Krazy Truth #17 Fantasy

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Speaker1: Hey kids, the program you're about to listen to contains some adult situations, adult language, themes, and other adult topics. If you're easily offended, this show's not for you. Naughtypops. Are you looking for lollipops with adult shapes for any special occasion? Bachelor, bachelorette parties, gag gifts, and more. They have tons of gourmet flavors that are shipped right to your door. Order yours today at www.naughtypopsnow.etsy.com and tell them Crazy Truth sent you. Alright, good job. Hey, welcome back all you crazy motherfuckers to another edition of Crazy Truth. would be episode uh 17 we're gonna go with that i'm pretty close anyways uh so we're excited i am the host with the most i am cole hi we're here with the lovely lovely miss amanda hey hey are we missing a camera today i didn't like how it shot oh okay all right never mind Yeah, I don look away all right cool so uh we're gonna start this the way we start most of our shows with something funny and crazy sex in the news are you ready uh sure okay all right so do you feel like your boobs are too small do you feel like you know you some bigger titties? Okay, so if you are in that boat, here's what's really cool. There is a company out of Japan. It is EKOD Works. And they have created a T-shirt. And the T-shirts are so much cheaper than a boob job. a t-shirt that the front of the t-shirt features the t-shirts are so much cheaper than a boob job a t-shirt that the front of the t-shirt features this uh very specifically designed black and white grid so with the areas of shading which makes the person wearing it look like they have a substantially a substantially larger chest way bigger boobs the pictures when you showed it to me yeah she looked like she was probably a stripper double d yes e f g right right and then you turn not real and then you turn to the side turned to the, and she should have been wearing a training bra. Yeah, exactly. It is absolutely amazing. Now, here's what's cool.
Speaker2: I thought it was gray and black grid.
Speaker1: What did I say?
Speaker3: Yeah.
Speaker2: Black and white.
Speaker1: Well, black, yeah, gray. It's multiple. Yeah, but it's the grid. It's all about the grid.
Speaker3: Yes.
Speaker1: It's all about the grid. So here's the thing. This shirt, they're selling them online in the UK for 28 pounds. And the t-shirt itself, the back is available in white or pink so you can get pretty in pink uh they've sold out they can't keep them in stock that doesn't surprise me that is fucking awesome i know i want to get one of these this would be great look at my boobs uh so i encourage everybody i don't, think of it this way. Before you spend the money for a boob job, buy a t-shirt. See how you look with bigger boobs. Wear it around. Seriously, wear it around. If you have small boobs and you're not used to guys staring at your boobs, wear them around where you get used to guys going, wow, and then you can decide if you want a boob job or not. I'm in on these. These things rock.
Speaker3: There we go.
Speaker2: Do I need one?
Speaker1: You don't really need one. If you had one, you'd look like the stripper that's trying to have water balance on her boobs, or on her chest. On her boobs?
Speaker3: What? Great. Okay.
Speaker2: I have no idea. Will it make them look perkier?
Speaker3: It didn't.
Speaker1: No, it'll just make them look like they're really big, but around your stomach.
Speaker3: Nice. God. Well, of course it's going to make them look perkier. If you have small boobs, and all of a sudden you have big boobs, small boobs aren't going to sag noticeably. Right? But if you already sag to begin with, and then you put this on, is it going to make them look like they're hanging down to your knees? I don't think it's designed for somebody with bigger boobs. I don't know. It may break the shirt. Your boobs are too big. It'll break the shirt. Okay. There you go.
Speaker1: So make sure you get one of those.
Speaker3: Again, I would imagine that they're probably available here in the States, too. I haven't been able to find it.
Speaker1: Hopefully, you know what we'll have to try to do, Sound Guy, on the YouTube video? We should try to find a picture of that. All right. Look at me assigning stuff as we go. Nice. This is awesome. During the show. Yeah. During the show. All right. So let's get going. You know what we're going to do today? We're going to do what we do every day, every week. We're going to answer questions. Sometimes we do it every day, too. Sometimes we do it every day, too do it every day too absolutely all right so the first question uh this question comes to us from montana there are people in montana and they have sex questions so uh the sex question another anonymous people don't want us to use their name it's okay and here's the thing it's not a bad question like there aren't 50 million people named Sam and 50 million people named, you know, Tom. Tom. Jim. Yeah. We can have a show on that. Every Tom, Dick, and Harry. God. I'll be here all week. All right. So the question is fantasies, okay? Do you act on all of them? This is kind of like a three-part question here thing. Do you act on all of them this is kind of like a three-part question here thing do you act on all of them are some meant just to stay a fantasy how do you uh bring them up with a partner and what are some possible fears when you bring up fantasies with a? That's a really good series of questions, actually, in the process. So I think we should take it backwards first.
Speaker2: Let's do it.
Speaker1: Ask backwards. It's the Caswell way.
Speaker3: Sometimes.
Speaker1: The first one is, how do you bring them up with a partner? Or should you bring them up with a partner? I mean, that... Okay, so as we've explored in the live show, obviously some fantasies are easier to talk with, at least for us. We're easier to talk with about a partner than others, i would say yes you shouldn't have any fear of talking to your partner about it but i guess it depends on if you know how well you know them and how comfortable not how well you know but how comfortable you are with them it depends on how how out there the the fantasy is well i don't know there's some they're pretty out there you told me about but what excellent yeah i'm glad and we'll be sharing those on the show but how long how long had we been how long had we been together before we talked about him a lot of those fantasies never came up until after the fact that we were in the lifestyle and we had been together a lot of years before that oh well let's face it for some people the first fantasy to try to bring up with somebody with a significant other is to explore the lifestyle i mean that's that's a huge problem right off the earth not a problem a challenge right about how do you approach that with how do you approach that right off the very beginning so once you've once you take, if you can bring up the, hey, you want to fuck other people? Everything else should get a little bit easier from there. Well, I think you shared more the desire for threesomes before you did the lifestyle. Yes. I pushed for threesomes for a long time. You did. But that was an easier thing to ask for. That was a way easier thing to ask for than actually having sex with other people. I mean, was to be able to have taken and have just the overall threesome and have sex with other people in general. That was, like, not a big deal. So the thing is, currently we're having a few technical issues, but we'll be okay. So, yes, we wanted to do the threesome stuff first. But with every fantasy, there were some fantasies we didn't discover until later on down the road, right? I mean, because one of ours was the whole throat thing. Right. All right, so we didn't even discover that until later on. Well, but that was more of a you saw somebody else do it so you want to try it type of thing yeah that's not really a fantasy in my mind well but then it progressed well and we're not we're only talking about some of those so the first thing you have to do is you have to be honest with your significant other part of the joy of the lifestyle is being able to take and explore totally different parts of your sexuality so you have to be honest you have to be up front and let people know what it is you want to do and finding somebody with that same fantasy so you're not doing it necessarily on your partner so you're not surprising the fuck out of your partner it's way better to have that conversation than to surprise somebody so obviously the fears of it are that they're going to react like oh my god that's gross oh my god i can't believe you think that way uh rape fetish yeah i mean that's that's a big one first one that came to my mind yeah that's that's a big one the consent consent and non-consent. So they take it, and it's a fear factor. People go, oh, my God, that's so over the top. The thing is you have to just be honest with people. You have to be honest with your significant other and say, hey, look, this is something, I don't know, talk you through. You might be surprised your significant other might think the exact same thing. That's true. So at least if you talk with them, right? So have courage to bring it up. Now, if it's something that's illegal, like, hey, you know what? Let's do a snuff film. You know what? Maybe not so much. Just. Maybe not. You're just looking at me. Okay. So should some fantasies stay fantasies i think yes why because it might ruin the actual experience but what if it was the greatest experience in the world see there was the challenge i don't know again if some fantasies should stay probably fantasies for private time. For in your hotel room, at home, whatever the case may be. But I think that any time you have the opportunity to grab life by the balls, you should grab it and go with it. And live out your fantasies. Because ultimately, isn't that why we're in the lifestyle? Some of us don't have fantasies like others. That is such bullshit. We go through this every time with Buggly. You just haven't thought of them. Maybe. I don't know. There's no... You have no fantasies? No bucket list. No fantasies. Mm-mm. Nothing. No no not not a single thing gets you all like yummy okay okay for those of you that do have fantasy go ahead go ahead and try them uh yeah here's the other reason if something is illegal again you know snuff films whatever Or just don't know incest you know but i understand now if you're going to live out your fantasies some fantasies if you're going to live them out out in public like even at a like a lifestyle event if it's out of the norm don't be surprised if you get some like unusual looks i mean we talk about no kink shaming all the time but the reality of it is that we all know that if something's unique enough that some people are going to have some some sort of response to it there's no way around it it is it is what it is so you have to at least you know kind of keep that it keep that in mind a little bit um so that kind of ties in do you act on all of them i think you do i think you go for it i think you live life to the fullest if the opportunity comes for a fantasy you jump on that fucker and you you write it to the end if that's your fantasy
Speaker2: if you find somebody that wants to do that particular fantasy with you
Speaker1: well maybe that fantasy maybe that fantasy is maybe that fantasy doesn't involve somebody else
Speaker3: We'll see you next time. somebody that wants to do that particular fantasy with you. Well, maybe that fantasy is, maybe that fantasy
Speaker1: doesn't involve somebody else. Well, then it's just masturbation. But I mean, it's kind of a unique, you know, I just want to be, so I don't know. I mean, yes.
Speaker2: If you have a rape fantasy, you might want to find out if somebody else has that same fantasy you do. Yes, you need
Speaker1: to, okay, let's put this out there right now. There are certain fantasies or kinks
Speaker3: I'll see you need to. Okay, let's put this out there right now.
Speaker1: There are certain fantasies or kinks that you need to actually take and make damn. Those are things that need to be discussed in advance.
Speaker2: The consent, non-consent.
Speaker3: Here's the deal.
Speaker1: Kinks are not something that you just take and randomly do. They take more planning than that. They take thought process. You don't just go to the store and go, you know what? What the hell?
Speaker3: I don't just go to the store you know what what the hell i you know you have talked about it'd be kind of erotic with a whip and and i think it'd be erotic with a whip you don't go to the old you know farm store down the street buy a bullwhip come home and just start beating the crap out each other you do not know what the fuck you're doing it takes a little bit of thought processing and and training and some of the others like because it is a huge one research uh you know consent non-consent with with rape fantasies that is huge and and it's important that people you have to communicate that you can't just like go off the reservation and start doing that shit it just doesn't work that way then it's just right yeah then it's going to a whole new a whole new ball game i think if you actively communicate your fantasies with your significant other and here's the thing for significant others you have to be a little bit open i mean at least hear the person out? You don't have to necessarily agree to it. I am not saying, please, everybody, hear my words right now. We are not saying that just because your significant other says, this is my fantasy, you have to do that. Not in the least. But at least hear them out because know that it probably took a lot of courage and guts to go ahead and bring it up. Yes. Because when we talked about some of the things that we discovered that we liked and and i discovered some of the more aggression things that i like those were things that i even admitted to you there were stuff that i had talked about that i wanted had thought about but had never had courage enough to ask you in in the 20 years we've been married at that point in time to do it so i mean it takes courage and and have an open communication the other thing i would throw out there is well let me ask you this if your significant other is not okay to participate in the fantasy okay is it okay if you find someone else in the lifestyle like you're not into it but I find little Suzy Lou who is into it is it okay for me to ask to go perform that fantasy with her versus with you well yeah as long as it's like on your no you know not on the no playlist you know if I agree upon it and they agree upon it and you, if we all agree upon it, rock on. But would it be harder to agree upon it? Because here's the thing. There's got to be a reason why you wouldn't do it. So if it's a fantasy that it's like you're opposed to, you're like, ooh, that's gross. That's wrong, whatever the case may be. Are you truly going to be okay with me going and performing that with somebody else? Because aren't you going to have the same problems and issues with it, of doing it,
Speaker1: whether it's with you or with somebody else? I mean, couldn't that actually be a legitimate, like, concern? Because all of a sudden it's like, well, if you don't agree with the whole thing to begin with then i guess it depends on the fantasy there's some that i just go i just don't want to watch i will not watch it i don't want to even be anywhere close by when you're doing it okay right there's there's some right i get it there's some that you don't that you think you don't want to watch i get that so what if it's one though that you just are completely opposed to it even happening i mean i don't know an example would that be i don't know we're not into golden showers neither one of us are and all of a sudden i'm like i want it i want to do a golden shower if you can find somebody to pee on go for it that does not gross me out Or I'm appalled that you'd even want to do that. But I think if there was something big enough that I was totally against, you should be understanding on that. I agree. No, I agree. I think, again, it comes down to the communication. I think you have to give, I think you have to, that's why it's so important you have to tell your significant other what your fantasies are because here's my thing if you don't like if i never told you that i totally dig the whole you know throat thing and all of a sudden we're in a situation we've never talked about and you see me do that to somebody else it's gonna be like what in the fuck is going on i mean seriously so but if you know it and you know that hey there's something that i dig whatever the case may be you're gonna be more open you're gonna okay yeah that doesn't surprise me right yeah you have come no you've come you've come back with i'm like you're into that since when yeah yeah so i again, talk. You have to communicate with this shit. Because here's the deal. The shit that you thought you were into when you first started is going to be different after you've been into it a couple of years. Just a little bit. I don't care who you are. Well, it is. It's absolute. It's going to be different all the way across the board. That's what it goes okay that's really good fantasy questions you know you're about the same height it's like fantasy island the plane
Speaker2: send all hate mail to cole at yeah do okay so let's take it all for that
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Speaker3: This is probably one of the most unique questions we've dealt with so far. Okay.
Speaker1: Are you ready?
Speaker3: The question comes from Anonymous. They actually asked that I not even say a state or anything. Okay. Anonymous, Anonymous.
Speaker1: Sure.
Speaker3: How do you deal with loneliness in the lifestyle so i contacted anonymous anonymous because i didn't totally understand that question to begin with okay i'm like well what what do you mean and how even though uh there was a couple of different parts I talked about even though you are with people that you feel ostracized from your friends and family because it's like the secret identity the secret part of your life that you can't share with anybody else so it's this exciting part of your life and you can't share with anybody else. So it's this exciting part of your life,
Speaker1: and you can't share it with other people because they judge or could judge. And then in turn, on top of it, you're lying to people.
Speaker3: So the example that this person gave was they had went out, met an individual, had a hookup.
Speaker1: It was a great time they were having uh brunch the next day with a group of their very very close friends and everybody's like wow you seem like in a good mood what's going on and the person had to lie oh it's nothing and that actually has caused this person to feel distant from their friends yeah exactly that's okay so i guess one have you ever felt that no your look says you don't even see how that's possible well i don't see why it's that big of an issue that you feel the need that you that well no that's just it's just awkward because what's wrong with telling your friends we had i had sex well that's what has me in a good mood why do you have to say why would you feel bad if that's a hidden part of your life to not even admit that you what's the problem with lying a little bit or just say hey I woke up in a good mood you're not Willie was involved that's why it was such a good mood it's not like that's really lying because it's not you woke up in a good mood because you got laid the night before okay so the way I can look at that though from your perspective is you're not somebody that shares a lot of that we're not somebody that just we have groups friends that we just randomly like hey so i got fucked last night i mean that's not part of like our normal no conversation i get it i mean i can understand for some people that they feel what's the biggest joke in the lifestyle well how do you when somebody goes well how do you know them i met a friend of a friend right or met him at a bar we all we've laughed about where there's videos out about it whatever so i can see where some people if you had a really really close group of friends that you shared everything with and all of a sudden here's this cool or unique part of your life and all of a sudden you can't share that with anybody that you would start to feel...
Speaker2: But if you were that good of friends, would they judge you badly for the choices that you make?
Speaker1: Well, but see, there that gets interesting. So, story time. So, my very best friend in high school, we've been friends for 33 years now he knows what we do right because i i said hey give me questions for what from a from a vanilla standpoint and he was like i knew that he wouldn't judge or i was pretty sure i didn't know for sure he wouldn't and he didn't but i also know another friend of mine that I've been friends with for almost as long, the same length of time. I posed the same question to them and they haven't spoken to me since. So there are some people that from whatever, whether it be moral convictions, whatever it might be that are going to judge you. So that's a risk that you take is that you're going to have people that might judge you because of what you're what you're doing my question i guess would be is how much of that stuff do you really need to share anyways i mean i mean seriously how much on a day-to-day basis my best friend from my school and all these years there's still a lot of parts of my life and our life that i don't share with him and i know there's lots of parts of his life he doesn't share with me we still talk all the time and we're super close but why do you have to share that much yeah in terms of the lying part i don't know to me it's like it me, it's like, you're not lying to anybody. Everybody does not have a need to know everything about your life. I mean, this is that whole thing of when somebody walks up to me and goes, Hi, how are you? The correct answer is, fine.
Speaker3: Stop.
Speaker1: And, you know, nobody actually wants to hear all the rest. Right rest right okay so do you really need to share everything about your life i mean part of what if you're a single i can see it be a little more open because you're dating your whatever the case may be as a couple shouldn't that stay between you as a couple why do you need to share that with with everybody else out there all over the place about every aspect of your life do you share every aspect of your finances do you share every aspect of of your kids's drama or you know when you've got the shits one day because you ate some bad sushi or something no you don't share every part of that why would you do that with this part of it yeah i don't know now the feeling lonely part i can understand that to a degree though i can feel i can understand sometimes being i think people put too much expectation on what they're going to get out of the lifestyle right so there's this process of either you're always going to get laid or every person you talk to is going to be your close personal friend okay the lifestyle is no different no different than any other aspect of your life, right? It's no different than your job or anywhere else. Uh, so everybody that you work with isn't your best close personal friend, right? So it's the same thing with the lifestyle. They're not all, not everybody you're going to meet. You may be social to them and, and cordial to them. It doesn't mean that they're your best friend or that you're going to tell them everything. Right. Sorry about that. Sound guy is losing his fucking mind tonight. It's awesome. He's marking down minutes. So you have to have to keep that in mind now i think that people make that mistake that they mistake sex and those types of activities for some sort of either like a deeper trust or a deeper a deeper meaning something deeper than what it really fucking is i mean granted we're weird we're weird. We don't date. And we've said this before, and I'll say it again. We don't fucking date. We don't date. We're never going to date. We never have dated. That's bullshit in our world. Send all hate mail to me. I don't care. So it's just sex. Like, I don't need to know your life story or have you become my best friend to have sex with you. I mean, if that works out, great, okay. But if not, okay. So I think people try to put this deeper meaning and this deeper everything to it than what it's really supposed to be. You are going to have people in the life story that are ass clowns. You're going to have people that are backstabbers and you're going people that are nice and you're people that are that are drama drama you're gonna have you're gonna have all that shit it's it's just like any other microchasm of life it's gonna be there if you choose to be lonely in the lifestyle a lot of that is on you now for those out the note out there for people that have pages and have and have uh events and do a lot of that kind of stuff it's a little bit different ball game yeah it is in the lifestyle there is a lot of times that you can actually feel uh act more like secluded yeah a little bit uh in the lifestyle i mean that goes with it but you know that going into it or well if you don't surprise that's what happens so you figure it out as you go so that that part of it is something that can be really i don't know you just kind of deal with it and move forward but i think that if you're feeling lonely if you're looking for you gotta know what you're looking for in the lifestyle don't you a little bit yeah some people have somewhat of an idea i mean there are people that are out there looking for poly relationships for emotional attachment yeah yeah and if that's what you're looking for great but you need to be up front about that and there's people that are just looking for exclusive partners again and that's great and you need to be up front about that the key is is you can't go in and you can't go up to if you try to do a poly relationship with us you are going to be sadly disappointed sadly disappointed because that's not our gig and we're not out so you have to be honest with that kind of stuff and you got to know you kind of pick your partner's kids it's not a key party anymore you have to know that and be a little more aware of that as you go through and do this stuff so that you have your expectations are set more realistically okay so that was in the i actually like that question okay just because it's totally different it's hard to crack jokes over it though okay all right so hey i want to touch on one other thing though real quick how are we doing on time oh awesome we're doing great on time okay so uh i want to touch one because we're going into party season party party season we're going into the greatest holiday season of of uh in the swinger calendar the swinger calendar which is halloween in october and we've actually had a whole bunch of people send shoot us emails and uh instant messages and whatever to remind and they wanted us to talk about this Thank you. halloween in october and we've actually had a whole bunch of people send it shoot us emails and uh instant messages and whatever to remind it and they wanted us to talk about this again no means no we've had a whole bunch of people that have hit us with this so okay i'm just gonna throw this out here so let's give an example okay let's say that you're into uh secret identity so you have a costume that doesn't somebody you have you you and a friend batman you have you you have a friend and they have a monkey suit costume so you can't see the face at all right okay So they have a monkey suit costume on and that guy is talking to you and you decide you're going to go hook up with that guy. Do I know who this guy is behind said mask? No. Okay. So he goes, give me one second. I got to go to the bathroom. We'll be be right back and then go to the bathroom and we change masks now i have the monkey mask on and i go up and i fuck you was that an acceptable kink i don't know what that kink would be called to be perfectly honest
Speaker2: with you but would that be acceptable well no but what do i not catch on that it was changed oh no
Speaker1: because we're dressed the same and all you you haven't seen a penis yet or anything else I'll see you next time. well no but what do i not catch on that it was changed no because we're dressed the same and all these you haven't seen a penis yet or anything else and so all of a sudden go and then when it's all done we get he comes up and we both laugh and go hey look what we did we actually switched would that be acceptable no that'd piss me off it would piss you off because that's not and that's not a kink at that point i don't know that's a kink in real life but that's not a kink then because you didn't have a voice in the kink you were just like a victim now if you reverse this scenario see if i can back through this reverse this scenario you're talking to a guy and he's he says hey here's the. This friend and I, we have this thing where maybe you'll be fucking me. Maybe you'll be fucking somebody else. You'll know we're going to leave the mask on. And you go, okay, that's kind of hot. I agree to do that. At that point in time, you then that is a kink because you then have the right to say yes or no whether or not you want to be involved with it. i think over halloween especially in any parties but over halloween parties and and this season it's very easy to just make people make this assumption that this is the kink i'm into so you we're at a swingers party it's the swinger you know holiday of the year so that means you have to be in on it too or you have to be okay with it and that's not the fucking case no means no kinks are only a kink if everybody involved has the right to say no okay so we just want to stress that because this is like this is like casbah uh or crazy truth service announcement people you you have to say no and here's the. You have the right as the individual to firmly say no. At no point in time should you be pressured. And if you're somebody that wants to try to take and pull that shit.
Speaker2: Or manipulate.
Speaker3: Yeah. Whatever. Yeah. Manipulate.
Speaker1: Try to take advantage of the situation.
Speaker3: Here's the deal.
Speaker1: If something like that starts to happen, what you need to to do you need to go to the organizer of the party or to security immediately and tell them what the fuck's going on okay because somebody like that that's not somebody who we want in the lifestyle that's not going to make it fun now I also if anybody has knows if whatever the kink I described is actually a kink please please let me know because I want to know what the fuck that's called or if I just invented a brand new kink I'll bet you I invented a brand new kink right there Thank you. kink please please let me know because i want to know what the fuck that's called or if i just invented a brand new kink i'll bet you i invented a brand new kink right there it'd almost be the same as being blindfolded and have a gangbang or something i don't know that is not the same as being blindfolded there is no way there is no way in the world i don't know that is i know but you know what's great there are now party planner hallow Halloween party planners all over the world are going to go, that motherfucker, great. Now we've got to watch out for this shit. He just created some new sort of kink. Well, maybe you did. Well, that's where I roll. The thing is, we want people to be safe out there, and we want people to know. We hear about it all the time. People make this assumption, especially at big parties, and it just happens that Halloween's the party season, but at big parties where people make the assumption that if I'm into it, you have to be into it. It's no different than establishing boundaries all the way through. I mean, if anal sex is a no-go with you, then bottom line, I have a responsibility to honor that no matter what. I have a responsibility to honor that and make sure and not do that. And you are not required under any circumstances to do that. Just so everybody knows, here at the Casbah Studios, one of the nice things is we're pet friendly here uh and we love our pets and uh he's real active tonight so if you hear barking that's why do you want to go on anything else with this god i'll tell you what i'll tell you what here's what i think we're to do. I think we're going to go ahead and call it a wrap for this episode tonight. Oh, no, we're not. No, wait, no. Hey, you're going to want to write this time down because we're going to edit this part out. Hold on. We know we're only at 40 minutes tonight to cut our lunch. Okay, so we just got, for those of you that don't know, we obviously do this show live as well, and we got a great question off of our Crazy Casbah website, and the question is, how do you deal with exes and their jealousy or issues once you go into the lifestyle? That's a great question. Now, okay, so where I'm going to start with a little bit we're obviously fortunate enough we've only been married to each other so we haven't had to deal with any exes no but obviously when you're dealing with exes and you know that people uh one of the things we're right with this is is the individual talked about how an ex has a hack hacked their email and found out about email, and we've seen it ourselves personally where exes have tried to out their former spouse to their parents and to other people in their community. And this is a real serious or can be a real serious issue. So number one, think about anything you have out there, okay? If you have emails, if you've used the, I'm notorious. If you know two pieces of information about me, you can probably access everything digitally that I'm on in the world, okay? So you might want to change those up a little bit. The sound guy is pretty sure he's going to give out our passwords but anyways if you know that stuff you can take you want to make an and change that make it so it's something that you never used before or that an ex wouldn't even think about right i mean emails phone codes whatever the case may be you need to to obviously know that and change those number two you, you have to, if you have someone, it's not a pretty breakup, pretty scene, whatever, however you want to word that you kind of have to be ready that that could be something that might be used against you. And you have to have answers. Think ahead of time. I mean, don't allow yourself to be caught off guard, like in community and, and things like that. If it If it's something that you are afraid they're going to do something, have an answer ready for it. I mean, I'm a true believer that's the best thing you can do. Well, so-and-so said that you're a swinger. A what? Really? When would I have time to do that? Or whatever the case may be, have an answer that's natural to say I have one for my work okay that if I were ever taken into the HR office and they said well you know the rumor is is that you're swingers my response is going to be do I like it exactly yeah well I mean and there you go do I yeah I mean if're going to make up this stuff, surely they told you if I like it or not. And just even how you said that, it was natural. So this way you do it so that you're not caught off guard because you're someone that you go, I don't want to get caught off guard with that. So this way you don't hesitate and fumble around trying to come up with an answer. Now, right along with that, if if there's let's say there's going to be court things involved because that happens we've seen that happen we've seen it happen where we've deleted a bunch of shit for people yes yeah we we removed them they're on a page the whole nine yards but the one thing we encourage everybody to do is be honest with your attorney there's two people in this world you don't lie to you don't lie to your doctor and you don't lie to your attorney you need to be ahead of time and let them know that you're part of this or you're part of you're part of the lifestyle because otherwise
Speaker2: they'll choose what they want to use and what they don't yeah exactly you want to make sure
Speaker1: they have the opportunity uh to be prepared as well but along with that is think about how i know that breakups can get ugly and things can get really really mean so we've heard Thank you. be prepared as well. But along with that is think about how I know that breakups can get ugly and things can get really, really mean. So we've heard again, thank God to this point in time, she's staying with me. Uh, the thing is, is that make sure that you don't try to use it against your ex. I would imagine the temptation is there to use that. So make sure don't do that make sure that as far as in the swinging world if you're no longer being a lifestyle rock on that's fine uh the rest of the community doesn't necessarily need to know why but you don't want to bring that drama into the lifestyle you know you don't want to you don't want nothing will cause uh you to not be able to go on a lifestyle then getting into dishing all that drama back and forth like on a on if you're a part of a group or a page or whatever the case may be again remember you want to keep as much of the stuff out of and no one else needs to fucking know and if you're prepared in case you have an ex that does something stupid like that then you'll be fine and if you make sure that you don't take and bring that out into out into the lifestyle that's the biggest place a lot of times there will be a lot of rumors whenever there's a breakup out of the lifestyle there's always a lot of rumors people are always always curious because here they've known you as a couple or they've known you know how you play or whatever the case may be and and people's people will wonder and even though they wonder again you're not required just because you're in life to tell anybody anything the best thing you can do generally is pretty much i mean if you want to tell them that hey you're no longer together rock on but the rest of the drama part of it you got to keep it out because that's just it just it's bad all the way across the board so is it really jealousy or is it revenge or just trying to get you back for hurting them or i think there's a lot of all the above i really do i think there's there's some of it that's jealousy some of its anger some of it you know there's a lot of different reasons for it and which a lot of it ties into legal shit because anymore you know there's the thing called revenge porn where people you know those private pictures that you guys shared get posted somewhere where they're not supposed to that's illegal and almost every state has a revenge porn law now so i think that it's i think that there's a lot of anger and and obviously emotions anytime you tie emotions in with anything it's gonna it's gonna boil over especially if the lifestyle was part of the cause of the breakup and that that's one of the things where we why we continually preach about conversation and communication is that to make sure that the lifestyle does not become part of the issue. Feelings developing and things along the way. Why the rules are so important. To make sure that no one's breaking the rules all the way across the board. Because those are things that lead to other issues. There's very few things. Most people aren't going to go to work and just because they go to work necessarily cause a breakup all the way across the board. But it's the interaction with other people and the emotion that you start to feel. So when you do an activity like in the lifestyle where you're talking about sex and then you start talking about some people playing alone
Speaker3: I don't know. But it's the interaction with other people and the emotion that you start to feel. So when you do an activity like in the lifestyle where you're talking about sex
Speaker1: and then you start talking about some people playing alone and the rules and everything like that, you can't have that a gray area. You can't have a gray area of what is and is not allowed. Because it just, once shit gets going, then it's very, very hard to stop.
Speaker3: All the way across the board. I will agree with that. Absolutely. Yeah, and the thing is that really, again, keeping this stuff, as much as stuff to yourself and out of the public is the best across the board. All right. There you go. Thank you again very much for the comments from the live uh all the questions uh i want to take a quick second here and we want to thank our sponsors you go for naughty pops are you looking for lollipops with adult shapes for any special occasion bachelor bachelorette parties gag gifts some more maybe you just want some of your own they have tons of gourmet flavors and they're very good that are shipped right to your door you can order yours today at www.naughtypopsnow.etsy.com and tell them crazy truth sent you all right and, we want to give a big shout-out to Club G. Again, remember, we're friends and pleasure.
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Speaker2: All right.
Speaker1: Doing it the only way I know how and the only way i want the only way i want to casbah style out