In this episode of the Hot Wife Podcast, the hosts delve into the complexities of swinging, addressing common misconceptions and societal attitudes towards sexuality. They emphasize that being a swinger does not equate to being a predator and discuss the importance of understanding and communication within the lifestyle. The conversation also touches on the challenges of being open about one's lifestyle choices and the need for discretion in sharing such personal information. Ultimately, the hosts advocate for acceptance and understanding in the swinging community, while encouraging listeners to navigate their relationships with care and respect.TakeawaysThe podcast is intended for adults over 18.Swingers are often misunderstood and labeled as predators.Being a swinger is about consensual relationships, not coercion.Swingers do not automatically want to engage with everyone they meet.Communication is key in navigating swinger dynamics.The lifestyle is about enjoyment and acceptance, not just sex.People in the lifestyle are generally more open-minded and relaxed.It's important to be cautious about who you disclose your lifestyle to.Swinging is a consensual choice, not a predatory behavior.The hosts encourage listeners to embrace their sexuality without fear.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/hot-wife-podcast-and-the-swinger-lifestyle--5343522/support. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
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Speaker1: Welcome to the Hot Wife Podcast, where we dive into discussions about relationships, intimacy, and everything in between. Before we begin, we want to make it clear that the views expressed on this podcast are solely those of the host and guests, and should be taken as opinions, not professional or medical advice. Additionally, we remind all listeners that this podcast is intended for adults over the age of 18. Unauthorized rebroadcast of this show is strictly prohibited without the written permission of the owners of Hot Wife Podcast. Now let's heat things up. hello everybody this is donna lynn and welcome to my hot wife, Donna. Oh, no. And I'm here with my... Husband. Yeah, I can't even say wonderful. Joke on it, bitch. Already done. This soon in the show? Tonight's topic is... It's going to be a rant, I think. Warning, this will be a rant show. If you're sensitive, you shouldn't be listening to the show anyway. Because apparently YouTube is fucking sensitive. You can go show murders and beatings, but don't talk about sexuality. But that's not tonight's topic. So anyway, hey, if you want to reach out to us, info at hotwifepodcast.com. Love to hear from you. Speaker2: Comments, ideas, suggestions for shows or whatever things you want us to talk about. We'd love to help you out. Yep. And we do. We do. We reach out. We reach back. And we do answer every email that we get at info at hotwifepodcast.com. Um, So, and again, also check out 50shadesofpleasure.com, the magazine. It's free. Again, welcome ideas for articles, things you would like to read about, because I can't always come up with things to research. And the one for February, Speaker1: the issue for February is out now, correct? Yeah, I am going to update it tomorrow. I have a new article submitted late, and I'll be updating it, but no one will know any different until it's up. So it's live, and enjoy it. Okay, sounds good. It looked good when I, you know, breezed through it the other day. Speaker2: No, it's interesting. Speaker1: It's Valentine's-based. Yeah. You know, I had to plan a perfect evening for your wife. Yeah, I didn't even read that one. You know, is Valentine's Day special to swingers? You know, something like that. So, all right. Sounds good. So, it's a tough topic to come up with a topic name. Okay. So what did we say it was going to be? Oh, just because you're a swinger does not mean you're a predator. Okay. Now we have to clarify what that means. Right. We have had now a couple, two or three instances where we'll use a term outed you know that people found out or we stated that we were swingers and these people were not right and it wasn't a here's where the predator thing we're just it's sort of like saying hey i'm a vegetarian right doesn't mean i expect you eat fucking vegetables okay hey we're swingers boom that's it not like and we want to fucking rape the shit out of you right it's no no no no it's like you know i i know i and it's amazing Go ahead. We were out with a couple years ago. Yeah. Years ago. And we just happened to go out to a local watering hole with them. We happened to mention that we all got kind of inebriated. Yeah. And we happened to mention that we were, you know, swingers and you would have thought that like, we wanted to fuck them. Well, I think when it came out at that time is, like, you and I were joking around sexually and even maybe commented about somebody, probably a woman, in the club at the time. Maybe. It was innocent. And we just said, you know, don't mind us, you know, we're swingers. We're swingers. This is kind of you know how we do there was we weren't trying to get them to initiation or whatever that these people and they're like oh well we're not so i don't give a fuck if you're not i'm just you know it's like again oh i play golf oh well i i don't um we're not interested in playing golf fuck you it's not about that i'm just telling you i like to play fucking golf that's all i'm fucking telling you i'm not asking you what fucking golf clubs you own why you don't fucking own golf clubs yeah it is a rant show motherfuckers oh it's coming out too you know i just had this last one said to me, so, like, well, what is your, what the hell was the term they used?
Speaker2:
Your sexual preference.
Speaker1:
No, it's not a preference. It's a thing we do. Just because I'm a swinger doesn't mean I'm gay, bisexual, or anything else. It's like I said, it's like a vegetarian. You could be, but... Thank you. i'm a swinger doesn't mean i'm gay bisexual or anything else it's like i said it's like a vegetarian well i'm a i don't eat cauliflower actually no that's people are ignorant and they're stupid and i'm fucking tired of it yeah they think if you're a swinger then you're already hitting on them oh yeah you're trying to suck them in rape them whatever it's ridiculous so Yeah, so there are times when you just keep your mouth shut. All of a sudden I understand. I understand people worried about being out of doubt. Before, I didn't understand it. It's like, I'm not breaking the law. I'm not, you know, again, we're not trying to- Initiate anybody. Or drag anybody in. Like, oh, okay, tag, you're a stringer now because I touched your arm. No, that's not what we're, and I didn't touch anyone's arm. Or any other part of their body. Yeah, but it's just, like, amazing to me. People are like, oh, my God, oh, oh, my God, I never saw a swinger in the wild before. Holy shit, I thought it was a myth. What the fuck? It's like Sasquatch, you know? you know it's like unicorns you know there's people out there hunting in the woods like i hear swingers are here we have to be careful you know what the fuck i heard swingers really like glazed donuts there's an inside joke there there was a show hunting sasquatch or, and they were convinced that Squatches, as they called them, loved glazed donuts. How the fuck would you know that? Have you seen one up close? Did you see him at Dunkin' Donuts? No, I don't think you did. You fucking lunatic. Get the fuck out of my face.
Speaker2:
Anyway.
Speaker1:
Yeah, I'm going to tear. I'm going to have some more bourbon.
Speaker2:
Hold on.
Speaker1:
Yeah, so I guess these people are ignorant, and they just don't have any, they don't know what swinging is about. And it's just like saying, hey, I like the color blue. That's it. Well, okay, so here's something in general. I don't have sex with other people besides my husband. That's it. If we're a swinger and you're not, we're not trying to lure you in. No, no. If you're a swinger and we're a swinger, it still doesn't mean we're going to play. It does, yeah. Okay. It's not automatic. You're not already initiated into the club. It's like, well, hey, I'm Catholic. You're Catholic. Let's go to church together. No, you don't necessarily have to do that. You don't have to do that. You know, it's an option, but you don't have to do that. there's lots of couples that we had met in the past that we never played with and we you know we have more couples we've met that we've never played with than the ones we have yeah and but you know the misconception of the uninformed unintelligent stupid fucks out there say that you really mean it honey don't hold back babe did i sugarcoat that one yeah i think you did okay all right so the dumb motherfuckers out there who think because you're a swinger you fuck everything that walks upright and breathes and doesn't have to breathe necessarily you're fucking morons yeah you know it's just like it's one of the myths we went over before that like you know swingers will fuck anything no untrue untrue not true no not true at all there's plenty women who want nothing to do with me and you want nothing to do with them either there's a few yeah there's a few there's only one or two but all the rest are fine they're game but no seriously they gotta watch it say game yeah really i'm not hunting them again we're not predators oh my god sorry swingers are not predators okay now um predators are predators that's it you know i'm not assuming anybody is a predator unless you are a predator and it just so yeah again we talked before about single males okay just because you're single male and you go to a meet and greet does not mean like well hey they're swingers they're gonna fuck me no they're not probably not you know and it's, well, there might be somebody somewhere, don't get me wrong. But, you know, in general, swingers, we're all looking for people that we click with. Exactly. And still no guarantee of sex. Yeah. I mean, you and I click, but I'm not getting sex. Well, there you go. I mean, that's... There we go. And we're both swimmers, so... And we're even married. Yeah. Jesus Christ. I thought there was an obligation there. But, you know, this whole thing that people think this misnomer that, oh, you're a swinger. Okay, what if I have the same concepts of being a swinger, but without labeling myself a swinger? How about if you and I enjoy the company of other people, but we're not swingers? No, we're just in an open relationship. Are you a swinger? Nope. We're not swingers. We're in an open relationship. Open relationship. Well, what does that mean? Well, we're open. Open to what? We're open to going out for drinks. We're open to making friends. We're open to buying new tires for my car every couple of years. That is an open relationship. Okay. Well, you know, I mean, what definition do you fucking want to use? I agree. I think I'm taking over your show today. I think it's fine. You go to email and go isn't this donna show fuck you he's on a tear i'm on a tear i've been really i got shit on so not by donna and not in a way i wanted to be but um no i don't want to be shit no you don't want to be sure on that either but this whole misnomer that is out there that swingers just fuck anybody and everybody, and again, the sad part is with this show, generally most people listening to it are swingers. So hopefully you can relate.
Speaker2:
Yeah.
Speaker1:
The message really needs to get out to the public that isn't swingers, that they're all fucked up. They look at us that way.
Speaker2:
Like, how can you do that? So hopefully you can relate. Yeah. The message really needs to get out to the public that isn't swingers,
Speaker1:
that they're all fucked up.
Speaker2:
They look at us that way.
Speaker1:
Like, how can you have sex with somebody besides your husband?
Speaker2:
Try it.
Speaker3:
You might like it.
Speaker1:
You stupid mother.
Speaker2:
See, this is why we're not on YouTube, I guess. Yeah, this might be why, hon. I don't care.
Speaker1:
Fuck YouTube, by the way. If I haven't mentioned YouTube can suck my ass i'm saying it now i thought that ass was for me to suck that's for no one to suck it's an exit only well i guess technically sucking would be an exit but no okay no not gonna happen well i Well, I really do understand the whole situation of being outed more than we had before. Yeah. People are like, oh, I'm afraid of being outed. But it's still bullshit. It is. It's like, well. It's not illegal. Right, exactly. If you're a swinger, in a swinger couple. Right. Okay, first of all, it's consensual. Sure. Absolutely. I would think 98% of the time. Yeah. Okay. And you're only, to the best of my knowledge, I've not heard of another couple out there fucking being predators, like, you know, stalking people in shopping centers, like, oh, there's a couple. Let's go fuck them. Well, they're not swingers, you know. Now, could you go out to a bar as a swinger couple go to a normal bar meet another couple have a few drinks and somehow wind up fucking going back to somebody else's probably you can potentially that could potentially you know depends you know but you're not a predator. You're not like, you know, going, Hey, does this smell like chloroform? Hey, okay. Let's take it back to our trailer. No. Oh, that's, that's terrible. Yeah. I don't know where people get these ideas and it's so uninformed and so detrimental to the swinging community who are very accepting people. You know, everybody that says that they're accepting aren't and swingers more are more accepting than vanilla people are. They may not be into whatever you're into, but they will, they will understand. Here's something to think about. Uh-huh. You've heard about mass shootings at parties, at birthday parties, ats no yeah okay all sorts of places have you ever heard of a mass shooting at a swinger party no you haven't um it was on no i have it not in real life it was one of the episodes of criminal minds it was mass shooting at a swinger party it wasn't a mass shooting it was a guy that was actually abducting swinger couples enforcing them to sex in the back of his car okay and then then he'd shoot them yeah it's because he was impotent or some had some problems it was it was interesting i had to watch that episode you know okay but if that was real he should considered shooting himself, not the people who could still have sex. But anyway. Yeah, exactly. Ditto. And again, there's a problem. There are plenty of people inside, as older people, in the swinger community that are less than performance prime. Oh, yeah. And you know what? I have witnessed plenty of plenty of women you included with different men that have issues but you know what they still do what they can to make them feel good yeah it doesn't bother me i'm just saying yeah it's not a it's not a community it's like hey everybody joe can't get it up stay the fuck away from him no we're not doing that we don't I do it, but that's it. Because Joe's got a big dick. He's really not impotent, but I just. He just wouldn't pick on him anyway. Stay away from Joe. A big dick, boy. You don't want that. He's got that big dick that doesn't do anything. It's all some big fissures near it. I don't know. Weeping wounds. I don't know. You might want to not go near that, know just because he's good looking in shape has a big 10 inch cock hey do what you want you do you right he's trying to tell you it's raging hard don't look into me and you're an you know what a raging hard-on looks like people have told me i am one for years so i look in the mirror i see a raging that's what my clothes on anyway but yeah so this concept if you're listening to this show um thank you um might not be listening after this show that's your fault done um and you have the concept that swingers are trying to fuck everyone you are wrong big time you are wrong big time and if you are a swinger um and you are trying to fuck everyone no that'd be wrong but it be careful who you open up to i hate hate to sound like that, but be careful. We need a secret handshake or like a baseball play signal. Yeah, something like that. It's your eye and tweak your ear. Maybe that's why the swingers, remember we read those things about the pups. They would, scrunchies they would put on their. Yeah, but that's down in the, what's that place?
Speaker2:
The villages.
Speaker1:
The villages or whatever. I mean, something like that. Again, again these people with the gnomes with the upside down pineapple you know that but the gnome thing i mean i'm sorry the scrunchie thing it's just like real okay let's pretend we're at the retirement age and have money to move to the villages okay okay we're now in our 70s let's pretend that's not much of a pretend it's no it's a mild pretend okay but at that point you know you're in a retirement community right you're basically going to want to know okay if you're again we're in the villages you're going to know or want to know who who's in the lifestyle who's in the lifestyle everybody else is going to be grumpy old motherfuckers just waiting to fucking die Swingers are still going to be living life You know I think That's the part people don't get about swingers I'm going to refer I really do hate using the term swingers People in the lifestyle It sounds so very 1960s, you know. I'm thinking, you know, Austin Powers and. Gurr, baby. I put the gurr in swinger, baby, and one of those things. Okay. But you know what? We're more laid back, easy going. I agree. I agree. We're going to a house party tomorrow night. Okay. Now, this is, we'll have already gone to the house party by the time this comes out. Okay. But I've already told them, you know, Donna's shoulder is still in disrepair. Both shoulders. Yeah, well, one's on the mend, one's on the way out. It's like great. So they're both equal now as far as pain. I can't lift any of them above my head. But I told them, listen, we're only coming for a social visit. We're going to come for like two hours and we're out. No play time for us. No, not this time. Unless I get raped. Anyway. Well, that could happen. I think there's a couple of women that want to, but I know it's just social. Okay. I mean, I don't care. I want to get home early. Yeah. I don't do well. When playing happens, actually, you know, it's two, three o'clock in the morning. And the next day we're like, oh. Next day for the next fucking week. Usually, it's like the next day. I'm not hungover. No, it takes a couple days to recover. I'm not hungover. I'm just exhausted. I'm not hungover. I'm just. You get home at 3, 4 o'clock in the morning, and we have dogs that, you know. They're up at 6 o'clock no matter what. But anyway. So, we have that. But people in the lifestyle, for those for those again anyone who might be listening that isn't necessarily in the lifestyle people in the lifestyle generally are more easygoing um relaxed enjoy life and aren't hung up on really on sex sex is it's a bonus that we recognize and enjoy i agree i agree and the nice thing about people in the lifestyle you can have a a whole plethora of of interest that people want to do and there's going to be some that you're going to be like oh no i'm not doing that but nobody's going to like ridicule you for being into that whatever that fetish may be you know they're going to be like hey i'd up you do you but i'm that's not my party tomorrow night is more of a bdsm yeah we've talked about this countless times billions of times you kind of enjoy that i kind of enjoy i don't yeah and you know what you hardly ever get your ass smacked i never have gotten my ass smacked i'm proud to say now everybody's very respectful yeah and it might just be this group of people that we've known them and well there's exceptions to everything oh sure i mean yeah i mean you look at me and think every guy should be this good looking but there's exceptions a lot of guys aren't as good looking as me yes i was concerned about that i thought you might be. I like the giggle. Thanks. Makes you feel good. Okay. Anyway. I'm here to be building up, not tearing you down. Yeah, I'm sorry. So, yeah. Okay, we're beating us to death soon here. So, I mean, we're 21 minutes in. Uh-oh. No, again, it's a rant. I don't need to make it a fucking political statement, you know? No, no. So, again, people, again, I'm assuming majority of people listening to this podcast, and we thank you, get it. You know? Yeah. Do we look at people in our head and go, oh, I'd love to play with them? Sure. I think everyone does that're swinger or not yeah yeah i'd be like oh they're hot she'd be fun or he'd be fun or they'd be fun yeah sure you know those kind of things but you'd be dead not to exactly but i don't make that's not my driving force my driving force is to get to know them It's not like I pull out my swinger card and go, listen, I'm a swinger. You have to fuck me. We have these badges like they do for the FBI, like little shields and stuff, but it has a pineapple on it. You have to fuck me because I'm a swinger.
Speaker2:
Well, no,
Speaker1:
that's not how it works. Officer Donahue, I have to fuck you.
Speaker2:
I'm a swinger.
Speaker1:
And it goes beyond swing.
Speaker2:
Again,
Speaker1:
what goes on nowadays, like in the workplace, you can't even tell a woman that she looked like she might be wearing a new outfit. You can't sit there and go, you look very nice. No, you cannot. Now, if you wear it that way, if you say, wow, Donna, you look very nice today. I wouldn't take offense. That should be fine. Now, if you go, holy fuck, Donna, you look fucking hot as shit i can see no that's not appropriate well i'm going back to corporate america and i was wearing this um kind of a low cut corset with your tits hanging out no it was a little micro thong and and you know spike heels no boots that go up to your knees no no no i was just wearing like a little uh top. It was kind of like knit and it was kind of low down. And I remember my, uh, my manager at the time, he was like, gosh, throwing a little bit of cleavage, aren't you? And I was like, oops, sorry about that. And I made fun of my, my new manager when she had these fricking, they were stripper heels. Good Lord. They're, you know, five inchinch heels. They were like a beige-ish color. They were definitely stripper heels. I'm like, I told her, I said, do you something you want to tell me about here? You're not making enough here? Yeah, exactly. Well, she had like multiple shoes under her desk. I guess if she like forgot something or wanted to switch them up or I don't know, maybe she to get called on to one of the bars she just grabbed her shoes and go i don't know but she she had these heels i mean they were freaking you know they have a little platform on them not big they went like crazy stripper heels but they definitely could be stripper heels and i teased her about that i thought i was gonna get in trouble but i didn't she just like i'm not wearing them again i'm like well it looked good on you but they still are stripper heels i'm sorry better in the air i don't think she would ever do that yeah well she's done it a couple times yeah well she has two kids so i guess that whether she was wearing those heels or not i you know what i don't know I don't need to ask no no no I but anyway so that kind of summarizes the show i just need to fucking vent a little bit yeah it uh the thing that just happened to me more recently just kind of really made me pissed off that you know they assume one thing, and it was so obscure that they pulled from. It just, so be careful. Yeah. Again, I didn't think it was a big deal, but I was wrong, and I've been wrong plenty of times. I'm just wrong one more time. Yeah, so I don't know how you can vet people to, you know, ask them if they're swingers, especially if they're saying things. Well, first of all, if you do it, don't ever do it inside a workplace. Oh, no. Whether you're on lunch or whatever. Well, the one gentleman that we went to lunch with, and he was showing us pictures that he liked vinyl. No, not vinyl. Yeah uh yeah well he's different yeah he is different he's gonna be on the show yeah he actually supposedly is part owner in a a vinyl vinyl clothing yeah we're gonna get him in here and talk about uh he's got some interesting uh shit so um but uh yeah but yeah don't uh be careful out there be careful where who you disclose that you're a swinger because it may not end well and then the response to you is like that you are in fact a predator and that's just very wrong because swingers again are not predators so i don't know i don't know where they come up with this bullshit because it's ridiculous. So, you know, you might feel a need to share with somebody, especially if it comes dangerously close to something that you're thinking, but don't do it. There was plenty of times when, you know, I was at, in corporate America, and they were talking about things, and I'm like, oh, I could add to this conversation, but I I am not going to I'm just gonna sit here with especially since the one manager I had played with the one time remember yep oh I remember and you know because because you know what do you say to me we went out for a walk and I was like you know I said I told him I was like you know uh i thought you know we were gonna play more than that you know and and something came up like uh i forget what it was exactly and he just turned to me he said donna i know you you're a freak and i was like no i'm not a freak define freak you know oh i i mean define a freak yeah i don't know i'm just saying yeah well i guess he thought like the one time we played together he thought that was like really freaky and it's like no not really um it was fun don't get me wrong i mean i never ever told anybody in the office ever and this is going back 20 years um 19 years ago so sure you You know, I think I've been working there like a couple of months and ended up, you know, rehabbing them over. Well, we talked about that. But yeah, but just be really careful. Think twice before you open up about your swinging. And if you're listening to this and you're not in the lifestyle, don't just assume because people are swingers. That they're going to attack you. That you are fair game.
Speaker2:
Yeah. You're not.
Speaker1:
Yeah, that's ridiculous too. Point and simple. All right. With that, be safe. Stay horny. Talk to you next time. Have a great night, everybody. We'll see you next time.
