In this episode of the Hot Wife Podcast, hosts Donna Lynn and Vince explore the themes of relationships, intimacy, and eroticism. They discuss listener feedback, share personal experiences, and delve into ways to enhance masturbation sessions, including setting the mood, trying new toys, and embracing fantasies. The conversation emphasizes the importance of communication and exploration in sexual relationships, encouraging listeners to embrace their desires and fantasies.TakeawaysThe podcast is intended for adults over 18.Listener feedback can lead to exciting discussions.Exploring fantasies can enhance sexual experiences.Setting the mood is crucial for a pleasurable experience.Trying new sex toys can add excitement to masturbation.Using lube is essential for comfort and pleasure.Mixing up techniques can keep things interesting.Watching oneself can be an erotic experience.Communication with partners about desires is important.Embracing one's fantasies can lead to greater sexual satisfaction.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/hot-wife-podcast-and-the-swinger-lifestyle--5343522/support. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
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Speaker1: Welcome to the Hot Wife Podcast, where we dive into discussions about relationships, intimacy, and everything in between. Before we begin, we want to make it clear that the views expressed on this podcast are solely those of the host and guests, and should be taken as opinions, not professional or medical advice. Additionally, we remind all listeners that this podcast is intended for adults over the age of 18. Unauthorized rebroadcast of this show is strictly prohibited without the written permission of the owners of Hot Wife Podcast. Now, let's heat things up. hey there everybody how are you doing this is donna lynn and welcome to my hot wife podcast and i'm here again of course with my wonderful husband of course absolutely someone's got to run the board absolutely and you do a heck of a job i'll tell you i'm the best one doing it in this seat i'm i see that i commend you i appreciate you honey uh so we have a great topic today, well, everybody reach out to us and all that fun stuff. Speaker2: Yeah. Speaker3: Well, the, the gentleman we helped answer his questions. I got all that beard hair stuck in my microphone. Um, said, uh, he appreciated it and even masturbated to what we said kind of thing, or it was really turned on by it. Speaker1: Really turned on. And he's even pursuing now, uh, what we told him. Yes. So that's, that's kind of thing, or was really turned on by him. Really turned on. And he's even pursuing now what we told him. Yes. That's kind of interesting and fun. I hope we can get some of the exciting and erotic details later on to some degree. That's always fun. Very interesting here. I mean, he did catch up and say, you know, he wanted like, okay, you know, he's like uh he's pursuing an old girlfriend now with this and uh he had some level of success with it yeah because he sent her uh a video of him jerking off jerking off and she sent him back one of her what blowing somebody yeah i mean okay there you go you just opened the door you're on the path you're on the path you're you know know, it's fun. It's erotic. Kind of what you're looking for. Yeah, exactly. Exactly. Kind of. Yeah. Yeah, I mean, she's sucking dick, not you. It's true, but you know, they're at least open to a lot of possibilities. They're not afraid to be on camera. They're more of an exhibitionist. So that kind of fits with that kind of fetish. Hopefully it goes that way. Yeah, I mean, it's very stimulating and exciting doing it in front of people, I have found. That's why I like doing it. Yeah, I'm not the exhibitionist. I know. I'm pretty much an exhibitionist. Obviously. I am not camera shy when that stuff goes on at all. It's just, let me do what I do. Speaker2: And I don't even think about it. Speaker3:
It's like a... Just having fun.
Speaker4:
What sort of thing about?
Speaker2:
Just have fun. Exactly.
Speaker1:
That's what I like. The more fun I have, the better and more erotic the videos are. And you can tell. You can really tell.
Speaker3:
Yeah, but even if there's no video and camera involved, you still enjoy other people watching.
Speaker1:
I get to parties.
Speaker2:
There's no camera.
Speaker1:
Yeah, there's no camera.
Speaker3:
You just enjoy other people watching you have fun.
Speaker1:
You know, even when this is... When I was going back with an old, old boyfriend, we used to have a mirror on our dresser Thank you. parties there's no camera there's no camera you just enjoy other people watching you have fun you know even when this is when i was going back with an old old boyfriend we used to have a mirror on our dresser and we would tilt it in just the right way that we could watch i could watch us fucking so it's always been uh a little kinky an element yeah fetish that i love i love watching myself you dancing too yeah that's you were being exhibitionist there as a dancer. But, you know, I always liked watching. That just pushed me over the edge, especially when, like, my favorite position, when I'm on top, like, you know, cowgirl style, and I could watch his dick going in and out. Is that what you say it is when you're on top of him with your pillow over my face? Yeah, it's cowgirl. Oh, okay. Cowgirl. It's not as erotic as I thought it might have been. No, it's not nearly as erotic. But it was always, you know, that visual has always been an element for me. Choking me out. Shut up. I'm trying to be erotic here, and you're being a douchebag. Stop it. Sorry. No, it is, to me, if I'm watching someone, that is for, I enjoy the position of the woman on top. I do too. I find that very, very proud. Because when a man's on top, you don't see anything except his ass and balls. Not what I'm, I didn't pay the price of admission to see his ass and balls. I get that. I understand that. I can go to the locker room at any gym. Stop it. Yes. And that's why I don't go to the locker room at gyms. That's why I don't go to the gym. Oh, that's why you don't go to the locker room that's why i don't go to the gym that that's oh that's why you don't go to the gym oh no i see too many guys hairy asses and balls at the gym i can't go there one yeah like this story one is too many i understand likely likely story well there's other reasons yeah this is this is not a good one you know you only need one reason. I'll go with that one. That's a good one. So if you want to reach out to us, info at hotwifepodcast.com. You know, we try to answer every email. Yeah. You can tell. We get some. We don't get many. But the ones you do get are pretty juicy, so I'm happy with that. Sometimes, yeah. I'm happy with that. I find it very erotic to see what other people's fetishes are, what their desires are, what their erotic fantasies are. It opens a new door for me to something that I would not experience otherwise. I am totally amazed people listen. Stop then they write in i'm really amazed yeah so and if we can help but that's like that's cool it gives me a little jolly you know give you our twist on it right and it's twisted it is very twisted i'm sorry to say yeah but hopefully it helps or yeah we had somebody write they like to, I think we mentioned this on another podcast. They listen to our shows, I guess the erotic ones at least, and masturbate in the morning to them. All right. There you go. I mean, that's cool. That's really cool. Whatever gets you there, man. Enjoy it. I wouldn't know that I could masturbate to a podcast, to a video. Well, we've had podcasts that were hotter than others where you talk about stuff. Or I had a friend over or something. They don't translate well. I didn't say which podcast it was. Yeah, that's true. That's true. But you can masturbate to that. And with that. Yes, that's a good segue, dear. That leads us to our topic today, which is the five ways to make your masturbation sessions sexier. So, like, podcast is not on this.
Speaker3:
This is an article in Swing Lifestyle's newsletter, okay? So, we're not going to take 100% credit for it.
Speaker1:
No.
Speaker2:
We'll add to it.
Speaker3:
So, we're going to tell you about what the article says, and we think you should still join SLS, swinglifestyle.com.
Speaker1:
It's a great Swinger site. Join it, and then you can get to their newsletter. Yeah, it's interesting. I mean, I was just reading through this, and I'm like, oh, yeah, yeah, okay. A lot of it's like, you know, very typical. I mean, it just makes sense. Well, you know, the best way to improve your masturbation. Okay, what's that? Use somebody else's harm. Smartass. Okay, that was not on the list either. And podcasts were not on the list for masturbation. Whatever helps feed your fantasy to get you there. Oh, yeah, absolutely. And here's like setting the mood of your environment. You know I, I don't think I could, well, maybe I have done it in like bright light and the sunshine. Actually that kind of is kind of cool. I do like that, but you know, make it, make it so it's, you know, erotic for you, soothing for you. So, you know, I, I can't, I can't masturbate like with cold hands. Masturbate when you're by yourself. Yes. Okay, that's the kind of masturbation we're talking about.
Speaker3:
You're horny, alone.
Speaker1:
Right, exactly.
Speaker3:
What can you do to increase? And I think this article was geared more towards women.
Speaker1:
It might be.
Speaker3:
Would I breeze through it and set the mood lighting?
Speaker1:
Yeah, you don't care.
Speaker3:
Guys, we don't care.
Speaker1:
I just want to be warm enough. Today, it's like my hands are in my pockets. I couldn't masturbate if I wanted to right now. My fingertips are so cold. Although, in the summertime, having cold fingers when you're masturbating is quite a turn-on. I guess. So that's the difference. But usually, I like warm things. I like my environment warm. You know, those kind of things. I don't want to be shivering. We had a quart of wood delivered to our driveway therefore the propane truck can't get in to refill the tank of propane to heat the studio so we're kind of in here just a little space heater trying to keep donna warm i'm fine i'm fine so i'm not naked that's for sure that's for sure but the nipples are cut in glass oh Woo, baby. All right. What is the first one? The first one was your surroundings. Oh. Correcting the mood, making it comfortable for you. After that, it's try some new sex toys. Well, let's go back to the first one. Okay, let's back to the first one. Is that really important to a woman masturbating? It might be, yeah. You want to be comfortable. I've done it in my car, but I was comfortable. I have to be comfortable. I don't care where I am. I just have to be comfortable. I can't be like, oh. Because if I'm in pain, I'm not horny. Yeah, sure. You know what I mean? It deadens it. It ruins it for me. I get that. I don't need mood lighting and rose petals and Barry White. There's nothing wrong with that. There's nothing wrong with that, but I don't need that. I guess it depends on the urgency of the masturbation if i'm masturbating it's because something has been so erotic you know that i feel the need to do it right then and there there's no like well i'm gonna go home and you know have a date with myself it's not a date night it's it's i want to come i want to you know what i'm saying so here saying? So here's a new twist on the eroticism of that.
Speaker2:
Okay.
Speaker3:
See, we're kind of referring back to the days before you were in the lifestyle.
Speaker2:
Okay.
Speaker1:
Oh, I have to go back that far? I don't remember that.
Speaker3:
I mean, have you masturbated in your car since we've been together?
Speaker1:
No, I was actually dancing. That was the stimulus.
Speaker3:
Well, that's what I'm saying is now being in in the lifestyle let's pretend you were still younger and dancing okay wouldn't that be nice well and you were horny and i was warning instead of masturbating your car you're gonna just go up to the bar and go hey do you want to go in the parking lot or whatever or whatever yeah i definitely would have i mean would you rather masturbate or get
Speaker1:
fucked sometimes masturbation because of the fantasy is actually more rewarding okay sometimes that whole like we've talked about before the fantasy is usually i won't say always but usually better than the reality and not to mention i never you never shit where you eat that's you know what i'm saying i'm not gonna be taking customers out in the parking lot if i was working there I'll see you next time. than the reality and not to mention i never you never shit where you eat because that's you know what i'm saying i'm not gonna be taking customers out in the parking lot if i was working there because well you could have been fired i could have been fired it could have been you know whatever not to mention why would they come in there to see me if i'm gonna fuck them in the parking lot because they want more they want more but if that would be good no i would if i ever got beside you i'd ever gotten to take take it home and dance her right and fuck her oh yeah and you know what i'd go back i think it's erotic you know because you would like to think okay she's going to give me a little more attention and tease me whether we ever get that second shot at it or not right right yeah you get to see it and like uh you know no i see what you mean i just um that mindset you're more in the business end of it and i don't want to get unsexy here but yeah i want to keep that away you keep that as our arm's length okay but here's the other twist when when you would come into the bars when i was dancing and we had a romantic thing going on it was very erotic to dance to you specifically to certain songs to you know and i knew that it was like our little thing on from the stage and it was like oh i want to fuck you so bad and if there were like those kind of lyrics i could say right you. Maybe we need to set up a little stage. I'm building a stage. You're building a stage. We should have kept that stupid little disco stage they had in the basement when we moved in here. Do you remember that? Let's not talk about that. It was ridiculous. The previous owner, for some reason, built this little, came off the wall by two feet. I think it was for the TV, but even in the back it had strobe lights. It was like what the fuck is this? No pole. So it wasn't like for fancy, but You're trying to make it like a movie theater. I guess. I don't know. There's so many things Okay, back to the topic. We'll get yelled after you're off topic. I'm sorry. Okay. The second one's like trying new sex toys which is always fun that's that's i guess that technically could apply to a man but in general it's they have these fleshlights and whatever there's just yeah these guys are into the prostate massagers yeah exactly so whatever floats a boat try try new toys try whatever whatever. But along with that, use lube, use lube, and we suggest spunk lube. Oh, yep, yes, we do, spunk lube. I'll get back to that in a minute. What's that? So, you know there is a feeling amongst men that they don't want their wives to have vibrator stuff. Oh, yes. Do you think there's any feeling amongst that amongst women that like, oh, I don't want my husband to get one of those fleshlights or any of those things like that because he won't need me anymore? Say no woman ever. Well, I don't know. I'm just saying. I think most women be like, good, you're horny right now. That's a job I don't take care of. Have at it, honey. No, I can see that. But your batteries are coming out of your weekly allowance. No, I don't think women are that intimidated by toys. No? Because they have toys. Because women get intimidated just by your husband looking at a woman on TV. Well, that's true, boy. That is true. Interesting. You know, she probably would get, somebody with that mindset would probably be like, well, you masturbate. Who are you thinking about while you masturbate? You better be thinking about me. That kind of a thing. That's the attitude that tells you I'm not thinking about you. That's the attitude that makes me want to masturbate. What the fuck? Oh, no. I like being talked to by a nasty cunt. Yeah, that just fucking me i had a hard day at work i'm horny i want to be fucking yelled at yeah now you got me hard bitch yeah you're like i knew that was a kink of yours i knew it you just like that you're like being belittled i was like i could decide between a good masturbation section and a session and a bullet to the head. I was like, wow. That is so erotic. Wow, Jesus Christ. Yeah, I mean, but if somebody gets upset of a man watching a pretty woman on TV, they're definitely going to feel intimidated by a toy, I think. I think you'd be intimidated by anything. Yeah, okay. If you're having sex with her, if she ever lets you, and you close your eyes, what are you thinking of? I'm sorry, I just was enjoying the moment. No, you were thinking of something. Keep your eyes open, and I could constant eye contact. I'm not thinking of anything anything i'm thinking how bad this is oh god thinking how bad i want to die right now is it worth the orgasm you probably never would come
Speaker3:
thinking like oh my god then my dick would go go back go into hiding tuck itself and
Speaker1:
pull my balls in so that's not that is what you what you don't want to do when you're masturbating don't think of this scenario. It's terrible. Oh, shit, that's terrible. Oh, God.
Speaker3:
But, yeah, I mean, you know, for a woman, the toys thing, you know, mix it up. Use multiple.
Speaker2:
I mean, Jesus.
Speaker1:
Oh, yeah, I've done that.
Speaker3:
One in the tuchus, one in the puss.
Speaker2:
I did that.
Speaker4:
One on the clit.
Speaker3:
That's not in the teeth. You keep chipping teeth. Yeah, well, I that. One in the tuchus, one in the puss, one in the clit. That's not in the teeth. You keep chipping teeth.
Speaker1:
Yeah, well, I forget.
Speaker2:
I forget.
Speaker1:
I can use things that are not necessarily a dildo, like shower, the shower head.
Speaker2:
Okay.
Speaker1:
Yeah, I have to be careful if I'm going to do that in the shower because you could fall. It could be dangerous. I have a handle or whatever. I was wondering why you wanted that sex wing mounted in the shower. In the shower. T-R-A- It's always been my complaint with every house with the shower head on my pussy. It's just not strong enough. I strong enough. I want it like, you know, you play with the settings. We have the ones that have like, you know, 10 different settings.
Speaker3:
Can't you rephrase that?
Speaker4:
I have.
Speaker1:
But you use the shower too, but it's fun for me to put it on my pussy.
Speaker3:
I thought you were talking about your toys, not the shower head.
Speaker1:
Oh, no, the shower head.
Speaker3:
Still don't masturbate with the shower head.
Speaker1:
Oh, that's a great way.
Speaker2:
No. What?
Speaker3:
Not for a man.
Speaker1:
Oh, not for a man, but for a woman, it's awesome. Oh, I guess for a woman. Oh yeah. But again, water pressure, not hard enough. Not hard enough. Not getting enough water pressure. Okay. Needs to be. I'll have a plumber come right out. Come right out. Yeah. I mean, you said the same thing just with showering it's just not oh yeah yeah so you like to be beat up with your shower well a little bit i like the water to yeah like shoot out of the shower head not just drop out of the shower it's not that bad it doesn't just dribble as long you're getting rain warm it'd be the same thing it's like am i getting pissed on or is this my shower? No, it's not that bad. That's a different show. But, you know, that water pressure, see, that's hot. That's a great way to masturbate. Okay. That's a great way to masturbate. So I love that. All right. What's the third thing on the list of products? It was using lube. Okay, lube. Yeah, if you're going to use toys, use lube. With lube, we always say use. 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I felt so bad for him.'m like you want to play he goes oh i'll work through the pain i was like god bless you yeah because afterwards he's like yeah it's a little sore i'm like you gotta use lube that just goes i'd say man if i have something rubber wrapped around my cock and then has a motor moving it oh yeah no no it's gonna get a no. It's going to get a grip. You know what I mean? Yep, that's just not right. I want to be able to, you know, fail safe. I want to be able to pull out if I need to. Exactly. So use lube. Yeah. And next thing they say is to switch up techniques, which just makes sense. Left hand, right hand. Exactly. I mean, you know, I usually, if I do switch it up, though, I usually, to actually get me to come come i have to go back into something that's a lot more a little more reliable like i can switch things up that will get me up to where i need to be but to actually go over the side of the roller coaster and come get over the top of the hill yeah exactly i i need something that's very tried and true so you know but yeah switching up techniques i i just makes sense you know going a little slower a little faster you know moving it around a different way all these things you know help some some insertion pull it out some insertion yeah i think the the fun one with the insertion is is teasing with the insertion you know you put it in just a little bit then take it back out because that's if i was with a a couple guys that just having the head go in just that little just the tip that was pretty erotic and they just take it back out again they fit their head in the head of their dick in oh i have to explain it to you do you have to draw pictures yeah please okay oh you know i i can draw it too so but you can't they'll be anatomically correct. Yeah, please. Okay. Ooh. You know, I can draw, too, so. But you can. They'll be anatomically correct. Yeah, okay. Let's see what else they have to say here. Yeah, no, I mean, yeah, switching it up is. Oh, yeah. I mean, you have to. Otherwise, it gets kind of like. Yeah, I mean, back in the days when I masturbated, yeah, it was like I would watch different videos i guess you know it wasn't like always one scenario right you know so i guess that's mixing it up for me oh yeah well when let's go back and like the different fantasies i have there's there's like a handful that really really do it for me but sometimes i'll it really pisses me off if i start out with one fantasy and it's not not really quite working and i go to my another one or another one that kind of like it gets frustrating so if i have one fantasy that really really works that one i usually tend to play over and over and over again yeah until it gets kind of redundant then i'll try to mix it up and i'll try to sure uh i don't know if anybody knows i have like what five like tried and true fantasies that do it for me like the whole kiss the girls we call it kiss the girls i'm abducted i'm i'm held captive and but but it's you know i want to be a captive it's nothing a, it's not a rape fantasy, but it's, but I'm there to give and receive pleasure to this very, you know, erotic man. And I, I'm possessed. And his name isn't Vince. It might be Vince. It might not be. But like, I'm forced to give and receive pleasure with other women and him. And it's, it's, you know, it kind of gets the, you know, the whole ball rolling, rolling but it sometimes you just have to mix that up too and try on something different maybe you know try a different fantasy or maybe go out on the edge with the fantasy to get you to be able to come and it's safe you know i don't have to worry about oh i had this fantasy i want to be you know in hogtied or something like that in my fantasy it sounds very very erotic gives me a chance to try it on but do i really want to jump out and do that on day one no not necessarily gotta work up to something like that but the fantasies helped me to like uh imagine scenarios that i may not be ready to do yet like a threesome or foursome or double penetration that's one thing we keep talking about the fantasies of me thinking about that over and over again and playing it out in my mind makes my body respond so when it does happen it's like oh you know this really worked well in my fantasy you know can it work in reality and it's usually no but be that as it may at least i got a chance to try it on, you know? And my, you know, my fantasies, I'm like, yeah, I'm taking this big cock in my ass and one in my pussy. I'm like, my legs are all wrapped around my head, you know, but reality is not that anymore. It's worth a try. It is worth a try. The fantasy is fun. Reality is like, hmm, I don't't think so i don't think my body will do that but uh according one more thing on this little uh article from sls become your own voyeur which was something i touched upon earlier watching yourself in the mirror doing videos, that is, that's so, so hot for me because I'm not just an exhibitionist. I do like to watch. I do like to, like, you know, kind of like relive it over and over again, which is, it's kind of nice. You kind of like, it kind of brings it back up again.
Speaker2:
Sure.
Speaker1:
You know, but.
Speaker3:
Well, you've talked about before how when you're editing your own videos, it's erotic.
Speaker1:
Yeah, it is erotic. It's very erotic because it takes you back to that time and place.
Speaker2:
And it's like,
Speaker1:
Thank you. Well, you've talked about before how when you're editing your own videos, it's erotic. Yeah, it is erotic. It's very erotic because it takes you back to that time and place, and it's like, now you can really see it. I mean, when you're feeling it, it's cool. Sure. And then you watch it, it's cool. But the best is when you had the switchers up in the bedroom, and then we had a TV as our monitor, and my playmate and I could watch ourselves fuck each other, and it was being recorded. It was like a double whammy. It's like, wow, that was. I think sometimes that helped you guys come too fast. It helped him come too fast. Yeah, sometimes. Well, sometimes the guys are like, oh, I don't really want to watch myself fuck. And it's like, oh, you have no idea. And they can't take their eye off the monitor. Yeah, they're like, oh, my God, just watch watch my and then they start you know describing oh watch my dick going in and out of your pussy oh jesus christ i can feel it it's cool you can feel it and watch it it's senso vision it is it's so cool and there's the guys that were so reluctant in the beginning were the ones that end up loving it yeah loving it and they're like they were like wow i gotta do this again this is hot but i mean this is how you can achieve yeah your you know in increase your masturbation excitement i mean all these little things i don't know if i'd want to shoot a video of watching myself masturbate uh you know what but some people yeah i'm just saying personally personally i've done videos and had videos of me masturbating it's not as fulfilling as because i don't have that other person to play off of that excitement of another person being there is i mean i try fantasies and stuff when i'm doing masturbation videos yeah and that does that does help a lot i but there's nothing like somebody being there for the ultimate orgasm. But be that as it may, sometimes you're going to take matters into your own hands. Do you have anything else to add, my dear? No, I couldn't agree with you more. You know what I'm saying? You got to, you got to. There's certain things you can do just to make it a little better. Sure. There you right i think we wrapped this one i think we kicked it in the ass i think we did too all right everyone again info at hot wife podcast don't forget to check out the free magazine 50shadesofpleasure.com oh it's free looking for people want to submit stories pictures um you submit pictures i need to have you sign a release.
Speaker3:
Write articles, reviews.
Speaker1:
There we go.
Speaker3:
Even submit topics you want maybe an article on.
Speaker2:
Ah.
Speaker3:
And that's just info at 50shadesofpleasure.com. So other than that, I'm done.
