Krazy Truth #43 Slow your Roll

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Speaker1: Hey kids, the program you're about to listen to contains some adult situations, adult language, themes, and other adult topics. If you're easily offended, this show's not for you. We're giving a special shout out to our show sponsor today, James from Houston. James is one of our listeners and wanted to support our program and he's sponsoring our entire episode as well as the second half of our as a the second half of our previous episode so thank you james if you'd like information on how your group club or yourself could sponsor the crazy truth contact us at crazy k-r-a-z-y dot casbah k-a-s-b-h at gmail.com hey you crazy motherfuckers welcome back to another edition of crazy truth i am the host with the most i'm cole i'm here with the lovely lovely tits exposed miss amanda hey no they're not shut up they don't know it's radio Unless you go to our YouTube channel. Then I'll see you.
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Speaker1: For $1,000, she'll come to your house and do it oh look the phone lines are lighting up weird don't y'all no yawning holy fucking shit no yawning on the air jesus oops hopefully we won't keep miss amanda yeah it was on the radio they wouldn't see anything i'm sorry when you go i did not do that you sound like you sound like a zoo animal getting ready to fucking eat a fucking head of lettuce in one swoop yes maybe you're saying i have a big mouth it's being that giraffe around my cock so yes it must be huge god now that means that she could open it must be you. Nice cover, jackass. Cod. Now that means that she can open it like a straw. Oh, sorry.
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Speaker1: Why am I having to rip on myself and help you with that? We've got all kind of dick jokes you can make
Speaker2: right there and you just like
Speaker1: let him slide. You are out. Well, hopefully,
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Speaker1: Miss Amanda awake for the entire show.
Speaker3: Like I've fallen asleep
Speaker4: during any of them.
Speaker1: Give us time. We'll get you there. Don't you worry. There are times I have spaced off and haven't been listening. Wait, are you talking to a show or a 25 year marriage? All the above. This is what makes, this is why we do things together, kids. Okay, so normally we start off with a weird sex story uh i actually kind of have one uh there was a former football football star in the uk which we all know uh is just uh soccer okay although this is the type of thing you would think from an american football player as well just saying okay uh this dude has been like he was kicked out of leagues basically here's where he's at he's currently like you know parking cars for a living seriously okay he's flat ass fucking broke okay so his fiance he's actually in Ireland and his fiance put on swinger parties well here's the problem. Over there, those parties are illegal because it's like sex trafficking in a form of prostitution. So he got arrested. A tabloid picked it up and fucking smeared them all over the place. He won 378,000 pounds in a settlement that they defamed his character. And their high court just turned that over and said nope he gets nothing because they took away from the fact that he admitted he was attending those parties so it's hard to defame somebody saying you're doing this just because he didn't set them up his fiancee did uh so he's still just guilty he lost all that money so guess what he's's still doing? Parking cars. Parking cars. Yep. Absolutely. So there you go. So I read that. I was like, aw. At first I was kind of cheering for the guy. And then I'm like, aw. If it's illegal, why would you admit? Whatever. I don't know. Why would anybody do anything illegal? That's definitely not what we're doing. No, why would you admit to doing it? Well, because he thought he could sell the story first to the tabloid. And that's the funny twist of the whole thing. The tabloid approached him. He tried to bribe them not to publish it. Then he tried to turn on them and get them to pay him for the whole story. And then he sued them when he was found guilty.
Speaker2: So, yeah.
Speaker1: So, basically, he couldn't extort them for money. So, he thought he could get money. And it's where we are. So, he's lost that money, and his fiancée is a hooker. I don't know if she's a hooker or not. I just made that part up. Obviously. Okay. So we're off to a great start. Here we go, kids. All right. So we're back to our regular thing. We've got questions. Okay. We've got questions. So the first question comes to us from A. What he wants to call this is A. Okay. So it wasn't like A or B. It was just A. Good day, A. It comes to us from A in the Midwest, okay? And so A's question is this. He recently was able to hook up with a female that he really wanted to hook up with. His wife, there's only two females in the Lifestone area that his wife is intimidated or, you know a little intimidated by okay okay one of those females that hook up was that person oh okay okay so now they've dealt with how to deal with maybe some uh hurt feelings not hurt feelings but but how to make sure there's a degree of comfort for everybody involved moving forward does that make sense okay so go I'm just kidding okay so here's the thing this is not an uncommon situation at all I mean and that's the first thing I want to stretch it look most of the questions we get it's not they're not like really out there or bizarre questions okay it's it's very very common i think we we have had this very same thing or a form thereof well yeah we have okay so the first thing that goes on this with is look and it doesn't matter which person, whether it's a guy or girl, being on the fun end, the hookup end, okay? What you have to remember is this is kind of like, what's a good analogy for this? Oh, I know. Okay, so when you have a coworker and they're going on vacation and you're not, right? You're happy for them and they're all like, I'm going on vacation. I'm going on vacation. But you're also like, okay, that's great. And then they come back and they're trying to show you all these vacation photos and you're like, you don't care. It becomes overwhelming because while they were off on vacation, nothing changed for you. I mean, you still had to go to your job and you had to maybe pick up extra slack Thank you. overwhelming because while they were off on vacation nothing changed for you i mean you know you still had to go to your job and you had to maybe pick up extra slack or whatever you know there was you had nothing exciting to go with okay now if you both were going on vacation and you could be showing each other vacation photos when you got back that would be more exciting this is the same thing what i think happens is is that when couples especially playing alone and i don't know uh it didn't tell me how long they've played alone or anything else okay everybody's a little different on that part of it but what happens is and what happened with us we go play alone right and then it was a great time you're excited about it so you're coming back and you're like i'm coming back and i'm just like
Speaker2: I don't know. we go play alone, right? And then it was a great time. You're excited about it.
Speaker1: So you're coming back and you're like, I'm coming back and I'm just like verbal vomiting. And then we did this and it was great. It was this and it was this and it was this. Okay, well, you'd already been hearing about how excited I was to go play leading up to it. And you were on board with it. Okay, that's fine. But then when you come home and then all you hear about, you know, like for us, all you heard about for the next week Thank you. it and you were on board with it okay that's fine but then when you come home and it's then all you hear about you know like for us all you heard about for the next week was this was great and that was great and this was great and that was great and this was great i mean it literally got to the point that almost every story because we communicate everything right and so i said i remember something i hadn't told you so I wanted to tell you so that we didn't break that trust between us. But almost every story started with that girl's name. And I thought I was just sharing exciting stuff. And I remember you blatantly saying to me, can we talk about anything other than person X? Yeah. Because, I mean, literally, and I'm like, what? And you're like, I'm sick of fucking hearing about it. I mean, you were upset. Well, I don't know if I quite said it that way, but sure. Well, you were. It's been a while. You weren't like mad mad, but enough was was enough it was it getting annoying it was getting annoying and it was like okay great you had a good time let it drop it almost became like i had great sex i mean that wasn't what i was trying to do but that's the way it it became you know nails on a chalkboard so i guess for me the first thing i would say is okay as a guy especially as a guy you need to slow down and take a look at what are most of your conversations about then in the lifestyle because if everything you're talking about in the lifestyle involves that other person, especially if there was a feeling of not lack of trust, because obviously there was stress there to let it happen, but a lack of confidence dealing with that other person, it's the person, in my opinion, it's the person, the partner who went and played, their responsibility to taper it down. Right. I mean, it's not don't leave stuff out you need to tell them everything like if you're a couple that communicates like we do we tell each other the whole thing all parts of it right you need to make sure you tell all parts but you need to make sure because i think you just get excited and you forget that that can be over over the top well and you also have to understand everybody has everybody has insecurities right and when you keep hearing about the same person it's like what am i not good enough right and even even though obviously you know that you know you know it's not true but do you think it's harder for a woman okay because our Because our situation was, I went and played, okay? So, and not vice versa. Do you think it's harder for a woman to have to hear those things than it is for a guy? From a woman's perspective. Well, I don't know what it is for a guy. We don't give a shit. We just like getting our dick wet. We boink something. No, I mean. Sometimes, you know, sometimes when you're, at least for me, my biggest hangups have been when you look at somebody and go, ooh, she's hot, I want to fuck her. Ooh, she's hot, I want to fuck her. Ooh, she's hot, I really like to hook up. And then you look at yourself and go, okay, I don't match any of the profiles of this other person so um is that what he's wanting even after all these years together yeah because here's the thing does it change okay we've been together 26 almost 20 it'll be 27 years holy fuck jesus christ wow you're one lucky woman no i'm just kidding i'm one lucky guy Let's make that perfectly clear I'm the lucky one It'll be 27 years That we've known each other Yeah Well Been going out Because we met each other via sex My nice So So okay So That'll be this month No April Yes Oh no I'm sorry I'm wrong why because it's been 27 years so i'm wrong april still okay okay so after 27 years does that change though you i mean you're pretty much fucking stuck with me i know sure am and it sucks bob but he's broke what so no i mean does it change after all these times you know i'm not leaving the fact that i was oogling over that nurse yesterday does that fuck it does that does that fuck and i was she was fucking hot bang that fucking six ways to friday uh does that change anything to a degree but it just depends sometimes it depends on my mood sometimes it depends on hormones hormones yep insecurities and all that stuff some a lot of times it depends on that and you get a form of jealousy so what you're saying is menopause is another i don't know i haven't hit that yet the father what the fuck the fuck you haven't okay so we're now for those of you that don't know we have our large like my penis uh i'm kidding large uh facebook page crazy casbah and also our king page kinky casbah and so we do this live in front of them so uh we've got one that's saying right now uh yes women remember everything that is said we get butt hurt in a minute even though i know we go to a party and he still goes home with me i still need validation okay and so well okay so that may i mean well okay that makes sense i guess so okay but at what point in time do you not at what point in time do you eliminate when do you start to stop talking about it when is it like i mean because here's the deal if i come home okay if i have a great i hook up with somebody right let's say like that next semester it'll never Okay, but let's say I hook up with like a realistic somebody, like a real person and not just. Okay, I go out and I hook up and I'm excited. If I come home and I say to you, you know, you go, well, how was it? It was okay.
Speaker2: It was good.
Speaker1: And you're like, was it good or was it great? It was really good. Oops, I just made those go away. That's a good comment. You know, it was it good or was it great it was really good oops i just made those go away that's a good comic you know it was really good and that's all i say you're not gonna buy that shit because i'm gonna come home and i got a shitty grin on my face you're not gonna buy that shit right i mean and and you will tell me about it and you have to like pry it out of me yeah so that i don't want to become over-enthusiastic. Is that a problem? I mean, would that piss you off as much? Probably to a degree, but I think I've done that to you. Okay, well, because I was going to say from a guy's standpoint, that actually, okay, from a guy's standpoint, this is going to sound really, you know, women are from Mars and men are from Venus. Yeah, Venus, yeah. Whatever. Okay, the thing is, is from a guy's standpoint, that pisses me off. But it depends on your mood when I get back. No, shut up. No, no. Snap, crackle, pop. No, the thing is, is that, that makes me sound like an ass. No no it's just sometimes you're not in the best of moods but no no neither am i i've had my psycho moments okay the okay yes bitch so that was a different story you didn't know i was psycho till till i started talking you're right now once once you find out you're like oh boy here we go okay but no that actually pisses me off as a guy because it's like okay because then my first thought is quit dumbing it down it's okay say you liked it i gave you permission i didn't give you permission to go have an okay time i gave you permission to go get fucking railed and have fun so when you come on and i'm like my okay in my little pea brain as a male pea brain goes well what is she not telling me right okay so it's like so what is she leaving out but now that's easy for me to say okay because there's been times you've come home and i mean your your our experiences playing individually has been hit and miss okay there's been times that if you had come home and just been like wow that was fucking off the charts blah i can't you've never done that to me so i don't know that's what's hard for me to say oh i absolutely would have a problem with that or i wouldn't because here's the deal you don't know until that situation that okay and just for clarification because yes we have both at our psychotic moments but i think we both agreed because here's a deal we're a couple we we talk this shit out our psychotic moments were no one's fault, but own correct and so i mean and it sucks but it's going to happen and i think that's because we're human and you know those are things you just have to know if it happens you have to realize you're having a psychotic moment which both of us did and then we both both fucking apologized immediately. And then we talked it through until we both made sure we understood why we had lost our fucking minds. Now, when it comes to talking about it afterwards and having to hear different stories, I'm okay with you talking about it for a week. You know, going, oh, and then there was this. And, well, this person said this and this and we did this i'm okay with that that's not to the point of annoyance but if we're into like week two week three i'm gonna go all right well but the problem was the first time when we did it it was i was talking about it was it was the excited um the excited like wow this happened It wasn't new information. It wasn't like, oh, hey, shit, by the way. Because, again, we're really big on telling each other everything. So especially because it's only been over the last two years that we've started playing alone. Okay, so just like when we played this couple, covering everything that was important to us, playing alone, it was always really important. It's one of our rules that we'll make sure. So it was not the first time. It was not like, oh, hey, I forgot to tell you that after we fucked this time, we talked for a few minutes and she started sucking my dick again. Okay, a lot of people would go, well, why do you need to know that? Well, that's just our rule. And if you don't like it, fuck off. But, I mean, that's just our rule and you don't like it fuck off but i mean that's just our rule right but it wasn't information like that it was like you know still telling oh my god when she did this that was so incredible and oh my god you know and we got along so great and then we laughed about it was just the excited babble it wasn't new information we have had one where literally almost three weeks later we were out i don't know if you remember this now it was it was after it was after my first time of hooking up individually and we were out and we ran into that person great no problem shot whatever and on the way home sitting there talking to something sparked my mind that i had forgotten to tell you and it look it was something like uh because we had met at at a place of gaming we'll just say that that'd be a casino uh and and we had fucked around and we sat and talked we fucked around some more and we had actually went back down down to the floor and got a drink and then went back up and fucked around one last time. And I had forgot to tell you that we had went down to have a drink. Was it a big deal? No, but it fell into our rules. It was like literally on the way home. I'm like, holy shit, I totally forgot to tell you this that night. And we almost laughed about it because it was so. Really? Yeah. I mean, it had no bearing on anything. And she was terrified to be around me. Oh, yeah. She was absolutely terrified. She was so nervous. And the thing was is we had, I told you how many times we had fucked, but I forgot to tell you that break. Okay, that's going to happen. Okay, so now, so number number one i guess the thing is temper yourself a little bit i know everything is exciting and and cool and whatever but you you still have to like your excitement can't overpower the other person you you can't forget especially if the other person has some fears or concerns and i just i don't know if that was earlier today that i just went i keep i hate to keep bringing this name up but this person is like no he just happened to say that because we're communicating more but they said this right exactly and it wasn't had any nothing to do with no it doesn't it didn't but it was it was still but that's part of the way we are the way we function so but i mean definitely i think he needs to cool his enthusiasm a little bit he also needs to make sure for me for us you know we're it's we have an awesome relationship that you were able to say okay that's enough and then we talked about it we were able to talk about oh i didn't mean to you know you were able to point out why it was bothering you and i was able to process that so that we were able to adjust accordingly obviously the the key is you communication i mean everything comes back down to communication so and you have to be willing to talk and realize that that's that's fucking shit's gonna happen what else i mean i guess from a from a female standpoint because that situation is male female so from a female standpoint do you is there anything that he can do to help her get past that feeling of whatever concerns or fears she might have about you or, you know, about that other person? You know what I mean? Is there anything from some of that? As a woman, what advice would you say to him? Hey, this is what you need to do.
Speaker4: Well, just on one standpoint alone is they're still coming home to you. Yes. So there might be some insecurities, but if he came home, marked his territory or. Right. That's what we call when we fuck. We mark our territory. Whatever. Just some nickname we came up with from the get go and it's stuck. and it's just kind of weird but it is what it is i pee on her you know good but you came back we still had amazing sex it was great right right so you know once they come home and there's not that then then there's probably issues if things don't get in the way.
Speaker1: Okay, what would you say about playing a game soon? Okay, here's our thing, my thing, our thing. I speak for both of us. Know your place.
Speaker2: I'm just kidding.
Speaker1: I'm just kidding. Okay, so, okay, my thing is that how soon, okay, I remember when it was our situation. I can be it depends on the individual i say it depends in my opinion communication on or can be. It depends on the individual. I was going to say it depends. In my opinion, communication on that can be like, look, it doesn't have to be. The first one, one of them that you had hooked up with individually, it was a big thing to me that there was somebody in between that before that happened again. Okay. Which was my own insecurities. Mm-hmm. Okay, and were they justified? No. And look, here's the deal. Most of the time insecurities are not justified. They're really not, right? But it was important to me. I think the biggest thing is communicate so you know that. Because the last thing you want to do is have what was a really great experience and what could be a great experience multiple times turn into something negative because you didn't communicate and you didn't make sure that, hey, look, you know, just like that on that one of yours, I had to have that. I needed that right now. You have a complete hall pass with that person anytime you want. But I just needed that at that time to get over my own insecurities.
Speaker2: Right.
Speaker1: I think one of the things is your insecurities are not – there's nothing wrong with having insecurities.
Speaker2: Right.
Speaker1: I mean, it's perfectly normal, and it's okay to have them.
Speaker2: It's natural, yeah.
Speaker1: It's natural. The key is to make sure that you talk about them. Because insecurities – look, if you don't bring out insecurities and you don't fucking vocalize how you feel those are going to fester into fucking really bad bad places there there's never there's no example of well i just buried my feelings and how i felt insecure about it and look now we're happy happier than ever before i mean that shit does not work that fucking way no so the key is talk communicate make sure don't fucking assume i am notorious for assuming okay as a guy i'm a fucking dumbass and and i'm notorious and i've been guilty of assuming after 26 years like years, like one time. It was back in 2001. You've assumed a lot. Okay. But once you assume, there's a problem. And as the person that got to go play, it seems easy to go, well, they should be over it. Well, no, it doesn't work that way. It's kind of like grieving. Okay, everybody grieves different. You can't tell somebody, well, it's been 24 hours. Pull yourself up by your bootstraps, puss ball. No, you can't do it. Everybody does it differently. Everybody deals with insecurities differently also. So you need to make damn sure that everybody's back on the same page. That's like a huge one to me.
Speaker2: Really? That's all you're going to say? Well, and you have to be able to go fucking oreo cookie commercial i'm funny with it see this is what we're poking jeff really well you're gonna fucking smile you're gonna say i keep you awake if i'm fucking pissing you off just saying poke poke and i just had a thought in mind, I lose it. Oh, fuck. Way to go. You sure? I'll give you a second. Really? No, I totally forgot what I was thinking. Way to go. All right. All right, so with that, hey, you know what? Again, a shout-out to our show's sponsor, James, out of Houston, Texas. Thank you so much for your support and wanting to be a sponsor of the show. remember you too can be a sponsor of a full show half a show a week's worth a month's worth of shows uh your group you're in as an individual whatever contact us at crazy casbah dot com uh so there you go are we back all right we are back sorry we're all a little exhausted Hence's the finger point i can barely see him over the computer new studio we new studio we get new new features and designs okay not really but sure yeah okay all right so you ready for another question sure you're right do you want to do this one no because i have no idea what you're gonna say lord okay this one comes to us from mel okay excuse me i don't know that was not the question it was hard to put that in the email but we got it thanks mel for your question the answer that is excuse you no i'm just kidding okay this is from this is from mel uh mel is in sunny California. I wish I were there.
Speaker3: No shit.
Speaker2: Now, I'm going to make an assumption. I wasn't able to get a hold of Mel. I'm going to assume that Mel is a lady, only because of the question.
Speaker1: Okay. Okay, so the question is, why won't guys be more aggressive and assertive?
Speaker2: Okay.
Speaker1: I don't know. question is why won't guys be more aggressive and assertive okay and I'm just like I read this email and I facepalm because I hear this continuously I've said it uh how many times a lot two three four five thousand maybe probably uh you've said it wendy said it we hear from women all the time we hear from women all the time and here's the thing i'm not facepalming uh that because that's a bad question because it's not a bad question no and we appreciate your question okay so let's i i want to okay first disclaimer we're still gonna crack jokes about shit even though it's serious and and just because that's what we fucking do okay okay all right so here's the thing you need to look at the world we live in to get an understanding of this okay i understand And it perfect sense to me, because we've talked about this. You want a guy that is going to make you feel hot. It's going to make you feel sexy. It's going to make you feel sensual. And it's going to be like, not Fifty Shades, but it's going to be like a romance novel. You want a guy that you're going to fucking, you guys are going to go back to the room and he's going to fucking start kissing you and fucking ripping your clothes off you and fuck you like a boss right sound pretty hot he's nibbling your neck fucking buttons are flying and shit's out all over the place it's a little too aggressive and he's got you by the hair, whoa, whoa'm just kidding. No, but I mean, you want a stereotypical man-man, right? You want somebody that's going to step up. You don't. Again, we're hoping Miss Amanda stays awake. Please. Anybody listening that happens to work for like Bang, let us know. We'd like you to be a sponsor. Anyway, so. I'm just kidding with you. So. That's bad. The thing is, is that, okay, you want, because that makes you feel, that makes you feel sexual. Wanted. Wanted. And, you know, and that's what you want and as a guy i get it okay because at home we don't do that all the time we've been together almost you know 27 years you know but there's more passion than that i know it's not enough fuck don't look at me like that i didn't see one of the other fucking cameras anyway no i'm just kidding. So the thing is, is that a lot of women want that. Here's the thing. A lot of guys want to be able to do that, okay? I would love to pick up somebody at a party. There was a certain person who wanted to do the benefit a couple weeks ago. there was a certain person there that i wanted to walk up to uh and lightly grab her arm and go let me fuck you and take her to the room and do that okay and there were signs that maybe there was interest there right but here's the thing we you have to understand the world that we live in now and this is the thing that i'm saying to every single female listening okay and i know someone gonna like it and i don't fucking care because it's true every female listening we live in hashtag me too world.
Speaker2: Okay.
Speaker1: Now, before everybody gets buttered and before you start typing your fucking hate letters to me. Okay. Understand. I am absolutely 110% opposed to violence towards women, opposed to sexual assault, rape. And I'm 100% supportive of the fact that if there are claims made against someone, they should be investigated completely and thoroughly. Totally believe that, 100%. I don't think that if somebody raped somebody 20 years ago, well, enough time passed, fuck you. I don't believe that, okay? But by the same token, that is the world that we live in.
Speaker2: Okay.
Speaker1: And I can say that as a man, because obviously lots of women in my other women in my life have all been affected by rape and sexual assault. Okay. but because there's also claims there's also a lot of false claims out there as well okay and because we do live in in a me too world as a guy as a swinger someone in the lifestyle i am 46 years old and i am not going to put myself in a situation where she's had a couple cocktails i've had a couple cocktails nobody's drunk but there's alcohol involved I'll see you next time. years old and i am not going to put myself in a situation where she's had a couple cocktails i've had a couple cocktails nobody's drunk but there's alcohol involved or maybe not even alcohol and i'm in a one-on-one situation where all the signs said she wanted me to kiss her but she didn't and when i kissed her she didn't want to be kissed because now all of a sudden words that start getting used are words like sexual assault and rape and it becomes a he said she said situation as a single male or as i'm not a single male okay I'm about to be if I keep making stupid comments like that. As a male, I understand that there is a risk factor, and I'm going to be damn sure, 100% sure, that a female is interested before I start to do anything. I'm going to make damn sure that if at any point in time in the process, I don't care if she says yes 10,000 times as soon as the word no comes out, no means no, and you stop. It doesn't matter where you're in the process. But I am not going to assume anything because assuming anything is guaranteeing a making for disaster. It's opening the opportunity for trouble. Now, understand, we have three boys, right? They're all grown up. I have taught all my boys respect to women. And I have taught my boys no means no. And I have taught my boys be careful what situation you put yourself in okay so as a woman you have to understand that uh if the if a guy has any fucking sort of brains about himself he is going to be really really sure he's going to continue to be sure look if you make the first move it's a sad reality we live in if i make the first move and i grab you and start making out with you and i misread everything that is sexual assault and and if you go oh my god jump away and call 9-1-1 i'm going to i'm going in handcuffs as well justifiably so if roles are reversed and you're you also make that move on me okay number one historically just like all sexual assault sexual harassment guys are less likely to report it number one uh and it's going to be taken way less serious and here's the thing i could call the police you're not going to go to jail you're just you're you're not going to go to jail and and the reality of it is is that when it is you and me in a hotel room by ourselves at a swinger event at a lifestyle event i am there is no benefit of the doubt okay and and understand i'm not saying there should be i mean it is what it is but as a woman you cannot get pissed off if i'm not going to just make the assumption that just because we're swingers just because we're a lifestyle event and just because you gave me quote unquote the signs that that's okay because the reality of it is we talk about no woman deserves to be raped because of the outfit that she wears no woman deserves or sexually assaulted obviously no woman deserves to be sexually assaulted or raped because of how much makeup she wears or because of laughing at a joke okay and those are all principles that i that obviously i firmly believe in okay so you can't take those principles but we're at a swingers event so that must mean it's not gonna mean to me it means nothing until it if you touch my thigh that doesn't mean anything if you want to kiss me you're going to lean over and you're going to kiss me okay so so mel, you have to understand the world that we live in and you can't fault guys in those situations for being hesitant. Do you agree or do you think that's fucking over the top? No, I agree. What's people on our page saying? Let's see. Let's see. Women want strong, confident alpha men, but society has forced most of us to take a beta role well okay and let me let me address that here's the thing you you can still be a strong alpha male right you you can still have it you just have to know when to have it mm-hmm right i mean that here's the thing now we say all this stuff and i this is based upon and i'm basing i don't know if mel is basing on this or not but i'm basing it off of what you and and other women in my life have experienced and because we have a girlfriend so i can say other women my wife my life have experienced in at swinger parties okay at a swinger party there's no assumptions you just don't that's my rant now there is a difference though okay so guys this part's for you to listen up to here's the deal if you have set up a time it seems like I've said this before If you have set up a time to meet and hook up with miss amanda or with a insert female's name here okay it's set up you guys are going to go to this party you're going okay at the benefit you had a planned hookup with an individual right it was planned i knew it you knew it he knew it there was no assumption about it it was going to happen and everybody was okay with it those are the times now at that point in time here's the deal you're there to fuck okay this is not the time now to all of a sudden be afraid or whatever unless she walks in and says i'm having a second thought i mean at that point that is a set up meeting for hooking up that is the time place where to get to be that alpha male okay so in that situation the exact opposite place quit being a fucking puss right i mean seriously at that point in time you don't you should not need an hour of conversation to fuck at that point in time i mean okay so when i first hooked up with our girlfriend we had we had we talked online we met once in public just generically and then also at another party okay and the thing is is that what we we had set up to meet at a hotel room to have sex right there was a total of less than 20 minutes of conversation before we were having sex because that was what the setup was supposed to i mean that's what we were all there for right so that's that's it's the same type of deal you know so i mean and that's kind of what happened with your hookup it went like the way it was supposed to go everybody knew it it. It went down. You guys had great sex. And it was set up in a way that there wasn't a bunch of bullshit between.
Speaker2: Mm-hmm. Right? Mm-hmm.
Speaker1: Okay, so we're getting all kinds of the comments are just lighting up on the live show here. How many people think I've lost my mind?
Speaker2: Nobody.
Speaker1: Nobody yet? Well, they're not listening hard enough. I'm just kidding. I'm not really crazy. Yeah, women want strong men.
Speaker2: What?
Speaker1: Trying to read some of these things. The regards thing is solid. You can get total confirmation with the next day. Okay, so that's a great question. So the question is, You can do it. uh the regrets thing is solid you can get total confirmation but the next day okay so that's a great question so the question is you can get total confirmation uh but the next day what if she has regrets okay again and that that is an excellent question okay that is an excellent excellent question so basically if let's say that was all good i'm i'm assuming you got to tell me are you talking about a hotel party or a pre pre set up to have sex well it probably doesn't even matter well i thought fuck it doesn't the next day you can still have regrets look if you have this is like buying a fucking car okay if you set up to go fuck and then the next day you go oh i shouldn't have done that uh here's the deal that doesn't change consensual well no it doesn't change consensual but you can still have regrets later you get you can have regrets you just don't go back or give them any attention you should you should have done your research better okay so i mean, there's no three-day ride of return policy here. You know, get your juices back at his ways. Now, in terms of a party, look, if you're talking about in a party, how do you deal with that to make sure that, you know, the next day she doesn't have regrets and make something up or that something, you know, that's not true, well, that becomes a new challenge. Number one, it's a really good reason to control how much booze you drink. And it's also a really good reason to have a number one rule of thumb. It's not just how much booze you've had to drink, how much booze has the other person had to drink.
Speaker2: You know what? Getting your dick wet should never outweigh common sense. Okay, if you as a guy fuck some girl that is just train wreck drunk, whether you're train wreck drunk or not, you're an idiot. You're a fucking moron. We've pretty much said, no, we're not hooking up tonight.
Speaker3: We'll hook up a different day. We'll hook up a different time.
Speaker1: There's one couple we've tried three different times. One time she was super drunk. One time you were super drunk. One time I was super drunk. And you know what? We have never, three of the four of us in each one of those situations was completely coherent. And know our partner well enough to know we could have said yeah it would be okay but nobody felt comfortable yeah okay so you know be willing to say no and walk away and it's the same thing for a woman here's the deal if the guy is fucking train wreck hammer drunk you know what don't do it don't do it drunk or high is how you make how you make that's a great way to get regret uh regret know yourself look there are a lot of people in this world anymore in the lifestyle that they will not go as a single guy separately with a girl for their own safety and and do i think that could be overkill yeah but again it does it does weigh into the things of if you are married letting your spouse meet them talk with them double two eyes are better than one make sure it is you know what a woman has a better idea of another woman's flirting you know make sure on who's drunk if you're a single you're there with you know the buddy system have the other person check it out type of thing make sure you know where people are going to be you know take the proper precautions but the thing is is that when i went out there to the women please bear with us men it's not that we've all become ballless wuss balls okay we really haven't But we have to err on the side of caution which isn't necessarily a bad thing you know we'd rather look i'd rather err on the side of caution than than have anybody do something they're not comfortable with like what are you getting hiccups or something okay what what you what we got a good comment trying to read comments as a go which comment is it sound guy uh no lemon law yeah what no that's the last one i have oh here what yeah there we got to get what's the last one? Read it to us. The Archtime guy's the greatest. He's, like, listening, he's all on top of his shit. So, remember my bullshit. Okay. So. Well, now it's the second to last. Okay. Oops. By the way, silence doesn't work well. Yeah, I know it doesn't. Okay, so. Okay. Let's see see uh comment just because a woman regrets fucking a guy she won't she won't fuck him again not what many women will go through the rape investigation just to make an excuse for fucking a chud and that's very true and that's and that's actually that's actually a great point and we don't want to imply, look, we don't want to imply or simplify or modify or anything else the true rape, okay, and the things that can happen with it. We absolutely don't. Again, this is something that's touched our own lives, so we absolutely understand that. But I think the reality of it is that there is, I'm a believer in it at least, there's a difference between regret and consent. And I fully understand. Look, I put my dick places where I regretted doing it. But the thing is, there's a hell of a difference in there i'm sorry the reality is you cannot take and say that regret and rape are the same thing consensual is consensual regret i understand that uh it's like buyer's remorse buyer's remorse exactly but again and i throw this out there again is ladies and guys you keep the booze to the thing you keep the booze to a minimum you make sure that you know yourself is that you are in control you make sure that you're uh the person you're gonna have sex with is in control if you're singles use the buddy system have a buddy have somebody there that's gonna watch your back and help go, hey, you know what? You've had a lot to drink. You know, wait a minute here. Or somebody, you know, the buddy system can eliminate a lot of the stuff. Here's the reality. It's not that so many people are actually in the lifestyle that are getting raped or are being accused. As guys, there's that fear factor. And as women women there's a legitimate fear of being sexually assaulted and again we don't want to diminish that either but there's ways to prevent it there's ways to you know deal with it and help be aware of it but you can't be mad at guys for wanting to protect themselves you just can't it is what it is you know and i know it's not necessarily a fun topic but it's a very real topic it's a topic that that is the lifestyle now as we live it uh and and people need to understand both sides of the of the issue and it look if no one's going to talk about this yet because it's look i know it's way more fun hearing about how you fuck somebody up the ass or, you know, whatever, or some other crazy sex adventure. I know that's more fun to hear, but that doesn't change the reality of the lifestyle we're
Speaker2: living in.
Speaker1: And the way the lifestyle gets better is that this kind of stuff gets tackled, gets talked about, gets addressed, and brought out into the limelight. And you know what? Fuck you. That's what we do. Mm-hmm. And we won? We're winning? What are we doing? Field goal? Wrap up. Oh, gotcha. Oh, yeah. Oh, gotcha. Yeah, sound good. Sound good, so we were playing straight. All right. And with that, that is a good place to wrap up. So, again, hey, we want to give a huge shout-out to James from Houston for sponsoring our entire show today and the half of our previous show as well. James, we appreciate you listening. Thank you so much. And if you want to be a part of the crowd that sponsors or you have a group that wants to sponsor the podcast get a hold of us crazy k-r-a-z-y dot kasbah k-a-s-b-h at gmail.com we love to hear from you and we tell you how you can make that make that dreams a reality it's what we do and if you like our podcast like it on youtube yes and that's exactly it hey here's the deal uh make sure that you are giving us feedback here not only do you like it on on on youtube wherever you listen to our podcast subscribe like it and leave us comments if you would or tell us if you hate it i don't care that's all good too that's how we learn send us email email. Send us mail.
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