In this episode of the Hot Wife Podcast, hosts Donna Lynn and Vince explore various themes surrounding relationships, intimacy, and the dynamics of reclaiming in the context of swinging and cuckolding. They discuss their experiences with sex toys, the concept of reclaiming a partner after they have been with someone else, and the complexities of power exchange in relationships. The conversation is light-hearted yet insightful, providing listeners with a candid look at their views on these topics.TakeawaysThe podcast is intended for adult audiences and focuses on relationships and intimacy.Sex toys are becoming more mainstream, even available in places like Walmart.Reclaiming a partner can be seen as a ritual in certain relationship dynamics.The hosts do not practice reclaiming but are open to understanding it.Power exchange is a significant aspect of reclaiming and BDSM relationships.Communication is key in relationships, especially regarding desires and boundaries.The hosts enjoy discussing their experiences and learning from others.Cuckolding and reclaiming have overlapping themes but are distinct practices.The hosts are curious about the experiences of those who practice reclaiming.The podcast encourages listener engagement and feedback on discussed topics.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/hot-wife-podcast-and-the-swinger-lifestyle--5343522/support. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
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Speaker1: Welcome to the Hot Wife Podcast, where we dive into discussions about relationships, intimacy, and everything in between. Before we begin, we want to make it clear that the views expressed on this podcast are solely those of the host and guests, and should be taken as opinions, not professional or medical advice. Additionally, we remind all listeners that this podcast is intended for adults over the age of 18. Unauthorized rebroadcast of this show is strictly prohibited without the written permission of the owners of Hot Wife Podcast. Now let's heat things up. hello everybody and welcome to my hot white podcast this is donna lynn and of course i'm here with my awesome husband vince just awesome totally awesome yeah Thank you. Welcome to my Hot Wife Podcast. This is Donna Lynn, and of course, I'm here with my awesome husband, Vince. Just awesome. Totally awesome. Yeah. Oh, man, oh, man, what a day. Well, the holidays are over. I'm actually relieved. Yeah. That one was hurt. No, we survived another one. Well, almost. Yeah. Pretty good, anyway. Yeah, it's just, just i mean i hate to be like a debbie downer but it just throws such a hiccup into our lives or into my life i don't know maybe everybody else is cool with it i'm just like you know just gonna have to get back on sketch again anyway i i i i know i i know it's true you're a bot buttbug, anyway. I know. I know. Speaker2: It's true. Speaker1: You're a bah butt plug. Speaker2: Oh. Well, there you go. Now, wait a minute. Speaker1: Things are looking up here. Speaker2: So to speak. Speaker1: Hey, when we saw those butt plugs in Walmart, I... How about that? That was... Not just butt plugs. Speaker2: Oh, I know. Speaker1: They had vibrators and... Well, that one vibrator, one rabbit... You're way too excited about this. Well, it was like, I... Well, it's up above my eye level, and you pointed it out to me. I'm like, oh, there they are. Well, we're looking at the old people we are. Yeah. We're looking at muscle rubs and ointments for my back pain and stuff like that. And right next to it, it's this case. You know, just like a lot of stores now that have shit locked up, you know, for the great country. Anyway, and it's like, what the hell do they got locked up here? It's like, whoa. It's like butt plugs, vibrators. The first one I saw was a butt plug. I was like, oh, happy day. I said, do you know they sell sex toys? They do? Look, oh my God. Well, that one wrap it with all the little swirly colors, that looks like the one i have so i don't the many that i have so where would you go to buy your sex toy would you go to walmart or go to an adult bookstore i go to an adult or online or online because then i can really shop around um i'm still kind of old school i do like to hold them in my hand sometimes online things look bigger. When they give you a measurement, you're like, oh, yeah, it'd be big enough. Then you get it, and you're like, oh, this is way too small or way too big. Yeah, I never had that problem. Well, it's not what I wanted. So I'm kind of old school. I do like to— You still have it. Can't relate. You can't relate, no. So I still, I like to hold what I'm kind of old school. I do like to. You can't relate. You can't relate, no. I still, I like to hold what I'm going to buy. I like to touch and feel them. A lot of adult bookstores have ones you can sample how. Yeah, you can fondle. You can finger fuck. Yeah, you can hold in your hand. Hold in your hand. Truly test drive. You can't truly test drive them. But even if you're at the cash register paying for one of these things, and like, Donna, hey, how you doing hi pastor yeah that would be a little uncomfortable it used to be on you know uncomfortable when i was younger going to buy condoms right i can't imagine buying a sex toy yeah in an adult bookstore i don't give two shit yeah i don't give two thing. Yeah, you know everybody's a pervert there. At Walmart, it's like, that could be a little uncomfortable, especially since you have to have somebody unlock them for you. Yeah. I think that one would be fun. Well, what was I buying? Oh, I was just buying something for the dog and cat, like a tick spray, and I had to go up front and go and get somebody to open up the fit. How embarrassing. That wasn't embarrassing, but what if I had to buy, I wanted to buy an adult toy? Oh, I would. I would just. I want that butt plug right there. I want the big one. Do they have the one that's big like a fist? Do you have the next size up in butt plugs? Now, what do they recommend the lubricant I should use on that? But we recommend Spunk Lube. Do you sell Spunk Lube? At spunklube.com. Shameless little plug there. Oh, my God. Can you imagine? That would be so fun. I would do that just to watch the poor associate at Walmart Twitch. Just like, you know, just. Well, it depends on who the associate is that's true if it's like kind of a dweeby guy it'd be fun it would be fun you get someone he's old probably one of the uh the people work at our walmart oh my god you're going to buy this to do what with massage my neck this is not to stir your pancake batter although it might work it could some of them do gyrate pretty good whatever you want to call it Thank you. is not to stir your pancake butter. Although it might work. It could. Some of them do gyrate pretty good. Whatever you want to call it. That would be funny. I'm going home to make some cake butter. I mean. Hey, so if you want to reach out to us, info at hotwaypodcast.com. Love to hear from you all let us know your thoughts your theories your questions your show ideas and what you use to stir your cake batter what what do you what's the what's the blender you use how do you make your smoothie how do you make your cake rise hey you're the one that can make anything sound sexual so i am i'm an amateur i bow at your feet i mean we're doing something totally unrelated and you're like yeah just give me that hammer i'm gonna i take this drill i'm gonna drill this wood and this would change my oil and i need to get rid of the old stuff i have to get rid of the old oil it's so backed up in my driveway it's so backed up i need to release this oil desperately you're a sick motherfucker you are i threw the filter in the trash, but it's oil so dirty. You should see my air filter oh god we we need help we definitely need help anyway um so what do you want to talk about tonight today now reclaiming your spouse usually wife though i don't think you may get reclaimed. I don't know. I've never seen it poised that way, but I guess. Let's give a quick definition of reclaiming in our world, but we don't, either of us reclaim each other. Let's put it this way. Our understanding of it. That's a good way to put it, yeah. It's not something we practice. No, I didn't know it existed. Well, I've known about it, but it doesn't apply to how we think. Yeah. I guess I'll put it that way. Yeah. Like after a woman plays with somebody else, the husband, you know, after she's done and all cleaned up, he takes her and he reclaims her as his own. I think it's supposed to be the husband, boyfriend, whatever. Right. Is turning over control. Oh, I see. To somebody else. Who it is, another male or female possibly, I'm guessing. And it's like, okay, she, in this case, is a wife, girlfriend, whatever, is yours.
Speaker2:
Right.
Speaker1:
You know, I'm giving you her. Okay. So after they get done.
Speaker2:
Mm-hmm. Yeah.
Speaker1:
That person has to, doesn't have to, but they do, go through this, I'll call it a through this I'll call it a ritual I'll call it a ritual too of reclaiming their quote unquote property
Speaker2:
yeah
Speaker1:
and we I mean I didn't even know this existed until we kind of dabbled into a pseudo BDSM realm it's not even that
Speaker2:
because it is
Speaker1:
it's in cuckolding oh yeah I'm sure it's in hot wifing yes it is I think there's a we don't do that, so I don't... Well, we do that, but we just don't do that. We don't do the reclaiming. Reclaiming or releasing or whatever. Well, there might be some releasing going on, but not so much reclaiming. If you're lucky. If the guy does it right. Yeah, I think there's a, in my opinion, a mental game for these people who do this.
Speaker2:
Yeah.
Speaker1:
And I guess, I mean, I can see where that could be stimulating. I just don't think of it that way. I don't either. Because I'm not, in my mindset, and we'd love to hear from anybody about this. Who does this because we're. Who's really into it. Thank you. I just don't think of it that way. I don't either. Because I'm not, in my mindset, and we'd love to hear from anybody about this who's really into it, please correct us if we're wrong, and chances are we are. That makes it so much fun. I mean, you get into the mindset of, yeah, you're turning them over. So now they are subservient to somebody else. Right. So this is definitely part of. So then you're reclaiming. I'm like, no, now I'm your master. Well, yeah. Well, this is all part of the power exchange. Yeah. You know, and so that's why I. I don't think it has to be BDSM. No, right. It is power exchange. But we did see it in the one couple that we go to the parties that when she was with, he had to kind of, reclaim it, recolor her. They even called it. So that might be a, a spinoff of reclaiming. So, yeah, I, I don't know. I've never been reclaimed, recolored. I, we just put up for sale a few times. Yeah. A couple of times. Yeah. I didn't try to take it back to the store. Nobody would take me. Couldn't me It doesn't work right It doesn't Sir, you didn't buy her here It still doesn't She still doesn't work right You sell these, don't you? No I'm not an inflater mate With the loving anus Okay, we'll go with that i just remember seeing like these blob dolls and then they have like the whole oh face yeah and then it says on the bottom with loving anus it's like is that a husband i don't know i don't they have all kinds of marketing dog comes with a husband, loving asshole i mean um i i guess it's something you have to practice yeah like we talk about the hot dates you know you're only you're only allowed and i don't mean like i control you but it's something we've agreed upon right um to go out with men we trust right or women i mean it hasn't happened yet you're gonna hot day with a woman that'd be kind of hot that'd be kind of hot um but um you know so it's not like i'm turning you over because it's got to be to somebody I trust. So I'm not giving them you. I'm sharing. You're such a wonderful sharing person. You don't hate it. No, I don't hate it at all. I share you. Yeah, but no one wants to share. Oh, stop it. Oh, my God. Just stop it. But anyway, so yeah, I i i think you know i i i'm not a person who could be an actor i don't pretend well and i think part of this is you have to be in that mindset it's almost like acting or pretending that to be in this um in my opinion and that's all it is And again, I said I could be wrong, and I probably am. Just that mindset. I'm more worried about your safety. Oh, yeah, those are legitimate concerns. I get that. I don't think it's actually acting. I think it's whoever is releasing the power to somebody else. Yeah, acting's probably the wrong word. Yeah. It's a mental game. Yeah, there's a mental aspect of it for sure. And acting is kind of a mental game. Actors pretend for a living. Right, yeah, I see what you're saying. I don't think it's actually acting as we see in movies and that kind of thing. I think it's something that— Oh, it's role-playing. Well, okay, okay. Which is kind of acting. Well, I think what it does is it reestablishes the sanctity, the stability of the original relationship, and I think that's what they're trying to get to by, quote, reclaiming their significant other. Because it reestablishes, it enforces their relationship. I mean, that's how I look at it. They come together. I mean, we never did that. I don't think we ever do that. Maybe we do, we just don't see it that way. No. But we have a lot more fun playing after I've been with somebody else. I mean, we've had guys, actually, that after you get done playing with them, they go, here you go, you can reclaim her. Yeah, and we're like, huh? And I never thought of it in the way that a lot of people do. It's just like, oh, great, she's back. Can you keep her a little longer? No, she's yours. Here, take her. Another half hour, she was legally missing. True. I could get a divorce. I could call her legally dead. Shut up. I'm trying to swallow here. It's terrible. Touch an ass.
Speaker2:
Thank you.
Speaker1:
But now it's, I mean, I've heard guys say it. I have too. And it's like, what? Yeah, we just don't play in that realm. But I mean, we could be reclaiming and not really call it that. We go and play and relive the fun you have.
Speaker2:
Yeah.
Speaker1:
That might be a type of. But that's not me going like pounding my chest going, oh, you're mine now. You know, doing like a ritual dance around the bed or whatever. Oh, I want to see that. Are you going to wear a morning cloth? In the grass skirt with nipple rings, yeah. I want to see that. You'd be so hot. I want to videotape it. Oh, yeah, it's hot. You'd have your own video on your YouTube channel. Only fans will blow the fuck up. Oh, yeah, man, I'm telling you. The hot wife, yeah. Hot husband, yeah, I think that would work. It's coming, I'm'm telling you. But yeah, I don't know. Does it make, I guess the question is, does the person reclaiming feel empowered? And does the woman, we'll use the scenario. Sure, I'm just easier. The woman, does that make her feel good? That like. He wants me back. Yeah, well, not that he wants him back, but it's like, yeah, I'm his. I'm his. Maybe, like I said. I pleased him by pleasing this guy. Now, I don't know. I'm not sure. You'd have to talk to somebody who actually does that. I get told I should talk to somebody who won't do that. Yeah, um yeah i just think it it helps to redefine and re-establish the relationship okay that you know and it puts the in this case the the male who gave up the his spouse puts him back in charge again or it could be vice versa, depending on their agreement. I don't know. Well, I mean, again, as we've talked about, we are not in that mindset. And people aren't. It's great. Whatever works. Yeah, whatever works for you. It's great. But we're just, I think we're so loosey-goosey with things. You know, we're just kind of like ebb and flow. We're just kind of like, yeah, whatever, and this is fun. We communicate so well. It might not sound like the way we pick on each other. But it's true, we do communicate. Our communication of expectations, desires, turn-on, turn-offs. We're not shy about them. No. So there's no need to reclaim necessarily. I mean, but again, it is fun to relive the experience when we're together. That's very exciting. It's very erotic that's, you know, going through the play-by-play and what I really liked and how turned on I was. And you responding to that, that's very erotic to me. But I don't think you're reclaiming me necessarily. I didn't feel I lost you. Yeah, maybe that's it. Yeah, you haven't lost me. Poor thing. Sorry. I try. I know, I know. I go on all the rides that you can't ride because you're too short. And there are many. Even has, like, you know, you put a for sale sign on your car. Put a for steel sign on me. Please take her. Yeah, I mean, people who enjoy it. We're not belittling you at all. No, I'm just trying to understand it. We're trying not to. It's that way. I mean, I don't feel there's anything wrong with it. It's not our cup of tea or coffee. I just don't think that it's necessary in our relationship. In our relationship, yeah. Yeah, in our relationship it's just not necessary. I mean, if, again, you could write to us at info at hotwifepodcast.com. Love to hear your side of it. If you're so willing, we would love to set up a time to
Speaker2:
I'll see you next time. You could write to us at info at hotwifepodcast.com. Love to hear your side of it.
Speaker1:
If you're so willing, we would love to set up a time to maybe have you join the podcast and actually talk to us live about it, explain it to us, teach us something. Yeah, that'd be interesting. I mean, I'd like to hear somebody's take on it. Like I said, we've only known a couple people that actually do this reclaiming ritual, but they are definitely more into the BDSM realm. And a lot of those rituals are established rituals. There is the collaring. There is a. Yeah. I've even heard where some of the guys when they reclaim will sit there and even like, I hate to say this, I'm a gag. Okay okay like suck the other man's cum out of her pussy like cleaning you off now i'm yours i whatever i'm just saying i'm just saying what i've heard i don't you know yeah i don't know there's a lot of overlap between that and being cuckolding there's so many aspects of cuckolding different levels levels and aspects and what have you. And we don't do that either. No. We belittle each other outside the bedroom. Absolutely. Yeah, constantly. Oh, my God, yeah. I mean, what fun would it do if I brought that into the bedroom, too? Yeah. You know. Or we'd take a break. Exactly. So in the bedroom, we're good to each other. So outside the bedroom, it's like, oh, you're an ass. Yeah. Not when you fart and fluff the covers. You're not being like that. I don't know, man. Dutch loving me? Oh, no, wait a minute. You have done that to me more than once. I don't remember that. Oh, you don't remember? Oh, yeah. Mm-hmm.
Speaker2:
Yeah. Mr. Oh, I'm innocent.
Speaker1:
Thank you. I never flopped the covers.
Speaker2:
Thank you.
Speaker1:
I never touched oven you.
Speaker2:
No, see?
Speaker1:
My friends hardly smell like broccoli. Well, you know. I was like, come on. Do you like broccoli?
Speaker2:
I do.
Speaker1:
Then shut up. I do like broccoli. Okay, well, then be quiet. Shouldn't be so offensive, should it? Okay, just saying. Move on. Move on, I know. Next topic. Yeah, but it's a broccoli fart. It's like, eh. Well, aren't they entitled to pass gas? Let's change something. Just farting for a second. Well, that could be a fetish in and of itself. Oh, farting is a fetish. It is, just like everything else. I don't want to get into that one. No, I don't. But no, I would love to hear more about the whole reclaiming scenario, I guess. Yeah, that's a good word of scenario. The truth and what it's about, what it's like, why you do it. You even try looking it up on sls to see if they had any kind of definition no definition i even i found the one topic there's no video on on youtube reclaiming your wife oh okay there was nobody shot a video no i don't know okay you go to porn hub you'll find tons of video but it. Exactly. You know, I thought somebody would be, this may be the first video on YouTube discussing reclaiming your wife. I don't know. Maybe, maybe so. But, yeah, it just seems like in our experience, there's only been a couple people that have really gone through and actually call it reclaiming. Well, again, I think it that power exchange it does i i can see that definitely which you know our friends practice and um you know so um and maybe we have to get them on to explain it that wouldn't be a bad idea yeah that would be actually make make a lot of sense because you know we're talking about things and they they live it i mean they live that stuff every day yeah they don't just do it like in the bedroom their whole life is about the power exchange yeah for the most part yeah it's it's you can you can tell you can tell who's the who's the dominant one who's the submissive and And he's, you know, he's running the show.
Speaker2:
So, I mean, for you and I. you can tell who's the who's the dominant one who's the submissive and who's you know
Speaker1:
who's running the show so yeah i mean for you and i it's kind of you know i mean i think you're more dominant than i am when you let me yeah when i let you okay let's go with that no i mean yeah you take control of the sensor.
Speaker2:
I'm, yeah,
Speaker1:
I'm more dominant, but not controlling.
Speaker2:
Is that what you're saying? Yeah, you take control of a sense of surgery. Yeah, I'm more dominant, but not controlling.
Speaker1:
Is that what you call it? Answer the way I told you. Yeah, that's what I was waiting for. Yeah, that's what I was waiting for. Yeah, I mean, I think we kind of also. We got a 60-40 kind of thing.
Speaker2:
Yeah.
Speaker1:
You know, a 90-10. A 90-10? It's only like that one. 99-1? You know, whatever. it's only like that one yeah whatever it's all mathematics what are numbers no it's like that when you're divvying up like food that i really like like fried shrimp you're like oh this package i don't know the 22 shrimp i don't know like it came came out with you know didn't come even numbers didn't come even numbers it's two for you and eight you know 20 for me they didn't give us enough to split it up evenly i'm sorry
Speaker2:
I don you know. It didn't come even numbers. It didn't come even numbers. It's two for you and, you know, 20 for me.
Speaker1:
It didn't give us enough to split it up evenly.
Speaker2:
I'm sorry.
Speaker1:
He'd do that all the time. I bought a two-pack of, you know, these really nice pack of steaks. There was two of them. Didn't give me one for you. Yeah, I went hungry that night. You know, I don't know why these, they can't do that. Yeah, okay. You know, in all fairness, it's sort of like you go buy a go buy a pizzeria or something, get mozzarella sticks. They give you fucking five. What the fuck's five? If you want to split it with someone, now you each get two and a half. Two and a half. Like, really? What's one more fucking mozzarella stick? Exactly. Anyway. Oh, so you would get four and I would get two. You get the half. I get the half. Thanks. It's not my problem that they can't get the right amount of mozzarella sticks. Right. Okay. It has nothing to do with you. Okay. Let's go with that. You're catching on. I'm catching on. Uh-huh. Yeah, this is what I have to live with. Okay. Oy. Yep. Anyway, so again, Happy New Year, everyone. Hopefully, this will be a prosperous and healthy New Year for everyone. Yeah, I hope. Look forward to hearing from you guys, please. Any input on this topic or others, love to hear it. Info at Hot Wife Podcast. Don't forget to check out the new 50ShadesOfPleasure.com magazine. Ooh, that's nice. As always, it's free. There's some interesting videos in there that you can watch from YouTube. Nothing on reclaiming your wife. No, there aren't any on YouTube that I can find. So anyway.
Speaker2:
Oh.
Speaker1:
But please check out the magazine, FiftyShadesOfPleasure.com. That's F-I-F-T-Y, not 5-0.
