Send us Fan MailSo this week we talk about how something like group play that is so hot can leave a guy soft? Wait, what? The very real issue of our changing tastes as we are in the lifestyle longer. It happens, what was once new and exciting is well, just sex. Does it make a difference if they are regular play partners? Do lots of people go through this? Is it normal? What the fuck is happening to me! These are all area s we talk about. Check out the show and the great comments from the audience and our opinions. Swinging is a ever changing game. Want to play? Want to hear all our shows? go to www.buzzsprout.com/181336 Visit Promescent for all your sexual wellness needs and save 15% automatically at checkout by using this link: https://bit.ly/3fkn7CU https://bit.ly/3m7Frn2 (www.Promescent.com) http://www.smokinmeatsbbqtreats.com http://www.asnlifestylemagazine.com http://www.fullswapshop.com http://www.forbidden-omaha.comVisit us at http://www.fullswapradio.comVisit us at : http://www.krazykasbh.comYouTube : http://www.youtube.com/KasbhSend us emails at [email protected]: @TruthKrazyInstagram http://www.instagram.com/Krazy_Kasbh/Support the show
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Speaker1: Hey kids, the program you're about to listen to contains some adult situations, adult language, themes, and other adult topics. If you're easily offended, this show's not for you. Hey you crazy motherfuckers, welcome back to another edition of Crazy Truth. I'm your host with the most and a little bit loopy. I'm Cole, and I'm here with the ever diligent, ever tired, ever fucking leader in charge, Miss Amanda. Speaker2: Hey. Speaker1: We are here to tantalate, titillate, and traumatize you whenever possible, however we can. Obviously, we're doing this outside in the great Northwest because Miss Amanda's nan-nooking it the fuck up. Hey, guess what? It's two days before Thanksgiving recording. We set a new record high in Nebraska. Can you tell? No, neither can I. Speaker2: Anyways. Jesus. Speaker1: Oh, we're going to take a show. Speaker2: Hey, guess what? Speaker1: We do this in front of our live secret Facebook group, Kazba Inc. Speaker2: Shh. Speaker1: Don't tell the others. And Tanya has already told us that we're going to be taking a shower with her while we do the show. Speaker2: There we go. Speaker3: Oh, rock on. Speaker1: Titties and water. Speaker2: Woo-woo. Speaker1: Anyway, so for those of you who follow along at home, which I'm sure you all are, if you know, now some of you don't know, unless you read the show notes, we recorded a show last week, like we always do, and it sucked cock. So we decided it sucked so bad we didn't release it. You're right. So we actually released a previous show. That's only the second time we've done that in almost five years out of 183 weekends. But we're back. This is original. This is going out no matter what. No matter how fucked up this might be. We're going for it uh so this is season four episode 184 why because the big white board tells me so uh 184 and there you go but before we get started what do we do i know what we do we do what we always do what's that what do we do do you know what we do i know we do do you know do you nope okay we're gonna give a shout out to our paid sponsors first why because we're so damn glad we're here because that's how we get christmas anyways we're starting off with p-r-o-m-e-s-c-e-n-t.com that's promescent.com for all of your sexual health needs if you want to have better sex check out these guys check out their website whether it's the vitamins Like that I take Or that Miss Amanda takes It's Vitalis No Vitalis check out these guys check out their website whether it's the vitamins like that i take uh or that miss amanda takes it's vitalis or you know vitaflux vitaflux excuse me vitaflux or the the numbing spray maybe use the condoms may use the lube check them out today you know what 60 day money back guarantee 60 day money back so you can try it you don't like it get your money back and use kk15 to get your 15 discount today just saying uh by the way do the pills work did you get fuck silly today i did there you go just saying uh also smart swingers you know what they do do you i do they read what do they read i read a whiteboard but smart swingers read asn Magazine. It was supposed to be your teleprompter. You cheated. Oh, wait. It's making a noise. Anyways, they read ASN Lifestyle Magazine dot com. Check them out today. Hey, you want to know what, you know, where else you can check out ASN Lifestyle Magazine dot com? Quit fucking yawning. You can also check it out. They'll be a crazy one night, but we'll talk about that in a little bit. And let's just say you want to hear our show, I don't know, all over maybe sort of kind of sure why not whatever let's do it why when what how uh you can always go to full swap radio network.com full swap radio.com crazy truth is on every monday five and again 11 o'clock uh central standard, but there's lots of great shows. Check them out. And finally, don't forget to get all your Christmas needs met this year at FullSwapShop.com. There you go.
Speaker2:
You're a rare form.
Speaker1:
And that's all we've got time for, and so with that, we're calling it a day. So we've had all kinds of pleasure.
Speaker3:
I'm not the only one yawning.
Speaker1:
Well, yeah, but here's the difference see patrick can yawn because he's listening from the comfort of his own home he's not actually doing the show if you notice it's not keppa there's no p in there now it's not anything against patrick it's just saying that you know the a needs to be awake it's not a silent a it's not it's Casbah now see I woke up at 3 but I said no way in fucking hell am i getting up this early and fell back asleep and woke up at four right so forgive me well now wait a minute and yes because cole slept in and just fucking power log till all the way till i woke you up at eight at five i ate my dying ass bitch yeah at five and did you go back take no i hell no i didn't go back do you usually no i haven't for several months now i have not don't me motherfucker i have not i have not been taking fucking naps and especially when i hit somewhere to be because we know i don't hear alarms you're right you don't So the last thing, so here's the deal. If I would have went back to sleep fallen asleep our our good buddy Willie our big dog Willie would still have a cone on and and fucking because I'd have missed the appointment so no and I had shit to do it's it's Thanksgiving week whoo and so I'm losing days left and fucking right so I need to make the most of every second I have.
Speaker2:
That's the same reason why we're recording on a fucking,
Speaker1:
that's why we're recording on a Tuesday and on a Monday.
Speaker2:
Look, here's the thing, but I'm not just a morning person, so this is the part that no one ever gets. No, you're not. Because by the same token, at 9.30 tonight, you'll be where 9 30 or 10 it might be 10 because it depends sometimes it depends it depends on but you'll you'll be in bed right and so from whatever time you go there within 10 minutes of that time maybe 15 i can usually hear you snoring okay so i will go to bed ish what time i't know. It will range anywhere from on an early night, 11.30, 12, to 2.30. And I still do that, that I still function the next day. So, yeah. That's why you're looped out of your mind. Pretty much. That and all the licking toads. Just saying. Anyways, so we had a great weekend this last weekend. Holy fuck, did we ever wow-shazam-b uh so we had a great weekend this last weekend holy fuck did we ever wow shazam bazing we had a uh we we we had a great weekend because we got to be the attendees versus the put her on earth well you start back because it started wednesday well yes actually so wednesday a very good friend of ours. She'll be listening. She better be. She might be busy.
Speaker1:
In Mexico.
Speaker2:
So we had a going away party for her. And I found a new bar in Omaha that I'm in love with.
Speaker1:
And Cole got drunk. No.
Speaker2:
Cole got fucking straight up crushed because it's a great dive bar.
Speaker1:
And when they, when usually when, okay, if you want to score points with me, if you meet me somewhere, if you're at event or at a gathering or at a club or at a whatever, and there's liquor to be served, there's a couple of things you need to know about me. Number one, rum. What do I drink? Rum. What would I like? Rum. How would I like that? Rum and Coke. How would I like my drinks? Here's how I order my drinks. Hi, how are you doing? Nice to see you. Great. I need a rum and need a rum and coke double tall burnt so what that means is for anybody who doesn't know i want a tall glass i want two fucking big old honking shots and more because i want it burnt that's normally how i order it so when i take a drink of it it causes my throat to pucker like a butthole right that's how we know we're doing good if i give it to somebody else to try it and and you can't stand the smell because it's too strong then we have the correct mix of the drink so we go to this bar we're not i'm not gonna get drunk kiss of death go to this fucking bar and i go yeah a rum and coke and a diet rum and coke and and he goes would you like yours at all one of them at all or do you like them tallest it make make mine at all i didn't say double i didn't say burn that motherfucker put it at all and that was like four shots like half that glass was around i was instantly in love so three drinks and he comes by he's like now are the drinks good are they strong enough and they're cheap it's five bucks a drink so six bucks with a tip i'm like dude it would be wrong but i want to come around and just hug you right now because it's it's wednesday night at 10 o'clock on a wednesday night when i was only gonna have a drink or two i'm passed out in the car i didn't even make it out of the parking lot before i passed out uh completely no you helped me make it to the interstate okay i'm good i'm glad i helped you because i don't remember it was right right down the street, but you helped me make it to the interstate. Because I was train wrecked fucked. So that was Wednesday night. We had a recovery day. Then Friday night, Beth and Alex put on a killer fucking meet and greet here in town. And again, this is awesome. It's so much fun to just be an attendee. So they put on a killer meet and greet. There was bowling. There was putt-putt. There was laser tag. There was liquor. There was fun to be had by all. And it was fun. And Cole had a bar tab. So there you go. And Cole got fucking drunk. But it was a lot of fun. And there was like 60 people there plus. It was a good crowd. Fucking ass but wait but wait there's more so then saturday night another good friend of ours the folks from smoking meat barbecue bbq treats.com they put on a meet and greet uh and so we went over to that one after watching the Oscar game we went over to that one where again Cole another bar that serves drinks correctly coals found all kinds of places his liver will hate him for and yeah well I proceeded to get fucking we had some cocktails but we ended up having to bail out of that one the meet and greet they had like 60 plus people there so the meet and greet itself was over then but we couldn't do after our stuff because my mom called but well my brother called so we had to bail on that one but it was still an awesome time so we got to meet people from all over both of the meet and greets had people from over 100 150 miles away coming in uh they were badass and we got to be just attendees at both of them that fucking rocked so oh yeah we gotta do that so uh yeah so um and i found that i was a drinking game that's right you did you found out that our show and you but they told me one thing that i said so i'm like trying really what's that what is that no no fuck you you had to say it now you can't not look here's the greatest thing is we all know that there's drinking games and cole says stupid shit right that's like a given but the fact that it's i told them that they need to do a drinking game where you say so wow because you say that a lot don't call me a. The thing is, I just said it there. Fuck off. I type so, too, a lot. When I type emails and stuff, I put so. I kind of kicked myself. I know. It's something you picked up, and I can't stand it. Yeah, I know. Well, sorry. At least I have a big penis. So, apparently, I say really a lot. And you roll your eyes a lot, too. Yeah, but then there was something else, but they couldn't remember what it was. So I won't know. But this is awesome. Miss Amanda has a drinking game. Apparently, I say it a lot. I don't realize I say it. We'll find the rules and we'll get them out to people so that everybody can participate for those even that are not. I didn't think I really talked that much. So, yeah. Hint, hint. Get it. yeah i'm gonna see now i'm conscious of you god bitch anyway don't call me a bitch will you choose well i'm not a cunt i'm not a bitch wow i feel like maybe we should all get votes and opinion on on these i'm just just saying And I'm not a dick, but wow, that varies person to person. Throwing it out there. And then, thank you. As Dani comments, she puts, I've met her husband. Eye rolling is absolute. Yeah. Yeah. Very much so. You guys all love me. You know you do. Anywho. Okay. So, yes, Patrick, dude awake patrick you have to stay awake there's no no napping during the show no napping so okay so let's delve into oh my lord look at my look at the time what's the time the time is i don't know 7 40 look at it look i'm just kidding i'm like where the fuck am i looking at that you're seeing the time is I don't know 7.40 look at it look I'm just kidding I'm like where the fuck am I looking at that you're seeing the time like what we've done a whole 10 minutes 12 12 minutes and 34 seconds oh we start early we did that's impressive I know look at us we're on time oh you cheated you little fucker I'm getting used to the layout of the land in here and this has become more and more of my domain oh not really okay oh and you know somebody there was a bunch of birthdays this weekend there was and our one of our cadets uh uh miss leah uh who's competing to win uh the world's hottest milk which you will um she got a cookie but she works out like a fucking just like a boss. Like, not like a little bit. Not like, you know, I really want to make sure I have a good car. No, it's like a fucking, like she gets up early. She has a routine. Yeah, and it's fucking early. It starts at, like, she does this to herself purposely. Like, it's a plan. Hey, I'm going to set the alarm to get up at 4 30 because i want to torture her husband was joking when he said i just kick her out of bed at 4 a.m i said go work out and i went okay how does that go over okay so but but here's the thing i don't know i don't usually she's watching so i know she's watching she said earlier so i don't know if i can say her age or not but but I can tell you this. You wouldn't guess it. So she looks damn good. Damn good. But Beth had got several of our birthday people cookies. And so knowing that she works out all the time, I told her that what, you know, what I wanted to see was like just what I thought we had to just have her like just fucking just nom nom the cookie, you know. But she didn't do that. But she did send me a picture with whipped cream on her nipples and a cookie cover.
Speaker3:
Oh, there you go.
Speaker2:
Nom.
Speaker1:
She put her age. Yes, 53. You do not look 53 at all. And you're going to fucking kick ass in Hedo.
Speaker2:
Yeah. Milf contest. You're going to win.
Speaker1:
Fucking smoke all of them. Miss Casbah. Fuck yeah. Anyways, I'm saying. I hope to be that fucking dedicated, but I can already tell you what the push-up challenge we're doing currently. I have failed like a fucking horribly. I could do more push-ups if you put a candy bar in front of me. I haven't done mine yet today. But I did good on the squats. I have a little candy bar. Well, I think you've eaten a lot of them, but have candy no the grandkids did and you better hurry because i don't want any that's good because i stayed out of them i'm doing it for all of us i'm i'm taking one for the team i'm meeting for the team okay all right 15 minutes of babble about shit not people like are you gonna actually do anything that involves swinging and sex no not really no i'm just kidding we are i wanted to give you a chance to talk since i never let you talk at all i wanted to make sure that i threw that opportunity out there to you and well how often do i get the chance to talk it seems like a lot because it seems like i'm constantly getting yipped at so i'm constantly in trouble so you talk then well what you it's funny because you don't like
Speaker3:
quiet space. So even just to talk slower
Speaker1:
and to have a pause drives you nuts maybe a little bit we're not gonna go there this this is not about me this is the show this is a show about helping it's not about you no no absolutely. That would be egotistic and maniacic and shit. That would be horrible. Who wants that? Look forward and don't yawn. Anyways, okay. Okay, so. No, yeah. You know how you teach me a proper push-up? Hook me to a crane and just lower it up and down. Okay, so no, we do actually answer questions and do stuff that is a thing. I found out that apparently I play with my hair when I flirt. When you're drunk, you do this a lot. And you know... It's pretty. Well... Just when I'm drunk yes is it when I'm drunk or when I'm flirting it's drunk flirting drunk flirting okay or when you're talking to somebody and you get like shy or pretending to be shy and bashful you just for those of you that are just listening to the show you want to fucking tune into our YouTube channel because you want to see this demonstration of what a diva Cole is fuck Jennifer Lopez you ain't got nothing on me baby okay
Speaker3:
you do it all the time it's so funny ever since you started growing your hair out yeah before you grew your hair
Speaker1:
Thank you. uh okay you do it all the time it's so funny i do ever since you started growing your hair out yeah before you grew your hair out you just go hey well i mean you know it's yeah well i don't know i have no idea i'm not gonna say anything i don't know maybe anyway so let so let's pretty boy stop at Misty. But maybe. I got pretty locks. If someone would give me my proper headgear, i.e. a crown, then we wouldn't have this problem. No, I'm just kidding.
Speaker3:
Okay, so that's what he's getting for next week. I made my hair stand up. I made it look stupid.
Speaker1:
You got to have pretty boy hair. Pretty boy. Pretty boy.
Speaker2:
Anyways.
Speaker3:
I do that to my hair. It will frizz out and be this big, huge poof.
Speaker1:
Yes, I am high maintenance. Damn straight I am.
Speaker3:
He's a fucking prima donna.
Speaker1:
Crazy one of nights, Friday night where I'm karaoke. And there's a good chance I'll have a couple cocktails and I'll probably karaoke share.
Speaker2:
So. Really?
Speaker1:
Do I do that bad at karaoke and share? I don't know. I've never heard you karaoke, Cher. I've heard you do it in the car singing, you know. And it's not that bad? No. No, actually, you do pretty good for a dude. For Cher, yeah. So, shut it. That, Shania. Yeah, well, because it brings out my inner gay. It is what it is. Anyway, so, turn back time, baby. Well, there's a couple girls that are going to have big shoes, and I will fucking wear their high heels. I will rock that shit like there's not. Anyways, okay, so let's get on to, like, an actual question. 18 minutes in, good Lord. Okay, so I get asked questions all the time about stuff. God is my witness. I get asked questions all the time about stuff. God is my witness.
Speaker2:
I get asked questions all the time about stuff.
Speaker1:
And I got a really good question, and it's one that I could really, really relate to.
Speaker2:
And I think a lot of guys could, and I got permission. So we're going to talk about this a little bit, okay? Okay. So the question was this, and I'm not going to say who, where, or what.
Speaker1:
The question was this. So this is from a guy. They've been in a lifestyle about four years now. I think it's what years now, three and a half, four years, somewhere around in there, and they have regular play partners, but what he has found is that in a larger group setting within their established group, that he having finding it harder and harder and harder to to get around to get a hard on about it with it and so yeah we're both thinking we're hearing a dog walking down to the studio uh and so wanted to know if why or what or if that's like normal or natural or or or just kind of trying to understand it because it's changed okay and i so when i i was so thrilled that that he gives permission to use this question because him and i then had a really like good deep conversation about it right because here here's the thing i asked him this i said when you first got in the lifestyle, when you guys first started, when you first started to the first time you were in group sex settings and like that, did you have the same issues?
Speaker2:
No. Okay.
Speaker1:
And he said now he finds that like when he, when they play in more similar groups, maybe he said it's a, it's a curse because I'm kind of a, you know, if I can get one of the gals kind of, we can go play little bit alone it goes great but then i'm done after that kind of like what you've talked about in the past so i want to challenges it and so and that's that's new for him also okay and the thing is is that that i get it i really So, first of all, okay, so we'll interject something with that. Is it normal? Is it natural? You're just looking at me. Well, I thought you were still in the story part of it. Well, he said one of the cool things is that, you know, the group, they're a fun, close group, and so it's not like anybody like anybody's like freaked out or weirded out or bothered by him maybe not you know just kind of hanging back and if stuff starts coming gets up and then goes from there type of thing so his thing is is it natural is it normal you know what what can we do about it that that was his question i'm not a dude so i really can't answer this so does that ever happen for for a chick i mean we know that that you know obviously a woman can fake it better right we know that but in a group setting like that is there ever times it's just like or is it is there enough stuff going on that it's it's hot enough so it's kind of like okay yeah just it's enough that it works it honestly depends on the person but it's because some some people are easily turned on by a lot of different things there's some people that aren't but once they get into it has it Has it changed for you? Has it, and I'm going to go back around here. It's been so long since we've done a group setting. Well, right, but I mean, as we started to go, as it went through that, has it changed for you, even though we haven't done a big group sex thing forever today, but has it? You played around at Crazy Summer Nights. You played played you there was people watching and there was a group of your girls kind of playing and stuff like that has it changed for you the excitement level or to do in a group setting ish well we have to address me no well because this gets complicated because you know i'm going through this change okay take menopause that took a lot of that away from me okay take menopause out of it because i take just overall your excitement or enthusiasm i can tell you okay when we were doing it early on in in our lifestyle journey and we were going to parties and we were invited to parties um it was it was erotic to watch other people have sex and to get involved in and watching it around the room while you're having sex right okay it was erotic as hell right as it progressed did it come less exciting it didn't come less exciting it just wasn't as much of a turn-on but you but as a woman you can just lay there but but the the reality of it you became you didn't become immune to it, but it wasn't new.
Speaker3:
But then now that we've had, well, the break has been a long time since we've been in a group setting.
Speaker1:
Yeah, we're primary play alone anymore.
Speaker3:
That if a group setting were to happen, it'd be erotic as hell again.
Speaker1:
It's so, and this is one of my things, is that, okay, well, first, Mike says, very normal, in my opinion, if we have an event or possible possible play date will often put me in the barn 24 hours in advance age and amount of stimulation you get probably has a significant effect you can always talk to your doctor for an extra confidence booster um danny put uh she said i think people's own bodies do their own thing could be same old same old or hormones and age and and here here's my thing this is what i told him because i think those are both very good points is that i made i cracked the joke that when we first got in the lifestyle the first three years during the lifestyle i swear to god how we didn't break our shoulders i don't know from that slap going look type thing and and the thing is it's it's i use the example when we're at the club the one night and and i'm talking to a newer couple and i wasn't really paying to what you were doing and you were sucking a dude's dick and the only way i knew what was going on was because their eyes started getting really big and i'm like oh yeah and he's like do you ever get used to i'm like yeah you do you know now to have somebody fucking right next to us like okay yeah so it's it is a natural thing because think about this Let's go. get used to i'm like yeah you do you know now to have somebody fucking right next to us like okay yeah so it's it is a natural thing because think about this in theory if you're with somebody else your best fuck should still be your whoever you're with right we got in this not because we had bad sex not because we had problems in our lifestyle it was something different fun exciting I mentioned him, I said, one thing you might see is if you could do a, uh, like a foreign exchange student situation, but a foreign, a group swap, right? Where all of a sudden you take somebody from another group swaps with you guys. And all of a sudden you're in a brand new group setting with brand new people. It would probably raise that excitement the challenge though and i think he's feeling and i can this is where i can really appreciate it is it makes a you start to get a mind fuck with it and i had i had to admit so okay any girls that are listening here you go this This is a big one. It has been long enough now since we've had group sex that I would, it would absolutely, I would be so terrified of not performing that would mind fuck me. That's part of why I do so much stuff one-on-one because I can overcome that. I can, I'm okay on a one-on-one setting for the most part. But a group setting now, it's my own. And I have to try to figure out how to fix that. There are specifically certain girls that I'm very much interested in that I've not hooked up with that I want to. And several of them have, we have communicated, all parties are interested. There is no way on God's green earth that the first time I have a chance to hook up with them
Speaker2:
I'll see you next time. Parties are interested. There is no way on God's green earth that the first time I have a chance to
Speaker1:
go with them,
Speaker2:
well,
Speaker1:
I do it in a group setting. So it would suck because at one time I had no problem in group settings and group settings are a shit ton of fun. But now because of my own lack of confidence, there is no way I would do that because I would be so terrified of it being a flop. Literally, like, you know, and it is that that concept. I mean, for using me as an example, there's a a couple girls that i think that's primarily how they play they don't they don't play alone and and it is almost terrorizing to me to the thought of having to try to figure that out hey kim uh trying to trying to figure that out i mean it it's but i think it's natural i the thing is that in the lifestyle like i've never understood okay let me wait let me preface this with uh this is in no way shape or form if this is what you enjoy doing i'm not bagging on it okay but for me personally part of the reason why sport fucking is such a positive or plus for me is that I have constant right and you know and you're still the best fuck that I've ever had and I'll ever will have I'm looking for unique and different that's do I want that why we got into the lifestyle. So if I were to start dating someone or start in a couple dating, whatever, how you want to look at it, to me it would automatically eventually get to the same thing. Yeah, it's not your spouse, but it's not new. To me, the exciting part is the new, if that makes any sense. Well, it does for a lot of people. Is my mic hot tonight? You know what? Quit it. Okay, who knows your buttons more than your significant other? We play together and pay attention to each other. The one time I struggled, she was right there to get me on track. We used to do that. And the reason we ended up not doing that was because you thought it was distracting me too much. Yeah, yeah. But really, it didn't. Honestly, now the reality of it is that here's what sucks, but it's the reality of the whole thing. Swinging, although in the lifestyle, maybe you're with a partner, a significant other, whatever. It's still an individual sport. Because the reality of it is the mind fuck factor. I love. I don't just like. I love watching you get fucked. I think it's hot as hell. I think it's fucking beyond hot.
Speaker2:
Okay.
Speaker1:
But I am at the point because of the mind fuck factor, right? That I would not play as a group because I'm pretty sure that my shit won't work. That's how much it has got to the mind fuck. Now, I understand all the fucking non the all the things of it's not you know it's not logical but that doesn't that doesn't mean anything it's still it's still something that i have to fix and and there's a lot of us out there like that and as i told the the gentleman that we were talking about i'm like one of the advantages is you know what your strengths and your weaknesses and how you feel are. And you're in a group that's very caring and supportive and okay with it. Knowing and being willing to admit where you're at is half the battle. Okay, so let me ask you this. So if you had sex with the same people over and over
Speaker3:
And I'm not talking me And I'm not talking about if you
Speaker1:
Happened to get a girlfriend or a previous one or whatever, if you met with the same group of people, would you get tired of it? Yes. Would you get bored? Yes. Would it be less of a turn on? Yes. Is there anything that you can do to make it more of a turn on? I don't know. Or they can do. I'm going to think that probably yes. I don't know because I haven't been there. And honestly, okay, this is going to make me sound like a huge dick. I don't know how this always turns into Cole. It sounds like a huge dick, but it does. No, I was just curious. The reality of it is if we played with the same, if we had a group and we played with the same group over and over and over again, right, I would get to the point where it would be like, well, when are we going to go be swingers again?
Speaker2:
True.
Speaker1:
That's literally what it would be like to me. It would be like, when are we going to be swingers?
Speaker3:
Do you start to feel like it's too exclusive?
Speaker2:
Yeah.
Speaker1:
At that point in time, it's like, well, okay, yeah, yeah, yep, awesome, great, whatever. It's like, well, okay, yeah, yeah, yep, awesome, great, whatever. It becomes an extension to me of your continuous relationship. And probably one of the biggest challenges that I have now for me is that the desire that whatever to, you know, I'm damn near hardcore on the prowl, which most people would never know if I'm on the prowl. Okay. Cause I don't, I don't, I'm not a fucking thirsty mother. I don't think I don't, I don't show it. I am. But there's also the factor of the, the confidence factor to, to act on it. I mean, you know, it's, you know, that there's a safety thing with somebody hooked up with somebody you've already hooked up with. But by the same token, it doesn't fucking do this. It doesn't trip the same triggers of when you think you're going to hook up with somebody and i honestly don't know why well there's always that anticipation uh and and it's fresh fresh meat right strange is strange is strange and it should still be fucking awesome regardless and that just you know it just drives me fucking insane and now my computer is gonna just oh your wants to go to sleep it's so tired it's like miss amanda it's sleepy hey you know what we're at halftime we are at halftime with noisy cars yeah no shit we live in a great area let's quick take a quick break hey do you want to go to the party of the year not just this year the last two years you know what who says it's the party of the year asm lifestyle magazine awards say party of the year check out crazy winter nights it's january 14th and 15th 2022 in omaha nebraska can you get tickets are they still available yes they are how do you do it you go to www.crazy k-r-a-z-y winter nights.com check them out get your tickets today. 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What that means is you can wear a cocktail or formal you can wear a tuxedo or suit it's it's optional but be fancy but yeah but look nice look sharp that's how it is so i just yeah that's pretty where's that nowhere close to that my screensaver is coming so okay so the thing is is what i was trying to get with this whole thing it was not to turn it into like you know the world according to cole but it's just i think it becomes very natural you're overall as you start to see more shit in the lifestyle and i i said to him and see if you guys think this is right I truly believe that part of what pushes people to try new things in the lifestyle and to try new kinks in the lifestyle is that regular vanilla swinging, just regular sex with somebody different, becomes boring. And so then all of a sudden you're like, well, let's try a threesome. Let's try a, let's try this. Let's try that. And, and that's, and that's where that came from. Because honestly, when you think about it, you know, you start off at the shit we know about now, this vanilla is fuck. Just fucking somebody else. That's vanilla. That's like crazy vanilla. Why are you looking at that? Yeah, but if it's somebody new well but the thing is is but think about where the concept of like rope play and you start to explore more shit about what you like and what you want and all of a sudden you have these other urges and these other feelings and you start to explore these other places you start to do these other things because you have you're growing that's the whole thing you're growing and and pushing the boundaries and that's even where it's regular even where it's swinging sex rachel says yes regular sex to me after a while does get boring and i think it does to a lot of people i think you explore other things it's like Has it's has it gotten boring with me no because no yeah no because fuck no it's because the rules don't apply to significant others seriously it's like that's like this totally separate little fucking bubble and so it doesn't apply yeah okay it just doesn't uh patrick says it's the law of diminishing returns the more you have something at once the lower the satisfaction is and i agree with that. I was just curious. Patrick says, it's the law of diminishing returns. The more you have something at once, the lower the satisfaction is. And I agree with that. I think that's it. Look, swinging and the communication and finding these other things that led me to the fact to be able to say that I like the whole fucking hand over the mouth thing, fucking struggle a little bit, right? Right. Okay. How we married before we did that came up deal fuck how long were in the lifestyle before that came exactly and you know what if we hadn't been in the lifestyle you know where it still would be not up i'm so it's it's that same it's that same concept right right so the the thing is is it it i think that it's i i'm not advocating everybody has to go out and you have to do something new and change and whatever but i think you have to know that it's going to change i think you have to know that it's going to it's going to change through mike says um i don't know what mike says because facebook's being stupid no mike says we would never call sex boring but lifestyle does add a level of excitement we channel that extra excitement back into our bedroom and and i yeah and that's a great point mike because i think that's that's what a lot of us that's what you're supposed to do right i mean that's that's how it's supposed to that's supposed to be is you're supposed to we've kind of gotten away from that though yeah what it is is we've got away from the need to have uh reconnect reconnection sex it's not that it's still not good but let's face it when you first start on the lifestyle So, it's not about should we have reconnection sex. Mm-hmm. When you first start on the lifestyle, it's not about should we have reconnection sex. When you first get back in the lifestyle, it's you need reconnection sex. You both need it. It's a grounding thing. And there's a safety factor that goes with it. And you see so many couples, if they don they don't do it it becomes an issue well the shit we do now is is so fucking far outside the realm of of of anything that it doesn't surprise me that it's almost like reconnection sex to us now is is more like wedding night sex oh fuck i guess well we probably. We're supposed to fuck tonight. You know, we'll do it tomorrow and it's not a big deal. But that's why we tell people we don't encourage people to. I don't I will never encourage a couple unless you are damn sure of who you are and your strength as a couple to do what we do. Because I sorry that that you you can tell when you look at people when you say to people we're a free-range couple when you say to people and when i tell people how we do our lives how we do it and i go she doesn't have to get my permission oh hey by the way i fucked somebody or vice versa the look of almost um it's not terror but it's the look of like like they can't even process that but then i always throw in there that is fucking you know that is 30 fucking years of of a hell of a lot of communication every day currently to be able to do that. And let's not kid ourselves. It's not like we're going out getting fucking late all the time. No. By any stretch. Mike said, like you said earlier, there's nothing more exciting than watching your significant other. Please and be pleased by another. Reconnection sex is then mind-blowing for us. And that's all. I think there's a degree of stay in the car business. This is going to sound horrible, but we used to say stay stupid. And what that meant was don't have it figured out. That's what that meant. The more that you don't try to have it all figured out or have all the answers and stay new in your brain and be like, that's like, that's powerful. Because then once you start figuring it out, then you start overthinking it. That's when shit gets all fucked up, you know. Jenny says, reconnection, reconnect. Why don't you read it? Because I obviously fucking care. Reconnecting is spontaneous. And soaneous don't think you need to reconnect ASAP it then just sex yeah and you're exactly right but very important but it got I think with us it got to the point of one time going well did you want to fuck or do you want to wait and we were really tired and it's like nah let's wait till tomorrow and then the next time it would wait even more and i'm like do we even need it anymore yeah yeah when look when we first started we needed oh yeah we did reconnect and it was hot as hell it was hot because you're sitting there let's face it you're fucking each other but you're thinking about what you just saw witness that we're a part of. Ish. Well, it's in your brain. It's all part of it. Look, when you're new, the first time you fuck somebody else, it's even the first couple of times, a couple of years you're doing it. It like swirls in your brain. I mean, it's the hottest thing. I figured out I have the mics backwards. That's why mine's not to go oh it is you want to switch well not now because now it's gonna be all fucked up now i'll be on midway through the show they'll be listening all of a sudden i'll sound like i'm yelling that's true fuck for once they can hear me and fine rating get ready folks yeah whatever so uh it is very important especially you know you should do it i just think it's important that people understand it's okay that shit changes yes and that's really what he was getting to and and you know what and he has a valid point because it's something that i've had to come to terms with look we started this i was in my late 30s now i'm in my late 40s about to turn 50 you know what i've changed what i want what i like what i think is hot has changed my what i'm interested in has changed i am much look i always got pretty fucking zeroed in i but i could easily be distracted from that yeah not so much now they're there i have certain ones zeroed in and and i'm like i'm willing to not so that i can with them and that's okay you know and And so I think, and I've had to come to the realization just like this with my own battles and trying to figure out how to overcome this. Because part of the reason I wanted to do this question was that as I said to him, I go, a lot of my rants and a lot of my stuff are all, in my rants, I know you don't listen to him so you don't know, but in my rants I talk about all the time about how we all have to continuously do to be successful. You have to continuously reevaluate. You have to look at yourself and take a hard, honest look and go, okay, I really, that's wrong. I need to change that. I should do that. You know, you have to do that. That's in life. And so like my rants are a way that I do that. Having that conversation is in, it's another one of those ways that I'm able to, to do that same process to myself because here's the reality of i don't if i don't figure it out there are some of these girls that it's not gonna happen and the thing is is as i told him the the worst you know the worst fear that you can have is is the shit in your own brain because that's ultimately the that's the big problem child so you know how do we get there i don't know if that's the journey part of this whole thing you know right now honestly if you're listening to this show and there's like 10 people that do and that's pretty cool but you know if you're listening to the show i can tell you a lot of people go oh it must be you know you because we have the groups and we have this stuff we deal with the exact same issues that everybody else deals with we deal with body issues we deal you're dealing with menopause and all the fucking crap that goes with that you know loss of sex drive all of it you know and yeah we're it's a process self i deal with self-confidence it's you know obviously we've all heard the one about me on walking on naked we all deal with the exact the exact same issues we're all right there together in the same boat but as much as we can help each other and that's really what you got to do you just got to be cool to each other right give people patience understand that you know they're everybody has their own little battle royale they're dealing with but ultimately you have to know where you're at like you have to be like an athlete and you have to know your body and you have to know because's the deal. It's just like some of the girls that I want to hook up with. Look, here's the reality of it. If I'm stupid enough to put myself in a situation where I am going to mind fuck myself, that's going to be a disaster. And that disaster, it's just going to build on top of it because then I'm going to be embarrassed. Then I'm going to be dead to the whole nine yards. It is much better to be honest and say to reach out, which is something sometimes I have to do with some of these girls, is say, here's the deal. This is why. It's putting on the condom thing. Look, if you just want to fuck, I can do that. if you want to wear a condom and i understand and i'm totally cool that you have to put on because i won't be able to keep it up and do it and being honest with that and and that's the thing uh danny goes it's entirely wrong to say things evolve relationships evolve and lifestyle relationships evolve too my personal opinion is continuing your own happy and that's exactly it that that's said beautifully because that's exactly what it is but if you're not willing to admit where you're at Thank you. your own happy and that's exactly it that that's said beautifully because that's exactly what it is but if you're not willing to admit where you're at if you don't know if you and people don't they'll bury their head in the sand because look it's not fun to look at myself in the mirror and and to see um to see a girl that i'm really interested in and all of a sudden to go back to being a 12 yearyear-old kid, you know, or that kind of fear. That's especially when that's not the image that I put off, right? So I can either bury my head in the sand and continue to just fucking be a tool or I can try to fix it. And so just so you know, there's a whole bunch of girls getting messages tonight.
Speaker3:
And we're like the complete opposite. Because, okay, I do have body issues for the most part. But I can traipse, good God, I can't talk. I can traipse around naked.
Speaker2:
Yeah.
Speaker3:
And it doesn't bother me. And do I shy away or try to hide my body? No, I just walk around and I don't give a shit.
Speaker1:
When shit starts, you fucking lead the charge. It's really funny because in most of our interactions, I'm like, lead. But when it comes to the sex part, you've always been lead the charge. And that's part of why we quit playing together because of the fact of I didn't want it because you were i'm very fortunate you've always made sure you knew what was going on with me and i didn't want to become that distraction part of it was never distracting no well and part of it now is just fucking getting to a point of there's a degree of not giving a fuck it look it goes with the whole hair and the whole everything else it's it's you know uh mike has a good thing Cole What have you ever considered starting out just watching and then go with the flow if more happens? Yeah, it's just been so long. And now, you guys want to hear something that's really fucking, this will give me hate mail. You know what would probably be the easiest way for me to do a group setting? Seriously. And I used to be able, because I didn't get whiskey, I could just power my way through it, is to have a couple of cocktails, let me put my sunglasses on, and iPods, or headphones, whatever, shut up, and put headphones on and just have music going.
Speaker3:
You used to do that when we cammed.
Speaker2:
Yeah.
Speaker1:
Do you need to go back to that? Because here's why it is. I go back This is going to sound so fucked up It takes me back to Like when I was in college And just fucking because I wanted to It's an attitude thing I can hide there More college or more when we first started off Because when we first started off in lifestyle, we were camming and you had to do that to keep you being distracted. Because it took me to that place. Basically, if I do that, I can hide. Physically, I'm there, but mentally and everything else, I can hide in Boston. I can hide in my music. And that's really what it is because because here's the thing if you to me if you can't see my eyes right that's that's a huge thing so having sunglasses on you can't see my eyes you can't see what's going on in my brain and then with the music i can just lock away to somewhere else and I can and yeah but the thing is think about this think about this for a second you've agreed to let me have sex with your wife right or you're a girl and you're like yeah let's hook up and all of a sudden my fucking shades go on sunglasses headphones go on you're gonna be like what a fucking dick and that's why I know I can't do that
Speaker2:
Thank you. Shades go on, sunglasses, headphones go on. You're going to be like, what a fucking dick.
Speaker1:
And that's why I know I can't do that.
Speaker3:
And not necessarily that. I'd be like, what the fuck are you doing?
Speaker1:
Yeah, well, that's just it. And what I'm doing is hiding why I have sex with both ears and everything.
Speaker3:
So to answer part of that, though, if I was fucking some guy and I say, come here,
Speaker1:
you're going to come here with a heart on it for me to suck your dick. Yeah. Yeah. Been there, done that. Yeah, absolutely. Yep. But you've also watched me get up. And if I get in mind, the one thing I don't do anymore, and I used to, is I used to believe that there was only, I only ran I think four girls that I just were like they're out of my league that they were out of my league I no longer and now I still there are still girls that are somewhat intimidating to me but it's a little bit different but once once you got in once I got in that place it didn't matter you know because I seriously would go Why would they want to fuck me That's you know It's just one of those things But those are all And I only tell you those things Because those are all the things that You have to know Because it's
Speaker2:
Again
Speaker1:
It's a journey And it's It's about It's about Growing That every Every journey is about Self discovery No well it really fucking fuck off It really is And that's just it
Speaker2:
It's
Speaker1:
And this is what we that's the part that people do you know why we don't like the parties or nothing but a fucking frat party because it's fucking mindless fucking that's why there there is no there is no it's not that swinging and fucking other people needs to be some higher calling. It's not like, oh, but by the same token, we preach community. It can be an out-of-body experience. It can be. We preach community. We preach whatever. But I know that, look, if I just need just, if I just need trashy sex, I can go get a hooker. Okay. You're not paying for it. The sex, the swinger sex is different and it takes it to a different place in a different level and that's hot and that's when that whole thing comes together and it is a journey that's just it you know when you come out on the other side of this like you go around once so when you come out on the other side of this what the fuck what where when you look back what are you gonna see that that's that's i live for that kind of shit but i'm a like jim morrison junkie so i i believe in that whole concept but but seriously what are you gonna see when you look back you know okay great you did 127 000 miles an hour but it was just an interstate you didn't do anything yay that's not what it's that's what is that i mean what the fuck you know it's it's the highs the lows it's the fucking pushing yourself taking yourself to Thank you. that's not what it's that's what is that i mean what the fuck you know it's it's the highs the lows it's the fucking pushing yourself taking yourself to a new place a new level and doing shit gaining confidence gaining confidence i'm almost 50 years old and you know what warren buffett uh created over 85 of his wealth after age 50 okay so you and i i said it because that was his passion whatever but the concept is you know you have to choose what you're never too old to stop growing gaining confidence being better fucking finding new cool shit right and that's the whole thing i want to find cool new shit i grew my hair and paint my nails and do all this shit because I got sick of corporate America. And I said, fuck that. I want to go find cool new shit. And that includes in fucking. I mean, that's all part of the fucking game. So there you go. Well, didn't that just get deep as fuck? Next week on fucking getting eaten. There's nothing wrong with deep. We're bringing the brownies, kids. It is what it is. Hey, you're kind of out of time well I'll be damned alright so here we go again A happy Thanksgiving when this show comes out it will be Thursday turkey day pause really? I purposely didn't say it most of the time yeah so it so it is. I had to give someone a reason to take some shots. Happy Turkey Day. Again, shout out from our sponsors, Promescent.com, P-R-O-M-E-S-C-E-N-T.com. Seriously, check them out today. You will be very glad you did. 60-day money back guarantee. Try on things. KK15 gets you a 15% discount. ASNLifestyleMagazine.com. Seriously, they've got a badass, some stuff coming out in the December episode, or episode, issue. It's fucking cool. Make sure you check them out. Don't forget Full Swap Radio. Check out all our shows, not just ours. We hope you check them all out. And you should make them drink as fast as they can, really. And don't forget Full Swap Shop also. Remember, you can send us emails, how, what, where, when. You send them to them at crazy, K-R-A-Z-Y, dot, Kazba, K-A-S-B-H, at gmail.com. Follow us on Twitter, at TruthCrazy. Also, go ahead and follow us on Instagram if you can find it. Send it to me. Let me know what the fuck it is. Crazy.Kazba. Go ahead and subscribe to our YouTube channel. That would be Kazba, K-A-S-B-H. And, yeah, check out Crazy Winter Nights. Seriously, hotel rooms are filling up fast. So don't miss this event at all. You'd want to be there. Check it out. CrazyWinterNights.com. If you want to be a sponsor for any of our things, send us notes there. Check out CrazyKazma.com also. And there you go. So with all that being said, doing it the only way. No, that was to the turkeys. Doing it the only way I know how. The only way I want to. Kazma style out. Bye.
