Krazy Truth #3 Alone Time

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Hey kids, the program you're about to listen to contains some adult situations, adult language, themes, and other adult topics. If you're easily offended, this show's not for you. Hey you crazy motherfuckers, welcome back to another edition of The Crazy Truth. I'm Cole, your host. I'm with Miss Amanda, our co-host. Say hi Miss Amanda. Hi. There you go. We are back in. Welcome back to another edition of The Crazy Truth. I'm Cole, your host. I'm with Miss Amanda, our co-host. Say hi, Miss Amanda. Hi. There you go. We are back and ready to answer your questions.

Take on our take on the world of sex, relationships, drugs, rock and roll, whatever you want to talk about. That's what we're here for. Hey, I have been asking. I'm going to do this really quick. So when we get certain questions, medical questions, just put it in this disclaimer out here so you can't sue me.

No're not doctors no we don't play doctors on tv uh it's just our opinion take it with a grain of salt keep that in mind have fun and we're ready to go so you ready to go ready for this absolutely she looks up at me like uh what what are we doing you're finishing up your game so uh first and foremost we always like to start the show off with something funny in the world of sex uh so last podcast we talked a little bit about the uh the miss the movie the true legit movie that is coming out about where the ghost uh gives you a hand job to death so i did more research that is coming out we can't with that will be in theaters that's an actual show so we're gonna watch that but the movie i want to talk about is there is disney disney is coming out with a movie it is called jason and me and this is jason from the horror movies jason so the whole thing is a little kid that's lost out in the woods j Jason friends him and he lives in the woods for like four years with this guy and when they finally find him he's running around Jason's still killing people and the kid's thing is but he's my friend and so it ends up like looks like he kills the parents and everything and all I could think was wow Disney now you got it there you there you go so Jason and me for the kind ofler world, you're now going to have a thing where they're going to be murdering teens, having sex in cars and everything else, all the same while that a little kid is going to watch, and it's like Swiss Family Robinson gone wild.

I wonder if that would be an amusement park ride, the Jason ride at Disney. You up for going on that, dear?

No, I'm like amusement rides but nothing says fun like going to disney and being chased around with a machete it's just saying something we could look forward to so all right so let's get into the stuff uh obviously we've had some questions from the past couple weeks that we have not had the opportunity to answer so we're going to answer some of those we want to we're excited to hear some of your other questions remember if you have questions for us don't forget to email us that's right you can email us at crazy.casbah at gmail.com k-r-a-z-y dot k-a-s-b-h at gmail.com so earlier today we got a question uh and this was kind of this was an interesting question the question was if you're a couple that agrees to play alone so you guys play separately okay so for everybody listening that means that you get to go do what i get to go play without miss amanda being involved in a way shape or form or miss amanda gets to go play without me being involved in a way shape or form how many times a week is too many times how many times is too many times and so the the question uh that that went with this was then the options were once a week twice a week three times a week all the way up to five times a week wow do you want to start off with that one do you want to give your take on that right off the bat now folks, we don't judge.

There's no such thing as a bad question or a silly question or a dumb question. This was by Glenn. Thank you, Glenn, for the question. But what is your take on that there, Miss Amanda? Who has time? Come on. What, to play alone? Now, wait a minute. Everybody has time to play alone. No, five to seven times a week. Well, but, okay. Technically, I do, but with you. What, you don't have time to travel? Should we travel? We could, like, travel and go do that. So, if we went to a hotel, would we have time to go to a hotel five or seven times a week to have sex?

I it would be expensive as fuck but most likely no probably not so okay here's the thing look swinging is a lot like golf okay this is the best way i can put it okay it's it's you know i've made the comment before sport fucking that's just my humorous way to say it but it's like a sport right so the thing is is you're not in a competition or competing against anybody else okay so how you choose to swing or or how you choose to golf that's my example is up to you some people like mini golf okay so they just want to putt around at it on occasion that's all they really want to do some people some people want to be professionals they they want to go on tour and they want to be like in the masters and win a green jacket and all that kind of shit and okay so that's uh that is uh you know it totally up to you if you're going five to seven times and you're playing separate five to seven times a week my personal take is you might want to stop and consider why, okay?

So are you playing that often because, A, you are absolutely having horrible sex at home, or, B, you are having an affair, or, C, you are absolutely a sex addict and you might need professional help? That's kind of my thought with it.

So, granted so granted if that's what you want to do as long as both partners are okay with it then i suppose i would be okay with it but i'm getting this look like i don't think everybody not everybody at the casbah studios would be okay with that is there any way that you would think that it'd be justifiable for us to to play separate five to seven times a week. No. See, that was a resounding no, how that works out. No, again, it's up to you. Everybody's different.

The biggest key with it, like any other part of the lifestyle is, you have to take and make sure that you have open communication and that you take in and let everybody involved have an open, honest dialogue with it and say no. Because I'm telling you what, if you go, oh, hey, by the way, I'm headed out to go fuck somebody else again and again and again. Or you're trying to trophy and you're trying to get as many as you possibly can. Your partner might have something to say about that.

So you want to take and make sure that uh uh that you you know have everybody's on board with that well not everybody starts off that way some people start off that way five to seven times that is that is straight up going for it no no playing alone well some of them probably do that that's their own prerogative and and there's the thing the other thing i'm going to throw out there obviously if you're playing five to seven times okay is there too much who knows if you're playing at all that much i don't care if you're playing as as a couple i don't care if you're playing as together it doesn't matter if you're playing that much uh in every week oh for the love of everything good and holy play safe get tested uh because that is a lot of places that you're that's either a lot of wieners that you're taking in or a lot of places you're putting your wiener one of the two and so you want to make sure that that is that you are absolutely making sure that that you're playing safe because that that's just uh wow i don't know that's just my that's my thought that's my thought on it we didn't okay so to give us a basis i guess we should say this we didn't take and um we didn't start off playing alone no we started off we started off playing strictly as a couple again it's about communication when we got into it we made that decision we didn't actually play alone for the first time uh probably until we had been in the lifestyle well over six years and it was a long process to get there and so even to this day we do on occasion but it's with a very very select few like we know a lot of folks that they have they have an agreement it's one of those things that if i want to go play alone with somebody We'll be right back.

but it's with a very very select few like we know a lot of folks that they have they have an agreement it's one of those things that if i want to go play alone with somebody then miss manna needs to have somebody that she can go play with and we know a lot of couples that are that way that have arrangements like that or more like we have we kind of have a really small list of folks that it's okay for us to to play separate with kind of like a hall pass but on a more continuous scale it's what is what i would put that as so you know the obviously the other thing is you have to take and make sure that uh you guys when you if you have that hall pass or whatever the case may be that you really make sure that both partners i this, that both partners are on the same page.

Because I'm telling you what, if you're not, wow. If one person tries to push it too far, the other one's not ready, then yeah, that's a really bad plan. You got anything else you want to say with that? Miss Amanda's kind of quiet tonight. No, I'm trying to come up with a question to go with that you have you have no question like um since we've mainly played as a couple what was it like the first time you i wasn't around you play alone uh the first the very first time playing playing alone for the very first time is absolutely is absolutely I don't know.

um uh the first the very first time playing playing alone for the very first time is absolutely is absolutely different i mean it's it's weird because we're a long time married couple so we've been together been married almost 24 years been together 26 so that's how long it's been a little longer than that since the last time i had sex with somebody that you weren't involved so that was it was exciting it was it has a it it definitely ramps up the feel of almost more of a of almost more of a dirty feel to it if you would uh it ramps up the excitement with it but there's also a whole new series of emotions that go with it because when you're not right in the moment when you're doing it when you're doing it what you're focused on is it fucking i mean that's just kind of the way it is but when you are when you are out of that moment after the fact then all of a sudden you know you you want to try to make sure like for you and i that how we communicate to make sure that you communicate everything to to your partner how was it what and it and it feels kind of it feels kind of bizarre it took i think we probably talked about it after each one of us did it for like two weeks i mean it was the primary topic of conversation to try to take and you know deal with the the weird emotions and everything that it brought that it brought back up because it is a totally different monster than than playing as a couple how about the first time when you played alone because when you played alone i wasn't up here you had permission she had permission she had permission i had complete total permission let's put that out there she had complete total permission but i was actually i was actually out of state what happened actually it didn't bother me at all and it wasn't awkward because we had played as a couple with him and his wife that's true that's true so it was a different scenario see that makes me sound like mine is so much so much like dirtier so much so much no there's only you know i'm not going to just randomly go out hook up with some guy i don't know that well especially when you're out of state We'll be right back.

No, there's only, you know, I'm not going to just randomly go out, hook up with some guy I don't know that well, especially when you're out of state. Right. Because of safety and what if they're odd? Or something isn't jiving or the vibe is off or however you want to say it. Cole, you got to get our plane from Texas quick. Shit's going south. Yeah, no, I can understand. Now, Jim is just asking a really good question. Is playing alone at a house or hotel party, does that count even though the spouse is in the next room or upstairs?

That is an awesome question because I think that's an area that a lot of of couples struggle with especially in the very beginning when they decide that they're going to start playing alone because it's a different vibe one you're both in the same building area whatever okay but you're still not actually sitting there i'm not getting to watch her get fucked and she's not being able to watch me get fucked. So I think every number one couples, you have to define that. You absolutely have to define that. Nothing will start a fight faster than if you're both not on the same page with that.

Because if, if I go, but you were in the same building and she goes, but I wasn't there. That's be that is going to be a huge a huge problem okay so you need to make sure and that is something you have to talk about and you don't talk about that after the fact for the love of everything holy if you wait till after you that you're not talking about it you're fighting about it so you have to talk about it ahead of time uh i think that it depends what you like. The biggest thing is there's a degree of relaxation because when Amanda and I play as a couple, I'm in tune with Amanda.

So I'm in tune to make sure everything's going right. Is the guy getting it up? Is she having fun? Is she getting off? Is she like giving me this, you know, the third base signal?

Like we got to get the fuck out of here whatever the case may be i'm in tune with that so when you're playing alone even at like a house party a hotel party it gives you the opportunity to be more relaxed and you can be more focused on the action at hand which is obviously sex or whatever i think a house party is completely different than a hotel party though because the house party everybody's under the same roof and it's a smaller area and you know everybody's going to play randomly with other people and right or a potential thereof right so do you think just like jim right so do you do you think that do you think that there should be different rules apply for I don't know.

so do you do you think that do you think that there should be different rules apply for a house party versus a hotel party i mean because that's yes there would be different rules because a house party you pretty much know there's a set number of couples there you pretty much know the couples if you haven't introduced and got to know each other other couples before and then you uh so it's a smaller group of people so you're more there's the comfort levels there and if you weren't okay with like if i wasn't okay with you playing with somebody go uh-uh she's off limits right right well and the other thing is there's obviously obviously a safety a safety factor as well there's always a safety factor with with uh with that there's always a safety factor when you're in the house uh and in and a hotel as well because obviously with a hotel you could be on different floors and and so you can't be reached as whereas a house party you you are safer you are on the the exact same floor with everybody or the same house.

I think that a hotel party, I think that the rules, you have to go in to understand that every type of party needs to have its own set of rules and its own set of discussions. Anywho, so, yeah, so again, every type of party is a little bit different.

You need to take and make sure that you need to make sure you have communication on each type of each type of party each event never assume that the parties that applied at a hotel party or a meet and greet or a house party are going to apply at the next the next event it's all about communication it's all about communication that was a really good question that was a good that was good jim does a good job jim jim always jim's a long-time listener he has good questions i like jim's well the thing is is at a house party if you know i was downstairs with the husband because someone has to get the parties and the wife is still upstairs you know it's all it's it's a there's a safety factor you know when you're all right there on the same house you know it's a smaller group you know that it's you know that somebody just random didn't just roam into the house so you know that the hosts know everybody you know that it's safe so you can actually relax and have a good time versus worrying about oh my god did somebody just roofing my drink is is this just a random i mean if a random person just walks in the house hopefully the host will realize that they don't know this guy and it's a burglary so then that changes everything and so the appropriate action will be taken i mean that's that's a huge factor with this stuff safety is always 110 key all the way across across the board to make sure that people that you feel safe and that your spouse feels safe.

That's absolutely the number one focus all the way across the, across the board with this. Oh goodness. Awesome question. That's what we like to hear.

You know, we keep going back to, and we'll talk about a lot because a lot of the questions that we get all the time are have to do with really the basic breakdown of communication so we have to take and and have good communication all the way across the board so you make sure you never assume anything in this lifestyle you never assume that somebody wants to play with you you never assume it's okay to touch you never assume that anything is okay you always take and ask you make sure you communicate if you don't communicate then you're going to have nothing but issues all the way across the board and that's one of the things that we want to take and make sure that that we help avoid for people is that they understand even even if you're there with just a play partner you're not there specifically specifically with a spouse, you still need to always communicate with each other.

If you don't communicate, then you're automatically, I mean, you're just, it's, you're screwed. You're, you're fucked. That's yeah. So I can give you a good story on that because I like to do personal stories. That's what I like to do. I like to give stuff away. Tell stories as we go.

So, uh, there's a one big party we go to every year the world famous bone stock party and here's the thing this party is it's a house party but like a house party on crack okay because this is at uh acreage and so it is the house that people are bringing in campers people bring in tents there's a couple hundred people there there's trampolines to have sex on it's awesome Okay, it is the house, people are bringing in campers, people are bringing in tents, there's a couple hundred people there, there's trampolines to have sex on, it's awesome. It is a kick-ass event.

So the first time that we went to a bone party, it's like sensory overload. It is the coolest in the world, it's like sensory overload. So we go there and we are going about the activities thing in the world. It's like sensory overload. So we go there, and we are going about the activities. And they have events and fun things. That's where Bomb Pops got involved. But what happened was that I got myself, I was pretty preoccupied with a gal, to say the least. That's one way to put it.

and uh miss amanda got preoccupied with with a with a guy and the guy offered asked uh miss amanda if she wanted to go back to his camper and here's the thing she said to me she she said that hey i'm gonna go here i didn't hear her okay so guess what So all of a sudden I look around next thing you know, she's gone. Guess what? Hello. Failure to communicate. So did it turn out? Okay. Yeah. We're still together. All, all is good in love and war, but what it did was it caused us to change our rules. So now we have a rule.

One of our rules is quite simply that if we're in that type of situation, what's going to happen is if I want to tell Ms. Amanda that I'm going to go somewhere else, whether for myself or with somebody, if she's with somebody, we call it the touch rule.

We have to walk up and physically touch the other person to make sure that they know so that we got their attention because you can't just assume so see even we learn stuff as as as we go all the way through you remember that you remember that bone party can we forget about that bone party it's it's just one of those things that everybody as you go through with this kind of stuff you have to always realize it's a learning curve. Every event is a little bit different. The Bomb Pop situation wasn't at that same party. That was a different one, wasn't it? That was. That was the one after that.

Obviously, we went back. Yeah, we went back every year. We've been to, I don't know, four or five years worth. And they're a blast. And here's the thing. Oh, my God. People ask us this all the time. This is kind of another question, just a random one we get. How do you guys feel about going to new swinger clubs, events, parties, or whatever? So, obviously, for us, it's a little bit unique where we have a huge Facebook page. So, we know a lot of people. Can it be scary going into a new place?

Gee gee talk about the first time we went into one wait wait the first time we went into a meet and greet ever or the first time we went into a new one the first time we went into meet and greet ever was classic what do you mean a new one well like a new place we've never been before i guess it's six one i've done well it's kind of Well, we'd have more confidence now. The first time we went to the bar, we sat at a table the very first time before he moved locations. That's right. And it was catered to swingers. Not necessarily a swinger bar, but catered to swingers. Yeah.

That was awkward as crap because we're like, well, where are they all at? Where are they all at? Oh, she's got a bracelet on. Ooh, she's got a bracelet on. We look like we're undercover FBI agents trying to see who had bracelets on all the time, trying to hide as much as possible. Because we didn't know. And we weren't as confident then. You have to understand, when you first get in this lifestyle, I don't care who you are.

Okay, if you don't know what's going on, our very first meet and greet that we got invited to we were so excited we were just fucking giddy we couldn't wait to get to this meet and greet but we were nervous because we had no idea does this turn into a big orgy do we have to fuck everybody what the hell happened we didn't know so we go to this they had rented out a vanilla bar closed it down to the public so it was just for swingers we get there and there's like seven cars there. So we're, like, early. Oh, Thank you.

out a vanilla bar closed it down to the public so it was just for swingers we get there and there's like seven cars there so we're like early oh my god the panic you i mean we're both just like uh should we do it should we not do it should we do it i think we set out in our car and smoked cigarettes contemplating it for like a half hour as more no we drove around oh that's right we drove around for a little bit thinking well maybe just everybody's running late because it was one of those where the doors locked at 10 and but if you had to come after that then you had to you had to get permission and they'd come and let you in yeah yeah anytime we've ever gone to a swing or anything no one gets there before 9 9 30 no but for new people we've learned that but for new people that scares the hell out of you because you're like oh my god what you know because we didn't know what to expect what what's going to happen what do you do so when we finally got the courage that we made the decision fuck it we're going for it we're going in so we we didn't carry flask back then no we should have we were like we get out of the car and we go in and and that's when we learned that meet and greets do not turn into a mass orgy it's just people talking and and whatever we were fortunate we ran into a couple saw us we went and got a table kind of by ourselves again because that's a great way to get laid i don't know we got a table by ourselves they recognized that we're new came over no we he had talked to us on that website yeah he talked to us on another website but recognized this came over grabbed us and said come on and took us around and started meeting introducing us to all kinds of to everybody there it and and so i mean it was awesome it was like a it was like you're going to be social one way or another and introduced us literally took us by the hand dragged us around and introduced us to every single person there did we talk to anybody after that no except except if you remember the funny part of that meet and greet was when you went and sat back down at the table and i was getting drinks and all of a sudden i come running over to him like amanda amanda she's like what i'm like a guy i work with is here that's right right off the very bat the first meet and greet would go to somebody else i worked with was also a swinger and we went through that panic like oh my god i'm like uh uh so i went up and talked to him we we we had a conversation we face it we're all here we're all this is your wife I'd do her thanks I think yeah when you're brand new you're like that's awesome uh you don't really know exactly how to take that no was that a compliment or you know she'd make do knowing him now, we know that that's definitely a compliment.

And you know what? Knowing, because you know how big his dick is now. Now you should have jumped all over that when that opportunity presented itself. No shit. Just saying. I didn't. We were new. We were lucky we even made it out of the car and into the door.

So, yeah, the thing is, is if you have the opportunity to go somewhere new yes you're not going to know anybody yes it's out of your comfort zone but guess what the one thing we've found anywhere in the country is everybody that's at these swinger clubs meet and greets events are in it for the same thing we are and they as a general tend to be very very cool and it's actually an awesome opportunity to get to meet new people and actually get to take and see you know party with party with people that you wouldn't normally get to meet some of the coolest people we know are people from out of state that we have had a chance to meet and party with since we've started doing our page.

And so I absolutely recommend take a chance. Oh my God. There's so many cool clubs and groups all over the country. Live a little, try something new. That's kind of why we do this as a general. It's supposed to be new, new and exciting. We've got all kinds of trips planned coming up for new and exciting stuff this summer. Yep. Supposedly. So there you go. So, uh, absolutely. That's So there's two questions for you right off the bat. People always want to know, should you try new things? Again, I want to put this out here.

If you would like to take in, if you have questions for us for this show or future shows, please feel free to email those to us at crazy.casbah at gmail.com. That is K-R-A-Z-Y dot K-A-S-B-H at K-R-A-Z-Y dot K-A-S-B-H dot K-A-S-z-y dot k-a-s-b-h at gmail.com and we love to answer all kinds of questions now we did get a question last week or during the week we actually got asked a question they wanted to know amy asked us the question wanting to to know about female Viagra. So the thing with that question is I just wanted to let Amy know. Amy, we are going to answer that question.

We're not going to answer it this week because when it comes to stuff like that, we want to make sure that we give you the most accurate information we can. So we are doing more research to be able to answer that question a little bit better. Now, if you have questions about male Viagra, I can answer that because I've done it, tried it, you know, you name it. I'm, I'm right there with it. So, but with the female, we will answer that, but we want to make sure that we have legitimate up-to-date information for you. And we know what kind of what we're talking about.

That's just the way we go a little bit all the way through so what what can you tell us about them viagra do we well do we did you really want that yeah no shit okay so yeah uh all right so i'm one of these guys i have tried multiple multiple different types of of let's see, there's Viagra, there's Cialis, and there's this Mexican Viagra. Okay, so everybody is affected differently with this stuff, obviously.

So for me, one of the side effects that they talk about with Viagra and Cialis is that it can, a it can not work as well if you've been drinking cialis is supposed to work better cialis because you have the day the daily dose or you can do the big pill which is like three days worth of uh which is uh you know worth it with on on demand bonerism boner juice that's what it is fire up the boner juice juice. But one of the side effects is that it can make you really clogged up. It can also make you nauseous. Hey, great news. Guess what? Both Viagra and Cialis, for me, makes me nauseous.

So there's nothing hotter than just getting done having sex and then you're puking your guts out. So for me none of those things really really work uh at all yes yeah so they worked at the time but uh the mexican viagra that that i found now that that stuff is pretty good here's the thing kids you want to make sure you kind of have an idea of your dosage okay because uh Because, uh, we have seen this at parties. Okay. With Viagra, we have seen, seen this. We have, we've lived it. There's a reason they put dosage on there.

I know the concept is you want to get a hard on and it's never going to seem to be working quite fast enough. Let me tell you what, do not exceed the dosage that they say.

I don't think people understand what happens you know we all crack jokes as guys when it says uh hey you know if you get a hard on for more than four hours seek medical attention you know everybody laughs go i'd love to have a hard on four hours no you won't i don't think people understand what you have what they do to take and make that hard-on go away that becomes very very painful and and hurts very badly there's needles involved and drainage yep so now your dick hurts because it's been hard for over four hours you're past all the jokes it's not funny anymore and then you're going in and having a medical procedure not to mention the fact that remember it can cause an unsafe drop in blood pressure yeah we have witnessed live in person somebody that decided to take not to double the dose of viagra and started to have the signs of like a heart attack nothing will kill a party mood faster than paramedics showing up i'm just just saying uh don't do that don't do that and if you know what your own preferred dosage is yes one time cole took a little too much but you don't take a normal dosage you usually take about half half or yeah i take about half and one time i was a little i was a little nervous.

And and so, yeah, I was I took a little bit. I took a little bit more thinking I was going to need it. And what ended up happening, it felt like I was going to stroke out. So I'm sitting there. I have the opportunity. I'm going to have a threesome with Miss Amanda and another lovely lady.

And all of a sudden I'm starting to sweat profusely and I'm going into a panic attack and the more my heart rate's racing because of the extra viagra uh the more panic the panic attack becomes yeah it was hot it was really sexy there's nothing quite like thinking you're gonna stroke out so uh yeah make sure that you uh uh don't exceed dosages it's really not worth it it won't it's not gonna end the the way you want to makes for a nice laugh later oh not at the moment it's fucking hilarious later but at the time when your eyes are bugging out of your head and you're just sweating there and you're just pointing it looked like i was playing charades naked i had a heart on and playing charades in a panic it was awesome these say no that did not yeah nope uh we had some folks also mentioned some of the side effects and yes with viagra and uh cialis uh is headaches so yeah you also had severe drainage severe severe drainage just read the bottle okay there's a reason they have this stuff on there know it what i would really seriously recommend absolutely serious as can be do not try viagra cialis whatever i don't care if it's a penis pump don't try any of it at the party right before stuff's about to happen okay that is the worst time to start experimenting with stuff if you're gonna if you're gonna try one of these to see how it's gonna affect you you know what do it at home do it before the party and do it before the event this way you know if once you take it you're gonna be on all fours puking your guts out or you're gonna have a mass it's gonna send you no migraine or whatever the case may be check it out ahead of time see that's the whole thing it's like planning so what i'm telling you is get it is have a bunch of liquor.

Drainage from where? Sinus drainage. Sinus drainage, yes. And yes, so everybody does know, yes, I did still have fun the night that I felt like I was going to strip out. Well, okay, so here on another note instead of just all the negatives about your erection pills, what are the plus sizes? You get a boner. The boner juice works.

Have you had one for four four hours i already know the answer to this but we'll say it anyway off of the pills or just in general well let's start with on the pills wait no no no no you can't backtrack now cannot backtrack no i have pills no i have not had one on for four hours on the pill no well but okay it's kind of a mix because what you have to know is when i get whiskey day i don't get whiskey dick like everybody else for those of you who are this is your first time in the adult world whiskey dick is when you're really really drunk and a lot of people whiskey dick means their cock won't work for some people lucky folks like myself oh so lucky it it goes like a boss so i i can't say that just except when he's too drunk and he rolls over on top of you and just totally total weight plants and it's like get off uh so so yes that's happened so no yeah i've never off the pills i've never had four hours but i've never been disappointed in terms of like it didn't last long enough or was it satisfied in fact for me cialis worked pretty great because it would work at the time viagra tended to work for me faster like right here right now boy whereas cialis is more of a gradual like weep but six hours later you could still feel the silence in your system and i was chasing around the house if you remember correctly look it's still hard touch it yeah i do remember that not you know it was just like it was just ready to go it wasn't hard but it was like it was ready to go on a moment's notice it was like i was 20 again that's that's but i i don't know for me i can just drink a lot of rum and tends to this tends to do the same thing for me have i had a boner for four hours yes did it hurt there was a lot of things that hurt whenever my arms retired my back was sore my hips kind of sore uh-huh yeah that didn't happen a lot anymore i remember i'm 45 now that doesn't happen very often anymore did i see this well you were there you were part of it i'm like am i supposed to remember is this from like way a long time no you were oh you were there you were also busy it was at a house party i made my we both made our rounds i made my rounds i didn't have any trouble moving along to the next person no one was disappointed no one felt left out no one I don't have any trouble Moving along to the next person No one was disappointed, no one felt left out No one was like, damn it, Cole just couldn't get it up for me No, that did not happen Gotcha You remember, you started the party That was four hours?

Dude, yeah, that was four hours Well, I don't remember, I was drunk That is a great message to send out to the kids There is that No, I don't know, i was hammered you were only drunk for part of it yes for the early part of it well i was no i was feeling pretty darn good i was not horny it got the party started did it not it did get the party started did my dick hurt after that much time It didn't hurt but it was like sore It was like chapped Okay but the blood flow didn't like Cause massive pain No It was not like a cartoon Situation where It was like throbbing Fred Flintstone orred fred fred flintstone or anything but yeah it did it did takes uh it did takes you know it did take it and have some some fun with it so you know but just again test all your stuff ahead of time just so that you know that's the biggest thing i can't stress that enough you know and that ladies that goes the same for you guys too when you whether it be a toy if you're taking a toy or something along those lines you know what take and uh try it out see what kind of have a clue what you're doing with it if you just walk in with a you know this is your first time trying to like a electric wand or some shit like that then you know what you might want to you know try it out so that you're not the person that puts in the wrong spots and electrocute yourself or or something silly or you know you yeah slap some nipple clamps on me what could possibly go wrong that kind of stuff you just want to have an idea i didn't have an idea with the one.

Sometimes that's when you're introduced to toys, though. Well, yes. But the worst thing you can have is that somebody brings in a toy and nobody knows how to use it. And so then it's... Well, actually, that can lead to a quite comical situation. Could lead to somebody losing an eye. But, yeah, I suppose.

You know know like the strapless strap-on yeah okay all right i'll take i'll take that back i'll take that back you know there are some toys that are designed and made to to be shared and and um you know if they're for those of us listening if i could ever ever have videotaped a moment in our swinging lifestyle, that would have been it. Watching two people who never had a penis before try to use a double dildo, strap-on, strapless, strap-on, dildo. I don't think there are words that even can describe exactly what we witnessed and saw that night.

But it was a lot of fun fun uh so you know so we we definitely we definitely that's why video cameras are not allowed that's yeah that's why video cameras are not allowed at lifestyle events so many times that was uh yeah that was awesome so get out be adventurous though i don't want it to be to scare people not from trying new things it's just you have to be i don't know you have to you have to be smart when you try new things that's really what it amounts so you have to just have a clue what you're what you're somewhat doing aren't you glad that you tried the strapless strap on the way you did versus in a room full of a big house party and people thinking you're the expert and then you're over there just stroking it trying figure out what to do with it.

Who ever said I was an expert? Well, the assumption would be if you brought the toy. Well, true, that you'd tried it before. Yeah, that you'd tried it before. And if you were still mesmerized looking down at what it looks like to have a cock for the first time, I think that's going to kill. No, but I shook it side to side.

You did shake it side to side yep you did you did make it bounce you did look like an elephant a little baby elephant with a trunk that was kind of cute actually you both did and that was awesome i really wish i would have taped that that would have been that would have been great all the way across the board what is your okay so you asked me about my stuff with viagra so you've seen me on viagra you've seen other guys take it what let's something guys are always worried about always worried about they're always worried about it not getting up okay so that's why we take these pills and all this medicinal things and we have penis pumps and i don't but that's why people have penis pumps and all this kind of different stuff that they have so what would you say miss amanda from a woman's perspective is the thing that that is the best way to help a guy get it get it up or what to how to deal with that because you deal with that more than i do you i don't deal with it another guy at all i know how to deal with myself but you know what i mean the look i'm getting how do i deal like with them yeah if a guy's not getting it up because you you know what you know what it takes to do with me but i mean from your perspective talk to talk to our listeners about how to help a guy get it up and deal with the reasoning why.

Well, there's no pressure. So you shouldn't have issues with an erection at all. I mean, yeah, sometimes it doesn't perform the way you want it to for a guy.

I mean, but you have to find other ways to help them out right so okay so there and if it doesn't go it doesn't go and that's probably the that's probably the biggest that's probably the biggest thing at all is the fact that uh so many times is that as guys we start putting way too much pressure on ourselves we're like man this gotta work this gotta work this is gonna be so much fun it's gotta work it's gotta work and so we absolutely because uh uh amy put that a lot of times it's mental and that's exactly it when you start thinking about your dick as a guy and the fear of if it will or will not work i can almost guarantee with 100 certainty you can take as much viagra you can take as much whatever you want it will not work because it is upstairs and you will start to panic about it and it is completely becomes a mental issue so step one really is to relax just breathe yeah you you have to stay you have to stay calm and and get a grip a little bit that's where as a couple if you play as a couple you're in tune with it you can see it right and you make the effort to go okay let's switch let's go see what we can do to help you out to help you get your head right because the mental one again which one the big one because I always say focus on me that's right well and and that's here's the thing is really again if you're playing with somebody look we we started this show talking about playing alone and and probably one of the biggest advantages of of playing with a couple that you have that you don't have when you're by yourself is if stuff is not working if you start to panic if it's just whatever the case may be it is so awesome when if i'm starting to shit's not working i'm starting to freak out that amanda's in with me.

She realizes that there's an issue and she'll say, she'll instigate it. Hey, let's switch a minute because you're always, as a guy, you're always going to be able to get it up or you have a better shot of getting it up with the person you're most comfortable with, with your partner, whatever the case may be.

So you're able to take and refocus on her, breathe get everything right and and you're not you're no longer on show so when you're alone you don't you don't have that same you don't have that same um uh comfort or convenience i mean it it's it becomes a little bit different ball game so there's a huge advantage that we with a couple. But as a couple, it is your responsibility to partially be in tune with your partner. That's probably one of the biggest things with it is that that's why comfort is so important.

You need to make sure that if your partner is not having a good time or whatever the case may be, that they can take and kind of jump in and help out.

And that's what's what it's that's what you need to do i don't you've saved me a lot of times with that i've went into i've went into full-blown panic attacks before because it's like oh my god it's got to work this is my one chance i've been wanting to i've been wanting to hook up with this girl forever ah and then next thing you know you know then it's like i'm over there just beating it my penis with a stick trying to get anything to try to get it to take in and get hard and that's not gonna work it just absolutely is not gonna work at all so be in tune with each other all the way across the board with that okay so uh all right so we're getting close to the end of the show we've got about five minutes left on the show and so i want to take a quick opportunity again uh some things that are coming up some really cool things obviously we're going to have some additional segments on our shows coming up we want all your questions again i'm going to to pimp our email one more time you can email us questions at crazy.kazba at gmail.com that is k-r-a-z-y dot k-a-s-b-h at gmail.com uh also you can uh uh just you know let us know whatever your questions are we'll obviously be doing these the way we've been doing this before and also i want to take this opportunity well.

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