Krazy Truth #11 A Swingers Sermon

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Speaker1: Hey kids, the program you're about to listen to contains some adult situations, adult language, themes, and other adult topics. If you're easily offended, this show's not for you. Be sure to like and follow Crazy Truth on Swingtowns. Swingtowns has been around for 20 years, so they're an established, well-known site with lots of users. So you'll be able to easily find people you're interested in and unlike other big sites on swing towns you don't have to worry about being bombarded with messages from people you're not interested in because only people you're interested in can message you and the best part is you can message those people for free on swing towns welcome back to another edition of crazy tooth how are you crazy motherfuckers doing today i'm here the host with the most cole with the lovely miss amanda hi and we are ready for another episode of crazy debauchery this is episode number 11 you might go live and you know what i should go live this episode no absolutely not keep rolling right along this is episode 11 and we are ready to roll so you know we're going to start the show kind of like we usually do but it kind of a little bit different just a scoge i've got weird sex news all right so the weird sex news of the day or the week here's the deal i didn't even read through this all the way because this is so fucking retarded that i just decided to keep it pretty you know just it's too stupid for words so there was a man who took and put his car in a river while he was trying to jack off what no i thought he was trying to give himself a blow job oh man it doesn't matter jack off blow job whatever the case may be dude here's how this works if you can't steer and do it don't do it don't try this this is not rocket science at all just wait a little bit go to a rest stop pull over for just a second have a sandwich walk around have a cigarette jack off suck your own dick whatever it is you're going to do but don't put your car in a river i didn't even research this as much that's how that's how absolutely stupid this is so yeah so there's our tip the crazy casbah the uh crazy casbah the crazy truth tip of the day don't try to suck your own dick when driving if you're gonna have somebody else do it Thank you. The crazy truth tip of the day, don't try to suck your own dick when driving. If you're going to have somebody else do it, rock on. Rock on. Roll with that shit. That's awesome. Otherwise, you know, and don't break your car then. Yes, it's illegal. We all know that, but just don't get caught. All right the regular let's go on with the regular show we're gonna do what we always do this week uh we are going to take and answer our our questions our mail bag of questions so i'll tell you what why don't you introduce the first question today what do you want me to see this is during the production meeting somebody wasn't paying total total attention during the production meeting yeah go ahead well i wouldn't go that far I don't know.
Speaker2: I don't know.
Speaker1: I don't know.
Speaker2: I don't know.
Speaker3: I don't know.
Speaker2: I don't know.
Speaker1: I don't know. I don't know.
Speaker2: I don't know. I don't meeting. Somebody wasn't paying total attention during the production meeting. Yeah, go ahead. Well, I wouldn't go that far. I listen. We're off to a great start today. Eh. I agree to disagree. It's my birthday weekend. We might be hungover. Rumor has it. We're not for sure. Well, me. I'm assuming if I was drunk, you had to have been, too. No. I'm just going to assume everybody was drunk with me. No. Tipsy? I started off that way. Well, actually, I started off earlier in the day. That's because somebody started day drinking before somebody else did. Because I was supposed to be responsible and watch after you later.
Speaker1: That's right. And apparently you did because now I'm hungover.
Speaker2: There you go.
Speaker1: I'm not really hungover. I'm just sweating rum right now. I'm just sweating straight rum. It's a little warm in the Casbah Studios today, and I'm absolutely sweating straight rum. So I'm like one of those frogs. If you lick them, they'll get you high. If you were to lick me right now, you'd be drunk. We'll try it later. Whoa it does. All right, you want to go? Do you want me to go? I can do it. It doesn't matter. You go. You lead us. Okay. So the first question comes from Seattle. Sweet. Sweet. How do you deal with flakes? Okay. So this is going to be a good show. Okay. So flakes. First of all, let's put it out there. we've all had that up time that situation you go to set up there i'm assuming they're referring to something like if you're going to meet people and you have this whole date dinner sex thing planned out and then they don't show up well number one here's the deal shit does happen well yes i mean people get all bent out of shape the first time somebody canceled we've seen this before on the page that we run and all the rest where people get all upset because somebody can't show up or canceled the last minute right i remember in theory swinging is supposed to be like a hobby right it's supposed to be a hobby and not like the dominant thing so look at it this way it's like you're supposed you have a tea time and you're supposed to meet your buddies uh at like 7 a.m for a tea time but you wake up and your back hurts so you call your buddies and you cancel does that make you a flick do all your buddies get all pissed off and go on facebook and say you're an ass and everything because your back was sore but maybe they're referring to people that just don't show don't call don't show you never call me you never i never hear from you anymore no it's some people don't have enough respect or common courtesy to call and say i can't make it or something came up or i really don't feel like you know i don't have a good feeling about this and i don't you know we can't meet right which is true and okay and i get that that's damn annoying especially if we're fortunate because we don't have we don't have to arrange babysitters or any of that kind of stuff anymore. But I can absolutely see where if you, you know, you have to it's a it's a week long process just to get the time date and everything set up. But then all of a sudden you have to take and, you know, somebody cancels at the very last cancels at the very last second or just doesn't show up. That sucks. OK, and doubt here's the deal you're going to run into assholes that are going to do that you're going to get ghosted you're going to go there you're going to have the drinks you're going to you know we're sitting there and then the people just don't show up it happens how you deal with it i mean some people it's like we've talked about other issues on other shows you may go through a stretch of bad luck where you have you know it could happen two three four five times in a row right and and that's going to pitch off so step one is if that's happening to you a lot maybe you need to look at how you're communicating leading up to it just saying not not that flakes are your not that flakes are your fault okay we're not saying that they're necessarily your fault because here's the deal some people are just fucking loons i mean it is what it is some people are just dicks and they're loons right so but there's a chance that maybe you need to look at uh maybe after you set up that that meat that maybe you're coming on too strong and you're scaring people away a little bit. That can happen. Maybe you are taken and you're not communicating enough. People need that reassurance. The other thing you want to look at is what kind of questions were you asking ahead of time? So if you're consistently going after newbies, right? Fresh meat. You're always going after newbies. Newbies will get cold feet. Yes. Okay. They were really sure they were all excited about this, and they were up until the point of it actually it's time to make it happen. And then couple with there's an embarrassment if all of a sudden you're going to take and you can't you can't show up whatever there's embarrassment there so the way a lot of people in this world just do it is they they take in instead of being adult about it because we know this is an adult activity instead of being adult about it and they just won't show so you know obviously kind of keep that in mind if you're consistently having trouble with newbies then maybe you want to look at talking to a couple that's a little more experience just saying or maybe where are you where are you meeting them that could have a lot to do with it. Because, okay, we love social media because that's safe, right? We don't actually have to interact with anybody. We can be keyboard cool, right? So we can take and we've got our profile and they've got their profile on whatever site it is. And we shoot each other messages and we send each other outdated pictures. Or we send you know or don't and you should send current pictures but we communicate but there's never actually in it any real interaction with the couple right so you can't have anything that's going to gauge that maybe shows that maybe they're a little bit a little bit iffy a little bit flaky in general just kind of like scatterbrained or whatever so maybe you need to look at changing and going to more actual meet and greets you know where it's actual face-to-face actual contact with the people where you're actually forced to do things like shake hands and like give a hug and you can actually kind of read their expression and kind of get a get a feel for the actual people but what if you live in like a real small town out in the middle of nowhere and you set up to meet another couple or a person you don't have access to meet and greets without having to drive several hours that's true that's true and and that's part of a risk that you take then use your social media to try to get in with other other groups because obviously look even if you're in the middle of nowhere there's other people in the middle of nowhere also that are usually part of part of a group communicate with a multitude of people to try to develop some relationships most most clubs or groups are going to have some sort of party every once in a while or they're going to know or a house party is going to come up to recommend to to go to i mean the other part of it is it's just part of it i mean how you react to it is half the battle if you we've seen people that just lose their shit when they get stood up right and then in turn what i don't think they realize is they take in and it can then that attitude can come across to the next couple that you're trying to meet with because one of the first things people then do is they're saying hey well you know the last people we tried to meet with they were such fucking flakes they ghosted us and and well that's gonna scare couple b that's just innocent people away it's like oh these people are kind of mean so so i mean you have to remember don't you can't you can't judge the new couple you're starting to meet based on the experience of the old couple right you know the the rural area that's a huge challenge yes that is a huge huge channel channel what oh yeah hold on hold on no i haven't tasting the sweat yeah that's wrong all right so i mean it's a huge it's a huge challenge but you just have to kind of you have to look at the whole overall picture you can't take it personal okay you can't you can't get yourself all bent out of shape and worked up into a lather yeah but people can't have common courtesy even if you're all of a sudden chickening out you can easily message them because everybody can talk freely through message and not have to speak their voice yes can easily say you know i i don't i don't feel comfortable or i'm not ready or whatever the case may be right or come up with a well, literally. Most of us can understand the first time around, if you're scared to go to somebody, meet them, you can go, you know, I'm not ready. Right. Well, and kind of even with that, where were you going to meet? I think that can play into it really big time. A lot of people go, well, how's that dealing with Blake? Well, here's the thing. You have to put yourself in a position to succeed. So if you're trying to set up where they're going to come to your house, okay, or to go to their house, that can be really intimidating, really intimidating. So make sure you're trying to set up for somewhere that's neutral,
Speaker2: like a regular bar or a restaurant or whatever the case may be something that's neutral because that's something that's gonna trigger some people that to want to flake out and then they're not going to want some people are not going to want it to actually deal and be honest and say hey this is happening or we have to cancel because they're afraid of what the reputation they'll get. They don't understand that you flake out and you ghost people. You're getting a bad reputation right there. The other thing I'm going to throw in there, keep in mind, I think it happens more than people like to admit. You know, if all of a sudden the woman goes on her period, that can cause people to have to cancel. And although you would think we're all adults, it's nature, nobody, you know, there's not a single woman out there that just goes, oh, sweet, it's time for my period. Yay. I mean, do you know of anyone who ever liked that? No. no okay so even though we know that's that's it's a it's a natural thing sometimes women will be embarrassed embarrassed and they'll be upset and they just will they just like that's it they kind of it's like a freeze type thing and they don't you know they're afraid the other couple's gonna be mad and and the whole nine yards so you know kind of keep that in mind a little bit there's a lot of things that can come up don't let one ghosting or one flake totally throw you off the final point with that singles i gotta hit on singles because we hear this a lot with singles a lot you will have less chance of a couple flaking out of you in my opinion my highly untrained opinion than you will a single single male or single female because as a general rule singles when you're setting up with another couple every couple understands has a bunch of there's more hoops to jump through so you you've jumped through the hoops so you know now you want to like you know buck where a single is more you know a better date came up a better opportunity came up so keep that in mind of course right now all the singles listening motherfuckers hate singles but i mean it's it's true it can happen just a little bit so just kind of look at the overall picture and keep everybody you know all of that kind of in the thought process and look at what you're doing and how you do it better and then just don't overreact and absolutely do not go on social media of any kind when you're pissed off about somebody having flaked on you and blast them on social media yeah i mean you you if you want to vent i suppose but do not go on and actually like use their handle or you know or their actual names do not go on and bash them because at that point in time even though they they did you wrong, you look like the asshole.
Speaker4: So you always want to kind of keep that in mind.
Speaker1: Don't do that. All right.
Speaker4: That was better than I thought.
Speaker2: There you go.
Speaker1: All right. Excuse me. All right. So our next question, this is a good one i'm brand new and i'm really shy should i even go to a party or to a club and that question comes to us from the rural midwest that's they ask us to say rural midwest Midwest. Okay. So this is interesting. This is really, really interesting because we have an advantage because we're a couple. Right. Okay. And the truth is, as a couple, you do have an advantage because you know, well, in theory, it should be, in theory, you know that no matter how much shit goes south we know if nobody else talks to us we can talk to each other right so we can we we you you know it's like the buddy system if one of us starts to drown the other one can help out very true i got all kinds of analogies today golf buddy okay anyways so the the thing is is that we know that so for a single that gets i i mean i can absolutely appreciate how much more intimidating that would be because you're really walking into a situation and it's just you as a single i i don't know i don't know if i could do it i don't know either so there you go there's part of it if i knew somebody that was there if i didn't know somebody that was there i don't know if i'd walk in i would be shy okay well absolutely so and that's getting the female perspective even as a single male if i was a single male and let's please note here we're both happily together no time to be in signal we play alone but we're staying together buddy system uh no so the thing is even even as a single male i would i could see that would be intimidating i think a single male would have it easier than a single female why uh single male you can kind of mill around you can kind of be you know bravado a little bit you can you know talk about sports you can i don't i don't know it's just like you saw you've seen it at part we've seen it parties where a single male can go park themselves up at the bar and you can act like you can look like a bar fly like you're waiting for somebody and and no one really even notices where a single female okay you what do you do you go sit at a table by yourself do you go stand in a in a corner i think that sometimes women can be and this isn't a rip on women, okay? So everybody put away your torches, just saying. But I think sometimes that women can be a little more intimidating for another woman to walk up to. They're more intimidating for a guy to walk up to. You get a pack of women. A single guy, you're going to be kind of careful walking up there walking up there because just saying so for a single woman to walk up to another group of women that you don't know and just be like hi i'm amanda how are you no i'm gonna stop you a second you know me obviously yes i do sexy as hell would i randomly walk into a club or a meet
Speaker2: and greet or whatever by my even married by myself how much have you had to drink i can have quite a bit to drink but would i personally go in and talk to people I don't know.
Speaker1: I don't know.
Speaker2: I don't know. I don't know.
Speaker1: I don't know.
Speaker2: I don't know.
Speaker1: I don't know.
Speaker4: I don't know. think but would i personally go in and talk to people if i knew no one okay now you'd be more apt to okay how about when we first started when we first started no no when we first started, you would, you would not have felt comfortable.
Speaker2: I was the quiet one sitting there and you would talk to everybody because you're way more outgoing than I am.
Speaker1: To be honest, and we got to be honest, we've always been honest on that because of the truth, hence the title. Even when, when we first started, I, a lot of times when we go out to new places, I'm not near as ajo the circus monkey you know i'm like woo you know i'm not quite that depends on how much you've had to drink again number of cocktails always but but i'm not i'm not as i'm not as outgoing even in that situation so i i can be a little more timid so the the question though was i'm shy why would i want to go what you want to go because you also just understand there are going to be other singles there that guess what at one point in time they were the new person they were they were that person coming in right uh and even the couples there have an understanding of people being shy and being reserved a little bit and being concerned. Now, you can do a couple things to help offset that. One, you can, again, you had to have heard about the meet and greet, the party, whatever, somehow. Whether, media uh whatever the case whatever the case may be you you've heard about that somewhere so you know reach out you know put posts on it let people know say hey i'm a single female i'm really excited i'm new i'm looking forward to be there who's all going to be there it's a good way that you don't actually know them but you can feel a little bit more comfortable the other thing you can do is you can really reach out to whoever's putting on the event yes usually your hosts are going to be welcoming because they want you to come back they want you to come back but you still have a responsibility to let them know that you're coming and that let them know your situation there's nothing wrong with saying i'm new and i'm really really shy i know that if we throw an event and we know that someone's really shy we're going to go out of our way to when that person comes in to take them around and introduce them to people or we're going to make sure that there's other people out there to go, hey, Joe, Mary Sue's coming. She's really shy. Can you kind of help introduce – once we're going to introduce her, can you kind of help her feel welcome? So your host should do that, for one. But you you have to let them know, you know, you don't want to just go wallflower and shit. Cause you just go wallflower and just sit there on a wallflower. A lot of times people won't really know what to do with, with you. They'll be almost in, that's almost intimidating to walk up to somebody when they're being really a wallflower.
Speaker4: Yeah. Right.
Speaker1: So, but let, let people know, reach out, kind of, kind of go that way with with it you have a single female that says you need to feel the crowd out first oh oh that's really good okay so go so the single female who's put that on there because obviously for those of you that don't know we also take we also take and go live as well while we're doing this. So tell me what you mean by feel the crowd out. I mean, what do you think that means? I'm trying to read his idea of this.
Speaker2: Well, you get the sense of, well, I would assume. No, I don't feel the crowd out.
Speaker1: That's not what I've heard. Hey, that's funny.
Speaker4: You know it.
Speaker1: I don't feel the crowd out at all okay okay well the the thing is is that you can uh you i don't know you got to get the courage to get in but you're right once you get there feel the crowd out go to the bathroom feel the crowd out go to the bathroom walk in the door and go straight to the bathroom well i mean walk in and kind of just you know act natural i mean that's one of the things just kind of act natural smile at people you know those sorts of things smile big smile welcoming eyes welcoming face but but actually here's the thing go one thing's for sure if you don't go to the party and you sit there at home you won't meet anybody new right go have the courage have faith that people are going to be there for you so now now one time with this same female we went to a bar with her and she says you have to walk in with confidence that's very true yeah you do you you can't walk in you can't walk in anywhere in life like a a whipped pup i mean you know you can't walk in you know you can't you don't you can't walk in scared you you know you have to you have to have that smile on your face you have to have confidence you have to have that so that you're like you know that people want to come and talk to you if you walk in with bitter bitch face uh or if you walk in with douchebaggery written all over you, no one's going to talk to you. It won't happen. But if you walk in friendly and smiling, you're going to be surprised. You have to have faith. You have to have faith. But the biggest thing is go. You have to take the first step because if you don't, you'll regret it.
Speaker4: You may miss the chance to meet somebody and have a great great time all the way across the board very much so you know just have to go with that way high heels and confidence is what somebody put all right uh great great first two questions yes awesome so i'm going to take a second here and hey we want to give a shout out to the sponsor of our second half of the show the american dream half concert hall half gentleman's club one hell of a party with live music every thursday through saturday night and adult entertainment every night never recover but always a great time the american dream 7402 on F omaha nebraska all right and we're back thanks i love doing that that's fine okay so we we because we go live we actually got a question uh from b uh he asked us a question and this is a really good one what do you do when you are having a house party uh and but people want to know, other guests want to know who's coming. Is it okay to let them know? Most definitely. Absolutely. We agree. You had no hesitation. Well, because you want to know who all is going to be there. What if it's somebody that you don't get along with? Absolutely.
Speaker1: We're big believers. We're big believers in full disclosure. In full disclosure. So this way that we can take... I was just reaching for a man just in case people want to know. Full disclosure. You want to make sure at a house party that everybody has a good time. Everybody jives. Now you, again, we kind of touched on this before. You're not going to invite somebody that you don't like to your house party. I mean, unless you're an absolute fucking moron. Hey, you know what?
Speaker2: Let's have a house party.
Speaker1: Let's have a house party. You know, those people, they suck. Let's have them come over. You're not going to do that. Unless it's to end the house party until a later time. So, you know, when they come, they're going to clean out the house. Somebody's going to be like, fuck, we got to go. No, so you're going to invite people that you like. I don't like remember there's two d words one's dick she likes it one's drama nobody likes it to and the to make sure we ensure that you don't have drama you need to go ahead and let people know who's on the guest list it allows people to appropriately, professionally adultly bow out otherwise what happens is you'll have people get there or you have the potential of drama and people literally we've seen it happen at house parties before people show up they're sitting around everybody's having a good time things are just started. And another couple shows up. And the mood is instantly, I mean instantly, killed. And literally, one couple was like, okay, well, we have to leave. They didn't even try to come up with a fucking excuse. They were just like, we got to leave. And literally packed their toys. Like the little kids. They took their toys and went home. They did. They took their toys and went home they did they took their toys and they left and it took the entire mood of the house party and threw it threw it uh out so so you want to take and make sure that everybody everybody is having a good time or that they're going to mesh and it's not your job to go through and go do you like person a do you like person b do you like person c that's not your job no but if you see on the list there's only one person you're interested in playing with it's going to be kind of awkward exactly and you have the right you should have the right at any point time time to respectfully decline invitations. But if you don't know, what you're going to find, if you have a house party and you don't let there be a general invitation or a general guest list out there, people will just, instead of running the risk of actually taking and walking into a potential nightmare they just won't come and they won't come in about so many invites and then they just they they won't even acknowledge invites they just won't uh people don't want to do that because when you're you're making the decision to go to a house party that's different than going to a bar well yeah i mean granted we're all in the lifestyle we know what the idea of it is but that's a different level of a commitment okay when you're taking and you're going you're making plans this is where the whole thing you know what do you tell the sitter well we're gonna be out till three or four oh what are you going bars close at two perkins we're going out to perkins that's it i mean it's a it's a different level of a commitment of what you're going to do that Saturday night. And you don't want to take and go into that and have something that's just a complete and total, something you just can't act. So I would strongly encourage, we would strongly encourage, put out a list. Put out a list keep it updated uh and and obviously you know it doesn't need to be where people can comment on it no but it gives you a chance to as as somebody said it gives you a chance to uh contact other people and get to know them before you meet absolutely and that's a great point that's a and that's an awesome point the the chance to maybe you see that that other couple is going to be in a meet and greet the next weekend you know weekend before the house party so you can get a chance to meet them well the first one that we went to we were given a list we were we went through the list we went on a website we went website website stalking we looked at all their pictures and everything else and we chatted with them sent them emails and there were some people that we were weren't interested in but there were quite a few that we were interested in that's hold on okay that's a good point okay so there a follow with that we got another question right along with that and this is actually a really good point a good question should you let the host know why you're not coming i don't think it's necessary because that can start drama where it doesn't need to be bingo ding. We have a winner. I did that really loud just for the sound guy. That's exactly right. Here's the deal. Host, if you're putting it on, you need to understand. Your guests are not under an obligation to justify their attendance or their non-attendance. And that doesn't matter if it's a fucking hotel takeover and that doesn't matter if it's a fucking hotel takeover that doesn't matter if it's that doesn't matter if it is if it is a uh if it's a if it's a hotel takeover if it's a small meet and greet if it is if it is a a house party okay you need to just be willing to go okay this person can't attend right okay whatever now hopefully if you in a house party situation you have enough of a relationship with the people that you're inviting that they are going to want to tell you right okay now exception because there's always an exception to the rule right i always say who's the exception to the rule cole is uh there's an exception to the rule the exception to the rule would be is look if you are invited multiple times right and there's always the same people on that list and you always say you can't attend at some point in time or or if the host ask you why are you not attending i think that point in time if you if you have a good enough relationship to fuck them sport fucking whatever you want to call it you should have a good enough relationship to say hey here's the deal we don't really care for couple a you know we don't expect you to change who you want to be there and you shouldn't or we've had issues with this couple we're not going to cause anything you have fun with them let it be have fun if everybody else is okay with it and then we hook up at a different time. Don't get pissed at your host if you don't want to tell them why, and they continue to invite these people that you don't necessarily care for. Right. You can't be pissed at them for that, but you just have to know that that's one of those things where you take in, and it's all about relationships and building relationships with it a little bit the other thing is when it comes to this stuff whether you're an attendee or a host okay host you shouldn't demand answers as to why attendees don't lie don't lie why you can't attend just say we're unable to attend period because when you lie when you lie about stupid shit you know it's like well you know the uh uh you know mom's not doing well so that is going to do nothing that's going to do nothing but come back to bite you in the ass and then when somebody finds out that you have lied about it then feelings get hurt and then guess what here we go again drama the d word yes okay so we you know you want to avoid the d word at at all costs and whatever you can do okay so i want to do something different here we have other questions but i want to skip the other questions right now okay look at me get all adventurous. Okay, I'm going to do something a little different. I'm going to go a little bit on a rant. Uh-oh. Okay. I'm going to do a little bit of a rant right now because this is, and we've talked about this really, you've heard this rant before. So this is not like, this is not something that I'm just like, you know, come and pull on my ass randomly okay it's about the lifestyle in general and this is something i i put out there to all of our listeners i don't care what part of the country you're in i don't care what part of the world you're in okay the lifestyle is very very simple or it's supposed to be it's not supposed to be rocket science right uh it's supposed to be about fun it's supposed to be about a good time and an enjoyable experience and this kind of actually ties in with with our person about being shy and being new here's the thing every single one of us out there was new at one point in time we all either as a single or a couple we took a chance and we went into a meet and greet a swinger activity of some variety and to be quite honest if you think back to it we were scared as fuck we were terrified we didn't know what to expect we didn't know what was going to happen you know we've talked about other shows we didn't know if it was going to turn it into an orgy, we didn't know what to expect we didn't know what was going to happen you know we've talked about other shows we didn't know if it was going to turn into an orgy we didn't know okay and we said we were that couple that sat out in the car contemplating should we walk in did we have courage enough to walk in and every single couple has been there every single single has been there but we all have a choice now what do you do when you see that new couple when you see that single when you see that person do you make the conscious decision and the choice to walk up with a smile on your face and say hi I'm cool this is. This is my wife, Amanda. Are you new? Or do you sit over with your group in a safety and sit there and go and whisper back and forth and look over to everybody? Cause nobody knows who the fuck that person is. And do you ignore them? Because the reality of it is what happens is every time that person, that couple of those people get ignored, they're only going to sit there for so many hours and they're going to and all the planning and the excitement and everything that went into finally making this step to enhance their marriage or enhance their love life or it whatever the why were the fuck they're there it's all going to be gone it's going to be shot and what's going to happen they're going to sit there for an hour two hours whatever they're going to look at each other. They're going to be gone. It's going to be shot. And what's going to happen, they're going to sit there for an hour, two hours, whatever. They're going to look at each other. They're going to get up, and they're going to walk out the door. And they're going to go out and get in their car, and they're going to go, what in the fuck was the point of that? Why did we do that? That was horrible. Nobody even talked to us. That sucked. And that might be the really cool couple that you become great friends with that you may have a great time with that has whatever the case may be but they're not going to come back if they don't they're not going to come back so they can sit there and be ignored again but it's up to each and every one of us now we were fortunate we were very fortunate when when we were new there was a there was another couple when we went to the meet and greet we went to our table or a table by ourselves against a wall against the wall seating for two okay we sat there nervous as fuck got our drinks and just sat there and they came right over to us introduced themselves and said come on we want you to meet people and they took us around every single person every single person and introduced us and introduced who we were and had a small conversation and kept us moving and the whole night we we never sat down by ourselves again at all and guess what it made the courage to go the next time to the club really easy and then when we went to the club the club owners they've become very they've become great friends of ours guess what they did we were brand new that couple was there we walked through the door they said oh hey you guys got to come over here come here come here and call us over so that they could introduce us to the owners of the club like no no no he's busy he's busy Thank you. We walked through the door. They said, oh, hey, you guys got to come over here. Come here, come here, and call us over so that they could introduce us to the owners of the club. We're like, no, he's busy, he's busy. Yeah, we're like, no, no, and the owner of the club was like, I'm never too busy to meet new people, and came over and spent time with us. And every week we went back for the next couple of weeks, guess what? They always had time for us, and they had time for every single new couple. And that's why it made people feel welcome. So the thing is, is when you're sitting there, when you're going to your next lifestyle event, this is where you have a choice to make. Are you going to be the snotty, clicky fuck sticks that everybody hates in the lifestyle? Because we all hate them. We all talk about it ever you can go on any site and see the posts about it or are you going to be the couple or the person that makes a difference and makes somebody swinging first swinging lifestyle bdsm fucking whatever experience rewarding now understand being nice does not mean you have to fuck them that's the thing being nice i don't care if you have no interest in that that person's not the right body type they're not whatever who fucking cares being nice doesn't mean you have to fuck them being nice means you're being nice it's the lifestyle community it may it's what separates it's what separates us from the fucking animals it's what separates us from the rest of just society we're a community we help each other we're there for each other and that's what separates separates it you don't when the new neighbor moves in across the street you don't just drive by and flick them off every day because you don't know them hey fuck you no you don't do that you're trying to meet your neighbors it's a community it's the same thing will you be that person will you be that couple will you rethink back and remember what it felt like when it was you and that is what is makes the difference that's why people are willing to try the lifestyle because they've heard those positive things and it's a choice now if you're a new person listening to this i want to put this disclaimer out here right now so there's no confusion no hate mail by the way if you have hate mail send it to amanda if there's any hate mail there's no hate mail on this just because somebody's nice to you does not mean you have to fuck them it doesn't work that way it doesn't mean that just because they're nice to you you're going to get to fuck them that's not how this works it just means they were nice to you and if everybody's being nice and everybody quits worrying about oh my god i smiled them now i gotta fuck them no it doesn't work that way but you have to make him feel welcome. And when somebody makes that effort to you, when you're the new person sitting there and they make that effort to you, you have a choice also. You can sit there and go, hi, and not follow him and not try. Or you can open up and try and go, hey, nice to meet you. We're're brand new we don't know what's going on and roll with it a little bit and you can have the courage when they say hey you know what i got a group of friends over here i want you to meet uh they're super cool why don't you come join us you know what it's gonna be awkward it's gonna be uncomfortable it's gonna be fucking scary because they're brand new people well did you get in the lifestyle to meet your partner Here we go.
Speaker4: Here we go. awkward it's going to be uncomfortable it's going to be fucking scary because they're brand new people well did you get in the lifestyle to meet your partner that you already know and just sit there or did you get in the lifestyle to meet new people you want to meet new people so take a chance pick up your drinks go over and sit down with those people you're not going to know some of the shit they're talking about you're not going to know them but you know what you're going to leave that night and you're going to know eight nine ten other
Speaker1: people and you're going to have a familiar face when you walk in the next time to know and i don't care if you've been in a lifestyle fucking 10 minutes or 100 years you have that responsibility we all do so do it take that chance grab the new people and introduce them. Get them excited. Get re-excited about the lifestyle yourself. I think that the biggest mistakes a lot of us do in this lifestyle, we've been in a long time, so we get in our rights. Well, we only want to fuck a couple. A and B. These are the people we know. That's safe. And we forget what it was about. We forget when it was exciting. We forget what it felt like to be new. So take a minute before your next thing because we record these on Sunday nights. We release these on Thursday nights. Okay, so here's the challenge. It's going to be a Thursday when you actually hear this. So when you listen to this, when this is released on a Thursday, take a chance the following Friday and Saturday saturday night or whatever night you go out and make it a point and an effort to take and look for at your next swinger event one couple one single whatever it is that you have never seen before or that look new or look dazed and confused and walk up to them and say hi.
Speaker2: It doesn't even have to be someone you've never seen before. You can have seen somebody in a bar or at a meet and greet and never gone up and talked to them. I don't know if it's the courage or no interest or whatever the case may be. If you've never talked to them and you don't even know what their name is,
Speaker1: at least go up and say hi. Exactly, yes. I know I've seen you here many a times i just wanted to say hi just wanted to say hi it it will it will make you feel so excited about the life it will bring back that excitement that you had when you were new in the lifestyle and i only know that because we've done it we have been guilty of being on both sides of that we've been the new people we've also been the people that just stood there and let other people introduce new people around and then we made the decision we weren't going to do that anymore and it reinvigorated it gets you so excited again no is every couple every single going to be your cup of tea no absolutely not but when you have people walk up to you and say i had a great time tonight thank you and then when you have them come up a year later and say man that night you introduced this around i'm so glad you did that's that's when that's a feel good that's what's about and you're exactly right if it's somebody i'm gonna give an example can i give an example go right i can do whatever i want i'm gonna give an example there was there is a regular place that we go to uh there is a couple they are substantially older than we are so they're probably in their mid 60s if not older a little bit they they come every weekend every weekend they come to these events and they're not our cup of tea in terms of interested in hooking up but they generally sit alone at a table and she likes to dance as you'll see her kind of dance around a little bit but they just kind of sit there by themselves and no one talks to them everybody knows who they are every single fucking one of our group and and the group in this area know who they are but what nobody knew was they drove two hours one way every single saturday night to come down there because they wanted to be a part of it so we realized that we didn't know anything about them so one time we took a chance and said hey we're calling amanda you are why don't you come join us and you know what they were like kind of shy they were like they were caught off guard okay they couldn't believe it and they even said well you know we're kind of old you know we're like the old people and we're like we don't fucking care come on now have we ever hooked up with them no will we ever hook up with them no are they really fucking cool people they are they're a lot of fucking fun you know what they started coming that's when we found out they drive four hours round trip for a weekend to come there that's where we found out well they wanted to go to a couple Halloween parties but they were scared because they were old and who would want to talk to them and they started to come to more things because you know what then other people started to meet them and other people started to say hi and other people started to include them in the lifestyle. That's making a difference in people's lives that's what this is all about you know what i she said to me the last time that we've seen it's been a while since they've been down thank you so give me a big hug thank you for including us it was nice to feel popular and it's like you know what you're cool why wouldn't you be popular well we're old no you're cool coolness has no age factor it has no age factor so reach out to people. Take a chance. You know, do something cool. So it just is what it is.
Speaker4: So there you go.
Speaker1: There's Cole's rant on the lifestyle. That ought to get us some viewers.
Speaker4: We're listeners. Wow.
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