out, half the people reading that are going to go, fuck yeah, I'm going to nail that out. Seriously, have to be able to be all about it. Okay, so here's what I want to know, and I didn't actually talk to the guy that posted it. Because we didn't care that much. No, because, no, I didn't. And I didn't know who it was until one of their other friends came and said, you know, that was, I'm like, oh, that's who that was about. Oh, okay. So my question was, is, well, how does this guy know that his best friend was trying to hook up with his ex or soon to be ex or separated or whatever their situation is? Because I don't know. Did she go, oh my God, can you believe so-and-so just asked me if he wanted, if I wanted to hook up? You know, it's like, Like, is the one going to the ex to go, he is trying to hook up? Or did the bestie go, you know, I called your ex and she doesn't want to hook up with me? I think, you know, who's narking on who of who's hooking up? Or is somebody outside go, you know, your best friend just hit on your ex, right? Or is there an added thing? Hey, you know, your best friend's trying to fuck your wife. That gets him out of the way so you have a clear path. No, that's true. There's that, too. What it is, is actually, The only part of Sesame Street half these fucking people got was share. And so they'll share fucking anything and everything with anybody they know. You know, the thing is, is that we've always shared everything with everybody. Or with everybody. Well, we do share with everybody. But between us, we share everything. We talk about everything. Right. You know, we don't hide it. And somehow or another, we still manage to stay together. But, yeah, well, you know, you never know. Well, because we're best friends. Daddy needs a new pair of shoes. So if we're separated, I'm sorry that best friend thing. kind of ends there that I'm not going to reach out to you and go, can you believe Larry called me and wants to like fuck? And I would be like, fuck yeah, I can believe it because he's a fucking perv. Well, you've had sex with him multiple times. Come on. No shit. It is the rainy season. I'm coming for another ring. Damn it, it better rain. Because you moved to fucking the Amazon rainforest, you fucking horny cocksucker. Anyway, it's just like I'm not going to come run to you and say, hey, so-and-so's trying to hook up with me. Because really, by that point in time, if we're separated, it's none of your business. Here's the thing. If we've broken up. Okay, go ahead. We've broken up. And I'm calling you a fucking bitch and a cunt and all kinds of shit, whatever. And you come to me and go, hey, this person is driving me nuts. Because you've done me wrong. That's why I broke up. You've done me wrong, in my opinion. My answer back to you is going to be... Tough shit. Well, then I guess you should fucking do something about it. And it would be followed, because I know me and you know me. Well, maybe if you'd fucking listen to women who are married, then that's how the fight starts. Right? Right. And vice versa. By the same token, if I come to you and go, hey, I really want to hook up with this girl, and I've done you wrong, and you're like, you're calling me a dick, and I go, hey, can you hold me with this girl? You're gonna go, you want the fucking pussy? You go get it. Maybe if you'd fucking listen. It's over. So, if it's a thing of you're not over it, which is totally it can happen, right? You know? Shit goes down. And I'm hurt, and I'm whatever, but I'm not over it. Then I would strongly suggest the first place, the very first thing you need to do, if that's happening to you, is disconnect social media. Because here's the thing. 100% Completely guilty as fuck. Emotions and Facebook and relationships and Facebook and social media is a disaster waiting to happen. Even if it's in code. Yes. 100% fucking guilty. You're guilty as fuck. I'm not. I will absolutely 100% own it. Because it's not during the day. It's not during normal hours. It's not when you're at work. That's never when the motherfucking monster of social media kicks your ass. It's late at night. Maybe people should go to bed at any normal time. No, you'll be proud of me. I'm getting there. It's late at night when your brain fucking gets away from you and starts to run away. You, all of a sudden, because you're alone, and you just, you're reaching out hoping you need something. As a human, you need the interaction. Right. And you stupidly turn to the internet. Mm-hmm. Worst time. Shit. If you want to find every sappy post I've ever done, it's after midnight. There are people that do it when they're high. There are people that do it when they're drunk. There are people that do it when they are sad. They're people that do it when they are angry. But it's never when you're at a point where you're around people that has a rational thought process around you. And the problem is you can delete the post. The next day you can take it down. You can wish you never put it out. You can do all those things. Somebody's seen it. It doesn't take it away. It doesn't take it away. And it is open for complete and total And I promise you, nine out of ten people, if you put a post that says the sky is blue, nine out of ten people are going to be like, he's talking about the water being green. It just is what it is. But at that moment in time, you're not thinking about it. And the problem is when you put that out there, the predators and the vultures that want to get with your ex see it as an opportunity. You, guy or girl, doesn't matter. Look weak as fuck. You wanna know when people fucking move in for shit? When the motherfucking lion looks weak. Nobody goes up and tries to take the dead antelope from a female lion when she's full strength. And nobody comes up and tries to take the water buffalo from a male lion when she's at full strength. But when you're sick, when you're tired, when you're wore down, when you're weak, has come in. And when you put that shit out there, you are putting the message out that you are weak. And the problem is, when you realize what you have done, you can't fix it. Because again, now you're trying to explain, and then half people didn't read the first message, and then you get all this, and you can't fix it. You watch a last year in National Geographic. No. Yes, you do. What it is, this is all conversations I've had with my therapist. Because, again, I will fully raise my hand. 110% guilty. Y'all talk about lions and hyenas? I have, because I relate. I'm a Leo. I relate to lions a lot, because I feel like that fucking bitch. I'm picking on you. Anyways, there's a wife for sale. I know a couple who separated. The male started telling his friends to contact his ex, knowing she was hurt, but did it to spite her. Oh. Wow. Wouldn't it be easier to say shit like the hip or something? I mean, good lord. Ow. That's just. Relationships show just how cruel people can be to each other. How cruel they can be to somebody that they cared at one point in time they would have fucking taken a bullet for. So much for. You know, and now how much they don't. The thing is that, one, see to me, drama. Right. And there's an edge right there. It's just one of those things that when you're in that relationship zone. Honestly, the easiest way to avoid all of it is the people that are non-emotionally attached, which would be the peanut gallery. You know what? If a couple's in that mode, just stay the fuck out for a while. I mean, honestly. But we all know there are predators, guys, male and female, in the lifestyle. So it doesn't always, you can't always stop it. Now, see, there was one couple. I would have hooked up with them as a couple. Right, right. They got separated, divorced, whatever. I waited a fucking year before I reached out to the wife. I didn't reach out to the guy. I reached out to the wife. Ex-wife. Ex-wife. To see if she would be interested, and I got shot down. You didn't get shot down. She said she was no longer participating in the lifestyle. Right. But again, You waited a long time. I knew a couple where the female, after they broke up, went on a group post telling all females not to try to hook up with her ex. And really, that's none of her business. If y'all are exes. That's just it. At what point in time, I understand a lover's scorn, but at what point in time do you really give a fuck? At some point in time, if they're your ex, you have to let them be. Your Ex. Which is, you have to choose to let it go. Because the reality of it is, and it's not just the Ex that got, well, I got dumped so. It's a lot of times the ones doing the dumping that still want to have a control. You don't have that right. Like Carnell said, possession. Yeah, you do not have the possession. You, if, if, You were married. If you're a couple like us, you're married. And now you're not anymore. You do not have the same couple's rights that you and I do. Because here's the thing. If she's my ex, unless you're agreement and you've let her know, we're just really good friends, so we are swinging buddies. Otherwise, you're no longer a couple. So if your rule was, well, you have to talk to the guy. If you have to talk to the guy. That's a niece that got a brand new Jeep. Yep, that's a niece right there. Sorry about that. You're right. You're back. Anyways, so the thing is, if your rule before was... Did I just lose it? There we go. If your rule before was that they had to talk to me first, that no longer applies. I don't have that same right. you specify that so people know, you know. Perhaps many people should remain monogamous. They struggle with trying to function the lifestyle with rules, beliefs, and values that are better suited for the vanilla life. There is no dishonor in understanding yourself well enough to know where you cannot function with a healthy spirit. Hurt people seek to hurt people even while being surrounded by love. I agree with that. Very true. But there's a lot of people for, well, not a lot of people. There are some couples that go into the lifestyle thinking it's going to fix their marriage. That's bad. I guess my thing would be is, if there's a lot to be said for if you are experiencing a breakup, whatever the case may be, there's nothing wrong with letting your inner circle know. And if it's something that you both agree, there's nothing wrong with letting. If you, if, okay, like our situation, if someone had a word happening between you and I, because the groups and everything that we have, we would probably, well, and quite honestly, excuse me, bless you, as a business, we would put out a statement because we would have to put out a statement of we're no longer together as a couple. This is how CASB is going to work. Whatever the case may be. If you feel comfortable with your group or you feel like absolutely, if you put out a joint statement, maybe, fine. But there's nothing wrong with just until you both figure it out, step back. One of the worst parts, and we hear this all the time, we get to hear from people, and I have people come to me, handle this because breakups get messy. All you can do is control what you can control in that situation. There's nothing wrong with taking a break yourself, even if your partner doesn't. You know what? There's nothing wrong with taking a break in those situations. We kind of veered off topic a little bit. I feel bad about that. We talk as it comes up. Yeah. It's up. It's just... The people that are moving in for the kill. God, it just... See, I can't understand people who do that because I wouldn't do that. Not knowingly. Wait a minute. Let me rephrase that. I can see me not knowing because I hear a whole lot of fucking shit going on in the lifestyle. And I try to block a lot of it out, because if it doesn't concern me, I don't really need a clog in my little fucking peanut brain. Right? So I can see me not knowing, like, hey, what up? You know, and then next year, you're like, oh, fuck, fuck, abort. You don't know what the fuck to do, because you fucking just went paying attention. Yeah, I don't know. Not you. You're just like, you're just gonna go on a fucking spree. No, I won't. I'd probably go hide. Not with those new tits, you're not going to. those son of a bitches. If I'm not going to get to, somebody needs to. Oh, stop. Don't worry about the kids. There's outfits and stuff. It's your company. I'm going to still get to work for you, I guess. I don't fucking know. The funny thing with the whole thing is that it's a part of of the lifestyle that people don't think about. Life just happens. The other problem is most people in the lifestyle, the natural assumption when you hear about a couple breaking up, getting divorced, whatever the case may be, is to make the assumption that it was lifestyle related. Which is not necessarily true at all. Look, you can hear it because somebody dated XYZ to me and go, Oh, well, they're definitely talking about lifestyle. No, if you're not in the room and part of the conversations, you don't know that it was lifestyle. Just because somebody here says the word cheated doesn't mean it was sexual. Just because you were lied doesn't mean it had anything to do with the lifestyle. It could have been about finances. It could have been about, you know. You told me you were going to make the house payment. Yeah, it could have been talking about where money's going, Actually, I think the majority of arguments between couples are usually financial. A lot of it. But the problem is we hear bits and pieces, and we hear the emotional part of one side, and we run with it. We create our own narrative in our head, and we run with that. That's the other part of this that I think is really interesting. And this throws the other challenge with it, and why I would encourage people, even if you really want to hook up with the spouse that's now single, a great reason to fucking pull back a little bit is remember this simple piece of advice, this simple concept. Every single story and situation, there is three sides. Each person has their own side, and the truth, which usually the truth is somewhere in the middle. So no matter how I know with my inner circle, if If something were happening to you and I, and I am raging, you know, Larry and I are talking, because I'd reach out, Larry's in my inner circle, and I'm raging because I'm pissed, I'm angry, I'm hurting, blah. It's still probably going to have my take, my spin on the story. So I could be like, you know what? She's just a fucking cunt to me. She yells at me all the time. I'm always super nice. Well, if we were playing a tape, maybe that's really not quite so true. And by the same token, if you're talking to someone, if you're in a circle, you're going to know, he doesn't know, but yells and screams at me all the fucking time. Well, you know, I'm always really nice. Well, somewhere in the middle is the truth. The best place to be if you're not involved in it is nowhere in between there. I mean, seriously, you know, so I don't know. Food for thought. It was interesting because we're like, well, you know, I wouldn't have a problem. if you played. No. No. I would like to think. I mean, if you're trying to reconcile your relationship, then that's, you know, that's a different. If someone, if I felt like, or you felt like, that someone had intentionally tried to break us up, or had intentionally, then that's a whole different ballgame. Like a homewrecker. A homewrecker. Because at that point in time, quite literally, as a guy, if it's a male homewrecker, here's the deal. The first step of our divorce would have me in jail. Seriously. Because I'm going to, at that point in time, I'm going to, I'm not going to handle it. I know until other people use words. I'm not that smart. And I know that it would be the same. I mean, there's just, that would be the only time that it'd be like, otherwise it'd be like, yeah, we're not together anymore. You know what? Play it. I would like to think that there would some way to find some sort of common ground still. Like, hey, if you need something... But even homewreckers, there was something, a disturbance in the relationship to begin with. A disturbance of the force. Kind of. In the relationship to begin with, because something wouldn't have come in. Something, yeah. But, you know, you'd like to think that, you know, it... That's why everybody can think rationally. Probably if everybody, if the peanut gallery would stay out of the way, most people eventually could maybe find some sort of...... Tolerable ground. Let's put it that way. Some couples are going to have a lot. Some couples are going to maybe just... Enough that they can still function in a life, both of being a lifestyle, without one side having to leave or both sides having to leave if people stay out. Hell, most of the time with taking sides in most fucking situations, it's outside people that are busy trying to take sides themselves and pick teams for you. So be careful who the fuck you tell shit to. Because all these motherfuckers can't wait to get your team for you. And trust me, I could rattle off names right now of people that do that every single time and the people they did it with. Because it's always the same fucking people that follow that shit. So beware the helpful friends. So there you go. What a great show. There you go. Totally unique. All right. Well, there you go, kids. Hey, don't forget you can pre-order calendars. They actually will be up tomorrow on your website. So you can pre-order your calendars. You can pre-order my calendar as well. 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