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So this is going to be an interesting topic um i don't think we're gonna get the humor out of it we get out of a lot of topics but um the concept came to me with seeing so many more younger people and by that i mean college age and up, getting into swinging. Right. So the concept is if you have someone, I'm going to say 20 and over as a child. A young adult, that's not a child. Okay, you're right. They're a legal age. You're right. I might fall on the sword. You're correct. So you have a young adult child, that was your child. Oh, like your offspring. Yeah, your offspring, yeah, not, you know.

Well, but let's pretend they have had some issues in dating, you know. It's a tough time in life, you know, that 20s. You know, you've grown into your own skin after high school or college. I think 60s is a hard... I'm still working out. I don't know what I want to be when I grow up. But is swinging something, if you and your significant other are swingers, Is swinging something you would propose or teach them about? Is something to consider to kind of sort out the relationship thing? And again, as we've talked about, swinging helps promote trust. Well, actually, it goes the other way.

In my view, if you don't have trust is not gonna well yeah i agree i agree with that it's actually i i think it goes the other way if you don't have trust you don't have a strong relationship to begin with adding swinging to the mix is just going to be it's going to be explosive so if you don't have a strong relationship, and most people in their 20s, I know I didn't have good relationships, a good foundation until I was in my 40s, and I met you before that. It was just a clusterfuck. And I haven't improved it much, but whatever. Shut up. Yes, you have. Ass. Wow. That makes you feel good.

Shut up. You know you have you have come on don't even go there but i first of all i don't think i would feel comfortable approaching your daughters about swinging anybody i mean they they know we're i'm i don't know if they know but they would not be surprised. No. I mean, I've always been very honest with my daughters. Exactly. I mean, I don't talk to them about everything. No. I'm not shy about talking to anybody about anything.

So, yeah, I mean, as hard as it is for some people to fathom, swinging promote honesty and communication which are really the two main things i don't know i i i disagree i think that already has to be instilled in the relationship before you start saying is but no i agree i'm not arguing that but it's something okay and again this is just a topic for discussion i i don't necessarily feel one way or the other it'd be very awkward to approach my offspring yeah exactly with that concept like well you know your mother and i are in your our case your stepmother yeah we go and fuck all sorts of people well that's it yeah you don't want to you know think about you know your parents slapping nasties with other people yet alone themselves um but and again that's the something to think about is if your kid was in their 30s and was having, would swinging be an option to help with something?

When would you suggest, maybe that's the real topic, is when would you suggest swinging? It's like, hey, you guys got a great relationship.

should go fuck other people but that's that's how it it actually works the best we already have a good relationship if there's anything missing from the relationship adding more people to the mix it's not going to help it just like you know some you know some couples like oh we're fighting we're having this we're gonna have a baby it's like what are you stupid it's just gonna fix oh no it's just gonna make it 10 000 times worse not to mention if you have problems with your relationship and and you've opened that door that they can experience other people i just think it's gonna Maybe that's the real topic.

Maybe the the topic is do people want to try to use swinging to fix a problem how's that uh yeah that actually would make make more sense just like some some couples try to have baby it doesn't fix no absolutely not absolutely and it may um what's the word i want to look what am I looking for? It might temporarily fix it because whoever, somebody in the relationship is getting antsy and they want to try different things or they're not happy in the relationship. So bringing other people in may temporarily put a band-aid on it. Would it? Maybe temporarily.

They get their little freak on like oh wow that was really hot and you know and but eventually it's going to all unravel if you don't have a strong relationship to begin one of the two like my first marriage it could they could take it and run with oh it was a pandora's box and then open up a whole distrust because they became distrustful right exactly is that a word distrustful sure i think so okay it is now um call webster get that added um yeah it's something you know and i think the lame excuse that people like well i'm allowed to play you know my significant other is sick or doesn't enjoy sex or i'm swinging alone but i have her permission so i want that in writing well that was actually that was one of the sub other topics was um should you validate it i know i've been um no i actually you were validated because of that one woman that called me when i was at work and said yeah well i told her to call yeah i used my phone and called her and handed it to you i was like hey what's oh hey are you guys gonna have some fun oh go go for it but should that be something if you're going to play with somebody and they say oh my mate allows me to do this and to play solo whether it be male or female You know, if you're going to play with somebody and they say, oh, my mate allows me to do this and to play solo, whether it be male or female, it happens potentially both ways.

I think it happens more where the male is like, oh, I have permission. Should you validate it? It would be nice, but I don't think. You jump in topics here quickly. That's fine. This is what discussions are. Discussions don't always, you know, are not always linear.

Sometimes they're very, you know, cyclical and all over the place getting all polygonal polygonal yeah you know um it would be nice to validate it but you know what the only relationship it's hurting is theirs you know if somebody comes to us and they're like well i'm actually cheating on my wife i'm like well i don't approve of that but you're not hurting us the only the only people you're hurting is you and your wife so and we've had a couple guys were like i gotta do this on the down low you know my wife doesn't give me any blah and we don't condone that but no yeah it's like all right well and a lot of times it doesn't happen more than one at one time anyway yeah i think they get kind of skittish and that's it you know it's i yeah i i think that yeah if you have a problem relationship getting back to the original second main topic if you think that getting into swinging because again we've run into and we've talked about this briefly before where people like the couple will get together I don't know.

Second main topic, if you think that getting into swinging, because again, we've run into, and we've talked about this briefly before, where people, the couple will get together and it's obvious one of them is taking it for the team. Yep, absolutely. And again, generally, it's the woman taking one for the team so the husband can get his freak on.

Yep, because there's a female he's really interested in and maybe she doesn't find the husband as attractive or whatever yeah i guess the wife takes it for the team thinking okay i can watch and we know he's not forming a relationship right i i guess that's or maybe there might be a a time where she finds a guy who's really hot is like hey i took one for the team before maybe i want to be with him.

Well, there was a couple and we talked about this instance where she finds a guy who's really hot and is like hey i took one for the tv4 maybe i want to be with him well there was a couple and we talked about this oh my god she was like you know she didn't you could tell she didn't want to she did play with me and he was like oh my god she's never acted like that with me right but then after that we found out not directly after that but a little bit of time after that they actually divorced divorced, separated, whatever it was.

Well, again, you need, it's imperative to have a very strong relationship before you open up those gates. Because you don't know what or who is going to come through the door. You both need to be on the same page. And you need to be on the same page. You really do. Exactly. I agree. And you need to communicate.

These are all things that are just part of a good healthy relationship communication you know what do you want out of bringing somebody else into the bedroom is it just for fun are you going to be polygonal now i'm saying polygonal uh polyamorous yeah we make fun of a friend of ours who's polyamorous. He's all kinds of, you know, crazy shapes. I'm not sure how that's going these days. I don't know. I just think. Well, he was a person who wound up, he would spend a few nights or a week. A week, yeah. He had like four or five different mates. I'll call it that.

Because I don't know what else you would call them. And he would spend a series of nights at one, then a series of nights at another, and then he'd just keep jumping. And he wound up where he lost his job and had no interest in finding another job, and he was letting these women support him. That was our view. I don't know if that's exactly what was going on. Well, if he didn't have a job, he's going house to house with these women. It does sound like he's. A lot of them had kids. Yep. And a couple of them kicked him out and said, that's enough. Oh, I didn't know that. Oh, yeah.

No, last time he went from like five down to three last time which was almost a year ago yeah uh yeah it's been almost it was last summer um you know i have a funny feeling you know that might have been it yeah those polyamorous relationships can be very uh well it's you know if it works for people that's great you know i i mean um yeah that would the aspect of having feelings or supposed feelings for more than one person not everyone can do well you can have feelings for multiple people but usually they're different aspects of a relationship like i have feelings for your your girls of course it's different though it's not it has nothing to do with sex trust me but i still have feelings for them sure but there's no way in love and to love someone and to be in love with someone is two different there are two different things absolutely and There's And I think having emotions for one person, one significant other, is taxing.

And then you bring another person in and another person in. There's no way. I don't have that much energy to have emotions for a multitude of people. I just don't have it. It's just not.

I mean there and say hey i love rocky road ice cream i was thinking ice but i also really like you know double chocolate ice cream and i like you know mint chocolate chip do i don't um ice cream and i love them but the one the one my i'm really in love with is rocky road right you know you can love a lot of things right being in love with something is just a whole different thing and i don't know again i'm i'm gonna speak for myself obviously i don't think i could be in love with more than one thing as far as far as a partner goes no way i mean like i said i could love a lot of people but to be in love like our relationship it's it's i'm not gonna say it's a lot of work there's a um there's a lot of energy energy goes into it sure absolutely there's a lot of thought process you're you know there's there's a lot of energy and to have a multitude of people there's no way there's no way i would be dead on my feet i would be just exhausted all the time then you add a job and then you add kids and it's like it depends on what's going on in that polyamorous relationship sure you.

You know, I mean, there are people that all coexist in one household. Sure. That might be easier. I don't know if it would be. For me, it's a little bit too close for comfort. I would think it's almost going back to like a college days where you could all live together, commune. Right.

I don't know if, wow, we really changing topics it doesn't matter i know i'm just saying we're rolling with it just roll with it i really don't know if i could have that same level of excitement for all of them let's pretend there was you and two other women okay yeah oh yeah yeah I would be in love love with you but i could love or care heavily for the other women but i wouldn't be the same well the way he was explaining it is like he has certain things that he likes and one mate answers that one likes horror movies one like movies. One likes. Yeah, one likes spicy food. One likes, okay.

But it don't just. That's what best friends are for. That's what I was thinking. You don't, I mean, you still like cigars, you know. Yeah, my lungs don't like them. Yeah, that's a different story. But I mean, like, I have a friend that I go have cigars with. Right. But you don't suck his dick. No know, grab.

The only thing you put in your mouth is don't make it ugly it's not gay just helping each other outside of it you know you know when we're in vegas we only shower together to save water you know this whole environmental thing slept together just so we'd have to run the heater so much in the room it was cold there at night in the desert it wasn't gay don't like it wasn't gay you know we spooned to to share heat environmentally conscious and you have to be nude because you know of course you're supposed to be nude to maximize the amount of heat the clothes act like insulation and keep the heat from transferring from one to another right so you have to be nude you have to be spoon and your dick just happens to get hard it just happens i know we're men i don't know what to tell you you know it wasn't ugly i mean just because we had the video camera on video camera would have taken its own life first first case of camera suicide camera suicide calories and blow up It jumped off the tripod to kill itself.

It had a fucking noose around its neck. But anyway. So, yeah, I mean, yeah, so back to the second topic. Or the third one. Whatever, the topics in general.

I just don't think if people think swinging is going to fix something it's not going to it's no absolutely not absolutely not because you already have to have like i said before a good solid foundation in your relationship good communication trust um so and things communication and trust absolutely so with that if the husband or whoever poses a polyamorous relationship that's not going to fix it either because now you have you're in love with somebody right and And're okay with swinging because it's not okay an occasional thing it's a physical thing that person is living with you right whether it be male or female exactly yeah that's too close for come for me for me that's like way too close what happens if um i'm not a suggestion.

Let's just say the husband had interest in going to Vegas. No, of same sex. So the husband's like, well, I'm actually bi. And I'm not. I'm posing a hypothetical quote. Oh, really? Are you sure? So let's pretend there was this guy named Vince. Vince. And he just happened to have an urge to be with other men. And he told his wife, let's call her Zana. Zana. Off the top of your head, right? Just hypothetical names. Hypothetical names. It says, hey, Zana, I want to have my ass eaten by another man. Boy, that's a tough one to say. That's so funny. Oh, I want to see that.

I want to eat another man's ass. It's a kick in it. Well, which is worse, eating man's ass or sucking his dick. It's all bad. It's so wrong. Wrong for you. Some people are into it. Those are into it. That's fine. I'm only dry even for myself. I mean, for this guy, Vince. Vince.

i'm i'm only even for myself it's like i mean for this guy bince yeah i mean i mean how does that play for the mate for zana yeah zana might feel like she's a third wheel you know she might get shut out on a lot of things yeah depending on the communication and the trust we're not saying polyamorous is wrong we're just taking a look at it in a hard direction kind of of things yeah i mean in bince's and zana if bince and zana were to get into this kind of a thing yeah i mean in bince's and zana's bince and zana were to get into this kind of a thing yeah i'm the same as okay let's pretend it was another woman in this case so at what point you know if bince goes ham going and spending the night in stephanie's Right, exactly.

Whoever this might be. Right, exactly. Does that make Zana like, oh, good, he's not going to be farting in this bedroom? Or is she like, you know, like, we got married or whatever. You know, he tells me he loves me so much, but he's in there. You know, every situation is going to be different, obviously. I'm just talking. Is he in there all the time and ignoring his significant other? I mean, or is it 50-50? Is it, you know, is there a fair distribution of attention? But, I mean, yeah, it's interesting. Well, how do the Mormons, not... Oh, Jesus Christ. Why do you want more than one in life?

I know. That's all I need is like six women on their period. Oh, my God. It would be a nightmare. It would be a nightmare. Especially once they all sync up. Oh, there's one week of pure fucking hell. Well, at least it's all one week. If it doesn't sync up, you could have a month of hell. It could be going on for months. I'd take my own life. Years. Unlike Jeffrey Epstein, I would hang myself. Oh, he hung himself, I'm sorry. Yeah, of course he did. But yeah, I don't think that's such a good idea.

So again, is swinging something to fix something or does it enhance or does it, you know, there's, I think swinging can be all of them. It could be detrimental. Oh yeah, absolutely. It could enhance. Oh, it enhances our relationship. Absolutely. You know, so it's all all matter of how you want to approach it and how you um deal with it well like the same as if a woman if zana was like hey i want to have two other guys living with us jesus christ wait wait no not you zana who are you talking about? Exactly. I'm talking about this girl, Zana.

Are these guys that she's talking about, like, you know, muscular? Can they do hard physical labor? Spending time with Zana is physical. Mental labor. Very mentally exhausting. Well, how would all the chores be divided up? Well, apparently it's up to Zana. Apparently. You know, because She has the snatch. Maybe we need to consider it. Two young muscular men to come in here to fix things up, and I can just fuck them for fun. But we'll get the fence built. We'll get all the decks built. We've still got to pay for the materials. See, now you're ruining it. It's a fantasy. Not for me.

Getting everything done is not a fantasy? Oh, yeah. Okay. Paying for it is not the fantasy. Paying for it is not the fantasy. Oh, I see. Unless you find some rich, muscular guys. Oh, sure. That's what you have to find. Why don't you say that? I mean, Zana has to find it. Zana has to find rich, muscular guys. That can do physical labor and pay for the materials. And pay for the materials. And they just love doing it. Oh, yeah. We're going off the deep end here. but I mean swinging a Thank you.

and they just love doing it and oh yeah we're going off the deep end here but i mean swinging like we're saying before yes it can enhance a relationship it absolutely can but again and i cannot stress this enough if you have a shit house with a shit foundation i don't care how pretty of a roof you put on there it's going down it's eventually going to tank so i'm thinking that something like this could fix a relationship it might uh temporarily seem to fix a situation because it's a distraction but in the long run no it's going to crash and burn yeah and it's going to get ugly and it's going to get nasty because now you have another person in the mix or other people in the mix yeah so yeah it's uh so yeah so in conclusion in conclusion swinging is not going to fix a bad relationship no just like having a baby won't you got to have like a good foundation to begin with yeah that's for sure and you have to have you know communication you have to be honest with yourself if you're a man and you have bisexual tendencies you know i was joking yes vince you were joking i mean you have to own up to it and you're you're never gonna be i was joking you're never gonna be happy if you can't eat someone else's ass oh i can't well a woman's ass i have no problem eating a woman's ass you know something that has balls hanging next to it i mean hey that might be no no it's like low hanging fruit nope and i'll go higher than the tree but that's for me those who want to do that god bless you you know like we had the friend that said some guy told me he wanted to suck my dick so i let him but i'm not gay well whatever gets you through the night there's there's all kinds of of um tags you can put on things and labels but i killed 13 people but i'm not a mass murderer.

Exactly. Okay. Because 14 makes you a mass murderer. Well, of course, obviously. You stop at 13. You're like, oh, see, I won't go. There's a line in the sand right there. I dismembered them and ate their bodies, so it doesn't make me sick. 14. Oh, my God. Oh, geez, you're a sick fuck. Yeah, so. But, you know, hey, whatever works for you. That's all I can say. I'm not going to critique you. I mean, I'm critiquing for myself. Oh, I can critique you. Oh, you do constantly. Constantly. Like the old podcast itself. Zana's critique of Vince. Was it Vince?

It's why Vince is a fucking pain in my ass podcast. You're not a pain in my ass, much. When you're at work. When you're away from the house, you're great, you're wonderful. When I'm with my young muscular boyfriends and you're at work. I had nobody over today. I had nobody over to play with.

It was a slow slow day so well i worked it out so all right so anyway i don't know exactly what the topic is i gotta type up some kind of scripture for the show i'm gonna go like i don't know listen to it tell me no it's it's uh i'll come up with something swinging is not necessarily it's not the answer Sorry, guys. If you have is not necessarily a picture. It's not the answer. Sorry, guys. If you have a problem in your relationship. So, all right. Okay, going to wrap this up? Yeah, we'll wrap this up. We just killed 31 minutes. I couldn't believe we went that long.

I'm looking at the countdown timer on my mixing board. I'm like, how long? All right, well, thank you, everyone. You want to reach out to us info at hotwifepodcast.com um hello to wayne hello to wayne and uh our buddy larry oh larry's been listening oh boy tells us uh podcasts were entertaining and keep up the good work so appreciate that larry so anyway i'll talk to you later all right have a great night everybody We'll be right back. Podcasts were entertaining and keep up the good work. So appreciate that, Larry. So anyway, I'll talk to you later. All right. Have a great night, everybody.