How do you Flirt?

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Speaker1: Welcome to the Hot Wife Podcast, where we dive into discussions about relationships, intimacy, and everything in between. Before we begin, we want to make it clear that the views expressed on this podcast are solely those of the host and guests, and should be taken as opinions, not professional or medical advice. Additionally, we remind all listeners that this podcast is intended for adults over the age of 18. Unauthorized rebroadcast of this show is strictly prohibited without the written permission of the owners of Hot Wife Podcast. Now, let's heat things up. Hello everybody, this is Donna Lynn and welcome to my Hot White Podcast. Of course, I'm here with the brains behind the whole operation. There we go. Stuff as shit. Your eyebrows stink. Oh, come on. You know you are the brains behind it. Come on. Definitely the looks. I don't know about the brains. Oh, yes. You're definitely the looks. I mean, you're just... I'm surprised that this isn't... It's a look no one should be saddled with. Stop it. I was going to say we should have this all videotaped so you could definitely be... The Hot Husband Podcast. The Hot Husband. Yeah, I'm telling you. I do think that was funny. It was a moment in time. Yeah, it was. It was a moment in time, yeah. Yeah, so getting closer to turning the clocks back. Yes, fall back. So we got an extra hour of sleep. I'm looking forward to that. It's going to mess me up. Yeah, it does. It irons out. You don't gain anything. It's bullshit. No, no. But you feel like you do that day. It's like, oh, I can sleep one more hour. I just hate it because like by 4.30, It's dark. You lose all the momentum to do anything. When you get home, it's like, well, I had shit I had to do, but fuck it. It's already so dark. Yeah. I find this, sometimes this time of year can be very, you know, glum. There's a lot of, you know, it gets gray. It's kind of like, eh. All the more reason, get home, eat your dinner, take a shower, and have sex. There you go. And then go to bed. Go to sleep. It doesn't matter what it's doing outside. No. You know, that's, That's the nice thing. I mean, if it's sunny outside. Generate some heat under the covers, man. Yeah. There you go. See? It's all snugly and warm under the covers. Rub two thighs together. Make some heat. There you go. See? That makes sense. Yeah. That makes sense. So that leads me to little factoids. Oh, go ahead. Yeah. Well, there's one that we've done this one to death. Okay. So you're going to do it again. All right. Yeah. Well, they're saying that swingers have relationship satisfaction. And we've been saying that all along, that swinging has It's actually added to a relationship instead of taking it away. So, I mean, it's something you and I can enjoy together. It's something that, you know, is exciting for both of us. Yeah, like you said, we've talked about this. Oh, yeah, a million times. You know, people who aren't necessarily in the lifestyle, where I know we have single men listen to the podcast, like Ikea is a married man. But I throw that out there. that the partners aren't interested in getting into the lifestyle, which is fine. And in a strange, unique way, people have a hard time understanding that swingers, most of us, will contest the wrong word, will attest that it actually adds to our relationship. Oh, yeah, you've said that a thousand times. It's a stronger trust than ever. A stronger bond, yeah. Yeah. Because first of all, again, we're doing it together. You know, it's not like we're, you know, I'm doing it someplace else and you don't know about it. Oh, even if you are, yeah, but I know about it. Yeah, but you do know about it. Yeah. Yeah. I think it just, the whole thing just adds to the trust level, the excitement level, finding out each other's fantasies and being able to, you know, enjoy them and experiment with them or whatever they want to do with each other. Fantasies. And it just seems like a lot of people in the vanilla world don't ever venture outside. They don't get out of their lane. They're definitely in their lane. One of the things I've heard from a bunch of vanilla people is that their sex life becomes very routine. And then it just fades away because it's very routine. It becomes less satisfying. I won't say not satisfying. I say less. Right. Satisfying for one or both members. So it becomes less of a thing. But like for us, as an example, you know, we mix it up a lot in a lot of different ways. You know. As much as we can anyway. You know. Yeah. I mean, you know. With a reason. Life gets in the way. You know, whether it be ailments or schedules or. Yeah, all those work, whatever. But yeah, I mean, it's something that adds a little space. to the relationship. Not that the relationship was bad at all, but it just adds a little space. Which is nice. It's not bad at all. I mean, it just needs a little flavor. Just needs a little, you know, 15, 16 different guys. That's all I'm saying. At the same time? That's you, not me. I want nothing to do with the guys. No, I think like vanilla, Vanilla people just can't understand that. They really have a, the vanilla people I've spoken to really have a hard time. Normal construct is such that it's not meant to happen. You're with one person. I'm not saying that's wrong. No, no, it's not wrong. I mean, we know plenty of people that lead that life and are happy with it, and that's great. But, you know, that's like eating vanilla ice cream all the time. If you're happy with it and it works, And it works great. Every once in a while, man, you gotta do some Rocky Road. Yeah, something a little different. Throw in the occasional mint chocolate chip or something, you know. Yeah, exactly. Live dangerously, you know. I agree. Get that strawberry cheesecake ice cream. Go for it. Oh, yeah. Now you're out there. Tear it up, baby. Tear it up. Tear it up. Yeah. And you know what? Sometimes don't get the cone. Oh, look at you. You are a rebel. You coneless man. No, maybe a pretzel cone. How did this get from sex to food? That is sexy to me. It's like, yeah, ice cream and a pretzel. I made you a dinner tonight that was pretty sexy. Oh, yes, you did. You cook a lot of sexy dinners for me. But anyway, actually, tonight's topic kind of ties into that. Oh, what is tonight's topic? Flirting. Ah, yes. Now. The art of flirting? Yeah, or. Lack thereof. Yeah, I was never... That was my go-to-mail question is, how do you flirt? Oh, I don't think I'm very good at flirting. Okay, I don't know. Our relationship didn't happen through flirting. Ours was just business. It was just meat and potatoes. Yeah, it was business and just developed after a drunken stupor three years later. You're going to blame it on alcohol again, aren't you? And I'm still drinking now. But I guess when I was dancing, yeah, there was a lot more... So that had to be part of your job. Yeah, yeah. Flirting was definitely part of your job. But in my real life, flirting is kind of like not so much. Not so much. You know, there's... Okay, so, well... What? I flirt, but I try to do it actually in an innocent way. But nowadays, you have to be careful. You have to be so careful. Yeah, so... You can't just tell somebody... Okay, let's pretend... Okay. Okay, let's go with the... This might be a bad example. Let's say we go to a house party. Uh-huh. And you see someone that is of interest. How do you go about flirting with them? Hmm. Walk over to them naked? Hey. Hey, want to go downstairs and have some fun? How's your cock? I mean, how are you doing? Well, in a situation like that, you don't really need to flirt. In some ways you might. In a little bit. You can be social. All you have to do is be social. when it gets the job done. Yeah, that's what I was saying. It's kind of a bad scenario. Yeah, it is. Everybody's just like, yeah, we're, you know, all you have to do is ask, and most people are down to whatever. You know, hey, do you want to go downstairs? Not always. Not always, but I mean, generally speaking, most people are, they. Okay, let's pretend you and I were at a regular bar. Okay. Okay, which that almost never happens. No, almost never. Yeah. And let's say we're sitting there, and you're like, oh, my God, that guy over there is hot. and he's obviously single. How would you go, if I said, go ahead, go see if you can get it, how would you do it? Oh, my God. I guess innocently enough, I would just. Hey, you want to see my pussy? I know, I just, you know, introduce myself, say hello, and, you know, see, feel him out first to see if he's. Oh, you go, just put your hand right to his cock? No, I talk to him, see what he's into, see if, hey, maybe just be. because he's there by himself doesn't mean that he's going to want to be part of any kind of sexual anything. Okay, so you're saying this guy's gay. Maybe just not interested for whatever reason. But you don't know that until you flirt with him. Exactly. So excuse me, can you fill out this questionnaire? Yeah, that's exactly what I'm going to do. And that's exactly what I'm going to do. I'm going to text you a PDF. I need you to fill this out for me. Then I'll get back to you in a few minutes. I'll get back to you. Are you okay with signing releases? Do you mind being on film? Well, not even that. Let's pretend it wasn't. Yeah, exactly. You just sat there and saw this guy and go, you know what? I'd like to fuck him. Again, just start out with a regular conversation. See where it goes. Because usually, by the time you drop the You know, you drop the bomb that you're swingers or whatever. Well, you don't have to say that. But they're going to say, well, why? Where's your husband? Well, he's there. If he says it's one thing, he says, are you with that guy? Then you can say, yeah, that's my husband. You know, he's like, oh, he's okay with this? Oh, yeah. You'd be one of many. I mean. You'd be one of many. We're doing a study to see how many men actually will be like, yeah, you can take me home and fuck me. You know, one of those things. Well, I think they'd be more likely to, well, there could be some guys like, that's too fucked up for me. Oh, yeah, there's definitely guys that are going to be, that's too fucked up. Yeah, and I get that, I get that. Yeah, what's the catch? Oh, okay, I'm going to go to your house. Well, I think some guys would be like, your husband's not going to touch me, is he? Exactly, that's one. Or like, oh, they're going to get me to a hotel room and then they're going to tie me up and then rob me. If that's your fantasy, sure. Oh, yeah. There's so many fantasies like that. You never know. For me, I don't flirt to pick a person up, pick a woman up. It's always been for me just having conversation with them. The woman I would pick up at a bar 100 years ago would just be, sitting there and they would sit down near me or next to me. And something might happen and I might make some little, you know, wisecrack or joke, whatever you want to call it. And they would laugh and we'd start a conversation or something like that. Or I could hear part of their conversation and I'd butt in. Well, you know. Really? You know. How does that work? Well, if they're sitting close enough and hears, you know, like say someone says, oh man, I'm just making this up. Don't piss anybody off. Oh my God. The Flyers really suck. Then I would just, like, if I heard that, if they said it loud enough, I can sit there and go, well, the only thing you can count on about a Philadelphia team is that you can't count on them. And they're like, oh, yeah, yeah, right, right. And it starts a conversation. And then that's my door. Oh, I see. You are a scoundrel. I don't have pickup lines. I don't do that. No, no. Pickup lines are so lame, weren't they? Did it hurt when you fell? I didn't fall. Yes, you did. You're an angel. You fell from heaven. Yeah, exactly. What is those stupid things? So many of them, yeah. Whatever. We did a whole show on that one time. Yeah, we did. Ridiculous. But, yeah, no, I was always just, you know, again, back in those days of being single and hanging out in bars and stuff, it was just a matter of just hanging out and being quote-unquote cool. And by that, I mean, I keep it to myself, you know, and if I said something, I was always polite and, you know, whatever. and, you know, didn't have any pickup line, I might say, can I get you a drink? And if they said yeah, then just continue the conversation, see where it goes. A lot of those flirting seem so fake, disingenuous. You can tell when somebody's using a pickup line or some kind of strategy type of a thing. I don't think, I mean, I don't even know if that even works. I don't know why it would. I don't know why it would either. We've seen dopey TV shows where it was all fiction, of course, and they had some kind of a guy and he's talking about how to pick up women and how to do this and then flirt and take control of the situation, all this nonsense. All those things are total nonsense. Just be yourself. There you go. Want to cut to the chase? With flirting, be yourself. Just be yourself. Sure. And that's about it. And that's all I ever did. Yeah, I think it goes further. Which is amazing if I never got laid at all. Stop. But anyway, yeah, it's, yeah, I don't know. I mean, I've seen a lot of people try to flirt. Right. And, you know, do the pickup lines. Oh, my God. So it's cringeworthy. Be overbearing. Yeah. It's so cringey, too. Well, how do you take it? when a guy flirts with you. I mean, I've seen that happen a thousand times, too. Well, if they get cringy on me, I just have to laugh and shake my head. If they're just being, like, chatty and friendly, you know that they're flirting with you, and that's fine. Okay. So here's a question for you, too. What's that? Kind of in the whole process here. So you're at a house party. Uh-huh. How long does it take for a guy to come over and talk to you before you know whether you want to fuck him or not? Oh, geez. Or let him fuck you, however you want to work. However. Hmm. Or have you already kind of scoped a room and said, okay, those three are possibilities, those two definitely not? Yeah, I don't usually figure out that way. Usually they come to me. Yeah, I know. Quick enough, and it's like, it seems like they're going to be fun and whatever, then it's fine. But, you know, usually the guys make it known they want to have some time with me. We'll put it that way. Yeah, when they all go over and take the ticket, you know. I've got number seven. What number do you have? They're trying to fight to see who gets the lower number. Oh, by the Willy Wonka bars, looking for the golden ticket. The golden ticket? Yeah, for sure. All right. Yeah, but usually I'm not scoping. I'm usually too, um... You're in the social mode. The social mode. Yeah, I want to talk to people. When we go, we tend to want to be more social. Right. If the sex thing happens, that's just a bonus, so to speak. Yeah, I want to be social for like the first, you know, 45 minutes or so to see, you know, what's going on. Am I connecting with anybody? Is there any kind of... The last couple parties I've been to with you, I can only be there for about 4.5 minutes before I want to is dragging me down the stairs. I know. I just want to, like, talk to people, you know, and just enjoy the social aspect of it. Yeah, meanwhile, you're being drugged down there into the basement as soon as you get there. I'm like, where did my husband go? Jesus Christ. Like, there should be a question. Yeah, I know. Exactly. Exactly. But, yeah, as far as flirting goes, I'm very uncomfortable with flirting. I feel like it's very You have a very flirtatious personality. I do. Yeah, very bubbly. Doesn't show on this podcast, but she does. Not even a little bit. But no, when you're in a group, people are always like, oh my God, Donna's so great. She's so bubbly and friendly and everything else. I'm like, is there another Donna here? And you're looking around and I'm saying, what? What are you talking about? Where's this other Donna? I'd like to meet her. She sounds fun. Fuck you. She's got to be hotter than my wife. I'm sure. She's such a jerk. I love you so much. We're just such a jerk. I love you too sometimes. Sometimes. When you're asleep. Not snoring. Shut up. Don't be talking about my snoring. Oh, I'm going to record it and bring it on the show. Oh, I'm sure. That would be frightening, wouldn't it? So do we. It would be frightening. All right. So, yeah, just curious about, you know, flirting. What do you do if you do it? Yeah, I don't do a whole lot. Not when it comes to that. I mean, you did back when you were a dancer. That's a whole different, yeah, but that was very... Flirting to get more money. Flirting to get money. Flirting for fun, eh. It comes off, like I said, kind of corny and, you know, fake. Okay, but you picked up a few guys in the bar in your years. Yeah. One you wound up living with for 10 years. How did that happen? Did you flirt with them? I mean, you already had your tits out, so it's kind of like... Yeah, come on. That's an easy flirt. It's like, look, I'm wearing an eye patch over my snatch, and my tits are hanging out, so... I guess I'm flirting. Is there anything else I need to do to get your attention? Not a whole lot. I was up on stage, bending over, winking my asshole through my thong, my G-string, blowing your kisses in my asshole. Nothing says flirting like blown kisses with your asshole. It's like, oh, I want you. That's like the worst kind of flirting ever. Well, it depends on how you want to look at it. Yeah, that was heavy flirting. Oh, my God. If you're really into anal and the girl's like, you know, puckering her ass at you, you're like, I got possibilities. Yeah, there you go. You know, I think she's got my attention. I'm going to give it to her. That's interesting. That's interesting flirting right there. I hadn't thought about that before. No, I really didn't. I was like, oh, shit, you're right. But the whole thing was just all flirting. You're just trying to be, you know. You're not going to make much money as a dancer if you go there and be an ignorant bitch. Well, that's true. Or, you know. Or somewhere, but that's a different story. Definitely. So. But yeah, you had to really, you know, get in tune with them, you know, make some Eye contact, you know, maybe a little wink or something like that. I got you. All right. But in the real world, I don't do that. No, I think you might get fired from your job. Yeah, but, you know, wink at your customers. Pulling your pants down at work, winking your asshole. Yeah, I don't think they would go for that too much. Okay, I think I'm done with this one. Enough flirting for me for one night. All right. So again, check out 50shadesofpleasure.com, the free magazine. It is basically right now a BDSM-flavored magazine. BDSM-ish. Ish, yeah. So it's free. Check it out. Don't forget the emails, info at hotwifepodcast.com. If you have any questions, comments, ideas for a show topic, if you want to call in and be part of one of our shows, love to have that. If you reach out to us, we'll coordinate a time to have you call in, and we'll record a show. And also, don't forget. Uh-oh, hotwipedonnellin.com. Yeah. See what I'm and who I'm doing. There you go. Having some fun. Not a whole lot of flirting going on there. Just fun. No, just right to the point. Just right to the point. Yeah. Points right at his dick and takes it. So, anyway. Don't waste time. No. Anyway, stay horny. Have a great night, everybody.