Krazy Truth #236 Learning to communicate at Lifestyle events

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Hey kids, the program you're about to listen to contains some adult situations, adult language, themes, and other adult topics. If you're easily offended, this show's not for you. Hey you crazy motherfuckers, welcome back to another edition of Crazy Truth. I'm the host with the most, I'm Cole.'m here with the lovely, lovely And super sleepy And glow-in-the-dark Miss Amanda Hey, am I super sleepy? I don't know, are you?

Could be, maybe, sort of And we're here to tantalate and titillate you That's what we do We make things happy Right now we've got a naked birthday girl Watching us getting banged She don't know if she's i don't know but we're gonna assume she is probably because you know that's who you should be you know you should watch our show as a drinking game and naked getting banged how did it ever turn out last week with the drinking game i don't know apparently they were all passed out by the end of it after i was fluffing my hair uh it's the way we were all but hey so i forgot that's what they were doing See she is See we recorded this in front of our live I think she likes to be naked We recorded this in front of our live Facebook And now YouTube crowd Because we're currently live on YouTube As well as Facebook as we speak And so Didn't any of our haters find us last week and comment on it No but thanks for thanks for giving them a second chance.

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Amanda discovered that discovered that Thursdays is the, you know, this coming Thursday, this is going to be released on Thanksgiving, which is when you stuff a turkey. Apparently, Miss Amanda has Thursdays for another thing that's stuffed the Miss Amanda on Thursdays. No, this week is Wednesday. Yeah, well, that's just it. We don't want to interfere with holidays, so this week you can stuff a Miss Amanda and a bird.

It just switches up the days a little bit, which changes what day I go wash the rugs Just saying What the fuck It is what it is, just saying There's that So that's something different Yes We did a road trip, that was pretty cool The road trip itself wasn't for a fun reason But we did it, it was to get to see people. We were out in East Lansing, Michigan for the weekend. Did a power drive back yesterday. 11-hour trip. Didn't get in snow, but we appreciate when it's not snowing here. Thank God. It sucks. You get back at 1.30 in the morning.

You're fucking exhausted because you've been going since 5 o'clock in the morning. Yeah, yeah. You lay your head down and your eyes are whoop. Like, I'm awake and ready to fuck my life.

It's like you have to get up at 4 o'clock in the morning You lay your head down and your eyes are Like I'm awake and ready to fuck my life It's like you have to get up at 4 o'clock in the morning Shut your eyes And at least get a power nap in Go to sleep When I actually fell asleep I have no idea It didn't take long I was like forcing myself to relax You were snoring at a time How do you know you were snoring way before I was I woke up to your snoring I was like oh good she's sleeping I didn't even sleep in that long after taking you to work I came back and I went back to bed And I was up for like an hour Because I had so much shit to do You got some pretty good naps when we were driving Okay well let's keep this in consideration A little bit of the good naps Yes I got like a couple long wins But let's keep this in consideration One of those good naps was 23 minutes and that was a power nap it was good it was a power nap because you scared the fuck out of me when we woke up so you know that was like i'm gonna drive to chicago we were 150 miles out or to the nearest place to get gas and oh my god there was a roundabout and that's when all hell broke loose from there no i was explaining to people at, who the flying fuck puts a roundabout on the off-ramp?

The state of Indiana does. No, it was Michigan. Okay, the state of Michigan does. You get off the interstate, you expect there to be a stop sign, and you choose a direction to go, and there is a fucking roundabout. Here's some things that are going to happen in our household. I don't like roundabouts.

Here's some things that are going to happen in our household Over the next couple of weeks and months We're going to go back I tried desperately and it didn't work years ago But we're going to try again We're going to have lessons that are going to include Parallel parking How not to have to miss a really close spot And how to do a roundabout We're just going to drive a roundabout I think your health could use a little extra i think you're fucking my health could use you know how to use do a roundabout because my health waking up to jesus fuck son of a god is horrible it was a busy roundabout it was fucking i'm like just fucking stop the car i'll drive pull the over Because the key was, you don't like to drive in big cities No So you're like, I'm not driving to Chicago So I'll drive before Chicago Yep, 23 miles outside of East Lansing No, it was jam-packed with cars and trucks Like, you know, a Sunday on the road So yes yes and as you did point out to me multiple times there's trucks everywhere it's a fucking monday of course they're that's what they do they travel but so we stopped but i got to sleep and i had to drive to chicago and then you were bitching what time we get to chicago because i'm like swerving i'm all sleeping like i'm drunk and shit because you were scaring the shit out of me because i was asleep i was exhausted at that point in time my 20 minute power nap only went so far when you go how do you know i'm tired i I don't know.

Because I was asleep I was exhausted at that point in time My 20 minute power nap only went so far When you go How do you know I'm tired I was not going to explain it to you But when the speed limit is 70 I Am going 75, 80 Oh yes you are all the time Right You I look over 63 And then cross the line I'm done. I'm. And then cross the line. Go back. No. Cross the line. When we were going through Chicago and that truck was right there and he was on the line and you were on the line, and I went, oh, my God, I can reach out and touch that truck. Yeah, and I was like, shut up. Oh, my God, shut up.

You know what will help a driver if they're kind of tired and shit Is to have your passengers scream There you go It'll wake you up Yeah, and you know what I'm going to do? What? And I'm going to jerk And we're going to go right Just shut up and ride It'll be okay Trust me Did we die? Did we hit anything? Did we hit anything? Did we die?

No is the fucking answer You could have Have in the 30 fucking years of our blissful marriage, have we ever fucking hit anything on vacation or driving through big cities when you've been panicked and pressed up against the glass like a fucking terrorized kid on a fucking amusement park ride? No, we have not. I don't like big cities. I get it. It's just, yeah, it was just... The key is...

I can drive through Omaha just fine Let's not get carried away We can drive through Omaha Just fine I drove through there We can drive through Omaha just fine But can we say I can drive through Omaha without bitching The correct answer to that is No No we cannot You can drive just fine Did you hear me bitch I was singing galore at midnight You can drive At midnight I mean shit out You can drive just fine. Did you hear me bitch? I was singing galore at midnight. You can drive at midnight. I mean, shit out. You can drive through Houston or through Chicago just fine. No.

You can do it without bitching. Chicago is a bitch. I don't think you should have to stand still on an interstate.

Anyways, the key is, this is how you know our love is strong Because, you know, we do these little trips and adventures And all of our friends are like God, you guys always do this And we still haven't killed each other yet Wait, no, it was fun We were cracking jokes and talking the whole time Well, there was a few times who weren't talking There was a couple times You were sound fucking asleep You say beep One more time, I'm going to fucking slug your ass So every time you got close to the white line Or A-line I don't know.

You sound fucking asleep You say beep one more time I'm going to fucking slug your ass So every time you got close to the white line Or a line Border of your side of the road I would beep Cotton nugget over here is being my driver assist She doesn't understand My old man drove a truck So my dad when he taught me to drive Taught me to ride that line Anyways and it drives her fucking insane Say something As kind as my witness you will drive in the snow All fucking year long I don You know Not on a vacation Not on a vacation That was because I was pissed off because they were chasing crickets around And there was no fucking play of any variety Sure Anyways You have to be nice to me because hey guess what It's almost Wednesday and so you have to be nice to me again Don't you Yep sure do Are you going to put those little Chicken goblet leg things on your feet When your leg's up I'll see this again because this is just stupid Why shouldn't I ask this I ask this every time And I know the answer to this Would you like to do The health tip of the day?

God Why sure No I don't know What you're going to say about it Well what would you say about it? Sometimes they don't care What I would say They want to hear What you would say Who wants to hear What Miss Amanda would say? Raise your hands Send hearts right now If you're listening I'll see you next time.

it sometimes they don't care what i would say they want to hear what you would say who wants to hear what miss amanda would say raise your hands send hearts right now if you're listening well i don't not really quite sure what it just the tip i'm not sure what it actually would have to i mean it does and it does see there's hearts coming yeah okay they're just being nice okay so the health tip of of the day is mental health And what I mean by mental health is that Get your shit together Partially, no One of the things with mental health is Obviously there's a lot of connotations But in the lifestyle, it's a little bit about Checking yourself with the lifestyle Just a scoge Because we know we're going into the holiday season and the holiday season is incredibly busy there's a ton of stressful there's family events there's you know you've got family coming and going you're going places getting gifts and cooking and all the shit that goes with the holidays it's very easy to take and try to squeeze too much shit in that time frame and one of things is very easy to try to squeeze in there sometimes is the lifestyle be willing and understanding that maybe we had this happen one time years and years ago we had this happen i had a play date the day before thanksgiving no it was christmas eve no it wasn't it wasn't yeah it was whatever doesn't matter it was the day before it was like the 23rd of december anyways the bottom line was because someone's a pain in the ass when anybody comes to our house and so of course my play date ran long and so then in turn there was there was tension because she was getting the house ready for the holidays but it serves but it serves as a good reminder that to keep you know to keep it in check especially if you play alone and i'm being serious with this because if you play alone a lot of times it's like hey don't forget your spouse is still there trying to get shit ready for the holidays So be smart about it And make sure that the lifestyle Or some event thereof Doesn't take precedence over You know, the added stress of the holiday Holidays can be a great time, but holidays can suck Yeah, but if you also go to an event Leave all your Stress, no Leave all your stress and everything at the door Exactly, exactly, yes go in with a clean mind and have fun yeah you use use the lifestyle as that that needed like fun refresher break thing from family and all the other bullshit but mental health you have to keep yourself in check with this stuff because if you don't well then it can just be a nightmare so that's the health tip of the day.

Keeping your mental health, checking how the lifestyle can... And find ways to clear your mind. Right. Meditation. Yes, yes. Relaxation. We want you all here at the first year when we have new shows and they're super exciting and stuff. Huh? We don't want people to quit the lifestyle and quit listening to our show. Are they going to? Well, I don't know. Hopefully not. But if they blow a gasket over the holidays, they might never know That's probably where I should go Drinking That's not nice If you do go to your family or friend's house, do a favor to the husbands of the house.

Make sure that you tell their wives that the house looks wonderful and that you're not judging no matter what. Don't look like you're judging. Don't act like you're judging. If you notice anything, don't acknowledge you notice anything. Because even if you're just randomly looking around, they'll assume that you notice dust, dirt, or dog hair somewhere and freak the fuck out.

And so you will spend seven hours in Defcon 5 before any event, panic cleaning the house when you have a 140 fucking shedding machine that just takes and fluffs everything it touches we have an instant snow machine at our house it's called willy willy continues to just fluff and if you touch willy willy just goes poof so no matter how much we clean our house will matter how much we clean There's going to be Willie hairs And no let's all agree to one thing We've quit judging that When our parents That's our parents generation that judge other people by that Yeah and your mom moved away so I should be way more relaxed You all fucking heard it That is a moment in time.

This podcast is over and it's going to be bronzed right fucking there. Okay. I'm with happy holiday cheer. My mom would have been the same way. I know and you know what? She would have driven me just, you would have driven me just as fucking nuts with her as you did with my mom. Probably worse. I taught you better than this. Probably because here's ladies understand this is why husbands go to bars. Just saying. Whatever. Oh, my God. Yeah. I always wanted a Hallmark holiday. A Hallmark holiday, except for the fact that they don't show the fact where the husband's ready to fucking kill the wife.

I want a Hallmark holiday where my house just looks fucking perfect. Woman, as God is my witness, there is no way that this house or any of our house could ever look perfect for you to actually go, yeah, let's go do something fun. Fuck it. We're good. There is no... God, I wish. There is no way. I could spend $1,000 to have a herd of elves in there. So we can walk to the town square. Oh, fuck. I want it to be a fucking Hallmark movie. Yeah.

I could hire an entire Hallmark staff and they still wouldn't get it cleaned up But we need to clean before the cleaning staff gets here Tell us how you really feel The holidays are so much fun Okay So let's get on with the show shall we Absolutely get off my quirks no okay no you it's because you care and that's what's it all about and that's always about loving and caring and not judging and the fact that your mother instilled every fucking insecurity possible in you about that shit so my mother tried to do it with us she beat it into us so much that she turned it into just not giving a fuck.

Seriously. One year, I would have liked to just been in my underwear and a wife beat her slugging beer when they went, yep, you know what? I said, fuck this shit. I would have done it too. Right. My dad would have giggled under his breath. Yes. He wouldn't have done it in front of her because he'd been in trouble, but under his breath. Why do you have to do that? That's so gross. Just kidding. Okay. Sorry. We're back. Because you can't help a fucking sneeze. You can share. Oh, if I have to sneeze, you're getting it. Perfect. Yeah. Alright, so okay, let's go ahead.

Let's go ahead and let's do the show. So this week, we are not dealing with a question We're doing something But this is probably This show is one of the very most important shows That we will ever do And I'm not even being a smartass when I say that No This show is like the show of all shows And look, you all need to stay and listen to this one because if it doesn't affect you directly as a guilty party, you will laugh your ass off because you will know people that we're talking about. Okay? Now, let's picture for a moment. Close your eyes, everybody. Don't fall asleep.

Make sure I know where the dick is so you don't get stabbed in the head with your eyes closed.

Okay, anyways, now, picture for a minute you're at a lifestyle event you're going to this event you're all excited with high hopes of meeting great like minded people maybe somebody hot somebody you want to take and fuck and you're all giddy about this and you're excited and you're on a super high note and you're just like oh this is gonna be great and as you're walking in the building you see all these other people that are giddy you can tell there's a nipply fucking thrill in the air you can just kind of smell the sexual and as you start to go you're like you've got a drink in your hand and all of a sudden you run into Eeyore that's right Eeyore everybody think for a minute do you know who I'm talking about think back to Winnie the Pooh and their good friend Eeyore remember Eeyore the jackass the donkey hey Pooh how are you I don't know.

And their good friend, Eeyore. Remember Eeyore, the jackass, the donkey? Hey, Pooh. How are you? My leg hurts, Pooh. Remember Eeyore? Remember how Eeyore never had anything happy to say? How he had Tigger, who was bouncing all over super excited. Because everybody loves a Tigger And then you had Eeyore Now Who It's hard to use who as a swinger thing But if you're a swinger who do you want to hang out with He always had his hand in the honey He knew where to go Do you want to hang out Do you want to hang out With bouncy Tigger Because that's what Tiggers do They bounce I don't know.

Do you want to hang out with Bouncy Tigger? Because that's what Tiggers do. Woo-hoo! They bounce. Or do you want to hang out with Eeyore? Who do you want to hang out with? Who would you like to hang out with, Ms. Amanda? The fun one. The fun one. You would think we were at a point in our lives where you would not have to actually say how to have correct communication at a lifestyle event.

But we've been proven time and time again that, oh my God, please everybody listen to this basic public service announcement of how to correctly communicate at a lifestyle event no matter how well anybody knows you no matter how many times you've been there no matter how much you know someone whatever when someone says to you hey how's it going they don't really give a fuck. Okay? They do, but they're in a party mood. And so when they say, how are you doing? How's it going? What they want to hear you say is, it's going good. It's going great. How about you?

If you don't have something positive, say, just kind of pretty good. How about you? Pass it back. Right? There's times and places for everything.

everything look we just got back from uh we were in east lansing because one of our very very good friends friend of mine from high school her husband just passed away okay so when we ask her how are you doing we wanted to know how are you doing that was genuine that's when we want to hear and know how you're doing that's one place but at an event where we're hoping to meet people who want to fuck i don't care about your problems don't give a shit could give two flying fucks i don't want to be bogged down with them i don't want to have my mood killed i don't have the mood of the conversation of all the people around us killed i don't want to be bogged down with them.

I don't want to have my mood killed. I don't want to have the mood of the conversation of all the people around us killed. I don't care. Nobody cares. We want to talk and find the positives. And yet, meet and greet after meet and greet after meet and greet, you continuously run into people that are seriously Eeyore. And that's what I call them all the time. You do. Eeyores. People. Do you want... You can jump in any time. Well, no. I'm going to go back because you said you don't care. I do care. We care.

Just not an event where we're hoping to find somebody That we potentially want to fuck Because if you're down What kind of a fuck are you going to be Well and here's the thing We do care And we're very open on reach out to us There are times Absolutely reach out to us Vent I'm here if you want to vent I can be your ear that's fine But at an event I want to have fun We literally make A point to have basically Unlimited office hours For people to reach out to us And we appreciate the fact And it's not just us we see this with everybody We appreciate when it's awesome when people feel comfortable enough in a relationship that they can be honest with you.

But there is a time and a place for everything because here's the deal. One, no one can solve your problems at a meet and greet. I'm going to let you all in on a dirty, dirty little secret that I have. You guys ready for this? I don't know. Am I ready for this? If you've seen me at an event, and for those of you that are going to be at Crazy One at night, you'll see this. I rarely stop moving. Oh, I do this. All night. I never stop. I keep moving. Hey, how you doing? Hi. Hug, kiss. Whatever. Keep moving. Move. I'm always moving.

Now, A, I'm busy and doing so, but I'm also, even events that are not mine, I'm always moving. I call this playing shark. The reason I call it that, if you, if a shark stops swimming, they die. They drowned. That's why a shark never stops moving. It's plain shark. If I stop moving, then you get trapped. And the people that trap you, it's not the people that want, that you end up wanting to fucking go fuck that trap you.

It's the fucking Eeyores that trap you every fucking time and that is what you're trying to avoid because the the when someone when you start telling your sad story or whatever's going on to people now you force me to do one or two things either stay and let you continue to drone on until the end comes or be the dick and go great talk to you later and bail on you which most of us all of us in the lifestyle we won't most people won't do that we want to be nice to people right so if you don't know what's appropriate conversation let me give you a list we'll all come up with a list together shall we okay let's get our handy dandy notebook should we okay or electronic devices things that you should not talk about with people at a meet and greet you ready health of people that nobody knows don't talk about the health of your co-workers Don't talk about the health of Long distance family members Don't talk about the health of Somebody you saw on TV If we don't know them Or don't have an interest or need to know Or want to know Don't talk about health Pretty good one Pretty safe on that one What do you think What's something you think a topic they should avoid I'll see you next time.

safer than that one? What do you think? Which one would you think? What's something you think a topic they should avoid? Do I need more? I'm like going, gosh, you know. Financial problems. Financial situations. Hey, not to be rude, not to be sound inhumane. We all have bills. We all have things. We're all at an event we probably should, we could avoid and not spend any money, but we're trying to just have a little bit of fun. Shouldn't share your financial problems with people randomly anyways? Not an okay time to do it. Not an okay time to do it. Private's better. Private. Private is better.

Yep. So no one else overhears it too. Ted has a great one. Yes. Politics or religion? Absolutely. We're going to do this in two separate categories Politics And religion Here's the deal Look there are some people That if you are super close And you they enjoy I love usually political conversations Whatever But in the world we live in today It's's very divisive. And there's a lot of different opinions. And let's be honest, all of us believe that other people's opinions are probably wrong. So the thing is, is even if people, people will jump in on that conversation without hearing all of it.

If someone will randomly jump in with some heated bullshit, that is a great things to not talk about politics is not something that is necessarily appropriate uh in in a lot of settings a lot of fucking settings but that's a huge one religion religion is one also now here's the deal cast is getting ready to release a couple things that are that are actually are actually will hit on religion, uh, because like-minded folks, there is, uh, you know, again, there's, uh, everybody's religious views is something that's personal.

And the thing is, is that religion is one of those things that it is a hotbed of a topic because everybody has different religions. Everybody has different opinions within their religions and religion, religious and politics tend to go hand in hand. These are things that are not, these are not things for, that are, you know, are something that, that are necessarily appropriate to sleep with.

CASB is going to come out with a special Facebook page to support the religion the religious part of the lifestyle because you can be both but it doesn't mean you're meet and greet with people you don't know that you need to share that with or out loud that other people can easily become offended by okay those are those are absolutely absolutely uh awesome uh shelly comes in sky in that shelly came in with that one well it's the second one to come in with the politics Religion but she also added Other couples businesses Other couples business Gossip Absolutely Gossip is not an appropriate top It is not appropriate It is not okay To take and Yamammer on about other people's shit.

Because here's the reality of it. You want to know what most people know about it? Not a goddamn thing. If you want to talk to me about what's going on, and we have people come up to me all the time because we have a group and whatever. I'm going to tell you the same thing every fucking time. Shoot me a message on it, because I probably won't remember. Shoot me a message on it and send me your proof. Okay? Do I want to know if there's a situation? Yes, I do. I absolutely do. But how it's brought up is all of the biggest thing in the world. You have to share it in the right way.

Scott, but you should not talk about fight club yeah don't talk about fight club what's the first rule fight club don't talk about fight club and that's exactly it rumors one person it's the drop of water in a pond right the pond is crystal clear drop sends a ripple, and the ripple keeps going all the way through the pond. When you drop a comment like, well, I heard they have, fill in the blank. You can ruin lives, literally. Well, did you know they did? When the reality, look, we have haters.

And if you ask most of our haters, why do hate us they'll be like they can't tell you why they don't know why because somebody told them they're supposed to so okay well apparently we do and that's the way it is with most gossip 99 of it is it's unsubstantiated facts it earns substantial unsubstantiated information it's basically bullshit and the thing is is we talk about community and family how is talking shit about somebody else going to get you laid now right now some of you should be going well cole you're having to do a whole podcast about people that are eeyores and talking shit fuck yeah i am because i'm out here doing this trying to help you dumb motherfuckers so that you don't do that so the rest of us can get to know the real you and get to give you a fair shot at getting known in lifestyle when we do shit like this we're not calling people out to bag on them i hope that people that if you're listening to this that you re-evaluate and you go am i an eeyore because if you'll re-evaluate it then what it's going to do is going to allow you the opportunity to make a change so that people give you a better chance because here's what happens the guy that talks politics the guy that talks religion the guy that that's the eeyore guy or gal obviously that are any of these things or is it the gossip or whatever people see you coming and they go fuck not so-and-so fuck here we go again fuck i gotta abandon ship fuck i gotta bolt i go you you never gave them the chance to get to know you so you're hurting yourself so when we're doing this we're not talking to judge and throwing stones hopefully we're not experts in anything but we know what is annoying as fuck hopefully we'll help you not be annoying we're getting other comments what am i missing uh because beth said time and place appropriate so conversations conversations should be time and place appropriate.

And here's another little thing, just FYI. This is the art of communication, okay? You can be sitting in a small group, and you can be very, very quiet and just talking like this so no one else can know what's going on. I'm going to show you. I'm taking my glass. See, if you're not doing this and if you're not watching this in real life, then, you know. So, what the hell? I don't know. Just hit the reload. So, this will, if you're not doing this in real life, just so you know, okay.

You may not hear the words I'm saying, but I promise you can tell by my face if I'm getting fucking pissed off or not. Okay? So, That you don't think Sometimes they'll do the buggy eyes at me And I'm like oh boy Don't think that even though you're being quiet People aren't reading Aren't reading body language Because they are You know I don't want to make this go. Make this go. What are we doing? You're not helping me. Anyway, so make sure that you are, you know, if you're having that type of conversation, you need to know where you're at all the time. Somebody else had a good one.

Practice on not being negative. I mean, just in general.

No shit it's a learned art yeah it is because sometimes life gets you down but you really have to find the positives and things and learn how to not be negative you do you i've had to catch myself and go no you're not going to talk about that and then totally turn away there's been times as a couple just because we tell you these things doesn't mean that i don't fuck up on them all the time there are times that miss amanda will have to remind me i touch the arm okay that's enough yeah i've gone okay change subject exactly And you know what, because we're all human That's okay And it makes you remember Oh yeah, hey, wait a minute Oh my god And then you really Then you feel like you need to work to change a little bit Because you don't want to just bum people out The last thing you want to do is ruin anybody else's evening Yeah I mean, really Somebody else had a really Okay, wait a minute Mike had the greatest selection Solutions, don't talk, just fuck That was very good But somebody else had another good one here Talking about who you fucked Yeah, you don't do that Nothing's more than once people look over and you're pointing at them.

You know, and you're going like, hey, yeah, yeah. You know, it's like people kind of, they frown upon. There are name droppers everywhere. Oh, fuck yes. Make them show your proof. Say pictures here didn't happen. No, I'm kidding. Actually, that's not a bad rule of thumb. Pictures here didn't happen. We should all have to take a picture. Log in.

My Thursdays haven't involved cameras yeah i know they haven't fucking bitch because i like that shit and they haven't it's great anyways no but seriously this this kind of shit there's nothing wrong with practicing how to communicate or or okay a lot of people when we're nervous we say stupid's everybody. It's like, hey, I'm totally uncomfortable in this scene. You know, have you ever seen two fogs fuck? I mean, you just say something totally like, what? So practice it. Like, if you look at a football game, okay, the first set of plays are scripted plays.

They know what they're going to run no matter what. For their first possession of the ball, they know what they're going to run. They're scripted. They practice them all week long. It's okay to do the same thing in a social setting. It's 100% normal and actually encouraged to have set topics of conversation, some that you feel comfortable, some that you already know are, is non... Button pushing? Right, yeah, non-triggering, you know, something that's appropriate that anybody can be a part of the conversation with.

And what it does, it gives you a chance to get relaxed and in the groove of the event before you say something stupid. Hey, we're going here. Has anybody been? Exactly. Did you have fun? Yeah, tell us about it. You know, if worst-case scenario, always ask questions. People love to talk about themselves. I said that to somebody else the other day. I'm like, you know, I always choose a conversation to other people if I don't know what to say because everybody likes talking about themselves. It's true, and it makes people, that's a warm fuzzy. Except me. No, you do too.

You just have to be goaded into it. Hit the right thing. That's all it is, but there's nothing wrong with practicing. I mean, seriously, think about this for a minute. If you could go back, well, no, let me see. I don't want to do it. Could you name, if you thought about it, five times that if you had a redo button, you would use it to change something you said or an action you did? Absolutely. That would have drastically changed your life. I don't know if that's the change in my life, but I can name some things. Can you think of at least five times?

Most of us could think of at least five times that it's like, man, if I could only redo that. So here's the thing. Knowing that, think about those five times just for a second. Why did it go so south on you? We'll be right back.

knowing that think about those five times just for a second why did they go why did it go so south on you what was what was the things that caused you to go south you were nervous maybe you had too much to drink to cover your nerves mine i was just dumb but let me tell you after i found out figured out and found out the hard way i went wow, wow, that's a lesson learned. I'll never fucking do that again. Yep. And I will not. Being naive. Look. I'm the queen of that. I'll give you a perfect example.

This is why practicing and having that scripted thing is good, especially if you're somewhat unsure. What did I do? Our natural thing is that we want to, like most people, we want people to like us, and we very easily start to trust people, especially in the lifestyle. We all have something in common. There's a built-in degree of trust in the lifestyle because we're all part of doing something with a very unique club. Okay.

It's very easy to go, well, it's like with gossip well normally i wouldn't but you know i can tell you and then we tell them some secret something that we shouldn't tell them we gossip because we have this assumption that we can just tell anybody you can't do that there's nothing will come back to bite you in the ass harder than when you when you say something to somebody that you thought you could trust that you don't know particularly well just because we have similar hobbies and and whatever doesn't mean that everybody should know everything about you okay so alex says yeah talking about problems and solutions and whatnot are conversations to have after everyone's decided they're all friends and not just potential play partners.

That's absolutely. That's perfect. That really is. The things that you can talk about when you're all naked is totally different than when you're standing in the meet and greet when you start. I mean, seriously. And even then, some things are left best unsaid. It becomes like the telephone game and gets blown out of proportion easily. What's the telephone game? The whisper game, where I whisper something until say to you And by the end It's like It started with The house is green And by the time it gets to the end It's you know You know Monkeys fuck rabbits on Tuesday And it's like What?

It's that type It's that type of thing Okay Look Even though The joy of what we do is that we can have sex and we can have physical contact with each other without actually having to be in any type of a relationship, actually.

Most of the rest of the world, what they don't understand about what we do is they go well you to be that close and to do that you have to have this great relationship well the joy of the life shows we can have sexual intercourse and physical contact without being in a relationship that equals the deepest darkest secrets of our soul you know there are some things that you know, they're best kept between you and your spouse. Just because you and I have sex doesn't mean I need to know it. That doesn't open the, that doesn't mean you're required to share that. And that's part of it.

Now, obviously, the relationships are deeper, so hopefully you can get to that.

But it's not required not required I think people mistake that I think we let our guard down too much And we're not trying to tell people to be on guard Or not to be real But you can't lose common sense Here's the worst part about it When you reach a point And everyone If you've been on the website any length of time right now you're all that are going to listen to this every one of you is getting in your mind think of probably a handful of people that have hit on one of those categories that we've talked about just our little makeshift list of what not talk about and you're going to think of that person and you're going to go And it's just going to make you want to Kind of just Just give you like an ugh feeling Just think if we can eliminate that Now Here's the game though Here's the challenge with all this As you think about those the people that hit on all those categories are you willing to take a look at yourself and go am I that person to somebody else because here's the thing I have trouble with that all the time to be perfectly honest with you I will have something that's driving me nuts or that has aggravated me because the lifestyle is what i do for my job this is my business and so it's very easy for me people go hey what's going on i'm like and i'll start and i'll start talking and i'll be like and i'll get myself all worked up and fired up and after the fact i'm like shit i kept that to myself i was that person oh my they didn't care nobody gave that i was that person so part of it is you have to be willing to to honestly look at yourself and go wait a minute man am i doing it we all have the tendency if someone is sick that's close to us or someone something's going on in your life that that is a big part of the rest of your life it's natural to want it to want to share it you got to stop you know i can remember when my dad was sick you know before my dad died and it's like you start talking and all of a sudden you're like you're talking to people because you feel a special connection all of a sudden you're verbally vomiting all of them about what's going on with my dad they were there for a meet and greet they weren't there for a fucking you know you know an episode of er so it was like you know but you have to be willing to look at yourself and then then be honest and okay and then work to try to fix it um brian we all disclose more than what we really want to i've caught myself doing that before think we're all guilty of it.

The sad thing is, if you don't work on trying to get yourself doing it when you're sober, you get a couple drinks, oh boy. So what you really need to do is, when you go to an event or a meet and greet, your goal is to try to remain positive and upbeat the whole time. Yep. If you're negative, you put off a negative vibe. Yep. People can feel it. They can feel the energy coming off you. They will not talk to you or it will be very brief. Yep.

But if you put a smile on your face, even if you're not feeling it, and you go in there with a positive attitude, you're going to radiate positivity and people are going to be more drawn to talk to you. Okay, so here's the other, and you're exactly right. So a couple of things. One, if you're with a couple, have each other's back. Yeah. If you catch your partner. Just a touch. That's a change of subject or you better turn it around.

Yeah, if if you're with each other have each other's back so that if one of you starts to kind of go off the rails the other one helps bring it back around sometimes like hey you want another drink right exactly and there's been times you're like come with me i'm gonna go guys and come with me you're really negative you're really being okay help each other have each other's back here's the next thing be observant be observant of how people are responding to you this is going to sound horrible when people want to get away if i want to get away from you you can watch because man i'm like i start looking around like like i'm looking for like an escape route okay i'm seriously and everybody does that right so if all of a sudden everybody you're talking with feels like they're like doing like the peppy lepew and the and the cat thing like trying to get away from you maybe you need to quickly evaluate what you're doing for a conversation you know lance don't drink uh lowest chances that's true if you hey if you have if you're in a mood and you know that ahead of time maybe definitely limit or if you know it can go south somebody else i know does that yep if it's an off day you have enough to drink your mood starts going downhill and get you the fuck out.

She watches me, and she watches if it starts to go the wrong direction. And the same with her. We have each other's back. And it's like, I think it's time to go. Yeah. Do it, Tabba. Saying just what you say. Booze makes it worse. Absolutely. Like, okay, honey. If I say let's go fuck, then let's go fuck. Absolutely. Scott, be conscientious and be aware of your audience. Absolutely. Pay attention. Communication is a two-way street, right? You listen. You can either listen to hear or listen to respond. You should be listening to hear, not to respond.

But when you're communicating, you should be watching to see how they're receiving your message. Look for the signs. People will tell you when they're trying to get, when it's uncomfortable for them. If you recognize that, then take it as a sign to go, okay, excuse yourself. Maybe ponder what you're doing. I need to find the bathroom. Right, something. But if you go through like an event or a couple events, and every time you get the same fucking response, what's the common denominator? This is painful. It sucks. It's hard to have to be honest with yourself and go, I fucked up.

But if every time you go to an event, you get the same response, hello, maybe it's you. We have guys that contact, and there and there's guys and girls but obviously there's been a lot of guys that contact you that that they are eternally negative they have found shit to be i mean if they won the lottery they would be like oh but it was only that much money then i do all this paperwork they find reasons to be negative and then they wonder why people won't fuck them. Yeah, the negativity gets too much. It really does. But pre-script your plays. Work together. I don't know.

Here's what's funny about a show like this. This is not a fun topic. This is not a sexy, hot topic to talk about at all. But this topic, honestly, if people, if we all learn to communicate better, there will be more sex. There will be way more sex. It'll make everything way more fun. You won't be sitting in a corner pouting. I mean, seriously, there are some people that sit in the corner and pout.

and it's after they make their round Some of them don't even make rounds They expect people to come up to them Yeah it's like No Okay Shelly is like cool When I get a few drinks from me my ADHD Is magnified significantly Squirrel yes I I am very much that way Why do you keep raising your eyebrows To all this shit? I guess that's you You're just as bad Oh yeah When I drink I get tunnel vision You're looking for a dick or pussy at that point in time Is Is it not true? No. You're such a fucking liar. No. You have a total oral fixation the drunker you get. Okay, there's that. Yeah, okay.

Just saying. You won't say anything wrong because your mouth is too busy going... Well, not all the time, but it would be if it was allowed. In public, I don't do that much If you were drunk enough I don't have my tongue down six different women's throats Look, those are all for Scientific experiments I don't do anything that's because When we communicate, that's what they were interested in I know, everybody was wanting one I'm just saying If you could at bars, you would If you got drunk enough at a public bar and it was allowed, you'd fucking grab a dick and suck it. Yeah, I would.

Yeah, okay, yeah, yeah. Open bar for me, Dad. No shit. A man needs to work at, you know, special clubs. Special club, just. I don't know what it is, but boy, I. It didn't used to be that way, but man, we've unlocked that fucking level. We leveled up somewhere along the line.

What a a great key I don't know what the code was for that Should have found that passcode years ago I don't know I don't know It's kind of funny You know So there's your thing What you should do Is if you started getting that good Of suck a dick I don't know See this show had such good potential That right there I just fucked it all up. No. Let loose and have fun. Yeah, just have... Remember what a meet and greet... Or try to, even if you don't know how to. Right. Remember what all the events are about. It's seriously about meeting people and having fun.

If it's not fun, if it's not a fun topic, if it's not fun to talk about, if it's not fun to listen to, then don't talk about it. Then avoid it. It's about having fun. Meet and greets, I promise you, if you're not having success at meet and greets, and you feel like nobody wants to talk to you and all the rest, honestly evaluate your conversations. Practice. I'm telling you, we're not experts, but we know, we talk to enough people, we know what fucking is AAC and what is not AAC. Probably the last, oh, month, the conversations have been magnified. Oh, yeah.

And you get that vibe and it's just been overwhelming the past month. Yeah. And it's just like, no, I didn't want to be down. I want to have fun. And it's going to continue to be like that when we get into the winter.

And, again, we're still dealing with the people coming out of not having control as they've come out of the covid world this is becoming more and more of a thing again it's it's we all have to rework on our social skills and that's what it is it's just a social skill we have to rework on it if we do it if you spend the time and energy just like anything else if you want to be a great baseball player then you practice you want to be a great swimmer you practice you want to be a great you know cellist you put you practice if you want to have great experiences in lifestyle you practice and you and it's not practicing sex that's jacking off we get it you practice you practice communication you practice listening to listen and not to respond.

You practice positive energy, all those things. If you do those things, it'll be awesome. Your attitude in chat rooms and Facebook groups carries over to meet and greets as well. People won't want to meet someone that's always whining in groups. Hell yes. Praise you. Thank you. Yes.

It's a total picture, picture kids that's really what it is the joy of social media and electronic shit is you have instant access to people right here right now and you can have access in a moment and so people will post things in a blink of an eye that is fucking good Or bad They won't even think they'll post I'm telling you It will come back to them I typed and went No that's a very bad comment Type No just don't say it That's so wonderful And that's the truth Because what Scott says is exactly right look if you're the constant if you're negative a dick a twat waffle whatever on social media it that's then people when they go oh you're oh you're that person it comes across don't do it to yourself just don't we think think before you speak think it's everything you think before you touch you think before you speak you think before you type you think before you post if you do those things if you actually actively think and engage your brain in common sense you'll be fine when you think you can just let it go on free mode you're fucked some people but okay so like today i know i was guilty of posting a couple of times that i was tired only only to a couple people in chat or that i've messaged in or they messaged me privately right and you know it's like oh i'm sorry you're tired why are you so tired i'm like oh and you know what i shouldn't have said that well then one guy well i'm tired too well don't try to one-up me that's that's not going to get you in her pants all you got to do is say yes and make it a thursday or i'm sorry you know if somebody says something i'm gonna?

Are you lying, fucking bitch? I'm just kidding. Sometimes. Sometimes I just want to end it. Eric has the right thing. One bad night can last a lifetime in the lifestyle. And that's really true. There are some things that people will remember a long, long time. I have to tell you, it's really funny because we've got to go here. But like with the politics, for example, you know, there's a lot of strong views. And what's really funny is a lot of people don't know about me is that I was a poli-sci major. And I'm actually really, really big into politics.

Really big into politics politics and i follow politics and i'm very convinced in my views of politics and i'm very educated on my views in politics and whatever and so it was really funny that uh uh there was a person that uh does not share my opinion in any way shape or form and has nothing but posts that are absolutely they're they're not a discussion they're just a an idiotic rant and idiotic rage is what it is it's you know they sound fucking like idiots and um but it's it's degrading and this person thinks that i'm awesome what they don't know is is know is that the names and the things that were being said were basically attacking me.

Because people don't know what my affiliation is. And what's really funny with that is that I defronted them because of it. And the thing is that it will change the way I interact with them because of that. It's possible to have strong views on a lot of things and not share it with the rest of the world. And again, I'm not saying what's right or what's wrong, my opinions, your opinions, whatever. But again, it just shows kind of along the same line. One bad post, one ill-thought-out concept can really, really change. And, folks, none of us know.

I've had somebody, okay, so one person reached out to me and said, I'm really looking for this type of person. Can you help me find them? And I said, well, how? Let me put a post out, and then I can connect you with who you might be looking for.

So I put the post out, and they said, you know, I was looking at at their facebook page and went i don't want to be associated with that no it's and i went i guess i didn't think about that but it's just sex but i don't want to be associated with that yeah it it's really funny we just because we think we know somebody we don't and that's why that's why when you when someone comes and wants to talk about medical or any of those things, you don't know what is going to cause someone. You can show a picture of somebody that won't bother them and somebody else it might cause them to throw up.

I mean, you just don't know. So think, folks. All we encourage you to do is we just want you to think. And again, it's not that we're 100% right or anything like that. We're all in a learning process. If we can help you, you don't need to pay to go to somebody to tell you how to be a swinger. You'll just choose your own adventure. But part of it is, you know what, if you're doing something wrong, would you rather just let everybody go, oh, look, there goes the idiot, or would you rather have somebody go, hey, psst, youst, you know, your dick's hanging out, you know, type thing.

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