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Speaker1: Hey kids, the program you're about to listen to contains some adult situations, adult language, themes, and other adult topics. If you're easily offended, this show's not for you. Hey you crazy motherfuckers, welcome back to another edition of Crazy Truth. I'm your host with the most, I'm Cole. I'm here with the lovely, lovely, and with a fat-ass P-H-A-T, Miss Amanda. Hey. And I'm here to tantalate, titillate, and all points in between. We're here to blow your motherfucking minds straight out of your head. So grab a pan, stick it next to your ear, because you're going to need to collect your shit when this shit's all said and done. I thought I'd change it up a little bit this time. I'm in a mood. I'm feisty. Speaker2: Apparently. Speaker1: Well, it's shot day tomorrow. Get this fucking stick a needle in my ass. Speaker3: He's not talking about a drink. Speaker2: Yeah. Yeah. Speaker1: No, no. It's called the testosterone shot. I don't know if it tastes good to drink it. Speaker2: Cocktail. Speaker1: Yeah, cocktail. That made my cock work. So, anyway. So, real quick before I get going too far along and forget what we're doing, why we're here, and the whole process, this is season five, sure fucking is. It is episode 223. Yep, I changed it. It's all in red today. See, I changed the font. Okay. With our scrolling board. Scrolling. We do have sponsors. Yes, we do. They are. Who are they? Well, one well one there's asm lifestyle magazine don't forget smart swingers what do they do they read hey west have good to see you can't wait to you at ksn all the way from oklahoma uh anyways asm lifestyle magazine.com check them out today three million readers can't be wrong you'll be seeing ads about crazy winter nights in there also don't don't forget, nightcaps. You know what? We are very proud and take safety as a huge priority in our lives. It is the drink spiking prevention scrunching, nightcaps.com. Check them out. Make sure you use nightcap10.com. You actually did that without looking at them. In the promo code to get a discount. Well, because it's safety, and I actually really give a shit about that. That's the most important thing to me. It's near and dear to my heart. And don't forget, also, it's your responsibility. It's my responsibility to keep this lifestyle clean and safe, just like Mother. What do you do? You're going to go to shamelesscare.com. Check it out today. Mother, she won't let anyone dirty get through. So check it out today shamelesscare.com they will uh at home testing there's no longer an excuse or reason not to get tested no matter where you're at plus if you want high quality prescription ed medication check them out today shamelesscare.com so and away we go so here's the thing so i have some other safety thing we'll talk about in a few minutes. But before we get to that, the big announcement, it's the first of many. Here's the deal, kids. Crazy Winter Nights. Normally I'm way further along than this this time of year. But there was a point of was this going to happen? Guess what? If I want to do something, we're going to do it. And it is happening. Crazy Winter Nights is happening. Now we're going to be getting you more information taking information all that fun shit crazy winter nights we know what city and we know what month okay crazy one night it's gonna be january it's either gonna be the 13th or the 15th or the 20th through the 22nd we'll be letting you know uh it's going to be in carney nebraska and we've got a badass facility set up to um uh check it out and we've got some way more surprises but here's the deal again the three e's enterprise education and entertainment what does that mean we're gonna have a big friday night thing we're gonna have our big formal on saturday night we're gonna have the awards like we always have we're gonna have the top-notch educators from around the world coming in to teach educate and train people as well as uh our big vendor fair it's coming back so here's the deal kids boys and girls of all ages you know what uh we took the original took a couple years off and the imitators they've tried really hard so step aside fuck star sticks get the fuck out of the way the greatest show on earth is fucking back and i promise you this i do things one way and one way only bigger and better and hold on to your fucking ass because you ain't seen nothing yet kids so get ready this one's going to be off the fucking charts hey do you have do you have podcasters that you'd love to meet and greet with it's gonna happen whoa meet and greets mixers and all kinds of fun so stay tuned there's gonna be more announcements but yes announcements, but yes, it is Crazy Winter Nights. It's coming back. This will be Crazy Winter Nights 6. Wow. Really? Yeah. Yep. The new edition. Ooh, ooh. Anyway, so we're going to be all kinds of cool shit. I don't know. Maybe our Garth Brooks is coming to perform. I don't know. We'll figure something out. Anyway, so it will be... Hopefully he's listening. Please sue me. Please come in. I want to fuck Trisha Yearwood. Anyway, so with that being said, so we are here and we're here and we're ready to kick ass and take names. So that's the big exciting announcement coming out. But be watching. You're going to have to go to our website, Crazy Casbah, because it will all be there. Well, I forgot we don't have separate websites anymore. So, just saying. Look, this next year is going to be badass in ways that are uncomprehendable. We have already, it's been up for less than a week. Less than a week. Crazy Summer Nights, June, the Melee edition, is almost sold out. Crazy Winter Nights, Hot to the Touch edition, mine, mine is over halfway sold out we already have a shit ton of tickets sold for our birthday bash the seventh birthday bash in march we're here to stay kids we're taking over the world just saying uh and so with kwn this is gonna be pretty fucking exciting shit so i am giddy as fuck, to put it mildly. This means, pretty much, I will not sleep again until March, like, 12th. It will be the next time I actually sleep. No, you won't. It won't be until, like, a year from now. Probably. But this is going to be, yeah, this is going to be the fucking, this is going to be in for the shit kick ass yeah so if you have if you would like to be a vendor at kwn please let me know we'll start getting information out for that as well because it's going to be badass uh lifestyle non-lifestyle and all points in between so yeah it's gonna be the shit uh so but a couple of cool things that we did today this has been a good week this is a good week because again shit uh so but a couple of cool things that we did today today's been this has been a good week this this is a good week because again we take a lot of pride on pushing the envelope being leaders in the lifestyle being leaders in safety and everything else you guys all know how much we preach safety whether it be from you know if you go to our new web design website you'll see a lot of information on it whatever um but so today we just started to get volunteers for the uh virtual buddy system that we are offering that we're going to unleash on the crazy casbah facebook pages okay okay and so a lot of people what it is and here's what's so cool we've had people they they're constantly going out they're like concerned what is their liabilities what's the case basically the virtual buddy system is very very simple uh it's safety calls right y'all you're supposed to you should always have a safety call uh somebody that knows if you're going to go out on a date or a play date whether you're male or female single whatever uh somebody knows where you're going who you're going with whatever so that if something happens somebody knows somebody can somebody can help you and our thing is is that we're a family we're a community this is what we do so we wanted to make that available and and i asked for volunteers without explaining what the program was 80 i think 89 or 90 people is what right now have volunteered and all have said yes once they explaining what the program was. 80, I think 89 or 90 people is what we're up to now have volunteered. And all have said yes once they knew what the program was. So we're going to be unleashing here and get more details. But the goal is, obviously, we're not trying to be like superheroes. It's not going to be going out and like rescuing people. But it's going to be the thing of you're there. So if somebody has a need, we can direct people to the right people to you if something happens so that somebody knows where you're at people know that people know where you're at for for safety or even you know car breaks down on the way home you know hey or had too much drink need an uber whatever the case may be that we can be their help and and here's the thing it's something if you have a group do Just as a person, you should have that offer out there anyways. This is part about family and whatever. I do that. If I know somebody's traveled a distance, I say, please let me know when you get home. Yep, let us know when you get home. And we've always had that welcome, Matt. Hey, if you're going out, because we know a lot of singles. Hey, if you're going out and you need somebody just so that somebody knows where you're going. Someone should always know. And it doesn't matter if you're a guy or a girl. Someone should always fucking know where you're at all the time. Look, we talk about roofing at bars and shit happening to guys and girls. Somebody should always know where you're at. And so we want to make sure that we're doing our part. You know know is it the end all be all to make the world the perfect place no but if we can make it just a little bit just yeah if just one one person put a comment on it thought it was a great idea and and said something really interesting they said oh if i'd only this you'd only had this two weeks ago. Learned a lesson the hard way. You know what? This is what we want to prevent. So trying to do our part. As far as liabilities and all that, here's the deal. All events, lifestyle events are risky. There's a risk factor that goes with it. But the thing is that people are the most important thing that takes priority so uh we're excited be watching we're gonna have more information on that and hopefully you know again um be that person to somebody you know or let them know about our stuff but be that person so i'm super excited about that. So, I don't know. I think that so I think sometimes we get dubbed just like almost the old maids. I mean, you know, we're like the, we're like the, now be careful in all the safety shit, but it's like, you know, you have to fucking 99% of the people in the lifestyle are good people. But there's a douchebag in every, that you have to fucking, you know,
Speaker3:
Thank you. 99% of the people in the lifestyle are good people. But there's a douchebag that you have to fucking, you know, and if we all watch out for each other, that's really huge. So that's pretty cool. So we're excited about that, excited about KSN, excited about KWN. We're just excited. I'm excited. I don't know if you are or not. Are you excited? I mean, honestly, are you? Yeah. Are you sure? It's just you're going a mile a minute, so of course you're excited. Well always no i'm i look i'm oh this these are look we got talked into doing an event when we started all this bullshit we were we said we're never doing a fucking event you said we're never doing a fucking event and you were all okay with we were never gonna do an event and then we got talked into it and away she went and now it's just like the one that talked us into it yeah says we took it from him yeah yeah it's like yeah no you forced us and you twisted our hand you said i will help you and you did absolutely nothing ditched us and here's the thing trust me people i i got this on the national level like nebraska like, well, one, every year in January, we've had as many as 900 people here in January. You know what? We don't hang out outside unless you smoke. Yeah, it's luckily here in this state, we have heaters. But our very first one, you want to talk about a fucked up date? A lot of people probably don't know this. Probably not. Our very first crazy winter nights was actually the week before christmas yeah we started planning we made the decision to go ahead and we didn't have a choice on it no well yes we did we could have done it christmas eve okay yeah we could either do it christmas eve or the fucking week before christmas we started planning the week before thanksgiving and threw that fucker together and and 300 people later it's like well okay wait a minute and then we decided we could maybe do this better i believe the quote that you had with me as we were rushing to get christmas shopping done because we didn't have time to do any of that was if you ever plan an event before christmas again i will kill you and we agreed and that's that's where we moved into january and the thing is is you know what every year so so anybody listening they should want to go oh it's cold there's snowstorms yep every year before crazy there's been a storm everyone and you know what everyone has gotten bigger and we've never lost anybody yet we've never not once well there was the one that was really cold well the the people, all of our educators were. But there wasn't a storm. Well, there was an ice storm beforehand. All of our educators were snowed in at airports around the country on Thursday. It was like, oh, fuck my life. You want to watch about somebody who turned some gray hairs. Woo! And every single one of them. You were freaking the fuck out. Every single one of them made it. So, but, you know, don't worry. nebraska in the mid the midway it's not like it used to be and and it's not you're gonna you're gonna be glad you came i trust me this is a lot like crazy summer nights you can either be there and experience it or you can hear about what you missed and it's much more fun to get to add your fun stories than it is the other way around so just just saying so anyways so we're excited about that watch about that not that kind of a snowstorm it really hasn't been that bad it hasn't been it hasn't been super there's never been an arm again the fundraiser we did the fundraiser that was a blizzard the fundraiser was at the top of the hotel where we were at the ninth floor of the hotel that we were on uh there was a stoplight a block away less than a block away and you couldn't see the stoplight but that was a blizzard that wasn't in january nope that was actually february yep there's always a snowstorm in february yeah so this is yeah don't worry but and here's what's cool there is major train stations right there so there's amtrak runs there every day there is uh they've got an international airport so there's daily flights from omaha kansas city minneapolis denver las vegas chicago dallas that all fly in every day in and out of carney okay so there's actually so it you know if you don't want to fucking drive you can fly uh and and then we got some other surprises coming so it'll be cool so awesome here we go oh giddy i'm fucking i guess last year it snowed that saturday yes it did it started to snow yeah that was it started to snow Friday night. That was the one where we had the wonderful, it was the, holy fuck.
Speaker2:
Okay, we're going to go ahead and do this.
Speaker1:
We didn't, it was literally touch and go because of COVID.
Speaker2:
Still, we'd canceled the year before because of COVID.
Speaker1:
And literally, they were talking about the state going back under a cancellation.
Speaker2:
And again, it didn't happen. We were fine.
Speaker1:
600 people had the time of their lives.
Speaker2:
Don't.
Speaker4:
We don't have any rights to that song.
Speaker2:
Time of my life.
Speaker1:
Okay, anyway, so.
Speaker3:
Yeah.
Speaker2:
Nobody puts Miss Amanda in the corner.
Speaker1:
Okay, so. Haven't you? Well, I did, but you were up against the wall and you spread them just right. Yeah, and you liked it. Because you said so. And she say that no no okay i heard you say it was somebody else with me it's like whatever i've never said don't stop finish her finish me okay so let's get on with the you want to get on the the show Just whatever you'd like to do sweet pea Oh now it's all up to me What Oh Jesus okay Anyways alright so Let's get on with Let's roll on with the show Shall we shall. Okay, so it's up to you. Your turn. Health point of the day.
Speaker2:
Go.
Speaker3:
Full swap 101.
Speaker1:
That is exactly right. That is a health point of the day. Yeah, it is. Because the healthiest thing you can do is knowledge.
Speaker3:
I was being a smart ass because you have it blank.
Speaker1:
And I'm covering you. It's knowledge, quite honestly. You think on your feet and I fucking hate that shit. I do. No yourself smart actually that is a big health tip you know what you will be way more relaxed in swinger situations that you're not used to with a little bit of knowledge a little bit of knowledge a little bit of research asking questions so you're comfortable so you can have a better time and you don't have a heart attack because you know what I'm in a mood for a song just saying wow apparently so and exactly alex has it right schoolhouse rocky says uh knowledge is power that's right we're good by the way for those you don't know we're back doing it live in front of our our secret facebook group kaz bank shh don't tell the others. So it's good to have them back. We did find out last week's issue is a Wi-Fi issue. Yes, and so they've jazzed up a little bit. So they're going to come out next Friday. So dumbasses, or this Friday. So us being dumbasses go, well, why didn't we just turn the Wi-Fi off on the phone? Yeah, we weren't very smart about that. We were just learning fucking later. That's right. So we're back in our high-tech, we're in the high-tech layer of Casbah. Oh, wow. Okay. All right. So let's get along. Let's giddy up, shall we? We'll get along. G.I. J.S. doesn't know he's out of the battle. Rock on. We got 80 cool stuff. Alex apparently is on a roll like you are. Yep. We're in the same thing. We've been doing the same drugs today. Okay. So, I don't know if Alex is doing drugs or not, but I probably have. I don't know. What was in that fucking nasal spray that I was snorting? That was the coke vial. My bad. You know, if you do it in a powder form, in a mist form, it works better. Anyways, okay. So, the first question I got, and I really, I actually, I actually really like this question a lot. And only because I could so totally fucking relate to this question, it's not even funny. Okay. So, this question comes to uh from don and michelle and it comes to us from the lovely lovely and overly hot state of arizona and don writes in he writes uh we go to meet and greets and there's different people that we want to play with i hate a couple of the guys see why i like this letter right off the bat and yet i've been told i have to be nice because she wants to fuck these guys and she wants to fuck these guys not to be nice how do you fake being nice to these assholes well you should have experience with that this is why i saw as soon as i saw the letter i was just like i started laughing out loud in my office when i read it because i'm like oh my god so i reached out to him and uh relatively new in the lifestyle about a year and a half two years in the lifestyle he sent me a picture okay she's a hottie okay she's a hottie and i get it he's like all these guys there's a couple guys and she the guys there's a couple guys that she really really likes and they just rub him the absolute wrong like as in like the first meeting or maybe a time or two or does he really know that no he doesn't really know he just he can't stand there's just something about me he honestly admitted to me that he can't there's not like one thing like they're rude or they're there's just something about him he does not like okay and there's there's like three of them and they're ones that she has hooked up with with two of them already and wants to and likes to they play alone. He doesn't have a problem with that part, but they just annoy the crap out of him. And he gets in trouble. And this is the part, I started laughing on the phone with him. Because he gets in trouble for being a dick to him in person and not being nice enough. I'm like, oh. I think I've heard this story before just a little bit. Yeah, but it turned out that they were okay. It did. It did. I mean, some people you make fun of. I'm kidding. Well, but no, but I mean. My work guy, do you like him? Yeah, he's nice. Does he rub you the wrong way? Did he initially? He did initially, but when he tries to talk to me now, it's like, don't talk to me. Just fuck her and go on home. But no, there was a couple that initially, and I get it. Because initially there were a couple guys that, and I know there were a couple girls the same way with you. Oh, yeah. And it was just like, I understand that. And her argument back with the thing was, well, there's bitches that I have to be nice to her quote exactly okay and it's like i get it so i i thought well this is gonna be a good one because we have we have lived this fucking this dream i guess the the first thing is one look there is a degree of play the game a little bit you you have to you have to take and and be willing to compromise especially if you're going to play alone we never hooked up with those guys in in a couple situation when i had issues right so it was it in all in all honesty as i look back on it was it so much that I had an actual issue with the guys, or did I have an issue, was I still dealing with the issues of playing alone? And probably, truthfully, and I hate to have to admit this, but probably, truthfully, the issue wasn't so much them as it was me.
Speaker2:
Fucking, now you're reading something. Fuck silent Fuck you bitch I swear to god I've been willing to admit that I admit when I fuck up Yeah you do Okay I don't see Would you anything you'd like to say About some of the chicks Oh yeah Cricket Uh huh Yeah okay Anyways I was nice as someone Thought that I was like her best friend yeah yeah part of it you do have to play the game a little bit yeah you do yeah just as coach because i guess the thing is honestly take a look and really actually analyze why because it was just like when i was when i was talking with them it was one one of those things he goes, there's not just one thing.
Speaker1:
I just can't put.
Speaker3:
Well, come to find out, they jump to playing alone pretty quick.
Speaker2:
I say that.
Speaker1:
I guess that's kind of judgy on my part.
Speaker2:
Very much so. Quicker than I would have been comfortable doing.
Speaker1:
Okay. And so I think there's a huge part of it that is actually more an issue with them. Now, remember they sent me a picture. It said she was smoking hot.
Speaker2:
Okay.
Speaker1:
He's got a dad bod.
Speaker2:
Right? Okay. Okay.
Speaker1:
Just a dude.
Speaker2:
Right?
Speaker1:
Just a dude. All three of these guys are about 10 years younger than he is okay he's they're our age about 10 years younger than he is and none of these dudes have a dad bod and and so again that that fucks with your mind a little i i think that and you know and, and I feel back, I know they're listening, it's like, not calling you out, but I think that it, you need to really... You've been there. Yeah, you need to examine the actual problem. Mike put, sounds like they need to talk, if he doesn't like them, she should not be with them, and vice versa, Otherwise, it sounds a bit selfish, just saying. And I agree with that. I think they need to talk it out and figure out what the true issue is. Look, if your gut says, I don't like somebody, you need to trust your gut. And your partner needs to respect that. If there's one that, I'm pretty lenient for the most part. You are to respect if there's one that i'm pretty lenient for the most part you are but if there's one that stands out i go hey there's something i don't trust about that yep yeah and yeah and you didn't it's not like you you use that you didn't you didn't use that as a weapon that was like no that was like legitimate and every time when you're like well do what you want every time i did what i wanted i would it came back to fucking punish me 20 times over so your gut feel your gut feel was right so if there's something legitimate with it you're gonna feel otherwise break it down to the common denominator a little bit i mean And let's face it, I guess we're starting to common denominator a little bit. I mean, let's face it, I guess we've had that. We're starting to have that a little bit, but not a lot yet. Because you're not necessarily way younger. But your last, well, pretty much your last four regular fucks are all younger. They're all... Fucking...
Speaker3:
Younger. We're talking 43 to 45 range.
Speaker1:
Yeah, but that can... Okay, but you say that...
Speaker3:
That's not... And they're all about that age. That's the funny part.
Speaker1:
But you say that, like, at 50, as I'm learning, when the five comes in, there seems like... There's a hell of a difference between 43, 44, and 50. I know. You're looking at all this. Yeah, their dick works, and it's hard, and it pounds on me. It's great. Yours works with me. I know, but I'm just saying. So, I mean, we're starting to have it a little bit. We've not had, like, I'd like to think that i wouldn't have an issue if we want if you want some fucking you know 20 something i think i'd be more amazed i think actually watching you get nailed by a 20 something would actually be hotter for me because i'd be like fuck yeah and hopefully he was married to a 20 something yeah with daddy issues daddy issues in the crowd anybody with daddy issues so i mean but I'm just saying so I get it but I don't know is there is there anybody that you I don't think there's ever anybody that ultimately stopped you from hooking up with because of my issues there was ones that it delayed it and derailed it for a bit it derailed it for a bit because there was some that rubbed you the wrong way and you just go, they're on the no-go list. Yeah. Totally, totally. I'm like, for what? So we talk it out and you're like, they're on the no-go list. And then they say something to him and he goes, okay, they're okay. And the thing was, we didn't, okay. That's so long ago. It's hard to didn't okay i can i can honestly say though most of the time we talk things out yeah that a lot of time i was not very open-minded and a lot of those conversations turned more into a fight and it's my fault it was my fault because i had dug my heels in for no reason and yeah usually then i would say something that was like oh okay then i was all okay and i'm like yeah you can fuck him and it's like whatever do whatever you want i don't care i think amy's saying she has daddy issues oh sweet awesome hola anyways uh so i'm now i'm all butterflyed see how how this works? Are there any that I ever hooked up with that you wish you didn't put more of a stop to that you wish you would have? Were we playing as a single or a couple? Either way. Well, probably as singles because... Yeah, there's a couple that I gave in. Would you give in now? No, there's one I'd still give in. Or I'd put my foot down. Even though I let it go. Right, right. Because you were adamant. I was. And I was wrong. No, there's probably two. Really? One right around there. See, now where secrets make friends. Okay, yeah. I figured. Yeah. Okay, yeah. Yeah. Okay, yeah. Okay, yeah. Yeah, there was the one. Yeah, yeah, I paid for that one. Right, right, yeah Use a condom, Cole And that was the most stressful Two weeks of my fucking life Anyway, so yeah, there's a go, okay, yeah Hindsight, you just got lucky You couldn't get it out Actually, I got lucky, because I'd been in twice as much trouble Because we both would have had That added stressfulness to life, that'd been perfect Alright, yeah, there you go all right so break it down the common number okay and that was when we played as couples yeah yeah it was both of them yeah yeah now now it's not your fucking vote stick my dick in whatever tree i want to that's the best chance that i have actually i was sitting at the laundromat because we had okay so we're washing rugs and um a big blanket and with all this dog fur i let it let it go fuck up their washing dryer but i'm sitting in the line so i'm loading shit over the laundromat and honestly i'm like i'm driving over i'm like you know wouldn't this be fucking badass if you had like this could be like a perfect happen. You know? Like, some other chick. You'd pick up the crack whore at the laundry. No, that wouldn't have been some other, like, soccer mom. Not a crack whore. Not the one over there begging for detergent. But the fucking, one of the other ones, just, like, some hot chick, you know, doing laundry and shit and just kind of talking. And then, you know, fucking a washer or something. Or fucking a bathroom. So I'm like, yeah, of course, get there. There's nobody there.
Speaker2:
Whatever.
Speaker3:
Like the last time I was at the laundromat, they were all guys.
Speaker2:
Yeah.
Speaker1:
I'm like, oh, great. You could have had a laundry gang bag.
Speaker3:
I could have.
Speaker1:
So nobody has clean underwear and everybody's wearing sweatpants. So then all of a sudden, I had to pee. So I'm going to pee. And there was a chick in there. And I'm like, and it's in my brain that race is like, maybe this is going which i have no idea why it was just i guess it was just hopeful and the shot was still running through my system and uh yeah everything was just right like you see there except for the fact you know i mean even like running pants type thing on but they were like a gray, you know, skin tight. And she was kind of hot. And again, I'm sitting there going, this is fucking awesome. Oh, my God. And she turned around and had a chewed shit stain on that bat. Oh, what? And this is why we don't talk about fucking people at laundromats. Move along, girl. Oh, what? I'm just like, oh, well, that's not hot at all. am not like there was we never even made eye contact or anything else you put loads of laundry on the left i'm just like i don't know i'm like oh maybe i'm gonna have this one time super fucking hot sexy thing just randomly having no no no oh hey do you want to go and take your pants off and throw those in the wash also? I'm just saying, you can go and get that shit stained or cleaned right up. Ew. Good Lord. Anyways, okay. We're going to do halftime real quick. Wow. Yeah, look at us go. Hey, don't forget, Full Swap Radio, that's right, we're changing the way you listen to Lifestyle. Check it out today. 69 shows, top shows on there in all different covering all different topics everything from erotica cuckolding bdsm poly you name it it's on there as well as vanilla sunday don't forget and we even now have added some new shows some adult adult stars interviews every day. Check that out. With new shows being added every single day. FullSwapRadio.com. Check it out. Or don't forget to get the app FS Radio. That's for Android or Apple. Check it out today and stay informed. Changing the way you listen to the lifestyle. I've got to work on my cool commercials again. I don't have another, like, Santa Claus coming and shit.
Speaker3:
Is it wrong to have people on your no-go list?
Speaker2:
No.
Speaker1:
No, absolutely not. Absolutely not.
Speaker3:
If there's people you don't feel comfortable with? Great, I would explain why.
Speaker1:
Yeah, I think the big mistake that people make with no-go lists is that it's very easy to say to your spouse, they're on the no-go list. That's what we call the no-go list. Yeah. Right. Well, the thing is, is when you just stop and there's no explanation with it, that's when resentment can build. There needs to be a justification. Not that you have to. I mean, ultimately, it can can be it just doesn't feel right but what's the justification why is it something they said is it something because a lot of times remember your spouse may hear them say something or pick up a behavior you know a woman is going to pick up certain behaviors and other women that guys are just going to be pussy you knowh, pussy, you know, are going to be oblivious to. Or, you know, that a woman is just going to be like, oblivious to, and guys are going to be like, okay, fucking player. Right. So, but expand upon it. Explain it to people so they understand. 99% of the problems in the world can be resolved if people just get a chance to understand why. What your process is they may not agree with it they may not like it but they may be more apt to notice it themselves the next time they're around that person and plus the worst thing is if people don't say who's on the no-go list and you find out after you've stuck your dick in one or or had had them stick their dick in you that then that's the that's the wrong time to find out so yeah absolutely okay so uh the next question that we had and i love this one because it actually made me think of uh well what kwn and ksn and just invents in general uh and this one comes from newbies uh newbies of the North. So I don't know where. The Great White North, hey, good day and welcome to day 12. This is too hard for us, eh? Okay, so their whole thing is they have listened to shows and they have went to a few meet and greets and they had a big event coming up and they had set up a hookup. Okay. Okay? And they were so excited because they had set up a hookup. They both had set up hookups. It was with a couple, but they played in separate rooms. But they had set up a hookup. Couldn't wait to meet. Got to the event. Got to the event. And one of them, one spouse was like, rock on. The other one was like womp okay and so what they want to know they said it was super awkward an awkward situation and ended up that somebody took one for the team and it just was bad all the way across the board and they wanted to know for future reference what do you do in that situation if you have a pre-setup hookup, especially with other couples because they're not anticipating playing alone, and if one of them is not, it's just not good, and the other one is? How do you proceed? And I thought that was a great fucking question. Don't start with pre-setting up a hookup. Yeah. Yeah. You would, I would more be, hey, let's meet and see if we click or hit it off, or it has potential to go further, but you have to make sure everybody's comfortable with it. But that's the new factor. Because if you think back to when we were new, when we went to dinner with the people diving on crickets and a whole disaster night, it was not set up as a, we'll just see how it goes. No, it was because I started my period that day. But yeah, until that started, it was not. It was, the plan was, we were going to go eat and go fuck. And when you're new're new you don't know you do fucking i think you make that mistake of setting up to be a fucking a hookup and it's like no just just me but even then how do you get out of that i mean you think about that if you and the guy are like he's everything like the pictures and the conversation everything's like rock on and the girls are, like, he's everything, like, the pictures and the conversation, everything's, like, rock on, and the girl fucking looks completely different and had 10,000 filters on, and we don't know who this fucking chick is, and she's a bitch, how do you get out of that situation? Okay, I don't think that the correct answer for the podcast to educate people is no fucking clue. You're on your on your own best of luck to you well thanks for listening everybody no you're good at coming up with that stuff i'm not i don't honestly know because quite honestly what we did when we were first in the lifestyle is what was wrong we would just take one for the team or you probably just drag it drag it out talking and go, you know, I am not feeling it right now. The challenge is, well, yeah, the challenge is, again, this is where his spouse says you need to have some sort of code. Because as I was reading this and I reached out to them and I'm reading emails back and forth I'm envisioning us And I know me You know, everything's going great And I'm so totally engrossed in what's going on Right here, right now, right in front of me That I am totally clueless To the fucking train wreck that's happening On the next bed over And it's like so I can see see us i mean not now but back then when we were newer you know it's like well you think of the first the first group of people that we went back to the house with the family pictures and stuff oh god were we really even that attracted to him no we just wanted to fuck we just wanted to fuck somebody they like because it was like there was a chance to fuck we were attracted to him no we just wanted to fuck we just wanted to fuck somebody they like what because it was like there was a chance to fuck we were attracted to one couple and so we were going for that couple and it was literally and they bolted when the fucking speaking of tongues came in and no we weren't there was nobody else there other than the couple that left that we were interested in. Yeah. But we didn't know that you didn't have to fuck. Yeah. No. I mean, because in hindsight now, it'd be like, hey, you know what? Yeah, you know what? We're not feeling it. Now we'd have... I would have no problem saying no now. Would you? Yes. I don't want to hurt their feelings, but I don't want their dick to penetrate me either. That's why you leave it to me, bitch. Look at this.
Speaker3:
No, if we were playing alone, of course I would know ahead of time before I just hook up with somebody.
Speaker2:
No, no.
Speaker1:
Let's go back to playing as a couple. Let's actually talk about what you would do in that situation. This is quality entertainment. I want to see how honest you're going to be here. Okay, what? What would you do? It's not going well. What are you going to do? You're going to look at me, and you're going to give me these big fucking eyes, and which is going to be, I don't want to fucking be here, and uh uh-huh and then you're going to leave it on me to fucking come up with shit and then cold does something fucking stupid like oh i think my phone just buzzed and or and it didn't hold on oh and this is where we came up with how many people we left because one of our kids were sick and the other one didn't want to take care of him we need to go now use that one a bit i'm could you seriously could you now say say to somebody could you say could you actually say we're in a couple situation hey cole hey couple whoever i you know what i'm just not feeling this this isn't gonna work for me tonight Could you say that I'm tongue I'm fucking My tongue is Half way down Our throat I you know what I'm just not feeling this this isn't gonna work for me tonight could you say that I'm tongue I'm fucking my tongue is halfway down her throat we're halfway naked she's got my dick in her hand and could you turn or would you just sit there and go and just take it for the team probably god this is a horrible example this is a horrible example okay people this is exactly what you should not do at all i don't know if you're already okay by the time we got to a place if i wasn't into them i would have said no on the way bitching at you in the car but you wouldn't have helped me get out of the situation you'd'd have been like, this is not going to work. You need to get us out of here. Because there's been time I was drunk. I'm like, but I already took a pill. Tough shit. You can use a pill on me. No, but there's been times where it's just like, okay, here we go. Yeah, and it's like, and you know what usually happens on those times? I would have a great time, and you wouldn't just be like, on the way home, I couldn't even be happy and excited. I'd be like, ooh, da-do, da-do. Here's the thing. Okay, so. There's been some times I've never been so happy a guy couldn't get it up in my life. My jaw is tired, but yay. Here's what's funny. Okay, we're going to go here. I'm going to go here with this. This is a lesson on learning to say no. Okay. I'm calling, look, right now, everybody that's going to go now everybody is gonna go cool he's picking on poor miss amanda i'm calling your ass out right fucking now in front of everybody because you have got to fucking you know how to tell me no for 30 years you've been able to tell me no trust me anybody who questions it might ask my kids we were at an event not that long ago okay a dude's buying your drinks you did not want to drink and he said what can i get you and you said a diet coke he's well i'm getting you a rum and coke you said i don't want a rum and coke and he went and bought you a rum and coke and what did you do drank it and then he did it again and you told him no and what did you do you do you drank it and when you fucking argue when i said what in the fuck did you do you said well i didn't want to be rude my thing is after the second one i'd taken that motherfucker and thrown it on him and said i said fucking no i can't be mean like that but you have to don't you think to. I'm like I throw a drink on somebody. He was trying to get you drunk. He succeeded, but nothing happened. I don't want that, but that's beside the point. The thing is, is that there's a. There was a time. Okay, but it still pisses me off. Because there was a time I went to you and I said, I said I only wanted one drink tonight.
Speaker2:
And what did I tell you to do? Well, one shot, you bought me. Okay, other than that shot, I thought I bought you. Okay, I'm your husband. What did I tell you to do? Tell him no. Because I said, tell him no.
Speaker1:
What I said was, tell the motherfucker no. Tell him no.
Speaker2:
I did tell him no. I drank one of the three drinks for the fuck's sakes of the whole thing. The thing is, is, okay, so, and this is not ripping.
Speaker1:
This is, for everybody listening, this just ultimately proves the point. We're talking about Miss Amanda. People look at her as people people will listen to you because you're miss amanda there's a respect factor and the reality of it is it just shows even after 11 years in this almost 12 because of your personality type but you are a nice person you you don't want to be not rude, you're not bitchy, you don't want to hurt anybody's feelings, it's still hard for you to say no. My thing with this is, and look, and I'm just as bad in a degree because I'm a salesman. The only thing a salesman wants here is yes. All you want to say is yes. I'm a people pleaser. But the of it is all of us and ourselves have to get better about saying no even if it hurts somebody's fucking feelings fuck them if it hurts their feelings it you shouldn't hurt yourself or hurt your feelings or take one for the team or anything else to save somebody else so they don't go away well they were hurt well they should have listened but it shows it's easier said than done was the guy trying to take advantage of you no he wasn't a nice enough guy he was getting train wreck drunk but the scary factor of it is if the motherfuckers won't stop when you say no, and we're in an event, it wasn't our event, but it's not like you were at the event alone. I'm there. And they wouldn't stop when you said no with me there. what the fuck happens to the single gal or to the new couple or whatever that don't have quite the same presence that i have or that we have that everybody doesn't know and and i'm not saying that in a snooty way but the reality is everybody in that bar knows who we were. You get a couple that they don't know.
Speaker2:
How much extra pressure does that couple feel or that female feel when somebody won't take no? Or how hard is it for her to say no?
Speaker1:
The reality is if I'd have turned around and said, which I wasn't going to step in and do it, but if I'd have turned around and said, hey, she fucking said no, enough, it would have stopped it. Not only would it have stopped it, I probably would have had to tell people, he's all right, because the troops would have rallied. Most people don't have that. So how do we get people to be able to say no better? So what are people saying? People are like, and Cole's a dick. I don't have that so how do how do we get how do we get people to be able to say no better so what are people saying people are like and cole's a dick um it's hard for me julie harder hard for me to say no julie's you've been in the lifestyle a long time and you're and julie's another very not a mousy girl she's a strong independent woman independent woman. Hard to say no. No means no. I wouldn't give a guy a chance if he straight up ignored me and did it anyways.
Speaker2:
Absolutely.
Speaker1:
Larry put, it's difficult being new. First of all, it's already an awkward situation. Opening your mouth and expressing your opinion makes it even more awkward, hence the take one for the team.
Speaker2:
Yep.
Speaker1:
Yep, absolutely.
Speaker2:
And I think the problem is I think people know that. Rachel, no means no, and if they don't listen, then go find someone to help you with telling them off, which the reality of it is that I didn't step in because I was trying to prove a point a little bit. Because I want you, I don't want you, you're not a mousy girl. Let's make no bones about about it If she really doesn't want to do something She's not going to do it She does not need me You do not need like You're not like some Oh, I need a protector No, you You're not some puss by any stretch Well, you're not I mean, that's a compliment. Apparently that night you were, but that night you got a little fucking tipsy,
Speaker1:
so it was whatever. A little bit.
Speaker2:
So what, okay, so knowing that,
Speaker1:
what do you think, how do we make you be able to say no?
Speaker5:
Piece of shit out of me.
Speaker1:
Do you think that... Because I thought that was pretty much standing up for myself when I told him I wanted a diet coke and that was it apparently that didn't matter but because usually I wouldn't when someone says what do you want to drink then I would go always buy me a drink okay give me this but yeah okay this is this is awesome Michael put in this is an awesome uh i've said no as a guy and that goes over like a lead uh lead balloon yeah uh all of a sudden you're like you say no then you get hassled and true you know made fun of well and here's the other problem the problem when when the guy has to if a guy has to say no for for a female then it's like people will quick to jump in and read it as you're trying to control her it's like yeah when no it's not i i think that there's a degree of people you people are so overly sensitive that you you don't want to hurt their feelings because you don't know how people will react and people are overly sensitive and people have to learn to be able to accept no in the lifestyle. The reality is most guys in most situations would have stopped when you said, no, I don't want this. They wouldn't have continued to push that. That was the alcohol on his part. But it just puts a huge problem of why people take one for the team, why so many things happen in the lifestyle that probably shouldn't. Because ultimately, it's so fucking hard to say no. Truly, it's difficult, especially if they are truly a nice person. Saying no makes me feel bad because I feel like I'm making them feel bad. What do you know it is? You know what we should do? I think that before a woman walks into an event her husband needs to say something stupid to her. Get her a little pissed off. Like, you know, geez, laundry sure didn't look good or something, just something, something like sexist or something just idiotic, just to piss her off enough, just to give her just enough piss and finger that when somebody tries that shit, they're just like, you know what? Fuck you. You've got a penis. Fuck off. Seriously. Well, let's face it. Part of the reason why so many consent issues come up with Girls on Girls and Guys on Girls is that people won't say no. They'll say it. They say it
Speaker2:
too nice. Yeah.
Speaker1:
Do you want to interject any of this, though?
Speaker3:
I'm just listening to you. It's true.
Speaker1:
I mean, because that's the whole
Speaker2:
thing. It's like, if you of this, though? I'm just listening to you. It's true.
Speaker3:
I mean, because that's the whole thing. It's like, if you say it, if you say something with confidence or if you say it, like, that they think. And you say things nice. Because you are nice. What's that one, sir? Read it. We've gone out on a date type things with people and one of us didn't want to for the same reason. We felt bad afterwards because we used our kids as a reason to leave because one of us didn't want to take one for the team.
Speaker2:
Kids.
Speaker1:
Emergency cock blockers.
Speaker3:
Now they're all adults. So now we use the dogs.
Speaker1:
Or I'll call the kids. Hey, our kids have figured out when we call them, they'd be like so trying not to fuck somebody, huh? Sure am. Oh, yep, they're real sick. You should hurry right home. Absolutely. Yep. All right, we'll be there as quick as we can. You owe me a beer, Dad. Okay. Like, give it away our secrets. Now we have
Speaker3:
to tell people the truth. No one don't fucking believe
Speaker1:
something, though. No. No, it's to get you to say
Speaker2:
no.
Speaker1:
I can't have you practice saying no, because you know how to say no around here.
Speaker3:
Yeah, I do know how to say no to you.
Speaker1:
All the fucking time. No. Quit touching me. Quit chasing me. Quit groping me. Leave me alone. What are you doing? Quit poking me.
Speaker3:
Oh, you want to tell them what the fuck you were doing when I was cleaning?
Speaker1:
What was I doing here? I didn't like a Thank you. me quit chasing me quit groping me leave me alone what are you doing quit poking me oh you want to tell them what the fuck you were doing when i was cleaning what was i doing i didn't like a two-year-old i wasn't acting like a two-year-old was i you were chasing me around the house how about when i was bending over picking something up and you proceeded to spill water down my bag okay so here's what happened with that where're just damn thing my voice inside you've been over you said don't do it because i had my water glass in my hand and the voice inside my head said don't do it this is a horrible idea and i just couldn't stop myself i was already and i just wanted right on her butt crack and it's just oh my god it's running down my leg I don't know.
Speaker5:
I don't know.
Speaker3:
I don't know.
Speaker5:
I don't know.
Speaker3:
I don't know.
Speaker1:
I don't know.
Speaker3:
I don't know. I don't know.
Speaker1:
I don't know.
Speaker3:
I don't know.
Speaker1:
I don't know right on her butt crack. And it's just, oh, my God, it's running down my leg. He's still laughing. Even telling the story, he's still laughing. I think it's funny. Okay, so a guy saying no to a woman brings out all kinds of bitchy. It can. Yeah, it can bring out all kinds of, so does water on their butt. It can bring out all kinds of bitchy. But you know what? There was one time I was really hurt. And it was only because this one asshole told his wife that he'd never had someone my size. I would be like the biggest one he's ever had. Yeah. Yeah. And fuck you i've seen your exes but at the time it really crushed me bad we were especially saying that he was like 400 pounds we we were new and and yeah and i would have had to take one for the team because there was zero interest yeah yeah no and that i i think look there's lots of things as we look back we go well what the hell i mean it's just yeah it it's you know sir at least he didn't pee on you yes it was just water at least to my knowledge it was it was i'd still be laughing if i pissed on her back that'd been funny as hell it was cold it wasn't was cold. It wasn't warm. I'd have kicked your ass two ways to Tuesday if you would have done that. Seriously. Yeah. Good times. Good times. I'm glad we brought that up. You're still laughing about it. It's the only reason I bring it up. Do your closing. Oh, okay.
Speaker2:
All right. Chop, chop. See? She can kick bitch mode now. Look at her go. All right. Again, hey, thank you so much, everybody, for listening. I hope we answered questions. I hope you all feel smarter, better, wiser.
Speaker1:
Question, is the rejection more difficult for others to accept when alcohol is involved?
Speaker3:
Yes.
Speaker1:
Which party is drunk? If a drunk girl turned me down, I'd feel like shit, but that's back from my college days. Not even gonna lie. Oh. Like, really? You don't have, how much more do you need to drink for beer goggles for me to look sexy? Cocktail? If I was drunk and someone turned me down, I'd go, okay, well, you know, it's the drunk factor. It wouldn't dawn on me anything else i'm not even gonna go there okay with that this is a great time for us to leave uh thank you so much for listening again watch for more crazy winter night stuff to come out because it's coming soon fast and hard like a penis uh anyways shout out to our sponsors again thank you asn lifestyle magazine smart swingers, Smart Swingers. What do they do? They read. Check it out today. Three million readers. Can't be wrong. Again, don't leave your safety up to somebody else. Nightcaps.com, the drink spiking prevention scrunchie. Don't forget to use nightcap10.com in the promo code to get your discount. And, again, keep the lifestyle clean. Your responsibility, my responsibility, all of our responsibilities to be tested regularly. Shamelesscare.com. Check them out today. Again, kids, we love you very much. We're excited. Don't forget you can send us emails at crazy.casba.gmail.com. Check out our brand new updated website, crazycasba.com. When did I say something else wrong? I seem weird. I don't know. www.crazycasba.com. Follow us on Twitter, at TruthCrazy, and on YouTube
Speaker2:
I'll see know. www.CrazyKazba.com
Speaker1:
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