Send us Fan MailThis week we talk about the Thirsty, desperate ways people act online in the Lifestyle. Post that sound like begging for a swinger are not sexy. We also talk about safety at holiday swinger and kink parties and taking care of yourself and owning your own actions. Swapping is fun whether it is soft swap or full swap but you have to be safe when doing it.Check out all our shows at: http://www.buzzsprout.com/181336Visit us at: http://www.krazykasbh.comfollow us on twitter @TruthKrazySubscribe to our YouTube Channel: http://www.youtube.com/kasbhSend us an email at [email protected] Support the show
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Speaker1: Hey kids, the program you're about to listen to contains some adult situations, adult language, themes, and other adult topics. If you're easily offended, this show's not for you. Hey you crazy motherfuckers, welcome back to another edition of Crazy Truth. I am your host with the most, I am Cole, I'm here with the lovely, lovely, and you can tell by her nipples, chilled, Miss Amanda. I put a bra back on because it was too cold. We keep our studio nice and chilled for her, for your pleasure, not mine. Not for my pleasure. Well, it's not for mine because I would be turtled. There's nothing sexist. That's why we do this podcast. We don't do this just naked all the way across board yes you did wake up that's nice that's that's awesome someone forgot to shut their sounds off jackass i did oh lord yeah yeah get over it hey so uh here's the thing this is actually episode this is season two season two episode 73 uh but actually you know i did some math today oh god yeah i know some numbers with our other specials and stuff like that this is actually episode this would be the 76th show we've done so when you think about that we have done shows every week we have not skipped a week for 76 for a year and a half over a year now wow yeah we yeah we have not skipped a week why because that's the way we roll we don't skip we don't take vacations damn it new shit all the time it's the way we roll even if we took a vacation you'd still want to do it well i'd say yeah well that's just that's what makes this difference we have come back exhausted from long weekends of partying and whatnot uh we've had to do them on a different night before because it was too late when we got back. But nothing stops us, damn it. Our listeners, you guys, kids, you deserve the very fucking best of our wisdom and knowledge that we're here to spew upon you. So, you know, it's what we do. And so, of course, and as normal, we are live on our Crazy Casbah casbah page that's our secret facebook page so feel free to jump in questions whatnot as you guys go i always love when we first started all these people kick on and then they leave when they come back and see if we're saying anything funny or interesting basically they check on just make sure your tits aren't out just saying anywho you can't do that on facebook no but you know what i got to figure out i we're gonna start figuring out how i can be doing we can do our show live on twitter Here we go. anywho you can't do that on facebook no but you know what i gotta figure out i we're gonna start figuring out how i can be doing we can do our show live on twitter too we need by the way if you have not followed us please follow us on twitter it's at truth crazy so i would love to have more followers we're like doing this the old way we're we're taking like we're like grinding that's how we get our followers that's what And, Patrick, you're exactly right. It is time to do a show from the Caribbean. And trust me, you have no idea how much we would love to do that. It's on our bucket list. Our show's bucket list. Do you feel like you're leaning over? I do. I feel like I'm getting ready to grab this and just suck the holy living bejesus out of this fucking microphone. I don't know. Hey, lookie there. Well, I'll be damned. Look just like a real penis and i helped it out and no shit you touch it and it gets longer weird who'd have thunk it let me see you later that's it that's the plan for the weekend see there it is lighter we're gonna have mood lighting in the studio tonight that's right we're gonna light the candles bounce wow wow all right last time it's that witchy thing singed it all right so first off i'm gonna do real quick give an acknowledgement to a a sponsor ish which is actually you uh your reiki healing so make sure hey you know what it's not witchcraft but you'll feel like magic uh when you are you stressed are you exhausted you need your chakras realigned you need to visit miss amanda at amanda's reiki healing uh she can do both in-person session and also distance session so we have people that can tell you how how uh how awesome it is i love it to me all the time no it's not sexual but it'll make you feel fucking awesome. Yeah. Like the night. Fantastic.
Speaker2:
Absolutely.
Speaker3:
Mike, have I ever done it sexually to you?
Speaker2:
No. No.
Speaker1:
No, because we're actually doing it for a purpose, not just, you know, not just fucking. You can do sexual stuff when we get done with the session. See, that's how that works. Then I'm more relaxed and better chance for my little penis to come play. All right. So what are you looking for? I just keep looking at it. You look like Roman, like you've never been in the studio before. No, I'm looking at the sound bar to see how it's doing. Just checking. Believe it or not, we do actually have a purpose for the show. I don't know what it is. I know it got cold. It shrunk a little bit. Shut up. Well, I felt like it was up my fucking nose. Sorry. Moose out front, I should have told you we're close. Okay, so. Did you switch microphones? No. Why? Did I? No, I didn't switch microphones. Okay, I was just checking. Does that fuck you up? I need to know so I know what fun things I can do during the week.
Speaker2:
No.
Speaker1:
No playing with knobs. Quit touching your knob, Cole.
Speaker2:
Okay, so what are we doing again?
Speaker1:
It's Sunday and now we're doing a show. That's right.
Speaker2:
See why I would have so much confidence in our words of wisdom. Help me. Please help me.
Speaker1:
Shut up. If this was all your idea.
Speaker2:
Anyways.
Speaker1:
I don't know if I can remember the day clearly. Miss Amanda came to me and she was like, you know what? I think we should have a podcast. I can't even say that with a fakely with a straight face. No, you can't. That was right after she said, let's have a page. You know what we should do? We should have a big party too none of it's my idea just get roped into it no shit hey and when the kids were little was just making costumes at the last minute surprise okay so um yeah so we do have we do have some some questions good hot damn okay imagine that so uh the the first question that we got was okay so this question came to us uh it came to us from a southern region that's what they said we can say southern region okay i don't even know what country to be honest with you southern region okay the question was what we see all the time people put posts about saying someone's acting thirsty what does that mean so so i went back and i told him what it meant and then the follow-up question was, is it just a guy thing? So, look, I can't tell you. Every question that we get is not necessarily. Some we go, well, that's just a no-brainer. Well, I get it. Okay, because come to find out, these people are very, very new in the lifestyle. And so they have lots of questions. So is it a couple or is it a single person it's a couple thirsty it's it's a couple but they had questions about lots of things so i mean let's run through the gauntlet shall we real quick like you know soft swap full swap i mean they're they're like new new there i'm i'm guessing just from kind of our conversation like they've decided to dabble in the lifestyle. I don't think there's been any junk stuck in anybody else's junk quite yet. Do they know what the internet and search browsers are for? That's how we found out. They do, but they're doing like what most people do. They get on a page, right? And it's not our secret page, but it is now. Because I got them at it. But anyways do they get on a page right and it's not our secret page but it is now because i got him at it but anyways they get on a page right and there's all this stuff and people have no fucking idea what's really going on and no one really wants to ask a lot of questions so let's tackle the thirsty issue shall we because it is something you see more and more and more for those of you who don't know what thirsty is do you want to explain it desperate picture being in a desert anxious and you're no no don't we don't sugar kit sugar sugar kit or sugar mama but we're looking for sugar mamas and sugar sugar daddies just saying uh no we we don't we don't sugarcoat shit here we are not willy wonka okay Put the equivalent out there of you're in a desert and you're parched. You're thirsty. You're dying of thirst. Okay, so in this case, the thirst is sex. You're desperate. Thirsty is not a sexy look. Let's start with that right off the bat. Thirsty is not sexy. Thirsty is not hot. Thirsty thirsty is desperate or at least it looks that way now can you be thirsty without looking thirsty well i'll be damned you sure can okay most of the time you see more people act thirsty online and when they're when they're keyboard warriors versus like at a party yeah yeah and it's only because they haven't figured out how to be desperately look like desperate fucks in a person like they have on on a page amy says thirsty and overbearing oh there you go that's true yes thirsty and overbearing that's that's actually that's a really good way to put it that's a really good way to put it. Here's some examples of thirsty when you're online, okay, on a Facebook thing. I really need pussy now. I'm so horny, someone has to come over so I don't have to keep touching myself. But then add that and keep posting like six or seven times. That's some real basic examples, okay?
Speaker2:
So would you equate it to attention seekers? Attention whores? They're not seekers.
Speaker1:
They're whores.
Speaker2:
Attention whores? Yes. Okay, now here's a key thing, kids. Remember this.
Speaker1:
In the live show, this is important to understand. Sluts are good. Whores are not. Okay, so let's first distinguish that difference. Yeah, they're attention whores. Look, it's okay. Everybody has that one night. It's like, hey, you throw it out there. Maybe it's a drunk meme going, yeah, you know, looking for some pussy, looking for some dick. There are some people that every day they post on every single page. I'm horny, I need some pussy some pussy and it's like or they're just like begging and it's so fucking pathetic I can share this weekend's experience last night's experience so we have an alternate Facebook social media app that we use.
Speaker2:
Yes, MeWe. MeWe.
Speaker3:
So I had this guy out of the blue message me. Well, he wanted to be a contact. I'm like, okay, well, I don't know who you are, so I'm not adding you to our page. So he proceeds to message me.
Speaker1:
Oh, yeah.
Speaker3:
How are you? I love redheads. Great. Mine's not real. Doesn't matter. They're dangerous. Sure. If you say so. You should live with the bitch. So, where do you live? Oh, yeah. I'm like, Lincoln? I'm not telling you what state, but that's okay. And then he said, well, so am I. Okay.
Speaker1:
And what was the next thing he sent you?
Speaker3:
Well, I was getting to that. So after stupid conversation, and I said that we had a swingers page,
Speaker1:
he made no clue as to he's not one right right exactly exactly okay and then presents to send me a dick pic because that's hot um okay but he has he's married and has a woman friend who is a swinger which that means he has a wife and he's cheating on the side go ahead so he has all signs of a swinger it's a disease but he is not and he didn't get added and today he apologized for sending me a dick pic and you know he was just acting out of alcohol i'm like no you know no no no you weren't you fucking moron you were desperate i don't get those very much so it was kind of funny and he proceeds to keep continue messaging you because and i just ignore it yeah exactly okay so we got another comment here josh put uh or how about i got a hotel room and i want a for the post on but that's a that's a really good one that's a really good one i'm here on business this day sometimes sometimes you just want company and there's no look here's there's nothing wrong with asking i'm gonna be in this town or i'm in town that's okay that's totally okay but add new people but add a little bit more to it. Okay, that's add a little bit more to it going at hey would love to meet somebody for dinner you know i'm here this many days i'd love to meet somebody for dinner no strings attached whatever add a little bit more to it we have some guys that travel and gals that travel and they do that on our page and that's totally okay i get it you're in town you're gonna be in town for a week uh no problem no worries i'm more apt to meet you if you put that you're in town for a week and you're and you don't want to be stuck in a hotel room bored with like some company exactly but that some of those people also post and participate other times on the page it's the people the only time you see them fucking post is i've got a sweet and a hard on who wants to come over. Okay. Really? You know, those people, you're not going to get any play with that. Okay. And yes, it is something that can go both ways. It can be, it can be both guys and gals can come across as fucking thirsty and it's not fucking hot at all. It's not, it's just fucking not. Don't fucking do that. that in fact it might get you less uh fuck yeah well look i'm sorry hey guys okay this is going out for the guys out there we're a couple we play alone right if i don't if i don't know you the only time i've seen you post one time that you've got a hotel room in said city that may be close to us and a hard-on i'm not gonna go oh miss amanda go ahead go okay that's too like again that's like not smart you're going what you know i'm not gonna do that now if i'm in town for a week would love to meet a couple for drinks okay we may go do something like that and then if there's a comfort level fine but i'm not just gonna let you send you just randomly to a hotel no without knowing anything about the dude who's only posted one time on our page because he's got a heart on our hotel room that's how people end up missing that's how shit that's that's well i mean seriously that's fucked up you just don't do that so guys think that through if you're part of a couple okay and it's the same with gals if you if women can kill people too i know that's hard to believe but i mean or it can be a fucked up situation too you're not going to let me just randomly go to a hotel where i know i we've never met the gal nothing just to go hook up i mean you're better off in that case go to a bar go pick somebody up at a bar but i mean think it through just a little bit it's okay look we all get horny we all want to hook up with people i get that and that rocks patrick so you're saying there's a chance there's always there's always a chance absolutely but you know think it through a little bit think how that message come across and and then when you then when if you do a bunch of comments, this is the part I love. You'll see people and they'll get a whole bunch of comments. And they're just saying yes to everybody. Anybody acknowledges them. They're like, can I PM you? Can I private message you? Can I send you a dick pic? I mean, they're just all over that shit. It's like, dude, really? Knock that shit off. Now, okay, can people be thirsty in public too? Yeah. They can hover. They can not get the hint. They're starting to grope and get handsy, and they don't get the hint. But as a general rule, they're way less apt to do that in public. They might be clutchy or folly around, but they're way less apt to just be like, you know, just a complete and total fucking thirsty douchebag in public they just they most time they won't you know they'll they'll take a hint somewhere along the lines in there of like go away if it's a male or a female they will appear like you know clutchy and no and and then they'll kind of get shooed away or moved away from the herds we'll put put the women and children in the middle of the herd for safety sakes, kids. Several, several years ago, we were at a bar with a group of friends. And yes, they were all swingers because we were kind of having a meet and greet. Whatever. Right. Yep. I remember that. So there was one single male. Very nice guy. Very nice guy. I've gotten to know him a lot since then. Not in that way. but we've gotten to know him a lot since then not in that way but we've gotten to know him personally ish mentally basically you didn't whore out and you didn't slut out with him he's not uh in the lifestyle anymore but the first instance he goes i have a big dick yeah that was that was exactly how it started and
Speaker3:
i go oh okay and then turn around i'm like going dude that is not the way but in me but in his
Speaker1:
defense that motherfucker he was a single male got more fucking pussy yeah than anybody i knew i mean he was just like direct and to the point how many times did he come up and visit us at Thank you. fucking pussy yeah than anybody i knew i mean he was just like direct and to the point how many times did he come up and visit us at work because he was in town because he just went and fucked some girl a couple of times yeah he was like hey well this guy had the day off and so she said why don't come home with sex i said okay i'm just like but no but you also actually he toned it down because you helped him with that yeah as we got we got to him, you said, hey, look, when you did that, that was a huge term.
Speaker2:
He goes, really?
Speaker1:
And I remember you kind of helped coach him through that a little bit. And then he changed his game. And now the mother, then he, fucking that dude was just rolling in strange. I mean, he had, good God, that guy was getting fucking boinked six ways to Tuesday every fucking day. I was like, holy fucking shit, dude. He's like, yeah, this is awesome. But he never got the price because he always wanted to have sex with you. And it just was a weird thing that it didn't work out. Because then all of a sudden he got like a vanilla girlfriend and went all on the straight and narrow and shit. He's like, yeah, he was going to bring her to one of the parties. Well, but she's really vanilla. And then he didn't. He ended up, like, Oklahoma or some shit. So, yeah, I don't know. That's weird. So, yeah, so here's the thing, kids. Don't be desperate. Don't be thirsty. When you're thirsty, you know. Don't come across desperate. Don't come across desperate. I mean, you can be desperate. Well, yeah. Look, here's the deal. We're all desperate. We all know we're desperate, and that's okay. Just don't come across desperate that that's the biggest thing and if you're and if you're a chick okay whether it's fair or not guys will get the tag of being a creeper ladies especially if you're going after couples and you're going after just the guy in a couple be careful you don't want to get the tag of dun home wrecker because You don't want to get the tag of dun- be like, dude, you need to cool it. And usually that will stop it. But I've also seen single, like one single guy.
Speaker3:
I'm like, hey, would you be interested in so-and-so? Because they were all at the same party. He goes, oh, no, I've seen their post on Facebook.
Speaker2:
Yes.
Speaker3:
Oh, okay.
Speaker1:
Not every single will just fuck anything. That's not how that works.
Speaker3:
Well, it necessarily doesn't have anything to do with that.
Speaker1:
It's just their post came across wrong. Slut then they did horrific then they didn't right home wrecker-ish well and here's the thing ladies we've talked about this before watch the wife's eyes yeah okay here's the thing i'm sorry because if you don't look again if a guy is a creeper and i can step up to guy and go hey you know what you need to fucking bounce dude and it doesn't matter what who the guy is that usually will stop it with a guy a chick chicks aren't like that they don't fucking come and get as in your face but boy you can watch the eye rolls go and we've seen people that every time somebody came up to a couple all yeah i mean i sound like a fucking ping pong balls dropping clink as every wife is rolling their eyes because they don't want that fucking homewrecker by the man that's exactly how they looked at because they were constantly trying to weasel their way into shit right and that's the thing you have to be it's the it's the old adage of look if you have sons or daughters we have three sons so what time was our boys's curfews when they're growing up if you're going to be out past midnight give me a call same curfew that i had right because you're a sexist pig shut up bitch if i if we had girls my thing is always it wouldn't happen we didn't have girls is you know what you need to be home by 10 and that wouldn't have flown with me no it wouldn't have but i don't want anyway the thing is is why why is a guy would i say something like that well it's real simple why i would say something like that because you know what here's the deal a guy out running amok sowing his oats whatever is actually going to take and be called a stud which is not necessarily right a girl out doing the same thing is going to be called a whore and which is not right but it's just the way it is so you know and that that's a whole that's a whole part of that the the thing i'm trying to read right now is what i'm trying to do carry the show while i'm reading this comment no just read it out loud okay okay so or can you see it okay so this comes oh no it's up on my screen too okay so shelly's got Thank you. Or can you see it? Shh, fucking bitch. Okay, so this comes... Oh, no, it's up on my screen, too. Okay, so Shelly's got a good point. This is from our secret Facebook page. I know some couples where the female part doesn't want to converse with this play thing. This kind of blew my mind because I believe in asking permission from the missus. Okay, and that's a really excellent, and Nancy agreed with that also. Okay, now that's interesting. That's a really good point because we're not that way. So I guess I never thought of some where they wouldn't want to interact with whoever they're going to hook up with. I mean, and obviously, look, if that's what works for you, then you need to go with that. I mean, obviously, but here's the thing, and I think Shelly also put that was the rule when she was a unicorn too, was that they didn't want to, okay, that she always, her rule was she always talked to the missus. Okay, but that's a really good point. So that comes into the rules of the couple. If, as a couple, if that's one of your rules, then you need to make sure you express that early on. The challenge I have with that is especially if i was a female would be i wouldn't have a problem with it if you met the couple and you knew the couple were swingers right so you knew they were both in the lifestyle then that wouldn't faze me but if i met a guy if i was a girl and i met guy online, that would be harder for me to believe that rule. Does that make sense? Because then it goes into the bigger issue. So how do you know when it's cheating or not cheating? I mean, if it's their rule, I guess, I mean, it makes sense. But how would you verify that now? Because I guess if i approached a guy that i wanted to hook up with and i guess i'd probably say do i need to get permission from your wife or i don't know i just always okay with it if they said if it was a go is a go no well no i think you did more investigative searching uh look and this kind of ties into other stuff, and it's stuff we need to talk about anyways. But, okay, because there's a big thing in the lifestyle about cheating and where do cheaters fall? Are they actually swingers? Are they not swingers? Whatever. And I know as soon as I say this, my page is going to go fucking like a slot machine light up because a lot of people don't believe that if they're cheating on their spouse they're a swinger okay i'm gonna take our personal opinions out of it for a minute okay okay my thing is this there's a lot of people that do like they're on the hunt for cheaters okay they're like the the cheater hunters okay okay and a lot of times there's a lot of like as us as page owners there's a lot of fucking shit put back on us well you need to make sure there's no cheaters on your page well no i don't okay there's only so much we can do to determine whether or not somebody's a cheater that to me falls under the your personal responsibility right you look if you're gonna go fuck somebody okay you have the responsibility to know as much information as you do or do not want to know that's on you so like when we were early in the lifestyle remember the dude here in town that it was like he could always start during certain hours and finally and we sniffed it out we sniffed out that he was was fucking actually married and she didn't know and then when we we thought that you ask him and he was honest with us so some of that falls on and that's a great thing especially new couple listening you need to you have to have some personal responsibility if you have an issue with that okay and i'm not going to throw judgment and what my opinion is and either here nor there if you have an issue playing with somebody that's that's cheating on a spouse it's up to you don't just trust the web pages you're on or whatever it's up to you to sniff that out because let me tell you what every paid page out here if you have a fucking credit card they let you on okay so it's your job to sniff that out so if it's somebody that they're ruled they don't want to talk with the other ones you're gonna have to do extra work to sniff that out to make sure that you reach the level of comfort you need to deal with that now we've had some people one guy in particular that got booted from our page just out of annoyance as i made him spit water because we're dicks That's why we're huge assholes He sees a post and he goes And he looks at everybody's profile And goes They're married and they're not on the page Oh fucking that retarded motherfucker But you know what I should say his name Just make him fucking face look famous Did you ask Because some of those people Yes they are married But their spouses aren't in the lifestyle For medical reasons no here's what was great about that that dumb motherfucker and cock sucking piece of shit and before it's over i'll say his fucking name i don't give two shits i'll make him famous because here's what was great about it there were three people that had responded to that post on there all three of them all three of them we personally know them we know their situation we know their spouse that does not play and this fucking moron based on those three people this person this person and this person you can tell that they're they're married and their spouse isn't on here and they just let them on their page because and they're not really strangers oh my god i have never wanted to go through a telephone and fucking shove a computer up somebody's ass so hard in my life and here's the best part about that fucking jackass that you know what him and his wife took a year off a year off from the lifestyle okay and didn't bother to get a hold of a single one of the fucking pages they were on to remove themselves so did they really take a year off or just pretend i wonder so that's why we take douche fucks like that and we make sure they're banned from everything we do. Neat. God, the thing is... No bitterness in the early ground. No, here's the thing. We get this kind of stuff all the time and there is a degree of personal responsibility, right? Look, just because you're on a page and I'm on a page doesn't mean you're obligated to fuck me or i'm obligated to fuck you right right okay we get to make that choice we don't it's not like well because we're both on the page that means we're automatically compatible and that means that's a must go no that's not how this fucking shit works it is supposed to be a thing where you take and you have communication and you talk to people and you get a common a comfort level now some people that's six months of emails six dinners two vacations and a honeymoon for some people that's 20 minutes two drinks and let's go fuck everybody's a little bit different with that and and whatever your level is will kick the fucking ass rock on you know you guys you you guys rock so the thing is is but it's up to you okay and the thing is is any motherfucker and i and i i don't care i i will say this till the day i die i got him on a rant any motherfucker that wants to go on any swinger page especially like the secret facebook groups and stuff and sit there and go well i'm going to be judgmental and i'm going to piss and moan and piss and moan and judgment judge this and judge that and judge this here's what i say to you get out of the lifestyle, you fuckstick.
Speaker2:
You know what?
Speaker1:
Don't throw any stones because you're in a goddamn glass house yourself.
Speaker2:
And when they take, and here's the, these fucking people love to go after Facebook pages. They get on all these Facebook pages.
Speaker1:
Some of our competitors are, some whatever. They get on all these Facebook pages and they bitch on the facebook page because well i just don't know if stuff is vetted enough okay jack fuck go ahead and go get on any one of the pay pages out there again to get on any pay page and it's nothing against the pay pages okay this is i i love the pay page i'm i fully endorse just like our good friends at SLS and other pay pages. But here's the thing. If you have a credit card, they don't have a questionnaire and a lie detector test that you have to go through to get on their fucking pages.
Speaker3:
And how many people do you know and who can certify you?
Speaker1:
Yeah, exactly. I mean, you know, if you're afraid, look, if you're that fucking afraid, okay, there is a really easy way to solve it.
Speaker3:
Thank you. you know if you're afraid look if you're that fucking afraid okay there is a really easy way to solve it what you need to do is quickly unplug all the electronic devices in your home this way no one can spy on you grab your tinfoil make a protective hat okay make one for the dog so and the cats run to your secret room and don't ever fucking leave okay and you can pretend to be a swinger every time you jack off shoo now you're safe oh it's the only fucking way oh my god the sad thing is is you're around liars everywhere shit yeah they're at your. They're at your workplace. They're at the grocery store.
Speaker1:
They're at your church.
Speaker2:
Yeah.
Speaker1:
It's everywhere. It's everywhere. Do you know how we know that? How many people did you know before you were officially in the lifestyle that you found out afterwards wearing the lifestyle? And you're like, oh, my God. It's like we wear two different hats and we're in different places it's the weirdest damn thing so the the thing is is that you know you you have to you have to have realistic expectations now we're getting a lot of great comments you guys should all be on our page i'm telling you this right now uh this is good one amy uh my husband has no desire or expects anyone to contact him before i meet them so it doesn't always work out that way exactly but that's something amy and her husband worked out they're comfortable with that with that uh uh setting uh duane sounds like a tweaker not a swinger uh you're exactly right duane that i agree 100 uh andy we run our own kick and me we group and we ask every member if they're if there there is so we know or does not know i can't read uh people can answer yes but that doesn't mean they're honest that's exactly right we all of these pages we do our best to screen parties do are their best to screen pages kick me we everybody does their best to screen but again you the the key with it all is is that you have to have your rules you have to have your set questions you have to you have to own your accountability right because there's just it's no different than if you weren't a swinger you're just single or just whatever in a bar right i mean you know you you're gonna ask certain questions for a comfort level and it's the same fucking game the shit doesn't change you know and as much as i hate to say it swingers we're all about community and most swingers 99 percent of swingers 95 percent of swingers are some of the coolest fucking people you'll ever meet swingers kinksters poly uh you know the overall blanket but there's some douchebags and and you know and because it's you know we have yet to figure out how to eliminate douchebags from society as a whole right and until we figure out how to eliminate douchebaggery across the board there's no way to completely eliminate douchebags from the lifestyle either you know so it just it becomes one of those it becomes one of those things with that kind of great interaction i just can't keep it's halftime i don't care okay okay real quick yeah i do care it is halftime really it's past, but that's because you went on a rant. I didn't go on a rant. I calmly discussed my point of view about fucked sticks and morons. Okay, so halftime, yeah. Oh, so anywho, hey, don't forget, if you have not already heard about it, then I don't know how, but you want to be a part of our giant Crazy Winter Nights party, January 17th through the 19th in Omaha, Nebraska. That's right. We are going to have, oh my God, what all do we have? We've got an 8,000 square foot dungeon. We're going to have over a hundred vendors at our vendor fair. We're going to have two different dinners. We're going to have two different parties, a leather and lace party Friday night, our big formal on Saturday where we'll give out our Casbah Lifestyler of the Year Award, Podcast of the Year Award, Business of the Year, and Group of the Year Award. We're going to have live bands. We're going to have DJs. We're going to have adult game room. We're going to have panelists. Some of the top sex, kink, and poly panelists in the world are going to be there. That's just the tip. So make sure that you visit us at www.crazy, that's crazy with a K, crazywinternights.com. Get your tickets today. Remember, the tickets continue to go up as the event gets closer, so don't delay. Get yours today, again, at www.crazywinternights.com.
Speaker3:
That rhyming, you didn't do the goofy face.
Speaker1:
I didn't do the goofy sound, but I did do that rhyming thing on purpose. Look at you go. Olay. Look at me. I'm all over this shit. Anyways. Okay, so I'm going to stay on this little rant and topic in general. You're like looking like, Jesus Christ. It'd be better if I could smoke in the studio. Hint. Hray in here i was given i don't i don't have my ashtray in here that's a decoration just saying can i open the window in the studio obviously not anyways okay so you want the sound to come in no okay bad enough we have a dog going but he's not in the studio. So, okay, so let's talk about this other thing about personal responsibility a little bit. It's not that cold just because you feel like you're dead. Jesus Christ. Are you going as a zombie? I need more clothes. No. Wrong answer, Pumpkin. We need a space heater. I'll sweat and you can be naked. Oh, space heater. Okay, so let's talk about, since we're going into the party season and personal responsibility, I want to throw this out here. And I hate doing this. We have to do this all the time. I know. But let's talk just a scotch about safety again. Okay. I feel like it's important. Okay. Especially, okay. It's been a while. So it's been a while. And here's the deal. So again, you know, know look i am fully aware of the fact that we are all adults and blah yeah whatever uh anyway so there are certain things remember if you are playing alone or even if you're not and this goes for guys and girls okay there is there is uh i'm seeing this more and more and more out there now with different things going on especially women with the sex trafficking and shit like that's going on look they're not just stealing fucking five-year-olds for this shit okay they're taking women adult women for this kind of shit so hey a couple little things remember if you're going to go whether even if it's not lifestyle you're going on a date right just a date whatever you need to make sure that somebody a friend somebody knows where you're going who you're supposed to be meeting with you know look again remember i told you there's 95 percent of people lifestyle cool and five percent are douchebags okay you want to make sure you don't have one of that five percent so you know what you probably have a picture send your friend a picture and a person's name and where you're going okay and and the time that you're going to check in okay and the thing is it's not to be it's not to be controlling and we've had this discussion before because it's like well if you're a husband and wife like well is the husband trying to control no it's not that i'm trying to control shit it's that i don't want to end up being on the news four days later you know in tears hoping Thank you. if you're a husband and wife like well is the husband trying to control no it's not that i'm trying to control shit it's that i don't want to end up being on the news four days later you know in tears hoping somebody finds you and brings you back you know so the reality of it is is that you need to let people you need to let people know if you're a single single gal single male single female single male either one you know what have another friend in the lifestyle Well that they don't even have to live in the same town just just that they know hey i'm going here this whatever and it's just a matter of it it's a safety thing look we live in a world that's pretty fucked up and twisted right so and and we we have dealt with on our page we had somebody that got booted off this is when we first started the page a couple that was on our page and an individual that was on our page he uh sexually assaulted her you know and we were able to help happily you know they were able to get that gosh remember that one bizarre bizarre uh was it a phone call through facebook oh yeah oh and we're just sitting sunday morning hung over as fuck what the hell yep before it was over before it was over i was calling the police in a in a city three states away to find the police and so they could send a deal like she it gives me goosebumps yeah it sounded like she was running and she said i'm in the woods i need help oh it That was, oh, I even. Sent a, well, no, she, and then she was okay. She was okay. But. and she said, I'm in the woods. I need help. Oh, it was, oh, even. Sent a wellness check. And then she was okay. She was okay. But she had been on a date that it went bad. And the thing was, is she didn't, we had never personally met her. She was on our page and just knew that had hurt our lives and felt like she couldn't, that we were somebody that would help her. So the thing is, is have that somebody uh you know so they know what's what's going what's going on you know a little bit uh and okay nancy put a great thing if you're traveling and this is a great one for hotel parties and stuff if you're traveling from a main the main party room in a hotel and you're going somewhere else go in pairs or if look if you're going to go play that's okay if you're going to go play no problem let somebody else know where you're going to go play or that you're going to go play it's not an infringement on anybody's right it's just literally a safety thing and the thing is this applies both for men and women when i was in college when we were in college uh it was this big thing you know women were getting attacked on campuses which is is not new or different or whatever and at the campus that i went to school at uh there was had been a rash of guys that had got attacked and raped mind you on campus there have been four different guys that got attacked and raped and people go well that would never happen to me well you know what you don't know what will happen to you it can so it's always better to err on the side of caution so yeah even just like that at crazy winter nights as an example we have a shit ton of security you should still let people know somebody else know where you're going it's just a great habit to get into right and the thing is is you should have a check-in time you really should it just it's the same reason we tell people you know we've always people boys in a test we play in a different city a lot of times and when you leave and it's three in the morning you've had a great night of fuckery and debauchery and debauchery, whatever, you were just fucking. Anyways, and they say Texas when you get home. It's just a common thing to make sure you got home okay. So it's the same type of thing. 99.999999% of the time, it doesn't matter. It's not going to happen. No. But if it ever does, it's nice to know and and so here's here's the other thing i say out here to guys like and to couples be willing especially for your single friends your single friends in the lifestyle be willing to be that contact person because you know when you're single you're single you know we have an advantage you and i go out somewhere you know that i'm always going to be watching out for you i know you're always going to be watching out for me when you're single you still want to have fun you don't necessarily have that same peace of mind to have that okay so you know hey couples be willing to be that somebody's peace of mind there are a lot of people in the town we've lived in, several are singles. Yeah, several are single women that we have told them. It doesn't matter if we were out with you or not. If you need help, you know, a situation goes south on you. You're playing in a hotel and all of a sudden the situation goes south. Call us. It doesn't matter if it's 2 in the morning. It doesn't matter if it's 3 in the morning. There's been a phone's a phone call of hey i ran out of gas can you come bring me some gas yeah at three at three in the morning and we did and we did and you know what and and we did it happily i mean because that again that's the community part of it so you know make sure that be that person don't you know don't just always assume now if you're the single or the individual don't take advantage of that situation don't cry wolf no okay that's not okay either but you know we you have to take and make sure that you have your wits about you with halloween season all over us people are in costumes they look differently they dress differently there's going to be way more booze consumed than normal i mean let's face it halloween is the fucking swingers main holiday i mean it's it's the biggest one out there so you got to have your wits about you a little bit and and i mean it goes the other way too watch out for each other look if you see somebody that's just fucking train wrecked ass drunk and you can see that they're getting hit on by a couple people that are fucking stone ass sober and that's headed in a really bad direction step the fuck up step the fuck up and be a man or be a woman and step in and go are you sure you want to do this you know somebody may be really pissed off that you cock blocked them or they might be really glad because they might not want to wake up the next morning and not know what the hell just happened but their dick hurts or their cooter hurts and they go well this couldn't be good so i mean you know step up and if you're if you're doing parties again you need to have people watching for that kind of shit protect your guests i hate having to do shit like that i hate having to do the serious stuff i mean it's not serious i mean it is serious but it's like you know it's hard to crack jokes about you know but i mean it's stuff that has to be talked about because it is party season it is the reality of it and i think this time of year i've been noticing a lot of the other pages because i'm on like 80 fucking pages right because this is all i do all day so i look at sex and and up. Whatever. For those of you who haven't met me, my one arm might look like Popeye. Anywho. So, but how many more people, they talk about their anniversary of joining the lifestyle or they're new and joining, it's around Halloween. so it makes me feel like you know there's a lot of people that their first introduction into the lifestyle tends to be around this time of year so that means here again we're at that time of year fresh meat no it's horrible but i mean there's gonna be well but there's gonna be new people and with new people comes new levels of what the fuck i mean you know they're not gonna have a clue I don't care what their Halloween costume is. They're the couple in the corner standing there looking like they just fucking are something straight out of our cartoon with their jaw dropping on the floor. Maybe a little bit of slobber coming out of their mouth. Just kind of standing there like going, ah but still you know you you've got to kind of help them out and those are the ones that are gonna be like okay well everybody else is at their top off quick give me the bottle glug you know that's gonna need liquid courage and liquid courage turns into you know train wreck been there done that yeah but now we do it on purpose because it's more fun that way i got to be known as the one that takes your clothes off you well you're just an outgoing personality no you just when you're drinking you're just impatient there's a huge difference yes i do you're just like are we gonna fuck what are we here for what the the hell is going on? Yeah, come on. Let's go on. Stick it in. Somebody stick it in. Tear in the headlights. You better believe it. I'm trying to make sure. I'm trying to read. I don't have my readers on. That didn't help. Yeah, again, Andy talks about making sure people contact when they make sure they got safe home. And absolutely. Yeah, I mean, look, safety in the lifestyle, everybody talks about it. It's funny. Most people, though, when they talk about safety in the lifestyle, the first thing they think of is condoms, right? They think safe sex, which is, I mean, I get it. But there's so many other parts of safety in the lifestyle, it's not even funny. I mean we talk about booze we make jokes about booze all the time well think what happens at parties people drink too much they can drink way too much you know i mean they're you know for a big party like ours we have medical staff because you can have somebody get way too drunk we've seen people passed out in the bathroom yeah i mean we we've other parties yeah we've seen it all so i mean you know it's just one of those things that there's lots of parts of it that you have to do and no it's not necessarily the it makes for great stories look let's face it everybody needs a drunk guy there okay and i try and i'm available for hire if you need your drunk guy let me call me today just keep the strong but i mean it granted it's entertaining but i mean there are things that with the safety aspect of it it's just one of those things and safety playing alone i think for us because it's a new because we haven't been playing alone for that long not really and not compared to how long we've been in the lifestyle. It's been a couple years now. Yeah. So, but we had to reevaluate and we had to relook at that and we had to re, you know, understand that, that part of it. And I think probably, I think some of the singles have a better grasp of that than couples that start to play alone. Because let's face it, we've got some single females. They've been a while so they're like used to that i mean to them this is all like typical shit that they do in the bar scene it's the couple that hasn't ever hasn't been single for 25 years that goes on that new adventure that they have to be those are things they don't think about they don't you know what i mean because you don't you're like you're just so excited you're sticking a dick in somebody else yes rum and coke for cole absolutely patrick thank you very much keep pushing that because i want as many people to know that as possible make sure you make them burnt cole likes them burnt rum and coke double tall burnt uh just don't let you make them when you start drinking oh no but let me make make your drinks. It's awesome. So, yeah, that kind of stuff. Okay, so we're hitting the safety stuff. Again, common sense thing with parties. We had a whole thing on this last year. Keep your drink with you at all times or hand it to somebody you completely trust, like really know that they trust because people roofie shit and it's super fucking easy to do. So have some control of that.
Speaker3:
I don't ever let it down until you're done and right but you can't stop necessarily you won't know that somebody's doing it until after it's happened some remember some of these fucking people will take and roofie just random drinks to see what shakes out some people will go after specific people but if if you can do things yes keep your drink in your hand at all times keep look they've done that there's been the youtube videos that show all the time people send their a spouse the female gets up to to go to the bathroom and the guy the guy had just walked up and engages the husband in a conversation and fucking drugs or drink and once you come back don't drink that i just put a roofie in that i mean it can literally happen that fast so you know have control yourself look if you have bottles and stuff if it's byob and you're bringing on bottles instead of having the cooler with open bottles in the main party room keep in your room make the trips back and forth you know cups with lids on them that's a that's a great you know we do like the big sippy cups not sippy cups but you know cups with lids on them look yeah you have to you she's only for pineapple you have you have to do those things because the reality of it is is there are people out there again especially at the big events the bigger the event the bigger the possibility look there's a reason we have 40 fucking plus security people at at our event but even then even unless i don't even know if you ran drug sniffing dogs through there if you could if you could get them but all you can do is do your best to again party hosts they try your own personal accountability you know and your spouses And that's why, you why, you know, we went to the party. We've told this story before. The one party where everybody's drinks were getting fucking got roofied. I got roofied. I know I got roofied. You got roofied. Because we're pretty good drinkers, trained professionals. And I had three rum and cokes, and I was rolling down a wall and could i had to get help to get into oh that the car and and okay look at that point in time there were weekends i could drink a bottle of rum and still be walking just fine and it was that was really early on in the lifestyle it was but we've still been doing i was a lightweight because i but i had a drink and a half and you'reurred my words, and you're like, you are done. Yeah, and I couldn't. And then all of a sudden, boom. And everybody, and there are a lot of people we've since known that were drinkers. Everybody was like not normal fucked up. You know, if you see somebody, and I'm going to put this out here again too, man, if you see somebody fucking fucking with somebody else's drink you fucking get a hold of a party host right fucking now you find somebody you don't tell them about it the next day look we had somebody that we have suspicions that thought they did it at a different party guess what they're banned from ours okay so you have to get you have to get a hold of somebody and if you see somebody hanging around suspiciously around somebody's drink or table.
Speaker1:
Let them know, yes.
Speaker2:
You know what?
Speaker3:
Let that person know and go, you might want to go make another one.
Speaker1:
Yeah, go make another one.
Speaker3:
I'd rather throw away a $9 drink.
Speaker1:
Yeah, fuck yeah.
Speaker3:
Than to go through not remembering and you never know what.
Speaker1:
Except I hate when I waste money on that shit. I'm just kidding. Well, and that's the other thing. Remember this too,
Speaker2:
when people,
Speaker1:
hey, let me buy you a drink.
Speaker3:
I've been guilty of that.
Speaker1:
Well, it's easy to forget, you know. It's like, here, if you want to buy me a drink, okay, we'll go up to the bar together and I'll let the bartender make it. Look, we know people that, with whole bottles, whole bottles, have roofied a whole bottle and then are off for free shots. And it's always here, drink it out of this bottle. And we know that. That has happened. So you have to have control of your shit because the reality is once you're fucked up, I mean, that's when shit gets weird. Unless you know the person that's buying it. Right, exactly. Well, yeah, obviously, if you know the person know the person but i mean the thing is is yeah if you see somebody and they're just milling around a table and then they wander off when the people come back yeah you need to say something you have to let people know so they can stop this parties look lifestyle parties are a fucking blast when there's a little bit of some drinking involved and there's a whole lot of nudity involved and music and it's a blast but when you have stupid shit like roofie and you know people having to do you know shit happening that they don't want to have happen that's not fun and that that taints like everything you know with with a party okay so then you can go into the not to interrupt you in your thought process i'm used to but yeah i know but i thought that popped into my head was no me no no means no we all know that no means no but doing hounding it doesn't just apply to men not giving up. It also women you've had it happen to you where one gal would not leave you alone what and he didn't want to be you didn't want to be rude and say no i don't want to have sex with you he just kept brushing her off and no you know no not right now you know well look me you know but she didn't get the hint right and she kept badgering yeah yep and you're like let's go like a fucking honey badger yeah no it it happens both ways and and it doesn't matter again that that is something no means no and it doesn't matter when the no even if you don't get a direct no take a fucking hint take a clue look the challenge with this stuff is that everybody we all want to have fun okay and and we want to and i get it and there's a degree of lust and a degree of everything else with it but the reality of it is is that it sets a precedent okay i don't care if you are midway fucking a girl and all of a sudden she goes stop stop that means stop now not two more threats that means stop now no means no stop means stop and there's never exceptions to those rules and again if someone make it clear not like a oh stop because you've had that happen and it was just and i stopped and they're like no keep going okay yeah no make it make it clear but it's still it's still better to err on the side of caution the reality and again if someone is not adhering to those rules if hear it, you don't necessarily have to be the one to interject right there, but go get a host, get somebody else involved. You have a responsibility to report shit when it happens, not later, not the next day, not the next week, not the next year for the party. You have a responsibility to report stuff right here, right now, because the only way as a party host we can solve the fucking problem is if you report it. If you're a party host that cares to stop the problem. Right, and if you're a party host that doesn't care to stop the problem, fuck you, and then you need to make sure you let everybody know what a douchebag the party host is. That's how that works. I mean, there's no middle ground there, okay? But to you have to do your part if you don't report it until two weeks later god damn it you're perpetuating the problem you're making it worse now i want to throw another thing out there because we've seen this just recently kids remember something if you went to a party in an event you're getting close i don't care you went to a party or an event right and the party was a great time at the party but you had an issue you went back to your room whatever the case may be you went back to hook up with an individual or or whatever and there was an issue make sure that you do not confuse the event with the the after hours activities okay That's not fair to people that bust their ass putting these events on. Okay? So make sure that, look, if you had a bad experience with an individual or whatever that you were doing on the side, hey, don't bash the whole event. You know, that's important. Make sure we all know there's a difference there. So apparently I've just babbled and went all the way we haven't laughed very much fuck okay anyways all right so uh with that we're gonna go but remember be safe out there for halloween as it's all coming and going and getting ready kids remember please sign up for crazy winter nights you are not going to want to miss this 1800 people this will be the biggest sex positive poly swinger kingster event that has ever been put on and you want to be on the right side of history and be there visit www.crazywinternights.com don't forget also to go to our regular store and get some of our crazy truth and crazy casbah merchandise at www.crazy k-r-a-z-y casbah k-a-s-b-h dot com remember to like our pages check out our show visit us send us your questions
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until next time mmm till next time doing it the only way
