Exploring Date Nights: Vanilla vs. Swinger Lifestyles

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Speaker1: Welcome to the Hot Wife Podcast, where we dive into discussions about relationships, intimacy, and everything in between. Before we begin, we want to make it clear that the views expressed on this podcast are solely those of the host and guests, and should be taken as opinions, not professional or medical advice. Additionally, we remind all listeners that this podcast is intended for adults over the age of 18. Unauthorized rebroadcast of this show is strictly prohibited without the written permission of the owners of Hot Wife Podcast. Now, let's heat things up. Hello everybody, this is Donna Lynn, and welcome to my Hot White Podcast. Of course, I'm here with my wonderful husband, Vince, as usual. As you, you know. A sight to behold. Duh. You were going to go without again? Yeah. Not to overstate the obvious. No. But? But, okay. We're not as young as we used to be. No. I think last night was a little bit more to recover from. Yesterday. Not bad, but just a little bit more. Yesterday. Now, again, we work from home. Right. And winter has been kind of tough this year. Right. We haven't done a lot outside. We've talked about before. Our house is quite the... Palace? No. Abandoned property? No, we live there now. It's quite the fixer-upper. And we bought it that way. It was a foreclosure. And, you know, like I said before, there's 36 steps from our driveway. And our driveway is still probably 20 feet above the street. So easily 20 feet. It's about like 100 feet long. And the pool is probably 10 feet above the street. So yeah, we went down, started cleaning up for the pool, getting excited for that. And did some work around there. We're just not used to doing that physical labor. I'm like, I'm out of shape. I gotta get back into it. Climbing the steps a few times, carrying stuff up and down, what have you. This is such sexy talk. Taking a lot of trash out. Oh man, I'm getting so wet. So anyway, we beat ourselves up physically yesterday. And then we went out and went to a friend's house for dinner. And drinks. And drinks. and got home late. And then my dog, it's like, 6.30, motherfuckers. Wake up. You're up. You're up. We're kind of hammered today. Not in a good way. Well, it does happen. So. So, again, if you want to reach out to us, info at hotwifepodcast.com. Love to hear from you. Questions, comments, topics, whatever you might. Check out the free magazine. The new one's coming out soon. Ooh. Of 50shadesofpleasure.com. It's free. I hope you enjoy it. I'm looking for contributors. So if you have anybody, if you yourself or anybody wants to contribute articles or whatever, love to have them, again, you can just email info at hotwifepodcast.com. So would last night count as a date night for us? I was just thinking that because that is the topic. They were vanilla couple, so it wasn't a play time. No. You have played with him before this. That was a couple of fiancées ago. But yes. That was his wife, his first wife. But they were kind of played separately. Yeah, they were kind of in the lifestyle in their own way. So yes, we're talking about the importance of date nights. And yes, I would count that definitely as a date night. It was a double date, but it was still a date night. It was time away from our usual grind. So, you know, they're open-minded. I mean, the gentleman, obviously, I played with him, so he's definitely open-minded. We just kept it on the, you know, more vanilla side. Yeah, we don't need to share every little thing. Tonight's topic is the importance of date night. Mm-hmm. Yep, that's what I said. I said that. Okay. Okay. Didn't say you didn't. Okay. All right. Yeah. What do you think? What's your take on it? Well, I mean, again, do you want to look at it from the vanilla lifestyle or the swinger lifestyle? I mean, we'll address both. Okay, sure. Which angle do you want to go at first? I mean, I think it's important for a relationship. Yeah. Swinger or not swinger. Mm-hmm. Yeah, I don't think it, you think it's different between being a swinger and not being a swinger, do you think? Yeah, definitely. Oh. Well, you got to remember a date night. That could be a date night. For a vanilla couple is you're going with your significant other. Right. In a lifestyle, you could go out with another couple and then do more. Right. I mean, you could do, you could go out with another a couple and vanilla too, but you won't get the more. You won't get the more. But the thing is, like, you've gone on hot dates. Oh, yeah. It could be a date night. You go out with some young, you know, some other gentleman than me. Right. And I talked about how I have a date getting set up for May sometime. Oh, there you go. You know. Watch it. Yeah, so they tell me. I got to rest up. Yeah. But, you know, so, but yeah, I mean, I think it's important for a couple. have a date night. Especially if you have kids. You need a break from that. That grind. The grind from work and the stresses. I could see where you need to go out. And I think there should be rules for a date night. Oh yeah? What kind of rules? We're not talking about work. We're not talking about shit to do at the house. That's almost impossible for us. Stay to fuck home and have dinner. Yeah. Save the money. You know, when you were younger and went on a date, did you sit there and talk about, oh, my homework I have? Oh, my God. My parents are so obnoxious. No. What are you into? What do you like? Oh, you know. Oh, okay. How many drinks do I have to buy you before you sit on my face? That was always a biggie. Maybe that's why I never got second date. Maybe. I don't know. But, no, I think it's, again, Yeah, I see what you mean. Yeah, you need to unplug from everything. There needs to be guidelines. Yeah. It's trying to make it about rekindling or just a mini-vacation from the normal bullshit. No, I agree. You want to talk about that bullshit? Do it at the dinner table. But then I can't deduct the dinner. You and your fucking deduction. If we talk about it, I can't. Can you deduct the divorce? Maybe. No. It's not a business expense. This is why I don't go on dates with you. Oh, come on. We have fun when we go out. Yeah, we do. Yeah, we do. But I'm saying for other normal couples and stuff like that. I think, again, let's go with a vanilla couple. Okay. I think it's important to get a break from the everyday monotony. Now, do you do it once a week? a month? Do you have bi-weekly? I guess it depends on... Do you have to get a babysitter? Yeah, the expense part would probably be the biggest thing. Dinner is eaten out or just outrageous. It doesn't have to be expensive. No, but you have to think about these things. If you have a babysitter, there's some obstacles you have to kind of... Yeah, I mean, more recently, we went to a couple shows. We didn't have to worry about them. A concert and a show, actually. Two shows. And that was nice. That was really nice. Yeah, that was like a very vanilla-ish date night. Yeah, I mean, I was trying to bang you over the seats at the concert, but the woman in the front was getting upset. I thought you wanted to do that at that little comedy show that we watched. Well, yeah, we were right up front. Yeah, really. Everybody could see everything. You know me, I'm the exhibitionist. Oh, you are. Absolutely. All right. Yeah, they were nice date nights. It's just, you know, blows my steam. Again, you got, you just take a vacation. Yeah, that is. You're not worried about bills. You're not worried about Joe's. You're not worried about Sam's. You're just. No, again, you get away from, you know, the kids for a little bit. Right. You know, get away from talking about work. Right. I agree. Or shit at house, house that needs to be done or whatever. It's important. Yeah. You need that mental break. I get it. I'm, I am definitely guilty of. Not shutting down. Not shutting down. No. No, you don't. And I try, I mean, I do try to. We went out on those other dates. I did not talk about it. There was one time you and I were messing around and you're like, oh, oh, don't forget, we got to take trash out tomorrow. Like, really? Sometimes it just pops in my head. Makes me feel like a great lover there. Take trash out. That's far more important. I don't remember ever saying that. Yeah, you did that one time. No, no, I don't think so. Yeah, you did. It might have been something work-related. That was trash, I remember as fact. I do apologize. That is pretty terrible. It didn't do well for my self-esteem. Sorry. Wow. I seriously don't remember. I'm tearing it up. If I did that, I apologize wholeheartedly. I'm a sexual beast if she's thinking about the trash. Oh, that was dirty talk. I was the trash you were supposed to take out. Take me out. I'm the trash. I'm the dirty trash. You take me out. Take me to the curb, baby. Don't forget my recyclables. Oh, my God. My recyclables need to be recycled. Ooh. My can is full. Can needs to be emptied. There's something very wrong with you. Your can needs to be emptied. Where does this fucking come from? When you brought that up last night about how I can make anything sound sexual. What was I talking about? Cooking something. It was cooking or building something. I got this hammer. I'm going to drill this. No, no. It wasn't that. It was cooking something. It was cooking? I don't know. It was cooking something. Maybe making something with a batter. Pancakes. Pancakes. That's what it was. It was making breakfast and I talked about, get this sausage over here. Oh my God, I want some sausage. Give me some sausage. You're so wrong. But yeah. that batter. Make it fluffy. Make it fluffy. Anyway. But, yeah, no, I think, again, not everyone has necessarily the financial means to go out. A date night could be, let's pretend you have kids. Okay? And let's pretend things are tight. They are for most of us. They are for most of us. You know, you could sit there and see if, you know, if you have someone, sorry, have someone who can watch the kids and you stay home and make a dinner at home, just the two of you at home. That'd be kind of nice. Well, I'm just saying, if you want to save money, you already have your groceries. You don't have to go get a hotel room. No, that's true. Yeah, just give the kids to somebody else to watch. Yeah, let's say your mom's available to watch. Yeah. Take them to your mom's and make a dinner home. That actually makes sense. You know, it's a way to save some money. I mean, eating out anymore is not cheap. No. You know, a plain large pizza is 20 fucking bucks. I'm sure it's more expensive other places, but yeah. Well, I'm just saying on average. On average. I mean, we used to be half that. You know, three years ago, four years ago, there was 10 bucks, you know? I mean, 20 bucks, you could get a fucking pizza with every topping and then some. You could get a whole, like, it was two pizzas and then a two-liter Diet Coke or something for 20 bucks. Oh, back. Back in the day, yeah. That was a lot of years ago when I had my first marriage. At one pizzeria in town. There were two firsts. It was two pizzas, two pounds of wings, and a two-eater bottle of soda for $22.22. That was a great deal. Yeah. I mean, it was just my wife and I, the kids are still too young. I mean, they would eat a slice, like half a slice of pizza. Right. But, I mean, that was like, for $22 back then, that was like four fucking, five fucking meals. No, really? At least. I mean, you know, I mean, back then I was eating a lot more and I would eat, you know, three pizza, three slices. That was probably in the 90s. So yeah, it's definitely was much, much cheaper. I mean, it is, it is what it is. But yeah, if you can afford to go out, that's great. We're not comparing prices. Yeah, that's not sexy, dear. As a swinger couple, again, date night doesn't need to be. It can be whatever you want it to be. A swinger, you don't have to go out with another couple. to play, but you can. Right. You could go out individually with, like, you could go out with another couple, but pair up and go out separately. That's possible, too. And then, you know, go out and have a nice dinner and then all go back to the same house or hotel room or whatever. And then, you know, buy a little swapsies there. Yeah, you could. Absolutely. I mean, you've been on numerous hot dates. Oh, yeah. I mean, you've always been like a nice dinner out and then, of course, go back to his place. Sometimes back here. Sometimes back here. Right. And, you know, have some dessert. So it was always good. It was always fun. You know, and it's, I don't know. Yeah, you get a chance to kind of like step out of the norm and kind of just let loose for a minute. To vacation. A little vacation, even if it's only an hour or two. Sometimes you just need that just to slow life down a little bit, which I know I'm guilty of. I'm going to try harder to just. You're guilty of not slowing down. I know. So I'm going to try to slow down a little bit more. Yeah. Okay. Just let loose. Not think about work. I wonder why it's cutting out every while. I don't know. Is that me? Am I doing something? No, it's me. It does it to me too. Okay. So I don't know. So I'm going to work on that and we'll have better date nights. Is that ideal? Sure. Okay. Yeah. Well, we've been going out more recently. Yeah. Yeah, I know that. But, you know, but like you said, I have a hard time of letting go of work. I'm working seven days a week. So that's nuts. No, I'm not, you know, again, this isn't for us to sound out on each other. No, no. I'm just saying, you know, for people, it's something to really consider. If you're not doing a date night, minimally once a month. No, I agree. I agree. Because it's very easy, I think, for your relationship to get away from you. Because it becomes so mechanical. Like, okay, gotta go to work. I'm home. Okay, gotta do this. Gotta do this. Okay, Get up, go to work. Oh, yeah. I'm just saying. You definitely need to take a step back. Oh, I get it. You need to have those stress release moments and let each other know how you each feel about each other. And again, don't bring in, don't go on a date and like, oh, tomorrow we got to take Johnny to baseball and Susie's got to go to dance class. We know that. You know what? Talk about each other. Yeah. Try to get turned on. So maybe you go home and knock the shit out of That's a possibility, right? Yeah. I mean, that's... Not in our household, but... There's a possibility. It's just a possibility. Yeah. In general. But yeah, I mean, you just need to just step back and just... I mean, again, we've talked about this before. Like, when we go on either play with other people or a hot date or whatever, people who aren't necessarily into the lifestyle don't really get it. But it supercharges our relationship. Yes, it does. I agree. It's like you have a renewed sense of romance. There's that little fire, that little spark. It's a little level, kicks up the level of eroticism. Romance is one thing, eroticism is another. That's true. That's a very, very good point. That's another topic. That's definitely going to be another topic. I'm going to just write this one down. Yeah, it's... I think it's really important for people to have a date night. Now, if you're a single person, it might make it tough. Oh, yeah, that would be terrible. Yeah. Because I know we've heard from some single people, mostly single guys that, you know, listen to the show. And I don't know. If you've met a swear couple, pardon me, that you get along with, ask. Ask the husband. You know, hey, would it be okay? Okay, can I, would it be okay with you if I asked your wife to go out on a hot date with me? No, that'd be. Yeah, it doesn't have to be anything other than you taking them out for dinner. Right. And then maybe you go back there and the three of you all play. Yeah, you never know. So, depends on how it goes. But at least having that, the dinner is nice. Right. And if you get to play after, well, that's even nicer. And if you're the single guy taking her out, you pay. That's not, you know, Be respectful. We've gone through this. We're going Dutch. No. If you're hoping to get something, you've got to put something out. Yep. Chances are it will go your way. It's a hot tea a lot of times. Yeah, I mean. And you've got to remember, don't make it about you. Good, good, yes. Women want you to talk about them. Mm-hmm. I think anybody in any kind of discourse would be, they want you to ask them about, themselves rather than listen to, you know, me going around about myself. So, yeah, I agree. They're going to take you. It's also a good little tip for a job interview. Yeah, yeah. Let them talk. Tell you about the company. Right. Listen. Pick up as much information you can. Uh-huh. And then ask them questions about them and the company. Oh, that'll knock their socks off. Yes. And check out the website before you go. Anyway. That helps a lot. But yeah, I think the dates are fantastic. They do. It's a little pick-me-up. Mm-hmm. Yeah, I wouldn't disagree with that at all. Not even a little bit. So yeah, any way you can take that little mental vacation that's a few hours. Yeah, it doesn't have to be hours. Yeah, that's true. You could do it an hour, hour and a half, technically. I mean, again, there's no promise that Something's going to happen? Oh, no, no. But even like what you do in the middle of the day when you take a little cigar break, you just go out, sit on the veranda, smoke a cigar for 45 minutes. Just decompress. Yeah, I tend to do it closer to three. Well, whatever. I feed the dogs. But anyway, yeah, it's, you know, you might find that if you're a single guy, I would say, and you get someone that you can do this with, and you do it once a month, or if you have multiple women, you do one every other month, you know, you might get a little more... Action. Something, yep, that's true. So, all right, I think we kind of kicked that one to death. I think we have, too. Again, it's not a, sorry, it's not a really erotic topic. No, but date nights are nice. It is, it's, yeah, it can be an erotic topic if you play your cards, right? Yeah. Anybody want a date? Sure, let's go. All right. Yeah, okay. to the deck and I'm gonna have another cigar and have some more bourbon. It sounds like a date night. To me. All right. All right. I want to thank everyone for listening. Again, info at hotwifepodcast.com. You want to reach out to us? I'm about to sneeze. Oh, yeah. And so I'll be signing off. So have a wonderful evening, everybody.