Krazy Truth #56 Swinger Choices

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I'm here to host with your most. I am Cole, and I am here with the lovely, lovely Miss Amanda. Hello. And we are here to spew our knowledge and wealth of information upon you, the unaware listener that you're about to be jizzed on with lifestyle knowledge. Good grief. It's going to be jizzed on with lifestyle knowledge. Good grief. It's going to be awesome. It is. Make sure to talk into the microphone. Okay, I'll make sure to talk into the microphone. World famous sound guy is giving me cues and I was bobbing my head like a snake. Okay, so hey, you know what?

Instead of a sex story, I want to talk a little bit. I want to talk a little bit real quick here again about our sponsors.

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I don't have my events anywhere that suck ass. I just don't do that. So you know it's going to be good if I'm putting and having my event out there, just saying. So there we go. Okay. So on to the spewing part. That was me swallowing water not spoo good grief okay so we get asked tons of questions and i i get this question a lot uh so you know i thought well what the hell let's ask this is not a sex question yeah okay what the fuck but it kind of is so i think i got this question like four times last week we get this all the time I don't know.

yeah okay what the fuck but it kind of is so i think i got this question like four times last week we get this all the time from all over the place so pretty much pick your poison where it's from uh i got one one of these came from canada last week one of them came from florida i had one from uh montana not montana uh wisconsin i'm trying to think what that other cold state was uh so get this and so the question we constantly get is why do we have a podcast why are we even doing a podcast okay so and because obviously here's the thing doing a podcast you automatically we know in the lifestyle discretion and when you do a podcast you're kind of taking that discretion and you're like crinkle and throwing that fucker right out the window and of course we up the ante on ours because we also do videos for our youtube channel and stuff like that so we're we're pretty much we're out there you can see us we don't hide much oh look i look the same without my shades on see there you go so i mean we're pretty much out there so why why do we do a podcast well okay and you're and miss amanda's looking at me and i'm going why the fuck do we do a podcast i didn't say any such thing but you're thinking it no no not at all i'm just trying to figure out where you're going with it okay or what is going to spew out of your mouth what i'm gonna jizz up my knowledge uh okay so the thing is is we do a podcast the reason why we do a podcast is the same reason why we started our crazy cats with pages and everything else okay if you think back to when you were junior high age all right or even think back a little younger think back to when elementary school like where where i'm from uh in in like fifth and sixth grade they did like sex ed Now, let's take a look.

high age all right or even think back a little younger think back to when elementary school like where where i'm from uh in in like fifth and sixth grade they did like sex ed you have that like fifth or sixth grade like a little class where moms went with the girls and no no did they have any sort of sex ed when i was in texas we did one that was what like third fourth grade okay so but it was more of a puberty talk it was not sex ed right exactly and that's really what we had to do we had the puberty talk and then when we were in high school we had a health class you had to take that had sex ed into it now luckily our my my instructor was our basketball coach so he was like more realistic about stuff like we had a thing he had to write down all the dirty words you knew and different slang for sex and then he put it on the board and answered what they were okay but most people weren't that in depth so where did most people learn their shit about sex right they didn't learn it from mom and dad because here's the thing i i'm gonna i'll put fucking money on it less than 10 of the people listening or that will ever hear this or in the lifestyle had their mom sit down and talk to them if they were a girl about a blow job uh you know or taking in the ass or you know different sex positions or dildos or toys or masturbation you know any of that shit i learned from experience exactly and you learn by watching porn uh okay, so where did we learn?

Porn, when we were young, was the little lines in the TV and we might get some little action there. Thank God they're doing a doggie style because I can kind of see that. Exactly. I like to watch the doggie style because you could figure out what they were doing. Exactly. Or if you find an old porn mag and you're looking at it like that. But how do you learn about sex? You learned about sex primarily through like in the locker room. You know, you learned about it from things. You would laugh at jokes you didn't understand.

Other people in your class would talk about shit and you didn't really know what it meant. But you're like, yeah, because you didn't want to look like a tool that had no clue what the fuck they were talking about. The young kids now can just Google that shit. Well they can but the problem is is that okay we're all like most swingers average age running between 30 and like 65 okay so how do you learn about swinging i mean really you learn you can there's a couple ways you can learn one you can learn the learn the fucking hard way.

Everybody, we just, last week, what, like last Wednesday night, I think, we had drinks with a friend of ours. It's also in the live show. And we were laughing about first-time experiences and how shitty they were. Enough so that you literally sit there and go, why in the fuck did we even keep swinging? Right.

You know, if you go back and listen to one of our beginning episodes we talked about our first time swinging and it was a fucking disaster and literally you just sit there and go what made us go well yeah that was fucking let's let's go back to that complete train wreck and do that again not everybody does i'm sure that there's some people that have a good experience some but it's limited but you learn about it you learn about it by talking to other people right or by the hard way and experience so here's the thing the problem is you have a whole lot of people in the lifestyle that are quite honestly idiots there's no other way to put it so here's what you've got you've got the blind leading the fucking blind right you have a bunch of people that don't know you need to smile every now and then because in theory we're on camera you need okay we get you have the blind leading the blind right so what do you do you go up you don't really know and you kind of laugh nervously what people say and you kind of hope and you kind of dip your toes or you go get yourself in a really shitty situation and go fuck don't do that oh shit okay well that was okay okay there's nobody to help you and people yes even our generation can google it but you know what who really wants to get you know caught at work you know googling a dirty sanchez or some shit like that trying to figure out what that shit is or googling threesome you can't put that in the work computer because it's going to take you to a porn site right so how do you actually fucking learn so the whole thing was is when we decided to do the page and everything else like okay there's got to be a better way and so the for us the podcast is one of those things now this is where it gets kind of weird You can jump in at any time.

You're just like, whatever, go with this. The thing is, is that here's the deal. You don't have to have some fucking master's degree in sexology or be a love doctor or be a professional therapist to be able to answer fucking questions about fucking. You just don't.

This shit rocket science it's really not what makes it harder are the idiots that are answering questions that have no idea what they're talking about right so okay so with that being said are we doctorates of anything no we're not nope we are a couple that have been in this for 10 years we're a couple that has 27 years together, 25 years married.

So when it comes to relationship stuff we're pretty fucking successful right okay so that's the the overall why do we do a podcast we want to actually help people answer their questions i know it's not as much fun as talking just about our sex life but i I think it's more important than that. Well, I was pretty freaking clueless going into this. And I mean, very. You're the only one. I'm not sure I even knew what swinging was when you suggested it. I didn't give him the nose flow water, damn it. Oh, my Jesus. Okay, do you remember the first time we saw a sex swing? Yeah.

And I went, they make those? Yeah, and we were both like, how do you use that? And I got up on it, and I'm like, okay, this is uncomfortable as shit. Yeah. And then they're like, well, then you use it like this. They were all giddy to show me.

And the first time I saw a freaking one of the wand things, I'm like, oh.'m like oh oh yeah the girls couldn't wait to fucking like here let's help you it's like putting a weed whacker well i mean we didn't know any of this shit no like we were like you know oh i don't think had i even started to shave my pubes then when i first started i don't even yeah i think yeah we just started to do stuff like that because we watched enough porn to see it uh i can remember i you know people talked about having massage tables why well i get it now at the time you know we had no fucking we had no clue let alone kink i mean our like best knowledge of swinging was off of real sex yeah real sex and you know and and they didn't even show having sex.

They just showed touching of... And they were showing all kinds of... Remember the one gowling on the table and all these people around are just touching it. And I'm like, what in the hell is that? That is the greatest orgasm ever. And they're all like 75 and hippies. And we're like, what in the fuck?

Okay, now, yes, we saw stuff about swing stock on on real sex i don't remember that i do i do there's another one i remember because there's a hotel somewhere i want to visit i don't know it still exists it was a hotel for swingers and they had and all the rooms uh it was in europe and yeah yeah because all the rooms are outdoor rooms that you go into through the outside and they have big curtains and so you can walk down and if they want to have the curtains open there could be like voyeurs and stuff and they have like a dark room where you go in and, you know, which we didn't even know what that was, go in and just find a hole and fuck it.

I mean, glory hole, we had no fucking clue. No. We had no idea on any of this shit and so we got off of real sex but they were showing the fringe shit. So they were showing like the kinks. Again, I'm not kink shaming. But the first time you're sitting there and you see people doing pony play. And you're watching it and you're like, what the fuck? Or they kept showing like it was a retreat. It was the greatest ever. It was a retreat for jacking off.

And group masturb masturbation without touching i don't remember oh yeah they were all fucking i can still visualize maybe you watched more of that channel than i did probably did i but i know you'd fall asleep a lot i can just remember the one dude had like super long gray hair and he was like it's so tantric and so awesome oh no i do remember and you that. And they didn't show him smoking weed, but you knew they were. And they're all just like, and in between times, it's not all about sex. It's about inner beauty and inner peace, man. And they're sitting there like, home, home.

And there's incense in it. We're like, why would anybody want to do that if there's all these old fucking people? We're now those old people. Right.

We're still younger than the motherfuckers they're using some of those things okay so we were seeing the extremes and it's like okay so how about we actually help people with like you know real life shit and real life stuff that's actually going on obviously some of the stuff like pony play that's real but let's actually answer questions if i can help one person not have to go through some of the shit that we went through in the lifestyle i'm in that's that's a huge thing for me okay so right along with that question is how okay i'm gonna say this i'm completely honest with this number one everybody when you're gathering information about anything i don't care what the fuck it is i don't care if it's religion if it's politics if it's sex if it's how to sew on a fucking button how to make spaghetti i don't give a shit whatever source you use you should double check that source anybody who blindly takes anything that anybody else says, you're dumb.

You are fucking dumb. Don't do it. Get multiple opinions. Exactly. So kind of what I'm saying is that even applies to us. I mean, obviously, I hope everybody listens and goes, you know, Cole and Miss Amanda, they really got their shit together. I know they know what's going on. You know what? We do. We do know our shit.

But I'm still encouraging going on you know what we do we do know our shit but i'm still encouraging people you know what double check it if you don't know don't just take my word for it don't just take miss amanda's word for it double check it okay everybody interprets things differently exactly everybody's experiences are different everybody's you know what we have to base on now part of the reason i say that though is here's the deal i'm gonna i'm gonna give you some secrets and some keys okay on how to determine whether or not the source of information the source that you're getting your information from is worth a shit okay all right kids because i'm old break out your pens and papers or electronic devices, what the fuck ever, don't care.

Anyways, number one, is the person you're getting the information from a fucking train wreck? Take a look at the person's life, okay?

The joy of the modern age and Facebook and social media is you can tell a lot about a person by looking at their facebook so when you become friends with a person if constantly they're posting shit like drama on their facebook page if they sound thirsty if they sound desperate if they sound like a moron okay if they if there's those things that are constant on their page you don't even have to spend a lot of time with them to know that maybe the information they're giving you is fucked up would you agree with that statement okay so consider the source take a look at the source of where you're getting the information from now just because they're a train wreck doesn't mean that everything they're saying is wrong no but should i encourage you to double check it yes absolutely okay when you're in a meet and greet this is number two so i can keep making sure we both one number two when you're in a meeting meet and greet watch how other people interact with your source of information.

Okay. So what I mean by that is, do other people run away from them? When they're talking, do their spouse roll their eyes behind their back? Do the people take... I do that a lot. Exactly. Hey, guys, I'm going to tell you what. You want to know whether or not a chick is batshit crazy? Seriously. Watch when that girl is, whether she can be part of a couple or single, it doesn't matter. Watch when she's talking to a guy. Watch what that guy's wife is doing. I'm telling you what. Women can sniff out other batshit crazy women.

And the eye rolls, I mean, they're like rolling them out of their head. They look like a Muppets are rolling their eyes so much. Okay. So see how do people, do other people try to get away from that person as much as humanly possible? Do other people walk up and say things like, wow, they're bat shit crazy, you know, or they're a thirsty fucking single male or whatever. Those are good or just a male.

Those are good indicators just a male those are good indicators that you know what that's probably not a good source number three does the person or persons continuously break the rules and again okay i don't want this to again persons because this applies to couples as well okay there are couples that combine their morons combined they're batshit crazy combined they have alternative motives right applies to couples as well okay there are couples that combine their morons combine their batshit crazy uh combined they have alternative motives right so it's not just singles okay so is it the thing is it the couple that is every time you talk to them they're busy talking shit about somebody else especially are they talking shit about somebody else that's perceived to be more successful.

That's a dead giveaway. You know what that is? That's a fucking hater. And usually their shit that they're telling you is based upon the fact that they're jealous. Okay, maybe they're jealous of who they've hooked up with. Maybe they're jealous of what they do.

Maybe they're jealous, I don't know, maybe they're jealous because their wife's hotter than, or the other couple couple's wife's hotter than their wife whatever the case may be okay but do they constantly break through do they constantly bring up drama do they talk about drama do they talk about other people do they do all the things that are like against the rules or what you've heard are the rules in the lifestyle right that's a pretty dead indicator of that source sucks cock a lot of times a good giveaway is the ones that advertise that they hate drama yeah yeah exactly when the people when they start the conversation with i hate drama you know we hate drama you know what you know what that is that is like okay and i'm and i'm stealing this I will totally I'm stealing this from a comic and I you know what that is that is like okay and i'm and i'm stealing this okay just so everybody i will totally like claims i'm stealing this from a comic uh and i don't remember which comic he's a black comic and he goes do you know how you always know when a white person is going to tell a racist racist joke how they go i'm not racist but and then tells it tells a racist joke you know what it's the exact same thing i hate drama but or they do i hate drama look over your shoulder I'm going to go.

but and then tells it tells a racist joke you know what it's the exact same thing i hate drama but or they do i hate drama look over your shoulder look over your shoulder have you heard and then they spew this the drama out there okay that's a really again that's another indicator of you know what what not to do uh i think we're on number four. I should have, like, made points. Number one, do they have their resume of who they have fucked, hooked up with, or otherwise at the ready and disposal to give you a copy? Have you ever seen that?

Look, man, you know, I have not, I'll be honest, I have not ever seen anybody actually hand me a copy of the who's who of who they fucked, but I have heard it. Yeah, I know you have. I mean, we both have. We have heard the rundown of everybody that they've fucked. And you'll find that within your lifestyle community, if you're new, you may not know all the names on there, but you'll quickly find out that a lot of those names on there are people that are, I don't know, kind of popular or kind of well-known.

They make sure you know that, hey, they hooked up with Bill and Sue because Bill and Sue, everybody thinks they're the coolest people in the world, whatever. And they make sure to put that out there. They're name-dropping. That's another good indicator that their source of information might be a little skewed, just a bit. I don't know. Do you have any? No, you're on a roll. Well, I mean, it is what it is. I mean, jump in on any. If you think I'm off, we didn't plan this at a time, so if you think I'm off, feel free to jump in. Well, and sometimes I probably didn't even hook up with them.

Yeah, no shit. No shit. I, the, the...

you think i'm off we didn't plan this at a time so if you think i'm off feel free to jump in sometimes i probably didn't even hook up with them yeah no shit no shit you have to consider the source okay we talk about this all the time on the show it's your responsibility to have control of you right we say that all the time okay so it's your responsibility to sniff out idiots i smell stupid you it's you had you have to do it look the people are not actually the people will walk up and say hi i'm a dumbass they won't say in that many words they'll say it on one of those other doing one of those other things that we talked about.

But literally that is your responsibility. Part of it is you have to make sure if you're a single or if you're a couple, if you're a couple, it's you two's responsibility to look out for each other. You need to make sure you, you don't just take anybody's random advice. Okay.

Oh, here's the other one I want to hit on on if you see someone that is continuously having to apologize that is a dead giveaway you're kind of pondering what i mean by that yeah i am okay when you see people that are constantly and usually see on facebook or you heard public i'm so sorry i got so fucked up the other night. I didn't mean to do that. Oh, okay. The apology post. There's constantly, there's something happened because they're drama llamas. There's something happened and they created a situation and then they're having to apologize.

And you'll hear about it all because they want as many people to know they're sorry because they still want to be able to come to events and activities continuously so that's a pretty dead giveaway and a pretty good sign that you know uh they don't have their shit together just a little bit i guess the thing is with this is that so many people because when you're new in the lifestyle when you're a newbie you don't know and't know. It's not that you're afraid to ask questions, right? But you don't want to look stupid. No, you don't. We're all adults.

Because let's face it, you're almost 48 in less than a week. Next week will be our birthday show. 48 and 47.

So you figure we got into this at like 38 and 37 we're not real big at that point in time in that to you know you don't like to ask a lot of questions about stuff that should be simple you go well this should be easy but you don't know you don't know terms you don't know now i have no problem going what in the hell is that oh shit i do all the time now i'm like once we and it's not even kinkster stuff that's the other part of that's that's really that's really funny is uh uh you know that that they are that's not kinksters it's just they'll throw a new term out there you know look there you almost need a swingers language uh book it's like going to a foreign country.

Sometimes PBW and BBC and NWO. It's all kinds of shit. Some people are just making up terms as they go, which doesn't fucking help. You almost need it. Don't be afraid to ask. Don't be afraid to do some research. There are a shit ton of resources. Podcasts like ours. There's other good podcast artists out there. There's blogs. There's a lot of places you can go to get information. I actually got pointed out another really good way to tell on if you should consider the source. How thirsty they are. How thirsty they are. That's a really good one.

Well, enough with the thirsty ones because it's the ones that advertise that. It's so much fun.

how thirsty that's a really good one well enough with the thirsty ones because it's the ones that advertise that it's the ones that advertise it that shout out being thirsty no that's that no i totally disagree because here's the deal you want to know what i've watched a shit ton of thirsty fucking people uh they're just as thirsty in public it's just a different way when somebody is your shadow they're thirsty gotcha i know you meet and greet we meet and greet lots of people just saying we don't shadow where that would be a creeper just throwing that out there little thing with that so you just have to watch and you have to make sure that ask questions do your own research don't just accept what somebody else tells you you have to and that goes with anything it goes with parties to go to events to go to clubs to go to vanilla bars to go to swinger bars go to it doesn't matter do your own research don't just don't follow the herd when you follow the herd you end up in somebody's house fucking on a Thank you.

to it doesn't matter do your own research don't just don't follow the herd when you follow the herd you end up in somebody's house fucking on a couch underneath their entire family pictures you know with somebody speaking tongues and at the end of it you walk out just go what the hell just happened you feel like you're in the twilight zone and then you're not gonna want to take and go back to the lifestyle. It's going to freak you out. You just can't do that. Especially now because we encourage people to travel. Go visit new places. So do some research. Right. You're just looking at me.

What's the CASBA page saying? Are they saying that I've lost my fucking mind yet? We're thinking that you were thirsty bashing. That's why we're trying to stop you. Oh, you know what? Absolutely. Absolutely. Look, there is a complete and total difference Be sure to subscribe to stop you. Oh, you know what? Absolutely. Absolutely. Look, there is a complete and total difference between wanting sport fucking and wanting to get laid and being thirsty. Yeah. And you know what? I will make no apologies about that. Right. Because here's the thing. You know what?

There is a right way and a wrong way to do it. And so the thing is, is that, you know what? You have to learn the happy medium. We're all going to make mistakes. Right. But you have to make happy medium. Well, you have... Pissing people off one person at a time. You will be. Oh, no. There's something new. Shelly says she thinks that the show helps facilitate more talking about lifestyle situations. Thank you, Shelly. I hope so. And then she also said if you're new and don't really know if you're asking the right people. That's true. That's true.

Amy's taking the thirsty comments comments personal But y'all can talk about that later No, look We all know What else did she say? Yeah, that's what my Look, no Here's the thing There was another one Oh, Shelly thought this is why this show is a great resource. I appreciate that. The thing is, is everything is a learning curve. There is nothing that you're going to do 100% right the first time in life. It just doesn't work that way. You're going to make mistakes, right? We've talked about it, about you don't know.

So when in Rome, you see 10 people see 10 people do this one thing so what do you do you're trying to imitate we talk about the first time we our experience they started to do shit as a couple we didn't know what was going on what did we do we played fucking parrot right it is what it is okay but what i the point that i want to get across people is you have to take and you have to you have to take ownership at at some point in time why does it not bother me to piss people off okay because we know i piss people off all the time all the time why why does that not bother me because i own it it is it is what it is you know so it's just one of those things I just want people to know as you see more and more people out here and they just, it's scary to ask questions.

It's terrifying to ask questions because you don't want to look dumb or naive or whatever. But there are so many awesome resources out there now, you know, that I want people to use those things. The only way we can make the lifestyle better is to take and have people asking questions and find the answers out for themselves so that then they can encourage kind of what to do. Okay.

So normally that's halfway through through the show Normally that we would take And I would put a big Plug in for our website here I'm not going to We're going to jump right to the next one We're moving shit along today Guess what's up next This is also This this whole show is about personal responsibility okay so this is going to be one that because this is one that uh i have we have spent most of this weekend dealing with yes okay so let's go right into the ever-loving oh so much fun topic that has to be talked about even though it's not fun which is stds that's oh so often i know and it's something if you notice we talk about this a lot why do we talk about it so much because we have to okay look stds and we always put this disclaimer out there we crack jokes about stuff that's serious stds is completely serious completely serious.

Right. There's still things you can laugh with, but we're going to crack jokes, so it is what it is. STDs are a huge fear, worry, concern, and part of the lifestyle. Right? Especially in our age bracket.

There's a lot of people out there there you have two different kind of schools of thoughts with it there's a lot of people that that is their a number one primary concern right and then you have a lot of people that go well that's something young people get we don't have that concern okay okay so what happens is is that our generation when we were growing up there were stds out there obviously but the thing that you were preached about was it wasn't stds it was pregnancy okay so then we're now old enough you can't get pregnant now yay okay so and a lot of other you know either a lot of guys are fixed or a lot of girls are fixed or both.

So, why don't I have to worry about that? So, discussions of condoms and stuff like that doesn't even affect me off the table. Right. But when you look at the demographics and the facts, yep, nope, nope. It's right back on the fucking table. Bigger than life, it is on the table.

because STDs, there's a huge population our age group that has STDs and there it's growing okay so we all know that's out there so and this weekend has just been like has been the STD weekend right we've had it off of our page and other pages were part of all over the place place from different all different levels number one let's just put this out here right right away condoms do not stop all stds no okay we're putting that out there i'm not gonna spend a lot of time on that but we're just putting it out there do your research yeah do your again there you go looky there do your research okay condoms do not stop all stds okay now let's talk about plane if you have an std okay obviously we know there are some stds out there that you can take a pill and they go away right okay we also know there's some out there that once you get them, you got them.

Mm-hmm. They're there forever. You have them forever. You can, some of them you can control or help control with pills, medication, treatment, like herpes. Some of them, like HIV, obviously, more serious, you can't. Okay?

I mean, there's treatments for them, but you have it is what it is you have a responsibility as a person in this lifestyle we each and every single one of us has this responsibility as a couple i have a responsibility for it and you as my spouse have a responsibility for it equally to do our due diligence with the people that we fuck and that we sleep with, sport fuck, or get to know real well, or whatever we do, on what level of risk we're willing to take. Right. And the reason I say what level of risk, we are engaging in a risky behavior.

Every doctor out there in the world will tell you multiple sex partners is a risky behavior it just is what it is right we all know that the degree of risk is do you play safe what's you know how many people do you play with there's a lot of things that go into that that factor we have to take ownership for ourselves okay so how do you take ownership for it well i mean everybody's opinion on this varies a little bit but by testing by using protection by how many people we hook up with who we hook up with you know obviously you throw in drug use and all that kind of crap can throw into with needles and whatever the part with it that just kills me it just drives me insane is that for some reason there is like this disconnect between how often or how many people and how often you're sleeping with people and how often you're getting and when you're getting tested there's like this huge disconnect here okay so the initial response factor is well i get tested okay that's awesome right everybody should get tested and there i'll put it out there there's no fucking excuse not to get tested okay well i'll come back to that in a minute but let's let's look at this for a little this is like math okay you can't change math right so if you get tested i don't some people it's every three months some people it's every six months some people it's once a year whatever everybody has their own variant you get tested however many times you get tested a year mm-hmm okay but we'll just say that you normally get tested every two months awesome but if from I get tested today and I'm gonna get tested two months today but in that timeframe every week I have sex with ten people ten different people okay yeah I can show my last test results show I was clean.

That was 10 pussies ago, or that was 10 penises ago. Could it change between there? Yes. So maybe if you play more often, which again, we're not saying, I'm not putting a judgment on how often you're playing. I'm saying take and put an equality of how much you're playing versus how often you're getting tested. Maybe you're on a hot streak, okay? I mean, I've heard of those. You get on a winning streak, and all of a sudden you're like, wow, you found people that you really like, and it's worked out perfectly, and you've hooked up with people. Goes in spurts. Goes in spurts.

You've had a great spurt.

Well, but you're not scheduled to be tested for another two months well maybe you go ahead and speed up and get tested sooner okay because you need to do that right i mean it's all proportionate how that works and it's like okay so number one you need to be tested if you are more active in the lifestyle this is just my opinion we need a disclaimer no for this okay if you're more active in the lifestyle and if people realize you're more active in the lifestyle it behooves you to take and have your results pretty readily available in the part of the country that we're from uh a lot of the the groups the clubs the Thank you.

readily available in the part of the country that we're from uh a lot of the the groups the clubs the parties don't require to show test results to get in in other parts of the country they do i mean right now being in the midwest if we said you have to show us results that are seven days Like the porn industry does Seven days or newer That you're clean Uh to show us results that are seven days like the porn industry does seven days or newer that you're clean uh that event would be fucking empty because we were like what well but i was uh i was tested three months ago what it would fucker all kinds of shit up there are places in this country where they require that clubs to get in private house parties whatever the case may be so here's the thing just kind of like we talked about with consent you know you can never get too many yeses it's always okay if you're someone that's more active and people know that you're more active however that is whether however you that gets out whatever okay it would behoove you to take and have results available at the ready why do i say that i say that to protect yourself because here's the thing the the challenge in the lifestyle is we're all supposed to be adults but drama comes from people that are being immature so what starts to happen rumors there's one surefire way to always take and squash drama and squash rumors and that is facts so if somebody goes cole you're just a dirty dirty boy okay don't worry no one's gonna do that okay and and you know we've heard rumors we think whatever the case may be uh that you're you're at high risk or worse we've heard you have whatever when you can take and pull up your phone or pull out of your wallet the piece of paper that shows ta-da uh no no i don't and and it it is relative to the amount of time i'm playing accordingly look if if i got on a hot streak which i haven't on a hot streak and it was from a year ago i you know what i mean then that's not very relevant but having your test results like that it's like having renter's insurance or homeowners insurance you don't plan on taking and having a fire rage to your house and burn all your shit or a tornado to fucking destroy your house right but if it does it sure is a good idea to have the shit to cover it right no one's actually out there planning that someone's going to go accuse them or make a rumor that they have something like herpes or hiv or anything but does it happen yes it does so cover your ass now the other thing is it's good to have in many ways because you know you don't have anything look even if you play safe okay and we're going to go back to that thing condoms don't stop everything right so even if you've taken every precaution remember it's still a high risk activity so there's still a chance that you could you want to make sure that you protect yourself you want to do everything you want to know so that as a human being if you should be in the lifestyle as a human being you're not going to want to infect somebody else right right quick side note here i'm just going to put it out here this week's been a long fucking weekend yeah it has been okay i'm going to put it out here if you're somebody that has something has something like herpes hiv or or anything even it can be cured with a pill and you are knowingly playing I don't know.

something has something like herpes hiv or or anything even it can be cured with a pill and you are knowingly playing in the lifestyle without informing partners ahead of time in my opinion you should be either if you're a dude you should be publiclyrated. If you're a chick, you should have your twat sewn shut. Dead on it. Because you know what? If you're doing that without letting them know, if you're knowingly doing that. There are other people in the lifestyle with these things that would be more than happy to play with you. Exactly. Here's the thing.

There are people that have those diseases diseases that are open and up front they're allowing their partners to have the choice whether or not they want to take that risk you know what do they get as much action as maybe somebody who doesn't no they don't but you know what they're not doing they're not taking and knowingly causing harm to somebody else they're being they're taking care of themselves they're owning their what they have and they're taking responsibility for it and it is so frustrating that no matter how much we try that shit still happens in the lifestyle and if you if if someone, I'll be perfectly honest.

Look, if you're going to come to one of my events, if you're going to come to one of our crazy CASB events, crazy winter nights, crazy summer nights, some event like that, and if you're someone that has HIV or has herpes or has something like that, but you're honest and disclose that, like in your profiles or whatever okay somebody i'm not gonna have a problem with you at my event because i know i've talked to you this i know i've done my research see how this keeps coming back weird that you actually are always honest with people that's clearly listed out there i have no problem with that but if you're someone that i find out has it that purposely it, that purposely hides it, I'm going to ban you from everything.

Not only am I going to ban you from everything, I'm going to take and I am going to make sure that other club owners or other people that are having events, hey, do you know? Because I'm going to have done my research to know that it's fact, number one.

not gonna spread a rumor rumors that's bullshit but it's fact and i'm gonna let people know because we feel like we have responsibility to the lifestyle okay if if i'm knowing that somebody into one of our events like that knowing that they don't tell people knowing that they're going to take and and continue to try to push somebody else at my event to have sex you know what i'm no better than they are and i won't do that now the key with that is again we're coming back to personal responsibility and research let's talk about the rumor mill for just a second shall we yeah i would take a drink for this one.

Too best not alcohol. No shit. The rumor mill. Now, look, here's one of the favorite things. When you, accusing somebody of having something like herpes or HIV, you know, incurable, that is a major fucking deal to step out and to accuse somebody of that kind of shit, right? Okay. Anybody who does that, you, before you run your mouth and ruin somebody's life. Because that's ultimately what you're doing. Okay. You're blacklisting them from the lifestyle completely.

And there are some jobs that it can cost them their licenses and everything else if they have those medical licenses and things like that, that if they have it, they can't do certain things. Right. Okay. So when you put that out there, you are leveling a pretty damn serious charge out there. And you have zero right to take and put that out there without proof. Right. Not circumstantial proof, not hearsay, not maybe, nothing, without hardcore fucking proof. Whether it be, and proof that you can show, boom, here's the proof.

Whether it be from the person themselves, whether it be, you know, be you know test results something you need fucking proof anything short of that again if you use that to set help to help solve an issue okay a personal drama you are no better than the person that's fucking people with it and not telling them that is just as equally bad that is just equally and there is no place for that in lifestyle at all now again whose response ultimately whose responsibility is to make sure you're safe from stds your own okay you have to take ownership you you can't count on other people to continuously provide you the answer or to to count on every single person that you meet or maybe you go and meet up a couple of times with for dinner and and things like that to be honest with you you can't right okay we talked about this last week job interviews and shit people can fake that shit okay it's still ultimately your responsibility it's your responsibility if you feel comfortable saying i want to see test results I don't get to play with that person that couple for a little bit longer if that's what you feel most comfortable with then that's what you should ask for uh if it's something that that uh you only feel comfortable with condoms then that's then there you go and and that that And that's the person you're with should have no problem with it.

Right. I mean, obviously, you know what? For me, I hate condoms. We use condoms. I may ask you as a girl to put it on for me, but I don't try to talk you out of using them. I don't try to, you know, no, that's not how that works so you know you you and you have to stick to your guns on that stuff you you can't alter it for the right here right now well it's probably okay well maybe maybe not you don't know but if you don't take responsibility you can't count on other people too right okay do we have anybody still watching? No, it's quiet now. Oh, yeah, yeah.

Scared the hell out of all of them, didn't I? The thing is, is when you go, the next level of it is that as page owners, as people that put on events in the lifestyle, my belief is that we have an added responsibility. We have an added responsibility, just like we have an added responsibility to make sure that if you come to one of my events that we have proper, we have enough security so that there won't be any rape or sexual assault any rape or sexual assault or, you know, that you feel safe at the event. That's my responsibility. It also falls in line with if, again, when it comes to STDs.

It falls in line with if you know of or if you have suspicions of someone that is possibly has a sexually transmitted disease.

I have problem going before you come to my event i need to see test results i need to see them they need to be no older than this no older than seven days old i i don't have a problem now that may upset somebody it may piss them off but i can live with that right i'd rather live with that than to come to find out that well i didn't i didn't do that i ignored that rumor that whatever and now there are six more cases of people with herpes because of one of my events right so we all even though yes i believe it's your personal responsibility it personal responsibility, I think as we do other things, if everybody would take their level of responsibility, we all took our personal levels like we're supposed to, and if people that do events and activities would take their level like they're supposed to, and all the way through, you could cut down on the number of cases of of stds you could cut down on on a lot of those things from happening but you have to be willing to stand up and and possibly have some haters possibly have somebody pissed off uh but there's an added degree of safety.

It just is what it is. Uh, STDs, we will on this show, we will continuously always revisit the topic of STDs because it's a very real part of what we do, you know? And the thing is, is there isn't any excuse not to be tested. It's not that expensive.

I mean, if you're someone that's extremely active and needs to be tested for you know every other month or every month or whatever the case may be rock on you know what there's home kits there's there's resources all over there's health departments there's planned parenthood there's your regular doctor you can go to a different doctor there's a million and one places that offer these services so there is no excuse at all to not get it done.

You know, this is not like, it's not like 1940 or something where, you know, if you go into the doctor, well, you know, Doc Walton's going to tell everybody in town and, you know, no, it's not how this works. There's a million and one places that you can call that are online. Your results or everything you do is online. They send you to a local lab and then you are able to have your results with you right there with you on your phone. And they're completely confidential and it, you know, the whole nine yards.

So, you know, a failure to get tested is failure to face the reality of what we do a little bit you're being so quiet why are you being so quiet this show oh you get on a rant and i just let you go that's how that goes the thing is is we just the lifestyle is supposed to be fun that's the ultimate thing is the lifestyle is supposed to be fun. That's the ultimate thing. The lifestyle is supposed to be fun. But it can only be fun if people take some personal responsibility for it. I mean, we don't have all the answers. We don't claim to have all the answers. No, we don't claim to have all.

That's why we say these are our opinions. opinions i mean i hope that we're able to provide people with some guidance on stuff i think that's important i hope we're able to do that but ultimately it's your body it's your life just like anything else in life you have to take ownership you have to to to reach a comfort level that you're confident with uh and especially when we're talking about as an adult activity as fucking other people I don't know.

reach a comfort level that you're confident with uh and especially when we're talking about as an adult activity as fucking other people i mean seriously this is this is not like you know like a putt putt game of golf or some shit you know so it's just yeah personal responsibility kids it goes oh so very very far so now now my sound guy's just trying to get me off the air all right uh hey so i want to give a shout out again again to our very very good friends uh out at natural pines resorts i remember it's the adult playground over 128 acres uh of of places to have fun and romp free.

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