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Hey kids, the program you're about to listen to contains some adult situations, adult language, themes, and other adult topics. If you're easily offended, this show's not for you. Hey you crazy motherfuckers, welcome back to another edition of Crazy Truth.
I'm your host with your most, and I'm ready to rock and roll i'm cole i'm here with the lovely lovely and she's already sucked dick she has no lipstick miss amanda i haven't sucked dick hey i haven't sucked dick we're here we're here to do makeup tips that's what we're doing last time i had a dick in my mouth uh well i don't know when was the last, what happened with you at work all week? When was the last time you had a dick in your mouth? You went to lunch with a boy toy. We didn't do anything. We were in a public setting. Did you kiss?
You fucked in the nursing room at your work for like a year and a half, but you didn't kiss in public? Don't give away the secrets, boy. You didn't even kiss? Uh, outside when he was leaving. Really? Yeah. You guys better be better than that on Friday if I can get stuck with this shit. Well, duh. Anyways, I don't know. Just saying. Yes, we're going to hook up on Friday. Somebody's all horny. Anyway, so for those of you following along at home, and I need to double check, because all of a sudden I'm pretty sure I changed the number correctly, but you never fucking know. Cheater. Just shut up.
Cheater, cheater. They don't need to see that. They don't have mirror mirrors on the wall. Are you ready? Your sunglasses are mirrors on the wall. I know they are. So for those of you following at home, this is season six, episode 243. Hot diggity fucking damn. 243. We got a really good show for you guys tonight, actually. We had to put it off from last night because I had to run to Omaha. Omaha.
I'm a Colts fan of pain mania fantasy now uh so and to to to finish up some crazy winter nights stuff uh which is awesome bullshit is what it is no it was actually no it was good stuff but it was well but it was the crazy it's the finishing up the kwn and then it's okay it's the nature of the when you do these things, that the loose ends, there's a lot of loose ends. There's more loose ends than there were loose people at the KWN. It looks like a fucking carver that's been frayed shit out and frayed some more. It's bad. So anyways, but we got that, so taking care of it.
So we had to put off filming and recording until Deceive, so it'll go out. I'm actually going to wait and put it out tomorrow night. That worked well. Our numbers were good that way. Okay. I don't know how to figure it out yet. You can put it out whenever you want. You're damn right I can. God damn it. We can just do whatever we want. It's our fucking party. We can cry if we want to. Anyways, but before we get going too far down the merry path of showdism, or showism, we're going to do a quick shout out to our sponsors. ASN Lifestyle Magazine. We still have those.
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I know there's at least 30 some people that can be like just from KWN that can give reports. We were hearing reports of how well they already worked. We were actually going to keep one for ourselves by one. so we ran out yeah so we gotta order one so uh but we're gonna be doing more stuff with them so as well so we're pretty excited about that so thank you to all of our sponsors so kwn is finally over and oh our tech guy is coming in right now so we'll give a big a big hello to our that's awesome. So we'll give a big hello to our tech guy. Say hello. Hi. Anyways, so he's here.
So he's going to try to figure out why we're not live on YouTube yet. Anywho, while he does that. So KWN is over. And although it's disappointing because there's a letdown after a big event like that.
I mean, because you get jazzed up and then the event itself is fucking badass and whatever but it's also exciting to get on with 2023 because we got a lot of i fucking needed two weeks to recuperate you're old as fuck yes i am but i know so uh yes so but now we're now you're recuperated i think so well i guess we'll find out we'll get the report going on friday won't we thank you i'll be here all week anyways so um but now we're ready to move move on but here's the thing this show the cool thing about about any of the events that we do and the big events that we do is that we get to talk to so many people live and in person uh and uh actually before we go there okay let's talk because for those you don't remember we do record in front of our live uh facebook crowdcast bank shh don't tell the others miss amanda if you're not on youtube you should be she's wearing a lovely lovely necklace what does that have to do with youtube shut up okay because if you're not youtube you can if you're on youtube you, you just wouldn't hear about it.
But a lovely, lovely necklace. And one of her other members just put that she has the exact same necklace. And so do you want to talk about what your necklace is? That's a vibrator. So since Workboy no longer... Can I close your... You sure can. Yeah, do whatever. So for those of you who don't know, Workboy doesn't actually work with you anymore. So now she doesn't just have a, hey, let's go take a break and get some dick. So when she's in the, when she, when she's, and people will notice who he shows up for no reason, hasn't worked there for a while.
So if he just showed up and you guys disappeared, they'd be like, I think they're fucking. I'll be damned. So to quill, to squash, to control those crazy, crazy dirty work desires you have since there's nobody else there you want to fuck. Is that correct? Correct. Okay. So since there's nobody else there you want to fuck, you went and you ordered. You don't have to worry about it. You ordered this. I ordered one, and it's bigger than I thought it was going to be. I thought it was going to be a little bit more discreet, so I could wear it to work and not have anybody question it. Yeah.
Have I tried it out a couple times? Okay, so turn it on here by the microphone. Can you hear it? Put it up against the microphone. Don't put it up. Put it on the microphone so it'll vibrate. Thank you. by the microphone. Can you hear it? I don't know. Put it up against the microphone. Don't put it up. Put it on the microphone so it'll vibrate. So now, if you're in the bathroom at a certain car dealership, you're going to hear that followed by... Actually, with the fans at the fans in the bathroom, you can't hear it. Oh, well, that means she's quiet. So there you.
So, now, did anybody ask you your work about your necklace? No, because I haven't actually, like, worn it. Oh, that's awesome. That's going to be... I've had it in my purse. Wait until people, that's a beautiful necklace. Can I see it and touch it? Well, you can touch it. It's just heavy. I'm not going to turn it on. They're going to go, what's this button for? It could be a little bit more inconspicuous. It could be slimy, too, depending on what it was. Oh, no, you wash it off. Well, you know, but not. When you wash your hands, you wash it off. Not everybody would think to do that.
Some people, there are some people's kinks that would be like, having like the puss smell all day long there would be like a turn on. So they'd go in there, buzz their clit, and then fucking have it right there. What's awesome is our tech guys are young. He's working is our tech guys He's working as a deal He was here when I came in the mail All three of our kids were like Really? And touched it And they were all grabbing it It was awesome Hey we're live Hey we're on YouTube now For those of you who just catch them on YouTube Sorry you missed the first part But join but join on in. Come on.
Be a part of the fun. This is Amanda's. This is her vibrating necklace. This was on her clip multiple times today. No, once today. Anyways. Do you want to lick it? Apparently it's clean. No, it's going to taste like bath water. Okay, where can I find one? I got this one off Amazon. So it's going to be the Amanda special. Actually, we're hoping to get a kickback on these because I'm pretty sure you had it at Crazy Winter Nights, right? I could probably figure out a way to do that. Well, you had it at Crazy Winter Nights. No, I didn't. I just got it like last week.
No, it was at the meet and greet we went this last weekend that you were showing everybody. The meet and greet on Friday or Saturday. Everybody was like, ooh, is that? And I'm like, oh, here, feel it. And they're like, oh, my gosh, I've got to get me one. Julie put, I've got a big purple. I don't think it would work as a necklace. No. No. Only if you're flavor-flav. The one she's talking about is basically the head of this thing is bigger than my hand. Yeah. It's huge. So basically what it does is it starts at your inner thighs and shakes your entire midsection.
So it's just going on your whole midsection makes you come i'm pretty sure julie you need to send me a video of that just saying so okay now we got tech stuff up and running whatever i'll wear it to the to the bar thing tomorrow yep yep absolutely everybody can see it touch it like it sniff it whatever they want to do do it with it as well maybe they'll go try it out you Touch it, lick it, sniff it, whatever they want to do. Do it with it as I will. Maybe they'll go try it out. I mean, you can. People just making runs back and forth. They give us product reviews.
I mean, I had to try out different spots, because I'm used to... Like, in the building, at your desk, in the bathroom, in the break room? Well, I might have at the... Showroom floor. I might have at the switchboard. Awesome. Okay. There we go. This is the fun shit. Everybody's like, I swear to God, one of these times for Casbah Cares, we're going to auction off, this is the highest bidder, the name of where you work. Oh, my gosh. We'll make like $25,000 for Casbah Cares. Yeah, but some people don't. To find out, to have the chance of catching you doing these things.
Where does Amanda work so I can watch her doing these things? Oh, shit. If you want to fucking find out. She takes pictures with her shirt up. She takes pictures butt naked. $1,000. She's getting off. She's fucking. If you make a donation to Casbah Cares of $1,000, you too can find out her place of employment. It's awesome. Sucked an ex-employee in some closet. Some closet. I don't know. There was a dick there. I just went to porn. And yet, still, is she fucking the GM? It was down there by that computer. I know where it was.
I used to work there, but you haven't fucked the GM, so we have a free loaner. No, but I... Hello, demo. I could work on it. And you know what? We would love a Tom. A Tom. Anyways, alright. So, or a Be beamer or something we'd love something nice anyways some nice car big car fancy car suck our way to the top there so uh anyways so there you go but all right so back to what we were originally talking about so kw and the cool thing with so we need to think about giving these away as giveaways actually thank you because you know what you way to lead Way to lead into that perfectly. Yeah.
There's going to be, because coming up in March is our birthday bash. And the cool thing, what happens when you go to a birthday party? You get off? I don't know what. You get presents. How fucking birthday parties are you going to? I don't know. Usually people go and get something. And we're going to have some raffles and giveaways and some cool shit. And yes, that's a pretty popular item. So we may have to order a few of those. You never know what's going to happen. We're full of tricks. Tricks. Anyways, so back to what I was originally saying before. Were you originally saying something?
Okay, so one of the cool things about doing events and getting to talk to people from all over the country is that that we get to hear questions a lot of people ask us questions live in person because they don't you know versus send us emails and whatever so that's pretty cool and and so we've got we had a really good show based on some of the questions a question that we heard a lot at kwn and actually we've gotten stuff email was as well okay so we'll we'll hit that in just uh just a quick second yeah so the the other thing i want to point out really cool gotten stuff email was as well okay so we'll hit that in just uh just a quick second yeah so the the other thing i want to point out really cool which we have been really really uh fortunate because we had folks at this at kwn that have never been to one uh the front point swingers they braved the cold of the midwest they braved the cold if they would have come if you know if know if a week later they would have died?
I was going to say, I thought the weather was really nice. When we left Sunday, we didn't have coats on, nothing. I got to give them shit about that because we got a snowstorm the week after KWN. Yeah. But anyways, and it was, I got to listen to their newest show. And it was really cool.
And they had lots of nice things to say and we're very appreciative of all those things but something they were that they said has really stuck with me and it's it shows why our group and and things are is so cool one of the things we love about our group they talked about how incredibly nice everybody was up here. They talked about it, and one of the things they said was, normally in an environment like this, going to an event, you don't know anybody, you're having to maneuver your way through the clicks, and you're having to be really the go-getter to introduce and meet people.
They were blown away by how incredibly nice everybody was, how people offered to help, how people came up and introduced themselves, how welcome they were made to feel. And listen to their newest show, because actually they talk about that they actually did shit totally wouldn't normally do, and they had an absolute blast.
And just it's it's a for if you haven't come to an event in the midwest and you're from other parts of the country i strongly encourage you come to an event in the midwest every east coast west coast they all have their own things that they do well not bagging or anybody but we fucking We're nice Somebody told them They said well Jessica had told them She goes well It's Nebraska nice That's just the way we are Well you know Growing up in a different state People just didn't walk Along the street And say hi Yeah And here you have people And you're going And you were from a part of the country That's known as friendly Ish It's a I call it fake But it's a fake nice The thing is Even you coming from the south Came up here And that was something It's just It's very cool When you have an event with 500 people it's not like we can you know we always want to put our best foot forward to any guests that we have you know we have 39 states represented so but you can't coach people okay hey mates see that be nice you you can't do that i mean and so to hear that, that was awesome.
That's a compliment to the people that come to our event. So it's very, very cool. So we get a chance to come to a Midwest event. I want to put that plug in for us. Plug in. For the Midwest. We ain't fly over anymore, motherfuckers. Land here, bitches.
Anyways, okay, so one of the things and this is this topic is awesome because we talk about we all know rules are important right and we all talk about we talk about rules you hear a lot of shows talk about rules it's a big thing and we all know that rules change as you're in as you're in the lifestyle with time i just was having this conversation last night with how much our shit has changed through the years and how we're like a free range like we don't we don't encourage everybody to do what we do. And watch you peck at some dick. There you go. Practice on Friday.
No, but how we don't encourage that our way is the right for everybody. But our rules have definitely changed a long ways. Should ours would change weekly? Yeah, they would. At the beginning. Oh, yeah. Yeah, they would. I didn't like that. You don't do that again. Oh, okay. I won't do that again. Yeah. It was a learning curve. Mm-hmm. But people have said it, and it's the true thing. You can't unsuck that dick. You can't unfuck that pussy. You can't unfuck that person.
What is a challenge and what's never talked about is once pandora's box is open how do you deal with some shit then and and the reality is that's really what it is why people are most of their afraid is once the thought of well we'll try it if we don't like it we won't do it again that's a great concept but you can't ignore like whatever happened didn't happen as you go we don't like that so we'll just erase that but we want to delve more specifically into rules and not just pre-setting the rules but we heard this multiple times because we had a lot of people at varying levels how do you how do you kind of turn back the clock how do you roll things we just watched a movie we did and it was really funny because we were laughing about but how how do you actually you set these rules you lay them out there and then all of a sudden you go because you don't know or maybe you didn't put any rules you feel like you need to put the brakes on to add some to it right you either didn't put any out there or you didn't put enough because you didn't know and and this is a whole new can of worms when you're trying to go back and add rules in can be it doesn't have to be but it can't be well it no yeah right it doesn't have to be but a lot of times it is i mean i think the hardest part the the conversation to get into the lifestyle can be challenging for a couple i think the concept of having rules that is asking people to take a step back is terrifying because ultimately if you're not both not on the same page you if you're taking rules to step back that means somebody's not on the same fucking page that is i don't i'm sure maybe happens but i think pretty fucking rarely you're both on the same page and go yep we both need to do this we did i mean or could it be that someone keeps screaming ahead and the other one's like, no, I'm not ready for that yet.
No. But instead of voicing it, they need to put rules in and they don't know how. They don't know. They don't know how to, without hurting anything. I mean, we were fortunate. Okay. So I look back to the whole touch rule. Yeah. We both agreed we needed something better to deal with that situation. Right? Or did you not? Did you just lie and fake it with me? I've been faking it. I'm kidding. Wow. And now the truth comes out, kids. No. No, I thought the touch rule was kind of silly. But I went along with it because it's what made you more comfortable. The rule itself was fucking stupid as hell.
Okay, good. The rule was stupid. You want me to do what? Touch me first. But I didn't know any better way to... We both agreed something had to be... We both agreed there had to be something there to avoid that from happening again. Yeah. I just came up with being, touch me, tag your in. Because I couldn't think of anything else than you. And you, I mean, you didn't have a better idea, did you? I just went along with whatever. No. Don't say it like that. Like I just, yep, I just drug her along. No, because. Grabbed her by her and said, come on, woman, we're doing this.
That's the way we roll here. That's not. No, it was so you could hear me or see me and and I could non-verbally tell you something. No, I agreed with all that. Right. I thought touching was a little ridiculous. How about, hey, Cole? Well, but the thing is, is we had realized we tried that. You said, hey, I'm going to go do this. And I was like, okay. And so it wasn't right, but we were both, the point I was trying to make with that is we were both in the agreement that something needed to be changed. Yes. Let me ask you this.
Has there ever been a time where you felt like some rule, like either that I was up ahead or that we had needed a rule that was going to have to pull things back down? Because I've been thinking about this and I don't know. No. See, I don't either. I can't. I don't. If anything, you didn't believe what I was telling you. Okay, give example. Give example. The first time playing alone with somebody. Give more example than what it was I wasn't believing. You're like, are you sure? Yes, I'm sure.
Are you go play with her I'm not interested in her just go play with her it would have been easier if you went first but I had because none of I could have been like well fuck she did It shortly after I got back right right so that wasn't okay but that okay yeah i i'm talking though times though that you that we that i can't even times that you were further along in the process and i was and i was like hey we need to figure out how to slow this no i think we've stayed on the same we've been very fortunate well because we talked through everything and we're not comfortable with it we talk about it either we then felt comfortable after talking about it or we didn't go any further with that okay wait i can think of an example maybe and i don't know if this is a good example or not there might have been when in the early stages of playing alone because i think i'm, I'm going to put this out and stop me if you think I'm wrong.
I will. We had the most problems with rules or defining rules at the most challenging time when we first started to play alone. Would you agree that that was probably the most? We had a lot of ticky-tack shit that we heard and figured out When we first started in the lifestyle But actually like No because we never really started off with a whole lot of rules And by then it was still No but we There was a greater need There was more work That had we for us going into it as when we started playing alone than when we had just got into the lifestyle in general. Yeah, I can see that. I mean.
There was, because that was a different level of trust that we have for each other. So it was trying to, because we used to come back and just tell every little Nick and Cranny what we did.
Then I moved in So I was like slightly to the left To the right So the example I was going to use Maybe there was a time where It wasn't a rule But where we were not on the same page That was heated Was on a no go Where i where i got super fucking twisted about a certain person that you had played with and were playing with and i got super twisted and couldn't get it squared away in my brain and so so there's been a couple of those where that was like where i to me that's like's like, I think you got that way with Wendy with me. And I think I got that way with you.
And I think that's been the biggest challenge. No, I wouldn't say Wendy. No. There's some other females that were like no go and you were just drunk and fine. I'm like, you know what? If you want to, you do it. I'm not having anything with it. And I flipped on the fucking crazy. No.
So there was times when you drunk and fine I'm like you know what if you want to you do it I'm not having anything there with it And I flipped on the fucking crazy There was times when you were like I can't watch you fuck You can't tell me there wasn't a few times We left a city one time And it was pretty fucking tense Okay there might have been one So the bottom line We're not pointing fingers It's natural That was a whole threesome debacle I don't know. I don It's natural. It's part of what we go through. That was a whole threesome debacle.
But everything we have done, because we have talked about every little fucking thing, is we've taken every step. So, the first thing is, I mean, everybody gets tired of hearing this shit, but seriously, about communication and the fear factor and if you started off by just humoring that you made a mistake if you start off by just humoring the mistakes only going to compound if you continue to just humor. Would you agree with that statement?
And to me, the first thing I think of when a couple of different couples talk to both us individually and otherwise about how to now put more rules, and it's like, I didn't say that, but the first thought that went to mine was you settled you just went along kind of took the path of least resistance early on it's kind of like a lie like if you don't correct it well maybe some people didn't know to put rules down and what rules to put down if that makes sense yeah yeah very much so because you you know just starting off you don't know what rules i mean fucking think about mine no anal no shit and that's because you know she'll fuck you up the ass it's all good i'll fuck you up the ass oh there you go you're getting a strap on aren't you um i haven't ordered it yet, but okay.
I'm just saying. But, I mean, that was a dumb... It's not dumb, but it is dumb. It was dumb that that was our only fucking rule. Well, no, that was the only one that we verbalized. Yeah. Because it was just like, well, what's your rules? Well, what fucking list do you want me to give you? Yeah, we were like... I always hated that as a meeting people. Can't fuck her in the ass. Can't fuck me in the ass. Okay, easy enough. All right, rock on, let's go. Everybody does these Dead Sea Scrolls, and we're like, you know, yeah, don't stick anything in my butts. And that was like, yep, there we go.
We're ready to go. Let's go have sex. When you say it like that, how the fuck this didn't turn into the biggest clusterfuck disaster 12 years ago? I will never fucking know. I think because we, the first person that we truly hooked up with, well, that we hooked up with, that I remember standing in his living room and he goes, what's your rules?
And I said, no, I ain't no, because we never hooked up with anybody before we didn't know and he's like okay easy enough and then it's like well they were a couple that preyed on newbies yeah so i think they kind of knew to somewhat be delicate when it came and here we can walk in do do hi we're dumb we're just fucking stupid well because we didn't fucking know how do you know to put rules do you know to put rules down? We didn't do any research. Hey, we want to fuck. Let's go. You know? Yeah. And now we have a show teaching others. Perfect. That's why I learned from our mistakes.
But we did talk about everything. And really, our rules didn't change. I mean, seriously, we had our rules, room full swap couple no anal and then it became more it wasn't that we added to our rules rules that affect other people it was rules between us and and that's kind of one of the keys is that there's there you should have rules that are rules for your play partners and whatever, but it's good to have rules between each other, and those rules can change. Those rules you can back up because it's going to prompt the conversation of I'm not comfortable.
Not everybody needs to know what your rules are. You know between the two of you what your rules are. Yeah, nobody else needs to know that back then that it was like me saying baby to somebody else was to, that didn't affect them. That didn't, nobody needed to know that. That was, you know, but so the first, I guess, piece of advice is if you think you need to slow down, start looking at the rules between you two.
Start, actually start talking about it and talk about the main thing when we say communication that i don't think a lot of people understand is we talk about our emotions and we talk about our feelings what are you feeling how are you feeling well you know when you did this well it kind of you know a little quench of jealousy came out yes but you know you know or when you said that it kind of hurt my feelings because that's something you say to me we talk about our feelings we talk about how we feel we talk about how you know what to do differently so we wouldn't feel that way pretty much we analyzed it to the Well, part of what you said is the key is that we didn't focus on the physical acts so much.
No. Most people's rules are on the physical act. And that's when I say rules between you two. Those are the rules. Those are the emotional rules. Those are the things that you need to have there. So I think, go ahead. Larry put, doesn't matter if it's the lifestyle or life in general, rules will be strained if there isn't communication. That rubber band will be stretched together, will be stretched tighter and tighter. Well, I think there's nothing wrong with talking to your significant other or partner or whatever and go, okay, can we talk about this real quick?
Because, not real quick, can we talk about this real quick because not real quick can we talk about this can we talk about this yeah because this is starting to to bother me right you know is it you know can we slow down on this aspect i'm okay with you doing this but this part is starting to really put a boundary between the two of us and i don't want that I, okay, would word it as i feel like this is what it's doing to me yeah yeah because look honestly there's a huge part of presentation is everything so that if you're going to have this conversation if it's hurting my feelings it's making me feel like i'm on the back burner exactly.
Exactly. If you're not how you present it, if you present it as what you're doing is wrong, what you're doing hurts, what you're doing. Well, don't point. Well, not the point, but with words. I did that for accident.
If you tell someone, if you let someone know how it makes you feel then it's not confrontational that it sounds stupid but that is huge to get anywhere in this you it can't be confrontational would you say hey i don't i think when we started off with this this is my thought which way it was going to go and now it's going this way is there a way that we can back up a little bit and add some rules if it was if it was me i the way i would say it is i i felt very comfortable in the beginning how we were doing everything. I'm not comfortable anymore. I'm concerned. I have feelings that I feel hurt.
I feel nervous. I feel uncertain.
I need to talk with you so that how we can make it so i don't feel that way so we go back to having fun because ultimately ultimately that that's really what amounts to see the the challenge with this and some people say that we overanalyze shit okay and you know you all gem and i we overthink we well everybody knows you you have your own level of communication but there's one thing that will happen 100 guaranteed for sure if you do not communicate about it every single event or day and i say it this way i say that way Because depending depending on what your dynamics are we talked to some people that were in just their dynamic was couples swinging just straight swinging like what we do dynamics that were like having some of those issues as a couple we've talked to people that were in poly relationships that are having those issues we talked to okay so whatever your dynamic is if it's a dynamic that happens every day or if it happens every weekend with every event whatever it is it's going to build every single time that you have that and it's going to get worse and if you don't address it nothing is going to happen okay so but sometimes your partner doesn't want rules or boundaries and continues on that's okay and that's an excellent point so this is going to sound i don't want to word this well we're just going we're the way everything straight forward.
The reality of the lifestyle is that this is not for everybody. Okay? And that you will never be able to see the stripped down, true version of the person sitting across from you I'll see you next time. the stripped down true version of the person sitting across from you in any experience in life any more than you will in a lifestyle. I firmly believe that.
It is like it's like going under walking through a fucking waterfall that's just it eliminates all the filters all the bullshit that's the reality of it the reason there are so many victims of the lifestyle is because all the bullshit gets stripped away and there you stand and so for you and i that's we talk about the language of love all the time we talk about learning that language for you and i we've had discussions that were heated beyond heated damn heated and they were damn long they weren't a 10-minute discussion they weren't a they weren't a two-hour discussion.
They were 10-day discussions. But when you see that, when you get there, it's like, wow, that's huge. Angela said the BS only gets stripped away if you allow it to, and that's true.
And if you'll take the rose-colored glasses off to see it, that's the other part of it, a very good friend of ours told us a long time ago, she's been a lifestyle long, long ago we have, every time you hook up, every time you play, you're testing your relationship in a way that is brutal, and it's true, and the thing is, at that point in time, what you have to decide, quite honestly, is, and this, it doesn't matter if this is a poly relationship, your primary relationship, whatever.
You have to make a decision if you're going to continue to operate in the same realm as that other person, if they're completely. If what they want is completely off the deep end off. Or not deep end. But completely separate of what you want. That's the reality of it. We've watched it with Pauly Relationship. I'm not going to pick on Pauly too much. But you see it with Pauly a lot. Okay. Is that. A relationship. Is only as good as all the people that are in it. And that everybody wants to put the equal amount of work and effort into it. That's why poly is so fucking hard to maintain.
It's hard enough to maintain two, let alone three, four, five, ten, whatever your dynamic is, how many is in your cube, duples and whatnot, okay? And lollipop gives you, but I don't care. The more you add to it. Why does a rock band have a hard time maintaining a relationship and staying together? Because when you get four fucking people, 50% of two people end in divorce. Four people, it fucking doubles, you know? It's the same fucking thing. And so you have to decide. Well, and when it goes to, and one just wants to keep going on, I'll see you next time.
doubles you know it's the same fucking thing and so you have to decide well and when it goes to and one just wants to keep going on you both have to be in it equal and you have to care about the person that you're in it with because once you stop caring what they think or what they want to do, that's bad news. The game is over. Here's the shittiest part of it. You have to care for the other person at a level that is second to none.
And then at some point in time, you have to do a complete 180, a switch and put yourself first when you realize that it's not equal when you both when you both are all three or all ten or how many of you are not in the same fight together that's when it switched from them first to putting your own well-being first and it's shitty but the the thing is is that i'll put it back out there a lot of times one of the things that gets stripped away is why we're in the lifestyle we we preach to new people all the time make a checklist how good is your communication right at one to ten and make a checklist go through and make a list Both of you Why you're actually in the lifestyle Because the lip service is Everybody says the same fucking thing Over and over again We're in the lifestyle Because we want to enhance our sex life And that's a complete and total fucking lie Spice up our marriage That was the biggest thing And it's bullshit It's bullshit Because you know what If your dick gets hard Your pussy gets wet And you get off fucking your spouse Your significant other You know what So, let's bullshit.
Okay. This is where I don't agree with you. Well, you're wrong. I'm just kidding. No, go ahead. No, I don't agree with you because you think about it. We had a good sex life, and you're like, oh, let's do this. I'm like, why the fuck do I want to fuck somebody else? But then when you do it and you start talking about it, it makes it spicier, and then you end up fucking all the time. You're like, holy shit, we're doing this daily where we're doing it once a week before. What the hell? But it doesn't, no, it makes. I can be at work going, oh, wet. It makes the mental other parts of it hotter.
It doesn't make the sex hotter. It does not make the physical. Sex is an action. It does not make. Well, I didn't say about the physical part of it. So the thing is, is that's what I'm saying. It makes your mental marriage hotter. It makes mental part hotter it does not it spices up it does spice it up though it does not spice up the actual fucking part i don't know i got wetter well that's because i was spitting when you weren't looking it doesn't but it strips down a lot of times why people are actually in it. Okay, we're totally getting off topic. That's totally horrible. It's not horrible.
It's typical of us. But let's go back to the basis here. Here's the other problem.
If you don't have the conversation with each other away from the lifestyle, away from the setting right at home whatever what happens is it manifests itself in issues at an event every fucking time because okay we'll use we'll use Cole as an example because this is a good example actually yeah no shit i don't know how to go man is always right if coal's had a bad day yeah you watch my what you're very conscious of my what when i go out alcohol intake because why because you turn into a moody drunk because normally i'm a happy drunk yeah and i and if i if i go the other way i'm gonna go one or two ways aren't i i'm either gonna go into you're gonna go sappy sappy or you're gonna be happy or well if i go sappy i'll either go if i go i'm either gonna be happy or if i go negative i'm gonna go one or two ways negative sappy or angry i don't think you've turned into an angry drunk perfect good you keep believing that anyway so sappy yes yes i get sappy so you watch that well the problem is is that that you're talking about events with booze and sex if you don't have these conversations outside of the lifestyle setting that's when that shit's gonna manifest itself and that's when you got a problem that's when you have a very public problem yeah and and public problems here's what nobody needs in that situation when you need to have a conversation with your significant other uh you don't need a peanut gallery no and don't do it in public around no because everybody wants to help you you might be pissed as shit but you wait until you get in the car that's never happened with us oh, boy.
It hasn't. I've had it to where you didn't speak to me all the way on the way home. Then we go to bed, nothing. Then I wake up the next morning, I feel like I'm on eggshells. I'm like, okay, what did I do when I was drunk? I don't remember. Well, that was the time you told me to go fuck myself and kick me.
That was the one when you finally asked asked me at the store what did i do no you don't remember what you did actually you didn't say what did i do because by that point you were getting pissed you're like i don't know what you're so fucking pissy about really you don't fucking remember what you did no what did i do you don't remember telling me to go fuck myself three different times and kicking me and then you watch the color in amanda's face just go weep oh okay that kind of shit happens you know whatever um okay we got another question let's see here uh what happens if you communicate and etc and then it backfires and they say you didn't follow what was communicated even though you don't remember them bringing that up.
Yeah, that's a valid point. So, here's the thing. There's a lot of times you talk and I know you. Good. It's why we love each other. I just babble and she doesn't listen. No, there's sometimes I do. We will totally be Walter and his wife someday. That's what it's all about. The puppet. Anyway. Anyway, no, we won't. No, this type of shit, though, here's the deal. 11 years into this, the conversation. I think we're more than 11 years. We're actually 12 years into it. No, I think we're further than that. We stopped counting at 10. Yeah, we've been doing this a long time.
We've been fucking other people forever. Ages. The thing is, is that the conversation never stops. This is like an ongoing, when you play, you need to fucking check on it. You need to replay in your brain. Look, every year in your car, go get your car manual out car manual out right now and you're going to open up and there's routine maintenance that has to be done. A fucking relationship is the same way and a relationship that involves other people's dicks and pussies is most definitely has routine regular maintenance that you need to do. And part of that routine maintenance is communicate.
every if everything if the answer is there's nothing everything's like everything's perfect you know what no it's not and if it is you should have no fear to go are we good is everything good are we all right there's nothing wrong with asking that question and and we you can't the easy, the path of least resistance, how does water go down a mountain? It goes down the path of least resistance, right? But how are great things accomplished? It's by the wearing of time and a water, a drip of water will wear down a stone.
You have to fucking not take the easy way out You have to If your relationship Is of value to you Then treat it that way Which means Ask Communicate Come soon God I love you man So if we had rules And I didn't hear one And I did it And you get pissed I don't know if you get pissed I would get pissed Thank you.
and i didn't hear one and i did it and you get pissed well i don't know if you get pissed i would get pissed what what would happen i would be like why the fuck didn't you do that why did you do that and you'd be like what are you talking about and we get in a big old fucking argument and i would vent and being pissed and you'd vent back and be and then we'd start figuring out, and then we'd start really going through it. Well, I could have swore. Well, no, you didn't. Well, wait a minute. Yes, I did.
No, well, and then we'll go through the process until we get on the same fucking page, and we're like, shit. Either you didn't hear or I didn't say it. You did say that. Crap, I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'll make it up to you. I'm sorry. I didn't hear it. And then usually the other thing that happens in that process is you evaluate how big of a deal is it. Yeah. Look, sometimes we get pissed about rules. This is a huge part of this. Why are you getting pissed about the rule that's broke? That's something that you also have to ask yourself.
This is part of why you should check up and refresh and update your rules, whether add more or delete rules why are you getting pissed about it there was a time there were certain things that you know that that were a big deal i can't even think of one of our rules now we're like a big deal not to do or whatever over time that changes okay and and that's okay but you have to revisit it and you have to see why it changes and you got to decide okay the touch rule when we enacted it back then that at that time it was a big deal it was important it was important for it to have that or something like it to and to continue our path in the lifestyle now if i walk up when you're in the middle of fucking sucking a dick or fucking making out or some shit to go hey i'm gonna go fuck now you're gonna turn around and slap me in the balls and go great thanks for bothering me because we're past that point we're not but you know what i mean you know so you do the checkup so wait a minute we've got good points here okay of course sometimes some people say everything is fine then they they wait until two days later to say they're I'm going to show you a little bit.
So you do the checkup So wait a minute We've got good points here Okay Of course sometimes Some people say everything is fine Then they They wait until two days later To say they're They're not actually okay And it starts a whole side show Shit show Shit show Of stuff that even Sorry I can't fix That's natural That's a That's a communication thing Either they're afraid To bring it up when it happens Or they haven't processed it yet Or they haven't processed it yet It's natural Talk it out Fight it out If your relationship's worth it Thank you.
Either they're afraid to bring it up when it happens. Or they haven't processed it yet. Or they haven't processed it yet. It's natural. Talk it out. Fight it out. If your relationship's worth it, keep talking. Keep talking until you're on the same page. And if they don't want to talk because you're a notorious non-talker and I'm a notorious talker. If they don't want to talk, don't let it where, how valuable is your relationship? The reality of it is I would fucking kill anybody. I don't care how I could kill my very best friend in the world for my wife.
So that's how important my relationship, where's yours at? You know? And then if it's, if it's that valuable, treat it like it's that valuable. Uh, okay. After the last hotel takeover in December, I think Brian and I talked for weeks about it, which is awesome. When rules change, the conversation changes. That's, yep. And that's healthy. That's good. Rules, no matter how significant, come down to trust. Absolutely. Absolutely. When you take the time to revisit your rules and to revise them and to add or subtract, what it's doing, it's a reaffirmation of that trust.
Now, I want to put this thing out here. I've been there and our relationship ended because he wouldn't talk it out. Exactly. We need to communicate. It's a need, a human need. But I want to point this out real quick because so many times we put the responsibility of if you're not comfortable with something that you need to make to be the one to initiate the conversation, whatever. a word of warning everybody in their relationships whether it's poly whether it's poly, whether it's regular, or some point in between, whatever a throuple would be with 20. A 20. A 20-upple.
Anyways, it doesn't matter. There's dynamics within the relationship. One of you is generally the dominant member of that fucking, of that relationship. What I mean by that, her and I, we are very, very equal. But in certain situations, different ones will take the lead. But when it comes to your swinging lifestyle, one of you generally is going to be more gung-ho than the other one. It was somebody's idea. Now, that can change as the race goes on, okay? As life goes on, that can absolutely change, and that's fine. You need to know who in your relationship, where are you?
Are you leading or are you following? You need to know that. It's absolutely important because you need to know if you're the one leading, you have a responsibility to look back and say, is everything okay? That's 100% on you. when a when the if you look at if you look at a wolf pack, right? Some of the strongest are at the end. Okay. To make sure nobody gets behind them. Right.
So people don't drop off when you're the one leading that charge and you're excited and you've got whatever you're like gun ho and shit's like, Ooh, maybe you're the one getting all the fucking dick or you're the one getting all the pussy we all will go through those times where i'm getting fucking laid six ways to tuesday every time i turn around and you're on a dry spell or vice versa usually versa but no i'm just kidding but it's important that you turn around and you make sure everything's okay because it's very easy to get so fucking far ahead that by the time you realize it, the gap's too big to fix.
At that point in time, the reality of it is the relationship takes two. But at that point in time, when you're too far ahead and you can't fix it, you couldn't have heard them yelling for help. So when they were given all the signs that they weren't okay you were too far ahead and when that shit goes south the first place you get to look is inside and that's a huge part of it it's an adventure if you're choosing to do this adventure with someone someone that you love someone you care about whatever then you have to make sure that that person's okay. Because really, it's a buddy system.
I can honestly tell you, even at our own events, you know what? Well, shit can happen at your own event where everything's wonderful to be cool and Amanda. There's still times feelings can get hurt. You can feel alone.
Look, all the way, it it happens we're each other's support that that's like as long as we have each other the world's good and and that's what most the most couples are that way but you get so excited it's so easy to get so fucking caught up of where you're at that you totally just and i'm the world's worst at it blinders and and you're just like you're running and you're pretty sure you were right behind me a second ago but here's the deal i'm six foot tall i take huge strides she's a midget she's over here trying to cap up so i mean and and that's really kind of the analogy that works for You're in a lifestyle with people.
I interject there. You just roll over. You just roll over there. I only heard half. I was reading. That's fine. No, that's fine. I was reading. Go ahead. Yep. No, that's all right. That's part of what we do so well together.
I talk and you feed me information As I apparently need it I was just reading There's a line of the I'm Courtney's emotional support animal I like that All guys will have to wear a vest And here's the thing, it's not just guys That's the big misnomer in the lifestyle That it's just the guys That are that are running ahead that that's not how this shit works at all well one of the other things you notice and i hope people after an event like crazy one of nights did this you can look around a room and you can look at couples at least i can and and you can look around and you can see people hurting.
You can see one of the spouse standing there, you know, feeling maybe left out or feeling something. And so what I hope people do after a big event, like any big event, is you go back up to your room, and when you go home, you make sure that you're both okay. Because you can be around 500 people and be very fucking alone and feel it. As the lifestyle evolved with us, our rules evolved with it, always changing to the point where now there are different rules with different people. Absolutely. Absolutely. Your rules was, no, don't stick your dick in that. I'm just kidding.
You only tried to protect... 90% of the time you only tried to protect me from flipping the crazy switch, which I am so magically attracted to. It's not even funny. A defining rod for fucking batshit crazy. I'm not batshit crazy.
not you're well okay yeah no you're not you're the one except yeah you are actually no actually you're the worst of all of them you fucking married man look where we're sitting and doing right now of all the things when you left high school when your mom wanted you to find a good midwestern boy you think this is what she had in mind i'm not not so sold or not themselves. Well, maybe. Just saying. I don't know. So, I don't know. So, hopefully that helped. That was a good show. That was a good show. By fact, we're going to do a mid-halfway point. Fuck! We'll pull it in later. All right.
So, here's the thing. So, 2023. Hey, don't forget. Next thing coming up. We're going to wrap this up. Next thing coming up, the birthday bash. You know what? I don't normally like to get older, but CASBA sure does, and it's our eighth birthday bash this year. We're turning eight. Is it eight? Yeah. We're turning eight this year. Yeah. Because last year was seven. Seven, eight. Seven, eight. See how that works? Okay. I'm not counting that, but okay. What? 2017. Yeah. Beware the Ides of March. Yep. Yeah. 17, 18, 19, 21, 227. Oh. There we go. Stick with me, pumpkin. Okay. Anyways. I counted six.
So, wow. So, huh? I counted six but that's okay. Did you fix it now? Ish. It doesn't matter. Anyways, we're having cake. That's really all about it. We're having cake. Absolutely. So, anyways, you can get your, come to our birthday bash. There's a limit of 250 people. Go on to crazycasba.com and get your birthday bash tickets today. Don't delay because that's coming up. That's like 43 days away, I believe. It's coming up fucking fast. Hard to believe we're getting older. So please, we're really excited to that. I'm not getting older. We're not.
We're excited to have you along for all kinds of cool shit. Is this seven? Was it last year's six and this is our seventh year? Have I just been lying to people? We started it You started it March 17, 2017 So make 7 Yeah Not 8 Oh well okay we're turning 7 Alright we just got younger I'll be damned So we're. We're still going to have cake. I didn't order that yet because I had that number wrong on there. So we're still going to have cake. And now we're just going to have, you know, seven times the fun, whatever. I don't know, whatever. Seven times the fun. Yeah.
Well, it won't be eight times the fun now because we're not eight yet. So there you go. I'm just saying. Anyways, buy tickets. Regardless. It's our second annual birthday bash. We'd love to have you there. Again, shout out to our sponsors, ASN Lifestyle Magazine, Nightcaps.com, as well as NoMoreWetSpots.com. We appreciate it very much. Check out our show and all of our shows on Full Swap Radio. Hope you tune in there as well. And stay with us because we've got more exciting announcements coming up in the near future for 2023. We got shit going on like you would not fucking believe.
Rumor has it we may be taking our shows on the road to a couple like Memphis. I'm going to have a party at Graceland. I have a classmate that said he goes to Memphis often. Hey guess what Amanda's going to fuck one of her classmates. That's awesome. You know was she on the list? List of what? Thank you. Hey, guess what? Amanda's going to fuck one of her classmates. That's awesome. You know, was she on the list? List of what? What classmates you want to fuck? My classmate shows up and does the Pio class and looks hot as fuck, but she's not a fucking swinger, which is totally disappointing.
Yeah, this one I found out, what, two weeks ago that he was a swinger. I'm like, ooh-hoo. Mine's not in her. She had the fucking nicest. I almost sat through the class to die just to look at her ass. Just saying. You wouldn't have seen it. Yeah, I would have. Thank you. I'm like, ooh-hoo. Mine's not in her. She had the fucking nice. I almost sat through the glass of die just to look at her ass. Just saying. You wouldn't have seen it. Yeah, I would have. It was facing away. You'd have to be on the other side. I would have gotten it accordingly if she'd have been a swinger.
I'd have been up there helping her. Anyways, just saying. Larry says six. No, it's not six. No. We started in 2016, not 17. I don't know. We started in 16. It's at least seven. We started in 16. Okay. Because, think about this. Now, this was our fifth crazy winter night, right? Yeah. And we took a year off of a crazy winter night. We're not going there. We're not going there. It is. It's seven. That's what it is. We're not going there. Now I've got to research this as fuckers. Anyways, we're leaving now. With all that being said, I'm getting out. Send us emails, kids. Send us your questions.
Send us your comments. Let us know how you're doing. Remember, if you want to fuck Amanda, let us know. If you want to know where she works at, make a contribution to Casbah Cares,bah cares one thousand dollars you too can find out where she works some people know well yeah don't tell those that don't know or do know don't tell it anyways with that being said doing the only way i know how the only way i want to the only way i ever motherfucking will casbah style out bye bye
