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Speaker1: Hey kids, the program you're about to listen to contains some adult situations, adult language, themes, and other adult topics. If you're easily offended, this show's not for you. Hey you crazy motherfuckers, welcome back to another edition of Crazy Truth. I am your host with the most kind of pissed off, ready to take on the world. Why? Because that's what the fuck I do. I'm Cole. I'm here with the lovely, lovely and Christmas tree decorating queen, Miss Amanda. Hey. We are here to titillate, tantalate, fuckalate, and piss some people off because that is definitely what we do. We have got... They said make a drinking game every time you say the word fuck. Ooh, that's a good one. We'll do that. Absolutely. I'll have that fucking out in no time. So before... Okay, here's the deal. Before we get going, I need to say something to the... Because I'm always loud. I got to say the sponsors before we lose the sponsors. Okay, do it. That's where this show is going. First and foremost, a big shout out to, make sure you sign up for altplayground.net. Look, we keep talking about them. They keep rocking. They keep growing. What do I like about altplayground.net? I love that they have videos. I love they have the big wall. I love they have a special that we have our own community on there, Crazy Cas, but make sure you sign up for it. There's so many different things to do. So you know what? Look, try something new. Go and sign up today for altplayground.net. Check it out. Check out some of the other podcasters. Check out what's going on. You'll love it too. That's our first one. Now, but wait, don't go anywhere. That's right. And remember, smart swingers are sexy swingers. Tits may sag, balls may drag, folds and wrinkles may show. But you know what? A sexy brain is forever, kids. So make sure sexy swingers read. Make sure you're reading asnlifestylemagazine.net. Sign up today. Three million motherfucking sexy swingers cannot be wrong. Sign up today. Subscribe. We got all kinds of cool shit with the good folks at ASN Lifestyle Magazine. You can find our ad in there. We have a big full-page ad, and we're about to have another one in there also. Which that brings me to the next thing. Look, here's the deal. You can listen to the shows. You can read the mag, but true fans, they wear the swag that's right go to full swap shop dot com today get your swag that's our swag the big fuck you fingers and all cool shit it's the stuff from front porch swingers uh kinky frame of mind the naked relationship the swinging flamingos and we are super, I'm missing somebody. Speaker2: Kinky frame of mind, swing, super, super, I'm missing somebody. Speaker1: Can't keep a frame of mind, Swingin' Flamingos. No, I am, and we are super excited. We are now starting to be the exclusive carrier of all ASN Lifestyle Magazine swag as well. So, you want the official stuff? Then go to the official place. Don't fuck around. Go with the best. Fuck the rest. Okay. What are you fucking doing? How are you doing?
Speaker3:
How are you doing?
Speaker1:
How are you doing? How are the best fuck the rest okay we got what are you fucking doing i was told to shove you over i ain't gonna fucking happen man look i'm like willie okay i am 270 pounds of sexy firmly implanted place shit stuff everybody just wants to see your titties a titty you canies. Okay, so here's the deal. Before we even get going, because I'm ready to be on a rant a little bit. So before we even get started, I'm going to fucking piss some people off. And you know what? I don't even give to flying you need to make sure that you have subscribed to our Twitter account because I've shot the first fucking volley over the bow a little bit because i just want to take a moment to talk about some things we take a shit ton of fucking pride at crazy casbah and crazy truth about our events and about safety at our events right that's what we do right right why do we do that because we always tell you we care about the lifestyle How do we prove that we care about the lifestyle how do we do it we pay a shit ton of money to have the best security at our events we make sure that our events are safe they're fun the whole nine yards what do we not do what did we not do we did not turn around and try to throw crazy winter nights an 800 to a thousand person event okay in the middle of a pandemic why did we not do that because that would be fucking retarded that's why we didn't do that because that wouldn't be safe but but the fucking jackass motherfuckers that plan naughty in new orleans yep by god they just couldn't cancel that son of a bitch they just kept spreading it out further and pushing it back and guess what went on this week naughty in new orleans now just take a quick second you want to talk about greedy motherfuckers here you go say there's going to be all these events that they don't have, charge full fucking retail price in the middle of a pandemic, and create an event, create a fucking event that is currently making headlines in vanilla newspapers. Now, that's pretty fucking smart. hey let me ask everybody how many of you out here listening that are swingers and lifestyle people really would like to go and be have your picture in the middle of a vanilla newspaper for attending a swinger event cricket why would you not because that's fucking stupid that's why because that's not taking care of people and keeping people fucking safe so be watching boys and girls because it's bad enough that last year at naughty new orleans there was a whole uh live tv series that they let the abc news cameras come in and do a story about swingers at naughty new orleans this year they're down there doing a story as well of the 250 people that showed up in the middle of a fucking pandemic
Speaker2:
I'll see you next time. out of New Orleans. This year, they're down there doing a story as well
Speaker1:
of the 250 people that showed up in the middle of a fucking pandemic so they can get sex. Wow, doesn't that make the lifestyle people look fucking wonderful? Hey, how many of you would like to be in the Omaha World Herald or the Lincoln Journal Star or the Des Moines Register or the Indianapolis Star or insert newspaper here? Might want to keep that in mind. Thank you. world herald or the lincoln journal star or the des moines register or the indianapolis star or insert newspaper here might want to keep that in mind just an fy fucking i and for anybody who's wondering curious or didn't know we canceled crazy winter nights about five months ago because we just weren't willing to take the chance to have something in a pandemic with a shit ton of people. We just weren't willing to do it. Wow, isn't it amazing? So here's the thing. If you want to know whether or not your local group activity, whatever, big event, I give a fuck if they really when they sit there and they preach to you about safety first safety first we believe in safety it's not just safety from on the internal of the event it's also safety from being exposed from being outed so keep that in mind because you know what the vanilla world a sex party quote-unquote sex party is titillating it sells press it sells papers it gets people to listen to shows it gets people to watch tv stations i don't know it's just one of them fucking things that here's the deal you know what a lot of people won't stand up and say this because the fuckers that run that have gotten away with it for years and years and everybody's afraid well if you know anything about me you know i don't give two flying fucks and the last thing i will ever do Is back down from telling the fucking truth So as my tweet says To them fucks and the last thing i will ever do is back down from telling the fucking truth so as my tweet says to them congratulations naughty norlands fuck you for putting yourself ahead of the lifestyle just saying there's my little rant for the night god you think so jesus i did not know that was coming oh my fucking i don't know why you didn't save it for a rant but whatever because more people hear this than to do the rants okay because i don't want there to be any confusion i want it to be that people know exactly where the fuck we stand on this you're gonna get people really drunk tonight fuck yeah i am fuck fuck Let's go, motherfuckers. Okay, now on to the fun shit.
Speaker3:
Tell us how you really feel.
Speaker1:
I did not know you were going to go on a little tangent. This ought to cost us some couple of radio stations. Right off the bat. But we're busy sucking their dick. We can't have you say that. Good thing I'm starting my own. Huh, weird. Shall we talk about that coming up?
Speaker2:
Nice. What?
Speaker1:
Full swap radio?
Speaker2:
No.
Speaker1:
We'll talk about that later.
Speaker2:
Okay.
Speaker1:
Wait a minute. Good thing I'm starting my own. Huh. Weird. Shall we talk about that coming up? Nice. What? Full swap radio? No. We'll talk about that later. Okay. So let's. Wait till it's running, antsy pants. Anty pants? That was a game I had when I was in school. Ants in your pants. I said antsy pants, not ants in your pants. Well, but you can do either one. Once you get ants in your pants, then you're antsy pants. Have uh no just uh you know sniffing doing coke no nope that would be a hardcore drug and that's not right but sniff and glue i've been doing an art project and i've really been up close to see it my eyes aren't as good as they used to be it couldn't be the glaucoma Alright You got anything else? What time do we start the show? I forgot to write that down 10 minutes ago Wow
Speaker3:
He's just moody ass
Speaker1:
No I'm not moody I'm actually in a great mood I just want to lay it out there Because that's what I do Wait a minute I think Leia's already drunk Are you saying it's too late you already drank What did I do What Okay So You're getting everybody trashed by saying fuck If they're taking a shot every time you say fuck See we need to know about this ahead of time So that we could be doing it with them No shit I don't know could have kept up with that little... People are going to have to go back and listen to it to catch how many times I said fuck in that little studio. You said it quite a bit. Fuck. Okay. All right. So let's get on with the show. Wow. Can we have some fun parts now, please? Well, that was fun. Look, being... For you. No. Superheroes. Standing up for what's right. Dun. No, I was waiting for you to put on some boxing gloves and start smacking something get in the ring motherfucker thank you guns and roses for your theme of the night uh okay so so tonight's show actually is about it was originally all gonna be about sharing the love actually that's what's really fucking funny because it actually it actually was uh it is so uh i i actually know the title for the show and you know i don't usually have a title for a show ahead of time i usually you know how kind of see what goes so the title for tonight's show it's the bro show you know like a bro hug bro show okay okay so here's the reason why um here's why this is the bro show. So obviously we are completely committed to trying to help and make the lifestyle better in all that we do and say. You're kind of like glaring at me. Did I piss you off? Maybe? What? Not yet. Oh, okay. How about now? Okay, just check. I flipped her boob. For those for those of you don't remember we are doing this live in front of our secret secret facebook group shh don't tell the authors crazy casbah oh sorry i took your line my bad i wasn't saying anything anyways i'm really kind of speechless at the moment so anywho so the reason it's a bro show So this last week uh you know because we do have several shows and i or several uh not shows several i do have several shows but several facebook pages and i've been noticing a really big theme this week and it's not just this week but it's it kind of goes in spurts okay and it it is one of the most difficult parts of the lifestyle, especially for guys in the lifestyle, okay? Okay. If you're a single male, single males kind of have a bad rap. They know that it's harder. A lot of times they get treated kind of shitty at events. And, you know, they can kind of be ostracized and stuff which is bad um and and even and guys in couples you know when you're part of a couple this lifestyle is driven by women which is rock on but what the challenge is is when you have all of the things like the facebook pages and and the the different groups and everything that part of, let's face it. If you put a picture on, okay, and it's not naked, it's just, you know, it's a sexy picture, but it's a dress picture. Right. You're going to get like 10,000 likes. Okay. I put a picture on, that's kind of sexy, but a dress, whatever. I'm going to get like five if I'm lucky. Okay. Okay. exaggerating but that i mean you get the idea one of the hardest challenges in the lifestyle for guys is that we are kind of we are kind of the forgotten ones so to speak a little bit we and at first you're like okay it doesn't matter after a while, it starts to build on you a little bit, right? It starts to weigh heavy on your mind. It starts to take your soul and drag you down to the depths.
Speaker2:
Okay?
Speaker1:
And the thing is, is our wives, our loving, caring wives when we're in couples, they want to try to help us. They want to try to help us. But it doesn't work a lot of times. And it's nobody's fault, okay? So I want to talk about a couple of different things, a couple of different scenarios that we see a lot and how maybe we can help some of the bros, bros before hoes, some of the bros and the brothers on how we can how how we can make it kind of give them some unique perspectives on how to maximize the lifestyle a little bit better and not to get that feeling like they're getting their fucking uh you know nuts kicked in continuously okay okay are you having fun so far I really wow, did I shock you that fucking much? Huh? It's like you're like shell-shocked. Kind of. Really? Yeah, I was not expecting that. Are we going to have to re-record the first part of the show? No. No. Am I getting fired? I have that ability. I know you do. You run the thing. Okay. So first first pause a second um when it comes to when it comes to guys posting pictures and expecting all these likes right it's not that people aren't women aren't interested what it is is I did, I used to go on and when we put a post on it, I would go and I'd like every single person's thing. Right. Because I'm admin, I need to. Right. To acknowledge that you did it. Right. Or at least that was my way to acknowledge. Right. That somebody posted it. It was like a uh a thank you for participating right okay well majority of guys would automatically think that means she wants to fuck me so i'm gonna send her a friend request i'm gonna start chatting with her so um it's kind of a turnoff because it's like no i'm in everybody. Right. And y'all are overwhelming me with all this stuff. So I quit doing it. Right. Right. So a guy can't take a, when a, when a woman gets it, she just likes the numbers. Right. Right. Honestly, you just like the numbers cause it's, it gives you, you know, um, self-confidence just like it would a guy, except some guys have kind of spoiled that for all the others. Right. Okay. Go ahead. I'm sorry. I didn't mean to interrupt. I apologize. No, go on, because I kind of forgot. Okay. So, first of all, so the first part of this, what we want to hit on is, look, guys, you need to set a realistic expectation. Okay? It's just like the single male thing. Not every single male is a douche fuck most of them aren't most of them are really nice and great guys the problem is you have one fucking jack wagon that goes and ruins it for everybody else you have a handful right no it's like if you have a hundred guys you know 95 of them are fucking rock, kick ass dudes, respectful, nice, all that thing, right? The other five are fucking jackass, fuck sticks, twat waffles that shouldn't be in the lifestyle anyways. And what it does is it makes everybody go, well, oops, you know, and that's just, it is what it is. Okay. So the first part of it is you need to understand guys, don't take it personal because seriously, I watched it happen with Ms. Amanda. I've watched it happen before that insane dick, you know, as soon as a girl puts a, likes your picture, there's dick pictures going, there's all kinds of crap. So step one, okay. When you respond to pictures or when you post a picture when you're when you respond to a picture if you're like several different women's pictures don't say the same thing everyone hey baby oh baby that's so hot oh baby i want you obey fuck that okay number one quit calling everybody fucking baby girly or whatever fuck that but the thing is is girls read those comments and and i've had lots of women say to me they go it's really funny so you've got three women with three different body types and the same guy comments on each one of them oh that's just what i've always wanted women aren't stupid so step one don't treat them like they're stupid if you like somebody's picture sometimes it's okay just to hit the like button and say nothing that's that's normal no no count just hit the like button or if you do just keep it keep it polite and generic but keep look if every woman's picture they the woman going there and see you've liked and comment on every single one it you may be trying to be nice but it can give a an error and impression of desperation so don't do that when you post pictures yourself understand the thought process of what women are dealing with and why maybe you don't get some response back on those pictures. Okay. And don't take it personally. Trust me. Women that are interested are seeing that you are, that you are participating and they like that and they like that. And you know what? As they see you participate more, you'll be amazed that when maybe they will comment to something. Here's another, just a little tip on the memes that are like pick a number and i you know i want to do this to you or that to you or this to you if every number you pick is like show me your tits that's probably not going to work out real well for you okay mr man is going to rescue dogs so we don't know what's going on with with right now. So the thing is, think that through just a little bit in terms of how you respond back to pictures. Now, I want to talk about pictures a little bit, guys, when you're posting pictures. This is something that we see all the time, okay? And I'll have Miss Amanda, when she comes back in here, hit on this a little bit also. Guys, you know what? Especially guys that are big, burly guys, whatever the case may be. You know what? Smile. Look, if you want to get better responses from women in pictures, look, this is not a football picture to try to look tough or try to look scary or badass or anything else. Just be you. You want to know what women really like to see? They like to see pictures where guys smile. Very much so. Where they look happy. Okay, wait. Now now let me ask you this question okay if if there was a dude big burly guy you know handsome enough sexy enough guy whatever but a big burly dude and he could put pictures on and he's got the fucking like big burly dude look on his face don't like that like i would look before you get invited to bar like don't fuck with me look or there's a picture that maybe he has a daughter and was dressed in a little bonnet playing dress up with the daughter which one are you going to be more apt to respond to which picture the one where he's sitting there playing having a tea party yes because it shows a sensitive side exactly so guys but that's just my opinion I know people have their thing but but here's the thing on a page like ours or in a group like our in group out there go ahead and put look there are pictures of me singing with the band that i love okay well i mean there's picture me in my top hat so no shirt on my leather jacket no shirt flick on the cap shades the cap, shades, and top hat. I love that picture. Okay, so let's say I want to put that picture, but then maybe put a picture of when we're out at the park together, or that show more than just the burly, tough guy, quote-unquote
Speaker2:
look.
Speaker3:
With a top hat, you look burly.
Speaker1:
That one looks pretty cool. I'll post it later. That one looks really cool. No, but you know what I mean look guys we get it okay you want to look cool and tough and whatever rock on but you know here's the thing remember this if i'm gonna take and have my old lady go meet your man and if we've never met and you look like a fucking big burly dude that looks somewhat intimidating you know what she ain't gonna get to go meet you till i meet you first it's not gonna happen it's a safety thing you know the thing is is that it's okay to be you and this is the difference from dating when we were younger and we all as guys we're in our teens and 20s thinking we have to be fucking tough so fluff our feathers so chicks can see us you know the cool thing about 30 40 50 and beyond uh chicks like the fact chicks are not chicks sorry women like the fact of of women women Unlike the fact of a guy that is of all parts of your personality not just a silly face makes me laugh yeah versus looking looking pissed off yeah if it look if you look pissed off that's gonna have red flags not red flags but it's gonna have concerns for me to send, to let you meet Miss Amanda alone. And it's not that I'm judging you, but no, it is. I'm sorry. We'd all like to say we don't judge people. You fucking do. If the only thing you know about somebody is the picture they send and it looks like you want to kill somebody. Look, dude, you ain't meeting my old lady without me being there. So you understand that if you hurt her, I'll kill you. and it looks like you want to kill somebody. Look, dude, you ain't meeting my old lady without me being there, so you understand that if you hurt her, I'll kill you. And if the roles were reversed, when you're doing a picture, before you post that picture, if your wife was looking at a guy that you didn't know, what kind of picture is going to have you go, what guy seems like a guy, why don't you go meet him? Think about that for just a second. Now, I understand there are some people that don't smile. Absolutely. But you know by messages, by posts, whatever, kind of the gist of their personality. Exactly, exactly. So show more more very few of us are just that one dimensional show all of your dimensions show show or show a little more you don't have to put yourself completely out there and show everything but show a little bit more of of your thing and again like i said i hate to smile there's a lot of people that do hate to to smile but the thing is is you know what then try for a sexy look your eyes can give uh look i wear dark shades you can't see my eyes so if i if there's a picture of me i have a frown on my face you can't see my eyes you can't you can't get you can't get a feel of anything about me beyond just this little thing of what my picture shows. So try to show some of the things. Show it some of the events. I don't know, just think about the pictures. Look at it a little bit. Okay, so. Bite your finger, bite your lip. Whatever. You know what's funny? Watching a guy making fun of duck lips by doing duck lips you know i mean i can't even do them it's just have it's have fun you're asking people you want people to get to know you because you're a fun person and you're you're a nice person so your pictures need to communicate what you're trying to do or the of what you're trying to be now look there's nothing wrong with like we've got some guys on our page that they're working out they're at the gym and they're taking some gym pictures and you know what they're they're in the middle and same with some women also they're in the middle of pumping iron and uh they're pumping iron and everything else and that's not the time to to be like, they're not, they're like in a, you know, serious mode rock on, but then show some other pictures too, because you know what? I've seen you post pictures with your wives or girlfriends when you're having fun and it's a little bit different. Look, it's a softer look, just a little bit. I like Missy's comment. She thought you were an asshole until she met you. A lot of people say that. Because I am an asshole. Colonel Sanders didn't walk around carrying a bucket chicken his whole life and wearing a white suit. But this is the same type of thing. But just so you know, I am an asshole. When you first went into car sales and I saw him and I said, you have got to start smiling. He goes, why? And I said, because you look pissed off all the time. You need to smile. And so then he'd smile all the time. I'm just a dick. Just stick with I'm just an asshole. We'll just go. He's just a glass. Yeah, just a fucking cock knocker. Okay, now I'm going to say one other thing too. And this is, since I'm in the mode of fucking pissing people off and being unpopular. Really?
Speaker3:
What?
Speaker2:
In the mood?
Speaker1:
Yeah, you're in the mood to piss people off. Okay, so here's the thing.
Speaker3:
Or in the mode, whichever.
Speaker1:
Now, I know that the fucking in thing is beards. And obviously, I can't grow a fucking full beard, okay? Call it the one nut thing. I have my little landing strip, whatever. Or as I was called, my 2000 landing strip today.
Speaker2:
Bitch.
Speaker3:
I might have called him out, dude.
Speaker1:
But understand, guys. I get it. But it's like any hairstyle or anything else, okay? Every woman has different tastes. It's not a rip on your personality or anything else okay not every woman has different tastes it's not a rip on your personality or anything but if you're putting them to go for a one-on-one meeting okay and let's say that you don't like guys with thinning hair well and i put a thing out there you're probably not going to want to fucking come see me because well that's me okay so if it's somebody that not into big beards um one plus one equals two so we're just gonna go on a limb and go maybe they're just not in that style now i know that i think there's like five women left in the world that don't like beards i'm married to one of them and i'm hoping i'm desperately searching for the other four no but if it's they can make you look it can add to a mean look to a degree yes really i don't know why i don't care for him i don't care yes it doesn't mean i turn a guy down if he had a kick-ass personality and he was an outgoing person well okay mostly guys i go out with aren't outgoing but um if you have a kick-ass personality i can overlook but it may hinder you getting to that point yes you may hinder because and again it it it just what but understand there is a you have to be conscious of the fact look when i had my hair super long back when i could have my hair super long whatever and leather taken for a female it's a great show folks love y'all no but when i had my hair super long and i'd wear a leather jacket and ripped up jeans whatever there was that look got a certain response from people right okay beards can do the same thing okay again we're not telling you it's right wrong or indifferent we're just telling you understand so you have to be conscious of putting some pictures where you show the lighter side of you also that that's really important and i'm not making i'm not making fun of anything everybody likes their thing all of my kids have beards and it's just like why but that's what they choose they have young looking faces i get it to make you look older right whatever i know it's no shave november and i know everybody's growing it and you know what i don't care that's not going to hinder personalities and everything no but the goal is we're trying to get we just want to make sure we're trying to give guys ways to get to the point where their personalities in person can show through right okay are we at halfway already that's yes babs oh fuck okay let me take a quick break uh actually it's not a break just real quick let me tell you about we just got it done it's all redesigned it's badass as fuck i love it check out our brand new crazy casbah website it is fucking awesome we have a blog on there we have information on our shows information on upcoming events after corona is over uh we have it's really cool www.crazycasba.com check it out check out the brand new design uh and and let us know what you think it's i'm pretty excited we're excited about it so check that out today okay back back to the important stuff so let's talk a little bit about so we talked about pictures we talked about responding to pictures we've talked about pictures right what kind of pictures you put on and realistic expectations i want to talk about what you're saying in your post what what you're saying, what you're asking for. Okay. Okay. Because this, this is a part, I don't think people understand. Okay. Being a classically trained speaker and having taken years and years of speech classes and communication classes, I have a unique, it's a big part of my world. that's why i say fuck so much because it communicates so much better uh anyways so there are when there are certain things the way you word things that completely change the perception that people are going to have of yours so i'm going to hit on a couple of things now there's i don't want everybody to take this wrong way but we've all done it i'm going to talk about putting out there about hall passes okay i'm going to talk about meeting up with people okay okay here is the thing guys i'm telling i'm speaking to you right now from the bro heart okay because i've done this myself if you put a post out there and you say you have a hall pass
Speaker2:
Here we go. from the bro heart okay because i've done this myself if you put a post out there and you say
Speaker1:
you have a hall pass or your wife or something other says you have a hall pass here's the deal do you know how much response that i get when i put a post out like that i do you do zero now in the our situation we have some people that will assume I'll see you next time. when i put a post out like that i do you do zero now in our situation we have some people that will assume because we do the show or because a lot of people know who who we are or know me that i get a lot of responses so they don't respond which is not the case but the bigger reason why we don't get responses when you put out the word hall pass what are you actually saying to what is what are all the women and the single women and the couples hearing when they when they hear hall pass they're hearing fuck they're hearing sex okay they're not hearing come on let's have some drinks and just have a good time they're hearing hook up now we understand you know when you wrote that and i knew when i wrote that that wasn't what i necessarily meant but i was putting out there so that hey if you know if shit can turn into that hubba hubba way we go but that's instantly that's a turnoff that's a not a turnoff it's a red flag look even in a mismanagement of the type that we believe in having no problem hooking up on a first first meeting if if everything's going right right even when we have had couples that we are planning to meet just to have sex with we had an exit strategy so if we got there and it wasn't it wasn't what you thought it just didn't click it just didn't feel right you had an exit strategy think about this for a minute guys and spouses. Okay. If somebody puts that out there, you don't know them as another man. How comfortable am I going to be to send Miss Amanda to go meet somebody that they don't know that's expecting sex? I'm not, but you go, but we're not expecting sex. It doesn't matter what you're expecting. You said hall hall pass i'm thinking you're wanting to get laid that makes sense well probably to a degree you are well yeah we're hoping for it that might not be the prime thing but that's what it sounds like and then on top of it where do we usually say let's meet a bar a bar so now okay now you want me as a husband to send my wife to go meet somebody who wants to get laid at a bar alone and you're right now you're sitting on no i just wanted to meet people but that's not what i heard that when i hear hall pass that's not what that means to me it that's not what it means to to miss amanda that's not what I heard. When I hear hall pass, that's not what that means to me. That's not what it means to Miss Amanda. That's not what it means to a lot of people. We hear that and we go, oh, they've got a chance if I can get laid, which that's fine. That's a lifestyle. They want to get laid. And then you go to a location like a bar. Let me put it to you this way. When was the last time you read a news article about a rash of people being roofied at the zoo i'll wait okay you don't right okay but we hear all the time about people being roofied at a bar if i don't know you do you see that do you see the issue with that? And so the thing is, is that that wasn't your intention, but that's the way it comes across. Plus when you're putting it out there, you're what, what's coming out is you're actually, Hey, I have a hall pass. I want to do something with somebody or with people. That's what you're actually saying but everybody assumes hall pass one-on-one so what my thing is is this is to say okay let's reword that guys when you're going to put it out there and this goes for spouses too because god love you did it for me i want you to know i'm going to be gone cole has a hall pass to so that because figuring that, well, if they know, then then people will be feel safe. They know that I give that I give permission if something were to happen. Right. Right. So but let's reword it. OK, it's still the same thing. So you reword that post and go, hey, my husband or or hey my wife is going to be gone this weekend i get to get to go out and can meet up and have fun with people this weekend that could still be construed as sex okay well i get to meet up i can go out and meet with people i can go do i can put on my own meet and greet or i can go you, I want to meet more people in the lifestyle. People, not person, people, not women, people, right? I'm open to ideas of where we can go. And so, so it, it's, you know, because the answer to the hall pass sounds like an expectation. So we leave hall pass out of that whole conversation. Who interested in getting together i have my you know my husband or wife is is gone for the weekend and i want to go out i don't want to be stuck at home by myself well some you know does someone want did someone but are there some people are there some people that like to go hang out?
Speaker2:
It sounds silly, but it will make all the difference in the world. Now, here's the thing. I know that probably some of you are going, well, but then how do we communicate the hall pass part? If you click with someone. If you click, you can put in there, hey, I want to get together with people, you know.
Speaker1:
I have permission to go out and meet, and I have permission to go meet with people or go have fun with people or go have an event. But more importantly, Ms. Amanda's right. If it comes up that you have start to click with somebody, then you can bring up the hall pass. Or if somebody comes out, reaches out and goes, wait a minute, do you have a hall pass? I do, but I'm more concerned about just getting out of the house and then letting it go where it can because here's what happens when you do hall passes and we saw this in a couple things we saw some people with hall passes themselves we saw uh we had somebody that commented uh their husband just wanted to go out and do anything and no one responded it is amazing how what little what difference a little word will do people versus all passes and that overall that in opening up to everybody here's the other thing if if people feel open, maybe Amanda and I are sitting there going, well, we need something to do. Well, let's go out and see what's going on with this guy or these people or whatever. We may go out as a couple, but you may still be the one to bang him if it works out.
Speaker3:
I personally wouldn't go walk into, well, okay.
Speaker1:
I'm kind of the shy one, and I actually probably would not go walking into anywhere by myself it's an unknown that's my fear is to get in there and I don't know who I'm looking at because well I don't know what they look like and then I'm like going well is that the one I don't remember is that the one if it's somebody I know I have no problem walk into a place by myself but well and here's the other thing location let's go back to roofing and think people at the zoo okay for a second a bar is is intimidating think about this if you go to a bar by yourself and you drink then you have the risk of driving home getting too drunk when before we were ever in the lifestyle uh or actually even when we were in the lifestyle but before we ever played alone every year after the day after thanksgiving miss amanda would go out to her grandmother's house okay so i was home that weekend because i worked i specifically never went out that weekend the reason why i didn't go out that weekend was to make sure that i never because i like to drink so we all know when cole starts drinking and there's a bunch of people i'm gonna start fucking there's a damn good chance that i may end up getting a little out of control trying to have too much fun a little bit too much to drink but i wasn't going to put myself in a situation to do something i shouldn't so a bar and there's a lot of people like that a bar is is you know kind of a unique scenario so why not say hey you know let's see if we can get it let's see if we can get a group of people to meet at a coffee shop okay now granted right now it's hard because of the with the the corona and that obviously needs to be a thought process that needs to be in your mind at all times with this but seriously think about the location when it gets nicer to summer and everything like that hey let's all meet at a park let's all meet it again it's still public because there's safety numbers then everybody as a group can decide where they want to go when you say bar because here's the deal i promise you you'll have better luck to have a single female or a female that maybe also has a hall pass be willing to come out to a coffee shop to start the evening off versus a bar. Very true. I mean, it sounds, look, so much of this shit sounds stupid. But I'm telling you, it's the little things that will make all the difference in the world. Every single bit of it. that most people they're really they are we're we're nervous and excited especially the first time you get a hall pass or the first time you get that opportunity to and and it's exciting but realistically let me ask you something i well no i'm not gonna ask i'm gonna say this because i've lived it most of the time i would have killed to have thought how i worded shit better and have went out ended up having 5 10 15 people however many people showed up show up have a great fucking time and went home not getting laid versus sitting at home checking my phone checking my messages checking my phone checking my messages hoping that someone will reach out and not and honestly you okay we were just talking about this do you want to know when most people will tell you what they how much they would have liked to have gone out right after the day after your hall pass has expired but no one ever bothers to say and this is why we're doing the show no one ever bothers to say hey look there's a better way they'll just go well you know i didn't i couldn't make it or whatever no that's not necessarily true it was a comfort level is why they couldn't make it that that's really the bigger thing there's a comfort level there we all agree that that you should never expect sex and you should never be expected to have sex and most of and 99% of people when we put that out there we're actually not expecting that we're hoping I mean let's face it how many of us we all go to lifestyle events hoping that we get laid I mean I do if you don't come on seriously that's what this is all about that's why we do this yeah making friends is a fun part but you hope to get a little you know maybe a little something you know all kinds of whatever all kinds of whatever, something, but we want to do something to have fun. But the thing is, is if, if no one goes, Hey, look here, here's a better way, you know, here, here's, here's a little bit different, a different way to approach it. Guys, if you, if, if you see what doesn't work and you see it over and over again, about every two months, you'll see some guy go just on our page on a tear about it fucking sucks. Women don't like our pictures. They don't do this. They don't do that. Wah. OK. Definition of insanity. Doing the same thing. Expecting a different result. Why in the flying fuck, that'd be two shots, kids. Why in the flying fuck would you do what didn't work for anybody else before? Because they didn't know it didn't work. Because they didn't know it didn't work. And so that's why I'm happy to tell you I have lived it. It doesn't work for me. Okay, so Hope has a good question. Did you feel rejected if no one reaches out to you yes uh it felt it felt horrible it it was horrible you feel like that you are you you just want to die a little bit to be perfectly honest with you uh probably knocks your self-esteem it crushes your self-esteem and uh you as as a married couple you reach this point where it's like uh well and this is funny you'll laugh at this because i sit there and go i feel like i'm just her fucking shadow she's i crack jokes about it all the time now that she's the selling point that miss amanda's selling point i'm not because you start to feel that way and you start to feel like, just like, uh, a second fiddle. Now that's when initially happened. I don't feel that way anymore because I've understood, uh, I, I understand a little bit more what, how women perceive it. How they're looking at that post and how that comes across how it comes across do you think that every woman
Speaker3:
that puts it well you know i don't know if i ever had a hall pass i'm sure i have
Speaker1:
the last fucking 10 months you've been fucking somebody at work yes you have a hall pass i'm sorry yours is that fucking one you stole you start your freshman year in high school that Thank you. the last fucking 10 months you've been fucking somebody at work yes you have a hall pass i'm sorry yours is that fucking one you stole you start your freshman year in high school that has lasted till you graduate yeah no yeah you have all bad but if i put out there that i'm looking for how many people reach out how many guys actually reach out well and okay so that that's the other part of this is that, guys, we all need to understand something. We think, we have this perception that women are getting laid at just at will, just easy peasy. Some of them are. There are ways to do that, which is to just say yes. Oh, hey, look, you're fucking, you know, a leopard. Come fuck me. Okay okay that's a little different ball game but women get a lot of empty fucking uh promises and empty empty flattery as well okay so and and plus let's face it guys a woman has to deal with she can go through all the things guys all excited that it doesn't work i mean there's just a lot of things it's not easy for it's not easy for anybody somebody's like you know they have a hall pass it's not it's not easy for for anybody to do this and i think it's something that we all have to be aware of i think sometimes in the lifestyle we all put too much emphasis on, we put our self-worth based upon the responses we get to pictures, the responses we get to, to call passes, the responses we get, you know, our self-worth, your self-worth is not determined by getting how many hearts and thumbs up you get on a fucking picture. It shouldn't be. And when you're a couple, you know what? Look, a couple or a single, personality is what wins it all. Okay? There's little things that you can do to take and make sure that you increase the opportunity to let your personality shine through. Okay, and that's cool. And that's, I guess, guys, that's one of the other things I'm telling you right now. This is part of the bro show, man. This is coming from the heart. Be you.
Speaker2:
Yeah.
Speaker1:
Be real. Look, you know what? Here's the deal. I know I am not everybody's cup of tea and I don't give two flying fucks. I used to.
Speaker2:
I don't. And you know what? If I'm not your cup of tea, rock on. That's okay. If we can be friends, kick ass. If you don't like me and don't want anything to do with me because you think I'm a dick, I don't fucking care. It isn't going to bother me. If you want to fuck me, rock on. Hey, if we're both, that works, let's fuck. If we just want to be friends, rock on. Let's be friends. It's okay. But the one thing that I have learned as I've gotten older, and obviously I have a million things to work on and get better at, like not saying fuck so much, get another bottle, Shelly, is that what you see is what you get. I'm who I am, and that's all be okay i'm who i am i used to try to take and and hide shit about me i'm a highly emotional guy a highly emotional guy okay you know what i'm the dude i cry at some movies fucking if you watch the veterans coming home thing it gets me dog the owners where the the owners have died and the dogs won't leave the I cry at some movies. Fucking, if you watch the Veterans Coming Home thing, it gets me. Dog, the owners have died and the dogs won't leave the grace. I cry every fucking time at that shit, okay? It is what it is. I'm who I am at this point in time. I am a one-ball rock star that sometimes need a MyDol in a Lifetime movie. And it is what it is. That's who I am. And that's okay to be me and you know what each one of you guys just be you just be you which brings me to my other point i want to get this forward because we're running out of time fuck we need to do longer shows um okay so part of the lifestyle is exploring and and new things you know um woody allen and don't bitch about whether Woody Allen's a good person. That's secondary. Doesn't fucking matter to the story. There's another shot for you. Woody Allen once said that I'm a practicing heterosexual, but becoming bisexual would increase your chance for a date by 50%. That's true. Here's the deal. Gentlemen,
Speaker1:
if you happen to be by or by curious, if you don't let people know that you're missing an opportunity. We have a lot of guys on our page, uh, that are by or by curious. And I know that, uh, we have a lot of guys on our page that would be much more apt to I'll see you're bisexual or you're you're bi curious you know what either put that out there or possibly go to someone else to help get that message out okay because i think what happens is you you miss that opportunity and i think there are some things that are more again where I'm straight it you know I'm kind of speaking out of my ass a little bit I guess but there are some things that might be a little bit easier in more of a one-on-one setting than than like I say versus kind of a whole meet-and-greet type deal. But we constantly, constantly, let me fucking say it one more time, constantly have guys that are by going, hey, you know, can you put something out on the page about this? Because I'm kind of interested or whatever. Or we have guys that you'll see a meme that asks and there's a lot of guys that will. And they'll say, oh, my God, I can't believe how many other guys are by. Yeah, you know what? If you are. Note that we don't mind posting for somebody. Happy to. And I forward messages anytime somebody even sends me one, I forward it to the person. Absolutely happy. Look, and if you don't want to come necessarily to us or the admin of whatever page or group you're on if you have other friends on there whatever but put that message out there you know you you're you're going to get zero uh percent of what you don't ask for no wait that's wrong what how did i say that what the fuck did i just say have i been drinking you're gonna get 100 of what you don't ask for zero right whatever I mean? If you don't ask, you're not going to get it is where this whole thing is going. So the thing is, is that if that is, if that is part of who you are, and again, this goes back to being you, if that's part of who you are and part of what you're looking for in the lifestyle, you have to let people know so that so that opportunity can present itself or be there i mean i you know i don't i don't know i mean i understand it's a challenge i guess the the biggest thing is is that again it's about being who you are being comfortable with who you are, and having realistic expectations and looking at little things. If anybody, if you get anything out of this whole fucking show, anything out of this, be yourself. Be yourself and be honest and change little things. Look at the little things. I'm trying to give a good analogy with this. It's like if you got in, okay, here's a good one. If you go to work, you work hard all day, you're a sweaty, stinky mess, right? The first time you come home and all you do is you just hop in the shower, but you don't use soap. You just run a water on you.
Speaker2:
Okay.
Speaker1:
You get out. The next day, people are like, because you're still kind of stinking, right? So the next day, you're like, well, fuck, that didn't make that all go away. So the next day, you come home, you hop in the shower, and you use a little bit of soap on like part of your body you're just like okay keep what i'm saying here is keep change till you get to the point you soap on your whole body god damn it what i'm trying to say fuck you what i'm trying to say is don't just keep doing the same thing go why do i still stink why does it still smell funny change well you can do
Speaker3:
little subtle differences and that might make all the difference in the world with it taking out
Speaker1:
taking out the word taking out the word i'm telling you just taking out the word hall pass if you just change how you write that up how you post that i truly believe that you will have you can have some great weekends i think you can have some awesome adventures and times and whatever
Speaker2:
I don't know. Write that up, how you post that. I truly believe that you can have some great weekends.
Speaker1:
I think you can have some awesome adventures and times and whatever. And it's such a little thing.
Speaker3:
Well, plus, keep in mind where you post it and when you post it.
Speaker2:
Exactly.
Speaker3:
There's some people that posted for quite a bit of the week and I saw it. But even as an admin of a page, some wife said that her husband had had posted. I never saw his post.
Speaker1:
Yeah, we never saw it.
Speaker3:
And I would even, I'd have to be part of the crew that approved it. I didn't prove it. I never saw it.
Speaker1:
There's just a lot of things you have to be conscious of. Holy shit. Show's over. Fuck, we gotta go. Jesus Christ. Hey, one last time. Shelly, if you're still here, fuck, have another shot. That's called a nightcap. Hey, once again, we want to thank everybody. Thank our sponsors. AltPlayground.net. Find us on there, Crazy Casbah, a great site. You need to sign up today. AltPlayground.net. Don't forget to read, get smart, get crazy. All those things go to ASNLifestyleMagazine.com Sign sign up today uh subscribe today look for our ads in there and remember don't just listen don't just read buy the swag uh go to fullswapshop.com today check out all the shows and asn uh merchandise is going to be on there and finally check out go to www.crazykazba.com check out our new site let. Let us know. If you like the show, you have questions, things you want to talk about, send us an email, crazy.kazba at gmail.com. Follow us at YouTube. You can also do a direct link on our website now. But that would be youtube.com backslash kazba. You can find Miss Amanda at OnlyFans.com backslash MissAmandaCasba. See your cooter. Find us on Pornhub. Find us on Instagram at... Crazy.Casba. That was smooth. Follow us on Twitter at TruthCrazy. I'll be the one getting blown up. so with that being said that i think is everything so with that all being said kids doing it the only way i know how the only way i want to and the only way i ever motherfucking will chasm style out
