Krazy Truth #6 Profiling

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hey kids the program you're about to listen to contains some adult situations adult language themes and other adult topics if you're easily offended this show's not for you be sure to like and follow crazy truth on swing towns swing towns has been around for 20 years so they're an established well-known site with lots of users so you'll be able to easily find people you're interested in and unlike other big sites on swing towns you don't have to worry about being bombarded with messages from people you're not interested in because only people you're interested in can message you and the best part is you can message those people for free on swing towns hey you crazy motherfuckers welcome back to another edition of crazy truth uh where we tell it like it is we answer your questions sex love relationships we do what we do because that's what we do i'm your host with the most i am cole i'm.

I'm here with the lovely Miss Amanda. Hey. Look at her. Look at her go. All right. So we are ready to roll episode six where we're going to answer your questions. We are excited. We are stoked. But as we start off with every show, we are going to start with some cool, funny sex news out there.

So, hey, get ready, ready kids if you're buying a sex bot because you're lonely because you can't get none on your own you might want to really do some shopping around uh because that's right they have now come out with a sex bot her name is samantha she was made by dr sergi santos is the spanish creator of sex bot samantha she will be fitted with a dummy mode that will be switched on so if if she feels like she's being touched in a harmful or disrespectful way or oops i'm hitting buttons imagine that that's not all the bots will be fitted with an unresponsive mode so you'll actually have to turn her on in more ways than one.

Because if she gets bored, she'll literally switch off. Wow. What does she look like? She's hot. She's kind of cute. Or can you get it to look however you want? I think you can get it however you want. But you talk about an ego killer. Great news.

Step step up your game or do you have different levels that you can turn it to level up that's how you're gonna get a blow can you imagine what's gonna happen the first time you take and uh uh you're trying to like you know fuck the sex doll and she just shuts off and you can't get your dick out let me go let me go call 911.1-1 no i think it has like sensors that it feels when something's inserted that it's turned on what if your penis is small and it doesn't turn her on that'd be oh my god i said well i but it says if it's gonna be different levels that it's got to take and you've got to keep her her turned on, and she's going to get bored.

She can't fake it, basically. Great news, it'd be like real life. So now it is going to be real life. It would feel the pressure. Stop it. If you're boring your wife or your girlfriend, and she just falls asleep during sex, now you can pay for a fake thing to do the exact same thing. That is awesome. Talk about totally, don't get me one of those. Whatever you do, I do not. Because I don't want one. There's too much pressure. Ego killer. I mean, oh my God, that's like dildo batteries running out. But it's because you suck at it. Now you can't even practice on a sex doll. There you go.

So, all right. So, absolutely. There you go. When you when you're shopping for your sex bots kids make sure it's not one that's going to reject you and crush your ego before you even start i love that segment of the show you know that that's the best part is it you can't make this shit up you can't make it up what i want to know is i can see if a woman would have designed it rock on but a guy why would a guy design a sex doll to have you disappointed and feel lame? I don't know. Whatever works. It's all good. All right. So as you all know, we do the same thing we always do. That's right.

We take and we answer your questions. And we've got some good questions here tonight. So real quick, if you have some questions for us for this week or for future weeks, Remember you can email those to us at crazy, K-R-A-Z-Y dot kasbah, K-A-S-B-H, at gmail.com. We get them and we'll answer your questions as well. So we absolutely love that. So first question, this question is awesome.

I have a feeling I'm not for sure but I think this question was designed to be kind of a smart ass question okay possibly possibly who who would you think all right so the question was why do people listen to a podcast to swing and i'm like oh yeah Oh yeah, we're, we're absolutely, we're absolutely going after this question. Absolutely. Okay. So here's the thing. The reason why would you listen to a podcast? Because people don't know what the fuck they're doing. That's why.

So they're trying to get it's like uh it's like a a uh verbal how-to book it's like swinging for dummies i don't know if i go there well i what it is is people want research people want research if you can't walk in to what you could but you're probably not going to walk into your public library and go hey so i'm I'm thinking about letting my wife fuck somebody other than me. Would you guys have some books on that? I bet you they do. Have you tried? They do have books. They do have books. But that's just it. You're not going to do that.

I mean, you may try to find those on Amazon, but you don't know where to go and you have questions and you feel like you're new. And I don't want to be the one to ask this question, but you want to get stuff. So the thing is, people listen to podcasts because we're experts. In theory, we're experts. We're kind of experts. But you just want, people want to know what's going on and hear different ideas. For a certain demographics, it's to learn.

For another demographics, it's to listen to stories because everybody wants to hear if they're going to the same shit yeah it's for car rides home now you know remember when you're listening to podcasts if the family vacay you might want to check the title before you listen to it just say it we're not as family friendly as some of the other shows might be well i don't think that you would listen to it in the car with your family anyway wouldn't that kind of out you i could out you but it would sure be fun to watch your kids squirm in the back going oh my god you girls ah now the thing okay so what we have found is not only are people podcasts just aren't just for new newbies i mean there's a lot of questions that newbies have but even think all the stuff we've already learned on doing the podcast because you have people that are that are different from different uh uh experience levels people have been there 13 14 15 years that are doing it and they still have questions and everything like that on the podcast and this is a way to answer them to and to hear about it and to get some you know find out and to learn and to grow plus it is it's entertainment kids this is what it is look there is you notice i don't introduce myself as dr cole or dr miss amanda so it's an entertainment purpose only results may vary they vary for everyone all right so is there any reason you should not listen to a podcast i'm trying to think i try to take both sides that's what we do here we want to take and you know play both sides play the angles i don't know i i guess i didn't for a long time well then i didn't either i'm not real techie that's why the real okay here's the thing you got to take every podcast you listen to with somewhat of a grain of salt okay people that do podcasts what we're doing is we're giving you our opinion our possible uh thoughts and and overall overall like ideas the cool thing with the lifestyle there is not a set right or wrong way.

it's like everything else you can't just take an audit automatically say you're you're doing it wrong everybody's experiencing the lifestyle is different so as much as we want everybody out there to listen to our podcast i mean we'd be we'd be dumb we'd be dumb not to and for those of you that might not remember we're the crazy truth just putting out there please rate us we want you all to listen to our podcast but i strongly encourage people listen to a multitude of podcasts listen to uh some of the opinions that some of the other people do because they're going to have totally different experiences than maybe we do i mean the the thing is is that yeah the overall questions a lot of the questions are the same, but everybody's experience is different and unique.

So the more people's podcasts you can listen to, the more things you can learn, the more ideas, more, you know, things along those lines. That's awesome. I love that question. Keep sending us your smart-ass questions. We'll turn them serious. That's what we do. We'll make it a big deal.

So there you go why do people listen to podcasts uh because you you want to become knowledgeable and uh we hope that people will and you should tell your friends too if you find a great podcast that you thought that was really really helpful uh or really really fun something really entertaining you know what let other people know because podcasts you know we live and die off of making sure lots of people hear us so make sure you let people know when you find one that's really really cool all the way across the board go look at that techie that's what i like techie do you like listening to podcasts i'm starting to really i am i i think the cool thing with it is i'm listening to different people's styles and uh i'm actually learning stuff that's that's really weird i actually started making notes during podcasts because i have a little more time so i actually paid attention and listening to podcasts and learning learning things i actually have one that had me turn it off within like two seconds because she was very offensive and i didn't like it she said something that was rude i'm like was it a cuss word no she was making fun of kid you know when she was a kid making fun of situations and i was one of those situations so i'm like screw that well here's the thing not every podcast is is is gonna be for everybody and that's okay.

And that's the thing. That's why you have to listen to other ones, because some people just, how you present, it's just not going to be the same thing. On our live stuff, because we do these live as well, one of the questions that we're getting is, why not ask dumb questions? Here's the thing. There's no such thing as a dumb question in a lifestyle.

well I mean you know as a general there's no there's no such thing as it as a as a dumb question because really here's if you think it's a question if you might wonder you but no matter how silly it might be or seem to you i promise you at least like a thousand other people are thinking the same thing oh yeah so and and when you're new you don't know so uh i promise you you're going to have better results listening to podcasts especially if you're a couple this is really huge if you listen to podcasts or information like this as a couple or you both listen to it then you can talk about it when you're at a bar you greet, you're at whatever, and somebody's saying, well, this is the way it is, that's still their opinion, just like what we do, right?

But you don't have a chance to process it. And when you're listening to it as a couple, hey, find out, you know, you can say, hey, look, that happened to somebody else. We're not new.

We're not weird or crazy or anything else and then you can process it and it gives you topics that maybe you didn't think as a couple that you needed to talk about i mean that that's probably one of the biggest things is it may they may come up with something you didn't even know and so you can have a plan of action before all of a sudden you're slapped in the face with a dick out of the blue or something weird just saying you never know when that kind of stuff happens all right so there you go that's awesome okay so our next question I'm going to do it again.

clapped in the face with a dick out of the blue or something weird just saying you never know when that kind of stuff happens all right so there you go that's awesome okay so our next question uh this actually this question this question came from uh we're part of uh reddit and uh so this question that's where this one comes from does anyone have a standard not interested reply for swinger websites? This is a big deal now. This is really a big deal. Well, you don't want to hurt anybody's feelings. No, no, you don't want to hurt anybody's feelings.

But, okay, so if you look at the lifestyle like ago, everything, things weren't done electronically. So everything was done via, via like mail and, or just straight up at parties. So now with there being a whole bunch of adult websites, swinger websites, there's, there's Facebook pages, there's, you know, Reddit, there's all kinds of different places you can go. And there's all these places that are designed to try to help you find and meet other people, like-minded folks, to go have some fun with and hook up. The problem is, and it's just, it's not a problem, it's just a fact of life.

Everybody that's a swinger is not going to be attracted to everybody else.

Okay, so the bat that's what like the outside world believes that well if you're a swinger all the swingers just taking fuck each other it doesn't matter there's no discretion no it doesn't work that way that's porn swinging every pizza delivery guy is not going to get be involved in a threesome it doesn't work that way okay so there's going to be people they're going to check you out and they're going to think you're hot or your wife's hot or your husband's hot or whatever the case may be and you or your wife's going to be like uh ah so you say that well i mean just whatever it's going to be it's not they're not going to be what what you're necessarily interested in okay so the first thing you have to understand is that's okay i think the biggest problem when people are new you want to take and you're afraid of being labeled as you know picky or being labeled as as snobby or whatever the case may be so dick tease yeah tees uh so everybody's first fear is you know they they want to be nice they want to be known as a nice couple they want to be known as the couple that takes and uh uh gets gets the most response as possible plus the other reality of it is is it's a numbers game and we all know that all right so we're all hoping that we get the most numbers that we have the most opportunities to get and have hookups okay here's what you have to remember when you're new don't worry if you say no or if the first couple people that are interested in you you're not interested in them that's okay do you remember you think back to when we were when we were first swinging eight long years ago right do you remember the first time that we got we were on a site it'll remain nameless when we were on a site and we got a whole bunch of requests from single males when you finally let me put naked pictures of you on the page yeah and we were bombed and we were like because we went through that well what do you say because there were some some of them that you were like uh that dude's kind of scary i mean we didn't know i'm sure they were a really nice person but they kind of look like a hobo it is what it is so and you and we we toyed with that how what do you say the first thing that in hindsight now we look back and you go and we, we toyed with that.

How, what do you say? The first thing that in hindsight, now we look back and you go, you look at our profile. You have to set your profile up correctly, right? We tried to be the profile that said everything that we tried to be nice. You remember that? We were like, all we listed were the things we were interested, all the positives.

We didn't like disclaimers there were no limits no whatever there was no reason for any single male not to think uh that they didn't have a chance to to probably get to fuck you and then boy did they come out of the word work so okay so it starts with number one set your profile up correctly it's not being an asshole to put on there that you are looking for someone that is height and weight proportionate that's not being a dick i don't think do you think that's being an asshole no everybody's definition is different exactly so okay let's put a disclaimer in there if you sit there and put in your profile that you are an attractive couple you're super fit and you're an attractive couple okay here's the thing number one if you put that in your profile that you're super fit your pictures should reflect it your current pictures should reflect that okay it's no fair putting pictures i was super fit in 1991 i was super fit when i graduated from high school okay but you can't put pictures from when you were in high school and say you're super fit if you're currently maybe carrying a few extra pounds okay so one if you're going to say you're super fit you should be super fit according to the bmi scale i am not well i'm short so i am not height and weight proportionate because i should weigh 90 pounds i thought that's what you weighed okay yeah so just saying so here's the thing you don't have to downgrade yourself i mean i'm not gonna put on a profile yeah i'm a fat guy i mean you know no i'm not a fat guy but i mean you know i'm not super fit if you put super fit for the love of god that means that you spend a shit ton of time at the gym working out and you're super fit okay so be honest about that if you put and everybody wants to be nice but if you put we're a an attractive couple okay attractive couple let me help you out with this attractive is kind of one of those things that's subjective, right?

So if you want to avoid something that sounds kind of snooty and kind of arrogant and kind of like an asshole. Yeah. There's lots I turned down, even though they were attractive because they said they were an attractive because they, because they were busy tooting their own horn about how attractive they were big secret and lifestyle for new folks. You know what? Personality is going to win 99% of the time. Yes.

yes you can look like you can look like a supermodel male or female supermodel but if you're an ass clown you're not getting in our pants it ain't happening there's just there's just no way no personality wins you can be you can have a few extra pounds but be super cool and be super fun and you know what what? We're interested. And most couples are like that. Most people are like that. They want someone that's fun. So probably the one thing is stay away from the attractive. Let the other people decide.

Or if you're going to put something like that in there, I suppose you can put, in our opinion, we're attractive.

We're a cute couple we're attractive we're a cute couple yeah we're a cute couple uh yeah so one set your profile correctly set the expectations right number two in your profile if you're not interested in single males okay or you're not interested in single females or you only want couples or you only want i don't care what you want i don't I don't care if you only want people that have birds as pets I don't care what it is you need to take and specifically list that out okay that's not being rude remember the lifestyle the theory of this is to find people that you can you have similar interests or attractions to whatever to have.

You're not replacing a partner you're not replacing. So list it out if that's what you want. If you're a non-smoker and you don't want smokers, put it. You've seen that. You put it. Exactly. I'm a dirty smoker. So you know what? There are certain couples that, because of that, they list that.

So I know that I'm not going to bother them, and I'm going to do a bunch of emails back and forth and we're not going to set up a time to meet and everything else and then I'm going to go oh by the way I'm going to have a cigarette okay we just know that so take in and set realistic expectations let people know what you're looking for or what you're not and I'm going to throw this in because now it's it's a new thing especially it's a big thing now because it's starting to be legalized, the whole 420, right? So everybody knows what that means.

For people who don't know what that means is that means you smoke weed. Rock on, okay? So – and it's a big thing. You'll see 420 friendly, all right? So that's something – again, if that's something what you're looking for, then, yeah, sure, post it. Whatever.

it whatever rock on go with that there's nothing there's nothing more awkward than to go somewhere or to meet up with a couple and all of a sudden like they whip out a bag of weed and you're like my night naive self when we first started off and the first time i saw 420 friendly i went oh went, oh, my God, did they really just admit that? Well, that shows that show. But I've seen it, so it's like, eh, okay. Yeah, I mean, that's something to look forward to. That's something to know. So if you're into that, okay, rock on. If you're not offended by it, rock on.

If you're not offended by it, rock on. If it's something that they say they're 420 Friend're not that doesn't necessarily mean that they're going to you know right off the bat pull out a joint you know but that might be something you want to have during your conversation on on setting up a meet and greet yeah with them you might want to have that conversation okay so uh you want people to know if you're not interested in single males oh my god look if you don't want a whether it be single female or single male, you need to blatantly put that in your profile.

The reason you'll do that, you will save yourself hours of sending rejection, uh, emails back or saying, we're not playing with single males at this time or single females, whatever the case may be. If you just spell it out, put it out there or that we'll contact.

We if we're interested in a single meal we'll contact you will it stop everybody from doing it no fuck no here's the deal look man these the swinger sites and the pages and everything else it's like fishing okay you never know you may just get lucky if you put your rod out there enough if you put your rod out there enough times you may get a nibble whip a dick what what's that you're using there balls um it's just a side note again probably don't do a lot of nibbling you know teeth are not usually the most popular thing just saying uh show. Just saying. So people are going to fish.

You're going to put it out there. And no, not everybody is going to read your profile completely the way they should. But it is what it is. So list it out there. I know this is like a long roundabout way to the answer, isn't it? What was the question? Okay, so for those of you who just joined us or for those who have forgotten because of my long-wittedness, again, the question is, does anyone have a standard not interested reply for Swinger Sights? Look, here's my other big thing. I hate to say standard reply. We don't have a standard one. No, we don't. We don't have a stand.

It's hard to have a standard reply i we don't have a standard one no we don't we don't have a stand it's hard to have a standard reply because every situation is a little bit different i mean you might get a a request for friendship or an email or whatever an instant message from somebody but it's after you've already met them okay so if you have a standard reply that says we appreciate you taking the time of reading our profile currently we're not accepting new vaginas or penises whatever okay that's not going to sound really smart if you'd actually if they sent a reply because you'd already met them two weeks before a a week before at a meet and greet.

So you can't have a standard reply. Plus, the reality of it is that there's nothing standard about the lifestyle. The reasons why or how someone's going to react are going to be totally different. I remember getting one one time that said, I'm sorry, we're not interested at this time. Right, right. And that might be their standard one because we blatantly got that, and it's like, okay. Yeah, we blatantly got it. It's like, oh, sweet. And the thing is, what was great about when we got that one, I remember I was pissed at first. Really?

Oh, at first I'm like, well, why the fuck would they not want to do this? We're hot. No, I didn't say we were hot. I was fishing. I was waiting to get nibbled. No, I mean, you're like, well, really, though, it was a great reply because it was direct, to the point, and honest. And that was it. Yeah, and that was it.

The worst, okay, the worst thing you can possibly do is beat around the bush i mean maybe you can look around it no i'm just kidding the worst thing you can do is is not be direct because what happens is when you try to be polite and you're trying to dance you don't want to step on anybody's toes what you're doing is you're giving people a false sense of hope. So you say there's a chance. So the thing is, is that, and oh, the look I'm getting. Maybe I might have been guilty of this. You give me a couple of rum and caps. No, I've been guilty of it. Yeah, you've been guilty of it.

I don't want to hurt anybody's feelings.

Because you're trying to be nice, and you don't't want to hurt anybody's feeling the problem is is that is that when you that when you are when you don't just directly say i'm not interested if you say to somebody you're like you're like uh well you know at this time i'm just i'm just not i don't know at this time or we have this going on or whatever the case may be the the problem with that is is that then the next time they see you they still think they have a chance they're going to continue to come back until you say no and each time that it goes further and further before you say no what ends up happening is that's when feelings start to get hurt if if you just would be up front and say i appreciate it but we're not interested anything else in that is just going to come back to bite you in the ass every single time we've had that happen yeah yeah because then they keep coming they're like well they're still yeah maybe maybe now how about now how about now now the only time i've actually really really turned someone down initially when we first started was um i blatantly went up to this guy and i said it's never gonna happen well why not because i know you from here oh it's not where here oh from where here church i know you from church i know you from here.

Oh, just say from where here? Oh, from where here? Church. That's right. I know you from church. I know you're high up in the church. I can't do that. But it doesn't, you don't have to associate it with that. I do. It has nothing to do with it. I can't do it. There's just, that had to be one of the greatest nights in the world. When we walked into, we were at a meet and greet slash party. It was like a hotel party. Hotel party, meet and greet kind of sort of situation. Super nice. Oh, great couple. Great people. Great people. And I'm pretty sure you almost broke my ribs.

I want to be going, look. Oh, my God. No, I don't think you recognize him. Wait, do you know who that is? I'm like, oh, I can't really tell. They go to our church. Oh, awkward. And he was a nice guy, and he was really interested in hooking up with you. But what was one of the problems with that? How long, you, how long did it take before you finally said that? Before you finally said, no, this is not going to happen no matter what. It was probably a month. A month of a lot of emails. A lot of instant messages. A lot of instant messages, a lot of texting. And you were always trying to be nice.

And I was just nice. I'm still nice to him now. I mean, we'll still chat occasionally.

What it ended up doing, because when you finally just said, lot of texting and you were always trying to be nice just nice i'm still nice to him now i mean well we'll still chat occasionally what it ended up doing because when you finally just said it's not going to happen at that point then we're just friends yeah and now you're just friends and and he quit trying to he quit trying to get in your pants at that point in time yeah and now i don't know that that necessarily means that the opportunity just randomly presented itself that he wouldn't probably jump all over it but he at least he he quit trying and that's the thing so See you next week.

and now i don't know that that necessarily means that the opportunity just randomly presented itself that he wouldn't probably jump all over it but he at least he he quit trying and that's the thing so you can't do that now are you gonna have people that get butt hurt when you say no well yeah you're gonna have it it's going to happen here's what you have to remember this is a choice you don't you're not required to take and, and screw anybody. It doesn't work that way. Okay.

So the thing is, is if somebody gets pissed off because you're not interested and you were appropriate and you were polite and you said you weren't interested, you know what? That's their fucking problem.

That is not your not your problem at that point in time okay if they can't handle it then you know what uh you wouldn't want to hook up with them anyways because that that's going to be like a really become back to be a really big issue uh so yeah at you but at some point in time if people like that don't take the hint you might actually have to step to the plate and be a dick sometimes you might and there's nothing wrong with that look if someone's not getting the fucking hint it's just like in real life if someone's not getting the hint you know what at that point in time you may have to say knock it the fuck off or you may have to get a hold of the admin of that site or that page or whatever and say this person's being a problem most of the pages have somebody have a way to block somebody the one recommendation i would say is look don't everybody gets block happy that's the first thing you want to do oh my god if a single male takes some contacts that's we're going to block them don't be a dick you know you don't necessarily have to hurry and the first thing you don't always have to take and block them because most people understand the lifestyle uh as miss white's saying and she's exactly right people understand the rule no means no okay so you shouldn't have to take and just block them but some people you will some people you absolutely will have to take and block them and That's why that, or you'll have to contact an admin to step in a little bit and help stop the situation if it needs to get that way, okay?

So at this point, I'm hearing weird sounds all over the place.

Okay, so the other thing now, i think that this needs to go a bit further though okay you tell me what you think okay so you've taken and you have you you've hooked up with a couple you've hooked up with an individual doesn't matter whatever the case may be you've hooked up you've had sex it was it was or or whatever you do whatever kink it is what it is and it was okay or whatever fine but you don't want to hook up again and the person or couple gets clutchy new twist new twist hey new people believe it or not it will actually happen you will have people that all of a sudden will get, like...

Needy. Real needy. Okay? So, how do you respond to that? Okay, I'm deferring this to you, Miss Amanda, because I think women get it more than guys do. Okay? Actually, I think it's just the opposite. Really? You have more women that are clutchy to you, even though you haven't done anything with them after the first time, and even some you haven't even had sex with, than I do men. Okay. Well, yeah. Okay. Yeah, maybe. You have, what, three or four, and I have, like, one. Oh, okay. All right, yes. See, it's hard because, again, you don't want to piss people off.

You don't want to piss people off, but sometimes you have to put your foot down. Well, as an adult, you should realize or take take a hint if we keep putting it off or we're like no we can't take it as a hint take it as a hint but okay so and we're guilty of that we've had people do it to us it's okay right but we're guilty of that when really in a perfect world what the exact correct answer is that you should, as adults, we should all just say, we had a great time, but we don't want to do it again. But the reality is, nobody's going to say that.

Because somebody's going to have hurt feelings out of that, okay? So yes, take a hint. If you're the new couple, and I guess I shouldn't just call this new couples. New couples are guilty of this a lot, but it's not just new couples. There's experienced couples that are this way also. Just because you have sex with somebody once, that does not mean that you guys are in a long-term committed relationship. Okay?

Don't expect that that means every single time you see them that you're going to go have sex with them're going to go have sex with them i mean one don't expect it don't expect it okay yeah you may find there'll be certain couples that or individuals that you hook up with additional times because it was a great time but it's not required it shouldn't be required and i'm telling you right now if someone takes and says to you or acts like it should be required every time that you take and that you've had sex and anytime you see each other you should have sex again get the fuck away from them as fast as humanly possible okay but you you have to put your foot down you at some point in time you have to say stop no more and don't be afraid to use your spouse well i mean that sounds horrible but here's the deal guys we've had situations where miss amanda has had to jump in and she's had to send the message to say no more stop and there's been times that i've had to jump in and send a message to a guy with you and say no more stop i mean that sucks but there is times that that happens just just a few okay but now i want to say because that's kind of downer but i will i want to i want to say i want to say this right now i i say this all the time to miss amanda and she says it to me and we tell people this all the time i know that you're not going to be interested in every single person out there that's okay anytime someone sends you a thing saying they're interested in you don't forget it's a compliment it's a compliment it takes courage it takes courage even even if it's internet courage to take and send somebody uh a thing saying hey do you want to hook up because there's a chance that they might not so you might end up dealing with with some some form of of rejection so always take it as a always take it as a compliment and make sure that your response, even if you're not interested, is one from a point of view that is not a dick.

Don't be a douche. We say it all the time. Don't be a douche. Don't be a twat waffle. You don't want to do that. You always want to make sure that your response back is at least polite to begin with.

Right mean firm firm direct honest but always still you want to make you want to make sure that that it's what and you remember that these people uh have taken a risk going by by sending you a thing in to make sure that it's a compliment the other thing is when you see them live and in person even if you've politely told them though if they walk up and just say hi, it's just because they want to meet you. You don't have to be a douche. It could be people or, you know, they want to hang out with you. Exactly. Don't, well, here's the thing. Don't ever close the door.

Because we've had people that initially just off of profiles and off of pictures that we were not, we were like, eh, not really. and then we started we met them at a meet and greet and we started to hang out with them and got to know them and we ended up we ended up hooking up with them but if we'd been like a dick and sent this in you know don't fuck yourself don't contact me again or block that never would happen and they actually turned out to be like a lot of fun of fun. Because things change as you, as you go. As you go, as you learn, as you learn. We had a couple. I love this.

We had a couple that we first met when they were, we were new, and they were new. We were all new. And it was probably, like, I think it think it was like our first hotel party. And they were into some things that we just. Had never even heard of. We were new. We were new. And they were too. And we, I personally haven't been exposed to a lot of kinks at all. Yeah, spank me. That's about it. I had not been exposed to anything. So when they mention something and you go, oh, my God, did they really just say that? But I love them to death. And here's the thing.

We have now, we're really good friends with them. It was within the first, they were brand new, too. So they were doing the, like, hi, want to do this?

I mean, because they didn't know either because nobody knew and we were like hi we got to go so and we we've talked about it since and we laughed because they said the same thing well we figured out is that maybe we came on strong in certain areas and we came on and we were so naive that we kind of came on as like prudish uh in the whole thing but it's a it's a learning curve that's the that's the whole thing and and that's why you don't watch the door because now seriously uh we've known these folks now for almost eight years and and the thing is is that they are they're some of the coolest people uh in the lifestyle so you know and if we had shut that door we'd have never ended up having another hadn't another chance and got to know him real well uh so we're getting some comments i want to read one of these comments because this is really good uh eric reese if someone messages you uh and reaches out to y'all be respectful courteous and respond even if it is just a thank you but but not interested, at least you acknowledge them and give them a respectful reply.

Wow. That's awesome. That is absolutely perfect. Uh, nothing sucks worse than when you're new, especially, and you're sitting there and you're on this website. You're all excited because you're going to do this and you've, you've got the courage.

You've posted pictures you know and you're you're laying it all out there literally and and uh so you see this couple and you take this chance and then you never hear anything back and you're just like what does that mean and you don't know take the time to at least give people some sort of acknowledgement think back think of it like applying for a job nothing sucks i mean everybody hates rejection letters in a job right i mean you're applying for a job but it still beats fucking sitting there looking in the mail every day going am i still in is there still a chance what the fuck's going on so always take and make sure you give people a chance and and the common courtesy to reply and if you send it don't get butt hurt if someone says no okay guess what there's a whole lot of other fish in the sea it's okay you're not everybody's cup of tea you are somebody's cup of tea so don't get all like like all jojo the fucking circus monkey oh my god i'm never gonna get fucking laid ah it goes in spurts new people new people always think it's like well we've been doing this for two weeks and we haven't got laid six times.

Guess what? You can do it eight years and you can go that way. That was like when we used to go to the bar with certain friends. And one was outside having a smoke and he overheard a conversation amongst young vanilla kids. And they said, well, you know, those swingersers they get laid every night by someone different and he goes we do i don't think we've ever laughed that hard when we came in we would it goes in spurts you have moments where you might get lucky three weekends in a row and then you'll go six months eight, eight months without anything.

Without anybody even willing to talk to you. Yeah, and you're like, oh my god, did I lose it? Did I lose it? And then all of a sudden you hit another spurt again. You're like, okay. Game on. It happens. It is what it is. Yeah, so don't panic about it.

Don't force it's all good okay so take a chance hey real quick i want to again let people know if you want to send us questions for this show future shows whatever the case may be don't hesitate to take and email us to crazy k-r-a-z-y dot casbah k-s-b-h at gmail.com we love to answer your questions it's what we do all right so we're gonna keep moving along there that's awesome so that oh so hey that's where our hour is up wow we want to do this fast so all right so here's the deal guys uh want to take this moment to to uh thank you all for listening and uh thank you all for listening hey if you like what you're hearing please don't hesitate to support us uh you can support us at uh our patreon www.patreon.com backslash crazy with a capital k caswell with a capital k uh and also listen to us on our all of our different on itunes and google play and everywhere we're at don't forget to tell your friends and family about us Make sure when you listen to us, you rate us, give us a rating.

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