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Speaker1: Hey kids, the program you're about to listen to contains some adult situations, adult language, themes, and other adult topics. If you're easily offended, this show's not for you. Hey you crazy motherfuckers, welcome back to another edition of Crazy Truth About Swinging. I'm your host with the most, I'm Cole, and I'm here with the lovely, lovely, put-that-fucking-down Miss Amanda. No, it's in my way. Hey. Oh, my God. I buy signs, and we're going to hide it. It's in my way. We're not hiding it. Yes, we are. You can still see it. Off to a stellar start tonight, kids. How many people actually watch, though? Probably two. Anyways, so... I don't even know what I normally fucking do now. God damn it. Oh, yeah. So, for those of you following at home... Fucking... I'm the fuck off. This is... What's the fuck in my life? What season? Season... You do it! What season? You do it. I know what episode it is. What season is it? Do you know that? No, it's like seven or eight or some shit. Oh, my fucking God. Season eight, episode 335. We're under Tantelate and Tittleate and just get through. Jesus fuck. It's going to be opening on the crazy truth. Miss Amanda needs a new co-host, so we'll be taking applications. If you'd like to become the new co-host of Crazy Truth About Swinging with Miss Amanda, Speaker2: please let me know. Maybe it's you need a new co-host. Speaker1: Nope. I'm just going to step back and produce. It'll be you. You don't need me a part of this shenanigans. Speaker2: No, whatever. Speaker1: Anyways, shout out to our sponsors, ASNLivesaleMagazine.com. Three million readers can't be wrong. MotorBunny.com. Don't trust your vagina with just anybody. And obviously, BasisDX, and now it's actually Pro 13. The testing, at-home testing, no more excuses to not be safe in the lifestyle. You can find links to all of our sponsors in our show notes. And we'll get them again a little bit later on in the show. Speaker2: Alex knows it all. Speaker1: You and Alex can do the show. Whatever. No, it's not me they come to see. It's you, Pumpkin. Yeah, it is. So you're going to start doing the show. So pick your co-host. You can just have a revolving co-host door if you want, for all I care. You do all the talking. whatever well no one would miss me wouldn't be nice if i didn't that'd be so neat you're so funny it would be uh so why don't you give a quick update because we're in week uh one we're going into week two of post yesterday was post, yes. The last show, you just got them done. This show, we're starting the second week. So, why don't you give a quick update about how the process is going because people are interested to know how your tits are feeling. Ouch. No, it's not that horrible. It's just last night I couldn't sleep worth a crap. You have to talk louder than the microphone. I couldn't sleep more than crap last night. That would be awesome because I listened to the show and you just kind of faded off. Do I really? Yes. You know how you can tell? Look at the blue lines over there. Yeah. Yeah. You can't hardly see it. You have the voice that carries. Well, you can too. The microphone goes both ways so we can carry it closer for you if you need be. So we can hear you on this fucking shit. Anyway, you're now able to... So I'll give the update on your tits. Fuck. You're now able to lay flat, finally. You got approved. Yeah, but then I didn't want to. No, but you're totally cleared. You're totally cleared on driving. I could have sex, but don't put a lot of pressure on it. Don't put a lot of pressure on it. Yep. And I didn't know, for everybody who's going to assume, that I probably would go, Cole, ask about that. No. No, actually, the doctor just brought it up. He volunteered that information. Yeah, he did. Mind you, that was after after he said about next week we're going to talk about how you got to massage your tits. And I immediately responded, oh, sweet, it's an interactive exercise, which the nurse immediately died laughing. And it took him a minute, and he started laughing once it registered what I just said. But then he said, you're eligible for sex now. We just can't do handstands on your tits you're eligible you can you can lay flat he doesn't want you laying on your chest yet preferably which obviously i don't think would be even vaguely be a plan because your head your neck would have dangle like a bird uh and and you start to do the push down things you had now i have a strap now that goes over the top I have this strap now that's uncomfortable as fuck. But it's taking it. Because it hurts. It pushes down on it. But it's the concept just to push the implants down into place because they ride high initially. And it takes three to six weeks for them to drift down. And it's something to help do that. My nipples are more sensitive. Yes. Even though the skin below is kind of numb, at least more on one side than it is on the other. But my nipples are sensitive. So it's progressing. You were off of pain pills, basically. You took one last night, but you were off of pain pills day two. Last Wednesday, I took them just for comfort because we were outside working. Right. You weren't working. Well, not working. I stood outside. Well, you have to specify because there are people out there immediately going to go, what can we do? Cold didn't make me do shit. So, yes. So, basically, after day two, you were off of the pain meds. Yeah. Just other than just like regular aspirin. For headaches. Headaches, yeah. Exactly. But you're able to do stuff again. No, last night I took one to sleep because it was pushing so hard it hurt. But I think I might have put it on a little too tight. It's a learning curve because he put it on. He put it on. And it goes that much pressure. And then we didn't get to practice or anything. It was like, and away we go. But then we said, well, we'll have a new update for next week because we'll see him again next week. We do see him. Because there's tape over the incision because the incision is glued shut. So there's tape over it. And he goes, since you're not having a reaction to the tape, we're going to do it another week. So, fine. Fine. But we already got it clear. I mean, we'd gotten it clear that you were able to drive and reconfirm that flying and everything. So you're tripping to Connecticut at the end of this month because we're in July now. It's totally okay. I have someone to lift my bags. But next week, I never asked them this time what restrictions I had for exercise and weight. So next week, I'll say. Right. So right now, we're sticking with the assumption. We're sticking with no more than five pounds. Five pounds or less. And if we can keep her from doing stupid shit, which is a fucking full-time toddler job. It is not. It is, too. And I can add you. Did I carry any groceries? If you would like to argue with me on this point i'll be happy to go get our 26 year old son who can come in and attest to your listening skill set when it comes to not doing what doing things what should we go that route or should we go that okay uh it she means just a mini cole he'll disagree with no you won't. Would you like me to call your middle son? No. Okay, excellent. So, anyways, once we keep her tempered on doing that stuff, and then we'll find out for sure next week if there's any restrictions. But restrictions are being lifted, so that's good. And he's very pleased with how everything is looking i mean you know what a great job nice tits i made those no but i mean but he he's pleased and so it's moving on nicely yeah so not would you rate the fucking getting new tit surgeries more pain or less pain than when you had your nipples pierced
Speaker2:
it's kind of a actually it's more painful to get your nipples so there you go
Speaker1:
I don't know. More pain or less pain than when you had your nipples pierced? It's kind of a... Actually, it's more painful to get your nipples pierced. So there you go. Now, the funny thing is, and this is something so just briefly, is that you had to take your nipple rings out about a week before your surgery, which you'd had your nipples pierced for like nine years. They closed in a week. They closed. And so now you're you're pondering you haven't decided yet obviously if you're going to pierce them again or not kind of leaning towards right now probably not piercing again but you don't know yet i don't know yet so it's just kind of decision but it'll be interesting to see new tits they look totally new they don't have to be bedazzled but we No, but what's funny is when you look at my nipples, you see indentions where the bars were. Yeah, yeah.
Speaker2:
It's like, huh, peculiar.
Speaker1:
But I know that it took you almost two years for your nipple rings to heal. Yeah. And so doing porn and doing the shit that we do, or even just during playtime, if anybody sucked your nipples, you were like, disinfectant soap. I mean, so I don't know, watch Steve, but that's kind of interesting thing. food for thought with that whole thing. But otherwise, it's a good process. So, there you go. Yes. This way people have a good update on what's going on with that. An update. And definitely he is a doctor that we would highly recommend. So, again, the process has still been tremendous. When a when a uh plastic surgeon gives you his cell his personal cell phone number that that's somebody that's really about and concerned about the page so it's it's he gives me a hug every time he sees me he might you know me up close and personal now what's he gonna do he's been he's rubbed your tits for an hour so i mean it's kind of you know of, you know, stuffing a turkey, stuffing peppers. Anyways, so obviously. I have videos of the surgery that he sent me. Yeah, he was all kinds of cool. So, we've got that. So, we've got KSN coming up. Yes. And so, what's nice about KSN, you will be totally, should be, according to every other paperwork, says basically restriction-free by KWN. Technically.
Speaker3:
Technically.
Speaker1:
But, I mean, we'll watch and see what the doctor says.
Speaker3:
Who knows?
Speaker2:
They also said that hysterectomy was only six weeks and it was seven for me.
Speaker1:
I think my motherfucker did that just on purpose and we couldn't fuck because he knew I was anxious for that. So, yeah.
Speaker3:
So, there we go.
Speaker1:
So, let's kind of down that. So, some fucking seed thing running in my hair. Super sore. Did the whole big garage sale thing. unpacked all kinds of shit going on we've got the dates i've got to get uh the stuff up on the website yet but for crazy vegas nights next year the dates are up decided picked whatever crazy summer nights is uh coming up fast still some spots it's selling out again which is awesome with you some spots left but they're going kind of quick, which is awesome. We've got some spots left, but they're going kind of quick. People coming over. We've got some people coming from Illinois and of course Iowa and Nebraska, Missouri, Kansas. I think somebody's coming from one of the Dakotas. Seems like or Minnesota. Something. We've got a pretty good mix, but it should be a great time. Your Wyoming group coming? I haven't heard yet. Don't know. Or Wisconsin. I haven't heard of them either yet. Hopefully. But it should be a good time. So there you go. It's always a good time. You get to run around naked if you want. If you want, yeah. And it's going to be very relaxed, again, because this year is totally... We'll do we'll do the regular stuff. We'll have the meals and we'll have the potluck and we'll have the, we'll provide lunch and breakfast and all that fun shit. And we'll have Cornhole out there and whatever. But for the most part, it is a choose-your-own-adventure all the way through, which is what makes. It's relaxing and that's what it should be. Yeah. So, which, you know, you got to reach out to our DJ. Something you're going to have to do. Use your tits. Use the power of your DJ. Your inner people can't reach out to the DJ. No, you're going to do it. You're going to do it this year. So you'll be able to reach out to them and take care of that for me. So let's watch the music and stuff. So anyway, so that's going on. So I thought it would be interesting because there is a – you know, the challenge of events in the lifestyle is they all start to look the same. I mean, it's like, you know, it's either a hotel takeover or it's a campout or it's a whatever. There's a lot of, like, similarities and you see it, like, with themes, you know, it becomes the same themes over and and over again and granted every group does them a little bit different but it's still there's only so many ways you can make anything you know a glow party or whatever party different uh and and my thing is is that like to me when i did the bowling i think last month what was fun about that was it was different something totally kind of different and and my question so the question you would be first foremost is what what's something you think would be super cool to do and what would you love to see pretend maybe it's not us. It's okay, there's no hidden agenda here. But of something cool that you think would be different or fun to do as a lifestyle thing. Because that's what I want to know. I want to know what people, what's something people want to try? What's something people, how adventurous do people want to get? Because that's always a hard thing of how do you figure that out? You know what I mean? Yeah. And that's interesting. I honestly don't know. It just depends because sometimes I go, you know, it would be neat to get a group of people together to go on a hike. Right, right. You know what I mean? Get a trail, go on a hike. There's a ladybug over there. It's kind of funny. It's on the fan. Oh, okay. It's just crawling. But, you know, to go on a hike or do something that was like a group walk or, you know, something. Now you're thinking like a one night thing or like a, like an overnight thing, like a couple of day thing. No, like even like getting together at a park for like a potluck type of dinner, take excursion, go on a hike and do it as a group and, you know, work together. Not and not necessarily work together because i mean everybody is friendly and talking and all that fun stuff but wouldn't it be interesting to be the one that would flash wouldn't it be interesting to do like you know how you can do there's things you can do like the team building businesses doing you know team building exercises wouldn't it be interesting to do something like that with a group of swingers? It would be interesting. Because, okay, you look at... It would force you to get to know people or to talk to people you wouldn't normally talk to. Yeah, and the thing is there's such a like-mindedness as swingers, right? At least in our group.
Speaker2:
Something bit me on the boot.
Speaker1:
Because it's new and fresh tasty. But, like, it would just be interesting if we worked better together as a unit than, say, a business does, you know? And I think that would be, I always thought that would be kind of interesting to do, to do something like that.
Speaker2:
Haunted house, pumpkin patch party. That'd be fun.
Speaker1:
That would be fun.
Speaker3:
Okay.
Speaker1:
There is something that I think would be a fun thing to do, you know, because everybody loves Halloween, right? It's to do, it's to do a, old-school Halloween party. Like a camp-out-slash-Halloween party. If I hit the lottery, we know I won an acreage, right? I would love to have an acreage and have a Halloween party that was like the barn was the party. You know, you had the punch and the bobbin for apples and the, you know, suck a dick or whatever going on. Suck a dick. And the barn. But then people had, like, you know, a fall campout type thing, too. You know what I mean? Where I think it'd be fun. Maybe you had a bonfire outside, you know, just and people would still be dressed up, but you'd still, it would just be like, it'd almost be high school-esque, but with adult, you know, themes and stuff. So you can make out with a guy at the corner, you know, in the corner of the room? Right. You could make out, if you wanted to go on a fucking, you know, you could join the Hay Rack Club, you know. I mean, well, I mean, think about it. I mean, you know. Okay, true. There's something that would be hot about, so, I know because I know your love language, right, and with being touched and stuff. you can't tell me that it wouldn't be hot if there was a guy or girl that you know chatting with and all of a sudden you could cuddle up under about half naked under a blanket on a fucking riding on the back of a fucking you know on a wagon a hayrack ride wagon naked fucking kind of going at it a little bit through the through the haunted woods type thing. I'm going to laugh here a minute because if you know me so well, around Halloween time, am I going to be half naked anywhere? You would be in that situation because if you could be bundled up, if you could be bundled up, you wouldn't say, I don't know, a girl from Connecticut, for example, could be bundled up and be about naked fucking feeling each other up, making it under a blanket. You'd be all in it. It's funny because the haywreck ride would kill me for my allergies, but it would still be hot. Yeah. Or it could be. Something like that I think would be so much fun. The challenge is coming up with stuff that is... Different. Different. And you want it... Like, to me, the challenge with stuff, it seems like more and more events, and it's kind of why I love Crazy Summer Nights, is that so many events are either like, it's a fuck fest, or it's vanilla. Even Crazy Winter Nights, when you think about Crazy Winter Nights, to a degree, it's like, well, maybe a fuck fest over in your room, but the rest of the time, it's almost like a vanilla type thing, you know? and it hasn't kind of crosses that line obviously there's certain things you can't play
Speaker3:
you can't do that with which is It's almost like a vanilla type thing, you know, and it hasn't kind of crossed that line.
Speaker1:
Obviously, there's certain things you can't, places you can't and can't do that with, which is some of the challenge. You couldn't be in a team building exercise and do it naked unless, although it'd be funny as hell if you run an entire, like, thing like that, got a group and now, like, different clubs compete against each other. But I mean, something fun and different something fun and different like that would be kind of cool. And I don't care. I know another place that you don't think you'd get naked but if it was bundled up right, you'd think it was hot and you would. Where is that? Sleigh ride. If we got the big, where they had the big heavy blanket and the big, like, the animal fur. Yeah, no, let's ride blanket. No, they have, like, you can underneath a buffalo hide, you'll be fine. You'd suck a dick on a sleigh ride out in the snow and shit. You would fuck under that kind of situation, because it would be all fucking, you know, different type stuff. I don't know. It just becomes one of the challenges to have and find it. And you've got to read it because I can't see it. So to find and do things that are, you have to find stuff that anybody can feel comfortable with, right? And to me, there's the biggest challenge. If it's just
Speaker2:
too
Speaker1:
crazy of a fucking heavy section, if you're brand new, that can really freak the fuck out of somebody new or new people that aren't comfortable, right? But if it's too fucking I'll see you next time. heavy section, if you're brand new, that can really freak the fuck out of somebody new or new people that aren't comfortable, right? But if it's too fucking, you know, ruler between us type thing, that's a turn off to the people that have been swingers for a while. And part of the challenge is to find cool events, or to have cool events that reignite old school swingers. Okay. So here's a question for people. First of all, what does that say? An adult warm blanket bonfire seems, I thought, as though it would be really erotic and fun. That would be very cool. Kind of a clay on your cuddling wagon ride. Right, that would be very cool. I won't cuddle because I sweat a lot, so just saying. But, okay, here's a very, I guess the backstory of what generated all this in my mind, why I'd talk about this on the show, is that I was talking to some folks that are newer, and I was reading some stuff on our full swap page and some of the other pages, and I was just kind of reminiscing about the being new in the lifestyle, which, okay, there's a lot of parts of it that we look back and go, oh, I should have thought that through better. But still. Just a few. But still, the fucking, there was a different level of excitement getting ready to go out Friday night. Because, yeah, you were on the prowler. I mean, it was still new. Right. And there was a different thing where you maybe hooked up with somebody you wouldn't have normally hooked up you hooked up and it was like, it was new and it was just that level of like, yeah! And it's like, the problem is and you see people cycling on a lifestyle, right? And it's kind of, some people never leave it. Rock on. I don't think we'll ever leave it. But you see people kind of cycle through and you start to look at a party and you are at a meet and greet. So like Moonshiners. We're going to have a big crowd of Moonshiners. You'll see some of the tables that are absolutely you can tell they're the newer swingers. Or newer to the group, right? Because there are three or four tall tables and four or five people at each table and there's just a different vibe, right? And then you have those that have been in a while. And we're having fun. It's not like everybody's like, well, you're sitting there like, it's gloomy. But it's just not the same. It's not the same vibe. As friends getting together and shooting the shit. Yeah, it's like, well, there's teenagers that are playing and then the adults are in the other room having coffee. Stay at the cards and start playing cards. Right, but we also, any time a song will come on, you know, Wrecking Ball. When Wrecking Ball, if we're in a bar and Wrecking Ball comes on, I can vividly, the sound, the smells, the everything of the dream where we used to go years and years ago, downstairs in that basement, just, I mean, instantly takes me there, right? And it's like, so I'm sort of going, how do you get that level of excitement for those of us midlife swingers type things? Because you can't unknow. Like, you're never going to go back and go, well, there's a great chance I'm going to get the hiv. Don't care. Fuck it. You're never going to re-get, you know what I mean. You're not going to go that. You're not going to, you're not, you reach a point where you're not going to go. You understand that it's okay to say no and you will get laid again some other time so it's hard to you're going to overcome that necessarily i mean you could i want to try i really do because i think i don't know how to do that i mean that's something i i put under a lot like especially for us because that's why i enjoy us when we travel because we don't know people but the challenge is is we're out of practice being super social because we're used to not having to be super social it's kind of go oh well yeah i mean the no one knows who we are we're used to everybody come and talk to us so we kind of like we have to re-really work on we don't have that same confidence that we used to have and that's something we have to work on but there's a more of excitement because you you could just kind of like throw caution to the wind type thing there is there is something to be said for being able to walk out of fucking hookup
Speaker3:
and go
Speaker1:
what in the fuck did we just do holy fuck, alright, well
Speaker2:
we didn't have one of those for a while
Speaker1:
hello Mr. Bricardi, didn't you kick right in
Speaker3:
I don't know. what in the fuck did we just do holy fuck alright well
Speaker2:
we didn't have one of those for a while
Speaker1:
hello Mr. Bricardi didn't you kick right in but it was still fun and it's like I really want to figure out how to recapture something like that because look at some of our friends in the lifestyle like our close inner circle there are some of those people that we have known
Speaker3:
I don't know. like that because look at some of our friends in the lifestyle like our close inner circle
Speaker1:
there are some of those people that we have known since we were all new at the same time we're like we're all part of the same class whatever right but i mean you know there's people that we've known 12 and 14 years you know that we have progressed through going through it and we're all all kind of, it's like how you get that excitement. And I think what I can see happening is that I don't think us midlife Christ people necessarily, it's not that we don't, it's not that we turn off the new swingers or we're like, oh, they're people it's there's just a different vibe and so the water doesn't just flow as much does that make sense I mean you think about it we were newly 40 when we got in yeah yeah newly 40 and we still thought we were old yeah Yeah, because you, well, you had just turned, I was still 39. Yeah, I was still 39. And I think that, like, I think that we, not just us, I think it's easy for those who have been in it for a while. We approach new people, not new people, but the people that are that excited. I think we almost come across as parental, or maybe it's not so much parental, maybe it's more that we come across as I know for me that maybe like I'm trying too hard because it's just it was when we were at that stage it was natural. No. Let's back up. At that age it was drunk and it was easier to do because liquid courage gave you the courage to go up and just start talking to people i had no fear no fear no and some other people i'm like going what the hell i have zero interest because i was sober i would i would go to the bathroom and come back with somebody or i'd come back and i have lipstick smeared on my i miss those days not gonna lie now you now you see it all new lovers of the lifestyle still see sex as something you stumble into like high school teens on a prom night. Whereas experienced lovers know that sex is happening, so they see it as a part of the flow of things, not purpose of the flow of things. Wow, that is said perfectly. It doesn't surprise me. Because he is so well-spoken. With that, how do we reverse that? Not necessarily reverse it, but how do we... That's the challenge. Get back the young lover aspect of it? A little bit. I mean... Do you think that's why some people take breaks? I think I mean think about it, there are some couples that take breaks and you're like, okay I didn't know you ever left But I don't think they come back and I don't think I don't think that comes back when you come back I don't know because you have that scared No but I think some people take a break because of where they're at, like where we're at or where a lot of people are, that the lifestyle has become boring. But you can't... It's like my therapist tells me I can't unknow what I already fucking know. And I will put this out here i will this like if you're thinking about starting a page you're thinking about starting a group this is the one thing i can tell you don't do it because although we love we have 145,000 followers. Love them all. I mean, you know, it's – the lifestyle has been – and that front has been wonderful. It's been wonderful for us. Personally, on a sexual level. It has changed it. Sure change is a good way to put it. Now, if I hook up with somebody, somebody else can get butthurt and go, well... Like, if I hook up with somebody who's new, and I'm saying this because I've hurt it, other people can be like, I've been waiting forever, and then they get butthurt, and I'm a dick. There's other stuff to it still hurting people's feelings we can't bitch too much because all the followers have been made and have given us an incredible I'm able to do this full time as a job we're able to do this full time and we appreciate it but it does take away
Speaker2:
when you put on events you don't get to we don't play at our events
Speaker1:
very rarely Thank you. appreciate it but it does take away when you put on events you don't get to you okay we don't play at our events very rarely because we're there to make sure everything goes off smoothly not to disappear and everybody go wonder where they went well and leading up to events we want to talk to as many people because all these people are our friends and people that support us and so if i get and i'm notorious for getting zooming in if i get zoomed in then it's like i'm being rude people and so it's not the case so i just say again we're not back we're very fortunate we are very lucky and we created that i created this monster but if you about doing that, don't do it. There's something to be said to always get to be able to just enjoy being part of it. Because now the struggle, just like what we're talking about, is very real. When you think about this, and this isn't being arrogant, but it's true. When we go to our events, or we go to events regional, and it's starting to get when we go to adult porn stuff nationally, people know we have friends. People know who we are, whatever. They know who we are, what we do, whatever. And quite honestly, I could go to most events, go stand in a corner, and never leave that corner. And people will come up to me to say hi to me because they know me or they whatever. And so in turn, communication and flirting and all that stuff is practice. We haven't had to do that for a long time. So when we go to another event, like if we go to somebody else's lifestyle party outside the region it's really funny because we kind of cling to each other at that point in time because we don't know each other and we're out of practice with it and then the other challenge that we have is it has been oh boy i'm gonna, guess, I'm probably off on this. I'm going to guess at least six years since we played as a couple with another couple. And that may be a little bit short of what it's actually been. Maybe a little bit short because we were already playing alone when you got cancer. We were. And that was five years ago. Five almost, six years ago. So it's been longer. I'll bet it's probably been closer to seven years. Probably only by a couple of years. But the thing with that is, the reason I bring that up is, here's the other thing that I say on this topic is, if you're a couple that have started to play alone, you know, still go back and touch on that route. Because for us now, part of the reason we went more and more to playing alone is that, one, it just, as you became more more experienced the ones i was into was different than who you went to and and so was part of it part of it was sometimes you weren't feeling or sometimes i wasn't feeling it and part of it was i felt like you always said you you were always very good about watching and make sure things were going right because i was having so many issues for me and then i always felt bad let's face it we didn't know that it could have been the whole testicular cancer thing yeah we didn't know but in turn then i always felt bad because i always felt like you weren't getting to have the full experience because you were busy watching out what was going on with me and i was trying to keep an eye on to make sure everything are with you and then as we started going along we got in our head because that's all that is we got in our head and then we started to get you throw all that in our head and we had a couple experiences where one of us was getting having incredible sex and the other one sitting there with with their person going, are we done yet? Because we had the one where I can't get up and you're getting railed and we had one where the guy couldn't handle it because I'm railing his wife and got him one of them seriously and put his clothes on and came back down serious.
Speaker2:
Oh, I forgot about that. I was thinking about the guy that kept spitting on his hand.
Speaker1:
And so the thing is the challenge with it is is that we we're out of practice with that. You know, like big time now. So if you do those things, there's something to be said to go back because the nerves and the spark by the same token, honestly, it would be very, it would almost be for us to to fuck in the same room i i like we literally need to go have some threesomes first to work our way back it would be bizarre but i think it would work out if it'd be fun if it was like a orgy setting i think it'd be fun and then the other challenge because of the stuff we do testing is such a huge thing to us now because it has to be. Do you want to read that? Holy shnikes. Ow. I have never been monogamous. I was saying the N first. I have, however, practiced the behavior of monogamy. In this way, souls who are living in the lifestyle are always open even when when they are not practicing it, if they are truly open lovers. To return to what is Midsummer's Eve experience of sexual pleasure, we must first believe we should have it within ourselves. Otherwise, you will be victimized by internal vanilla and habits hijacking your liberated flow of joy and experience. I've found my replacement. I'm just saying. No, because that's exactly, that's, yes. Ta-da. I mean, man. Can you follow that? And I think part of what that is saying, too, as well, and I think that plays a huge part of it, is it's not so much, and I think swingers especially went into a while, we rely more on events to create the environment that we need to be creating in our own minds, which is what Carnell is saying. It starts here, but it's easy to start relying upon the event to to promote it to happen but it doesn't matter what the event is if mentally we're not allowing ourselves to be there and go there like okay i'll give you a perfect example of this and for me crazy Nights absolutely makes sense. Why you and I don't play or play very rarely Crazy Winter Nights. Because we're running around the heads of them? No, we have people that help with that. But because it is a different time where people are wanting to see us and we need to. There's people coming in from all over the country and there's just parts of it that go with it. Crazy Summer Nights. You fucked at Crazy Summer Nights. You fucked at the last... Uh... No. Last two? Last three? Three. No. I'm 52. You don't say. I I am I'm going to turn 53 right before this one you fucked with the one where I turned 52 yes that was yes remember that that was in was in New York. You fucked with the one I turned 51. Yep.
Speaker2:
That was on the picnic table in the rain.
Speaker1:
Oh, I forgot about the rain.
Speaker2:
You fucked with the one I turned... I was thinking about the one where I started sucking his dick in the grass, and then we went that way, and you went that way.
Speaker3:
Yep.
Speaker1:
That was on my 50th, and you actually fucked twice at that way. Yep. That was on my 50th. And you actually fucked twice at that one.
Speaker3:
Okay.
Speaker1:
You fucked once at my 50th and you fucked once at your birthday that year as well.
Speaker2:
At that one. Well, God, I have.
Speaker1:
You kind of are, you fucking slutty little bit. Okay. But I have allowed myself to get the value of Crazy Summer Nights is I'm not needed. So in turn, but I still in my own head, well, I need stuff and we got to get stuff done. That's one of the goals with this year's one is that we're not doing the Girl Melee. It is a choose-your-own-fucking-adventure all the way through. And part of that is because there's no reason to be having to run around like that much. Right? There just isn't. So part of that is allowing myself, giving myself permission to play. Giving myself permission if the opportunity presents itself. I don't do well with pre-planning. That's just not me. I don't. Anytime I've ever tried to... You get in your head. Anytime I've tried to set shit up, it's just like... Not completely. Or I don't. Anytime I've ever tried to. Huh? You get in your head. Well, anytime I've tried to set shit up, it's just like, yeah, something goes. I either get in my head. Not completely. If I'm gone. Yeah, but even. Yeah. He has his girls that call him up saying, and it's gone. No, but at an event, it's different because it's like, you know, okay, as soon as you get driving, as soon as you get there, we're going to go, fuck, that never happens. No, it never happens. And then what happens is it just does everything for mix right off the bat it's like whatever but allowing myself to have permission i think that that's ultimately when when we talk about how do we generate how do we bring that excitement back for the more experienced swingers is we have to mentally allow ourselves to maybe we have to mentally allow ourselves to be on the prowl i think it's just us no it's not it's not just us and i'll tell you why i know it because again you can watch the separation at events you you can see it you can see and the thing it's not that either side is not welcoming to the other it's that either side doesn't feel as comfortable with the other. Because the new people look at all the less and go, well, they know what they're doing. I don't know what I'm doing yet. I'm so new, but they know what they're doing. So it's kind of like, I don't want to fuck shit up. I don't know. They know what's going on. I don't know. Let's stick with our kind of doesn't know what the fuck's going on. It's like the girl melee. There's some people that won't participate in it because, they don't have a lot of experience right and that just is so it's like need experience maybe part of it is seriously and i know some people will lose their mind of this allowing yourself to go on the prowl again yeah you know i mean literally allowing that mindset to come in. Because it's not so much an aggressive meaning. It's just. And don't think you're out of somebody's league. And there becomes the other challenge. Is that I think for especially for experience. Some of them might have a Santa fetish. Well, look, I will fully 110% take complete ownership of the fact that 95% of the girls that I do not fuck, or 95% of the girls that I do not even approach to fuck are 100% because of myself. or i i i instantly that's why I've always used if I can make people laugh, you know. If I can make you laugh, I can show you a fucking car. If I can make you laugh, I can get your pants. Right? But it's so cheesy and so self I'm trying to think of the word all of a sudden uh i just so so negative self you know that the instead of just making a joke where it's a little bit of dick at myself it's like such a hardcore fucking hi i'm an idiot type thing that i set myself up to fail because the difference is is that at 53 basically at this point in time at 52 53 years old my own self-doubt so when i went at 39 i didn't have a lot of those yet you know i was starting to but i didn't have a lot of those yet so how long have we been doing crazy summer nightsights? This will be, because remember, we did two years there where we did two each year. This is like, this is our ninth.
Speaker3:
Nineteen?
Speaker1:
No, this is our tenth. This is our tenth Crazy Summer Nights, I do believe.
Speaker2:
And the first, no. No, we haven't even had that many KWNs.
Speaker1:
Right, and we go through this every fucking time.
Speaker2:
We did three years that we did two a year. I don't know.
Speaker1:
I don't know.
Speaker2:
I don't know. I don't know.
Speaker1:
I don't know. I don't know.
Speaker2:
I don't know.
Speaker1:
I don't know.
Speaker2:
I don't know.
Speaker1:
I don't know. I don't know. I don years that we did two a year oh i don't count the two it well you do because that's how many we've done trust me i know i put the work into getting all these fucking spots sold so yeah no we've done them we've done this is like our ninth or tenth our tenth kwin i was let down by a young guy at the first one oh yeah you were weren't you yeah so how many times have i approached a younger guy and since then yeah not very granted okay so a lot of the porn guys are like way young so at least the one that keeps coming back for more is only, like, 33. You have more than just one that wants to come back for more, but just saying. It's amazing because, yes, now at this point in time, I will tell you, oh, well, yeah, she absolutely has no interest in fucking me. I don't know if it's true or not, but in my mind, I'm like, yeah, there's no way. Yeah, and you're full of shit because you don't see half of it. Right. And it's part of the, it's a very real struggle. So that's how I know. And I think a lot of us go through that. I can honestly say, I told you this the other night, that, you know, like, you and my therapist, the mindfuck of it is, is for, you know, you have really worked hard to get to the size you wanted to get to and with the new boobs now. And that my own mindfuck is that, like, I'm getting left behind. Not that you're not – it's a separation because, well, you look really good and I really don't. So – and I think we do those things to ourselves as we get older. We know more. We let that kind of stuff get to us more. We start to – I love fucking younger girls. Absolutely. Absolutely love them. But most 20-somethings, I'm not going to approach most, I'm not, I'll approach anybody. I'll approach any 20-something, happily to talk to them, chat with them, whatever, make them him laugh but with the actual mindset that I stand a snowball's chance in hell no, absolutely not and I know that that's a me problem you know, and so
Speaker2:
yeah, there are girls that have daddy issues
Speaker1:
right, right, and you'd like to have someone fuck them just so you weren't just making up for their disappointment, but, or grandfather daddy issues, grandpa issues, whatever it works out but I mean, it's just a it's just a mindset, I think that's I've said for years and years and years you've heard me say this all the time i would love to go back to uh for me one week in college back when i used the way i used to look when my hair was longer than this but super but but it was way thicker than this yes my hair was longer than this, but it was way thicker than this. It was thicker, yes. My hair was thicker. My middle was not as thick. Ah! My middle was fireworks. It's all right. Fireworks blow. Like a dog. My middle was not as thick. Because, you know, it's legal in Lincoln. If I would love to go back and I would only want to do it for one week, but knowing what I know now, because if I could look like that and know what I know now, I would fuck my dick off. Within one week, it would be worn to a nub. So it's like that's why now it's like how do we get there? And I know that a lot of guys and girls feel that way, you know. And I think if we could figure out how to break the cycle to not be sitting around and playing cards, you know, while the young kids are fucking, we're playing quarters type, you know, type shit. How do we get there? You know, how much more fun how much can you imagine one of our events take all of our
Speaker3:
really good friends
Speaker1:
in a really long time in this all the new people on that level of excitement and all of our us and our friends from that time frame have that same level of excitement can you imagine how much how crazy fun that could be
Speaker2:
yeah
Speaker1:
cause let's face it Thank you. how crazy fun that could be yeah because let's face it we haven't had and i think a lot of people that have been in the lifestyle a long time when you're new in the lifestyle at some point in time you have way more than you think the night that just like you don't know where this motherfuckers going and I don't know
Speaker3:
what's going on I don't know what's going on I don't know
Speaker1:
what's going on
Speaker3:
I don't know what's going on I don't know what's going on I don't know
Speaker1:
what's going on
Speaker3:
I don't know what's going on I don't know what's going on
Speaker1:
I don't know
Speaker4:
what's going on
Speaker3:
I don't know
Speaker2:
what's going on
Speaker3:
I don't know
Speaker1:
what's going on I don't know what's going on
Speaker3:
I don't know
Speaker1:
what's going on I don't know I don't that just, like, you don't know where this motherfucker's going. And when you're rolling home and the sun's popping up in the morning, you just go, oh, holy shit. Wow. It's been a long time since I've had one. I mean, we had a night that didn't, ended up in with some oral sex. Didn't end up with fucking. That was just, like, a crazy night at a dude's house in the hot tub because you got out to go pee. And there were some other people that he didn't know were in his house. Remember that? The one where he said hi to the neighbors and they're walking out. Beautiful Sunday morning. And we're like stumbling to our car and they're out for morning wine. Ish, yeah. It's a great morning. And those nights to have I I would trade a lot. I would trade a lot to have another one of those. So Cole needs a house party. No, it's not just another one of those. So Colney's a house party. No, it's not just another one of those nights where it's like all of a sudden you feel it's starting to go off the rails and you just know this is either going to be fucking horrible or it's going to be epic. There's no middle, there's no going to be like horrible or it's going to be epic. There's no middle. There's no going to be like, well, I guess it's okay. No, you're going off a cliff. One side's fucked. One side's fucking A, but you're going off a cliff. You can't plan that night. If you try to set up to make that night happen, it doesn't work. But like Carnell was saying, you have to give yourself permission to have that night. You have to shut off all the safety valves. You have to go.
Speaker3:
You can't worry about the point of shoot that's coming up. You can't worry about hurting somebody's feelings. You can't worry about, you know, what the haters are. You can't worry about anything.
Speaker1:
You just go. And wherever it fucking implodes and lands, that's the shit. And you just know that that's the fucking one that you will sit there and look at in six years from now and still remember that moment in time and laugh your ass off at this insanity of it all. He typed another one, didn't he? Damn straight he did. Telling you. We're going to just put him on speakerphone just fucking saying he went to a key party some years ago he still has he still goes to key parties i have heard this that's awesome um where upon entry we were blessed with a 30 minute nude massage covered in myr oil and other sensual products which relaxed everyone allowed for the fear of revealing to be washed away. The power and passion of the intimacy was spectacular. You know what my fear is with my fucking luck? I'd be getting a massage and I'd fall asleep. You would fall asleep. I'd be like, oh, and I'd be around with them. I had a great night. I slept awesome. Everybody else was all fuck stupid. Not unless they teased you to keep you awake. That's something. I'm sure. I'm just saying that looks not like fun. I don't know. It's just something. It's something that this is. We talk about this shit that other people don't talk about because I know there's a million people that are going to listen to the show but I know the people that are going to listen to the show that know exactly what I'm talking about whether they're newer and they've seen the older people or they're starting to feel slowly that transition is starting to happen. Some new people might listen going, that'll never happen. It will. Or some people like us going, wow, that really is us. And I don't know, hopefully we can find that way to fucking I don't know.
Speaker2:
I don't know. I don't know.
Speaker1:
I don't know. I don really is us, you know, and I don't know. Hopefully we can find that way to fucking to just let it to let it fly. You know, my biggest concern, why I don't push harder for it, though, is I know that if you try to manufacture it, you can fake it to yourself until the next morning. Yeah. And then the next one you go, well, that was manufactured as fuck. So it's like, it's really just like, you know. You're in the spur of the moment type of person. Yeah, it's just working on it. But so, I don't know. Interesting food for thought. Whatever. A great show. You just said it and said your fucking word. Awesome. Good job. I talked. You did talk. You talked a little bit. I was proud of you. We should have put speakers in there.
Speaker3:
And I could sit quietly with the microphone.
Speaker1:
I wouldn't like your boobs were talking.
Speaker3:
What do you think, Lefty?
Speaker1:
I agree.
Speaker3:
We got a name. We're still doing the contest.
Speaker1:
Name Amanda's tits.
Speaker3:
Okay. Oh, is that a thing? It is.
Speaker1:
Winner gets her name tattooed over her boob. I don't know. Did I tell you that I made it a one of those Oh, God. You used to shake them up. You draw a little etch-a-sketch. Your tits are actually etch-a-skets. So the thing is, we can write them and we just shake you and it'll go blank again. I didn't tell you I put that in. Right. There's also a squeaker, but we'll get to that next week. So, just, you know, saying. All right, on that note, time for Cole to go. Gotta go, everybody. Hey, so we're gonna be home for this whole fucking... Well, I'm gonna be home for the whole month. It seems as if I'm home for this whole month and I'm home for September. That's weird. Anyways, who knew? Oh, you can do hookups longer. Duh. And feed the dogs. All right, so. Ow. I didn't touch it. Hands are up here. That was my knee. It popped. All right. Another shout out to shout out to our sponsors, ASN Lifestyle Magazine.com. Check them out. Don't forget their award show, ASN Magazine Lifestyle Awards.com. Vote for us if it says Crazy Winter Nights, Miss Amanda, or Crazy Casbah or Casbah Studios. Vote for us. Vote for five awards, and the voting ends July 13th. It's so fun as many times as you do that. Yes, once a day, every day kids, we need your votes. Change your VPN. Vote some more. Whatever you gotta do, we need your help. Also, smoking meat motorbunny.com Don't test your vagina to just anybody a quality name and a quality product whether it's the original or the new buck motorbunny.com and finally, used to be Basis DX is now Pro 13 for all your testing needs which we use for our adult porn testing we have to do as well as in the lifestyle. No more excuses make safety a priority for you and everybody in your life and the lifestyle. Again, check out our show notes. You'll be able to find the links to all of our sponsors. Don't forget to follow Miss Amanda on her. Mike, that's me. On all of her things. On all of her things. Yeah, you can go to chasmastudios.com, missamanda.net, xxxsanta.com, savoriesunflower.net, MrLMeat.com, and Honeybee.net. Check us all out. She got all that stuff. So, doing it the only way I know how, the only way I want to, and the only way I ever fucking will. Kazma Style, out.
