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Speaker1: Welcome to the Hot Wife Podcast, where we dive into discussions about relationships, intimacy, and everything in between. Before we begin, we want to make it clear that the views expressed on this podcast are solely those of the host and guests, and should be taken as opinions, not professional or medical advice. Additionally, we remind all listeners that this podcast is intended for adults over the age of 18. Unauthorized rebroadcast of this evening are you trying to close the door is that what you're trying to do trying to reach over and nothing special i'm trying to open the door okay get some more air in here oh that's a nice breeze yeah that's why i was trying to open it i don't airflow through here i'm always afraid there's going to be like noises and stuff outside i have microphones cranked down. I have the microphones cranked down a little bit. Okay, well, that's cool. All right. Yeah, nice breeze. It's a nice evening, actually. It rained. It was a little muggy, but it's nice now. I'll go upstairs and have some more alcohol. Sit on the veranda and enjoy the evening. Yeah, I'm doing tequila tonight. Oh, yeah. It's okay. It means good tequila. It's Padron Platinum. I've always heard that was good tequila i wouldn't know i wanted to when it comes i'm yeah no it's good tequila um but you know not being a normal tequila drinker it's like it's not wowing me no no i i had you know what i i think you know if i prepare it different than just straight up, it might be better. I was thinking, like, I was never a fan of the margaritas, you know. No, I like margaritas. We had Chinese food for dinner tonight, so the margarita didn't work out. Yeah, it might be a conflict of nationalities. So you don't drink
Speaker2: sake when you're having Mexican food either, but you don't know
Speaker1: what I'm talking about. Yeah, I do, but
Speaker2: I'm... That's okay, no.
Speaker1: I wasn't a fan of sake either.
Speaker2: Oh, no, I like sake.
Speaker1: I didn't find it pleasant. I guess there's a lot of alcohol I don't find pleasant. Pleasant tasting, pleasant drinking. Yeah, there's a lot of alcohols I don't find pleasant, pleasant tasting, pleasant drinking.
Speaker2: Yeah, there's a couple, but not many for me.
Speaker1: A couple, but not many?
Speaker3: Really?
Speaker1: All the bourbons you have that you drink?
Speaker2: Well, I mean, bourbon is one class of drink. I'm saying there's all sorts of, you know, different liqueurs and stuff like that. You and I aren't big wine drinkers.
Speaker1: No, no.
Speaker2: We don't have that appreciation.
Speaker1: I don't have that appreciation you know i mean i enjoy vodka and the wines i do kind of like people turn their nose up at you know moscato is not really a wine i mean what's wrong with strawberry you know boone's farm strawberry hill come on hey i cut my teeth on that stuff it wasn't good they wouldn't keep making it right if it wasn't cheap it's so good that some people buy it that's why it's cheap well it used to be cheap i'm sure it's not what's cheap besides me oh cheap and easy damn right all right um want to reach out to us info at hotwifepodcast.com look forward to hearing from you we always like hearing things we hear from wayne all the time have not heard from our friends steven and forever and you left a message he might be knocked down to like number 10 he might be down lower than that uh-oh you know way, Wayne firmly holds position one. Between the jokes and everything else, and we got to talk to him the other day on the phone. Yes. He's buying a USB microphone as we speak, apparently, and so we might be able to get him on the show with us. Oh, that'd be cool. Yeah. That'd be really cool. I like hearing what other people's opinions are. As long besides they're nice yeah yeah it's fine no no no there are other people's point of views on topics because you know you and i just bounce stuff off of each other all the time so it's not really fair there's no you know no other insight coming from somebody else which is always kind of nice wayne actually uh sent me two graphics one is like different styles of pubic grooming. Oh, really? And the other one was like shapes of asses. So what I'm going to do is I'm going to put them up on our website soon. And we're going to do a show and talk about them. So when people listen to the podcast, they can actually go and look at the things. And hopefully it's all going to be about which is the one you prefer. Oh, I like that. I've seen things like that with shapes of boobs. Sure. And then dick shapes and sizes, too. So that's always kind of fun. But anyway, if you're in the need or interested in lubricant, we can't urge you enough to try. Spunk Lube. You can get that at spunklube.com. Yeah, if you buy anything there, it's sure you put in hot wife one word in the discount code at the checkout you'll get 10% off nice and uh see where and what donna's doing oh at hot wife donnalyn.com so the videos are being posted and stills and all the other silly nonsense sexy things i'm doing so coming very soon oh very soon will be our youtube uh you can say that for a while i know well it's that work thing i have to you know that's it i'm quitting my jobs both of them they're gone i'm that's it we're just gonna do this i work retail unfortunately so it uh weekends and yeah i'm not i don't get two days off in a row i have have a day here and a day there, and they're never the same days.
Speaker3: Every week, I don't know.
Speaker2: It's like, whatever.
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Speaker1: We're looking for people to contribute.
Speaker2: You want to contribute stories, an article about something, a on something we'd love to have it nice yeah absolutely and with that uh-huh tonight's topic is um uh you described it to me i'm not sure if i'm gonna okay i'll do it i'm not sure if i would be as articulate you're meeting someone new, okay, at a swing or meet or whatever,
Speaker3: what is the time frame and characteristics that all of a sudden you go,
Speaker1: yeah, I want to play with them? Okay.
Speaker2: It's kind of a long title, but okay. It's not the actual title, you know, but.
Speaker1: Yeah, how long does it take you to decide the person you want to play with?
Speaker3: Yeah.
Speaker2: And what are the determining factors?
Speaker1: What's the first you know i mean what what might be the shortest time versus like someone walks up to you and they're like in great shape uh good looking like myself yeah like oh exactly like you hon absolutely i was like you know instant you're not even selling it i'm not selling it oh you're not convincing me one bit well i'm not a salesman that's one iota um you know how long before you like yeah i think i want to play with that you know versus someone who walks up to you who's average looking still you know the 50s 60 the 50s, 60s, dad bod kind of thing. It's also personality, too. Well, that's what I'm saying is what do you think, you know, what's the time frame that is for you? I'm not saying it's for everyone. Right, right. Okay, so, you know, I mean, yeah, go with that. Like you go to a swinger party and you're meeting new people. Okay, so now you have some guy who walks up and he's in impeccable shape and good-looking guy, let's say he's 35. Okay. Nice personality or is he full of himself? Nice personality. You make the story up a lot. Yeah, if he's a... Of course, visual is nice. Visual is always first. Yeah, but it's the personal... It's the sexual energy that... Sorry about that. I feed off of more. And in fact, the reverse is true. There was one young man, and he was young, like 27, young, young and we kept looking at his profile and it was it was like the selling yourself on a swing aside is almost like retail there has to be curb appeal sure and he had zero curb appeal i was like i look like a frumpy old man who was like in at this beer place and it's like okay what is this oh yeah what is what does this guy do okay he's overweight and he's at this beer place place you know is this somebody i'm gonna want to meet it was like you know in fact i said no i really don't want to meet him and you're like oh come on give him a shock i've been talking to him yeah so in text messages so you're the one who kind of opened the door and said hey i'm i you invited him anyway yeah i just well just to me i told him there was no no uh given that anything was going to happen other than you get to meet you right right and um it turned out he was very very had a sense of humor had a you know some uh sexual energy he was easy to talk to so like everything else that initially from the photograph was kind of a downer, you know, actually was thrown by the wayside because of his personality.
Speaker3: And he was actually willing to do a lot of things. He was like, oh, I've always wanted to do this. I've always wanted to do that.
Speaker1: I never 69 before. So, it was like a little kid in a candy store. It was kind of exciting that I got to be kind of a mentor and be like, oh, okay, we're going to do this.
Speaker2: Never had his beaten.
Speaker1: Okay. Yes, he was the one that liked to, he wanted to be the one that do this. Never had his beaten. Okay. Yes, he was the one that liked to, he wanted me to be his butt snorkeler. That's a nice way of putting it. And you did. And I did. And you did. So, yeah, but okay. So something like that could happen, too. It could be the reverse. So you can never, I mean, it's like the old adage, you can't judge a book by its cover but it's true and sometimes the people that have the awesome vibes look and they're like oh yeah i want to you know i he'd be fun he'd be a whole lot of fun and then he opens his mouth and it's all like yeah no no sexual energy or he's full shut up or you know he uh you know what i'm saying has an attitude or thinks he's better than everybody else see i actually and honestly believe that women control that 110 oh i agree i mean you know when i've approached women to talk to them and stuff like that you know i go at it with the aspect of like not gonna happen you know and then generally they'll sit there and i go oh my god do you want to go play it's like sure yeah you let them lead yeah in fact you found out i mean i've never had this situation where i would say no i'm not saying i wouldn't right you know i might say i think i hear my mom calling i hate when that happens especially at a swinger party yeah god it's just awful what's his mom doing nope no we got we're in west virginia stop it stop no but but you're right i mean once i start talking to people or talking to either another couple or a single male or something you find out what they're into. And the thing that's kind of a big turnoff for me or guys are like the ones that brag. Number one, they've been, oh, I could fuck for hours. It's like, well, you know. Good for you. Yeah, I'm going to be sore. I'm not going to be, you know, I don't know if I have that. But there are women who want that right right you know so men think when they hear that you know the same as we're brought up to believe that all women went you know 12 inches or more they were right for hours you know they you know they expect you to have brushed your teeth they expect you to shower have grooming habits i mean it's like where does it end vince where does it end is just too much i mean it's like i have to brush my what do you want shower grooming or deodorant you can't have one or brush my teeth come on if you expect me to maintain some energy level for sex i have to i can't do everything i everything. I can't do everything. I won't have energy for sex. Or what was the other one I get? I think I get this one more on Twitter. You know, guys will, you know, reach out to me and without any prompting or anything, they just send me a dick pic. And we've talked about this before, but it seems to happen more on Twitter with me. Hey, I bet you, how, obviously you don't listen the show. Obviously not. But it's like, hey, babe, you want to ride this? And it's like, dude, I told this one guy, is that all you are? You're just a penis? I said, do you have a personality? Do you have arms? Do you have legs? Is this all you are? Is it a big dick? Is that it? Well, in a different way. Is that it? I said, you know, what is this attached to? Give me some scale, number one. you know i mean you know you could do a close-up of your dick and it looks like it's 14 inches then you zoom out it's like oh it's four okay it's all about four yeah it's all about perspective but it's it's they i don't know i i think it's a guy thing you know with the dick, you know, people want to think you have to have big muscles to be strong. I've proven that wrong. You've proven that wrong. You know, people think you have to look like you're special forces to be able to shoot well. That's not true either. That's not true either. You know? Yeah. You know, some people think your woman should be able to cook. You've proven that wrong. Absolutely. Why should I cook? You do it. You can do it better. I'll do the landscaping. There we go painting i'll do all the painting so yeah i just wish you could paint higher than five foot well that is a problem just ladders but anyway um you do what you do best right but yeah it's um again we've talked about that you know the thing i mean guys with their machismo I would think that there's certain things you need to do or have or be able to do that makes you super lover right right you know and you know just you know it's like the 70s with the shirts unbuttoned down to the chest and then the chest hair then they always had the italian horn on, you know, the horn, the necklaces. That didn't work when they were in a time. Or they had some kind of gold chain. Yeah. What? Jesus. Oh, my God. That's funny. And it's sort of like the, when I see some of these profiles on SOS as an example, you know, these younger guys, and by younger, I just mean younger than me because some of them are older than you would think you know right they got the baseball hats pulled way down or off to the back oh I think some of them like they want to hide their identity like they're trying to be gangster or whatever and it's just like really I mean don't get me wrong there is going to be some people on the site that are maybe looking for that. But I think, in general, the people we've tended to meet are tended looking for more people you can have a conversation with, people you can relate to. Right, right. You know, and again, it's not a racial thing because it's every color. Right, exactly. You know, it's, you know, it's just like, you know, you got to know what lure to use when you're fishing in a pond. I think, too. You can't use, like, marland, you know, when you're fishing in a freshwater pond. There's no marland in there. That's right, that's right. And the thing, too, it's like if I see somebody on their profile, I give that – I take the profile like what I see on the internet with a grain of salt. It may be accurate. It may not be accurate. Sure. When I meet them in person, then I'll decide if this is somebody I want to play with or not. And they have a good conversation. They're articulate. They know what – you know, they're fun-loving. They can make jokes. They can, you know, laugh at themselves. and they're lighthearted and they're not you they're articulate they know what you know they're fun loving they can make jokes they can you know laugh at themselves and they're light-hearted and they're not like all you know serious about things or um they're flexible with things too like there are some people we know they're very flexible is a great thing for women oh yeah of course what I meant like with with what they like I mean some come in there they're like, BDSM, and that's what they want, and they want to, you know, with the spanking and the hair pulling and all that. And it's like, well, you know, I'm not always. But see, that's the beautiful thing about being a swinger. It's like going to a buffet. It is. What are you in the mood for? What are you in the mood for? Okay, I'm in the mood to, you know, to be in BDSM tonight. Right, exactly. Okay, I got friends for that. Right, exactly that right exactly i'm in the mood for um something more sensual woman or more mature woman exactly whatever so yeah you can kind of weed them out through all the websites and everything but it's it's not until i meet people in person that i make that definitive decision yeah and usually once i meet them and you have a couple drinks and the conversation starts going it doesn't take long for me to say yes they'd be fun if they're fun to hang with chances are they'll be fun to play with sure you know because one might feed off the other and then you find out like what things you have in common you know what things they like what things you like and you can you know figure out if if all the gears mash sure and if all the gears mash
Speaker3: then it's
Speaker1: that might take an evening it might take a couple hours you know
Speaker2: but a summer party
Speaker3: could take
Speaker2: five minutes
Speaker1: it could take five minutes
Speaker3: true
Speaker1: usually though when we meet them first it's usually more of a public thing
Speaker2: yeah I usually have to wait until the mace dies down
Speaker1: so that it doesn't burn your eyes oh he's only kidding folks he's only kidding
Speaker2: am I? Thank you. the mace dies down it doesn't burn your eyes oh he's only kidding folks he's only kidding am i oh i know okay you're kidding but um yeah so i mean again i think for men it's there is no time frame they just need an acknowledgement right exactly you know the woman says excuse me do you yes i do oh i was gonna ask you if you're gonna clean my car what time is it what time is it yeah well how long when you first meet a female playmate what what's your time frame what's i'm saying generally five minutes 30 seconds do you want to hello okay i'm ready are you a female yes okay that's good and you're breathing that's good okay it's not necessary but um but no um no i again um the visual isn't necessary a determining factor at all that's just like a cherry on top of you know um but yeah i go by a conversation and they're a nice person um yeah yeah i have no time frame
Speaker1: i mean if it doesn't happen doesn't i don't even care right right you know sometimes it's fun if it doesn't happen