In this episode of the Hot Wife Podcast, hosts Donna Lynn and Vince discuss the themes of relationships, intimacy, and the impact of weight loss on sex drive. They reflect on the new year and the common resolutions people make, particularly around weight loss, and how achieving these goals can enhance self-image and confidence, ultimately leading to a more fulfilling intimate life. The conversation emphasizes the importance of support and encouragement in relationships, especially when one partner is trying to lose weight. They also touch on the challenges posed by societal pressures and the food industry, while encouraging listeners to set small, achievable goals for weight loss and to celebrate progress together. The episode concludes with a positive outlook for the new year and an invitation for listeners to engage with the podcast. TakeawaysThe podcast is intended for adults over 18.Weight loss is a common New Year's resolution.Self-image plays a crucial role in confidence and intimacy.Positive reinforcement can enhance one's sex drive.Small, achievable goals are more effective for weight loss.Support from partners is essential during weight loss journeys.Feeling sexy can improve overall well-being and relationships.The food industry bombards us with unhealthy choices.Encouragement from friends can boost motivation.The hosts aim to explore sexy topics in future episodes.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/hot-wife-podcast-and-the-swinger-lifestyle--5343522/support. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
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Speaker1: Welcome to the Hot Wife Podcast, where we dive into discussions about relationships, intimacy, and everything in between. Before we begin, we want to make it clear that the views expressed on this podcast are solely those of the host and guests, and should be taken as opinions, not professional or medical advice. Additionally, we remind all listeners that this podcast is intended for adults over the age of 18. Unauthorized rebroadcast of this show is strictly prohibited without the written permission of the owners of Hot Wife Podcast. Now, let's heat things up. hello everybody this is donna lynn and welcome to my hot Wife Podcast. Am I allowed to say Happy New Year? Speaker2: Sure. Okay. Speaker1: Hey, Happy New Year. I don't know when people are going to be listening to it. I don't know either, but this will probably be going up. This will be going up on the day after New Year's. Speaker2: Okay. So yeah. Okay. Speaker1: Happy New Year. Speaker2: Yeah. Speaker1: We're recording this before. We wish you all the best, the healthiest, and I hope it's a prosperous and healthy New Year for everyone. I'm looking forward to it. I'm hoping it's better than last year, which wasn't terrible, actually. Well, you've been battling this shoulder thing, so. Yeah, it's just physical things, right? I'm hoping that this is on the mend. Yeah, for those who don't know, we have a ton of new followers on our YouTube channel. Wow. We had started to record Donna doing the show. And just with her shoulder replacement surgery and stuff, it's kind of tough to do her hair and makeup. I can't even do it. So we opted to just do what the one platform puts them there for us. It's just a picture and stuff. Yeah, still. Sorry. But we're, you know, we're gaining new followers on YouTube every week, and we're thankful for that. Someone actually sent us some messages on there and asked if we respond to our text messages. To my knowledge, our number's not out there. I don't think so. But we put it out every show. Our email is? It is, hold on, hold on. It is. I think it's every show our email is it is hold on hold on it is your show i know hot wife podcast.com i'm still you know i still think it's the old show that one still works the hot wife podcast at gmail.com still works but i i wanted to keep it so. Info sounds so, I don't know, it sounds so informal. Raging whore at Hotline Podcast. Oh, see, that would be better. I can set that one up. Could you? I see that makes more. Info sounds like, ah, what are your business? Well, it's for the website. It's for me. It's all in capturing. It sounds too professional. I don't want six emails for that. I know. Anyway. So, yeah, whatever you want to send it. Bad enough, I'm juggling three or four of my own.
Speaker2:
Yeah.
Speaker1:
And I have my own, too. And it's like, I hope I never lose my passwords because I'm sure I don't remember. I know I have it written down somewhere. I just make all my passwords real simple. One, two, three, four, five, six, seven. They say that's what you should do. They say keep it simple. And tell everybody. And tell everybody. That way, if if you forget you can call anybody exactly i make mine my social security number so i don't forget yeah oh my god makes much sense of course it does who would think of that especially if i tell everybody well yeah what the friends are there to to remind you that's what friends are for they would never do anything you know malicious to you of course i put it on my business cards i put out there for on the internet for everybody i had a printer on pens that i hand out we have on the back of our cards our license number is my. Our license number is my social security number. Yeah. So anyway, again, yeah, please reach out to us. If you have any questions, comments, show ideas, info at hotwifepodcast.com. Love to hear from you. Good, bad, or indifferent. So tonight is going to be the first show of the new year so actually be our first show of our fourth season starting our fourth year that's a lot of shows i don't know how we come up with things you can talk about i'm surprised we have as many people listen oh you know we hit a record thank you to everyone we hit a record the other day for the most downloads in one day for us. For us. Not a world record, but for us it was an incredible amount. It was an incredible number for one day. There's no way we could figure out what the show is. I'll put the number out there. It was 917 downloads in one day, which is incredible. For us, yeah. For us, yeah. That's quite a bit, yeah. I mean, you know. Thanks, guys. Yeah, we appreciate it. So with the New Year theme in mind, we decided to look into the magazine, the 50shadesofpleasure.com, the free Swinger magazine that we put together and put out there. Please check it out it's free um there's an article in there about weight loss helping your sex drive yeah it seems like and that's why we're combining it with the new year's resolution because weight loss is always the top of my list every i think it's probably the top year three for everybody it's like i just want to lose like five pounds or 10 pounds. And I'll lose a little bit, but I always end up gaining some of it back. Not all of it, but some of it, sure. So it's always up there with me. Always, you know, I just want to lose just a little bit of weight, just a teeny, you know, couple pounds. But I think everybody goes through that. So, yeah, that's always a biggie. Most people want to lose more than two pounds. You're right. I'm like, I got to lose two pounds. No, it's like five pounds. I'm not asking for the world. Come on, five pounds. Okay. So I think there's a lot of reasons weight loss can inspire a better sex life. Oh, absolutely. Well, number one, I mean, first of all, okay, you lose you lose weight you look better so your self image of yourself is better yeah could i look better if i lost weight could i is it possible to get better looking than no for you hon you're like perfect just the way you are good answer i didn't mute your mic can you hear me rolling my eyes yes dear you're perfect just the way you are but i mean yeah i mean you look in the mirror and you're like wow i'm starting to get abs i'm starting to look good i'm starting to you know it makes you feel good and then if you start feeling good your confidence is boosted and if your confidence is boosted you know you start to feel sexier and then that boosts your confidence even more then people give you compliments and it's all about your self-image and how confident you are. And I just think it all kind of plays in. Are you confident in this? Very confident. I'm very confident that I'm confident. You're sure? Yeah, very. That's what it all comes down to, just your self-confidence. Yeah, I mean. Your self-image, you know. Yeah, as someone who has lost a lot of weight. Yeah, you have. One of the first, I mean, again, and people hear it in the shows, that I'm pretty negative about myself. I pick on myself more than I pick on anybody. Not as much as you pick on me. No, I pick on myself more. Oh, you think so? Oh, I don't know about that. But anyway, you get this negative picture of yourself. Right, right and um so once you start to lose some weight and you hear other people making comments um positive oh okay i didn't know you're going with this one i was like what oh yeah you fat slob yeah wow you can almost see your penis now almost hey i can almost hold your fat stomach up to get to your penis now swallow rich don't do that when i'm trying to take a drink you bastard but anyway no and then like when you know other people especially in the swinging world they start really noticing and complimenting you on your looks or whatever your appearance whatever you want to call it um it makes you feel good it does make you feel good which will obviously drive your sex drive you know a little more you know get your motor running yeah because you feel sexy because people tell you're sexy so you feel sexier so well you still got to question it well i guess because you're used to you know i think um you still see yourself i mean a lot of people i did yeah and i still do see myself as the way i used to be well yeah that happens a lot because that's your self-image that mental self-image you have of yourself and that that's why people with anorexia can look at themselves in the mirror and they see somebody who's fat. You look at them like, my God, if you lose any more weight, you're going to die. You are a twig. I can't speak to that. Yeah, that's really overboard. Most of the time, those people were never fat. But whatever, we're not going there. Yeah, you don't know. But yeah, it does affect your self--image and now you're losing weight and and that what you see in the mirror and what you have in your mind like what the image in the mirror has to catch up with your mental image what's really nice too is when you lose weight even outside the swinging world when you see other people um generally right let's say the opposite sex um like if you're out at the store, the mall, whatever, I mean, and you see, like in my case, I had other women talk to me all of a sudden and start flirting with me or whatever. Right, right, and in the grocery line or whatever, and you're like, mm-mm. That doesn't happen. You know, what the hell is she talking to me for? You know? Why not? So that helps. That makes you feel sexy i think the only problem is with um trying to lose weight especially uh this day and age is like we're being bombarded through so many uh images on television social media about food and we've done it tell me about it we watched you know we're watching tv a commercial comes up and there's ones for you know dunkin donuts and then you know pizza hood and then dominoes and it's all carbs and sugar and carbs it's like no wonder you can't lose weight you're bombarded oh it's a diabetic oh my god i sit there at night and you watch tv and it's just commercial yeah commercial food and you're like trying not to eat yeah and it's just like i wasn't hungry but god damn it but anyway we're not picking on the food industry but no no but it doesn't help i mean you have a lot of things but if you can get into the mindset of that you're eating to live you don't live to eat but again we're not having a diet show no we're definitely not doing that again when you feel sexy again you know and people tell you it, you know, and also you'll find your health also now, um, your stamina. Right. Right. You know, um, gets better because you might not be as winded cause you're not trying to, you know, hump, you know, that extra weight up and down steps. You're not throwing that, you know, the belly back and forth as much, you know, or whatever. Yeah, when you said you lost weight, you said you had lost like- For those, I've lost over 80 pounds. 80 pounds. And you walked, we were at the store and you're like, see those bags of sugar? That's like me carrying, they're 10 pound bags, were they five? I think they're five. 10 pound bags of potatoes. Oh, is it potatoes? I said carry eight bags of those potatoes and try carrying them around yeah get out of a chair carrying oh eight ten pound bags potatoes yeah but anyway um let's keep it to the sexy part um but no it makes a difference oh it does it really does you know when you're wearing um you know i went through the whole thing where um it's not such a big deal now, but, you know, 20, 30 years ago, for someone of size to get attractive clothing, you know, to go out was tough. You know, you had to go to a big man's store.
Speaker2:
Yeah.
Speaker1:
My size at that point was the small end of the big man's store and the high end of a normal so it was like real hard for me to find stuff but now it's different but i mean again you lose enough weight you can go get the nice outfits that pants and look good in them or the shirt and you know or whatever and um and that goes for women too all of a sudden a woman can go get the lingerie right if she wants now i think women potentially it can almost be damaging to some degree because they lose weight to some degree some they can get like their boobs could get floppy oh yeah yeah there's i'm not saying that makes them unsexy but they might feel that and they exactly. Well, yeah, I mean, your skin, unfortunately, can only stretch so much. It's like a balloon. You blow it up, and you let the air out. Guess what? The balloon doesn't go back. Exactly. I've only been like a few pounds overweight here, then maybe 10 pounds or so, maybe 20. Tell yourself that, yeah. Yeah, 20, maybe 30, maybe 40. How much was the other thigh? Exactly. And, you know, your skin doesn't go back, even if it's just a small amount of weight. So it sucks. Yeah, but again, feeling, you know, getting to a point in your life where you feel comfortable in your skin, whatever weight that may be, it's great. Yeah. You know, and again, you might want to lose weight to, one, your health. Sure, absolutely. Yeah, that should be your main be your main reason but yeah everything else losing a little bit of weight can really like you said give you a little more energy you're not as winded uh you feel better about yourself it and just having that little more energy is another domino effect because if you have more energy you do more things you do more things like move around more you lose more weight and it's just it's another this might be interpreted as a gross factor what's that but too you know sometimes like when i was at my heaviest i used to sweat real easy yeah and you know if i had been at a swinger party and i'm standing there sweating not doing anything i'm not going to want someone to touch me if i know i'm getting sweaty and nasty it's like yeah you're already yeah sweaty yeah i showered before i got here but i've been sweating like a rain forest over here yeah exactly you know and oh my god so you know that could be something too that helps you feel sexier that sure you know you're not yeah not uh getting swamp ass swamp house ass is never sexy i'm sorry it's not no i'm sorry it's not now you tell me son of a bitch I don't know.
Speaker2:
I don't know.
Speaker3:
I don't know.
Speaker2:
I don't know.
Speaker1:
I don't know.
Speaker4:
I don't know.
Speaker1:
I don't know. I don't know.
Speaker2:
I don't know.
Speaker1:
I don't know. I don't sexy. I'm sorry. It's not? No, I'm sorry. It's not. Now you tell me. Son of a bitch. Oh, yeah, you think it's sexy. Well, I'd say I found it sexy. Oh, I'm sure you am. Likely story. But, yeah, I mean, it just helps in so many little things across the board. If it's just like 5, 10 pounds, sometimes that just ball rolling doesn't have you don't have to you know worry about losing 50 pounds it just lose one pound at a time well i've always said to people going yeah if you're gonna try to lose weight and this is not a diet show no it's not absolutely set your goals small yeah if you're also a goal is let's say lose 20 pounds aim for five aim for five and we get that five aim for another five yep you know don't go i'm going for 20 because then it's like oh my god i'm two months in i've already dropped seven pounds yeah but that's seven pounds so exactly uh you know uh and don't reward yourself for losing weight by like going to dairy queen no got a Dairy Queen. Well, I got five back. Exactly. That's one thing I always have trouble with losing weight, because I get into a really good stretch, and then something will happen that I end up having some kind of a cheat food. And that just opens the gates for so many other cheat foods. It's like, no, don't do that. Well, here's a novel idea. What's that? So if you're in a couple situation and you have the availability to do this, how about if you sat there and said, okay, instead of dessert, we go to bed and have sex. So we're not eating anything wrong. We had a nice grilled chicken salad for dinner. You know what? It's like, I go for ice cream. Come on, on, let's go fuck. Let's go fuck. Stick a dick in your mouth. Well, I mean, I would probably. I could be sticking a dick in my mouth. You could be, yeah. See? If my mouth is full, then I can't eat food. Well, if you're being preoccupied, you're not thinking about dessert, hopefully. Probably not, unless I'm thinking like. Unless you're like, ooh, putting some whipped cream on this cock. See, that's exactly where I was going with that. I'm like, oh, chocolate and whipped cream on a cock, and I could just suck on it and swallow it down just like a big banana.
Speaker2:
Yeah.
Speaker1:
Okay, so you're not talking about me. Of course I am, dear. Who else is in the room? In the room and in your head are two different places. Of course you are, Brad. I don't know. room. In the room and in your head are two different places. Of course you are, Brad. I mean, come on. Vince, I'd say. Yeah, seafood could be interesting in bed too, but it may not help you lose weight. And again you know if you're trying to help your significant other and let's pretend it's a woman right and you you want you know she's trying to lose weight how about rewarding her with new lingerie yeah because that'll be definitely reinforce her to keep going you're saying, you're saying, hey, you're looking great. Let's see how great you look in this, you know? Even if it's a little small on her, you sit there and go, okay, well, in a week, we'll try it on again. Yeah. Small goals. Small goals. And I never kept like any of my, quote, fat clothes. Never got rid of them, either. Same ones you wear every day. Pretty much.
Speaker2:
No.
Speaker1:
Shut up. I mean, I have lost and gained, you know, some way, but it hasn't been, like, astronomical. Not like, you lost another person. You lost, like, one of me.
Speaker2:
Yeah.
Speaker1:
You know, almost.
Speaker2:
I tried.
Speaker1:
I tried losing me?
Speaker2:
Thanks.
Speaker1:
I feel so special now. I feel so special. Yeah, 80 pounds a quite a lot of weight yeah you know so but um yeah it's uh you know again it does it makes it changes your whole um your health sex drive changes you can go from thinking you know no one wants me fat, I'm ugly, to all of a sudden you can fit there and, like, really appreciate people coming on to you. Yeah. Or, in your case, coming on you. Yeah, I'm good with that, too. Yeah, I'm not. No, unless it's a woman spraying you. That's a different area. Well, see, people coming on you. You just hit people. You didn't, like, when you were particular. Well, I went from, like, in high school, I couldn't get a date. Yeah, you were. I mean, you know, hookers turned me down. Can't we just be friends? Yeah, exactly. So until I left my ex-wife, lost weight, grew a beard, I was, no one noticed me. Yeah, you were were pretty you had some double chins going on there yeah i mean like you were i always liked you but like for like romantically no you were a good friend when you started losing weight and you got the beard it's like oh hey you know all right now we're talking sure yeah i could barely resist myself yeah you We were, we were now we're talking. Sure. Yeah, I could barely resist myself. Yeah, you had some weight to you. Had some meat on your bones, that's for sure. Yeah. But, yeah, so no, if that's your New Year's resolution. Yeah. Or if it's your partner's resolution. Yeah, be supportive. Don't be too judgmental. Yeah, but again, you'd be surprised how all of a sudden when you start seeing the weight coming off yourself and you see the difference, how much it changes your outlook. And it's nice, too, if a couple can do that event together, lose weight together. If they need to. If they need to, yeah, absolutely. I mean, like, you and I could definitely do a diet, and we plan on doing, you know, cleaning up our diet a little bit more in the new year. Well, we're changing what we eat, not so much to lose weight as much as it is. You will lose weight. Yeah, but it's more for anti-inflammatory. Yeah, which is, you know, we'll see what happens. But yeah, no, think about it. If you feel you need to lose weight, you know, you'd be surprised how much that can improve your sex drive. Mm-hmm. Oh, yeah, it absolutely does. There's so many things that it helps with across the board. Like you just said, with energy and stamina and how you feel about yourself and how people look at you and how clothing your clothes yeah yeah and then all of a sudden clothes that that you might not have liked and all of a sudden you put it on it's like wow i'm rocking this this looks great on me now and don't forget when you see other people your friends in the lifestyle that maybe they've lost weight, definitely tell them how hot they look. Right, yeah, that helps. Yeah, keep encouraging them, too. Yeah. You know, because that will help your sex drive, because now they're going to be like, oh, you want to fuck a hot person? There you go, yeah. But no,'s never hurts to spread good. I agree. Yeah, that always is good. Good legs, good thighs, good pussy whips. You're incorrigible. You are. Spread the word. The word is legs. Okay, you smart ass. Goddamn right, yeah. Yep, okay. My husband is a smart ass for sure. Oh, God. Would you have expected any of us? No, no, I'm rubbing my head and rolling my eyes. That's all I can do. That's all I can do. Oh, God. So that was basically a point, today's show, was just to wish you all a happy new year. And if your new year's resolution was to lose some weight to hopefully it's for your health but as well as maybe improve your sex drive because oh that's we we actually know people we know one person in per in particular that his wife had gained so much weight she's like no more sex yeah yes yes yeah that's sad and he was he was very thin not very thin but he was thin he was in shape he was in shape he's like you know yeah yeah he did all that stuff and it's like my wife has just gotten like um someone should point she worked on the second floor to school that didn't have an elevator and she could no longer climb the steps yes this is serious this is a serious is a serious issue. She could not climb the steps. She was that heavy. Yeah. And she went from, supposedly, we'd never met the woman, being in great shape and, you know, gorgeous, and she gained so much weight that she could not climb steps. Yeah, that's, now we have an issue. Now that hurt the marriage, because all of a sudden, now there's no sex. Yeah, it's amazing because, you know, something like losing weight could really, really be helpful to a marriage. Gaining weight can be very detrimental. I mean, you wouldn't think that something that, you know, I guess like not as important to a relationship really is. No, sex is important. Well, not that it's sex. I mean, but the weight. The weight is important. Sure. Because like now you can't go up and down steps. Now your sex is going to be painful and, you know, you don't feel sexy. Weight affects, if someone's not comfortable, let me put it that way. I'm not going to say weight. Right. But if someone's not comfortable in their skin. Okay, that's a good way to put it. That's going to be very detrimental to a relationship. Sure. Because now they're not going to want to have sex. They're not going to, they're going to be upset with themselves all the time. They'll take it out on you and everyone else. And they're going to potentially become very inclusive. Right. You know, just they don't want to go out and do things. That sounds like me. I know, it just, they don't want to go out and do things. That sounds like me. Now shut up. Ever since I've been in this stupid sling, it's like, I haven't really been out too much. We think about to dinner once, it's like I'm a recluse. Well, we haven't gone out to dinner more because it's so goddamn expensive anymore. Well, that's true too, but it's like getting me out and about right now has just been yeah so anyway but um yeah so i mean across the board if it's something you want to do put your mind to it there's someone you know doing it help them do it do it together inspire them inspire each other that's really important and you know um if other people are doing it yeah definitely let them know they're doing a good job or whatever and you know it's so hard during the holidays i used to hate the holidays when i was really trying to like you know i was bodybuilding i was working out and then everybody was like bombarding me like almost sabotaging my diet with tell me about as a diabetic oh my god it's terrible i hate when i gun store. Oh, donuts in case. Everybody, the brothers, bring cookies and stuff in. I was like, yeah, I'm just a diabetic. Just kill me. If I eat that stuff, I will have serious problems. So, yeah, I get it. And the holidays are the worst because I feel like everybody's bombarding. Oh, it's just one day. You can cheat. No. Yes, I can. I can cheat a little bit. Forgive yourself if you do do cheat but get back on that horse and keep riding because that's your horse yeah baby well you got it you have to keep doing it you just can't give up yep so but yeah check out 50shadesofpleasure.com our free swinger magazine. You can find it on any mobile device or computer. And Vince puts it together by himself, all by him, little lonesome. If anybody wants to write articles. Share a story. Stories, pictures, reviews. Love to have it.
Speaker2:
Yeah.
Speaker1:
We'll give you credit or whatever.
Speaker2:
Yeah. Yeah. It'd be great.
Speaker1:
The reason there's no credit on the stories, because I put them all together. It'd be like, written by Vince. Written by Vince. Vince. The picture is by... 50 Shades of Vince. Ooh, now that's hot. Oh, yeah. Anyway, so I want to thank everyone for listening. Wish you the best, healthy, and happy New year. Hopefully you stay with us at the start of our fourth season, our fourth year. Hopefully you'll find sexy things to talk about. I think we'll find sexy things to talk about.
Speaker2:
We will be. Absolutely.
Speaker1:
All right, so that's all I've got to say. Stay horny. Have a happy new year. We'll see you next time.
