Tips for Single Men

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Speaker1: Welcome to the Hot Wife Podcast, where we dive into discussions about relationships, intimacy, and everything in between. Before we begin, we want to make it clear that the views expressed on this podcast are solely those of the host and guests, and should be taken as opinions, not professional or medical advice. Additionally, we remind all listeners that this podcast is intended for adults over the age of 18. Unauthorized rebroadcast of this show is strictly prohibited without the written permission of the owners of Hot Wife Podcast. Now, let's heat things up. hello everybody this is donna lynn and welcome to my hot wife podcast of course i'm here with my wonderful husband vince oh wonderful oh i think you are so okay so there we go all matters i know that's all that matters i get it so um yeah clear my throat okay and you're going to tell us about the email that you got from a listener today's show well first of all today's show is a email we got from a listener. Well, today's show. Well, first of all, today's show is an email we got from a listener, a single gentleman, Dave. Dave, you know who you are.
Speaker2: Yeah, we're not going to.
Speaker1: I know there's only five Dave's in the world. Well, you have to narrow it down. Dave talked about how he liked the podcast, and he wants us to, I guess, share advice, which we've done before, but we'll gladly do it again, for single guys. Yeah, makes sense. Like how to get into events, how to get, you know, invited, how to maybe hook up with, you know, just general knowledge. So he's been in the lifestyle, apparently, since 2008. Yeah, so he's been in it for... He's got some years in. Yeah. I don't know how much we can help. We'll go over how we approach single men. Right. That's about the best we can do with that. Let me back up first. We'll get into it. Okay, sure. Again, we look forward to everybody writing to us good bad or indifferent and i talked about that uh one of the last podcasts uh someone had a critique and that's fine that was their opinion um again our our show is not necessarily for everyone no but he did talk about the sound qualities which we were able to address so that was actually very yeah we think we think we found that out yeah i would be noticing um guys if you hear the commercials at the We'll be right back. qualities which we were able to address. So that was actually very helpful. Yeah, we think we found that out. Yeah, we've been noticing, guys, if you hear the commercials that the podcast platform puts in, not our commercials, they said they're very loud and sound like we were whispering. So, okay. It wasn't balanced. Right, right. We have no idea. So I reached out to the company that does our hosting of our podcast or our distribution, or whatever you call it. Whatever, yeah, it's a platform. They put that in, they said, oh, you have to adjust this setting to this number, which I had no cardinal knowledge of before, so now we do. So hopefully it should be more balanced. Yeah, that's the idea. So hopefully the commercials won't blow you out, and we sound like we're whispering. So that makes sense. I mean, that'll be annoying for me. I don't think I'd want to listen. So, hey, you know. But if you have comments, questions, or whatever, I'd love to hear from you. Info at Hot Wife Podcast. You can reach out to us. And we will, oh, listen to that. So we can, you know, respond or, I mean, we respond to everybody. Yes, we do. And just so happens that sometimes if you let us, we'll use your topic on a show or whatever. If it's, you know, of interest, I'm sure, definitely. Like today's topic that we're going to do for Dave. So I think it'll be fun. Yeah. So. That's it. It's your show. Yep, all right. Let's do it. Let's jump right in. Dave is specifically thinking about, of course, his profile on SLS. Well, we'll cover everything. Yeah, but I'm just going to start with the profile part because we talked about etiquette before and things like that. But the first thing that people see on a swinger website, and that's like your calling card, are your profile pictures. I think they are probably the most important pictures to put up. Put up nice shots. I don't want to look in stage, but something that's casual, something, you know, they to be they don't have to be all dick pics we have talked about that ad nauseam but uh like nice candid shots um you know nothing too staged nothing too goofy men looking for women we want to see as much as they're gonna exactly women women i i don't mind seeing the more scantily cad stuff in the galleries behind the wall that's fine but for the pictures that are up front usually they can't have any kind of nudity and they have to be tasteful in fact um sls even has a program that they'll alert you to check out certain photographs to see your opinion on if they have to be approved, approved approval process. So you have a responsibility to see if what other people are posting and see if it's safe for work or what the front part of the website. Well, they don't want the juicy stuff going to free members. They want the juicy stuff to go to paid members. Exactly. And you don't want that stuff also being misused and being all over the internet or, you know, it's put up nice pictures for guys, casual pictures, a nice smile, show your personality, well-groomed. I can't say enough about that. You got to look nice. You know, I. Another thing. What's that? Is consider being a paid member. paid member oh yes and we're talking really in reference to swing lifestyle yes dot com um consider being a well first of all there's perks to it if you want to join if you haven't already been on the site um go to go to hotwifepodcast.com. And there's a link there. You can just click on that and it takes you there. And if you join through there, it's an affiliate program. They'll throw us a nickel. Woo-hoo. So I'd appreciate that. But the bonuses of a paid membership is that, one, you get unlimited emails. Right. I think with a free one, you can only do like two emails a day. You can only have a couple pictures. Right. And they can't be spicy. Exactly. So, and I think being a paid member shows potential people that you want to meet that you're serious about this. You're not just like, oh just want to get laid or that your account is legitimate we've been um you know reached out by people that their accounts were fraudulent you know they're talking all this you know this good game but they don't have any pictures up or they have like one picture up or two and it's like okay what game are playing? So chances are it also gives authenticity to the members as to weeding out the false accounts. So that's important. That's really important. And your write-up about who you are, what you like, try to be as creative and non-pushy. If you need to, use AI. Go into AI and type in, like, write me a profile bio and here's some of the facts about me and it will write something and then you can modify if you need to exactly um and it'll sound nicer so our dog one dog's in the studio with us she wants to go outside now and She wants to go outside now. Oh, of course she does. Yeah, because she's not getting attention. Anyway. A little thing. Yeah, so that's really important. So you've got to have a nice write-up. Right. And that's going to flow into when you do meet people. Right. Don't want to be pushy. That's, be respectful. This might take some time. Don't expect to get laid on the first go-. It may not happen. Playtime may or may not. Depends on the couple's rules and whatever. But I just think the profile opens up the door to so many things. Sure. And make your, like Vince was saying, make your bio interesting. Also, in retrospect, on the other side of it, if you're looking at potential playmates, read their profile. What do you look for when you look at somebody else's profile? What do I look for? Well, I'm talking about even if it's a single male. If you're going to go look at a couple's or a single female's profile, what do you want to see? Exactly. Okay. You know, the thing is, it's like a menu. People eat with their eyes first. Exactly. It is like a menu, very much like a menu. And how do you want to represent yourself and how you're putting your best impression first. So your best foot forward, always make that impression a very good one. Again, don't be pushy, be respectful, be courteous of the other couple. And it doesn't matter your age okay no that do yourself a favor um don't be try to be um what's the word i want to be genuine well i mean think about think about what i'm saying is like you see these guys man they got their baseball hats pulled down to their eyes and they're doing the the hands cross the chest like you know like they're mc dumb and you you know you're looking to hook up with quote-unquote classy people quote-unquote you know i mean do do you think someone's out there looking for a gangster do you think someone's looking for maybe there might be okay and if that's the people you want, then do that. But your pictures should be tasteful. I agree. It should be respectful. You want to convey that. You're hoping someone is going to say, wow, this guy looks like he's got nice write-up. He's got some nice pictures. He might be nice to oh exactly um yeah also these profiles can also like open the doors as to uh what you're into like if you were a little more wild and you know you might i wouldn't go into like you know blow by blow description but you might want to add a little you know if you're in the role playing let's say you know added hey i really added, hey, I really love role-playing. That goes in your description. Yep, the whole thing. So this way, and the same thing, if we're looking at people, we can weed out people that we don't have anything in common with. Yeah. You know, if I see somebody who's like, you know, they like rough sex and they want to be choked and beaten, I'm like, okay, next. Good for them. Move on. They might have some interesting pictures, though. Yeah, maybe. So the profile is your first potential foot in the door. It is. It really is. Okay, so it's really important that that look well done, that you put some time and effort into it. Yes, I absolutely agree. You know, don't just put on there, looking to get laid, you don't want to bang your wife. Yeah, exactly. So you're just doing yourself a disservice. Well, it kind of also goes back to our last show on what women see in a man and like that authenticity, humor, all these things, self-confidence, all these things can be part of your profile. I took notes. I saw you. You're writing down feverishly. It's like, slow down, Donna, slow down. Oh, I had to send the podcast out to be transcribed. That's what you had to do? Okay. But all these things translate. I mean, that's the same thing you talked about, what women find attractive. A man relates, be well-groomed, don't have a big, hairy, whatever, mess down there. I mean people that your hygiene is still important i know you can't really see that on the on your profile but if you look welcome here you know takes took some time to you know spruce yourself up a little bit it it comes off a little nicer i think spruce sp, comb your hair. A chlorine tree, whatever. Don't let it get all, you know. Yeah. But so now that translates now into your conduct when you go to meet a couple, whether it be like someone says, hey, we'd like to meet you for a drink. Right. Or you're going to a meet and greet. Exactly. Same thing. Dress well. Dress well. Don't be looking like you just rolled out of bed in your pajamas. Don't come from, you know, hey, you know, I'm a carpenter. I just came from work. You know? You want to look nice. You want to smell nice. Exactly. Not too much aftershave. One spray, not the whole bottle. Sorry. If there's anybody who loves to bathe in their cologne, yeah. A little goes a long way. I don't want to be tasting your cologne. It's supposed to be strong enough that they have to be close enough to smell it. Right. It has to be intimate. Not when they walk in the room and go, oh, Jesus. Exactly. Yeah, that's probably one of my biggest pet peeves. If a guy wears too much cologne, it's kind of a turnoff because, I mean, they might be a really nice guy and I might actually play with them, but it's like, I'm tasting their fucking cologne for the rest of the night. It's like, come on guys, you know, did you leave any in the bottle? So yeah, it's one of my big, one of my pet peeves. That's, that's about it. So now you're at a meet and greet or you're at a bar.