Sex and your Mental Health

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Speaker1: Welcome to the Hot Wife Podcast, where we dive into discussions about relationships, intimacy, and everything in between. Before we begin, we want to make it clear that the views expressed on this podcast are solely those of the host and guests, and should be taken as opinions, not professional or medical advice. Additionally, we remind all listeners that this podcast is intended for adults over the age of 18. Unauthorized rebroadcast of this show is strictly prohibited without the written permission of the owners of Hot Wife Podcast. Now, let's heat things up. Hello, everybody. This is Donna Lynn, and welcome to my Hot White Podcast. Of course, I am accompanied by my awesome husband, Vince. Okay. Wow. At least you give me positive comments on the show. Oh, God, you're a pain in my ass. See? There we go. Now I'm used to it. Now I know. Now the real Donna comes out. Now I know with the real Donna. The real compliments come out. Pain in my ass. That's what I'm used to. to hearing, yes. Well, as I'm a pain in your ass, so... Never. You lying sack of shit. Never do I say it in front of you. Right. That is the key to... And to everyone, happy Thanksgiving. Oh, yes. I was wondering if you were going to do that or not. Yes. Why is it my job? It's your podcast. Well, I mean, welcome to my hot wife. Well, you tried the hot husband thing, and it was going Well, I get tired of you crying. You're stealing all my listeners. Oh, shut up. I wouldn't be a bit upset. Not even a little bit. Yeah. Well, at least... Hi, welcome to my Hot Husband podcast, and I'm here with my... Adequate wife. Well, semi-adequate, not so adequate. My woman that I'm legally bound to. My pain-in-the-ass wife. The bane of my existence. I like slightly better than my ex-wife. Well, that's positive. Not by much, slightly. Well, it's still positive. The only big margin there is weight difference. I weigh so much more than she does. Yeah, than her one thigh. That might be. No, probably not. No, you probably weigh about the same. Yeah, yeah, okay, just about the same. But anyway, okay, one of the better things. But, I mean, actually, this Thanksgiving is much nicer than last Thanksgiving. Do you remember last Thanksgiving? No, yeah, I had you in the emergency room again. Yeah, I fractured my clavicle. It was a hairline fracture, wasn't it? People don't care. No, people don't care, but this Thanksgiving is much better, so. Yeah, now you have a shoulder and a knee and a wrist problem, so you're just, you're progressing. I'm progressing, but not in a good way. Look, I've got so many more injuries. Anyway. Yay, this is so much fun. Well, you know, it could be worse. It could always be worse. be worse. Yes. Never say it can't be. That's right. Because God has a sense of humor. Not a good one. But yeah, hopefully everyone is enjoying their time with their family or has. If you listen to the show after Thanksgiving, you have a good time with your family and appreciate everything that you've been provided. And hopefully you have a prosperous, you know, new coming year. That's all I can hope for, right? That's all, man. Just, you know, hope everybody is, you know, going through a good time. I know, you know, unfortunately I'm in a situation where, um, this is probably my mother's last Thanksgiving and Christmas. So. We can always hope that, um, you know, that we get another, another year, but we never know. I don't see it happening. You don't see it happening. But anyway, keep it positive. Yeah. So. On to happier things. Yeah. But, um, so what do you have for a topic tonight? Oh, what do I have? Okay. How, all the, Sext, sexual intercourse, having sex, orgasms, et cetera, et cetera. So let me get this straight. You're going to tell me how healthy sex is. And then you look at me and I'm falling apart. And then you encourage me to go to the gym and not have sex with me. Yeah, you need the gym for your health. Well, sex is good for you. No, just go to the gym. Just go to the gym. Yeah, okay, okay. I think they both have merits, for sure. If I was having sex with somebody, to Jim, yeah, I can see that. Maybe you're having sex with somebody named Jim. I don't kiss and tell. Often. Often. Good for you. Would you really want to hear about that? Maybe. No, you wouldn't. No, no more than I would. Anyway, okay, so tell us about the health benefits of sex. Well, there's the obvious one of- Weight loss, get all that weight out of your balls? Of course. Okay. Okay. That's the first one. No, stress reduction, of course. Oh. They always talk about, you know, you have an orgasm. But, you know, that's a double-edged sword. It is a double-edged sword. Go ahead. You first. Okay. Well, sometimes having sex reduces stress, but having someone to have sex actually creates stress. Oh, okay. Or having sex with somebody. Well, I was actually going to go with the concept of, so sometimes you're so stressed you can't have sex. Yeah, that does make sense. You know, it's just like, I got too much on my mind. I'm not going to be able to focus. I'm not going to be able to enjoy it, you know, to the fullest. Yeah, I definitely agree with that. You know, sometimes it has to be that just, that sweet spot, that little window is like, I'm stressed. Oh, I like your sweet spot. That little window. Whatever you want to call it. Okay. You know, if I'm too stressed out, sex isn't even going to help. I mean, I know they say it reduces stress, but yeah, if you're over a certain threshold, forget it. No, I get that. Yeah. No, it makes perfect sense. It has to be a lower threshold, and then you have sex or an orgasm or something, and that usually reduces the stress even more. It makes you relax. It releases endorphins into your body, that feeling of wellness and happiness and euphoria, which is always good. You know, that and a good stiff drink always helps. So it was having a stiff cock. Sometimes. Sometimes, yeah. Unless you're not into stiff cocks. I mean, I'm not into stiff. I'm into having one. I'm not into receiving one. Oh, I see. That's the stipulation there. That's. Well, you know, there's, you know, but there's something for everybody. Yeah, absolutely. Yeah, I mean, it's like whatever you're into. Or is into you. Or whatever. That's true. But that's the first one is, you know, the stress reduction. Yeah, I get that completely. Yeah, yeah. Mood enhancements is another one, which is right along the same. That's in there too. In there too, because the hormones released during sexual activity, such as the oxytocin and dopamine. You can have a bad day. You can have a really bad day and then have a good orgasm. And then all of a sudden it's like, okay, I don't care. Yeah, you don't care as much. It depends on the day. No, it's just like, okay, you know what? That's the end to a, that's a great end to a bad day. Right. If you could just, you know, forget about the bad day so you can actually get into your head and get into having good sex, that's probably the hardest thing. Like just trying to, you know, get into having really good sex after like a kind of a crappy day. Oh, sure. Leave that crap behind you so you can enjoy a good orgasm. See, and that's where foreplay comes into hell. That's true. You know, foreplay is really, if we haven't said that enough, it's really crucial, I think, not only into building the excitement and the level, but also kind of, it's like wetting your car with a hose before you wash it. Sure. It kind of like, okay. Letting your car warm up before you drive it. It cools it from the sun beating on it, and then, you know, just like a nice little, like, ah, you know. Yeah, that makes sense. Yeah, foreplay is great. Yeah, no, I mean, after a bad day, nothing better than an orgasm. After a good day, there's... Nothing better than an orgasm. Every day, there's nothing better than an orgasm. So what are you trying to say, Vince? Every day, you need an orgasm. You should. And your day with an orgasm. In my opinion, every day should have an orgasm in it. Somewhere in that day, you should have an orgasm. That would be nice. I'm not joking. I know you're not joking, but it's not always possible. Oh, with you. Awful. You're just awful. Is that why I don't get one? Is I'm awful? Yeah, you're awful. Oh, okay. I remembered it. Okay, I'll remember that. Okay. I'll stop right before you come. And then you're going to go, you're awful. I'm going to go, fucking right. And it still won't be the same. No, it won't be the same. That is true. That is true. And then you're going to say, you are so awful. You told me that, so we've got to live up to it. Yeah, you have to live up to it. Yeah. A good sexual relationship or an orgasm can increase your self-confidence and body image. Sure. Makes you feel sexy. Yeah. Makes you feel desirable. Mm-hmm. You know, it definitely can, you know, improve your self-esteem. and your overall mental health and how you see yourself, how your mental image of yourself can definitely be improved. Somebody finds you attractive. Yes and no. What do you mean yes and no? I mean, you'd like, I don't know, after an orgasm, I'm not really focusing on like, okay, what did that person really think of me other than like, yeah, they got me there. Well, they were engaged with you to get you to that point. Well, you could pay a prostitute for that. Well, that's true. That's very true. You know? Do you think an orgasm would be different depending on who gives you the orgasm? Sure. Yeah. Okay. That may not be quite as... Well, let's go with the most obvious. Right. Not everyone can deliver an orgasm the same way. That's the most obvious. Sure. Okay. You could get a great looking guy. Right. Like myself. Exactly like you. But I can deliver the orgasm. That's true. And you've had sex with a couple guys that are good-looking guys. And you had an orgasm, but it wasn't like blow the back of your head out. No, no. It was so good. Like you say, there's no such thing as a bad orgasm. Just some are better than others. Yeah, you know. But, you know, it's... Yeah, what was the question? It's for your self-confidence and body. Yeah, no, no. I think this, well, it helps. I mean, if you really see the person you're involved with trying to keep this so it plays on both sides of the fence. Sure. It's like really into you and really turned on. Yeah, that adds it. That adds to the body. So body image and all that crap, yeah. All that crap. Yeah, no, I mean, but I've been drinking bourbon since noon. It's Thanksgiving. It's Thanksgiving. That's the problem. Yeah, I'm a, but. No, seriously. I mean, like, okay, so I'll use a house party as an example. Okay, that can boost your self-esteem. Sure. When you have all sorts of people, like when we go to a house party, and you have all sorts of guys like, oh, man, you know. Oh, yeah, you're hot. And they get in line for you. Right, right. You know, that kind of, it's like, wow, yeah, that's kind of cool. That is kind of cool. You have women that are, you know, that are, like, interesting. They're interested in you and dragging you downstairs. But then again, yeah, well, that's, I'm not going about me. This is the hot wife podcast. Oh, that's smartass. But when, you know, you might play with a guy, and it's like, okay, it's exciting that he's fired up to play with you, but all of a sudden, he's just not bringing the goods with him. And sometimes that happens, but you... Yeah, but it doesn't, that doesn't add to your self-esteem. Not that it's a blow against it, but it's just like, okay, the guy's excited because he finds me attractive. And, you know, this is going to sound really bad. I'm sure it is. It really is, yeah. And I apologize if you get offended by it somewhat. But you sit there and go, okay, you're a woman with a good body and everything else, a very attractive woman. And some of the people, their wives aren't, I'm going to put this as delicately and generic as I can, might not be as aesthetically It's pleasing. Do you get my gist? So all of a sudden, it's like, okay, they get to go play. He's going to get to play with... He gets to go to the Ferrari dealer and test drive a Ferrari while he's still driving his pacer. And there's nothing wrong with his pacer. He's happy with his pacer. It's not that bad. There's a lot of people that have really nice bodies. They're very, very attractive. It's not like... I've played with numerous women that I enjoy playing with that most guys pass over. And they're a ton of fun. You don't want to say a ton of fun. Yeah, I don't want to say that. And again, the ton of fun is not something generally I'm attracted to. Right. I'm attracted to the person. Right, exactly. And that's what I'm getting at is sometimes like in certain scenarios, they might look great and feed your egos like, oh my God, this guy's a hot guy, decent body. And then you're playing with him. You'd be playing with him. And all of a sudden, it's like, okay, well, that wasn't an exciting roller coaster ride. That was kind of a roller coaster that doesn't have any hills. It was more like bumper cars. Sometimes that does happen. And it's what it is. But the ego could be that you rocked his world. Yes. Potentially. Potentially. Because he's like, okay, yeah, I'm on the tilt-a-whirl normally. But I got to go on the fucking loop-de-loop rollercoaster. So that could feed your ego. Yeah, I could see that. That would definitely be a boost, an ego boost. And of course, if I rocked his world in any way, shape, or form, that's an ego boost to him. So it's a win-win. And to you. Oh, yeah. And to you. Sure, why not? Well, again, I really don't want to float my own boat. But when the women were coming to you and thanking you. Oh, thanking me. And you're seeing them all sitting at the table got hit by a train. Yeah, that's probably not a very good way to put it. Well, they looked completely wiped out. And they just looked at you like, how do you do this? Well, yeah, it's different. But that's even an ego boost. Yeah, oh, it is. When your partner is something that, and again, I feel it from you. I mean, I see these guys are like, oh my God, I got to play with Donna. Yeah, right. I see the women say, oh, I got, you know. I got to play with Donna. It's like, when's Vince getting caught at you? Vince ate my pussy, you know, or whatever you do to them, you know. Turn them inside out. Turn them inside out or whatever you do. And that's cool. It's really, it's an ego boost. Sure, absolutely is, you know. And that's where people need to learn if they get into swinging. Mm-hmm. Instead of being jealous. Right. You know what? Look at it the other way. It's just like, Hey, I made this pot of chili. It might be a bad example. It might be a bad example. But you know what? Everybody enjoyed it so much. Everyone loved it, and they're talking about it. Right. So everybody enjoyed my husband, and everybody's talking. Or whatever. It's our chili, not my chili. Just because I cooked it doesn't make it my chili. It's our chili. Okay, it's our chili. So, a bad example. It probably is a very bad example. Wow. Yeah, your chili made me fart. Some people are into that, but whatever. How do we go? How do we go so off the rails? Go to your list. Well, a good orgasm or good sexual elation, of course, can increase your intimacy and connection with your partner. We've been saying that for a billion years, so at least the last four. When do you feel closer to your partner but after an orgasm? After sex or intimacy or orgasm, however you want to put it, sure. Makes sense. You have that connection. You can't be any more close than you are. At least for me, I can't be any closer to my sexual partner than I am during sex because he is literally inside of me. He can't get any closer than that. Yeah. Doesn't mean he's pleasing you. No, no, but I mean physically. What you're saying is with an orgasm, I mean, okay, there's one video, a couple of videos I shot of you with that one guy who made you the Jack and Cokes. Oh, yes. And, you know, after you were like blowing the two I'm thinking of. Right, I know exactly what you're talking about. And he, you know, coated your throat. Right. You know, you gave him this look of just complete desire. Yeah, I remember that. You know, it's, there's a certain thing. It also benefits mental health. Maybe that's why you've been so cuckoo lately. No. That's normal. Oh, that's normal. Okay. My cuckoo-ness is due to my children, to my life, my work environment, my growing up, my whatever. That's true. All those things play a part. I don't know. Have I grown up? I don't know yet. It doesn't matter. 59 going on 12. Nothing wrong with that to some degree. I mean, but like you said, But all your background and your history is also going to influence your sexual preferences, your sexual desires, how you handle sex, who you have sex with. I've talked about how I was abused heavily as a child by both my parents. I have zero interest in BDSM. Yeah, because you associate that with a bad experience. That's understandable. That's understandable. That's why I excel better in difficult situations, Where fights are potential. Right. Because I'm more comfortable in that environment. Right. Where someone, I don't care if I hurt them. Where someone, to me, in a sexual situation. Sure. I know it's not about hurting them. Yes. But the emotions in which are involved, to me, are not something I want to do in that situation. I get it. No. I certainly understand that 100%. Yeah. I'm a lot better in a tender, loving. Yeah. caressing tenderness. Sipping bourbon. Sipping bourbon. Ooh, nothing hotter than that. To me, no. Oh, this is kind of redundant because it goes into it again. A good orgasm can definitely diminish the amount of sexual dysfunction. you might have and it certainly boosts your mental health. I mean, this is kind of redundant. Sorry. No, it's different. It's different a little bit. I don't know. I don't know if it boosts my mental clarity. Oh, sure. You feel good. You feel, so how you look at the world is a little more positive. No, I look at the world negatively. That's not true. That's not even true. I think what they're trying to get at here is like sexual dysfunction can negatively impact your mental health. Well, I think the dysfunction, I mean. Are we dysfunctional? Maybe. I don't know. Are we talking like you can't get a heart on? I don't know what kind of dysfunction they're talking about. Are we just talking like, well, I like to think of sheep wearing thigh-high stockings? Where the hell did that come from? Hypothetically speaking. Someone could find that attractive. Could find that very erotic. Not me. No. Don't look at my hard drive, but no sheep and thigh highs on my hard drive. No. But an Arab world, maybe. I don't want to go there. If I offended you, too bad. Yeah, like anxiety and depression can definitely kind of... Well, impact your sexual desires. Oh, yeah. Yeah, I get that. I get that completely. Pain is another one. Pain impacts your sexual. Oh, yeah, it does. I mean, I live with constant pain in my back and my neck. Yeah. And, yeah, there's just some days that, yeah. Yeah, laying on your back or whatever. Doing anything. The pain is just insurmountable. Well, the last thing I'm going to be able to do is enjoy anything sexually because the pain is that high. But I was thinking, getting back to the dysfunctional, you know, maybe this is not related. I'm not sure. But there are people who, I'm thinking about the video we had to shoot today, you shot today. Oh, dear. Yeah. Something very unique situation. Was not very sexual. To you. That's silly. But to you. Yeah, to me. And how many people, I'm going to generalize mostly men, have certain fantasies that enable them to get very aroused, erect, whatever, that they can't bring to the table with a partner? And what, because they can't disclose their fantasies or desires? They think they might be laughed at, which would ruin their prowess. They're not going to be able to get hard if their significant other, whoever that may be, is laughing at them. Right, right. The one you had to do today, this guy wanted someone that was very grandmotherly, smothering grandmother. Yeah. But it was nothing sexual. You stayed dressed. I stayed dressed. There was nothing. It's just the way you had to talk in this video. The makeup he wanted and it was, yeah. If I had come to you and I... He would never do this. No, it's not me at all. If I came to you and said, hey, I want you to put on all sorts of makeup. I want you to look like trailer trash. And I just want you to talk to me like that smothering grandmother like you did in that video. Call you like all kinds of embarrassing pet names. And I want this all the time. How would you feel? No, I wouldn't. Yes, you would. I expect you to. I'd be disappointed if you didn't. I don't find it like a big deal. I mean, we have little pet names. But how is that going to be satisfying for you? Oh, it probably wouldn't be. We don't have pet names for each other, by the way. Yeah, we do. You call me Boob. Oh. Boobala. Yeah, but that's actually grandmother, but whatever. Well, there you go. But you're not my grandmother. Yeah, but you call me Boob. But it's not a sexual terminology. Yeah, well, you call me Boob. Oh, it's a term of endearment. Sure. That's nothing wrong with that. That's all it is. It's just a term of endearment. But apparently this individual, I don't know if it's a man, woman, or whatever it identifies as. I assume it's a male. I'm assuming, but I don't know if it identifies as. I don't know. You know, chances are this guy's going to masturbate to this. Chances are. Okay. I hope you did a good job. I hope you did. But if this is what gets you off, okay, But all of a sudden you say, okay, you put your makeup on, you talk to me like a smothered grandmother, and I got to come because I jerked off to it. Now you're going to be like, okay, I want to be fucked. Like, well, no, that doesn't do it for me. Well, you know what? Then it just means that we're incompatible sexually. Okay, I'm just saying. That's a valid point to point out. It could be a thing that could be a problem with a relationship. Oh, yeah, I agree. This is where you have to test drive the car before you buy it. I agree. We talked to other people that they're almost in, I don't want to use the word violent. For him to come, he had to literally be beaten with a heel of a shoe. Yeah, a high heel. He was a form of special forces. So there you go. And he liked to be fucked anally with a woman with a strap on while she beat him with a heel to draw blood on his back. Yeah, I don't understand what's going on. There's a lot of doctors out there. Beyond my high school degree. That's all I'm going to say. Gym class didn't teach me anything about that. Well, there's probably a lot of doctors I would like to study that. But yeah, I mean, she could not, the friend of ours just couldn't stay in that relationship because, well, it's physically exhausting. Sure. I mean, there's no foreplay. No, it's, you know. Well, he couldn't satisfy her. I'm not a bit surprised. Yeah. No. For her to get fucked. Right. She, again, had to hit him and cause pain. Yeah. That's a lot. I'm sorry. That's a lot of work. It's like, whatever. Yeah. I'm not going to get into it. Yeah. There's a lot. Because there's terms there I don't want to use that I don't approve of. Right. It'd almost be like a violent act. Yes. Just put it that way. So I'll leave it at that. Yeah. It is a violent act. Yeah, it is. And I don't want to get into. Sure. Because a lot of people have suffered from that act. Right. That is not right. Oh, absolutely. What's else on the list? Oh, wow. We're going down the bad rabbit hole here about things that can actually be detrimental to your sexual health and trauma, whether it's mental or physical. Well, again, it's just like I started to talk about with the bad thing. Yeah, the bad thing. All those things can affect how you deal with sex, how you think about sex. If it's ever happened to you, Yeah. That's true. Financially, physically, mentally. Yeah. Unfortunately, those predators are out there. Yeah. However you want to define them. But yeah. Scum all over. Unfortunately, that's true. Yeah. And then we're going the other way with the sexual addiction and compulsive behavior. That could be very detrimental. That can go either way. It sure could. You know, we've met guys, like we talked about, That was a scheduled three play dates a day. Yeah, that's definitely a compulsive behavior. Well, I had a very lovely wife. Yeah, so let's go. With a very sweet pussy. And you would know. Yes, I do. That was a great experience there. Because her and I were photographers and were friends. Right, so that was kind of. And she actually asked me to do a photo shoot of her. Right. So I did. And during the photo shoot, like a lot of times, I sit on the ground. to get the perspective of shooting up. Exactly. So you were like right there. Well, she came over and... And squatted on your face kind of. Well, she came over and put her pussy in my face. She goes, I hear you have some oral skills. I said, I guess. You just do what you love. She found out. Ha ha. Good. Good for her. Good for you. Yeah, but anyway. Nothing wrong with that. Yeah, it was a lot of years ago. But yeah, these people, they get so much, I think some people, not all, get to the point where they can forget what they have. Like her husband kind of ignored her. Yeah. I mean, or didn't put value in her. I'm sorry on that. Jeez. Oh, my God. Were you talking like an Italian again? Yeah, well, you'd think I'm almost half a Sicilian. Yeah, you might think that. But he neglected her and just took her for granted. I thought so, too. Yeah. In this particular, this is a great illustration that he just seemed like he was very, He was interested in notches on the bedpost. Yes. He wasn't interested. There was no interest in quality. It was all quantity. It was all quantity. Yeah, it seems hollow then. You're not getting the real, like all the benefits that you can get from a good, healthy, healthy sexual relationship. Yeah. They did not have a healthy relationship in my humble opinion. No, you're right. Yeah, you're right. Me just looking at them from the outside. Because she was very, very sweet. He was, you know what, if you didn't hang out with him too much, he was okay. Then once you start seeing like below all those layers, you found out how obnoxious and arrogant he was. Bloom boy. We have so many. That's funnier in our heads. That's funny in our heads than it will be to describe it. Anyway, people get the sexual addictions, even porn addictions. Yeah, I understand. Again, I've said, you've said, orgasms, best thing you can have that's free. Yeah, I agree with that. It makes you feel good, it releases. It's what this topic's about. Exactly. Relieves stress. Yeah, but even when you start, when something like that starts affecting the rest of your life negatively because you can't go to work because you're too busy jerking off or too busy, you know. My boss didn't understand. Yeah. Well, then the other thing I can say to you is then maybe you should start looking at maybe having some kind of an adult site to bring an income. Just saying. Maybe. That's one option. Yeah. Maybe realize that, you know, you can schedule that when you're not working. Right. Yeah. Just, you know. Whatever. Give it a shot. Give it a shot. I mean, you know, if you enjoy sex that much and that's what you think about, you know. Yeah. What's the next topic? I want to say 24-7. Just a thought. You're sitting there riding a bus or whatever, and you go, God, I could jerk off right now. You might have a problem. You might have a problem. Yeah, get some help. Okay, there's always the cultural and societal influences on sex, of course. What would that be? Well, it's how individuals perceive or experience sexual intercourse or a sexual experience in affecting their mental health. Again, a lot of Mental Health Stuff with Sex here. A lot of mental health here. Well, we've talked about, and it's before us, that the brain is the biggest sexual organ you have. Oh, absolutely. It really is. If you're sitting there, and let's pretend you're at church, and you sit there and go, oh my God, Sister Mary. That's just not even right. Then you might know, it's like, wait, I'm going a little too far with this. A little too far, just a little too far. He's like, oh my God. I wonder what the pastor's wearing under his robe. Oh my God. I'm just saying, people like that, not me. I don't go to church. There you go. Makes it so much easier for you. I avoid that problem. But no, at that point you sit there and you're like, okay, sex is fun and it's great, but it's not what life is solely about. Right, it's a cherry on top. You can't base your relationship on it. No, absolutely not. You spend more time with your mate outside the bedroom than you do in the bedroom, unless you live in a studio apartment. Then you might be spending as much time in the bed as out. Then it's all bedroom. It's all bedroom. Interesting. Well, they also mentioned something here about open and nonjudgmental discussions about sex. You've got to talk about it and can contribute to healthier attitudes and practices. When I call you, don't I go like, what are you wearing? All the time. Yeah, there you go. There you go. Yeah, you got to talk about it. Oh, yeah. It's like says your pussy went. Yep, I'm in the middle of work. Yep. He calls me. How's your day going? Oh, my God. What are you wearing? I was just doing what I got to do here at work, and I am so hot. I am so turned on. I am sweaty and nasty. I'm ready to be a dirty girl. Yeah, that can contain so many things. Not even necessarily sexual. I know what Donna does for a living, and I say that, she can paint this picture. Yeah, I can paint this picture. I'm a dirty girl. Look at me. I'm filthy, man. Oh, man, I'm gritty, grimy, nasty. Yeah. I was working around the house doing some landscaping, and I was getting so dirty thinking about you. You can make anything sexual. Oh, fuck yeah. I'm going to scoop you out some ice cream. I'm going to dig deep into that container. Oh, deeper, baby. I'm going to get you that. Sweet, creamy. Oh, creamy. It's going to dribble down your chin. Oh, yeah. You're going to love my ice cream. Oh, my God. That ice cream, you're not going to have ice cream any better than I'm going to give you. Oh, you can scoop it, baby. You're going to swirl your tongue around my ice cream. Your spoon is going to be so cold. And slippery. Oh, yeah. The silkiness of it. It's going to slide right off your tongue. Yeah. It's not what you're saying. It's also how you're saying it. Oh, it's all tone. Tonality. Yeah. When I'm at work, I do that. It's like, so this is what you want to buy? Sure. You want to be a dirty girl? You want to buy this thing? Yeah. You want to put your stuff in there? Yeah. You know, there's insurance. Is your husband going to watch you stuff this thing? God. We'd be so fired. So anyway, what's the next topic? Sexual education and empowerment. Not just fucking stupid. No, I'm sorry. Are you looking at formal education? Or are you looking at learning, like, what does your partner like or not like? I guess all these things are... Oh, honey, not four fingers, just three. Yeah. Not the whole fist, not the whole fist. Oh, yeah. Oh, you're wearing your Timex, aren't you? I can tell it's not your iWatch. Oh. Because your iWatch would tell me my heart rate right now. Yeah. Well, I just think they mean, like, education, like, knowing what you like. Sure. You know, how to... Yeah. how to do things safely, maybe, if you're into any kind of BDSM. Honey, I need you to wear a hard hat and steel tip boots. If we're going to do this. We have a romantic night planned. I want OSHA-approved sex. Don't cross over the yellow line. I want to see the signs above the bed, OSHA-approved. This is the safety zone. Don't cross over the yellow line, baby. to boots. Make sure you wear some work gloves, work gloves, yeah. You know, they have the eyewash station, you know, where you have the sign, like, right, I want something like that above the bed that has, like, you know. Yeah, but it's not eyewash, it's now fucking spunk lube. Well, or, yeah, something else is going to be splashed in your eyes. Well, then there's that, you know. That's why you got to wear the shield. Yeah, the shield or the goggles or protective eyewear. I don't want to see your eyes. Bring the shield down. Bring the shield down. Hurry up. Oh, yeah. There we go. Actually, I thought of a really cool video I would love to do, but it's me wearing my glasses and having a guy come all over my glasses. People like that. Oh, they love that. That is a fetish. That is a huge fetish. It's like, why don't I ever wear my glasses? Sponsored by Lenswipe.com. Absolutely. I don't know if that's a website. It probably is a website, too. What are those? You bought me a whole big box of those. No, I didn't buy you. I bought for both of us. We're old fucks who wear glasses. Yeah, we do. That's for sure. Interesting. I think that'd be pretty kinky. All right. Okay, one more. Is there more? Okay. Just one more. Gender and sexual orientation. Let me see. I got to skip that. Oh, well, wait. I'm sorry. No, I have to because I will say things that offend people. Well, no. I'm going to keep this very generic. Go ahead. You talk about it. I'm not going to. Different genders, identities, and sexual orientations can influence how individuals experience sexual intercourse or sexual activity. I don't want to just use intercourse unless you're talking not just penetration. All I will say is I hope people be true to yourself. Yeah, be true to yourself. If there's something you prefer. Sure. I have no problem with that. Be truthful to your partner. Yeah. And truthful to yourself. Own it. Right. Love it. Enjoy it. That's all I'm going to say. Yeah. I think that's healthy because that's, you know, it's. I'm not getting into anything else. No, you don't need to. No, I'm not going to. I mean, it still could be very healthy. Sure. And recognizing and respecting these diverse experiences because everybody has different ones. That's great. It's essential to promoting, again, good mental health. Yeah. So it seems like there's a correlation between a good orgasm. And mental health Well, you know, one of the things I will say is kind of on topic, but kind of off a topic I think as a society, we have to stop basing who we are on our sexuality Yeah, because I'm a lot more than just, you know No, I mean, everybody wants a base, and again, you may or may not disagree with me, it's fine, info at hotwifepodcast.com I would gladly have an intellectual conversation with you about it We need to stop basing who we are as people on our sexuality. Yeah. You know what? Base it on who you are as a person. Your sexuality has nothing to do with it. I've always said my sexuality is but a small facet of who I am. It's a percentage. Sure. Sure. I mean, it's important. Don't get me wrong, but I'm so much more than just a kinky bitch. You know what I'm saying? Okay, we'll go with that. I heard something the other day that Warren Buffett puts out a letter every year towards the end of the year. And in his recent letter, he made a statement, something to the effect, a non-direct quote, that, you know, we all want our life, when we get to the point we think about our eulogy, we want our eulogy to read in a way that is monumental. Right. Okay. That, oh, so-and-so. Vince, in this case, was a great this, that, whatever. And you can eat a mean pussy. Well, whatever. Depends who you read. But don't lead your life of what you want it to read. Read it. I mean, live your life so your eulogy will read that. Isn't that what you just said? Kind of. I've had a lot of bourbon. But no, don't, I mean, don't like, oh, I want Vince, you know, Vince was a great person, this and that and that, which is bullshit, bullshit. Yeah. But yada. Don't want it to read that, live that life so it does read that. Right, exactly. Yeah. That makes sense. So is your life all about your sexuality or is it about who you are as a person? I agree. I mean, like I said, you're, you're. Your sexuality is. A small part. A very small part, and for most part, should be a private part. Is that something that you should lead your life, that that's in the forefront? Well, considering I have so much of what I do up on the internet, I guess I can't really make that private. But who comes to your funeral, your fans or your friends? My friends. Okay. I hope. So what are your friends going to come and want to hear and agree with? They're going to be like, wow. Oh, Donna can take a mean dick in her ass. No, that's not what they're taking. They might be thinking that. There's a few. There's a few definitely. Yeah. Whatever. In general, lead your life like the person you want it to be. Yeah. Be kind to others. Sexuality. Sexuality is a small part. It's a small part. It's like, oh, Vince liked tapioca pudding. That's irrelevant. That's not who I was. No. Not the tapioca pudding. I'm pretty sure you're not really. More rice pudding. More rice pudding. With raisins? I'll keep that in mind. But no, so anyway, hey, info at hotwifepodcast.com. Love to hear from you. Let us know your thoughts, your comments, your ideas, any subjects. If you want to come on the show, we'd love to talk to you and hear about your experiences. Also, check out 50shadesofpleasure.com. It's moved from a magazine more into a blog-type site. There's stories, there's factoids, there's... Just things in general. Yeah, it sounds like it's more fun. Yeah, I work every day on it. And then... Oh, Hot Wife Donna Lynn, I have been editing more videos and taking some old stuff and making them new, compilations. That's always fun. I had a guy ask about, he wanted to see all my anal cream pies. So I'm going to do a compilation, just anal cream pies. That's always fun. I always find that very erotic. new talent on the cusp that we might be shooting stuff with. Yeah, let's see. They'll chicken out. Yeah, whatever. That always happens. That's correct. It's another story in itself. I know. We could do a whole show on that. Yeah, again, we wish all of you a happy Thanksgiving. Again, I know the argument about the indigenous people, but let's just look at it from this way. Let's be thankful for what we've been given this year. Right. Okay, let's hope that next year, is even better and more bountiful. It's always good to just be thankful. Whatever you want to attach it to, whether it's a holiday or not, just waking up every day and just being thankful for having another day that you can enjoy and have an orgasm. Or more. Or more. So there you go. Again, I'm facing my mom who will not have another Thanksgiving. Probably. And not have another Christmas. I hope she will, but I don't think it's going to be a quality. So, again, I'm not asking for sympathy with that. I'm just using it as a reality. So please know that none of us are promised tomorrow. No, we're really not. And with that, I want to say thank you and stay horny. Okay. Have a great night, everybody.