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In this episode of The Hot Wife Podcast, we dive into one of the most overlooked (and awkward) bedroom issues—silence. When there’s no feedback, no sounds, no reactions… your partner is left guessing—and that uncertainty can kill the vibe fast. We talk about why being vocal matters, how it builds confidence and connection, and simple ways to express yourself authentically without feeling forced or uncomfortable. Whether you’re naturally quiet or just unsure what to say, this episode will help you turn up the communication—and the chemistry.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/hot-wife-podcast-and-the-swinger-lifestyle--5343522/support.Join our Supporters Club and listen to our shows Ad FREE!https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/hot-wife-podcast-and-the-swinger-lifestyle--5343522/support
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Spill the tea Hello everybody, this is Donna Lynn and welcome to my Hot White Podcast and of course as ever I'm with my wonderful husband Vince Oh boy Oh come on, I gotta give you a plug I appreciate it, I'll give you a plug Yeah, well you do That's about all that can be considered is a plug Stop, oh here we go again Anyway, well spring has sprung Pretty much, yeah Kind of cold still, but you know If I don't have to shovel it, I'm fine. Yeah, I just can't wait to start doing more stuff outside. Oh, yeah. Your co-worker was kind of interesting today when I was talking with her. Oh, yeah. Telling her about, you know, asking her opinion on a picture or whatever and stuff like that. She was talking about the two of you outside weeding in bathing suits. Yeah, that's... Yeah, she did bring that up. Because when I'm outside, I don't like to wear clothing. And what I wear is really skimpy and low. And I was like, oh, do tell. Tell me more. I said, we'll be at the pool. And I said, it's a private area pool. And I said, next thing I know, Donna's up on the hill, weeding the hill in her thong. I was like, hello. It's like, well, too bad. I mean, it's pretty private. It's not a property. Fuck people. Don't look if you don't like it. No, our neighbors are- Yeah, the husband or the wife next door sees you and all of a sudden he turns away. Oh, no, that's me wearing a thong. Sorry, that's what that was. I hope he turns away when I wear a thong. I don't want to see him get out binoculars like, ooh, look at this. That's a tight one there, buddy. Bend over. Spread those ass cheeks for me. You really shouldn't be wearing a Speedo. Something to hold that ass up and make that Speedo full length. Is there such a thing as a full-length Speedo? I guess that would just technically be like... Pants? Yeah, like spandex pants or whatever. Okay. Leggings. What do you call those things like bikers wear and stuff? I don't know. They're like a legging of sorts. Bicycle riders. Tells angels with leggings. Vroom. We're badasses. Different kind of bikers. One is a biker. One is a bicycle. I want to thank everyone who listens. I really appreciate that. Info at Hot Wife Podcast. You want to reach out to us? Love to hear from you. Give us your concepts, ideas, questions, answers, whatever. And I see you've been working on the magazine because I'm up there editing videos. I'm working on two magazines currently. Oh, the Overachiever. Okay. No, the Over Cigar magazine. Asshole. Yes, it is Over Cigar. The Cigar Launcher Magazine. The other podcast I do is Over Cigar. Oh, yes. I don't know why you ever, that's a whole different thing. I don't know why you just didn't keep the same name for the podcast and the magazine. I don't know. I can change it. I haven't put the new magazine out yet. I can make it Over Cigar Magazine. It just makes sense. They'll be all branded as one. Over Cigar just makes sense because everything you did was, you know. Everything we talk about is Over Cigar. Over Cigar, you know. It's the sexy stuff. No one cares. You can talk about sex over a cigar. Well, that's true, too. That's true. Yeah, okay. So, tonight's topic has come about due to some recent playmates you've had. Right, right. That's true. The whole thing is the importance of being vocal. That's, you know, I can't tell you how many mostly young-ish guys were the younger ones. There's some older ones you've played with. Yeah, there's just nothing going on there. Yeah, no oohs, ahs, or hey, I'm coming, or, you know. No direction. I mean, again, as we said a billion times before, communication is key to your pleasure. And if you just sit there like a bump on a log, it's not going to go anywhere. I think some people, I can't say just, and again, we're not talking just vocal for men, we're talking for women. For women, too. Oh, absolutely. You've been with some women, you didn't know what was going to happen. So they got a lot more moist down there. And we're like, okay. And she's like, oh, I came five times. You did? You didn't move. You didn't ooh. You didn't ah. You didn't clue me in. I'm not a mind reader. Do you think it's maybe because they're afraid they might sound ridiculous? I'm not saying they would. I'm just saying. Do you think? I don't know. No. When you're in the throes of ecstasy and passion, does it matter? The only one that I think might be considered... When you have your crotch in someone's face or you're getting dragged by somebody, maybe. I don't think about what I sound like when I'm having an orgasm. Some people do. Some people do. Really? I'm too busy having my orgasm. The only one that I think that might be kind of unusual would be the girl that you had sex with that had Tourette's. That was... That's a whole different direction. I still got to try to get her in here. I'll do her on air. That'll be so fucking funny. When you told me like what happened, you're like, I can't believe what happened. And you told me and like, my God, she's like, see, that's being vocal to the extreme. I thought the neighbors were going to call the cops. I really did. But that's another story. But so, yeah, I mean, I, yeah, I don't know why you wouldn't like, ooh, ah, Like a cat, whatever. Or give them some direction if they're not quite hitting the spot. We've touched on this in the past. Sure we have. Where people, you might want the person to do something that they're not doing. Right. You know, I mean, like, I tell you all the time, like, my balls for me, please. Smack me in the head. No, I never said that. You just do that and it's not what I want. Oh, yeah, I thought that's what I heard. No, it doesn't. No, you like, if you want your balls licked. Hey, did you just mute me? No. Okay. You're touching something. Because you're further away from your mic, I just turned your mic a little bit. Oh, I'm right here. I can't. I'm just making sure. I'll kind of get on your clothes. It's your podcast, so I want to make sure I hear you. No, yeah, well, you tell me, you know, oh, baby, look, I want you to lick my balls, lick my balls. And it's like, yeah, it tells me what you need at that moment. Sure. I mean, I know you basically, that is one of the things that you really, enjoy. I know that. So I'm going to do that. Oh, I haven't met one man that hasn't yet. I'm keeping scorecards. I have it, you know. Let me bring it out here. I have a spreadsheet. I have a spreadsheet. Yeah, exactly. There's a pun there. A bar graph, pie chart. Venn diagram. But yeah, most guys. The circle for Vince and the circle for Joe and the circle for Mike and the circle for Bob all intersect. is ball licking. Everybody seems to like ball. The men that I have been with, that's the big one. Some men will express that. I assume that they like that. We could do a whole ball licking show. But I just go to it and when they start to, oh yeah, yeah. And they're reinforcing, I'm doing the right thing. Again, being vocal. That's so important. And I've been with guys, Really? Well, wait, I'm going, I didn't finish my sentence, douchebag. Wow, that hurt. Well, I know it didn't. I've been with some guys that have not said anything. They just sit there like literally like a bump on a log. Well, you had that one individual down there at the pool. Down there at the pool. But not only did not say anything, he didn't even touch you with his hands. Nope, no, nothing. Wouldn't lick your pussy because he doesn't do that. He doesn't do that. I was like, oh, that's it. That's a big disappointment right there. Sounds like you're going to be a lonely man. No, he reached out after that. Hey, you want to get together again? It's like, no, not really. You know, in my country, we have saying, no. Sorry, but you're going to need to kick up your game a whole life. Yeah, it's like, what did you bring to the table? Where'd you hear me? Oh, you didn't. Because again, he didn't tell you anything, and he just, pfft. Well, he... And his arms like on the back of the love seat. So he didn't even touch me. No. He might have brought them down when I was like doing him like reverse cowgirl like I was sitting on him. No, he didn't. He didn't? No, he didn't. I thought maybe he might have to like balance me. Let's go to the video. We may have to. No, he didn't touch you. No, he didn't touch you. I mean, when I'm, you know, shooting the video, I'm like. Dude, you know. I almost yelled, cut, cut, get the fuck out. Next. Jesus Christ. A blow up doll has more emotion and fear. It was really a big disappointment. It really, really was. And it's like, I don't want to be. Now, don't overdo it either. People are listening like, hmm, do I have to, you know, I don't make noise and do that. You know, I mean, you want to be told if you're doing something well, if you're doing something to the woman or a woman's doing something to you or whatever, you want to hear some reassurance that what you're doing feels good. That's why you're doing it for. Some kind of, yeah, verbal affirmation. Yes, this is working for me. And, you know, if you don't get any sign of anything, you start to think, okay, maybe they don't like it. Maybe I'm... Now, it's important that your mate listens. You know, like, I tell you, get your finger out of my ass. I'm like, oh, I can't... Oh, it slipped. I'm sorry. Yeah, up to your wrist. I was going to get the whole fist in there. Oh, you want the whole fist, not just a finger. Oh, my mistake. Well, it's about time you catch on. Jesus Christ. But no, I mean, something like, you know, just let them know. It's like, yeah, that feels so good. Yeah. You know, something, you know. Now, I've been with a couple guys that. At a time. Not in a long time, but they'll ask, yeah, you like that? Yeah, like, do you like that? And that's good, but they kept asking it and asking. It's like, I told you once already, so, you know, don't go overboard. But again, some people could, I'm going to use the word, get changed. from somebody else they played with a lot, that they could be sitting there, oh, yeah, baby, fuck me, yeah, oh, that feels good, you're rating every single stroke, that's a bit much, I don't think you want that, no, that's a bit much, There's a happy me to how much vocalism you need. Can you imagine if you had to give me reassurance with every lick of my tongue? Oh, dear God. It'd be like an auctioneer. Your tongue would be moving faster than mine. It's important that... Yeah, but don't overdo it. But you have to have that communication. But add sineroticism, because I think also when you're hearing whoever it is you're playing with, Responding in a good way. You want to do more. It's like, oh, okay, that felt good. What if I try this? It's like, oh, wait, they got quiet. Okay, let's go back to this one. Oh, yeah, yeah, okay, I'll just keep doing this. You know? And if on the receiving end and you need them to do something else, don't just sit there with your tongue in your mouth. You have to tell them, you know, in a nice way, of course, you know, hey, baby, maybe if you took your whole fist out of my ass and just stick a finger in, that might be better. Or vice versa. Especially when it's up to the elbow. Especially when it's up to the elbow. A little uncomfortable. Just back off a little bit. I like to get my liver back in its original location. Hold on. Yeah, I can't have an orgasm if my liver is dislodged. My heart is palpating on its own. You don't need to squeeze it. Okay. Is that from their hand or from a dick? I don't know which. Well, I could only speak to neither. That's true. You can't speak to either. Let your imagination run wild with that one. Yuck. Both in expressing any pleasure you're getting. Oh, absolutely. And also to reassure them. It's a good thing. And again, even if you're doing something to them, you can even still be... guy's dick or something like that. You're like, would you mind if I lick your balls or can I lick your balls? Oh, yeah. That involvement, let's keep everybody in the party. Yeah, let's keep everybody in the party is a good way to put it, for sure. I mean, I just, yeah, being with somebody who is non-responsive, I've been a couple that have been like less than satisfying, let's put it that way. Yeah, you even had the one guy who you enjoy playing with down in the pool. He popped his load in you when you were fucking him on the raft. He didn't tell you. He didn't even tell me. And he really does. I think that was a little premature finish on his part so he was kind of embarrassed I think. You think so? He shouldn't have been. It doesn't matter. It's just like, let's see. There's white fluid coming out of her. Yeah, exactly. It's like, hmm. And all of a sudden you're going a little flaccid thinking maybe. Yeah, but usually when I was with him, he was very responsive, very verbal. Yeah, that was like a weird one-off. That's like two years ago. At least. At least two years ago, yes. I kind of lost contact because he's in that polygonal relationship thing. I don't know what it is. So I don't want to get in the middle of that. It's just way too much. It's way too much to understand. That's more math than I'm able to handle. But yeah, that's the other thing. Like if you're going to have an orgasm, male or female, you feel yourself climbing, please let the other person know where you are in the thing so he doesn't stop what they're doing. So you can come or whatever. So again, from the aspect of, okay, for you, it's not quite the issue because you can't get pregnant. Right. But, you know, but also a level of eroticism is like, oh, I'm going to come soon. I'm going to come soon. Well, you could sit there and go, oh, I want it here, I want it there. Add to the excitement for your partner. They're not going to say, stop, think about a traffic ticket you got or something. They're going to want you to finish and they're going to add to where they may or may not want it. And actually, having that conversation beforehand might not be a bad idea because some people are kind of put off by facial. But you know, sometimes in a situation like at a swinger party or club or whatever, you don't go, oh, hi, I'm so-and-so. And by the way, you can only come from underneath my chin to my nipples. Okay, we know that girl. That's it. Do not come on my, some people are very. But now the good thing is if she gets older, her nipples are going further and further, so the target area is bigger. The target area is bigger. Oh, that's not right. But yes, there are some people that are like, then you really should have that conversation. If it's really important to you, yes. Yeah. For me, it's really not. But it's a split-second conversation to have really close to that moment. Yeah, I mean, I usually invite. If you're a man and you're going, it's like, I'm going to come soon. Where do you want it? Right. You know. If you can articulate that much in that moment. She says, Toledo, then you need to stop and leave. Toledo. I did not see that one coming. But I'm bummed. But yeah, I mean, usually if I see, I can feel a guy, his tensions start to rise or whatever, and I'd be like, oh. Don't get pissed off. Oh, wrong kind of tension. Wrong kind of tension. I could see his legs start to shake or whatever, because they know he's going to come soon. Or have a heart attack. Or have a heart attack, which I don't know which. Epileptic fate, whatever. In this case, it's an orgasm, thankfully. Okay. I'd be like, oh, baby, I would love it if you came on my face, or I would love it if you came in my mouth or my chin and my pussy and my ass, whatever. Wherever he happens to be at the moment, because I don't want him to have to stop and then come all the way around to the other end of me. He's in my ass like... Throw him back in his wheelchair, wheel him around to where you want him. No, that's not what I meant at all. Where do you want me to put my load? In the kitchen? In the kitchen. There's a tile floor out there. I can clean that up a lot easier. I don't have to change the sheets then. That's awful. Oh man, I would not... I do not want to have sex with you. As you tell me all the time. Oh, yeah. You even say it when I make your breakfast in the morning. It's, oh, thanks for the breakfast. I don't want to have sex with you. I have never said that. To my face. To your face, right. That you think I know. But, yeah. I'm still thinking about Toledo. Where do you want me to come, baby? Toledo. Toledo. I just pulled that out of thin air. Sorry. Why would you? Okay. He's on the phone. Making a ticket. At that point, you know, they don't want to be with you. Before you finish, hop in the car and drive to Toledo and deliver it there. Or take a plane and deliver it there. Can you imagine? He's on the plane trying to keep it hard. That's so wrong. Or runs down to UPS store. pops it into an envelope. Mails it. Who am I sending this to in Toledo? I don't know. I don't know, but she told me to send it to Toledo. Send it to Toledo. Put it to 123 Main Street. See who gets it. Can you imagine if that letter's all sticky and glued shut? By then it's all dry. You're taking that joke way too far. Way too literal. It was just so spontaneous and you ruined it. I ruined it. That's only because I know that I have I have a thong I need to mail out. So I've been wearing them. The Toledo? I don't know where the guy is at. I'm not sure where the guy lives. I will find the address. It doesn't matter. I wrote it down. I just put down the thong that he wants me to wear. Getting back to the vocal thing. He was vocal. He knew exactly what he wanted. Who bought your underwear? Yeah. I'm not talking about that. He was vocal. But women are the same way. Women are the same way. I mean. You know what's even more difficult with women is you could be going down on a woman and they don't make any noise or anything. But at least with a man, like a woman, you don't know, am I pleasing her or not? But with a man, it's like if you're blowing him and he's going flaccid, it's like, well, I'm doing something wrong, I guess. Or maybe he's distracted or whatever. But yeah, his body responds either favorably or not so much. A little easier to tell. Well, you said when you were with that one woman that didn't make any noise, she got wet, more wet. The fister? The fister. No, not the fister, not the fister. She didn't make any noise either. No. By the fister, he means you could put a fist in any hole. Yeah, well, we used to tube down low. Yeah. I don't know about her mouth. It has teeth in it. It scared me. I understand that. Anything with teeth would scare me, too. I'm not putting my dick in anything that has teeth. That's a lie. You stick your dick in my mouth. Yeah, but you take your teeth out. Oh, God. Oh, you suck. I hate you. So I was wondering if you were going to go there, and you did. Yeah, well. You never disappoint, dear. That's not what you tell me. But, yeah, okay. Okay, the fister. She shall now be called the fister sister. Okay, she didn't make any noise. No, I know. is, she had said she's never had an orgasm by anything other than a toy. I gave her two orgasms orally, and I couldn't tell you I did. There was no sign that she came. Wow, you think if you never had an orgasm from a human that you'd be like, woohoo, look at me. One would think, you know, when the thing giving an orgasm doesn't say Black and Decker on it. Black and Decker. You'd take that, you know. Ingersoll and Rowland. Yeah, I'm just thinking that. And it was the same thing with the young man they brought with him. He was the same, you know, did the same thing that the other guy did. He was a decent-looking guy with a big dick. He thought he was doing everybody a favor. That's the other problem. There was, like, no response. He was probably the most, one of the most boring fucks. I wrote him for a minute and a half. I'm like, I'm done. I'd rather go do math. I'd rather, Do my taxes? Look at me. I'm going to go do my taxes. Oh, look at the time. It was awful. Is it tax season already? It's August. I got to start now. It was the most boring sex I think I've ever had. Wow. That got me off the hook. It should. It should. Then there was the other gentleman that didn't eat pussy. That was pretty boring too. It's like, oh, come on. But yeah, that guy didn't eat pussy was... Of course, the other guy didn't eat pussy either. You know, he didn't say he didn't, but he didn't offer... Well, when he was playing with Pfister, he didn't eat her pussy. He just fucked her. Okay, I'm seeing a trend here. Yeah, there was no response. But we've also seen a large portion of individuals with the biggest dicks don't go down pussy. Don't do any world. They just want to put their dick in. We have noticed that. I mean, it's not all of them. No, not all. Not all of them. I said a large portion. It seems like a larger portion. Large portion, yeah. I'm going to get out my spreadsheet here, too. See, this is my spreadsheet. It's upside down. Oh, sorry. There's that better. Okay. I bet you we could literally do a spreadsheet, and you could see like- Who the best lovers are? Yeah, you could find out which ones. I mean, we have like actual- How are you going to sort them? By penis size? Have a column cock size? You could. You could do a lot of things like that. of lovers, one to five stars. Actually, penis size isn't that important. Well, it's a ratio. It is a ratio. Yeah, so you could sort it and say, okay, best lovers I've had averaged out to be, you know, inch and a half cocks. And that would be fine. Their first name always started with Vince. No? It doesn't matter. It's fine. But, yeah. Yeah, it seems like the guys that don't have the biggest dick seem to rely on a lot of other... Well, you got to step your game up. Yeah, you got to step your game up because you don't have just one thing. Yeah. And you know what? I mean, a big dick is fun, don't get me wrong, but there's so... I trust you. You're going to have to. I had the best orgasms from oral, so if they're not giving me oral, that big dick isn't going to do a whole lot for me. That by itself. You know, if they're... Now they have good oral skills and a big dick? Okay, so here's something that's changed topics a little bit. Okay, you're going to switch it up. Something you said last night was actually very arousing. What did I say? About divorce? No. About divorce? I'm like, did I say something about divorce? Thanks. No, there's a gentleman you played with some time ago, and he reached out and was like, hey, you guys still doing your thing? He was like, oh, I don't care how much pain I'm in. I want to shoot with him. Oh, yes. Yes. Younger, youngish black gentleman. Yes. And he does sing country westerns. Yes, he does. Supposedly, as he tells us. That's fine. I don't care. No, I'm just saying. Yeah, he was actually, a lot of the videos I went back and looked at, there was a lot of, they were very erotic to watch. Yeah, but your eyes rounded out because you had fun. I had fun with him. He was pretty verbal. He was pretty verbal. Yeah, I don't remember that, but I mean, I didn't, you know, I mean, there's been one or two guys since then. One or two thousands. But, yeah, I mean, did you reach out to him? No, I forgot my phone today. Well, you could have done it last night when we were talking, but you had to send him the videos he shot. Yeah. He wanted them, so you could have, like, included a little email with that. I couldn't because I didn't send them through a communications But you still had his email. You could have gone through your normal email. You're looking for excuses. I dropped the ball. I'm sorry. I will text him. You don't drop the ball. You do what you want. I'm just saying. I thought that was very rousing to have you like, oh yeah, I don't care how much pain I'm in. He was a lot of fun. I'm not saying he wasn't. He's a good guy. He's a good guy, a lot of fun. Yeah. At the last time we were together, we were supposed to get together and something came up, something family, He moved to Texas for a while. Well, that didn't help. Long distance. He might have a big dick, not that big. But yeah, he was always a lot of fun. There's been a couple guys that have been a whole lot of fun. And they're usually the guys that are a little more animated, a little more, not a lot, but a little more, you know, animated, I guess, is about the best word. Articulate, animated. They're in it. Yeah, they're in it. That's probably the best way of actually wording it is, you know, people, you know, be involved in the sex. Don't just lay there. Yeah, why would you not? You know, let people know, you know, share how, what you're going through with them. Help inspire the person trying to give you pleasure. Let them know they're achieving it or maybe not achieving it or how to step it up just that little bit more, that little extra, little X and extra. So. And in our case, triple X. Yeah, that makes sense. But why would you just lay there? Like, oh, I'm not going to tell you anything about what I'm feeling or give you any kind of verbal, you know, positive or negative about what you're doing. I came five minutes ago. Yeah. You done? Yeah. No, I just want to keep going until, you know, my jaw falls off. Yeah, exactly. It's like, so having that kind of Verbal Stimulation could also heighten it with dirty talk and, you know, what you like, what you're enjoying. Sure. All those things can, you know, really. It just makes the experience better. I think you're right. Absolutely. You know, I mean, I will always like it when I'm blowing you and you're telling me stories. You always want me. I like it when you're blowing me too. Yeah, but here's the thing. You always want me to talk dirty talk while I'm blowing you. It's like, that just doesn't. I just want you to get some answers. I bet I'm going to do this. It doesn't work. Doesn't work. I understand that. So when you tell me your stories when I'm blowing you, I can enjoy them too. I like that. You're like, you know, I had this erotic dream and the dream was this and you were, I'm always so much more agile in your dreams too. I kind of like that. Better looking. Better looking, more agile. I'm like a little slut. Yeah, you're more of a slut in my dreams. You're not more agile. No, not more agile. Yeah, you have a bad shoulder even in my dreams lately. Are you kidding me? At least you have some of one foot in reality. Yeah, but I'm definitely a bigger slut. I'm like, yeah, I'm going to take on this whole football team or, you know, group of guys at this bachelor party thing. Okay, I'm taking on all South Philly. Yeah, okay, let's go with that. That's not happening. We beat this one to death. Yeah, okay. I am definitely, since you are verbal, And you communicated what you wanted. Yeah, I know. Communicated it. You have no idea what I did. What did you, what are you doing over there? I'm trying to plug something in. Oh, couldn't find the hole? Too much hair around it. Oh, I hope not. Okay, so let's wrap this bag up. All right, so with that said, 50shadesofpleasure.com. Check out the free magazine. The new one is coming out beginning of April. for the first. I'm running a tad behind, but we'll see. I'm going to get something out there. No April Fool's jokes. No, no jokes. What was I going to say? Oh, Info at Hot Wife Podcast. Love to hear from you. And if they want to see? Oh, me? Hotwife.Lynn.com. It's all my links page of all the different platforms I am on. And you can see who, I was going to say, and what, Sometimes what's. I put up some what's. Sometimes what's, yeah. What's, where's, what I'm doing. All that stuff, all the important stuff. So come see what I'm doing. Come see the little slut that I am, but not as slutty as I am in my husband's dreams and fantasies. Sorry. Yeah, I get more sex in my dreams. I bet you do. Sometimes you're even in them. You know, that's fine too, or not. I'm good with that too. All right, everyone, stay horny. Have a good night, everyone.
