In this episode of the Hot Wife Podcast, hosts Donna Lynn and Vince explore various aspects of relationships and intimacy, focusing on cuckold relationships, the importance of orgasms in sexual satisfaction, and the dynamics of communication in sexual encounters. They discuss the different types of orgasms, the balance between pleasure and pain, and the significance of being responsible for one's own sexual satisfaction. The conversation is engaging and informative, providing listeners with insights into navigating their own sexual experiences.TakeawaysThe podcast emphasizes that the views expressed are personal opinions.Cuckold relationships can be complex and require clear boundaries.Orgasm is not the only measure of sexual satisfaction.Communication is key in sexual relationships.Different types of orgasms can lead to varying levels of satisfaction.Sensory overload can affect the ability to achieve orgasm.Selfishness in seeking pleasure is not inherently negative.The dynamics of sexual encounters can change over time.Understanding one's own body is crucial for sexual satisfaction.Listeners are encouraged to share their experiences and thoughts.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/hot-wife-podcast-and-the-swinger-lifestyle--5343522/support. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
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Welcome to the Hot Wife Podcast, where we dive into discussions about relationships, intimacy, and everything in between. Before we begin, we want to make it clear that the views expressed on this podcast are solely those of the host and guests, and should be taken as opinions, not professional or medical advice. Additionally, we remind all listeners that this podcast is intended for adults over the age of 18. Unauthorized rebroadcast of this show is strictly prohibited without the written permission of course i'm here with the brains behind the operation. Keep forgetting looks.
Oh, that's right. Keep forgetting looks oh that's right keep forgetting my husband vince he's the wise ass behind everything okay uh that's more like it definitely the wise ass absolutely uh when spring or warmer weather it's just i don't know if anybody else is feeling this, but the sun is out. It's like, oh, I think it's going to be kind of warm. I can hang out outside. It's just not quite there. It's a little bit breezy. You've got to keep your clothes on. I know. It's so frustrating. Anyway. Info at Hot Wife Podcast. If you want to reach out to us, we love when people do.
Please feel free to reach out and uh share your thoughts comments questions um we'll get back to you how about your your favorite cookie fan the guy whose name is apparently living his best life man he's That is like the craziest thing I've ever heard. He's talking about he won some money. I don't know how, whatever. Robbed the bank, I don't know. He said he gave it to his cuckolds and he showered them with gifts so they can, you know. So he can be. And it made them happy to satisfy these two people. So that's awesome.
Yeah, if you can make it work, I mean, that would be a hard one for me to do because I'm not in that mindset. I'm not a cuckold, and you're not a cuckold. I really don't like told what to do. Actually, you're like the exact opposite, and so am I. You tell me what to do, I'm going to do the exact opposite. I'm anti-cuckold.
Anti-cuckcuckold those who are into it such as my favorite cookie you know what god bless you man that's great live your life i agree and if you can find a safe environment we're not being abused by you can still if that's your thing everyone is of age and on board yeah i get it i get it i'd be afraid if I put myself in that situation that somebody would take advantage of me. You know what I'm saying? I just feel like that's a very vulnerable position to put yourself in. I don't understand it. So how do you know that, hey, I want to be submissive to you.
I want you to control me, but only so far. You know what I mean? How do you figure out those boundaries? I get that. I almost wish you'd call in so we can discuss that further because i find it fascinating and a little scary you know yeah it's like how do you talk him into calling in yeah i know he said that i did talk to him about it and he talked to his cuckolds and they would not i don't know if they're like he's the cuckold yeah he's the cuckold guess you'd call him his, almost like his masters. Yeah, they don't want to come on air, which is fine.
But maybe we can get him to come in and share his. Well, even if he just emails, you say, hey, this is what works. We can just read it and, you know. Well, I'd prefer to call in. Oh, yeah. I'd like to talk to him. He might not be allowed to. I don't know what their, see, I don't know what their, their arrangement is. Yeah, I don't, I don't understand any of that. I don't know either. You know, is it, is it just something that stays in the bedroom? Apparently not. Apparently goes out into the real world. Sounds like they're living that lifestyle somehow, which is great.
Yeah, I, I, I want more information. I want more information. I don't understand that. How does that work? So please, if you know how this situation works, or you're in a weird and crazy kind of environment or relationship, please, info at hotbipodcast.com, right? Yeah, I'm writing it. I live with an abusive small wife. Yeah, he's so abused. Oh, you poor baby. I need a safe space. I'll give you a safe space right here, babe. Yeah. All right, so what is the topic there? What is the topic here? Oh, do you have to have an orgasm to be satisfied? Doesn't hurt. That's what I was going to say.
Well, it's nice if that happens. That's really quite awesome. So the answer is yes, and we'll wrap this up. Thanks for listening. You know, sometimes... Go ahead. Your show. No, it's not. Not really. It's actually the hot husband show. You know that. The trophy husband show. I know.
So now it depends on like if i'm in a playmate situation or a party in a situation where there's like multiple people and there's a lot of commotion i might not actually have an orgasm but that is not necessarily a bad thing it's still be it's just because i can't concentrate i can't focus but it's not like it doesn't feel good. It's not wonderful and great. I just, I slowly was like sensory overload. It's not terrible, but I just can't get to that stage. And it's not that, I don't feel unsatisfied or dissatisfied when it's done.
It's just, I realized I'm just overloaded with so many, it's a sensory overload by so many sensations that I couldn't concentrate on one. You've had that when you're, like when I'm blowing you and you go into your fantasies, I'm like, and you're like, I just, I couldn't concentrate on like one fantasy. I kept going from one to the other. Is that frustrating for you? That's not frustrating for me. It's, you know, different. I'll move my mic and hopefully I won't make too much noise. That's fine. Yeah, those situations, it's Let's do it. That's not frustrating for me. It's, you know, different.
Move my mic and hopefully I won't make too much noise. That's fine. Yeah, those situations, it's frustrating. And I think it's a different dynamic for men than women. You know, men, we can get all worked up, and if we don't achieve an orgasm, it can be painful. It can be physically painful. That's true.
And then sometimes you just stay horny too oh wow and then you're like you know we're you know good orgasm kind of takes the edge off oh yeah kind of you know it's a little bit huh if it's done right yeah yeah hopefully it's done right hopefully if not keep doing it till it's done right um but yeah it's uh now there's times like we've talked about like at the house parties where i'll go and play with six women right and i don't get anything but i'm i'm satisfied in a different way right i'm satisfied because it made them happy. Right. You know. You're so selfless. Well, sometimes.
But, you know, I don't always, I don't feel I always need to have an orgasm. There's been times that we'll go to bed at night. Yeah. I'll just sit there and satisfy you and then go to bed. Mm-hmm. You have done that. Yeah. And you've done it. What, just get satisfied and went to sleep? Oh, yeah. Yeah, you satisfy yourself and go to sleep. And then you go back to sleep. So, yeah. Yeah. What's wrong with that? Anything? It's all about you. Yeah. But no, I mean, you've done that where you've just like, hey, you know, I just want to give you a blowjob. Right. Again, it's all about you, Donna.
It's all about you. Gotta suck my dick. It's all about you donna it's all about you just gotta suck my dick it's all about you okay i'm not gonna like this well do it all right but yeah you it must be rough i think it's easier for a woman probably because women have gotten used to it over the years of not having having an orgasm. Oh. I mean, how many times? I mean, I've seen you play with numerous people over the years, and plenty of times you don't get an orgasm. I don't have an orgasm. I'm not saying you're satisfied.
Well, then when I get together with you afterwards, then I'm really satisfied.
So that's good it kind of like worked worked me up it was like the you know the appetizer before the meal sure but wouldn't it be nice to have an orgasm oh yeah during that and then having orgasm later yeah oh absolutely i mean here's the thing it's that there's other things that are happening and sometimes they just don't mesh the first time like if you're with a new playmate things don't always mesh and there's even we've even been with other playmates where this was their second third fourth fifth time and it's been good and they come over that sixth time and things are just not you know they things aren't working right again yeah sometimes people have life issues yeah exactly so that that happens it just freaking happens.
You know, it's not every time is going to be, you know, Shangri-La. Well, unless you're with me. Okay, unless I'm with you. So, I mean, you have to take that into account that sometimes you're not going to have an orgasm because it's, you know, shit happens. But I also think that people should be, what's the word I'm looking for, like responsible for your own orgasm, especially women. Women tend to be like, oh, well, I'm not going to have an orgasm. He's going to have to give me an orgasm.
No, I mean, you have to tell him what you need or bring a toy into the bedroom to just help things along a little bit, you know. Hopefully they won't be intimidated, but. Well, that was another topic we had for a show that kind of blends into this one. Yeah, a little bit. Is, you know, how much do you put into your orgasm? Yeah. So we'll kind of combine those two topics. Yeah, I mean, what are you doing with whoever it is you're having sex with to help make sure they get it and make sure you get it? Mm-hmm.
You know, I mean, if you feel that an orgasm is necessary for your satisfaction, and I get that. You know, I mean, that's the ultimate goal when you go to have sex with someone is that everybody achieves orgasm. Right, or at least some good feeling. We'll just go with that, you know. Yeah. But you went through orgasm. I think ultimately you went through orgasm. Oh, yeah. Ultimately. That would be kind of nice, huh? Oh, it's always nice. So there's no such thing as a bad orgasm. There's just some are better than others, that's for sure. Some of them are like they bang the back of your head out.
Yeah, some like your head once exploded and others are like, ah. Oh, that was nice. Yeah. Okay. That was nice. It was calming. Took the edge off a little bit. Yeah. And there's the ones like, I'm once exploded, and others are like, ah, doesn't give you an orgasm that they're a bad lover? I don't think so. No. Like I said, sometimes things, things are just not meshing. And sometimes it's just nice to, um, maybe just take care of them and see where it goes. I've had guys that they just want to, even you've done it, they just want to do me and then they just leave. Didn't we have that blind?
I'm sorry, I'll come back. Didn't we have that mystery man? He didn't come. No, that was, that situation. Like I don't, refresh my memory with that one. The thing was, okay, the story goes for everybody, is I had Donna agree that I could bring in somebody who neither of us had met. She would be blindfolded, not allowed to remove the blindfold. And my agreement with him was that he would not have penetration that night. Oh, okay. The first one, okay, no penetration. Okay. Okay. Because this is going to be a multi-night.
And you weren't allowed to touch his face or anything else, and originally I didn't want him to talk. I just wanted to, you know. Right. But. I think he had to talk. Yeah. yeah he so he he wound up talking trying to tell you what he wanted you to do right whatever and um so you guys got a little little carried away there was minor penetration right but no orgasm was achieved by him i think he gave you one i don't remember i have the video somewhere we have to revisit that. Yeah. If you can find it. Yeah, somewhere. And then, yeah, he was supposed to come back another time.
And again, it was going to be the whole mystery man, you blindfolded. And he was traveling a lot for business, and then we just lost touch. Yeah, that was it. Ew.
Because I do remember i i remember like there we didn't go all the way quote i didn't remember i had an orgasm with him orally gave you one that could have been it yeah i think so but um you know um yeah i depends i guess what kind of satisfaction you're looking for to see if it matters well i mean if you're being very selfish then an orgasm could really matter and sometimes it's okay to be selfish with something like that because if you're not selfish with your own orgasm and you're never going to get it or you know what i mean you have to express yourself to whoever you're with what you need to achieve that level of satisfaction and if you don't how would they know so you have to have to be responsible for your own orgasm to some degree and can't just expect it to like well i'm here just pleasure me i'm just going to lay here and I'm not going to do anything yet.
You can't just expect it to, like, well, I'm here, just pleasure me, and I'm just going to lay here, and I'm not going to do anything. You can't do that. No. No, you can't. You shouldn't. No. I mean, you know. Unless that's the agreement. I mean, sometimes that's the thing. I'm just going to lay here, and you're going to do me, and I'm just going to enjoy it. I mean, there are.
Yeah, theoretically, it shouldn't be whichever whoever comes first and it's over yeah but sometimes it sometimes it is um and um yeah i mean like i said i've done it there's been times like you know i'll crawl into bed and i'll just you know service you so to speak give you an orgasm or two and then I'll go to sleep and you're like no come on and it's like I know you're wiped out I totally wiped out oh my god I don't know what has changed but boy oh boy that's but you know but so then the erotic part is that generally like the next day you know I'll sit there and talk and tease you right and like turnabout's fair play and so you know, I'll sit there and talk and tease you.
Right. And like, you know. Turnabout's fair play. Yeah. And so, you know, because now I'm worked up. Right. And the anticipation can be very erotic. Oh, you know, the anticipation and the teasing, I think, is really a good way to get things going. Yeah. So both you get satisfaction because then you, well, I've had things like that where I've been sexting with a playmate, you know, and texting. It's getting really, you know, it's really titillating. It's very exciting. And then either A, I meet them and it just like fizzles out, or even worse, B, they ghost you. Yeah.
I mean, that's a whole other topic. I know that. We've done that, but yeah.
I guess what I'm getting at sometimes that buildup of teasing and whatever can be climactic or i've had to be anti-climactic where it was just like oh it was so much more exciting in my head when i was when i was texting you and sending you dirty pictures and texting you could be the world's best lover i i can tell you i can tell you whatever i want to tell you but now oh yeah when we meet now all of a sudden is that what it is reality reality oh i got sucked into the old reality versus fantasy scandal again someone knows they're horny and they know they're gonna be a three-pump chump they might be embarrassed but it's a lot easier to tell you oh i could fuck for hours wow i don't need that i'm not in marathons no but yeah i'm saying is that that you know they you know people don't want to um do something that might ruin the fantasy of it is this i mean for men i think part of that is that i'm gonna do an air quotes here that male machismo thing you know like hey baby i'll be the best lover i'll be i could last for hours i'm virile i've got my dick so fucking hard i've i come buckets i think it's yeah like i think women have that also yeah oh yeah i think dick so deep.
There was a girl I know that she all talked all great and everything else. But when it came time to get nasty and stuff, she was very, all of a sudden, she backed away. And I didn't understand why. And then she told me, she's like, it wasn't a problem for me. She's like, oh, I have big pussy, you know, I had a boyfriend who made fun of me for her and everything else. Oh, that's right. And it's just like, no, I'm all about that. You know, bring those bad boys over here, you know? I think when you started to try to wrap them around your head, she got a little bit like, yo.
I wouldn't wrap them around her head. I'm wrapping them around my own head. Around your head. Oh, my head, yeah. Wrapping her pussy lips around your head. She didn't hate it. No, I wouldn't think she would. I'll see think she would. I used to like it when guys would kind of, no, you've done it too. They take their teeth and they just gently pull on the lips, kind of like yank them a little bit. I do it more with my lips. Lips, maybe that's what it is, the lips. I don't do the teeth too much because I could... Yeah, I'm not down there, I can't see what's going on. I could go wrong real quick.
I've only been bitten down there once or twice. Yeah, I could go wrong real quick. Real quick. Ah! You know, so... Is this piece of pussy lip yours? Yeah. Can you reattach it? But yeah, no, I think, obviously, it's not, not to me, it's not important, it's a bonus. Oh, it is a bonus, for sure. I can't say it's not. I mean, I think we all want orgasms. Yeah, I would think so. Yeah. Unless you're one of those people that, you know, the orgasm denial people that either egg it off on being denied orgasms. Okay, but with that, at some point, don't you still have to get one? I don't know.
I don't play in that fetish realm. I really... Yeah, I'm just saying. You think you can go denial for so long. Oh, then it hurts. But at some point, you're going to want to be satisfied. I think, too, like, I've had guys that I've played with, and the sensations lasted, like, almost too long. So when I did cum, it actually kind of hurt. Does that make any sense? It kind of like. It's like blue balls. Sort of. Well, you get blue balls, and then you finally cum, it hurts. Oh, it hurts. I've done it a couple times in my life, and I'm too old to do it. What, got your dick caught in a zipper?
My dick's too small. I stopped it it just went around it was not a problem just no it was coming too many times in a day oh yeah you talked about that a couple of times yeah yeah i mean yes i have done that too when i was dating my ex-wife before she was my ex-wife um one time we got a hotel room and i came five times that day oh ow my balls hurt well your dick like your shaft it gets raw the shaft was rubbed raw oh yeah i mean i was wearing a condom you know but it's still it still rubs raw oh but my balls for like two, it felt like someone just kept punching my balls.
It's just like, oh, my God. I'm feeling your pain, and I wouldn't have balls. You know, I emptied every ounce and then some. That's what he says. It's almost like you're coming air. It's like, poof. Yeah, yeah. And, yeah, that was not good. No, no. It was fun at the time. And that one day I talked about where. You had the three girls. Three, yeah. And one was your ex too. Yeah. And they rotated through during the day. Yeah, yeah. That's another one. That was another one at the end of the day. It's like my nuts were killing. Oh, God. The suffering you go through. I'm a giver.
You suffer so much for your art. You're a giver. I'm a giver. Okay, whatever you want to say, dear. It's fine say dear it's fine I gave it to all three yeah so yeah I get it like if I am I have used toys and stuff like oh when I was doing cam shows and I would you know be on cam and you know I'm having fun I'm using my toys and I'm having orgasm after orgasm. I'm fine with that. I don't care. I'm having fun. But boy, like, T-lips hurt afterwards from that constant vibration of my toy. Like, oh, it was fun at the time. But boy, the next day, I'm like, oh, I'm a little tender down there.
Didn't build that callus up it was a callus yet oh my god that was awful i was going to be what i was going to ask you can can a woman come too many times yes yeah because um the only time i came like an astronomical amount of time kind of up there not as much as um you made j come but i came like i i tried keeping count and i got lost after like 42 those 42 of the wavy like orgasms not the um what's the other orgasm like the well explain to people who haven't heard you talk oh yeah okay like i have there's for me this for me. I don't know about anybody else, but it's crazy old me.
I have a handful of different kind of orgasms. The typical one is the one I usually get is like being on a roller coaster and you go up and you're going up and you're getting more and more turned on and you know, things are really starting to groove and you get to the top right there at the peak and you're right there.
That's where the edging if i if you wanted to edge that's where i would edge at that plateau and hold on to that and then it's like boom you're going down the other side of this fucking giant roller coaster hill and it's like i it's almost like i could lose sense of like where i am in in space and time.
It's you're that you're that in i guess into it you know you're feeling these sensations so but then i had the little wavy ones which are like you know small waves in the ocean that come in and crash against the shore it's like that like but it's like one after the other after the other so if you use the roller coaster analogy it's the big orgasm we talked about it's like going after the other. So if you use the roller coaster analogy, it's the big orgasm you talked about. It's like going up the big hill and going down. And then the other ones are more like the little lumps. The little, yeah.
Lumps on the roller coaster. Or if you're a skier, the moguls. They're still great, but you can have like going up there. You know that I've never skied and hit a mogul, but have you ever gone in a car and go over a lump in the middle of the road and the whole car goes up and your stomach kind of goes up with it? It's like that, but it's like one after the other. I mean, they're like, ba-boom. So in a matter of an hour and a half, I mean, I had well over 40 orgasms. I lost count. I tried.
I really tried like keep count and then still keep having the orgasms but i don't know why i'd want to do that but i did apparently i'm not the only one because jay counted her orgasms too i'm surprised people count them i'm surprised i count mine one one yeah well and when you have the little ones, it's, I don't know which is better. They're just different. One isn't better than the other, but. They all feel good, right? They're just different. Yeah, but they all feel good. They all feel good, but in different ways. It might be like my mindset is different.
Maybe my head's in a different place. I don't know. Like what's been going on during the day? Am I that engaged or new sensation? A sensational certainly uh like set me over the top if it's something i haven't felt before i'll come faster and harder you have too you know hence the uh the playmate with the pierced tongue i felt good on your dick you know what i'm saying yeah so it's that kind of a thing. Or when I got my feet flogged for the first time, holy mother of God, I thought my head was going to explode. And that was like primal. That was a primal orgasm. That was different.
I never had an orgasm like that before or since. I don't know. That kind of scares me a little bit. It's a little bit, it's primal. I don't know how I want to explain it, except it's very base. It's very animalistic. It's very deep-rooted. Deep-rooted, primal, yeah, primitive. It's definitely a selfish orgasm. I don't really care about giving that partner pleasure. And I wasn't because I was being flogged. So he, Bob, was doing everything to me. He was receiving no sensation from me in all. In fact, I think I was restrained. Wasn't I restrained? Yes, you were. That's probably part of it, too.
I love being restrained. Okay, so let me ask you this. Okay. Do you think your orgasms are stronger in intercourse or oral um oh wow you know it depends i would have said oral until i go back and i the little foursome we did with jay and bob i got anal and he's pulling my hair and he's pounding the shit out of my ass that was was a really strong orgasm. And that was being penetrated. But of course it was anal after all. Sometimes those orgasms can be stronger. Okay. Because it's a newer sensation.
Not to mention you can play with your clit while your back door is getting banged and it's a lot more You can play with your clit while your front door is getting banged.
There's not as's not as much room obviously you know if i have a fingernail gets caught between the skin you know it's not a good thing but this way if they're in the back door totally i can play with myself i can grab his balls i can do that while he's in my pussy too but there's a little more room because i got that extra yeah i got extra big bit of taint between one hole and the other Not a lot of taint not a lot of taint okay i'm going okay it's like this much two inches not like that much but i've been there oh okay but um what i'm trying to say you have a little more room to do things so sometimes and again it just depends on the circumstances that was a very eroticotic evening, you know.
So it was just. A little alcohol didn't hurt. A little bit of alcohol, kinky friends, a new situation. It was definitely all those things are very exciting. Very exciting. But I think in general, I think oral, for me, oral orgasms are stronger than vaginal orgasms. And we've talked about that before. Yeah, and some girls are like, oh, no, I need to be real. Oh, yeah. Some people. Yeah, some people do. There's no right or wrong answer. No, it just depends on the situation. Like I said, for me, oral is definitely stronger because I'm able to just focus on me. It's a very selfish orgasm. Sure.
And that's fine. There's nothing wrong with that. But I find, yes, my selfish orgasms are my stronger orgasms. Yeah. Like if I'm riding a guy and I'm taking care of him or you, I'm not really thinking about myself because I'm too worried about, I'm concentrating on you, but when I'm either restrained or I can't move and the soul attention is on me, oh my God, yeah. It's very selfish, but it's very satisfying. Okay. I think we covered this. Okay. Does that make any sense? Does that make any sense? Everybody's got their own.
We're kind of just talking for the aspect of sharing our thoughts and experiences. It's up to people who are listening to make their own determination what works for them. Yeah. And they're strong orgasms, man.
And are you, question to the listeners, can you be satisfied without an orgasm or do you need an orgasm to be satisfied no right or wrong yeah no right or wrong um you know i think i could be satisfied without one but just to wrap it up it is very nice to have an orgasm but greatest thing you can have for free hmm i'm trying to think of something else i can have for free i can't think of anything so yeah orgasm is right about there there you go it's up there it's like my top 10 I don't know.
can have for free hmm i'm trying to think of something else i can have for free i can't think of anything so yeah orgasm is right about there there you go it's up there it's like my top 10 hey everyone uh info hot wife podcast love to hear from you um stay horny okay have a good night everybody
