Is Sex a Competition?

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hello everybody this is donna lynn and welcome to my hot wife podcast of course i'm here with my entertaining and wonderful husband vince well that's a different one sometimes you're very entertaining sometimes i'm not so wonderful i didn't say that didn't have to i didn't he said it for me no you are you're always wonderful okay so anyway yes you had some fun today i did I'll see you next time.

no you are you're always wonderful okay so anyway yes you had some fun today i did i'm a little little tired out from it yeah well yeah where's well of course we were swimming and the sun and a little bit of alcohol a friend came over had some fun had you know some play time next to the pool with him so it's fun absolutely i'm curious to see next weekend we might be having uh something going on well we'll see i don't know how much playing is supposed to go on i don't know but it's mickey and a couple of her boy toys and one of her girlfriends who are all swingers are all coming over, so we'll see.

So that should be fun. No matter what, it should be fun. Who knows? We might be able to get all of them to come up and sit in on the podcast. Oh, that would be too much. That would be super funny. It would be a train wreck because all of them are talking over each other. You know what I mean? We'll see what we can do. We only have so many headphones and stuff. They don't have to all wear headphones. I need to wear it so I can make sure I can hear whose microphone needs to be turned up or turned down. That's true.

I guess I probably don't need headphones, but I can just tell me to go someplace else. Again, this is not relevant to anybody listening, but whatever. Yeah, one of the reasons we wear headphones is, one, you can hear how you're coming across, but, two, when we do have other people, so you're not talking over each other. Right. Now, most cases that works. We've had guests that they just didn't get it. They just talk over it. It's just like, if you could hear what's going on.

Then going on then you know they shut up you'd hear it's a big fucking scrambled egg mess yeah you know just like shut the fuck up but whatever that's me so anyway um if you want to reach out to us like wayne does um thank you wayne info at hotwifepodcast.com if you get in the situations where lubricant isn't helpful very helpful spunklube.com good stuff I recommend it when you get to the cash checkout area make sure you punch in hotwife all one word in the discount code you will get 10% off your order very helpful especially being down there by the pool because now we're doing horrible lubricant a horrible lubricant everybody says oh yeah the fucking put now uh-uh it's terrible a spunk lube is great because if it's water soluble you get the hybrid like i don't worry as much of it going into the water per se because sometimes you know things get gunky but i mean try not to do that but i'm if it's if it's there it's there but i don't worry about because it's water soluble and it's it's fine so i like it i like it a lot spunkloob.com if um you want to see who but where and when donna is doing hotwifedonnalyn.com see who i'm having some fun with.

Yeah, and again, if you want to reach out to her directly because info at hot wife podcast is the one i generally answer okay so if you go to hotwifedonnalyn.com there is an email link in there that will go directly to her yes i i assume that's the d lynn 8 6 60 that's me yep that's the one i always answer so we're good with that. So that's the email too. DLIN8660. At gmail.com. At gmail.com. Another quick announcement. It'll probably be by the end of this week. Okay. Due to popular demand. Yeah, I don't know about popular demand. Well, by the end of one. No, no, there's been a few people.

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So, play more kind of interactive website. Maybe some of the juicier articles. No, we're not going to, like, you know, rate you for it. We're going to ask for, like, $2.99 an issue. That's pretty cheap. Okay. All right. I mean, come on. It's what you're paying for a goddamn cup of coffee. You know, if you go to Starbucks, you could buy the year. But, you know, we're going to have some, hopefully kick it up a few notches a little. Because that was one of the things someone has commented, that they liked the magazine, but they were hoping there would be more adult-type content.

So we're going to work on that. That's understandable.

Yeah, we wanted to keep it classy you know it's still gonna be yeah yeah but that way if a kid stumbles across exactly that's not gonna see anything that they don't see in a regular magazine yeah you don't even need to come to our magazine you'll see adult stuff i mean jesus um anyway okay so tonight's topic i came up with um by mistake I was thinking how competitive everything is well like you know some of my friends are like oh yes very competitive and it dawned on me it's like well is sex competitive good topic good topic yeah um and i mean granted it just like everything else in life for some people it it is.

For some people it's not. Okay. All right. Have a great night, everybody. Okay, that was the topic. Talk amongst yourselves and email us at info at hotwoodpod.com. No, I do know that sex is very competitive, especially from a female point of view.

Like growing up, I had, it was a guy that I was, I can't even say he was a boyfriend boyfriend it was just a guy i was fooling around with and he was like oh yeah i had this girl and she did this and that i was like oh well for me to keep his attention i figured i had to go above and beyond oh she can do that oh i can do this you know she oh you think she sucked your dick great oh well she's got nothing on me. When you're younger, it seems to me now, I just don't care. Oh, I still think it's still there. I still think, no matter what your age, not everybody, you know.

But I've heard stories of people I've played with that later later on their significant other tried their damnedest to perform oral right on them to meet my state what i won't say my standards but it is what your techniques are to meet what i was able to achieve you know uh you know i've heard guys like i've never made my wife come as many times as you made her come and especially in that short of time sometimes strange sex is the technique and it could be a lot of things well and that's part of this discussion is it really something that the person is better at or is it something that just that strange sex thing it's probably both but i mean you know if somebody if you perceive your uh love interest your mate or whatever is being more excited by somebody else you might kick it up a notch you might be like all right you know you should always be trying to kick it up a notch anyway i agree i No, I'm telling you.

You should be trying to kick it up. Yes, again, I agree. Asshole. No, none of that. What? Oh, come on. I think you need to kick it up a notch, mister. Okay. I'm not going to go there. Oh, shit.

no i mean it's like i i personally i've never been if someone lasts longer or their dick is bigger or you know it's just like no i don't i've never felt like oh she isn't gonna want me now i mean i've seen you have some great orgasms with other people yeah from from time to time yeah yeah um both orally and from getting fucked or whatever i've never once but again i'm not that kind of person i've never once felt threatened no nor should you no we it. We always, you know, you find it erotic that I'm being turned on by other people giving and receiving pleasure. I find it very erotic.

Yeah, it's very erotic. So I get to experience that. But there isn't that. The orgasms are great. Don't get me wrong. They're good.

But I still don't have that connection that you and i have so it kind of well again it gets back to the love versus sex love versus sex oh the great orgasms but it's not you think i'm going to just drop everything and just some people feel that threatened no i it's different it's a different orgasm i guess that's what i'm trying to say you were dancing uh-huh okay um some of the girls they one bar gave out vibrators to all your girls oh i yes i remember that the girl said that some of the girls said that their boyfriends husbands or whatever will not allow them to have vibrators why what was that reason remember um they fell in competition with the vibrator like the vibrator was like the girl was gonna leave them for a vibrator that's to.

I was like, what? Again, we've talked about this with other things. Okay, well, what aren't you doing? If you can't get your significant other to achieve orgasm, well, what's the problem? Well, maybe his tongue just can't run on the D-cell batteries. I don't know. No, it doesn't have to be.

I mean, he could take the vibrator and use it on her that's okay so it becomes a joint thing it's like it's just a tool it's just another tool that you you know in your arsenal well that's okay that's where i'm kind of trying to steer this is instead of feeling a competition okay use it as a tool like again not that i don't feel competition um but like after you get done playing with somebody you know and you go home and you do you de-louse and everything else um you know you guard all 75 times we go through more of this terrain oh you can't even imagine um but um you know it's more erotic for me to talk to you about it and have you tell me the fun you had, tell me about the fun.

Exactly. And then our fun increased because not only am I getting aroused and everything else, but you get to relive it and you tend to get like even more horned up. Mm-hmm. You know, so you're feeding off of, so now you're taking that situation that was erotic. Right. And reliving it. Reliving it. And now because of me in this case, you're getting a, possibly a stronger orgasm from the fact of you're reliving it and feeling you get to have, you know, tell it, tell it and relive it.

And then you're also experiencing a feeling of what's going on whatever it is we're doing right while you're telling that story and you also know you were teasing me it adds more dimensions to it it really does there's a lot of different facets to it that yeah that makes it very erotic for both of us and that's how we're kind of wired i i like performing like i i love going on hot dates they're fun blah and it usually it's alone time with that particular playmate but it i i feel like um i almost i do miss having you there either watching or peeking or videotaping i just i i i think it's more fun if i know you're there because i know that i'm teasing you i actually kind of find it more erotic the unknown oh yeah yeah you do you do like you're always saying yeah and you tell me all about it in detail it's it's more erotic me thinking about like while you're gone it's like oh what is she doing now if you're coming back here right i kind of know that's like okay well they're not going out to some place to fuck right but like when you've gone on hot dates and you went back to the guy's house or whatever well we've come back here and i we took him into our sure you've took him in i i took him into the bed right i'm saying it's more erotic yet when you get to go to like their house their place and fuck them there yeah ah yes because then because again i don't know what's going on no i mean like the one time you were out there for a lot of hours and i was like what the hell's going on and you you told me like oh we we were you know we went and had a nice dinner came back oh yeah we watched tv for a little bit then we fucked and we watched tv for one more we fucked some more and it's like oh it was cool okay yeah it was it was like a long like almost like a girlfriend experience because yeah we took breaks and you know did more social things like watching tv or whatever yeah it was different yeah well then just go there and have sex he had to move in with his uh parents because of uh their health issues you know his mom has and his dad's still alive, but they're elderly people.

Right. But, yeah, you have a, you know, your old class might be getting a hot date whenever. He's traveling now, he said. That would be fun.

That is always an interesting, you know, somebody that you've known in your past and you have some uh you kind of like we kind of love to touch after after high school well first of all it's erotic playing with someone you went to school with sure that's very erotic you knew that there was never anything at nothing there then you add in the fact that that person had kind of this crush on you right and you're like really okay that's kind of more till eating you know and then you you see him now and he looks really good looks good so got a nice response but yeah so it's like wow i didn't know i was didn't i was missing all this all those years ago heck yeah but you know you don't know it just wasn't it was one of those kind of guys a really nice guy but we didn't have anything in common at the time there's no yeah and they had a picture of you from yeah a 10-year reunion still in his wallet yeah and i was like what oh that's a little creepy don't you think how many years that had to be like 30 something years ago well over that over that yeah because i've been out of school 40 years so you've been out longer now you've been out 45 plus good no that's frightening that is frightening that's very scary that is very frightening oh my god we fucks.

This is terrible. What year did you graduate high school? 78. 46 years. Get out of here. I'm thinking maybe 30. 46 years. Where did time go? Yeah, because I've been out 40 years. So you're six years older than I am. 46 doesn't make sense. That's simple math there, yeah. Holy shit. But, yeah, I mean, he's a great guy. I mean, he and I have hung out when you're not grown. Oh, sure. You know, his dick's okay. I was waiting for you to say something like that. So, how does he eat ass? That's what I want to know. Better than you. Oh, ouch.

Very ouch very ouch there's one thing i can assure you there was no ass eating going on on either side nothing that is gay went on between the two of us you know his past yeah i know you know my stance yep so that's guaranteed no ass eating or anything no shenanigans like that the most contact we had is shook hands okay i believe you good i don't know what the video looks like it was doctored i'm sure it was okay but anyway um no but like again knowing this guy he's got money he's a good looking guy everything i i feel no competition again i'm also the kind of person that if you came to me tomorrow and said um yeah it's like you know i think i want a divorce i want to leave him like okay i'd say why first but then it's like okay i want you to be happy go yeah go yeah yeah i'm not a Yeah.

I'm not a stalker, no matter what the return order says. You have so many of them. Those 72 women are all wrong. Of course, dear. I'm just staying on his good side. Golly knows where this is going to go. Making sure they got home okay, I promise you. I promise. Don't joke about that. Yeah, no. But no, it's like, no, if there's things that, like, okay, example, you enjoyed the BDSM thing. Right. Yes, I do. And our one friend has made you come a few times that way. Oh, yeah, absolutely. In various different ways. There's no jealousy at all there. I could care less.

I think it's great that you have a niche that, yeah and i know it's someone i can trust right i know what you're talking about you know oh you wouldn't even want to try to make me come that way it would just be very awful there's have to be some level of enjoyment there for me exactly or making you come exactly what it takes to get you to that point i'm not that person no no i'm i'm thinking i'm reminiscing back to when i got my feet flogged that's what i'm saying yeah i'm not a guy to flog or i wouldn't know how to do it so i feel i don't think it's hard to do it's just a matter of practice right you know because if you're too close you're whipping them if you're too far away you're just missing them um but yeah there's an art to it but sure and it's not one of my it's not something i find enjoyable either giving or receiving i get it i'm like being on the receiving end yeah and that's fine i have no problem with that but some people get jealous i mean even like when we were at exotica some years ago and that guy was going to flog you oh yeah he came up respectfully uh-huh and says is it okay if i flog your wife i'm like yeah but if you hurt her i'll kill you i didn't know i didn't know him right you know exactly and you know i i don't know if he knows what he's doing or not uh there's too many assholes out there who think they know what they're doing.

Right, I get it. He knew what he was doing, and everything was fine. I sat back and just watched you have fun, and I was like, I don't get it. Well, it's flogging. It's not whipping. Like I said, flogging is like getting a massage with a bunch of little leather strips. Until he did it to you, I don't know. But in the meantime, you are potentially in harm's way. Oh, yeah, because they're tied down, potentially. And he was really good because there was more communication. He said he would talk to me, like, is this what you're looking for? Is this what you like?

Or I would respond, saying, yeah, that feels great. I love how hard that is.

then he he would come up like and give me a little snap between my legs and it would just like come up right on my pussy now that was that was a little bit more than i was bargaining for but once in a while that was fine but it was like it stung my pussy i was like whoa that's i'll kiss to make it better oh see that's why i married you you're just so sweet i go the extra mile yeah you sure do but yeah there's a thing you know um like that one time we were playing with that couple and she was taking one for the team and i'm going down on her she's coming and oh yeah yeah and he's like she never did that for me i remember that yeah yeah again i just i don't want to get off on this one i don't know why people take one for the team i don't know that's yeah we covered that yeah i just don't do it it's gonna cause so much resentment yeah they wound up i'm told like a month or so later getting divorced or whatever it's like yeah but.

But, yeah, if both of you aren't on the same page with swinging, please don't do it. Yeah, and it has to be the same amount of enthusiasm towards swinging, too. Like if you want a couple that all they're doing is like looking at the website and like, oh, who can we hook up with this weekend and this weekend and everything is geared toward that thing. And the other person's like, oh, if it happens and the mood is right, it's going to cause something too because one person is so focused on it and that becomes such a priority. Bob and Jane this weekend, but they're not swingers. Yeah, exactly.

Yeah. No, we can't go at that one. I've got to go swing a couple of times. Well, yeah. I mean. You've got to do what works for you, plain and simple. Oh, absolutely. Absolutely. Let's get back to it. Oh, sorry. We've been notorious the last few shows. Going over on a tangent. Wandering off, covering five topics. That's what conversations are. Yeah. I mean, you made a comment one time. One of our friends was blowing me, and she had her tongue pierced. Oh, yes. Oh, my God. And unlike me in any way, all of a sudden, within three minutes, I'm popping. It was like three.

I was like, holy crap, that didn't take long at all. Yeah, usually you're a slow comer. It takes you a lot to come. It's a lot. Not that night. No. I'm going to go get my tongue pierced. No, you say. I thought you were going to tell me, come on, honey honey we're going out to get your tongue pierced tomorrow it felt great but i'd rather not come so fast well but you get used to it you get you get you know i don't know tolerant of it she keeps blowing me all the time. Don't you wish. That was probably the last time we saw them. Yeah. I've talked to them via email a few times. Right.

So their last memory is that awesome blowjob with the pierced tongue. She had that pierced tongue, big tits, and blue eyes. She had that horse cock. Oh, my God. That was actually way too big for me.

Way too big for for me i think it's probably too big for most people yeah yeah i think i'm i would be better to handle that big cock now but back then no thank you yeah that would have just been disaster i remember blowing him and it was like god my mouth is so stretched out i'm like i there's no way to my jaw it was it's like good god there's a horse missing his dick out there somewhere he did transplanters yeah it was a little man's little white dick and he's got this it was thick i remember it in my mouth and i'm like oh i'm i was like i don't she was no bigger than me she was actually shorter than me i'm like how is she taking this big ass cock when she's she loved big cock yeah she was definitely she's used to it now but yeah that could be it too she and she had kids not meant in a derogatory way but she was a size queen she was a size queen yeah absolutely i mean And again, you know, if you're used to travel on a four-lane highway all the time, also you go down a two lanes an alleyway also you're not so comfortable you know yeah yeah that was one i i that was a pretty big dick the amazing part with him um they're both great people but he was so quiet to look at him yeah you wouldn't think that he'd sit there and just like oh my god he's got to have like a fucking thimble for a cock well he looked very bookish he had a glass he had the old sewing machine he didn't just have a thimble yeah you're right but yeah he's very bookish very quiet kind like you of like, you know, introverted.

And then he drops trowel and he's like, boof, boof. I'm like, holy shit. Yeah. It almost is like, that's a tripod. Almost. That was a pole-voting pole. It wasn't as, I don't remember being so much long, but it was definitely girthy. I just remember the girth on it was easily eight nine inches plus you know fucking you know i couldn't yeah my mouth i could not get it around yeah i couldn't get around the cock i was like good lord it would make me trying to swallow this this cup here like oh okay anyway But no, I wasn't jealous about that.

No, that's what I'm saying, is people like that could get jealous. They could. You know, it's... I found a sense of humor in it. I thought it was funny. Well, our relationship is so much different than most. Different is definitely a good way to put it. Yeah, different, yeah.

people in the vanilla world would definitely be saying that we're different but people in the swinger world would be you know like that's pretty much status quo you know it just there's a lot of guys out there i like to see their wives being pleasured giving pleasure and receiving pleasure and being a boy there's far more husbands that have that secret fantasy than there are wives with that secret fantasy. Oh, hands down. Absolutely. I would think chances are, I'll use, like, my one friend. Yeah, they all say, oh, she's wifey. She's like, hell no.

But if a wife went up to a husband and, like, I want to see you get with another woman, most men would be like, that's i'm only doing this for you i'm taking one for the team you want to see it again honey i don't really think that was my a game you want to see it again yeah i think but most men not all men but most men be like hell yeah that's what i'm saying yeah they'd be on board with that. Of course, there are a couple that would be like, no, that's just disgusting. And I think more women, if they were approached by their husband, like, honey, I want to see you fuck another guy.

And they're like, fuck you, no. Yeah. Yeah. Now, in their head, they might think it, but they would never give in to their husband with that in general.

Or they would start asking, you know, 100 questions, like want to see that yeah exactly they want to see make feel it out to see if is he really okay with this or is this some kind of uh one of the questions is like well who would you want to see me fuck that's the key question that is a key question if you sit there and say well my my buddy sam and in the wife's head she's like oh my god i've always wanted to fuck sam well then the next thing she probably would say is like sam would never want to fuck me and the husband would probably well sam talks about you all the time sam would love to fuck you so where would you want to see Sam fuck me I mean when is Sam available all the time, Sam would love to fuck you.

So where would you want to see Sam fuck me? When is Sam available? Hypothetically speaking, I'm just curious. And hypothetically, how big a dick does Sam have? Hypothetically. Yeah, but as a swinger, you should be able to tell your... Thank you. Hypothetically. Yeah, but as a swinger, you should be able to tell your spouse what you want. You know, honey, I've never let you give me anal. But hypothetically, if I slid Sam's dick in my ass, would that be party fantasy? Hypothetically. Hypoth fantasy? Hypothetically.

You know, I mean, to make you happy, honey, if you realize you mean fuck Sam, I really think Sam and I should get together a few times before and practice. Practice. So when we fuck in front of you, I make sure we're on our A game honey okay I really don't want to do this I'm willing to do it for you though for you I'm going to fuck him for you I really don't want to I don't no matter what I utter in my sleep not what I'm going to do. Can I have your credit card? I have to go buy some lingerie for Sam. Hypothetically. Hypothetically. In case this happens. I'm not feeling it.

That it's going to happen until I get the right lingerie. The right lingerie. It would be okay if I take, hypothetically, Sam with me. To help me pick some out. Hypothetically. I don't know I guess jealousy is another word for competition Getting back to the original time If we ever get back to the original time. Yeah, if we ever get back to the original time. And we have talked about... It wasn't that bad this time, but anyway. Yeah, we always talked about the jealousy thing just can't be in a swing, in a swinger relationship because it's just, it's not going to end well.

But like you said, if you can, instead of using jealousy, using competition, it's the same kind of thing. You're absolutely right. Yeah, that does make sense.

Okay, so here's a question for you okay you have a question for me going back to one of our older not too old but okay more recently older shows okay the magic cock thing so if you're you're a husband that thinks he has this magic cock but then you go to a swinger party and you watch someone else hocus pocus your wife hocus pocus your wife yeah all of a sudden the magic was working better in his wand you know oh he's gonna be allowed to lots of pocus pocus poked her in the asses uh his his hair hair was potter uh yes god so all of a sudden you have a magic cock, you think? You think.

And all of a sudden someone else performs tricks. He has even more magic cock if there is such a thing. Do you think that makes him go home and... Question his... Well, or go home and try to perform miracles? Yeah, maybe he might step up his game, sure.

Or he'll be like he's been given all he's got anyway i don't i don't know maybe that's what i'm saying is i you know again there's no answer i'm expecting um it's just one of those questions is you know if you see your mate right somebody and they make your mate make noises you've never heard and i'm not talking queefs it does happen from time to time yeah it does um or make her come more than you make her come or whatever should you be try to step your game up? Should you have taken notes? Taking notes would not be a bad thing.

Maybe you could learn something from it and increase your technique or change your technique or whatever. I bet you there's a couple who have gotten out of swinging just for that reason. One of them gets jealous or you know competition or whatever yeah i'm sure that has happened i wouldn't be a bit surprised at all but you should never fall on your laurels either you know i'm saying you should always you know try to put some effort into pleasing your mate i know that you know you're you're busy you have a job we have jobs and all that stuff, but you still need to... Hint. Hint. I know. Hinted.

Hey, I come by and I grab your ass. He has a little show, like, hey, baby. And then you go, where's your ass? Sometimes I do say that. Sometimes. I didn't say it today when I grabbed it. You didn't grab my ass. I did. When you walked by, I grabbed your ass.

Oh, that's right i said careful michael wall um yeah michael bad night but um bad morning anyway yeah okay so that's something to think about yeah do you get turned on by it or do you get jealous that's a good question we could have answered earlier but yes i think then the podcast in two minutes yeah well definitely um more turned on definitely more for me more turned on yeah i mean and and that should be the answer for everybody yeah you know if you're getting jealous and swing is definitely not for you that's definitely a good good litmus test there i I mean, like at those parties, you know, the women all came up to you and thanked you for me, you know, for like, oh, my God, thanks for letting me play with him and all this stuff.

That's just being nice. And the men were always coming up to me going like, oh, my God, you're so lucky. It's like, well, yeah, I was born with this tongue. I said, no, Donna. Yeah, I was born with this tongue. I said, no, Donna. Yeah, Donna's pretty lucky to have me. Yeah, you did say that. No, but, you know, again, when, you know, like you've talked about when I'm playing with a woman and you hear her coming and coming and makes you proud.

I was, I was like, I peeked up over the bed i was like oh that's my man when i see guys almost lining up to go play with you that makes me feel good too oh that's that's sweet i i love my wife being a slut i just wish you'd put the tip jar next to the bus. Oh, shoot. I always forget that. Might as well, you know. Make a couple dollars. I got you the little square to swipe credit cards. Yeah, put a little tip jar back there. So, anyway. All right, folks. Thanks again for listening. And hopefully it was entertaining and give you something to think about.

There's always something to think about, that's for sure. Talk to you soon. Okay, have a great night, everybody.