In this episode of the Hot Wife Podcast, hosts Donna Lynn and Vince delve into the complexities of relationships, intimacy, and the dynamics of jealousy within the swinging lifestyle. They explore how witnessing a partner's experiences with others can inspire personal growth and the desire to enhance one's own sexual performance. The conversation also touches on navigating comfort zones in sexual exploration, particularly regarding anal play and oral sex, while emphasizing the importance of communication and consent in these intimate encounters. TakeawaysThe podcast emphasizes that the views expressed are personal opinions.Listeners are encouraged to reach out with questions or comments.Jealousy can be a natural response in open relationships.Experiencing new things with a partner can inspire personal growth.Communication is key in navigating sexual experiences.Exploring comfort zones can lead to enhanced intimacy.Anal play can be approached gradually and with care.The hosts share personal anecdotes to illustrate their points.The importance of consent and comfort in sexual exploration is highlighted.Listeners are invited to share their experiences with the hosts.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/hot-wife-podcast-and-the-swinger-lifestyle--5343522/support. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
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Speaker1: Welcome to the Hot Wife Podcast, where we dive into discussions about relationships, intimacy, and everything in between. Before we begin, we want to make it clear that the views expressed on this podcast are solely those of the host and guests, and should be taken as opinions, not professional or medical advice. Additionally, we remind all listeners that this podcast is intended for adults over the age of 18. Unauthorized rebroadcast of this show is strictly prohibited without the written permission of the owners of Hot Wife Podcast. Now let's heat things up. hello everybody this is donna lynn and welcome to my hot white podcast of course i'm here with my wonderful husband vince as usual so wonderful i i think so i think you're the best Thank you. This is Donna Lynn, and welcome to my Hot Wife Podcast. Of course, I'm here with my wonderful husband, Vince, as usual. So wonderful. I think so. I think you're the best. Yeah, well, it's all that matters. Yeah. I mean, you dot all the I's and cross all the T's in my book, but, you know. I haven't seen your T's in a while. It's too cold for you to show you my T's. I told you I warm them up. Oh, that's so sweet. Speaker2: This winter is already. Speaker3: Yeah, but the last few days have been fucking single digits almost into the negative single digits. It's fucking ridiculous. Speaker1: We've had so many mild winters, I think, with this one being more of a normal winter. We're pussies. We're like, oh. Speaker3: Define normal. I can't. On any level no no okay more normal but yeah it's a little bit of a shock for us we've been kind of you know had it easy for the past couple winters and i was like what the fuck it's down below zero this sucks yeah hey um we always give out the email address in the very beginning which is info at hotwifepodcast.com like to hear from you guys um always a pleasure we try to answer every email i think we do it successfully um and again we've had a few people writing in and they've been really cool answering questions for them and what have you pardon me uh and then you know they know, they're like, oh, man, I'm sorry for bugging you. It's like, you're not really bugging us. We don't really have lives. Oh, well, that's true. I mean, honestly, when was, I mean, we went out with a friend several weeks ago for dinner. I mean, several weeks ago. Several weeks ago. And we don't go out to eat. We don't do anything. We just come home. Well, you work from home, so you're always home. I'm always home. I haven't been out. So you're not interrupting us. Not even a little bit. I think next Saturday is that house party. Okay, yeah. So we're going just to visit. Not going to be a play session because your shoulders are still out of commission. There's going to be a little social visit. Say hi to everybody. And, you know, so we're looking forward to that. But back to the original thing there was, yeah, please, if you have questions, comments, whatever. Not disturbing us, that's for sure. A couple of people were telling us how awesome we are, and that's awesome you think that. Again, we're just two people that enjoy the lifestyle when we can and just sharing our experiences, our opinions. We're officially authorities on...
Speaker2:
Nothing.
Speaker3:
There you go.
Speaker1:
What you got there?
Speaker2:
Nothing. Where you go. What you got there? Nothing. Yeah.
Speaker3:
Where are you going?
Speaker2:
Nowhere.
Speaker3:
A little Boondock Saints reference. So, yeah, please reach out to us. If you have a question, you have a comment, you have a show idea. If you want to write an article for 50 Shades of Pleasure, info at Hot info at Hot Wife Podcast or info at 50ShadesOfPleasure.com, either one. So I'd love to hear from you. Yeah. And you're working on the magazine now, so, yeah. I hope to have it wrapped up tomorrow. Wow. So it'll be out on the first or sooner. Oh, you're quick. I kind of know what I'm doing. Get out of here. All right. You know, some things, not everything. Like you tell me. Oh, well, yeah. You don't know everything. Yes, I do know everything. Oh, shut up. Okay. Yes. Anyway, so tonight's topic came up with the last podcast. Right. Came up with the concept. Don't have an official title for the show at the moment. We will when we post this.
Speaker4:
So it's a question to you, and it'll bounce back to me, I guess.
Speaker2:
Oh, yeah.
Speaker3:
And I can think of one instance that this applies, and you probably will too.
Speaker1:
Has there been a time that you see a woman with me, because it wouldn't be a man, with me that they're doing or something that maybe you don't do, which is very few things. I can't think of anything, but okay. But that makes you jealous and inspires you to maybe try to step up your game or try something new? Well, I don't think I'd be jealous, but it would be like, hey, you know, if she's doing something, I can't even think of anything that anybody would be doing to you. But if they were. Wow, she's not dry heaving. Maybe I should try that one out with her. Shut up, you're an ass. No, if it's something you really enjoy and I see you're really enjoying that, I might be like, Hey, let me get on, get on this, you know, let me see, you know, what I can do. Well, the one that comes to mind is when, uh, our one friend was blowing me, but she had her tongue pierced. Oh, the tongue pierced. Yeah. And your comment was, are you going to take me to get my tongue pierced like the next day? It was funny though. It was really super funny. I couldn't be jealous. I was actually tickled pink because it was you enjoyed it so much and the joke was like i'm you're gonna get me to get my tongue pierced because man you came and boom yeah that was that was a rapid one yeah for me that was incredibly fast well it's always those sensations that are new and different that kind of push you over the edge, I think. Like if somebody does something different, it may not be that different, but just how they're doing it or the type of movement they're doing on whatever body part that they might be doing it on, it just might be just a little bit different. Like her tongue being pierced and that ball rolling up and down. There's a little different sensation, sure. Well, it's like when you sucked that one guy who had his pierce, had his Prince Albert or whatever. Yeah, but I couldn't really go to town on that because it was a new piercing, so I really couldn't explore. Yeah, he was supposed to be me getting any sort of sex. Yeah, because remember the other girl we were with, he kept saying, she's got to settle down, but she and i was like well god i hope i'm who would think that having a nail driven through your dickhead would hurt would hurt and you know might need time to heal i don't know i don't know i just you know it's crazy vincent you're all talking crazy talk here you know you get your dick pierced that day come on when i use a nail gun i make sure I don't aim it at my crotch. It's like, man up.
Speaker3:
I use a firearm, I don't aim it at my crotch or any part of my body, actually.
Speaker1:
Or a chainsaw.
Speaker3:
Whoa. Chainsaws are different, you know. That's terrible.
Speaker1:
Yeah, I mean, like, I can't think, I mean, I'm sure some people, because, okay, like, in the last year or so, like, you've embraced anal. Right, right. Where some women are like, well, I don't do anal. Right, yeah. They might see their husband at a party or whatever, all of a sudden, you know, give an anal to some woman. Right. I'm just going to stick with women. Whatever, whatever what's her boat um but do you think that might be something that would drive a woman to like wow you know watching him you know fuck her in the ass you know obviously made him happy and she seemed to be loving it maybe i need to i mean do you think that's the kind of thing it could be i think people in the lifestyle are definitely going to be more open to it they might be like oh you know i don't know there's something they're defined they're like no anal but then there's something like you know what you know they'll at least think about the proposition they might you know maybe explore doing some um you know anal play with the fingers You know start out easy something that you know you don't just go right in there jam a big old dick up your ass that's not how it works oh no you start out let me get my my note i have to flip the page of my notebook yeah flip the page well you start out with small toys maybe just some kind of um first three fingers and hold on a second no i'm being serious now you you play with the outside of the you know your butthole you know tease it a little bit you use lots of lube oh i'm sorry it's just an ass i can't take you anywhere and you don't uh that's why that's exactly why but you know i mean you can work yourself up into it because like you said before it there's there's a lot of nerve endings back there you know it does it it can really enhance an orgasm like you know i used to love if i was riding somebody on top i used to take like a butt plug or some a smaller vibrator and put that in my ass i used to think that was so you'd stop them from trying to fuck your ass. Now I know.
Speaker2:
Now you know.
Speaker1:
Now it felt good to me. I came like so much harder and faster and stronger with that kind of anal stimulation. But you don't have to go like, you know, full boogie, you know, just full tilt boogie, just shoving a big old thing up your butt right away. No, baby steps, you know. You know, use your finger. Use some lube.
Speaker3:
I'll give you a minute. full boat boogie you know just full tilt boogie just shoving a big old thing up your butt right away no baby steps you know you know use your finger use some lube use a little vibrator then slide the vibrator in but not all the way just a little bit just to tease yourself you know there's so many things you can do to work yourself and get yourself into that that sensation so you don't have to like go to town on it from you know i did i certainly didn't know had to work up to it but then you know you start taking one dick it's like hey you know what i can take a little more i can you know they just work your way up to it it's not words i've never said i said no vince ever i didn't say no vince this vince this vince i, yeah. But yeah, I mean, if women are intimidated by anal, and that's something their husband really wants. Well, I'm using anal as an example. Yeah, but I've seen that a lot. But there's women who don't do oral. Oh. Okay. Well. Yeah. Yeah, I mean, or don't let a man come in their mouth or whatever. Oh, yeah, there was. But if all of a sudden, if you were to see, if you weren't a person who allowed a man to come in your mouth, but you saw me getting a blowjob by another woman, and she took it in her mouth. And there's a difference in an orgasm that is jerked off versus one that is finished in a mouth. There is a big difference. Even if you jerk off into their mouth or while her mouth is around there. When the mouth is on your dick. There's a different sensation. Versus her or you jerking off. It feels good either. Don't get me wrong. There's no bad feeling there. Right, right. But when the woman keeps it, and that's why a lot of guys want that. Oh, yeah. It's because it feels so, it's as close as you're going to get to feeling like you're inside the pussy. you're inside the pussy yeah because especially if you have to wear a condom while you're you know while you're having sex well whatever i know people whatever i know i'm not judging that no you gotta do what you gotta do but the people that um you know uh like the women i turned my headphones up and all of a sudden i think I'm talking louder. I should do that. But yeah, if you're used to fucking with a condom, getting a blowjob and finishing in the mouth is sort of like giving a cream pie without a condom. Oh, yeah, yeah. We figure the mouth is hot. It's wet.'s wet and then the nice thing is is like if your had a tongue i mean can you imagine that so you have this thing you have this tongue which is your doesn't have so this tongue is flicking around the head of your dick and it's you know writhing around and feeling around and yeah that's gotta feel great that's why like old women they don't have teeth i get a gum job yeah it's like then it's like a pussy we just you know tied her lips because that's got to feel great. That's why, like, old women, they don't have teeth. Get a gum job. Then it's like a pussy with just, you know, tighter lips because it's got gum. No. Interesting. You would have your teeth removed? Yeah. Well, I think that might happen on its own. You know what I'm saying here? It's well on its way. God, I hope not. No. But, no, I think, you know, there's things that happen or you know there are people that like um one of the things that i've kind of like i don't want to say i'm proud i don't know what the wording would but like so many women i've played with like at the house party right you know during my whole oral session with them you know i'll you, insert one or two fingers in their pussy and they have a few orgasms.
Speaker2:
And then the asshole's generally very welcoming. And all of a sudden I'll slide fingers in there and everything else.
Speaker3:
But then afterwards they're like,
Speaker2:
I generally don't want anybody put anything in my ass.
Speaker1:
It's like, oh. When you got turned on, all of a sudden it's like, even your butt says, I want something inside.
Speaker2:
I'll see you next time. it's like oh when you got turned on i guess all of a sudden it's like even your butt says i want something inside speaking from my point of view my butt says that my butt says i want something else inside no my my ass is checked out the whole time it's not even there like nope you know like those in World War II, those metal crosses, like, so vehicles couldn't go through. My asshole puts those up. It's like, nope, nothing coming in here. Nope, as long as it's done right. But those who do, that's great. I had some of the probably the strongest orgasms from anal play or anal penetration or, you know but anal play or some mixture of the you know whatever was a toy in my ass or you know a dick in my ass and a toy in my pussy I mean it's like all those things are very you know stimulating at the same time so I have some of the best orgasms when there's some kind of anal play going on. Yeah.
Speaker3:
I get that.
Speaker2:
Yeah. But you know,
Speaker1:
it's nuts.
Speaker3:
I understand that.
Speaker1:
You understand that. But I, I don't know. I think most people like in the lifestyle are getting back to the original
Speaker2:
topic. I,
Speaker1:
I don't know if,
Speaker2:
um,
Speaker1:
yeah, partners might get jealous. I mean, we've seen, we've seen partners get jealous. So don't, if you're in the lifestyle, it doesn't mean there's not jealousy going on. What about, um, that couple you were playing with him and I'm playing with his wife or girlfriend. Girlfriend, yeah. And you know, she was having a few orgasms. It's not the one where it's like we were on the living room floor in the old house and he turned around, looked at me and goes, she never made a noise like that for me. Is that the same guy? Is that the guy? I remember his name. Whatever. I did. I remember it. It doesn't matter. I was like, whoa. Holy cow. Do you think that inspires people to want to kick up their game? You know what? If you're smart, that's what you do. Oh, okay. You know, and if you're not, then you get pissed off and jealous and you shut the whole thing down then nobody has fun so that's not good and not to mention does this need to be a competition number one i'm not saying it has to be competition i think people do get kind of competitive it's like oh i could suck dick better than her and it's like that's kind of a fun thing to do but even if you lose what what do you really lose nothing you're just still having fun so if you think you need to kick up your game practice becomes more interesting it does you know it sure does honey i need to step up my oral game so i'm just gonna eat your pussy you know three four times tonight three four times tomorrow night oh and what and the wife goes well my dick sucking apparently could be better but oh well wait a minute don't you want to practice no i'm okay there's homework the teacher's going to be testing us tomorrow we better get her who better do our homework tonight i mean yeah um i think i think just speaking from people in the lifestyle something like that happens they're more likely to try something different and be more accepting of taking on a maybe a situation that that's not comfortable for them okay you know they're up to the challenge sure you know what i'm saying they're more first of all people in the lifestyle are definitely more open to things even if they're not into it but if somebody poses in general. Not 100%, but yeah. Well, either we're accepting of it like, hey, I'm not into that, but you do you. It's usually that kind of attitude.
Speaker2:
Sure.
Speaker1:
You do you. But if somebody's like, hey, you know, my husband really likes this, I'm not really comfortable doing that, but maybe if I, you know, practice on him more, maybe I'll get more comfortable with it, and maybe he'll tell me what he likes, and we both learn from the experience. That'd be the ultimate thing. Yeah, that would be the ultimate thing. I mean, like, I'm not real comfortable doing any kind of anal play on somebody else. I'm not comfortable putting my fingers in anybody else's butt now let's just say hypothetically so don't bite my head off here let's hypothetically say maybe in another lifetime you might want anal play i wouldn't be comfortable with that at this stage of the game i mean i'm glad you're not into that but let's just pretend okay, that you would want that.
Speaker2:
I'd be afraid, like, my nails would, like, you know, rake your little anus. I don't want to do that. Cute little anus. Don't worry about it. So we don't have that to worry about. But let's just say. Not even a subject.
Speaker1:
Yeah, there's things I'm not comfortable with. You know, I'm just, and it's just, I just haven't had the situation to come up where I'm confronted with that.
Speaker2:
Like, pegging. I'll see you next time. I'm just, and it's just, I just haven't had the situation to come up where I'm confronted with that, like pegging. Oh, there's pegging. Oh, forget it. I just don't know if I can do that. And I have in the past, I've had guys say, you know, I really want to be pegged. I even bought that, that strap on, strapless strap on dildo thing. It's like the, what was it? Dreamy slut, the one that's strapped that's cool but i never used it because he disappeared but he was like oh you got to peg me i'm like i am not comfortable with that at all i don't know where that piece of plastic is going is it going to puncture something i don't know you know i'm just so i i get it i understand what people's anxiety is about in, if I had to peg somebody, I would be very uncomfortable. I've pegged somebody. I've pegged some of these people for strange. I've pegged them for, you know. Different kind of pegging beer. Oh. Different kind of pegging. But yeah, that's probably one of the big things. Somebody I would have babysit my kids. I've pegged them for, you know. Oh, no. That's probably the thing for me that if you, let's just say hypothetically again very very hypothetically or like maybe a partner i'll just say i'll even take you out of the equation i'm with a partner and he wants to do that in somebody else another woman pegs him and i'm like ah well i will be very uncomfortable i think it's very uncomfortable we've talked about that off air um because of your concerns with that oh yeah and i think it's got to be a lot of uh slow introduction like it's got to be one of those things like you know you just don't you know strap this thing on and thank you you know pretend you're a jackhammer oh yeah um you know you got to find out's comfortable you know you gotta sit there and go okay how much of this do you want in oh i'm gonna throw up how much of this do you want inside remember so i'm going back uh i can use her name because if i don't you'll be like who are you talking about jess remember i i i had a strap on i was doing her and i was so uncomfortable doing her anally she did anal i did yes i was so uncomfortable that must have been a custom video because she didn't like anything in her oh this was uh she was with remember the guy that liked being b yeah she was blocking him or doing something with him so her pussy was yeah otherwise in the trailer she was she was sucking his dick No. We were in the barn we were in there was a car i don't remember or something it was like a really uh more bdsm kind of okay yeah okay and i was well trailer that bar that location that location yeah yeah you you she was sucking his dick maybe rimming him i don't know't know. I don't know. It's all blur. It is. And then, yeah, you had the strap on.
Speaker3:
I was not happy. But I didn't think you were doing her anal.
Speaker2:
Yeah.
Speaker3:
She didn't do anal to my knowledge.
Speaker1:
She did that day because I was like, is this, are you sure you want to do this?
Speaker3:
Maybe she'd anal with, I mean, whatever.
Speaker1:
It's like from the, I don't know. I never fucked her. I was really uncomfortable with that.
Speaker3:
She always wanted to fuck me, but we never fucked.
Speaker2:
Oh. Like when she was staying with us for a short uncomfortable with that. She always wanted to fuck me, but we never fucked. Oh.
Speaker3:
Like when she was staying with us for a short time, she kept saying like, you know, she kept like, you know, I need to fuck you. We really need to fuck. Eventually it was just, yeah.
Speaker1:
Yeah. Wrong place, wrong time.
Speaker3:
That was just, you know, it was weird.
Speaker1:
Again, yeah, that was a different show but um yeah we weren't yeah we weren't uh at a point where i felt because a lot of times she would say that and you weren't around right and it's like i'd rather wait you know till like donna's here and yeah yeah it does make sense yeah i mean i didn't want to at that time i mean i could do it now but yeah it was different at a different time that was again she was living with us so i didn't want it to seem like yeah whatever right whatever so anyway but yeah i i think um again i haven't had to i've never been in a situation where i've seen someone doing something with you that are like oh i gotta kick up my game i mean i can't grow my dick any bigger than it is you know apparently my oral game's okay so that works for me it works apparently works for a lot of people apparently so that's good and um and i'm grateful for that so um you know i apparently i could get uh easy for me to say give good conversation so i got that going for me yeah yeah good conversation i just i'm drinking for a few hours now okay um but yeah i mean for people that'll be again info at hotwifepodcast.com if you've been in a situation where you've seen your mate with somebody else that really they were doing something that you didn't do or can't do or don't want to do right but made you step up your game love to hear it we don't mention your names people have written in we don't talk their names you can listen to our past shows we won't say that it's you know joe bunyak said that you know you know we don't even use your email address, you know, gaycatholicboyandleathered at gmail.com said that we don't do that. That would be my email address anyway. I think you had that website too. Of course. Or subscribe to it. D, all the above. I'm my own Patreon follower. I'm the only follower of me on uh bony fans that's frightening i love my content oh i have pictures of my mind oh no stop i can't wait to see what i post next oh my god i'm so hot this is frightening i can see you in leather Oh, I'm so hot. This is frightening. I can see you in leather. Oh, I'm sorry. It's something you can never wear. This is like the opposite of what we're talking about. I know. You're not spurring me on. You're turning me off. Okay. It's like, I don't like to see me in leather. Okay. No, that's fine.'s just not something you're i wouldn't so anyway um on the show stop it i'm sorry you're the one who brought the whole gay catholic boys and leather thing and then i started thinking about you and leather and i just it just went to hell in a handbasket shame on you i'm not catholic
Speaker3:
oh that's that makes all the difference in the world well that's how people won't know it's me i'm not catholic i can be gay and in leather and episcopalian or lutheran baptist or agnostic who knows who knows you know pagan they're looking at at the catholic one not looking at me it's like no no i'm the catholic one that's just frightening just frightening stop that we're not supposed to be talking about religion on this show anyway and here we are yeah it's like the rest of life it's all fun yeah i guess so oh shit that's funny sorry i just ruined his whole show didn't no not at all i said there's somebody laughed at me oh my god to see you prance around in leather i think would be a sight to be old if i was when i think you're seeing prance that's the point right there that's the point right there okay there's no prancing coming off with vince i'm not prancing okay that's a horse fetish i was gonna say i was gonna say you know it's like the the um the steeds that they they teach those horses how to how to do those fancy steps that's not you you're the clydesdale you're the clydesdale of the horse i'm the horse they put down in the backfield no no you're old gray that is so sway swayed back broken that's me i'm the one the three stooges road just way back yes if i could belly touching the ground oh Aw, that's terrible. The gelding.
Speaker1:
Well, no, you're intact. Geldings are emasculated or castrated.
Speaker3:
Well, that's your job.
Speaker1:
You do a good job. I emasculate you so well. I mean, physically emasculate, you're not emotionally emasculating.
Speaker2:
Oh, okay.
Speaker3:
Well, if you do one, the other one happens. Pretty much, and they're two peas in the same pod, but yeah. All right. I think we beat this to death. What do you think so? We'll just end it now. Can't get your own terms, huh? Oh, okay. Sorry. I'm doing it again. I'm stealing all your lines. All right. So anyway, yeah, I would love to hear from you if you guys have any situation like that that you've been in or whatever. And until next time, stay horny.
