In this episode of the Hot Wife Podcast, hosts Donna Lynn and her husband discuss the nuances of swinging as a lifestyle versus a hobby. They share personal experiences from a recent encounter, explore the mindset behind swinging, and invite listeners to reflect on their own definitions of their relationships within the swinging community. The conversation emphasizes the importance of communication, consent, and the fluidity of lifestyle choices in adult relationships.TakeawaysThe podcast is intended for adults over 18.Listeners are encouraged to reach out with topics or questions.Swinging can be seen as a mindset rather than a strict lifestyle.It's important to have open-minded conversations about sexuality.Swinging can be a hobby that adds spice to life without being a central focus.Life circumstances can affect how often couples engage in swinging.There is no right or wrong way to define one's relationship with swinging.The hosts emphasize the importance of mutual consent and enjoyment in swinging.Swinging can ebb and flow based on life events and personal choices.The conversation invites listeners to reflect on their own experiences and definitions.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/hot-wife-podcast-and-the-swinger-lifestyle--5343522/support. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
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Speaker1: Welcome to the Hot Wife Podcast, where we dive into discussions about relationships, intimacy, and everything in between. Before we begin, we want to make it clear that the views expressed on this podcast are solely those of the host and guests, and should be taken as opinions, not professional or medical advice. Additionally, we remind all listeners that this podcast is intended for adults over the age of 18. Unauthorized rebroadcast of this show is strictly prohibited without the written permission of the owners of Hot Wife Podcast. Now, let's heat things up. hello everybody this is donna lynn and welcome to my hot white podcast of course i'm here with my ever wonderful husband vince of course grains behind the operation and the looks and the look Thank you. Welcome to my Hot White Podcast. Of course, I'm here with my ever-wonderful husband, Vince. Speaker2: Of course. Speaker1: He brings behind the operation. Speaker3: And the looks. Speaker1: And the looks. You know what? Sorry, I forgot about that. Speaker2: Sorry. Speaker3: At least a ton. Speaker1: We can talk about that later. Speaker2: Oh. Speaker3: Talk about that before we get into the topic. Speaker1: Oh, you could. Speaker2: Yeah. Okay. Speaker3: It actually will kind of lend itself into the topic remotely. Speaker1: Yeah, I think so. I was seeing that. Speaker2: Sure. Speaker3: Thank you. topic oh you could yeah okay it actually will kind of lend itself into the topic remotely yeah i i think so i was seeing that sure so um yeah hey so welcome to the show um hopefully you enjoy it hopefully you're back or new or whatever so with that uh if you want to reach out to us with a topic, a question, a concern advice needed I don't believe people ask us for advice but they do. That is frightening don't do that folks I don't recommend it. Info at hotwifepodcast.com the new magazine the new Fifty Shades of Pleasure magazine is out. Again, it's still free. Looking good. Yeah. And please check that out. Like I said, it's free. Pass it along. It's readable on any mobile device and even your PC. Just go to Fifty Shades of Pleasure. And the nice thing with the digital publication. And that's.com..com, correct. I'm sorry. If you're sitting waiting for your car to get repaired or you're sitting in a doctor's office, there's nothing. Pornography. There's no porn in it yet. It's a little bit like lingerie. They're a little racy. Yeah, they're racy stuff. You can sit there. And it's not just the current issue. You have all the issues we put out. So I've been putting them out for over a year now.
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That's hard to believe.
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That is hard to believe.
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So please enjoy that.
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It's looking nice.
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Very nice.
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So please enjoy it. It's a little hard of work. I like to think it's not for naught.
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So.
Speaker1:
Nice topic. Well, let's talk about what we did yesterday. That was actually interesting. mm-hmm
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we had met we did oh yeah that was actually interesting um we had met well jennifer ray had been on the show yes a year or so ago something like that and uh she keeps toying with stuff had come up where she couldn't get into yeah shooting content right exactly she keeps going back and forth with that. So now we sat down.
Speaker1:
She definitely had a playmate that she's going to shoot with and have some fun. Actually, the playmate that I had played with several years ago. Yeah, a friend of ours too. And so we all met at his house. It was her, her husband, the playmate, and you and I.
Speaker3:
We were there.
Speaker1:
I was there to help instruct the husband how to how to shoot the videos and light the scene exactly exactly so it it ended up being a social thing at first that you know we're like hey we haven't seen each other in a while so that was nice and then um you know it was started to they actually jennifer ray and her playmate decided they were going to shoot their little scene, I guess, their little playtime in the back room. So that was interesting. There wasn't enough room for me to, like, peek in there, and I don't know how comfortable she is to, you know. No, she was fine. I thought so, too, but we had done videos together. We did that girl girl one for that one customer. We did a custom video for him. We had to call out his name. That was fun. So, you know, it was nice. It was really nice. You know, he had a massage table set up there. So it was kind of, you know, with all kinds of like the lotions and oils, which they didn't use, but sometimes that's kind of fun.
Speaker3:
I thought you were going to talk about when we were doing the.
Speaker1:
Oh, before that in the kitchen. When she was filling out the releases. What about the releases? You don't remember what was going on while the releases were being signed? In the kitchen, you mean? Yeah. Oh, yeah, he picked her up and plopped her on the kitchen counter. Yeah, she jumped up on her own. Oh, she jumped up on her own. Yeah, she jumped up on her own, yes. Oh, okay. Like I said, I was showing her, the playmate, what to fill out in his release.
Speaker2:
Mm-hmm.
Speaker1:
So, and you started eating her pussy. So that was, and she's back there moaning, and her husband comes out with her phone. And, like, the playmate was talking to me, and I was like, I wanted to be like, this is a really good scene, you know? Let him film this. This is looking pretty good here. In five minutes. This is pretty odd. Oh, she came. In five minutes, she came twice. Yep, there it is. Oh, did he send them to you? Yeah. If I'm eating pussy in the picture. Well, I know, but I didn't know who. I thought maybe her playmate sent them to you. No, this is her husband sent me for me. Right. That's nice. I was acting as the fluffer. Yes, you were definitely the fluffer for her. Yes. I wanted to make sure she was ready to accept it. Oh, yeah. Well, yeah, exactly. You don't want to go into that situation without being pre. I'm a team player. You are. You're so good. If a beautiful woman needs her pussy like, I'm there for her. You are. You just put everything aside. Like myself i will go the extra mile to give this woman i wasn't shooting video i had no adjustments of lighting i needed to do i was i was there just as a consultant so i also took on the role as female fluffer i've been fluffers before yeah you can you know you can can fluff either way. I can only fluff one way. I've been the fluffer. And the fluffy. And the fluffy, which is not a bad thing on either side. It's really not too bad. But that was kind of fun. That was more social slash a little bit of, you know. Yeah, it was nice. And we'll be doing more with them. Jennifer will be coming on the show. I hope so.
Speaker2:
Yeah.
Speaker1:
I hope so. I hope she can really make this work.
Speaker3:
When she starts getting a little more content down to have some place to tell people where to go see, then she will make that happen.
Speaker1:
Yeah, because they've been in the lifestyle as long as we've been in it.
Speaker3:
Maybe longer.
Speaker1:
They've been married longer.
Speaker3:
They've been married for 42 years.
Speaker1:
Yeah, but I don't know if they've been in the lifestyle that whole time. Well, we've known them the better part of 20 years. Yeah, yeah, I think you're right. They were the early couples we met. I think you're right. You are right. Yeah, they've probably been at it quite a while. So it'll be fun. It'll be a lot of fun. yeah so with that tonight's topic is is swinging a lifestyle or just a hobby or somewhere in between i don't know or a combination of the two or a combination of the two because i was thinking about that earlier and it's like well we're not one of those kind of couples that has everything swinging. You know what I mean? We don't have the little scrunchies outside the house that are black and blue that tells the other neighbors that we're into everything.
Speaker3:
We're upside down pineapples all over.
Speaker1:
Upside pineapples everywhere. You know, we don't have a big pineapple flag.
Speaker3:
We have friends that aren't in the lifestyle.
Speaker1:
We have friends that aren't in the lifestyle.
Speaker3:
They don't know we're in the lifestyle.
Speaker2:
No.
Speaker1:
They probably would think we're freaks. So, I mean, swinging is considered the lifestyle. The lifestyle. And that's in air quotes there. Yeah, so, I mean, yeah, that's up for debate, I guess, technically. If it's a lifestyle or not. So, you know, to start out, I guess I'd say, how do you rate what we do? Uh, well, how I, you know what? I'm kind of in between. I think it, I don't think it's a, um, it's not, we don't live swinging. So it may be a life. So I think it's more like a mindset than it is a lifestyle. I'm perfectly happy, not having to have sex with everybody that comes along the pike. I'm just as happy to meet with like-minded people. It made grocery shopping a lot longer. Especially to get you like the produce and some of the. Just trying to get a pound of sliced ham at the deli and you're back there fucking the deli guys. Well, yeah, Jesus Christ. But I think, yeah, it's more of a mindset. Like when we went out to like after the shoot, the husband and wife, Jennifer Ray and her husband, and you and I went out to a local restaurant and had some, you know, we had a couple of drinks and, you know, we had some nice conversation. But, and of course it did turn a little bit sexual, but it's nice to be with open-minded people that think that way. You don't, I don't have to play with everybody. I just have to have somebody that can say, yes, I understand where you're coming from. I don't know.
Speaker3:
I don't know. I don't know.
Speaker1:
I don't know.
Speaker3:
I don't know.
Speaker2:
I don't know. I don't know. I don't that think that way you don't I don't have to play with everybody I just have to have somebody that can say yes I understand where you're coming from and you're not that weird you know that you know that kind of a thing that oh you weren't talking to me I know you you are that weird um but yeah I mean well yeah, see, I interpret a lifestyle
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as something that you, you know, like after I got diagnosed with diabetes, that's a lifestyle. I have to adjust my life to that. My life is geared by what I eat, and everything else is geared by my diabetes.
Speaker2:
Yes.
Speaker3:
To me, that's a lifestyle.
Speaker1:
Yeah, I can see it.
Speaker3:
It is an ailment, don't get me wrong, or a disease, whatever you call it.
Speaker2:
Swinging is an ailment?
Speaker1:
Wait a minute here.
Speaker2:
No, I don't get me wrong oh yeah a disease is an ailment wait a minute well i'm just using it as a comparison yeah but yeah you know um you know i enjoy cigars and bourbon right is that that's a hobby that's a hobby you know i don't drink bourbon non-stop i don't drink i don't smoke cigars non-stop yeah i have some here now but i mean when i woke up i had coffee i had to have bourbon well that's you know at lunch i didn't have bourbon i had no wait that's an addiction now wait a minute there's a lifestyle and then there's an addiction you know oh your addiction is somebody else's lifestyle i guess but no i'm saying is you okay maybe a bad example but it's not something that yeah i'll make fun of the harley riders you know they gotta have everything hard i don't say all of them a good portion of them okay they gotta have the harley t-shirts and the belt buckle and the pants and the harley boots we don't we don't have like upside down pineapple t-shirts well do you wake up every day and go okay who are we going to play with today no okay although i'm saying you know we have our lives to lead and yeah we have when we have a break in the action the same as you know if your hobby is you know flying remote control now it's drones okay okay drone you have to fly drone do you you don't live just to fly a drone. That's a thing you do, let's say, is the hobby. The hobby. You know, or photography. Knitting. Yeah, I mean, you want to do that nonstop? No. You might have spurts we do. I would never want to do knitting nonstop. If the only thing I have to do is fucking knitting, my life is fucking over. Sorry for those who enjoy knitting. I'm sorry, crocheting. It's bad math. I know it's like one and two. People find that very cathartic. It's very soothing. Not to mention, well, both of them could do the same thing. You get a nice feeling from both. Yeah. You get an afghan, which is nice and warm, and you have your bourbon, which makes you feel nice and warm. So there you go. Just different things make you feel the same way. What I'm saying is, like for me, swinging is a hobby. Yeah. It's something we do occasionally right and it's meant for fun and relaxation but i don't base my life around it no i can go on vacations that aren't swinging based exactly you know i can um not as much fun i mean even if you don't play with anybody, it's not as much fun. Because they can't tell the dirty jokes. You can't do the whole, you know, be cheeky, just flash a nipple or something. Well, we went to Ireland.
Speaker3:
It wasn't, you know, we weren't like, who could we fuck in Ireland? Who could we fuck in Ireland, you know?
Speaker1:
Hey, my eyes were open. I just didn't, you know, when it was cold, too.
Speaker3:
See, now you're just looking, see, you don't make excuses if that's what you live for.
Speaker1:
Well, I guess not. I guess I could fuck with a parka on. We had fucking hotel rooms. No, we did. They had heat. They had heat. Okay, so don't. I guess it just didn't come about. If you had come about in an organic way, that would have been different. But I wasn't out there. Actually, truth be told, we'll say it on air. What's that? The nine days we were in Ireland, we didn't have sex oh god no it was it was busy i mean well not to mention i had a problem with your wound on my foot yeah but it was i was exhausted by time we got to bed and now then you're up and you have to be on the bus the next morning it's what 7 a.m 8 a.m it's like it, it was go. Nine days, we were nine different places, nine different hotels. I think it was eight different hotels. But whatever, I mean. Yeah, it was go. So we didn't even do anything. Yeah, there were some things. And yeah, we were exhausted still. Just saying, we didn't get to, you know. So again, you know, if you make sex or swinging a major part of your life. I mean, I'm not saying people shouldn't do that or whatever. That's what they enjoy.
Speaker3:
And the topic is not one of them is right, one of them is wrong. It's just like how do you define what you do?
Speaker2:
Exactly.
Speaker3:
Do you define your swinging as a hobby? Or do you define it as a lifestyle? I'm still somewhere in between. It is a hobby. is a hobby let's pretend we have a free weekend okay and you sit there and go hey let's invite some people over and have sex or do you sit there and say hey you know what let's go let's go down to the Jersey Shore or something. Yeah. Okay. I might do the Jersey Shore. And meet couples down there to fuck. No, but I'm saying it depends. See, I interpret it if you're in the lifestyle, it's like, oh, I have free moments, we need to fuck people. Okay, whereas a hobby, it's just like, you know, if we didn't have anything planned, maybe we'll meet a couple or invite so-and-so over or whatever. But, you know, it's supposed to be a nice weekend. Let's go down on shore for the day or overnight. Something like that. To me, that's where you, you know, it's just like, I got free time, okay? Do I need to throw sex in there or do I want to do something else that's a quality of life?
Speaker1:
Sure, I agree. No, I'm definitely, I'm on board with that.
Speaker3:
So, you know, that's my question about the topic is, you know, how does everyone, and like I said, no right or wrong.
Speaker4:
Well, here's the thing.
Speaker3:
How do you define your stance in it?
Speaker1:
Yeah, but here's the thing. I'm going to muddy the water a little bit more that's fine if it is a lifestyle and i'm saying a mindset as to i am open to those conversations i'm very accepting of other people's differences in the bedroom and people don't have to this is just my opinion i don't think people should be threatened if they have something that's i would call very you know might beishes. Like, we can have that conversation and not go to bed with them. Sure. You know, that's what I, that's why I said. We've had that conversation with a lot of people. Yes. But it's more, for me, it is more of a social and a mindset. And if we get together with a couple, it's, that's just the icing on the cake. Well, mindset and lifestyle are two different things, too. They are. I agree with that. You have to be in the mindset to either have it as a hobby or have it as a lifestyle. That's true. That's a very good point. That is true. You know, plain and simple. You have to have the swinger mindset. Right. You know, that, hey, I like seeing my significant other with somebody. Exactly. Or whatever your fetish is. Yeah, but you venture to one side or the other with the sense of, hey, we need to do this as often as possible, or we want to just sprinkle it in here and there just to keep life exciting. Like as an extra space. Okay, I guess you want to call that a hobbyist. That's fine. I guess I'm definitely more of a hobbyist then. Oh, you definitely are more of a hobbyist. Yeah, definitely. It's not like we have pictures hanging in our house like we know other couples do of a woman who is, you know, hanging. You know, she's a... But that's not in their main living. You have to get invited to their basement. Well, it's still right there as soon as you go down the basement. There's this woman that's, you know, strung up the roof. Well, but you have spanking benches there. You have a cross hanging up there. They had a dildo on their mantle that their cleaning lady saw. And it dusts around it. So they were careful. They definitely live it. Yes. We don't live it. But they also, they tend to live more of, well, they're big into the power exchange. Yes. And that even, that goes beyond, I mean, that's, for me, that's even, is that more of a lifestyle? But that's definitely a lifestyle. Well, and again, I'm not saying people who live the lifestyle are wrong. No. I'm just saying, I'm just asking, just putting this out there as a question to people. Like, how do you interpret what you do? Right, exactly. Like, they're way more. People who are into that, like, the dom-sub thing, and they live it. They do live it. If that works for you, that's awesome. Yeah. You know, the same as polygamy, you know. Polygamy. You know, the origami relationship thing. No. You know, however you want to fold your mates, that's up to you. Stop, I can't. No. Polygon. Polyamorous. Polyamorous. I was thinking polygamy, and I'm like, no, we're already a polygamy. How is polygamy and polyamorous different? They're not. No, I don't. There may not be a love factor. I think polygamy is marriage, where. Polygonal is just folding your mates a funny way. You know, how you fold your laundry. Polyamorous is like you can have a relationship with multiple people and be in love and everything else and yeah you don't have to be married yeah you don't have oh oh okay there's um you know what i'm not sure it could be illegal polyamorous isn't oh yeah because you're legally married with yeah okay okay with again that's a that's a lifestyle now see that i would say is a lifestyle a lifestyle. That's definitely a lifestyle. It's not one I understand. No, it's not one I particularly would not be satisfying to me. You can't keep control of me. Why would you want more? Exactly. And you can't keep control of me, so you can't keep control of me bitching all the time, so why would you want more?
Speaker5:
Just a little thing. My hearing loss is something I did on my own.
Speaker1:
You take a pencil.
Speaker3:
God, I hope I punctured my ear drum. The reason my hearing loss has happened. But, yeah, it's, so, again, people,
Speaker1:
if maybe your life, you feel fills a void in your life, maybe it becomes a lifestyle more. Oh, yeah. I guess for us, it's just that little bit of spice that makes life. I got too much other shit in my life. If I can get rid of some of that, maybe I'll move more to the lifestyle of it. Maybe i know i there's there's like i said there's no no right or wrong answer yeah it's what works for you just you know people would be interested write in info at hotwifepodcast.com what how do you define your relationship with swinging is it are you in a lifestyle or is it kind of a hobby yeah i could see us being more hobbyist i guess if you can use that word i like it because i want to keep it special i don't if i did it every weekend like you always say if you had flame eight uh flame and yawn every night it wouldn't be special anymore that's how it is for me if it's happens radically you know, that would be fine. That's great. It just makes it more memorable. It's not like, well, I was with, you know, 20 different guys this last month. I get it. It can just be too much. And I want to keep it special.
Speaker2:
For you.
Speaker1:
Yeah, for me.
Speaker2:
Just for me.
Speaker3:
But there are people that we have met that they're, that's what they're all about. And that's great. Whatever works for you.
Speaker2:
Yeah.
Speaker1:
If it makes you happy, by all means, you do By all means. However you define it, whatever makes you feel good and if you're with a mate, it makes them, they're on board with it. Something you can do together. It's all good. It's all good. Hopefully. Hopefully it's all good you know and i mean i think just probably people who even enter you know uh go like they might go as a lifestyle for a while i'll go hot and heavy then back off to a hobby and yeah bounce back and forth i think that probably happens like you said life does get in the way and sometimes when you're there was a while there you and i were in the in the playing in the lifestyle more frequently. And then. Well, it's because we were shooting content. Yeah. But it still was, you know, we, we went to more parties and things. And if life gets in the way, sometimes you just have to, well, back off a little bit or, you know, illnesses or whatever. It's physical problems. I don't know who that would be. You have their shoulder replaced. I don't, I't i don't understand that but yeah sometimes you just have to back off a little bit and when it comes back it comes back yeah okay i'm not that um i know it's nice to have a definition of it but i it's not steadfast it's like kind of like ebbs and flows. Sure. You know, so I'm just kind of go with the flow, whatever feels right. And if it comes about great and everything, everybody's on board and it happens great. And if it doesn't, that's fine too. Yeah. Okay. That's it. All right. What do you think? We think we beat this horse or what? It's dead. It's dead. All right. Again, thank you guys for listening and uh hopefully you'll be around for more of
Speaker3:
these episodes and uh i think we're gonna have some pretty exciting stuff coming up i hope so
Speaker1:
yeah really we'll have some good stories to share all right stay horny all right have a good night everybody We'll see you next time.
