Swinger Misconceptions

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Speaker1: this program contains strong sexual content no one under the age of 18 is permitted to listen to or download the podcast in any manner the host guest and performers are all over the age of 18 rebroadcasting this podcast in any manner is strictly prohibited without the written consent of the owners of the hot wife podcast the commentary of this program is the sole opinion of its host or guest and does not reflect that of the opinion of the Hot Wife Podcast's owners, agents, or representatives. This podcast is not meant to be taken as professional advice. Hi, this is Donna Lynn, and welcome to my Hot Wife Podcast, where we discuss all the good, the bad, and the really erotic of the swinger lifestyle. Hello, everybody. This is Donna Lynn, and welcome to my Hot Husband Podcast. See you for a loop, didn't I? Caught me off guard. Well, okay, well, it's about time the show gets the right credits. We know who the brains are behind it. I was going with the looks, but okay. Oh, yeah, the looks, that's what it is. The Hot Husband I'm used to doing this with the sun up. It's a little bit too bright for you, too early, too, it's overcast, so it's almost like it's nighttime. Yeah, it's almost, yeah. I mean, it's what time is it? It's now quarter of, or 20 of five, which means like in two hours it gets dark anyway. Yeah, anyway, so. Close enough. So. So today's topic is one we have discussed in bits and pieces. It's all the misconceptions of swinging.
Speaker2: Okay.
Speaker1: And there are a lot of them.
Speaker2: Sure.
Speaker1: You know, everybody thinks that, you know, if you're a swinger, you do this or you do that or you don't do this or you don't do that.
Speaker3: But we're going to go over.
Speaker2: What's that? You don't do windows? Yeah,'t do that but we're going to go over what's that you don't do windows uh yeah i'll do them but i don't like doing it just saying you say that about me well see you're like windows you're like windows i'll do you but i don't like doing it we both get licked so i guess it's about you lick windows. And I lick my husband, so there's so many similarities.
Speaker3: All right, all right, you're, okay. The truth comes out. I've said it for years, and now you've done it.
Speaker1: I knew you'd go with that. All right, getting back to, like, serious things here about misconceptions of swinging. Okay, this is actually what you got from a website, so I'm kind of, I'll be reading it. People people that swing they swing because they're unhappy with their partners i know true yeah i knew i knew that's where you're going with that absolutely true okay next yeah i know well apparently uh they put one in there what the hell was that Little asshole was a loud vehicle. Good fucking God. Well, apparently they put one in there. What the hell was that?
Speaker3: That asshole was a loud vehicle.
Speaker1: Good fucking God. Well, yeah, well, we know that that's not always true, although we have seen instances where it seemed like one was taking one for the team, so that might be a little different.
Speaker2: Yeah.
Speaker1: But in general. Yeah, it's not all. There's going to be that. You know, we've talked about that and we've seen it. We've witnessed it. My monitor keeps flicking off and on. I don't know why it's doing that. I don't know either. I've got to pay the bill. But, you know, you have to question. If you're in a relationship where you know somebody's in a relationship where one of you is doing anything for the other one and it's something you really don't want to do especially if it's a swing situation where okay your significant other wants you to have sex with somebody else but you don't want to so they can exactly you know so it's like well i can't fuck that woman over there unless you take care of her husband right like well the guy's all sweaty and 600 pounds it's like do what you gotta do i want to sleep with the wife right he's got millions he's got this trophy thing and right you know yeah but it's just wrong you shouldn't do you should never ask your mate to do oh absolutely but i going back to the misconception is at least for us it's we're happy in our relationship it just adds a little spice to it which is always nice spice is nice i'm stuck on the happy part okay so we're relatively mediocrely um we know people who are happy okay you can go there okay So because we know relatively mediocrely happy. We know people who are happy. Okay. You can go there. Okay. So, because we know people that are happy. Okay. You can say that. We do. We know people. And they're happy too. Yeah. I mean. No, we're comfortable. Like Slinky. We're learning in pairs. Going up and down the stairs. We're slinky. Well, we're comfortable, like Slinky, we're alone in pairs. Going up and down the stairs. We're sleazy.
Speaker3: We had this discussion the other day. It's like, you know, it's like, do we need, we don't need to swing.
Speaker1: No, I could shut it down tomorrow.
Speaker2: Yeah.
Speaker1: You know, I might miss some things, some aspects of it.
Speaker3: I might miss those 17 guys.
Speaker1: At the same time but yeah I mean your team mascot for a whole different reason spell hole exactly what hole do you mean exactly must cock I mean mascot um but um yeah whether if something whatever would happen that we like okay we're not doing this anymore it's like okay yeah it's just life continues yeah it's just an extracurricular activity that's just done for fun add a little extra spice but we do know people that you know they have a propension that they have to, like, oh my God, I need to get out there two, three times a week minimum and get something and, you know. Yeah, we have known people like that. And then something's, I find that something's wrong there. It doesn't sit right with me, especially when they kind of, like, don't pay any attention to their spouse, but they're out there. They need these dates two, three times a week. Yeah, no, we find it wrong. I mean, but again, just because we might not like butterscotch flavor doesn't mean it's wrong, those who do, you know, in all in all fairness i mean you have to question and evaluate everything in your own situation sure you know if we were governed um by like oh we got to go have sex with other people fucking three four times a week good lord you know i know it's still a week for you but No, I'm not, I'm not reducing mine by two thirds, but for anybody. But, you know, like one of the misconceptions is, oh, you're a swinger. You'll fuck anybody. That's another one on the list. Yeah. Which is, it's almost related, which is also a non-true. I am picky. mean they have to be breathing at least um but uh so the comatose swinger you said no they're still breathing oh that's true you know just because they're not awake just because they're on you know some kind of ventilator they wake up and something's sore on them that's's not my problem, you know? But, no, the aspect that, can it become an addiction? Sure. Sex is an addiction. Oh, sure. You know, and if, I mean, but then you have to, if you are that driven by that, you have to look at a lot of factors. Is there something wrong with me? Is there something wrong with the relationship I'm in already? You know? Yeah. That what am I looking for? What am I doing? Am I ruining part of my life because I'm putting all that before other things? Yeah, that's true. You know? If I'm in a relationship that I'm not happy with, why don't I get out of that? Exactly. Exactly. So that has nothing to do with swinging. I mean, most people that are in their lifestyle are very happy with each other. And you can see it. They're always doting on each other and you're huggy and kissy and all that. But I think swinging has opened up an avenue, especially for individuals who just want to cheat. That's another thing they mentioned. I didn't even see this article. Yeah, yeah. Okay. It becomes because you can say, oh, I'm single or whatever, and you have a list of people. When you're cheating, you just want to go get fucked. So, for the most part, I mean, most parts are looking, like, I'll speak for men. They just want to go out and get laid. They don't necessarily look for a relationship in general. Oh, yeah, absolutely not looking for a relationship. But the fact that they'll just fuck anything, you know, there has to be an attraction there. I mean, but, I mean, I guess guys are a little less um indiscriminate yeah a little yeah they're a little more indiscriminate possible indiscriminate discriminate whatever you call it yeah they're less picky yeah so that's what this this article was saying that swingers misconception that swingers will have sex with anyone and that's simply not true how many people we met that were like you know, they're nice, but the chemistry's not there. There's no spark. You know, I'm not turned on by them. But there are some. But, you know, it's one of those things that you could say that you could apply something like that to everyone. Oh, sure. Not every... What's the word I want to use? Every man of the cloth, because I'm not going to pick it on any religion. It's like saying every man of the cloth is a pedophile. Right, that would be right. No, there are a select bunch, unfortunately. Okay? So making a broad statement like that is wrong in so many different avenues, not just, you know, what we're talking about. Exactly. So, yeah, we're not like six crazed some of them are but in general we do know some that are kind of six crazed but we're not like six crazed and we'll just fuck anything and you know at morning noon or night we just want to have sex but well i mean we've had days like that well come on you might yeah we have had days like that but that's about it anymore with uh my back pain yeah there's weeks like that no weeks that you're having sex around no that i don't want sex there you go okay well according to this article, that swinging is just a way that couples can, quote, cheat on each other. And again, according to this, and we have discussed.
Speaker3: Technically, if you're in a swinging relationship, depending on what level of swinger you are, you're not cheating.
Speaker1: Well, that's what they said, too. They said because.
Speaker3: I should have written this article.
Speaker1: Because you already have cardinal knowledge of it. You have permission. You're not doing it behind their back. There's an open communication. So you're not cheating. Like the one couple we had known, we still know them technically. We haven't seen them in 10 years, which is fine. You know, he tried to set up three play dates every day of the week. That's exactly who I had in mind. Yeah ignored his spouse and his spouse was a very attractive woman very sexy everything else and he just ignored her it just i i that does not fly with me that well obviously yeah well yeah but i mean it's just like i mean and she wasn't like she wasn't willing but you know he was but there was other issues there. We're still convinced he was trying to hide the fact that he was really a gay. Yeah, there are just too many. He was trying too hard. Yeah, he had some slight feminine things, and he just, like, he kept popping supplements to try to keep his dick hard. Oh, we know some people that actually do that, especially in a party situation. Well, that's different. That's a marathon. You might need some supplements for that one. I just duct tape and popsicle sticks. Yeah, I get splinters from that. Every time you do that, I'm like, ah, yeah, watch with the splinters. And you're like, suck it up, buttercup. But I want you to get the splinters off.
Speaker3: So when I go to the women, I want to be with.
Speaker1: I want to be with. They'll be all nice and sweet.
Speaker3: I don't want to hurt them.
Speaker1: So that brings me back to that when my pussy felt like I was fucking with 40 grit sandpaper. So you were using that to smooth down your popsicle sticks on your fucking dick splint.
Speaker3: You just took this off.
Speaker2: Wow.
Speaker1: That took me a while to figure that one out.
Speaker2: Thank you. were using that to smooth down your popsicle sticks on your fucking dick splint you just
Speaker1: figured took this off wow that that took me a while to figure that one out jeez i know god i am slow i don't remember seeing popsicle sticks as smooth they're like beveled edges and stuff you put a router to this No, I just had my wife I just fucked my wife with it Good God. Sand that down. Look at these chopsticks I made. It started out as a two-by-four. Not with that pussy, it's not. But anyway, yeah, so those, you know, misconceptions. There are exceptions to every rule obviously but as a general you know rule concept or whatever someone you know just because you're in the lifestyle does that mean you will fuck anything and everything right you know um it doesn't mean you can just fuck around on your spouse and it's going to be okay you can do that whether you're a swinger or not exactly it doesn't mean it's right exactly it just said oh well we're swinger so it's okay because we're in the lifestyle it's like no maybe it's not okay yeah maybe it's not so i mean you have to have that open communication now for us we us, we are allowed to go. I'm allowed to go on hot dates. You're allowed to go on dates if you want. You know, we can play separately. That's what I'm getting at.
Speaker3: Yeah, but we tell each other about them.
Speaker1: Yes, we tell each other about them.
Speaker3: Before and after.
Speaker1: Yep, before, during, and or after. Sometimes all three. Depends on the situation. But, so that's a whole different, you know, it's cheating and swinging are two different things. it's not cheating if you have permission true it's cheating if you don't have permission if you're doing it without the permission and or cardinal knowledge of your mate exactly exactly so or if you're doing it with somebody you have permission but they don they don't. Yeah, that seems very one-sided. Well, that takes me to my next thing here from the website. Wow, I'm pretty good. Yeah, that's a very good segue. That swinging is male-dominated. Like men swing, but women don't. Or men because they have a higher sex drive. No. I mean, there are a ton of single men in it. There are a ton of single men. But in all honesty, I still think swinging is controlled by women. Oh, yeah, absolutely. Absolutely. It steers the ship. Yeah, the women are the ones that, you know, it's changing a little bit in the sense that now there's becoming, unfortunately, more and more men that are bi. Right. But most men want to have their wife, see their wife, play with another woman, and most men pray their wife brings that woman home. because you see i've read a lot of profiles where they're like oh we're looking for another woman for you know for some girl girl action and maybe some you know girl guy girl action and stuff like that and you know if you're married your husband wants to evolve that's not out of the question either it's like oh thanks, you know. But, yeah, no, it's definitely more female-controlled. Yeah, yeah. I mean, ultimately, women can say whether a guy gets laid or not. It's not just, you know. They can just say, no, we're not doing this. And you notice at the parties, it's like the guys are dressed, you know, pretty, for the most part, not always. We had a couple that were, you know, dressed kind of, you you know weird because it was a bdsm party but they're dressed more normal it was the women that were showing things off with their you know sexy outfits and this and that and it's the they're the peacocks peacock that's what i was looking for you they're flying their colors yep yep you know with you, sexy heels and sexy outfits and then changing the different outfits or not, or, you know. Or just being naked. Just being naked. So, yeah, I think the, I think the, and I hate to put it this way, but pussy rules in this situation. Pussy rules the world. Women just don't know it. Women rule the world, but they, oh, more power you got all the fucking power men will fucking cut their fucking van gogh or whoever it was cut his fucking ear off for a woman really fuck no i'd cut my ear off for you to say i'm so listen to you anymore maybe that's why he cut it off exactly he's like bitch i don't want listen to you anymore. I'm cutting my ear off here. The fucking nagging. It wasn't so much romance as it was sanity. People think he went crazy. No, he had it down. But no, women rule the world. They really do. I mean, how many women have brought down some big people because of the pussy i've only heard stories you know helen of troy oh that's the monica lewinsky monica well did she really michael obama what too soon too soon okay. Now, did Monica Lewinsky really bring him down? He didn't get punished. No, he didn't, but I'm just saying, it didn't make him look good. No, it didn't. No. All he had to do is be honest. I mean, you know, Kennedy with Marilyn Monroe and stuff. It wasn't just. Look at Kennedy's brother, Ted. Yeah. You know, that fucking, you know volkswagons float they just don't float indefinitely you know um well with maryland Monroe it wasn't just john f it was uh robert robert and i mean it was like the whole freaking family had maryland if there was a an only fan she would have had oh man she had she'd been doing quite well. But, yeah, no, women, you know, again, the one president went in a wheelchair, Roosevelt. What? His wife actually kind of, they say, ran the country. Oh, ran the country. Because he was in such bad shape. She actually ran the country. Hmm, interesting. Yeah. Yeah, that that's right i remember they said eleanor was a very powerful woman yeah um but wasn't there another president that was also wheelchair bound his wife not that i'm aware okay was it just roosevelt yeah to my knowledge yeah that might my knowledge but um you know no there's been a lot of women that were spouses or you know girlfriends or whatever that you know pulled some power without necessarily realizing at the time yeah it's true just you know if they didn't I mean Hillary. I mean, in all honesty, and we question whether Hillary's really a woman. But regardless, Hillary fucking has bigger nuts than Bill. Yeah, I agree with that. She's definitely way more powerful. You know, they even said, you know, Bush's wife was a little more... Both the Bush's, you know, their wives were a little more... Dominant....oomph to it. You know, I don't know. Dang. But, yeah, no, women. You know, put the, maybe like bring out the strap on the bedroom. Hey, I'm not judging. I just don't want to see pictures. Nope, no pictures there. But, yeah, no, women, I mean, for the most part, men will do whatever for a woman. You know, pussy. Men will do fucking anything for pussy. They really will. You think so? Yeah. Yeah, I can see that. Yeah, I mean, you know, it's like my one good friend, you know. He has a good job and stuff that and you know his wife says no you will do this this weekend you will do that he just wants to relax right you know she's he's like i can't watch tv why so i get laid there you go okay well okay good illustration there vince i don't i i guess Is that what I'm supposed to say so I can get laid but no it's you know we talked about on the other show sex is used as a reward and a weapon and it doesn't as much as I've tried to use it with you you're like you're like I'm not gonna let me get my. I'll have sex before you can even get your pants off. You know, so I, you know, so to me to threaten you or any other woman is like, well, I'm not going to give you my dick. It's like, well, thank you. Good. I get a real one. Moving on. Yeah. Or some people, some women, again, I'll go back to my good friend, honestly think that, you know, let's pretend he tried to threaten her sex.
Speaker3: He's like, I think she could sit there, I don't need sex again.
Speaker1: That's it, I won't have sex ever again. There we go, move on.
Speaker3: Yeah, done.
Speaker1: That's terrible.
Speaker3: Okay, take that off the table. That just saves me a lot of work.
Speaker1: Oh, a lot of time. I just freed up my evenings. I can do other things now. I don sleep longer. Whatever. I was going to be a little bit more generous and be like, oh, I can take a community college course. I could use that time for something constructive.'s terrible but um no i mean yeah men get bent out of shape without sex i can argue one part of that but women for the most part is like a big deal in general in general not all the cases but in general yeah we know a couple that i don't't have any sex, I'm going to go crazy. I was like, oh my God. Yeah. Then they bitched her getting too much. Well, it's either feast or famine. Well, whatever. But it's just, yeah, it's, anyway, so what are some of the other misconceptions? Okay, the other misconceptions are, here's one that they had, I didn't even think about this one. If you're a parent, you can't be a swinger. It more difficult to be right that they said you know like you know you can do these things around the kids schedule not that hard it's you know just keep things hidden like big toys or while we're talking about this i want to give out the email so while this is fresh in your head if you want to email us your questions or comments or thoughts on this whole topic, email us at hot wife podcast at gmail.com. You want to see where Donna, what she's doing, who she's doing, why she's doing, go to hot wife, don't win.com. Again, don't forget to check out our Patreon account for $5 a month. You get the shows without commercials. And you get some shows that are, will be a few weeks before they're released on the free channel. And just five bucks helps us pay. If you appreciate the show. He wants more bourbon, that's all. It's just going to bourbon. Bourbon supply. There's a problem there. Okay. And then the other thing I want to mention real quick too is spunk lube. Of course. Do not forget spunk lube. It's the best lubricant out there. Non-sticky, non-staining, water-soluble, non-tasting. Looks like spunk. It's slippery like spunk. So it's kind of cool. And also, if you go to either our website and click on the spunk, which is hot wife podcast at hot wife podcast.com. There's a button there you can click on, takes you to the website and you'll get 10% off. Or if you go to spunk loop.com, when you get to the checkout in the discount code area, just type in hot wife and you will get a 10% discount on your order so check that out but anyway so back to the whole kids thing you see that a lot in the swinger aspect when people say oh we can entertain right we can't entertain right exactly we can host or not that's it the host is the word i was looking for yeah we can't host we have kids or we can host because we don't we we do kids are away are away this weekend. We can host this weekend or whatever.
Speaker3: Yeah. So.
Speaker2: Fortunately, we never really had that to worry about a whole lot. No. Back when I had my daughters every other weekend, every other weekend we played. Yep. Weekends without the kids.
Speaker3: And even then, it wasn't every time.
Speaker1: No, it wasn't every time. But where we are here, since it's just you and I, we're basically empty nesters, I guess you could say that. I guess. We can just fuck whenever we want to wherever we want. Yeah, you have to let me know when you want. Oh, yeah, I'll let you know. I'll send you an email, maybe an email. I'll mail you a letter. I keep checking my spam for you. say you sent it. I didn't get it. I'm sorry. I think I sent it like snail mail.
Speaker3: I wanted to get to you. Literally, you put it on the back of a snail. But, yeah, so that's one of the things is also, you know, oh, if you have kids, you can't. No, you can. You got to be a little more discreet.
Speaker1: Yeah, discreet. You know, I mean, we even had friends that we had in the lifestyle that came over for a non-play you know they were friends and uh and everyone was well smart was very smart and everybody knew that you know when the kids are around or whatever you act like just normal vanilla people right you know if the't there, you can all kiss and whatever. But when the kids are there, you don't want to, you know. Nope, nope. Don't choose them. Nope, nope. Yeah, but people have to know that. And there are some people that you just can't get it through their heads. And they just keep, you know, doing that kind of shit anyway. So, you were smart. I'm sure there are people. In general, no one around my kids so the same as i did my photography i'd never did photography when my kids were around no so um but um yeah um yeah there's always people gonna break the standard ethics and cognitive ethics so there's kids involved just be cool be discreet well if you know work around the kids schedule if your kids are dealing with a divorce or whatever you might be in don't make it worse yeah it's like okay dad's divorced from mom now but he's got this new girlfriend he lives with but then they had this other couple and dad was kissing this other woman and the girlfriend was kissing this guy and then the girlfriend was kissing his girlfriend is that yeah that could get really messy yeah it's just yeah don't yeah don't fuck the kids up yeah that's that's more than they need to know so another misconception let's see here what else we have on this list is um oh stds are common in the swinging community and we've already gone over this yeah but stds and swingers are very um cautious they're very uh you know they they take care of their bodies they practice having safe sex and they're not in the high risk well in general everybody tends to get their own little circle of friends, and then the circle of friends stays within that circle of friends. Yeah, pretty much, pretty much. So it's not like, I mean, you stand a better chance of getting STD, just going to a regular bar and picking someone up. Probably, probably. And again, swingers don't fuck everybody, and just anybody so that eliminates some of the spread of the stds right there because swingers are i want to say they're more particular they're looking for a certain uh certain spice a certain spark and not everybody's going to have that so then they don't just fuck everybody so so stds of course they're also looking condoms are still used yes yeah it's not like if you're a swinger you can't use condoms that's not the case at all so it's still a very common practice well nobody wants to dirty the playground well you know if you're just doing a couple swap you could dirty the playground but that doesn to. Exactly. Exactly. I mean, people are still within the age where they can get impregnated. Well, that's true, too. So, I mean, she might be on birth control, but still wants you to wear a condom just to make sure. Just to make sure. You know? Because no one wants to have somebody else's baby when you're in a relationship with somebody else. Especially when you're like, well, that was an orgy that weekend i i don't know whose it is yeah could you imagine kids gonna come out a real mutt not gonna whose it is yeah uh yeah this is when swingers will have sex with anyone which is absolutely untrue there's plenty of swingers who won't have sex with me. That's true. Your glasses are right around your neck. I know. I can't get to them because I have my headphones on. No, I think actually I went through all of them. Think you covered? Yeah, there was only six of them. Oh, okay. Yes. Got them all? Yeah, got them all. How do you like that? There weren't that many. They only gave you three. I mean, okay. Yes. Got them all? Yeah, got them all. How do you like that? There weren't that many. They only gave you a free throw.
Speaker3: I think it kind of covers the standard misconceptions. Somebody's here.
Speaker1: Oh, yeah.
Speaker3: So anyway, we're going to wrap the show up.
Speaker1: Okay, that sounds good.
Speaker3: We'll talk to you later on. All right, have a good Oh, yeah. So anyway, we're going to wrap the show up. Okay, that sounds good. We'll talk to you later on.
Speaker1: All right, have a good night, everybody.