Krazy Truth about Swinging #297 Follow through is everything!

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Speaker1: Hey kids, the program you're about to listen to contains some adult situations, adult language, themes, and other adult topics. If you're easily offended, this show's not for you. Hey you crazy motherfuckers, welcome back to another edition of Crazy Truth About Swinging. I'm your host with the most in liberty, Cole, and I'm here with the lovely, lovely, and sort of stuck, Miss Amanda.
Speaker2: Hey.
Speaker3: We're here to- I don't know.
Speaker1: You were a few minutes ago. Off the air, she was stuck. Her necklace was stuck.
Speaker2: Her necklace was stuck.
Speaker1: Earlier today, she got stuck. It was all kind of weird. Anyways, so we're here to tan-late-tilly-at-late and otherwise yammer at you about stuff that, I don't know, know. We think it's important. Let me get a drink here. This is the big pre-fucking Exotica show. We're getting ready to leave in a couple weeks. So when this show comes out, when it's released, we'll be on the road. We'll be driving. We'll be driving all night ahead to Chicago. You'll have to release it beforehand, though. Yeah. Yeah, like I'll release it and then we'll leave. Okay. Like right after I leave. So when people are starting to realize it's out, we'll be like on the road to Chicago, hammering through the night to our destination of desire and depravity. It'll be awesome. Anyways, so for those of you following along at home, this is episode 297 holy shit we are so so close to 300 you can sense it's electric here in the studio tonight you can tell um god anyways so yeah so we're pretty jazzed uh shout out to our sponsors why we have them would. Would you like to do it? No, no, wait, you need to rest. We've got a long show, baby. First and foremost, if you want to know what's going on in the adult world as well as the lifestyle, you know where you go. I do. She does, too. She falls asleep to it daily. ASNLifestyleMagazine.com. Don't forget to check them out. Three million readers can't be wrong. And remember, right now, currently, as we speak, you go to ASN Lifestyle Magazine Awards. You can vote once every day in April. And you can vote for us to get some more hardware, like we have on our shelves behind us here in the studio, for Best Expo Convention and Trade Show. That would be Crazy Winter Nights. Well, it's the Best Adult Takeover, which would be Crazy Winter Nights. We've got some good friends up for some other things as well. Did you do Adult Takeover? Yep. The Juicy Debauchery. Been saying it for a couple weeks. It's all right. It's only a dream, Jimmy. We've been to the Juicy Debauchery for Best New Business less than a year and for a fun podcast. Our podcast is fun. Fun Pineapple. But nobody likes us. So we don't really, for the 10 people listening to us, don't forget to vote for the Fun Pineapple for our best podcast. You have more people listening right now than 10. They're not going to be listening. Their computer's up. There's a difference. Are you listening? A lot of people don't have laptops anymore. Are you listening? Kind of. See, there we go. And you're sitting in the same fucking room with me and I can even prove I can even know I can even prove that fact when you went you did the adult takeover yup we actually made that motherfucker all the way through the first round of voting to get there surprise anyways so uh yeah here we go uh so check it out also don't trust your favorite pussy to just anybody when it comes to sex toys you don't want that clit damage you don't want a broken clit you a broken clit oh go to quality names top quality toys at all time motorbunny.com a name you know and can trust in the lifestyle let your click get off with only the best motorbunny.com and finally don't eat bland meat that's the rule of the world uh you now you don't have to because you go to smoking meats bbq treats.com and get your extraordinarily delicious favorite flavor of meat rub or get them all hickory dust lemon pepper sb, SBG, Orange Mango, Habanero, Pineapple Paradise, and Sinecue. Sinecue, and coming very soon, they have our very own special blend of, it's Kazma's special blend, Meat Rub as well. So you can go to their website, which is S-M-O-K-I-N-M-E-A-T-S, B-B-Q-T-R-E-A-T-S.com. Use Casper 15. Get a 15% discount today. All right, so. My hair looks like shit. It's a good thing it's a podcast. And away the show goes. And off the rails, you know, it looks lovely. I've seen your hair in all different states today. I saw it in the morning before you did anything with it. I saw it after when you were mid-process and you were talking to me and putting it up in pins and straightened parts at a time. I saw it when I was fucking you from behind and it was bouncing around and it made you look up like you had a dick in your mouth at the same time because that was getting me off. I saw it with your head down and on the back when I saw it after we had sex as well. What the fuck? Just saying. What? Well, okay. Well, what part of that statement was false or incorrect? None of it. But the thing is, is that my hair probably didn't look a whole lot different. It did to me because I saw some other fucking person's hand on the back of it fucking putting a dick in your mouth. So it's amazing what I saw your imagination is something you know what i got the most out of sesame street i'm not gonna lie you would i got the most out of sesame street imaginary friends imaginary you know like the whole thing the secret finger you know where where kermit could draw with the magic finger imagination learn to use your mind i didn't watch sesame street well you should have because you know you would have seen you dig in your mouth earlier today just saying so leave me alone if it gets i just paid a whole bunch of money to be tested and and just because i wanted to have my butt swabbed and my fucking throat swabbed and stabbed she was gentle on throat swabbing okay she didn't make me cry like the doctor's office which is really great i still gagged aged a little bit. The thing is, it's important that you get tested because we're going to a place where testing is important. It's not as important that I get tested. Well, it's important everywhere. Do you know why it's important for me to get tested? Seriously? Why? So that I can fuck you between now and the end of Exotica. Otherwise, I can't. That's why. So basically, I paid $300 to fuck my wife.
Speaker2: Wow.
Speaker3: Seems as if... How come I'm not getting any of that?
Speaker1: You are. You got my dick.
Speaker3: What about butt swabbing?
Speaker1: You got my dick. I paid them fucking you.
Speaker3: No, but I want part of the $300.
Speaker1: We'll talk to talent testing, you bitch.
Speaker2: Oh, wow.
Speaker1: I'll leave it on the night. Does that mean I need to charge you $300 every time? Did I not drive your ass today to Omaha to pick up a box of clothes? Will you not benefit from it? Not as much as you will. My imagination is good, yes, but maybe. I'll benefit, but you'll benefit more. Did I not entertain you on the way to Omaha? Did I not make you laugh, crack jokes about today? Was I not a good clown? Crack weird jokes about today. Did I not go with you to the store? Did we not shop and spend quality time together? That was on the way home. Right, but did we not do other stuff together, Dave? Why are we being this way? We're not. Really? To my reflection, that's horrible. Really? You sure? It's like you spend every day with me. I do, and one of the two of us enjoys it. Apparently, I'm the only one of the two of us. Thank God one of us does. Anyways, smart ass, you have to do the butt butt swab yourself they don't do the butt swab for you yeah you have to do this but the throat swab they do for you which is good because i would just spit on and lie and say that uh no i wouldn't because that's wrong you know you don't fuck around the testing shit that's that's legit but anyway so yeah i took you out and took you so you can see that i took you in an area where it's supposed to be a better eclipse. I can't help it. It was 300 miles away from where we're at. I tried. I did all I could do. We were close, sir. It was a self-swabbing situation. I did the best I could. Yeah, the self-testing. Yeah, the testing sucks. And you're going to be doing it like three more times this month. So, hey, you. You're going to be fucking, you're going to be a swabbed up mess. You're going to be a pirate. Arr, matey. How? Because you'll be swabbing stuff, like swabbed the decks. Just saying, thank you very much. I'll be here all week long. I'm in rare fucking form because of what we're going to talk about today quite possibly have have at it why is it i always have to have at it because i don't remember what it was i said we need to talk about this i kind of do oh i do okay i almost feel like we do this show twice once when you and i talk about it and then then we do it again live and both times only one of us know what the show's about. Blame it on being old. Fuck. I'll wait until you're done. Go ahead. Okay. You good? I don't want you to miss any of this. It's your first time hearing this. Okay. Okay. So 4 o'clock this morning, Cole gets up to pee. He comes back. I'm like, shit, I have to go to the bathroom. Now, wait a minute. At 4 o'clock this morning, when I get up to pee, I contemplated for a half hour before I went in fear that it would wake the dog up. And here's the other point of this about who's tired of her. I went to bed at 2.30. That's his schedule, not mine. I can't stay up that late. So, I went to bed at 2.30 because I was stuff so i went to bed at well i know it was about two so i went about at two i had to pee at four at 3 30 sit there and then snuck to the bathroom snuck back nobody waking up i woke up at like four and i'm like no you're gonna hold it shit and then the dog starts whining as soon as i go to the bathroom because i'm the one that lets him out every morning so of course he was like and what did your loving husband say and do i'll take care of him i'll take care of it but then there was a bunch of racket outside i'm like what the fuck is that well no and i did i went out with them and whatever there was like animals fighting in the front of the house, an animal was getting killed, and they weren't mating. The animal got got. It was getting eaten. But I thought it was raccoons in the attic, so I don't know. One of our dogs, he's a 25-pound walking snack, so we have to watch that. And then the other ones, you know, so, yeah. But then you took a little, you didn't take much of a nap, but you went in to lay down at one point in time. I did. So, yeah, so now we're even because I took a nap before the show. There you go. I'm still fucking tired, but I'll also be up until 2 o'clock in the morning again. But I'm always tired. You are. You're not always old. I'll do that show with wrinkles. Okay.
Speaker2: Anyways, all right.
Speaker3: Wow.
Speaker2: So what we want to talk about today, let's get back on.
Speaker1: Let's have a show where we actually stay focused, shall we? Probably not, but it sounds like a lot of fun.
Speaker2: You're getting made fun of for your grammar. Huh? You're getting made fun of for your grammar. I know.
Speaker1: Wait until I start saying orange. Because tired isn't a word. It is more tired.
Speaker2: Yes.
Speaker1: I'm trying to know. I'm trying to know.
Speaker2: I don't.
Speaker1: I want. It's so bad. I want to make a smartest comment, but I'm not going to.
Speaker3: Please refrain. Why are we doing this?
Speaker2: The bar. Southern. Northern. Southern.
Speaker3: Anyways. just saying. Because I love you. I'll wear my hat. Okay, don't fucking be that way, bitchy. Okay, so. No, I'm just. So, I am not country. I'm an Omaha boy all the way through. So, okay. So, we talk about. What the fuck was that what what are we doing we talked about the need to practice eye rolling in public yeah yeah apparently i have a really bad well we both do when when enough stupid hits us so the thing that one thing what we're going to talk about and this is like you hear about this all the fucking time you see this all the fucking time and and the show is that we're touching on the concept because it's all different levels and and things in in the the lifestyle that happens and we're talking about the concept basically of of this absolutely asinine annoying fucking over- over-promised, under-delivered bullshit, right, that runs rampant in the lifestyle. And here's the thing. Folks, this is something that applies. It doesn't matter if you attend a lifestyle thing once every fucking seven years, if you are out every weekend, if you put on a fence, if you, it doesn't matter, it doesn't matter, it's all the way across the fucking board, and it's this basic fucking concept of when your mouth flaps, when your cock holster goes, blah, what comes out of it, you now own and have a responsibility to fucking, like, follow through, remember it, do something with it, whatever the case may be.
Speaker2: Right?
Speaker1: Mm-hmm.
Speaker2: There is nothing more frustrating.
Speaker1: It doesn't matter. It doesn't matter if it's about you're going to meet somebody somewhere, right? You're setting up to do, we see it all the time, people talking about getting ghosted. Simple kind of, you know, people, literally, I went to a bar or a restaurant, wherever they were supposed to meet somebody, and got ghosted. And then the person has a million-one excuses if they even contact back with them, right? Or whether you're supposed to meet somebody at an event. The plan is to meet at an event. Maybe it's to go to dinner before the event starts. Maybe it's to meet up to meet each other, whatever the case may be, and then people don't follow through. It's about attending events. One of the most frustrating things when you are an event planner is everybody can't click the going button fast enough on Facebook for an event. And it's the reason we collect money ahead of time, part of it, because it's like you can't plan for anything because it's like in real life. People deal with this in real life as well because, you know, people don't RSVP or they RSVP and they don't follow through. And it's just like, folks, accountability. I always err in the caution of RSVP because if they need to order food, but if I can't go, then that's like a wedding or something. But you'll follow up and let them know. Look, here's the part of the lifestyle. We preach this concept in the lifestyle. We preach communication. And look, this is, as we are living this, this is not just something that's in the lifestyle side, the swinger side of it. It's on the adult side of it of it as well right this concept we preach communication and we say you have to have honest communication nobody likes making a mistake and getting called out it sucks we all that blows it's it blows, it's, it's, right? I have to go, hey, I fucked that up, right? Nobody likes that. We get that. And that's okay. But it goes a long ways in, in the honesty factor. If you can just be honest and say, hey, I fucked this up versus excuses that human nature is to try to throw excuses and how is it okay so if if you were supposed to meet somebody you had set up you've been chatting online with somebody or another couple and you're supposed to meet that couple and either you forgot or you changed your mind there's a lot of value for you and your reputation to say if if you forgot an absolute act to reach out and go, I screwed up. I'm sorry. I totally dropped the ball. I forgot. Stop. Not, I forgot, but, and then try to justify the reasons why you forgot. Leave it at the honest reality of, I made a mistake. That it really is believe it or not the person or the other may be upset or the other couple might be upset that you forgot but they're going to be less upset than if you insult them by trying to bullshit your way out of the situation versus just owning up or if you made you change your mind hey we decided not to we should have contacted you one obviously someone that comes up reach out you know communication again communication it's like a message we preached over the last seven years communication but still just be honest here's the deal you know what we got cold feet when you're new in lifestyle, that happens. You're supposed to do something, and you're excited, but you're nervous. And then when it gets right to the point, that magic moment of walking out the door, fear, uneasiness, uncertainty gets the best of you, and that's okay. Gut feeling. I told one guy, I'm like, I just don't have – it's just my gut feeling is like no this is not the night and there and and there goes the reputation that you get from that yes anytime somebody else is looking forward to something and they're let down they're going to be disappointed and we all know a lot of people will respond when they're hurt or disappointed maybe kind of snide kind of mean back right but i'm telling you when you can be honest and and say that and and be honest about what happened or why what they can't say is that oh my god they they fucked me over and they thought i was an idiot yeah here's the other reason why this is so huge, why your reputation is so huge with this. Some people, even when you're honest with them, are so upset or maybe just don't have the same social skills and values and norms that you do that they're going to try to bash you to other people. Oh, yeah, they were such a dick. They just did this. I'm sure sure they're lying if people know your reputation know that you are a stand-up person stand-up guy stand-up girl stand-up couple they're going to look at that situation and they're going to look at your past reputation and make their determination on what who they believe and what they believe and that can make a huge difference on how far does this, how far does the rumor mill, drama mill go? Because, let's see, one guy was going to hook up. And he was like, you know, work was really hard and I'm just totally drained. You know, can we schedule for a different time that's fine i can appreciate that we all have rough days at work it it happens we have rough days in life except this girl came over for me to help her with something and then she goes yeah i just hooked up with so and so and i'm like oh really yeah yeah so he turned me down to go hook up with you. I don't care. That just tells me a lot about him, and he never had a chance after that. Right. And there's a silver lining. But the other thing was is anytime you heard stuff about him, you didn't continue rumors, whatever, but anytime you heard anything. No, it stopped with me. It's just like, no, okay. But it didn't surprise you. it didn't surprise you it is it is amazing how can we expect our communication to be right and solid with a couple or with an individual or within ourselves if if when we're wrong we lie we lie cheat steal we hide. try to give excuses whatever your value as a person your value as a couple your value in real world as well as the lifestyle community is based upon your reputation and your reputation is made or demolished based upon honesty and that overall concept of who you are. It's such a big factor in determining what you're about.
Speaker3: But if someone asked you about your opinion of him and they don't know your history with him would you tell them no no because you know there was one time i was at a bar and this girl goes you know i'm gonna hook up with so and so i said that's awesome the next week she goes oh my god why didn't you tell me tell you what oh my gosh this dirty talk it was so horrible i said you might like it i didn't but you might like it so i'm not gonna yuck it and that's something for you to find out on your own now here's one thing though with i will say with that if someone specifically asked me because i get asked do you know of anything should i be concerned? there anything should i be concerned about whatever the case may be this goes here goes back to that long way this example i'm never going to share details because that's that's speaking unless it happens specifically to me right but i have no problem telling someone i have heard some things that
Speaker1: would have me it would be something i would look into and i really consider i would think it through or i've heard some negative things i haven't personally experienced but i've heard negative things yeah i won't show further than that if you specifically ask me i'm not going to tell you specific examples because that doesn't if i wasn't there that doesn't involve okay she's See you next time. I won't show further than that if you specifically ask me. I'm not going to tell you specific examples because if I wasn't there, that doesn't involve. Okay, she says being stood up is different than sex. Yes. Agreed. But just because he didn't show up for me doesn't mean he isn't going to show up for somebody else. Now, if they're perpetual, if you've tried a couple of times. True. And at some point in time in there, let's face you've tried a couple of times and and at some point in time in there let's face it if if a couple of times each time it's something came up every single time at that point in time there's going to be a thing of okay well then we need to stop and you let me know when you actually have a clear state i'm not going to schedule anything with you again because obviously obviously you're too busy. I think that there again, if the honesty factor is there, it can make such a difference on how the perception is. You know, we all should give people somewhat leeway. Shit does happen. People can be late. People can be whatever. and I'll even give a little leeway in the fact that when you're either hooking up with or meeting up with an individual like you're singles meet up or other couples you don't want to have you know ruined your chance right something stupid happened you got cold feet and you don't want to say that and never have a chance with them again. I get that. But honest communication, explaining how you feel and why, I think the point I'm trying to make is people make so many stupid excuses. And the thing is, is folks, when we make an excuse to someone, when we're not us, when we go, well, you know, that lost my finger in a farming accident, you know, whatever. If you say something stupid, you make up some stupid excuse, guess what? Most most of the time people can see right through that people can see right through that and that's shitty okay now just what i've had to cancel last minute person thought i was lying okay and with that and jessica makes a great point with that we can't control we can't control how people perceive us but as long as you were honest jessica at that point in time well there are some people that are just fuck fuck what's well the thing is is that if you if you tell them and they don't believe you can go you can either believe me or not and then if they still don't believe you did you really want to hook up with them anyway it becomes a blessing in disguise yeah now so take it up out of just the personal the personal level here here's a unique part of the lifestyle that i think where this also ties more and more into in the lifestyle it's it's a known thing how people are so, or many times are very helpful with each other, right? There's a certain, there's a different level of trust we have in the lifestyle with each other than we have outside in the rest of the world. It is so easy, and this is something I've had all the time. I say it, and trust me, I've been burned by it a million times. I'm not even thinking. Somebody says something to me, and I will agree to all kinds of shit. Because I'm being nice, I'm in the moment, whatever. When the time comes and they want to collect, I'm faced with a choice. You either pay that debt, you own it. You may hate it, but you own it, or you don't. And you can either be honest about it and say, fuck no, I was stupid, I really didn't mean it to begin with, or you can ditch people. The reality of it is, in the car business, we had a huge saying, when you negotiated a car deal, whatever comes out of your mouth, you own. So when you're negotiating numbers, if the car is priced $10,000 and you say, if I could do it for $9,000, would you? Guess what? You can't go up from $9,000. You own $9,000. They go, how about $8,000? You go, how about $8,100? You can't go back to $9,000. You own it. When shit comes out of of our pie hole we own it we have a responsibility so if you tell somebody i'm going to help you hey you're at you're at the bar you're unemployed now this is not officially but sort of you're unemployed in a roundabout way if someone says to you you're talking at your moonshine or friday night, I'm like, you know what? I'm going to shoot you an email. I'm going to send you my HR director's email for you to send a resume to. And everyone's like, what? No, don't. Anyway, no. But at that point in time, here's the deal. You own that. And that did not happen, FYI. So, no, I'm using the example. But at that point in time, you own it. Yeah. did not happen fyi so no that's i'm using the example but at that point in time you own it yeah you've agreed to help someone you've agreed to help someone you own it and to go to just act like it's never been said to ignore it or down the road somebody goes hey about that email i'm like oh that person left i don't know the new hr person and lie about it you can't do that damages what the very lifestyle what the community of the lifestyle is about all the way through it it's what is so ironic about the lifestyle is we spend more time I don't know. What is so ironic about the lifestyle is we spend more time talking about the very key foundation to everything in the lifestyle. Now, before consent, entry level, it's not consent. Entry level is not hygiene. Entry level is not comfort. Entry level, the very most key component that if you do not have a solid foundation, if you build it with sand, it will crumble, is communication. And we continually have to talk about it because in so many areas, for some reason, the concept doesn't equate to people. It's your foundation. So it's the foundation of every single part of the lifestyle. And if you look at the lifestyle, you look at people that you consider successful, look at their communication. What you'll find is successful people in life have powerful communication in all avenues of their life. This isn't like just a secret for just a lifestyle, but it's in every part of it.
Speaker3: We don't get to pick and choose what part of communication or what parts of the lifestyle we want to communicate in.
Speaker2: People talk about wanting to play alone.
Speaker3: People talk about wanting to be able to do things completely outside of the norms. If you don't have communication you will fail ta-da it's that simple if you are a couple and you start playing and as soon as that dick comes out and their dick goes in somebody's mouth or in somebody's pussy or you know you put a dick in your the case with me, once that happens, if you don't have the communication, you are doomed. It's over. Don't know how long it'll take, but the crumbling begins at that moment in time. And it's the same with other aspects of the relationships within the lifestyle. Because here's the thing. If you can't communicate honestly with me, if you say, using the example that did not happen, just an example with Amanda about the HR thing, if you can't follow through with that, why, why and on what realm or reason ever do you think I would trust you enough to fuck you or let you fuck her?
Speaker2: If you can't be honest and communicate on something so simple, why would I ever?
Speaker3: And we know that I have a history.
Speaker1: We know I have a history of fucking crazy girls. And even I would, I mean, why would you even think? Why would you even think? That's a joke, ladies, just saying. But why would you think that? And that's the part that's so absolutely amazing. Can you tell we've had a bunch of bullshit like that and it's just driving us insane? Well, this morning it was another straw of someone saying they're going to do something and don't do it. And then it burns us pretty bad. And we're like, well, that's awesome. So I'm like going. That's awesome. So as we're sitting there talking this morning, I'm like going, how many times have we been burned? Yeah. Adult lifestyle, just in real life of people lying. Don't say you're going to do something and not follow through that's lying because you had no intention of following through you've got party hosts that lie to hotels so we've had to deal with that of these hotels going you know these people were walking around topless in front of kids and playing in the sexual shit in the pool. And the poor sales guy couldn't even say boobs. He just joggled his imaginary boobs in front of them. I'm like going, oh, my gosh. It was funny as hell. And it's like we're facing all this stuff, and all of a sudden it's like you get fed up. Well, you see a pattern. You don't need to lie. And the only thing I can think of is maybe we're too fucking honest. Probably. What it is, you start to see a pattern. And you start to equate the fact of how many people are negatively affected. I'm not going to say hurt, but negatively affected by the dishonesty factor unless and and when we were talking about it looking at every single level it's like and and it's the most easily avoided disappointment we have in the kind of gentle world we talk about You see posts and you see the concept of helping people and be good to people and all those things and yet the simplest way to do that is to be honest and respectful is one of the hardest things that at some point it'd be hard to keep your life straight that in the review that part especially the... It's like, shit, what did I tell him? What did I tell this person? And what did I tell that person? And once you get a... You all right there? My baggage is... My arm won't move. Here? No, up. Scratch it. There it is. No, up. See, that was too high, too high. But the thing is, once that gets out, once you're caught, you're caught. And to undo that is damn near impossible. And just, it's so easily avoidable. I mean, this is the, we talk about having rules in the lifestyle. We talk about having, rules are nothing more than a communication aid. That's what they are. Boundaries are nothing more than a communication aid, right? We talk about reevaluating and basically re-looking, taking time at different intervals and looking at your lifestyle journey these are all everything is a communication aid dealing with fucking people if somebody does go outside the rules of consent reporting it it's a communicate it back to about communication for the safety of the welfare of the group everything leads back it's like the kevin bacon game but everything everything starts with there and so if we don't start to work and improve on that what's going to happen is we're going to continue to see you're going to continue to see and have issues in in your journey in the lifestyle and what will really start to happen is you want to talk about feelings of being ostracized or things being clicky? Have the reputation of being that person. The person that is full of shit. That person that you can't trust. Once that's your reputation, honestly, that is damn near impossible
Speaker3: to shed.
Speaker2: And
Speaker3: I'll see you next time. Once that's your reputation, honestly, that is damn near impossible to shed. And in the days of social media, it is even easier to quote unquote write checks that you can't cash or write statements that then all of a sudden you don't want to cash. And it's not an option. Well, we know a couple of different people. They sign up for parties all the time, and then they never show up or they cancel last minute. And it's like, okay, so now the joke, and you hear other people saying it. I've said nothing. Oh, so-and-so signed up for the parties. They won't come. Wait a minute. What's the excuse this time? Right. What's their excuse this time?
Speaker1: That's literally, I mean, if you want to know what, as other event planners, when we're at an event, people will hear, the event planners will say stuff around it because they know we throw events. And we hear that all the time. Oh, so-and-so, yeah, they're not, we won't allow them anymore to sign up.
Speaker2: Yeah.
Speaker1: You know, and think about that for a minute. Think about right now what you have in your mind, what you have planned for the next couple of months or for the next for the rest of 2024 how would you like to be the person that that's what they're known for that the joke is oh my god that person actually showed up to an event can't you believe it and people, well, it's harmless. But it's not harmless because the way they do it. You're always planning for it. You plan for a certain number of people. The person a week before goes, can I have my money back? I can't come. Or they cancel the day of and all of a sudden somebody that wanted to come, that wanted a room or wanted a space or wanted whatever, got turned down because you were full. It does affect other people. See, this is the part. The part's so big, they just don't get it. It does take and affect other people. It's kind of like it's not a victimless crime, so to speak. Hey, people, you say that to me at meet and greets.
Speaker2: What?
Speaker1: Jessica, what did people used to say to you at meet and greets?
Speaker3: She wasn't going to show up, probably.
Speaker4: Nuh-uh.
Speaker1: Jessica shows up. Jessica's always at stuff. Don't listen to them, girl. Just be honest. Oh, she finally showed up. Okay, well, that's different.
Speaker2: Now, wait a minute.
Speaker1: There's a difference between, oh, she finally showed up because you don't get to a lot of things. Or, like, you purposely were, like, taking spots.
Speaker3: It's not like you don't have, like, six different jobs.
Speaker1: No shit. Just saying. And here's the other thing. And I want to go back, because, again, Jessica touched on it. There are going to be times when you're honest with somebody that they just aren't going to like that response. And that's okay. You know, the only couple, if you're doing this as a couple in the lifestyle, the only couple that has to be okay with your journey is the two of you. It doesn't matter if another couple doesn't like your rules or doesn't like what you guys do. If what they do doesn't coincide with what you guys do, and you go, I'm sorry, it doesn't coincide, thanks a million. If they're pissed, that's their problem. And it's the same with an individual. As long as you can look yourself in the mirror and know you're honest up front with it if they don't like that response that's okay i understand that i think i think people have that fear they've had that happen to them enough that that's the natural reaction is to go to excuses right to okay but think about this if somebody rented a hotel room and you canceled last minute they're gonna be a little upset because they just threw a bunch of money away but you could offer them half the money right exactly look at that be cool about it because it did happen something did happen or came up and you couldn't make it instead of just flat out flat out ghosting them and stick them up with a huge bill right that would piss me off but that would infure me i'd get upset i would be much more if somebody said this is what happened i'm sorry and they just told me the truth to probably go and if they said i'll cover through my brain i don't worry about it but if you fucking tell me something stupid you know again like i lost my finger in a farming implement accident today and you're not a farmer and you still have all your fingers I'm gonna go you can pay me part of the money it's just we have one guy whose dad died three times yeah this fucking guy he's had more of his mom and he has more parents than anybody we've ever met uh and and he can't figure out why we won't let him come to events because again here's the thing after communication level two of the the foundation is what i'll wait for the answer for everybody to figure it out trust thank you very much if you can't communicate effectively then the trust isn't going to be there. Once you break the trust, there we go. So, again, and what ends up happening is that excuses demolish trust. Folks, live by the simple rule. If you thought of an excuse before you say it to somebody, this is kind of like a pickup line. Before you actually, if you think of like, this is the greatest pickup line ever. Before you actually go to an event and say it to somebody with the opposite sex, say it, go to a mirror, say it out loud, and listen to it. And go, if you giggle, smirk, okay, that sounds dumb. I wouldn't fall for that. Don't say it, right? It's the same with the fucking excuse. Don't do it. You just fucking don't. You know what I'm saying? Don't. Say it out loud first. Trust yourself. Larry put people with families, especially young kids, are more likely to cancel regularly. Those of us that have been there understand. Exactly. Ding. Winner. If you're honest with us and tell us that and say that, if you've had kids or you have kids, come on, we know that kids are table lickers. They're the unknown factor, right? They just, they're like squirrels on crack. It is what it is. And God knows you can leave them and everything's good. And within two minutes, they can, all hell can break loose. That's the joy of children. That's why we have sex with other people so we don't have more of them. It is what it is. So, yeah, we understand. But again, just be honest with us. If there's a potential when you set something up, that it could be iffy. Like when I was in the car business, okay? When I was in the car business, we had to set everything up. We would set up a time with a caveat. Every single thing was, here's the deal. Okay, the plan is that we'll meet at 9. Please understand, I'm in the car business. Being in the car business on Saturday nights, I can't leave just because we close it at 7 o'clock. I have to stay until the last deal is done. Some nights I'm there until midnight. We'll obviously do our best to keep you up to date. But there's a chance. And it hurts because some people didn't want to do that. And I understood. Some people didn't. But we were just talking about this couple earlier today. We had times where we're going, okay, I'm like at his work going, okay, as soon as he's done it, it's looking like he's close to being done. Okay, well, whenever he's done, come over. One time we showed up at midnight. Okay, so that saturday do you remember when you remember that was going on i got stuck at work late again and then it had been a nebraska home game and we got stuck in nebraska home game traffic going to omaha and we're sitting there going at 11 30 we're still like we're coming and like if, you know, if you guys would totally understand, like, no. It was all, then they were so cool about it. They were very cool about it. It was, like, 12 or 12.15 when we got there.
Speaker3: And then we stayed until, like, 7 o'clock in the morning.
Speaker2: Yeah.
Speaker1: I mean, we had a blast, but it was, like, but we always had to do that caveat. And so if you know that that's a possibility, again, honest communication. See, here we go. You're one step away from Kevin Bacon. Honest communication. If you know that there's a potential, say it ahead of time. Communicate that ahead of time. If you know, let's use the example that didn't happen with Amanda for the email. If you know that there's a chance, hey, I can send this to you, but we're in a transition period, so there may be a new HR person, communicate it. It's so simple to add those few, the added parts, and then no one, you're not scrambling, you don't feel dumb if something happens because you were honest and you communicated the situation correctly ahead of time. You didn't over promise. You didn't under deliver. It's weird. So we hit that phrase just for a quick second. This is the other part of this because a lot of you can appreciate this as well. We've talked about this before. We shouldn't have to talk about this. But it's kind of fun. When you're talking about this, again, when we talk about this, how this affects every part of the lifestyle. Every part. When you're talking about fucking someone, what do we always say? Under promise, over deliver. Who are the worst fucks you've ever had, Amanda? What were the shit they said ahead of time? I'm putting her on the spot a little bit with this, so bear with me. Well, let's see. I'm going to make it to where you can't walk for two weeks. Yeah, that was funny. That was a good one. I just kind of laughed as he was walking out. Normally, no problem. Could have ran a marathon after that one. Right. When she got whacked the last time, that made her so she couldn't walk right for a couple of days. This dude's dick was never going to make that happen. Ever. No. Gosh, what else? I'm going to make you squirt. Oh, my God. There's all the ones that are going to fucking. I'm going to make you squirt.'s all the ones that are gonna fucking I'm gonna make you squirt Yeah no you're not Granted after taking testosterone It happens way easier now I'm gonna pound up All the fucking people Over promise Under delivery I have this huge dick obviously the definite inhumanity star might be above average but that's not if you have a seal killer and all it does is limp there it doesn't matter granted I don't give a shit about that part the thing is again I reason I bring this up because it's kind of funny but it ties into the fact of just let your actions speak for themselves actions are the key to everything that's the whole thing actions are you respectful of somebody else how are you respectful you communicate if something comes up you communicate ahead of time there's a potential of being at you how are you respectful you don't take you just say you're excited to meet and then let your penis do the fucking talking for you at after that point how are you respectful you think and go yes i can attend the event you click attend and then you and you get yourself and show up. Or if something happens, comes up, you let the host know respectfully and honestly explain what happened so that everybody can win. It's not that difficult. Again, these – look, for me, it's harder to get a condom on than it is to do these basic concepts. Seriously. I have a harder time unopening a condom wrapper. It's like me trying to drive and open a bag of chips at the same time shit it's just no chips would be easy i mean it's just one of those things but it's not that fucking difficult but the effects are huge the effects are fucking huge because here's the thing when i've listened because i'm reading all the text messages that you're fucking sending her i'm reading all of them i'm hearing the magic promises of what you're going to do to her and i'm looking over and she's not yet well versed in the not eye rolling blatantly obviously working on the eye roll thing and you look over and you can hear her eyes go from the eye roll you're just like i think about time to finish up here and we almost make it to the car before she goes what the fuck was that i mean i'm trying to think of the last one i got i went you gotta be kidding Oh, God. I'll make you call me daddy. Oh, my God. When I heard that, I was like, please, God, let's hear this. It's going to be awesome. We never even got to the point that that was a possibility. We never even got to the point of going, dad. I mean, it was just like, yeah. That's just like just like okay the latest one was the guy that was like hey i want to hook up or i want to make some content with oh okay we'll send some pictures and and you know we'll base it upon there wait pause he reached out to to us on your adult website that is obvious your adult website. I'm a 23-year-old bull. That's a turn off right there. It can be. It is, usually. I'm a 23-year-old bull. I would like to make content. Excellent. So we responded. That's a great quest that you send a couple four a couple uh four different pictures full frontal full back full side and a face pic the exact same thing that you get asked all the time it's very very common to get asked to send those they don't give a shit what your body looks like they just want those pictures we're not saving the pictures to jack off to we don't fucking care and he initially was trying to ask he asked instead of emailing to us which is how everybody does it and was there any other way that he could send them and it's like yep we went and send your instagram and then he sent another well can we can you send me snapchat because i'm just afraid of you keeping of saving the pictures i in my calm business-like manner responded back how in the fuck are you going to make it in porn if you are afraid of people keeping your pictures because a lot of people want to make porn as long as you don't have to see their face or there's any way anybody know about it that's great but there's all kinds you can be honest and say well because of my job i have to wear a mask okay been there done that and i don't care or because of this but you know But, whatever. And then the response was, well, done that. I don't care. Or because of this, but, you know, whatever. And then the response is like, well, just until I get to know you. No, you were 23, and you thought you could find a way to fucking bang somebody who does porn. There's a difference. The lies are obvious. Larry, the longer you're in the lifestyle and the more events you go to, you will build your own reputation, good or bad, from your own actions and words. Larry, that is fucking awesome. I'm going to say it again. The longer you're in the lifestyle and the more events you go to, you will build your own reputation, good or bad bad from your own actions and words how's your reputation shitty probably i'm probably known as the biggest dick there is and it's good not as in size of my cock but just as a dick but certain people yeah but that but we have we, probably 400 pounds, whatever, sit there like a bump on a log, make his wife do all the flirty stuff while he just sat there and expected everybody to come up to him. I'm like, yeah, no. He wanted to hook up. I'm like, okay, he wanted to hook up with her. I'm like, well, I'll take one for the team. And then his drunk wife came up to him and said, she's too big for him. I will never forget that. That was a long conversation. Wait, what? That was awesome. The thing is and if you don't, when you come to one of our events you'll get to meet Larry because Larry comes to our events and Larry is 100% correct. And Larry has a tremendously excellent reputation because he lives by that very philosophy. We control our own lifestyle journey. We talk about in the lifestyle the drama and the shit that happens. The truth is most of it is our own doing or undoing. Or how other people believe it is 100% our doing or undoing. Look, you're always going to be somebody that's going to believe anybody they hear.
Speaker2: Great.
Speaker1: That's fine. But the bulk of people, you'll never know. They'll never say it to you if they believe what they believe or don't believe but they have an opinion and it's right there exactly based upon what your words and your actions do they do they mesh are they the same is what you say what you're going to get it doesn't say you have to be perfect we all fuck up and make mistakes it owning the mistakes that you make. It's following through even if the situation you overpromised and you went. It is what it is. If you want the lifestyle to be fun, you have to eliminate the shitty parts of it. And part of that is the excuses excuses lead to drama excuses lead to lies lies lead to drama this is sesame street there's a lot of sesame street references today this show is brought to you by 69 it's the thing is is that it's sesame street if you play ball in the house you knock over over the face, the face breaks, the baby cries, mom gets mad. And so if you always keep playing ball in the house, guess what's going to continue to happen? It's the same thing. So how do you make it a better experience?
Speaker2: Stop it.
Speaker1: Stop the stupid shit. Stop the insanity. Stop the lies. Stop the excuses.
Speaker2: Be real.
Speaker1: Be honest. Evaluate yourself. The biggest part of these shows, we do this shit, right? We yammer all this shit out continuously. It doesn't do any good to listen to these shows and go, wow, that's a great show. Great content. It's on TV. The only value that you will ever get from Crazy Truth About Swinging or Casbah's rants is if you take the shit you hear, and look, you may listen and go, they've lost their ever-loving fucking mind. You wouldn't be the first person to say that. And probably if you're a chick and go, he's crazy, that might make me more attractive. Don't know. Anywho, the thing is what you do with it's when you take it and you go and evaluate your life and look at your lifestyle experience and go does this apply to me there's a lot of people listening show we don't know so a lot of people go oh you're talking about a specific person no we're talking about specific events or a general concept no it was just a discussion we had this morning after getting burned but if you take and examine your life you might be amazed after every single weekend after every single event we do a lot of fucking events and go to a lot of fucking events i run through the events in my mind because their events are oh fuck shouldn't have done that son of a bitch because you have to evaluate it might be shit you're doing without anything as i said early on i'm notorious like agreeing to whatever anybody says and then getting burned on that my my great uncle loved to go to auctions he was a farmer loved to go to auctions went to like friends's auctions and shit to help bid up prices and a doubt, he'd always be dragging home a bucket of some fucking just bunch of shit.
Speaker2: Right?
Speaker1: Just stupid crap. Because he got to fucking around at the auction. And he was bidding it just because he was bored and it was funny. And then all of a sudden, he won. He won that. And his wife would get so pissed. He would come home with just tons of shit. That's me. There lot of times i come home oh fuck i said that son of a bitch but when he did it he still fucking took he still took and and brought it home he didn't go no no i don't want it now no never mind i was just kidding or if you've had too much to drink, you go, did I say that? I don't remember saying that.
Speaker2: You said it. Okay, great.
Speaker3: Now I own it.
Speaker1: That's the whole thing.
Speaker2: So you have to evaluate. So we evaluate.
Speaker1: We try to do better. You try to – but that's the part of this show that you have to get is that what will you do with this afterwards? Now, let's face it the other reality of these shows which is always ironic and so disgustingly true 99% of the people across the country that need to hear our message never hear it so it's up to you to share it with them and go hey you really need to hear this new highway that's what I would encourage you to do that but just say just take it and play it over and go get a whole bunch of goofy people together you know need to hear it hey look the show's over
Speaker2: Thank you. I wouldn't encourage you to do that, but just say it. Just take it and play it over and go. Get a whole bunch of goofy people
Speaker1: together that you know need to hear it and just have a list of them. Hey, look, the show's over. Good lord. Alright.
Speaker2: Well.
Speaker1: Isn't that sexy? Now, if that show didn't give you a boner, nothing will. This is probably...
Speaker3: I don't care. We're not like some of those podcasters that make their shit up.
Speaker1: There's more to the lifestyle than just having a hard on.
Speaker3: Are you sure about that?
Speaker2: Well, yeah.
Speaker1: Not really, but thanks.
Speaker2: I've heard. Okay.
Speaker3: At least we don't make up our concourse.
Speaker1: This whole thing was a lie. None of this had happened. We've been cooking this up for three weeks. It was awesome. We just sit in our little cave and just make shit up.
Speaker2: What if? Hmm. Okay.
Speaker1: Just saying. We're not even swingers. We don't even know you people. We don't even look like this. This is a wig. Just so you know, this is a fucking wig and a glue-on beard. Just saying. I look like I'm 12.
Speaker2: All right.
Speaker1: That being said.
Speaker3: You do your baby face.
Speaker2: I'll see I'm 12. All right. That being said, thanks. You do your baby face. Thanks for listening. We sure hope that this caused you to want to go and make mad, passionate love to the next person you see. If so, don't forget to get your stuff for a crazy one. By the way, the Host Hotel is already starting to sell substantially, so I wouldn't piddle around and go to crazycasma.com. See all of our events. Check it out. Another big thank you to our sponsors, ASN Lifestyle Magazine, SmokingMeetsBBQTreats.com, and MotorBunny.com. God, all of a sudden, I couldn't even read my own fucking shit. Don't stick with us. We're going to have another show coming up on our way home after we get back from Exotica. Remember, we're making a run to 300.
Speaker1: You don't want to miss the 300 show.
Speaker2: Just saying. It's a, it's, it's a, I don't know what it'll be about,
Speaker1: but it should, I bet it'd be really cool because it'll be 300.
Speaker2: Just saying.
Speaker1: Well, will there be cake?
Speaker3: I can make you a cake.
Speaker1: It'll be making us a cake. It's not just me. Honey, it's us. Without you, it's just... The A holds it all together. With that being said, kids, you know the only way how... Wait, what do I usually do? 300 shows and I don't know how to end the motherfucker. With that being said, the only way I know how, the only way I want to, and the only way I ever motherfucking will Kazma Style out