The Thrill of Spontaneity in Intimacy

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Speaker1: Welcome to the Hot Wife Podcast, where we dive into discussions about relationships, intimacy, and everything in between. Before we begin, we want to make it clear that the views expressed on this podcast are solely those of the host and guests, and should be taken as opinions, not professional or medical advice. Additionally, we remind all listeners that this podcast is intended for adults over the age of 18. Unauthorized rebroadcast of this show is strictly prohibited without the written permission of the owners of Hot Wife Podcast. Now, let's heat things up. Hello, everybody. This is Donna Lynn, and welcome to my Hot Wife podcast. Of course, I'm here with my wonderful husband, Vince, as usual. Of course. So how are you, dear? All right. Just all right? Nothing exciting? No? I had a boring day at work, so it's hard to come off of eight hours of sitting around twiddling your thumbs to have a lot of excitement. You had a busier day, apparently. Yes. I didn't. Crazy, crazy busy right now. That's good. I went through that. Crazy, crazy busy. Now that summer's over, sad to say. I know. Everybody's back at work and back in school, so don't get quite the flow of traffic through my job that we had during the summer. Right, I get it. Which is fine. Yeah, well, it happens with the season, so it is. Yeah, I'm sad to see the summer go to it. We didn't get a chance to really hang out by the pool That cold early again? I know. And the rain and all that crap? I only had a couple playmates down there this season. Well, your shoulder and everything else, too, didn't help. Yeah, but I was good until later on. But it was like the season. It was just cold and rainy. Yeah, it was just not... It was sad. I'm really... This summer's been a very sad summer because I didn't get a chance to... to, you know, really have some fun in the pool and, you know, things around the pool and under the pergola and, you know, you know. Sad. But anyway, yeah, that was a good day. So I came up with tonight's topic just on a by-complete whim. While you were bored at work? While I'm bored at work, yeah. So that's what you do at work. Well, I'm sitting there just staring at traffic out on the road in front of the place I work, and counting cars, and what can we talk about? So the thing I came up with, and the situation I was in isn't one of them. Right. What makes you horny? And not like, not something, I'm thinking more along the lines of, is there something that, other than like someone touching you or, you know, doing something to you, to make you horny? Just something like, you know, a smell, memories. I mean, what happens in your life that makes you horny? Hmm. Actually, when you were telling me about this topic, I was thinking, it's not necessarily that those... My husband's not around. And then I'm really turned on. Now, I'm really, really super horny. As soon as he leaves the room, I am so So horny, you just can't believe it. Comes back and wow, the freezer door is open. No, I was thinking it's more like the things like those outside stimuli besides somebody touching me, the smells, those memories and whatever. It's not that they make me horny. I think that there's a level of arousal. Not necessarily horny, but definitely a level of arousal. Some kind of titillation. I mean, I feel safe in saying this. At least, you know, for me, I don't necessarily get horny anymore. Well, we're not 14. No, and I'm grateful for that. You're not 16, you know what I'm saying? I mean, not that I don't get in the mood. Right. But I can't say I get horny. I mean, you know, again, I'm pushing 60, 59. Right. So, you know, yeah, it's not like the wind changed directions, like boing. Boing, yeah, it's like, really? So, I mean, yeah, I mean, I guess when I do have moments that I reflect back on my life, you know, different playmates or different scenarios I've been in, times I can, like, yeah, that was pretty cool. But that's not necessarily being horny. That's a level of arousal. Yeah, well, but what I'm saying is, like I said, I don't think I get, like, you know, again, at 59, you don't generally wake up You know, yeah, I get it. Yeah, I can stand up in front of the classroom and not worry. Yeah, you're good with public speaking at this stage of the game. Yeah, but no, I mean, again, for me, it would be horny. For me, it'd be what gets my engine started, I guess. Well, that's a level of arousal. It's a level of horny. Sure. Yeah. Yeah. Arousal is a type of horny. Yeah. But I'm talking like the, you know, 14-year-old boy wake up. Oh, yeah. No, they don't even need any kind of stimuli to get aroused. You just have to, you know, look at an apple and get aroused. Just think about going to, you know, sleeping in. Boing. Yeah, really. That would actually make me very aroused. Yes, that's arousing to me. Now, usually I'll think back to when I was dancing and the couch dances and stuff. There's certain scenarios that I was involved in with grinding on somebody. But again, the memory of that, Not actually doing that, but the memory of that is always kind of arousing. We had some fun when we were with the other dancer with April. Remember April? I remember her. I think back of that. I bet you she remembers me. I'm pretty sure she does. So these kind of memories always, yeah, they kind of, I get titillated. There's a titillation there. There's an arousal level. There's a. Well, Dylan was arousing about those scenarios. is it was all spontaneous. Yes. That to me is the most erotic thing. And all of a sudden I can't hear myself. Uh-oh. My headphones. I don't know. I guess I've gone deaf. I don't even want to hear myself. Okay, I'll turn my, there we go. Now you can hear again. I think my, sounds like a physical problem. I think my knob is loose on my head. I think your knob is loose too, but we're not talking about the same thing. But yeah, no, Those spontaneous things happen are very erotic. It's like that time up in the kitchen with Mickey. I was just thinking about the times with Mickey. I was thinking down there by the pool. That was another one. Yeah, yeah. You got her on the side of the pool and she sprayed all over the edge of the pool. And there's nothing wrong with that. I tried to catch it all in my mouth, but you know. Yeah, there's a lot to catch. Yeah, there was. Spontaneous things. Like, you know, like the other week, the one gentleman who we thought was going to be shooting with this, I mean, that was just kind of a spontaneous thing. It was kind of a rhyme. Yeah, that's, yeah, it is a spontaneous ones. I remember, uh, I was much younger. I probably was still in college. I had a little threesome at the, uh, uh, the National Park, which I won't say because it's probably very illegal to have a set. You're past the, uh, they didn't catch you. Yeah, they didn't catch you. No, it's with Valley Forge. Valley Forge, yeah. Valley Forge National Park. Yeah, exactly. How many people have fucked at Valley Forge? Oh, I'm sure a lot of people have. Oh, God. I met that one couple there to photograph the wife. Oh, yeah, the wife and the husband. Yeah. Yeah, well, he stayed back at the tourist center. Right. And I took her through the park and photographed her. And then, yeah, we played. Yeah, that was spontaneous. Yeah, it was just supposed to be a photo shoot, but. You know how things go. She liked my focal length. I'm sure she did. Yeah, I mean, actually, the little space in my head was quite a lot of fun. It was very spontaneous. I don't even know if we had a blanket to throw down. I hope we did because, you know, doing all like just plain old grass and God knows what's in the grass and weeds. Again, how many? It was like 40 years ago? Yeah, I actually think it was. Yes, it was 40 years ago. You've been 15? No. I was in college. I was 20. So 40 years ago, because I'm 65 now. So I was 40-plus years ago. I was 20. I don't think I was... Whatever the math breaks out to. Yeah, I didn't do the math. Sorry, guys. The spontaneous shit's always... It's like I did a lot of photo shoots with different women. Right, right. There was never any... Concept of sex. For me, there was never. It was just, I'm going to do the shoot. But sometimes the women were hired up and like, where do you think you're going? Yeah, that's, and that's not a bad thing. I'm not complaining. Yeah, I'm sure you're not. If you were complaining, I'd be like, what's wrong with you, dude? Yeah, I mean, you know, like going to a swinger party, they're fun. Right. Club or whatever. But you kind of know, there's a good chance I'm getting something. Right. It's a possibility. I'm not saying that's a bad thing. But there's something more erotic, like, If you just happen to be out, say, at a restaurant or a bar, more likely, and you happen to just meet another couple and it happens, it's not even a swinger couple. Right. It hasn't happened to us. Right. But if we went someplace together, sitting there having a drink, met this other couple, it started drinking, got a little tipsy. Yeah, got a little flirtatious, and then the flirting becomes something else and something else, yeah. It's a letter to Penthouse, but you know. Yeah, sure. But, you know, those kind of things are the ones that are erotic and stick in your head. Yeah. That would make me quote-unquote horny. Yeah, I agree. And it is the spontaneity is because it is so organic and orgasmic. Hopefully. Hopefully. Because organic can also be bad. Yeah, organic could, well, I'm saying it happens naturally as organic that way. Yeah, but when it happens organically, Sometimes things do go wrong, but because, I don't know, I think in those circumstances, even if things aren't quite right, you're so wrapped up in the throes of passion and what's going on that even if things don't go quite right, it's okay. It's okay. It doesn't even matter. Yeah. So, talking about organic. Okay. So, This Sunday, we're going to record the show for Monday. Okay. We talked about not talking about things that are supposed to happen. Oh, yeah, I know. And every time we do, they fall flat. They fall flat. Oh, yeah, it's terrible. I'm never going to do that again. Well, he's been... Oh, same couple? No. Oh, different couple. Different couple. Okay. No, your classmate. Oh, my classmate, yes. Yeah, he's been sending me pictures. He has this new gorgeous girlfriend. Oh, my God, so much fun, too. She is... Did I mention gorgeous? Gorgeous. She's gorgeous and she's adventurous. Yeah. Like you took pictures of her on those rocks and it was like, I don't know how they got her down there. I've been getting more pictures of me throughout the day of her naked. Oh. I texted him back. Okay. Okay. I give in. She can have me. What was his response to that? He didn't respond. I think he's still laughing. Okay. But no, They are flying back in late Saturday night, and they're supposed to come over Sunday afternoon and hang out with us. They want me to do my photography magic of her. Not that day. We're going to plan a shoot. Oh, okay. But then they're going to come on and share some experiences and stuff with us on a podcast. Oh, man. We should have talked about it. You know it's not going to happen. It's something that's going to happen. He's been bugging me for weeks with this because he met her. Right. And I'm like, okay, let's make it happen. Okay. Let's do this. Stop talking. Less talking, more walking. Let's go. Less talking, suck my cock. That doesn't rhyme. I don't need it to rhyme. Beautiful woman, suck my cock. That's all I need. I'm doing rhyming. No, I don't think it was rhyming. I have fucking Father Goose over here. Father, not Father Goose. Okay, okay, well, now we talked about you jinxed it, so it's probably not going to happen. Yeah, thanks, Vince. Okay, well, we'll see. If it happens, then, you know. And you know, the funny thing is, this gentleman I went to school with, I've only blown him. I've never fucked him. And every time we get him, I'm like, okay, the next time, you know, I'm going to fuck him, I'm going to fuck him. He gets another girlfriend. But this one is in the lifestyle. Yeah, this one's in the lifestyle. All the other ones. It might be something they might want to do a photo shoot of. Oh, that could be interesting. So we'll see. Yeah, we'll see. I don't want to get my hopes up. I haven't talked about that to them or anything else. I'm just saying, you know, there's one of those little things that could make you horny. He was, you know, when I knew him in school, he was very quiet and goody-goody, you know. So I had no idea this whole side of him. And then when he contacted us on the Swinger website, I was like, is this the same person I went to school with? It's like, oh, do I dare say, you know, yes? Other things we found out about her. Yeah. What? Never would have pictured that. Not even close. But yeah, I think there'll be a whole lot of fun, especially with the new girlfriend sounds like she's a whole lot of fun. She's really adventurous. Even if she's not, she's great to look at. It's more fun if she's, you know, has a great personality and is fun to be with. Somebody who's great to look at is just great to look at. And that's where it goes. Well, what good is looking at it if it doesn't interact with you in some form or fashion? I'm not always talking sexual here, folks. That's how you are with me. Oh, she's on the beach naked. Yeah. Nice. This guy's a little bit of hanger downers there, huh? Well. A little bit. Yeah, no. Yeah, I can see it from over here and I'm across the room. She has a belly chain on. Yeah, belly chain. Oh, it's very hot. Wow. Where did they go? I don't know, St. Thomas or. God, I hate them already. Yeah, it's nice. She got some funky tan lines. I don't know what she's wearing. Yeah, so there's funky lines. I don't care. If she gets sunburned, I will put lotion on. You are such a gentleman. I go the extra mile. You do. I'm so proud of you. You're such a humanitarian. I'm a lot of things, but I'm good with that. So compassionate. No, but so, you know, again, I think we agree then, the more spontaneous things, not only do they stick in your brain. Oh, yeah, they do. And make you horny, but, you know, the, you know, just, they're more erotic. I do, yes, they're definitely more erotic. Absolutely. Yeah, there's a bunch of, I'm sure if I went back through my many years of being my wild child self, but there's probably a lot of other very erotic and spontaneous happenings that I've probably forgotten about. But like I said, the threesome that was in Valley Forge State Park was probably one of the ones I do remember the most. Because it was spontaneous. We're just like out driving around. Hey, let's go in here. Look at the first day we were, we did something physical. Yeah, that's true. We were like doing this quote photo shoot. Well, no, we did a photo shoot. We did do the photo shoot. I'm doing air quotes, but it was also like we were drinking a little bit. We caught a case of Smirnoff ice. A little bit. I don't think we drank the whole case. Yes, we did. No, we didn't. We didn't drink the entire case. Yes. No. I drank most of it. I'm sure you did. Yeah, you know my- Yeah, tolerance. Yeah. Especially with Smirnoff ice. You didn't get half. I guarantee you didn't get half. Oh, I could not have even drank half. You probably had six pack. No, I'm sure I drank. a little bit more. That was pretty toasted, but yeah, that was very spontaneous. Now that you mentioned it, that was fun. Then there was a time we were over in that other office, and I put you up on the mantle of the fireplace. Oh, the mantle? That was spontaneous, wasn't it? Yeah, and put you up on the mantle of the fireplace. You didn't eat my pussy? Yeah. I was like, I don't squirt, but I certainly remember oozing all over the place. I left some wet spots, big wet spots. That was fun. Yeah, you know what? I think the, oh, hold on, we've got to, Tickle Yeah, that's not even nice. I got enough problems. I'll be spraying my drink all over the place. Yeah, don't ruin the microphone. Yeah, don't ruin the microphone. Actually, those really spontaneous erotic interludes are probably the most fun to think about. Yeah. You know, the first time you and I got together, yeah, it was in a basement. I mean, it was like this old, We did a photo shoot in the basement. We came up and we were in our office. We started out in the basement, though. That's the first time you learned about my tongue. That's the first time I learned about you. Yes, that's true. I remember I was on the floor of the office and you were doing stuff to me. I think we started out on the desk, but it wasn't comfortable. Truthfully, I don't remember that far back. I think I picked you up and put you on the desk and I was kissing you. I stood up and I was kissing you. Right. And then, you know, I had you lay back. Yeah, the desk was not sick. And I started, and you were like, this isn't really comfortable. Let's go to the floor. Let's go to the floor. It's more room. Went to the floor and picked your pussy, and then we fucked. Yeah. Oh, actually, no. We didn't fuck the first time? We didn't fuck, no. I'll be honest with you. We were just so drunk. Oh, yeah. I remember having many orgasms. Can I just tell you? So many wonderful orgasms. I never had orgasms like that. And not just because I was drunk. I mean, I certainly did heighten the experience a little bit maybe. But the orgasms, it was like wave after wave after wave of orgasms. Like, oh my God, I didn't know my body could do that. I do what I can. Well, you certainly raised the bar for anybody else who does oral on me. So that's for sure. That's one of the funny things so far. Okay. Whether you're lying to me or not. Why would I lie? If you weren't doing a good job. Because you're my wife. I wouldn't have married you if you... No. What? After you get done playing with... To my knowledge, every guy you've ever played with, like when we go and play afterwards, after you de-louse. Oh, de-louse and everything. And then I lick your pussy and make you have an orgasm. You're like... As I start to lick your pussy, I was like, yeah, that's the tongue I want. I mean, I've had a couple contenders. I have had a couple contenders. But, man, I don't want to bash anybody. But there's a couple young guys that kept twisting their head back and forth, back and forth. They're like, no, my pussy goes up and down, not back and forth. And if you have any kind of nubs, any kind of like, you know, bristly, I might as well, you know, play with a fucking... Brillo. Brillo pad. Yeah, thank you very much for doing that. So when we get to play afterwards and you actually start eating my pussy, it's like, yes, now that's how you eat a pussy. That's how you do it. For me. Okay, for me. I have a few years and probably a lot more pussy experience than they do. Which cracks me up because most people who look at me, like guys I've worked with in the past. Oh, they just break you off, I'm sure. Yeah, they're like, oh, Vince has had two people in his whole life. Okay, sure. No, it's not a competition. No, it's not. I don't go around bragging. I don't even talk about it. No, but I mean, for me, It trips my trigger. I can come in like two minutes. It's not a problem. I have more than one orgasm. Most of the times you don't let me. Oh, no. It's too much. My head will cave in or something. I even try to tell guys, use your tongue here. Do this. I don't want to be bossy, but I know what I need. I know what I want, and I know how to communicate that to another person. You know, they refuse to listen. They're going, their head's going, you know, back and forth. It's like, no, up and down, up and down. Our old neighbor. Oh, I know, I know. I kept my mouth shut to him when he was talking about it. I think. You want to know the secret to eat pussy? Yeah, sure, go ahead. He's like, you got to do the alphabet. Get the fuck out of here, I know. I think, I hope to God he was kidding. No, he. No, no, that had to be a joke. Come on, that's lame. That's an A. Come on, slow, nasty. I've heard that before. I tell them I do the Chinese alphabet. All those characters. And I also do it quick. For me, I like fast, flickering tongue on my clit. But not only on my clit. I really like to tease around the clit. Oh, I really like it. This doesn't sound really stupid. I like it when you lick over the hole. Don't go in the hole yet. Just around it, like on top. It's like weird. because the hole is there. You think you want to go in. But no, I want it like on top of it and around it. But don't go in it yet. I want to be teased. And then do the clit. And then do around it and tease it. I know what you like. I know. I'm trying to explain to our listeners what I like. And I even tried to explain it to people that had their head nestled between my thighs. And yet they're doing, I don't know what they're doing with their face. I don't know what they're doing. Sometimes they get it. They don't. I mean, not that it always feels, it doesn't necessarily feel bad, but. We've talked about this before. I know. I don't want to get up on this tangent. But no, one of the things that I'm very cognitive, it's a big word for me. Oh, that is a big word. Of the person who I'm playing with, I'm trying to be aware of what they're experiencing. Like. How their body responds to your touch? Yeah. When you see, you know, their clit starts to swell. You know you're doing something right. Exactly, sounds. When you start doing something, they're like, oh. Like, okay, that's a good thing. No, what if it's, oh. Well. It's the same letters, but it's the different sounds. You have to be cognitive with that as well. The emphasis on it. There's a difference between ooh and ooh. Again, don't be afraid to ask them, you know, do you like this? Do you want me to do? You know, you want me to put the other fist in? Yeah, I don't mind it when guys ask me or, yeah. I was with one guy. He kept saying, oh, so do you like that? Do you like that? It's like, well, yes, but stop asking me. Don't talk about it. You know, that's the thing. So when you make a Caesar salad, do you do it from scratch? What's your favorite kind of pasta? Yeah, I know. You can ask once in a while, but I don't want to be hounded with it. I will tell you how my body responds. You have to be insightful. You have to be sensitive to how... I mean, when I'm sucking a guy's dick, I mean, usually they're hard, so that's a good response for me. That can only help. That can only help. But let's just say maybe they're not hard when you start out. Maybe they haven't started, sure. Yeah, but if they... They should respond within a few minutes. If they respond with it, then I know I'm doing something right. Or sometimes some guys are... Now, is snoring a response? Well, yes, it is, but it's not necessarily a good one. Just checking. Well, there's... I've been with guys, and I'm so glad that they're verbal about it. They'll be like, oh, yeah, lick my balls. Lick my balls. Hello, over here. You're one of them. Yeah. Most guys like their balls licked. their balls licked. I mean, some like it licks, some like it sucked, some like it. So like when you're sucking my dick. Right, sucking your dick. And we can go over this tonight. You're going to give me like a tutorial? Do I get printouts? I mean, a lot of times, you know, the girls focus on, you know, the shaft. Right, there's the shaft. You know, it's like, okay, that's the stereotypical blowjob. Right. Again, so if you don't tell a girl, Like, my nuts could use a little attention. Right, right. You know, a lot of times you'll miss over it. Right. You know, there's been times you'll be blowing me for a while and it's like, okay, I got to tell her. Oh, yeah. I got to ask her. I'm not going to tell you. Right. I was just like, yeah, because sometimes I get involved in the sensation of sucking your dick. Yeah, you're busy thinking like, well, I got to, you know. I'm looking at my watch. Get up tomorrow morning and I got to make sure I feed the pets. I'm watching, like I'm going through Instagram. You don't know that, but I'm bound to got my Instagram page up. I don't know why my balls were glowing. Hey, you down there. Lick my balls a little bit. Hey, yo. You can't post that on Instagram. If you do, get a good angle so I look bigger. Well, the way that I would be underneath you, you would look gigantic. The shot you would take, my asshole would look huge. Well, I won't put that on Instagram, but I will put it on Twitter. Thanks for nothing. But anyway. All right. So yeah, I was just curious, like what things make you horny? You know, or my favorite cookie. He's out there. He's doing the whole cuckold thing. He's enjoying the cuckold world, man. Man, that's funny that he's living his best life, man. It's not what he's doing. It's not my thing. Right, right. I am envious that he is like latched into a niche that satisfies him. You're envious of that? That means you haven't done it? Or are you encouraging him? No. I'm not envious of his I'm envious of that. He's like in a niche and that he wants. Right. You know, like me. So you're not in a niche that you want? I don't really have one. I mean, I want to be surrounded by great bourbon and good cigars. Oh, yeah. That niche will never be fulfilled. I'm sorry. Well, I had it for a while. Then finances changed. So maybe you're encouraging him. You're happy that he's found a niche. He's living his best life. That's awesome. Well, that's not really jealousy. No, it's not jealous. I'm not jealous. And you're not envious of that. No, I'm proud of him. That's a better word. I mean, at my age, it's like, no, I can't maintain a sexual fetish to save my ass. My sexual fetish is making enough money to pay the bills. That's my fetish. Oh, you know I'm right there with you. I think I'm getting wet, mister. Talk about. I'm going to pay the mobile phone bill. Oh, God, I'm so wet. The trash bill came in for the quarter. I'm going to pay that fucker in full. Oh, you're so dirty. You're such a naughty boy. I don't like to brag. I'm toying with, like, you know, filling my gas tank up all the way to the floor. Oh, dare we dream. Oh, no. Don't get too excited. I said, I'm toying with it. Oh, my God. That's too funny. Don't forget to check out the free magazine. Oh, yeah. And 50shadesofpleasure.com. And don't forget to check out Donna's website to see what and where and who she's doing. At hotwipedonnalyn.com. Hotwipedonnalyn.com, sorry. You're new here. I'm sorry. Brain farts. Shut up. You have brain farts to do. Don't even go there, mister. I have brain diarrhea. I don't want to go there. Brain diarrhea. This shit just dumps out of my head. And you go, what did you say that for? I don't know. It just came out. So anyway, again, thank everyone. Our listenership is growing every week, and I appreciate that greatly. So, hey, stay horny. All right. Have a great night, everybody.