Krazy Truth #68 Miss Manners swinger style

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Speaker1: Hey kids, the program you're about to listen to contains some adult situations, adult language, themes, and other adult topics. If you're easily offended, this show's not for you. Hey you crazy motherfuckers, welcome back to another edition of Crazy Truth. I am your host with the most, I am Cole, and i'm here with the lovely lovely traveler miss amanda hey and we are here to spew our knowledge on all things swinging and otherwise related guess what we're recording on a different night tonight it's not sunday it's monday i know it is hey by the way this two, episode number 68. Do you know what that means? Yes. We're one step closer to 69. Closer to 69. Woo. I love a special. That's best. That episode will be one though. That'll blow your mind. Blow something. It'll keep you coming over and over again you're a goof oh my lord i got all week to get that planned i know you do that's gonna be awesome yeah it's scary yep are you done that'll be the new theme for episode 69 anywho uh so we are here so yes it is monday happy labor day uh for those of you who hear this on thursday happy belated labor day we didn't record yesterday because we were we were on the the road celebrating family things that's one way to put his family lives to be a gazillion years old we're actually celebrating amanda's what are you doing i'm i need more headphones i need more gourd exactly give it to me baby uh uh yeah so we were off busy uh celebrating 100th birthday so there you go so that's what you have to look forward to amanda will be doing this podcast long after i'm dead just saying your next hopefully your next husband's first name starts with a K2. That'd suck if you had to change it to like Crazy Tazba Or Crazy Bazba Or some shit like that Stays the way it is Yeah it's part of the deal You get to fuck Miss Amanda But the name stays the same. Anywho. So, yeah. So, on this special holiday edition, I hope everybody was safe, sound, didn't get their cooter or penis sunburned from being laid out on decks enjoying the last days of summer as we head into the frolicky
Speaker2: fall.
Speaker3: Time for more clothing.
Speaker2: God.
Speaker1: Okay, so we've got all kinds of fucking questions and stuff to to uh address and otherwise so hey you know here's what's great so because we are getting ready to go into are you gonna make it there what the hell is going on you all right i told you to take a nap before recording the fucking show. Like I had time to take a nap. Well, you could have. Anyway, go on.
Speaker3: Anywho.
Speaker1: So as we're getting ready to go into Halloween season, we've got some really good questions that relate to partays and the like and such and whatnot.
Speaker2: Okay. Okay.
Speaker1: So the first question comes to us from mel and beth mel and beth okay uh and they it comes to us from seattle okay that's pretty cool isn't it anywho so uh what they're they are relatively new couple in the lifestyle so they've been in it for a while i found out they've been in it for right in the neighborhood of like six to eight months, somewhere in there. And they're now starting to get invites and things like that to parties. So what they're trying to figure out, what is proper etiquette when it comes to parties, on committing to parties and letting people know about parties? Their actual question is, is it okay to commit to a party and then back out is actually their question so i kind of expanded upon it i broadened the horizons if you will there you go of of proper etiquette for parties okay yeah great all right awesome neat i didn't want to see if you'd sit there quietly okay so uh here's the thing when it comes to party so because we are going into the party season okay we can talk about this on a couple of different levels right we can talk about it as participants we can talk about it as party planners and and hosts and whatnot okay and we can talk about it as as uh people that aren't going okay okay so okay my biggest thing is this swingers are notorious for we all know that you know most of these events like you got to get on the list to be able to go to a party right right you have to be on the list you have to be on the list you have to be on a list so one thing that we found in all of our years of swinging is that a shit ton of people the number one thing people do all the time is they'll sign up for they'll say yes they're going to anything because what they're doing is is they're getting it on the list just to make sure they're on it they're on it they can go okay here's the thing with that and i get that and i understand that but if you put yourself on a list but then you know way earlier that you can't go it's really nice etiquette to let people know i mean here's the thing as a party planner and i don't care if you're throwing a house party or well let's simplify it down from that if you're going out on a dinner date with another couple not even swingers just people you're gonna eat with not eat out just eat okay just people you're gonna eat with if you have something come up and you're supposed to go out with them to dinner on friday but you find out on monday you can't go proper etiquette would be to do what let them know let them know on monday you don't wait till thursday night or friday morning and go yeah well you know i can't go you you let them know earlier right that's common courtesy the same fucking rules apply when it comes to a swinger party whether it be a meet and greet whether it be a big party what it doesn't matter right the sooner you can let somebody know because a number one a couple things you might not know they could have a set number of attendees this is really a big one like on on house parties and smaller parties right if look i'm gonna throw a house party and i only want like 10 10 to 12 couples there so i'm gonna keep that i'm gonna maybe turn other people down because i think that spot's filled right and then all of a sudden the event shows up or the night of or the day of you go uh we can't come well now all of a sudden i'm like well fuck now i only have eight couples right now granted we understand if shit can come up wait are you saying anything it's like you've eaten peanut butter all day. I'm just fucking... But, okay, we understand in real life, shit can come up. Right. Right? I mean, it can be somebody can get a period, somebody can get sick, somebody can get... Or a sitter can't go. Or a sitter can't go. Well, why'd you roll your eyes with that? Because you started off with it. Because that happens a lot it does yeah because here's the reality when you could have when you when you could have when you had the honor of having a period i mean when you when you were on the rag did you just be like oh let's go to a sex party where i can only suck dick no you did you feel sexy no no okay and i think a lot of people feel like they still have to have to go no i mean shit like that happens okay and we went through the whole thing where that's happened and there's been tears and there's been googling everything on the internet on how to stop it it doesn't work yeah you don't even like jello and you were drinking warm jello and all kinds of fucking shit so okay we understand shit like that can happen but the problem is most time people don't show or they just ghost they just don't they don't show okay that fucks shit up when you're trying to plan for numbers and everything else even if it's a bigger hotel party or or or you know like like we put on big big parties there's a limited number of spaces available so you i understand just wanting to get on the list i think one of the things that drives me fucking insane as a party planner uh is the fact of when people get on the list and they're there but they're just it's only there in case something better comes up okay Fuck you if you're looking for something better look make a goddamn decision and go with it it doesn't have to be it doesn't have to be either you want to go or you don't if you don't want to go don't just click attend so you look like one of the cool kids sometimes i think it's they click it with intentions of going and then don't or just in case we don't know if we're gonna we're undecided so put me on the list and we'll determine the day before if we're gonna go or not right exactly now now nancy she's off for those that don't know we have the secret uh facebook page crazy Facebook page, Crazy Casbah. So they listen to life. And one thing she put is, it's very rude, especially when there's a limited amount of single males. You're taking a spot from someone else who could go and get turned down because there is no room. And look, that happens all the time. Well, crazy summer nights. There are people that reserved camper spaces and there was only a limited number of camper spaces and then several didn't show up and we're like you could have let us know because those camper spots could yeah because somebody because somebody else could could uh do it and and like nancy goes on to say if you're planning and just having a crazy winter summer nights you're planning for food and stuff like that well you can't plan for that if you don't know how many people are going to be there the worst thing in the world you want is somebody to come to your party and then everybody else gets to eat but there's no food for them or you didn't plan for enough you're trying to panic or whatever the case may be or games and activities it's like or gift bags like we do gift bags at crazy winter nights so we want to make sure there's one for everybody it's like letting look you wouldn't how many of you take and accept a dinner invite again non-fucking non-swinging just a dinner invite going well we'll say yes unless something better comes up i mean that's crap people don't do that that's rude people don't do that so don't do it to your people that are planning events i mean if you have to cancel the sooner you can cancel the better off it is that's the polite thing to do okay uh and and it's regardless of the event now right along with that here's the other thing that swingers love to do this isn't about about how when to cancel swingers are notorious oh my god for at the last second they haven't committed right and then the last second they're like well hey can i come can i come to the party now look we as usually as party players you try to accommodate right you try to accommodate people but again you know you you can't always do that you can't just it doesn't work that way because okay so let's go to house parties for a second we believe and you tell me if you don't agree with this we believe if you're going to throw a house party it's proper etiquette to take and let the people that are attending know who else being invited okay that's's to save the big D word, not dick, but drama or dickheads. See how that works? So if all of a sudden, the last minute, there's a last-minute add to the lineup, okay, well, that last-minute add to the lineup, that couple, it's like, oh, well, sure, okay, we needed a couple anyways. Well, you could have three other couples that hate their guts or vice versa, and now you've got the big D and not the good guy or you have people that are off limits right or you have people that are off limits and you don't want to avoid the situation well and the other thing is people aren't maybe they're not accountable maybe some some people are newer couples so they want more people that they're familiar with whatever the case may be okay and again as a party planner like for the hotel takeovers and events like that damn it no you can't just just be bopping at the last minute the day of the party when you're a party planner you are trying to get stuff ready you are you're running around with your head cut off oh yeah there there is no there is no it's you, it's not like you're just, it's not like, no, I can't read that, it's too small.
Speaker3: Oh, Jesus.
Speaker1: I don't have my readers on, I have my shades on. It's not like you can just stop what you're doing and spend the whole damn time going back and forth and, you know, checking email every two minutes. What the fuck is this doing?
Speaker2: Goddamn.
Speaker1: Anyways, you can't stop every two minutes and check emails to see if somebody new has agreed to sign up motherfucker oh it's gonna piss me off just keep going anyways uh so you know that kind of stuff you can't you can't do that you have to let people know and i think it's what's happened is it's become like this constant thing that for so long swingers have been able to get away with this right it's like it's like this wild west free for all is it a regional thing you think i don't know i i mean i think that it can't i know we have it here we have it here i i mean i've seen on other sites like reddit and stuff like that that it happens all over okay i think a lot of the clubs though what you find is the clubs are getting more and more uh harsh on you have to be pre-registered you know you have to be look a lot of people you have to be vetted you know before you can go to their party so you can't choose at the last minute to just go and i think that but i okay so we hear this excuse all the time well and and again i'm going to use our parties as an example because they're it's a good example wow uh you have you take and go well all right because crazy winter nights is in january right people go well i don't even know what i'm going to be doing tomorrow let alone in january okay that's bullshit that is complete bullshit here's how here's how i look at this look if if um i don't fucking know if uh garth brooks is coming in fucking concert okay garth brooks and any other band they don't book their concerts you don't buy tickets the week of yeah right they announce it like six months in advance or three months in advance and you buy tickets so here's the deal you still don't know what you're going to be doing in three months from now but when you spend two hundred dollars for a fucking ticket now you know what the fuck you're going to be doing you make arrangements you make arrangements and you make it work and if you wait till the last minute and you wait till the last minute what happens you're buying tickets for a thousand bucks from a scalper okay and hope they're good okay so for some odd reason though like in the lifestyle like this is like the most common thing to do is to try to take in and like wait and put and and put shit off to to make sure something better doesn't come around this is like being in college this is exactly how i think of this shit okay so I don't know. Oh, here's a better example. Good analogy. So a guy, if you ask a guy who's engaged, right, or before they get engaged, why do they get cold feet? They're like, well, they're nervous like well they're nervous blah well the truth is what happens is when they get engaged or before they get engaged they think back to all the nights that they went out and they picked this chick up from the bar and fucked her and it was crazy and wild and fun all right that's it now this thought that rolls through their head but here's the thing when they really do the fucking math here's what really fucking happened that happened like four times in their fucking life the rest of the night they got drunk they went out with their friends got drunk came home lonely depressed jacked off ate some pizza and went to sleep okay then all of a sudden when you put it in that perspective like well hey okay i guess it didn't is that really why they get cold feet a part of it they think they're losing their freedom what's their fucking freedom whacking off in a sock by themselves at three in the morning feeling like a fucking loser i mean it's well it's the truth that i mean that's okay so it's it's the same type of thing it's like okay well maybe there's just one maybe a better party will pop up yes we've all had that party that started off as like i don't know you just showed up the bar and next thing you know it's four in the morning and there's a pile of fucking 25 naked people and you don't even know where your dick's been and it's just been this insane night and you just walk out going oh how many times does that fucking happen you're just looking at me like have we had that yet does that ever happen i mean you early on we had some like that right but it but the thing is is when you're constantly chasing waiting for I don't know.
Speaker3: I don't know.
Speaker1: I don't know. I don't know.
Speaker3: I don't know. I don't know.
Speaker1: I don't know. I don last minute because we don't know what we want to do no big parties well yeah big parties within reason we have never never committed or uncommitted to a party no less than two weeks in advance never i gotta think about it seriously well we haven't okay yes i'm sorry we have there's people that have hit us up on like friday morning hey we're having a house party you want to come over tonight no we we have like we have like fucking ink say that because we didn't have time we weren't ready your cooter wasn't shaved my dick wasn't shaved whatever the case may be but that doesn't happen very fucking often we're we're pretty much like all in uh what's amy saying i see that there too never happened when i go to the bar you're going to the wrong bar amy uh anyway so the thing is is that nancy has had somebody a single male that she messaged him the next day and said how come he didn't show up and they got cold said, he got cold feet. Well, okay. As a single, I can kind of see that. Okay. I can see as a single, whether it be male or female, like at the last minute going, oh, fuck, I'm not going to know anybody and like freaking out a little bit. But again, look, if you don't know, be honest and get a hold of the people that are hosting the party ahead of time. let them know your concerns because here's the deal maybe they can put you in touch with some other singles that are going to come or they can do a they'll look out for you to introduce you to people right exactly don't just assume that it's probably going to suck i mean don't assume there's something better and don't assume it's just going suck that's that's fucking stupid don't do that okay so sometimes work comes up last minute we gotta understand that but email message something there you go that's the other part i know this wasn't part of the question but when we're talking about etiquette i'm gonna totally hit this because we've seen this we did have a single male at Crazy Winter Nights last year
Speaker3: that during the meet and greet on Friday, he got up and he said, I'm so sorry. I just got called into work. I have to go.
Speaker2: Yeah.
Speaker1: I mean, literally.
Speaker3: And he felt horrible.
Speaker2: Yes.
Speaker1: But we also had a single male.
Speaker3: But we understand those circumstances. They do happen.
Speaker1: We also had a single male that got a hold of us. He was scheduled because of when Crazy Winter Nights is. It's in the winter and snow and all that fun crap. Was like, he was going to have to be on call because he works for the road crews. And at the very last minute, he called me that day, the day of, and he goes, I was able to trade. I have this weekend off. I know it's last minute. Can I still come? Okay, we get that.
Speaker2: Okay?
Speaker1: But let's talk about that if you can't come for a minute. Because we've seen this happen at the world-famous Bone Stock. We've seen it happen at Crazy Summer Nights. We've seen it happen at other people's parties we've went to. If you can't come if you've said you're coming and you're unable to attend okay for whatever reason doesn't matter common fucking courtesy common courtesy look if you're supposed to meet your mom and dad for dinner Not to have sex with them Just saying But to meet him for dinner Okay And so supposed to meet your mom and dad for dinner and this is not to have sex with them just saying but to meet him for dinner okay and something comes up at the last minute do you ghost him at the fucking restaurant and then and then when they call the next day and go are you okay just don't answer the fucking phone no fuck no you wouldn't i mean that's you want a lecture i mean that's fucking that that even sounds stupid saying right yeah but the reality of it is it's the same fucking uh thing which is look if if if you can't come to a party or especially especially when a special exception has been made for you to go to a party and then you decide not to show up okay you're not gonna be invited back you're not gonna be that's when you get blacklisted that's when that's when you get fucking banned for life and you should because you know what that's rude weird here's the thing let me help you out with this If you're a dick or a cooter about common courtesy to my event or to an event, the odds of me sticking my dick in you or allowing a dick, or in your case, allowing someone to stick their dick in you, goes from whatever percentage it was fucking zero why would why would i have sex with someone who was that irresponsible in that route i wouldn't okay so keep that in mind i mean and that's that's the general thing plus if you've been on a guest list there's probably other people that are excited to have you be there and all of a sudden and they go where's so where's bob where's bob we have no idea where bob is bob always signs up and bob never shows up bob's a dick don't be like bob see how that goes so i mean it's that kind of common sense thing it's like you know there there's there's just a degree of it's a community so word travels in a community so you want to try to do things to to help that i i understand a lot of people can't understand this until you throw a party so what's a party everybody's thrown a birthday party non-swing okay think out don't put away your junk for a second an outside an outside party like if you're throwing a wedding or you're throwing a birthday party it sucks ass when people don't rsvp or when they do rsvp and they don't show this is the same thing it just involves instead of pin the tail on the donkey just get the tail you know what i mean it's a it's the same type of thing right you're just looking at me okay so well i'm like when a wedding's a pretty good example because you have so many invites you send out you get so many back so you plan for that amount people and then you cater all the food in and you pay for the DJ and it's going to be, and you say, no, I only need this much of the hall. I don't need the whole thing. Yep. And then all of a sudden half the people show up. Yeah. And people are going to go, well, but this is different because it's swinging. No, it's not. Look, there's a lot of work, whether it be a house party. Let me tell you what, for people that throw house parties, it's really a lot of work whether it be a house party it let me tell you what for people that throw house parties it's really a lot of work because that takes a special level of courage to open your home to to have this type of i mean look if if you have a house party and it goes south you can't just leave like you're fucking stuck that you live there so unless you're just going to desert your house with these people you know so that takes a lot of courage and guts and if you can do things to make it easier then you should do that i mean i totally i totally believe in that basic concept nancy has it she goes we had one sign up four times even though we banned him after the fourth time of canceling that's a little too much you're not going to get invited back no no and nancy i gotta tell you what that's you're being a saint to have went four times to have dealt with it four times and and that's just it though when you put on these parties you want as many people as possible can come or whatever your numbers are a house party you want all the guests that you invited to be there you're excited there's a reason you invited them and then when they when they go so they don't show or even worse they don't show and then all of a sudden they disappear completely until the next time they see somewhere that you posted about having a party and then all of a sudden these people magically appear again and it's like no knock that shit off man i mean it's just a coolness fact and here's the thing that is not exclusive to singles or couples or i mean we've seen couples be that way single males single females you know it's just common common courtesy so i'm actually going to lead into the next i hope that answers that question i don't know what was the original question what the proper etiquette is on the proper etiquette on canceling and given the okay or canceling a party uh and that one came out of Seattle, and so we appreciate that question. This one came through, and there was an interesting thing with this question. This actually came to us from Anonymous in Houston, Texas. And this question was really, really interesting, and this question was a great standalone question okay okay how much vetting is too much vetting for a party so i responded i said what what do you mean that's too vague so how much they were going to they had been invited to a party they are single they had been invited by another single and to get in to the party they were supposed to
Speaker2: required They had been invited to a party. They are single. They had been invited by another single.
Speaker1: And to get in to the party, they were supposed to be required to send a full body picture, a face picture, a screenshot of whatever website, social media, whatever that involved the lifestyle. And they felt like that was a little over, and an email, but that was a little over the top and i'm going yeah that's well i mean it depends i think a body picture is unnecessary well that's just it that would make me feel very self-conscious and i wouldn't go well that this person felt like that it was a uh that maybe it was a picture collector The person did not go to the party because they felt like that was too much. Okay. Okay. So I had to do research on this because, like, for our parties, the parties that we throw, and the parties that, a lot of the parties that we attend, the vetting process is already done. Either, you know, they come off of our secret, our secret secret webpage or or another website that we know vets also so like to come to ours we don't we don't do that because they're can we know where they're coming from already so I had to do research on it so it's not uncommon in other regions not here in the Midwest but it's not uncommon in other regions that that people will advertise that they'll have maybe bigger house parties or more like a you know like a floor of a hotel not a full hotel takeover type thing and that it is open more to general people within the community within the lifestyle so and that that's pretty common that they will require some form of vetting usually what i found in the research and and if you guys have other thoughts let us know but what we found is a lot of what they do they require a face picture okay which makes sense so that they can they know when the the picture that they get matches with the person knocking on the door right as well as uh something from whoever is coming with them that's that's vetting them and i did find some ways that would require a picture of the people together the person that's vetting really the person that's bringing them and so and and so i actually this was a club in phoenix that that required that so i got a hold of the club and asked them why and they said because uh they've had it's happened before in the past where somebody's saying this yeah i approve this person and all these people come piling in and then basically the the person was selling like hey you want to go to a swingers party hey you want to go to a swingers party nice type type thing so and they require that those people go together okay some clubs actually require that if it's a couple standing for another couple they show up together but it's not incumbent for a face pic. I was going to say, face picture, I understand. Body picture, I don't.
Speaker3: No, that's to find out whether or not you fit whatever other criteria right um a website username type of thing i get to see if it's pretty much more research to find out where they heard from it right but shouldn But shouldn't you trust the person that somebody had to get an invite? Well, there's been times that we've been asked face picture and username. Yes. Yes, we have. So either it's a common website or something along those lines. Yes. So actually it's a way to track which website is giving them it's more of a marketing thing for the business which website gives them business right yeah which is true that's very true and then uh email i can understand for like an email list but then you need to say that yeah you need to tell them what it's for and you know if you want on our email list to go to any of our future parties then supply us an email right exactly and and that and that's and that look i guess the
Speaker1: biggest thing i would say with it with it is if people are asking for more than you're comfortable with don't go don't go right don't go because if they're if you're uncomfortable before you even walk through the fucking door then you're probably not going to be comfortable after you after you get inside just saying so i mean it's what you're comfortable with but yes i think there can be We'll be right back. fucking door then you're probably not going to be comfortable after you after you get inside just saying so i mean it's what you're comfortable with but yes i think there can be i i also think there's a little bit of an extreme with with some of this crap hey look here's the deal yes i understand there are people that you know being outed can affect families and jobs and a lot of shit there's no doubt about it we're not we do not support on our pages if you're found out to be outing people you get booted in a band right you know we don't tolerate it but by the same token look here's the deal okay i think people need to understand how the internet works okay just just a scoge right look if you have your if you've ever put a picture of your dick on the internet or your cooter on the internet and then you deleted it it's still out there it never goes away okay no place can guarantee you 100 percent, 100 percent protection. They can't look the, you know, Equifax got fucking hacked and millions and millions of identities are stolen. You know, the U.S. Department of Security Defense has been hacked. I mean, there's no way to it. But by the same token, I don't I think there's a lot less people just out there's not that many swinger hunters out there patrolling the waters i don't think there's there's not just hundreds of let's see if we can ruin this person's life today look there's not there's not these fucking hounds of press that are just sneaking around like we need do a a swinger story i think more people are outed because of drama and the bullshit part of it it's probably a way bigger cause than than somebody actually chasing you around i i honestly doubt if you called the local newspaper said hey you want to do a story on swingers i i don't think there'd be a huge level of interest with that but i mean i get it but by the same token look i know of a club within a 500 mile radius of us that got so over fucking paranoid about about the whole the whole thing they started to make people they threw really good parties their party parties were really popular but they started to make people go through jump through more and more hoops and the problem was people went all the hoops plus the cost don't outweigh the fun and honestly what it started to become like was it it almost it made people they actually had people question okay are we doing something illegal i mean that's what that's the fear because it became that it was like secret knock there'll be a secret message under the mailbox and 58th and you know r street and you know all this kind of shit if it's that much work i'm not gonna go do the hokey pokey turn yourself around you know i mean no it it's like it actually freaked people out and it was like as their crowds dwindled and here's what happened their club is gone and it was an on-site club and their club is gone because it became that much of that much of hoops to jump through and then all of a sudden other other forms of vetting weren't good enough and there just became this whole degree of paranoia with it it's like look most people don't give two fucks look if you just act natural i mean really that's it it's like driving behind a cop if you drive behind a fucking cop or cops behind you and all of a sudden you you fucking just you're out there you're doing turn signals and hand signals out the side of the car window too and and you slow down to 10 miles under the speed limit and you're 10 and 2 and you're all 10 you look guilty yeah so it's the same type of thing. If you walk into a place, and you're like, you know, your trench coat's up, and you're like, dun. You're like trying to sneak. Then you're drawing curiosity. It's like, walk in, do your shit, nobody notices. It's really weird how that works. You know? I mean, it just, I don my that's my that's my thought on it so i mean i do now again let's not take this the wrong way yes vetting is good yes we believe in protecting privacy right i'm gonna have a whole show on fucking hate mail i know how this fucking goes you guys are assholes but sometimes they're a little carried away yeah it it it is what it is remember this shit is not rocket science that's right that's really the big thing it's not rocket science somebody didn't turn their sound off on their phone it's vibration actually that's not a vibration it's not a phone it's in the wrong spot she's testing new. Just saying. And that's a story we're fucking sticking with. How are we doing on time? How are we doing? Did you want to do a halftime? I want to do a halftime. I don't know. Do I? Why don't you do it this time? Go. Hey, all right. Well, we'll talk about it real quick. Real quick halftime don't forget uh our crazy winter nights did you want the other guy to show up you're looking at me all like our crazy winter nights party is january 17th through the 19th in omaha nebraska uh to get more information about it get your tickets today sign up we've got a weekend and a half planned for you. You go to www.crazy K-R-A-Z-Y
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Speaker1: Like I could show up You never know Crazy No I pass Ha, sure uh-huh like i could show up you never know crazy no i pass it's been too long of a day for that it has been kind of a long day hasn't it all right so our next question that's good yeah i think we answered it but vexing no what's vexing vex what no vetting i might need some more sleep who fucking knows uh okay so the next question uh comes to us hold on where does it come to us let me all hell broke loose there sorry i do still use pen and paper. It's weird how that works. Get with the times. I know, I know. Yeah, that's what I roll. Okay. Oh, I just want to make sure that I had it right. Okay. Sorry. You're fine. I'm just trying to do the best I can. I'm so sorry. Okay. So our next question comes to comes to us from mike and michelle and they are out of lubbock texas i'm having trouble with my headset but they're doing goofy stuff with their hair uh yeah so um mike and michelle out of lubbock texas their question was they asked how far is too far to travel for a party We'll be nothing back. So I'm assuming they're traveling for the holiday weekend at a party probably somewhere. Your looks are just i get to do i get to do all the follow-up stuff with this stuff and you know yeah yeah so well and i get it because it's halloween season coming up you can tell i'm pretty geared for halloween just saying anyways you're just looking at me tonight no i just keep hearing sounds and i want to look to the window bring out studio uh okay so there's we've talked about this before this is like you travel whatever your heart desires yeah that's just it there's look there is no manual on swinging in the lifestyle some people like to travel within like 20 minutes some people go to new orleans go to seattle they go all over yeah it depends what you're looking for in a party i mean here's a type of party here's what's really really cool there are badass types of parties all over the country all year long i mean there are events that are completely kink events i mean that that's their whole focus is kink there's events that are completely poly there's events that are uh swinger there is all sizes whether you want there are events that are really really private and really really uh exclusive there are events that are really big you know you have people go like to temptations and stuff absolutely yeah there's temptations there's desires there's cruises you can go on there's there's you know you have some like naughty new orleans that had like i mean they filled three hotels there's also events out there where it's 12 couples you know that will we'll get a mansion uh you know rent a mansion on the down on the coast and stuff so it's not so much how far do you want to travel it's a lot of it's how much do you want to spend okay that's a big part look there is a lot of really cool events out there if you're willing to look and try to see what's out there and find them it takes a little bit of work again remember because it's swinging there are sources like sls and a lot of the other pages have event sections and promote different events but if you do a little bit of looking you can find some really cool shit we're very fortunate because we have a lot of people tell us about cool events going on okay so you know that we had a friend that was just down in in austin uh for an event this last weekend you know we we have So, first of all, events going on okay so you know that we had a friend that was just down in in austin uh for an event this last weekend you know we we have a friend that's talked to us about different events as far out as new jersey and portland all different places so what do you want to spend which leads to that next question well how much is the right amount to spend it depends that's what's in your budget look there are people that are spending between five and ten thousand dollars to go on a six-day cruise okay to some people that might sound like sweet mother of fuck are you kidding me to other people that's gonna be like pshaw you know that's just a that's just a drop in the bucket you know i i guess the the only recommendation i have if you're going to travel, is do your research. So really, I'm not going to answer that of how far is the right way to go. Just do your research on the events so that you know what the requirements are to get in. And nothing would suck any worse than to have a boner all the way down, driving all the way to Florida, only to find out when you get there, you can't get in. I'd just be like, oh. So yeah, make sure you know what you have to get. Some of these, some events you have to book years in advance or a year in advance. So make sure you know what the type of event is. Make sure you know what it takes to get in and then whatever your budget allows. And it's whatever types of gatherings you like. Yes. And here's the thing. You can find reviews on events. Mm-hmm. Okay. And I'm, okay. So, we went to an event a couple years ago. And what it was billed as and what it was were fucking night and day difference. Mm-hmm. I'm not going to say where it was because that would say too much but it was it was the whole thing was it was billed as like this swinger convention when we got there it was primarily bdsm like totally bdsm i mean we're sitting there going what in the fuck are we doing there and they had even and and they got trashed for it because they marketed it shitty they marketed they talked about how many people were going to be there and they totally over exaggerated oh there's gonna be you know 10 000 people there there was like not anywhere close to that no you know uh i mean it was just it was just from the moment we got there it was one giant clusterfuck is what it was so we learned a lot from it but whatever so the big thing is is do your research on it like don't you know because some of these you need to pay some in advance and whatever do your research you can find reviews you can find information about these different parties and events and you need to do that you know send some emails do some checking uh but don't limit yourself don't don't base it off the name no well i mean well no you don't because you don't know people try to come up with creative catchy names to draw attention and exactly well sometimes it doesn't it's the same thing of of you know don't don't assume by based on where it's at in the country whether or not you'll have fun okay i mean again i go back to ours because you know here here's the surprise everybody here in nebraska our hotels they have heaters so so you know you don't have to be afraid of an event in the winter. Or, you know, it's like Bones always said about out there. Like, well, but it's a camera thing. They have running water out there and everything. It's all good. So, you know, don't let the name scare you away. Be adventurous. Look into some other shit and see. Now, the other thing I guess I would throw out there is a lot of times not all the time not all the time but a lot of times events can be more fun if you go with maybe a small group yes okay because every group of friends go a group of friends grow because a big event can be intimidating if you go by yourself if you don't if you don't know anybody i mean if you don't know anybody you have to go into it with the right frame of mind that's like a that's like a huge part of this also when you go to these events you have to go into it with the right frame of mind which is we're going to meet new people and we're going to have fun because if these monster the not monster but these big events are designed for a whole lot of activities for a whole lot of different tastes for people to maximize their time and their enjoyment. So, look, if you choose to be a wallflower, okay, you can't say an event sucked if you chose to not participate. And obviously, we're all human. So, sometimes maybe it's a little bit easier if you go down with somebody that you know. If you go down with... Or go down with somebody you know. If you go with a couple of different couples that you know and you're friends with, then you kind of make it a party of yourself of your little group if make sure you take a hard not into what's going on because the bdsm there were people that we knew that went with us and we made it fun fuck we learned a shit ton because we learned a shit ton we learned a shit when you go with somebody that knows something i mean we were like fucking two kids at a museum we're like what is that for why would you have that what oh neat how about this how about this big educational oh fuck yeah weekend but but you're exactly right if you go down look then if something if there's if whatever the activity at that time isn't something you're into you've got your group of friends to kind of You hear it all the time. We go, well, I went to this. It was fun, but it was clicky. No. Clicky and not everybody run up to you and go, hi, how are you? Welcome. I think people get that confused. Okay. People hang around with who they're comfortable with. And sometimes you just have to go introduce yourself to the group. You have to remember why remember why you're there okay so you're in a swinger thing and you're want to get fucked or fuck somebody so you have to like you know i don't know talk to them you know yeah people are not going to magically come to you actually some people will because some people that are going i guess that's total right we're saying go be social some people will but you can't rely upon that to have fun you have to make your own fun look if you if you made the courage to go kick ass rock on that's the first step so awesome for having the courage to look at it and go let's try this the one guy in our group the single male in our group actually went up to another gal and asked her to dance and we're like holy crap he's the shy one yeah yeah we were like oh wow but it was making to make the most of the people and here's and we had another couple come up to the table and introduce themselves and where are you from and chat yeah and i mean it was but we were open to interacting with people and we we interacted and and it's like don't once you look the hardest part of going to these big these parties outside of your local zone so let's say that you only don't go to parties in a 20 mile radius and you're gonna go to an event on a 50 mile radius you know what kick ass good job because that takes courage just like it took courage to go to your very first event okay so rock on that took guts but don't don't stop there now go ahead and maximize it you know go to that event be the person that says hi shakes hands whatever here's the greatest part of this remember if the event sucks you'll never see the fucking people again anyways. See how that works? I mean, so be the people and really, I mean, maximum, go for it. Look, the swinging lifestyle is about fucking taking your world to a whole new level. It's not just about the sex. It never has been. I don't think enough people talk about that. Yes, it's sex. But no, it's not. Sex is sex. Who fucking cares? Okay? It's the excitement of the new activity. It's the excitement of bringing somebody else. It's the excitement of trying something you haven't tried or trying it with three different people or you know or i mean but i mean it's the excitement it's an enhancer to your life right so these events and shit they're enhancers to your life and they're enhanced to your swinging life you know what? Here the deal if you live in new york and you go to an event in california you might not know anybody but when the event's over you might have met some kick-ass fucking people that you can't wait till they come up to an event in your neck of the woods or there's another option you can take and stay bundled up safely, wrapped in bubble wrap, with lots of logs. That's some people's cup of tea. Yeah, I get it. Well, but, you know, it also has to do with, you know, kids, and how far you're willing to travel if you have kids at home. Well, yeah. You know, there's a bunch of different factors. We're not going to take and, we're not going to, hey, welcome not gonna hey welcome we got somebody to join our first their first podcast uh no yes i understand there's other things i get it but that also can be excuses i look i'm gonna call shit out there's a reason our symbol is what it is i'm gonna call that out to a degree okay well we've all used kids as an excuse at one point right well fuck yeah that's the greatest safety valve in the world I don't know. I'm going to call that out to a degree. Okay. Well, we've all used kids as an excuse at one point in time or the other. Well, fuck yeah. That's the greatest safety valve in the world. But I also think there... You knew you had kids before you decided to fuck other people. Right? Yeah, true. I mean, so I guess here's the thing. If family's always first, I get that. I'm all in on that, right right but i think that people use can use that as an excuse to to not get out of your comfort zone yeah okay so okay let's look at this way maybe it's not an event you're traveling for try a different type of event in your area now you know go to the adult uh bookstore that has the movie theater attached to it never been to one i know i mean and that's something we we pride ourselves but there's something there's always things you can do different right there's always things you can do different look this is like being a tour you have to be a tourist in your own world so in the swinging community you have to be a tourist in the swinging community how many people live in a town and you go well what is there to see and they're like oh i don't know well there's all kinds of shit you're like well there's this and this and i've never been to that so you sit in your car and you take a couple of shots and you go okay we can do this all right let's do it right remember i guess my thing I guess my thing is this at some point in time if swinging becomes mundane that's a problem you got into swinging because something was mundane right you have to always think back you you had to take a huge leap to get into it to begin with here's a thought okay if you go to the same party with the same people over and over again is it really swinging or just friends with benefits that's a huge excellent point that's a huge excellent point damn you're good but it well but it but it really is i mean that becomes the thing it's like okay part of and i understand not everybody wants to just fuck everybody i get it not being a bed notcher but here's the deal i we didn't get into swinging to find one other person to have sex with all the time some people do some people do and rock on if that's you just wasn't us when we got in it rock on but just keep it but you have to you just can't forget that it took guts to fucking get into into it it took guts to go to your first club or whatever it took guts the first time to make out with somebody that wasn't your spouse it took courage the first time to take it to the next level don't forget that don't lose that and all of a sudden make swinging like you know a church group or mundane or or whatever don't don't stop being afraid to push yourself a little bit because if you've been in it if you've taken all those first steps and you're still in the lifestyle right you're still digging it obviously you like it okay so those risks paid off guess what the next one will too all right there we go world according to cole and amanda all right well that's a great place to stop i'm being told we are out of time we are out of time this fucking goes so fast god it's because you talk a lot. Nuh-uh. Okay, so again. Good thing you fuck good. Anyways, so what? What? You fuck awesome. I'm putting a plug out on how good of a fuck you are. You are. You're awesome. That's not where you were going. That's okay. We're going to stick with that. We'll run like that. Anywho. Anyway, so again, don't forget, get signed up for and learn more about Crazy Winter Nights, January 17th through the 19th, www.crazy, K-R-A-Z-Y, winter, you know how to spell that, nights.com. Also, send us your emails, crazy.casbah, K-A-S-B-H, at gmail.com. We've got a Patreon out there. Feel free to check it out. We've got Twitter, tweet, tweet, at truthcrazy. Don't forget, we've got our Crazy Truth Facebook page. And if you would like to be part of our Crazy Casbahs secret, secret Facebook page, shh, send us an email and put secret Facebook page, shh. And we'll get you hooked up. 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