In this episode of the Hot Wife Podcast, the hosts discuss the dynamics of relationships and friendships within the swinger lifestyle. They emphasize the importance of community, trust, and genuine connections that go beyond just sexual encounters. The conversation highlights listener engagement, the eroticism of the lifestyle, and the benefits of having friends who share similar interests and values.TakeawaysThe podcast is intended for adults over 18.Listener engagement is encouraged and appreciated.Friendships in the lifestyle can be genuine and fulfilling.Sex is not always the top priority in lifestyle relationships.Building trust is essential for deeper connections.Friendships can exist without sexual involvement.The lifestyle community is more accepting of diverse interests.It's important to be true to oneself in relationships.Life is short, and enjoyment should be prioritized.Friendships can enhance the overall experience in the lifestyle.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/hot-wife-podcast-and-the-swinger-lifestyle--5343522/support. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
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Speaker1: Welcome to the Hot Wife Podcast, where we dive into discussions about relationships, intimacy, and everything in between. Before we begin, we want to make it clear that the views expressed on this podcast are solely those of the host and guests, and should be taken as opinions, not professional or medical advice. Additionally, we remind all listeners that this podcast is intended for adults over the age of 18. Unauthorized rebroadcast of this show is strictly prohibited without the written permission of the owners of Hot Wife Podcast. Now let's heat things up. hello everybody this is donna lynn and welcome to my hot wife podcast i play with my nipples and you were playing with your nipples too so don't even give me that i'm just saying Yeah, both of. Because I play with my nipples. And you were playing with your nipples too, so don't even give me that. I'm just saying. Yeah, both of us were like playing with our nipples as the intro started. Just making jokes. Just being our wise-ass selves. That only we can appreciate. Yeah, because you guys can't see it, and thank God you can't. Thank God. You're not missing much, really. It's not like we're sitting here nude doing it. Not this. It's too fucking cold. It would flatter you, not me. I would have things that should be out that would be inside of my body. I'm not going to say which signs. They would pop out. Well, your lips would pop in, but your nipples would pop out. Nipples might pop out, but the lips were definitely popping in. It wouldn't be good. I'd look like a woman in this room. Yeah, it's not even going to go there. Wow. That hurt. That hurt teeth, didn't it? I'm going to cry myself to sleep tonight. As you mute my mic, right? No. I'm not me and your mic now. Okay. I'm going to turn myself to sleep tonight. Okay, that's fine. I hope you're happy. I hope you can live with yourself. I can definitely live with myself. All right, just checking. Yeah, well, we're getting to like a warmer, you know, stretch, so this should be pretty cool. Well, we hope it is. Pretty nice. Yeah. Hey, we always talk about, you know, the info at hotwifepodcast.com. And again, more people reaching out to us, which we love. Speaker2: Yeah. We do. Speaker1: We keep in front of one gentleman who's a cuckold. Yes, we're talking to you. I'm not going to mention his name. I don't think there's a lot of people with the name he gives me. I can't say if that's his nickname or his real name. I don't know, but I'm not going to mention it. But he knows, and he enjoys hearing that we talk about him um we do it's an unusual situation he really went on the edge and was true to himself wow hey i god bless him man that's great we told him be true to's short. Yeah. As long as everyone is consenting. Speaker2: Exactly. Speaker1: I'll just put it this way. He's one of my favorite cookies. It's wide open. It's wide open. You know? Oh, yeah. You didn't know anybody named Chips Ahoy, did you? No, I did not. Well, we have a listener, Chips Ahoy. Chips Ahoy out there. We know. We're talking about you. If we just get someone named Ice Cold Milk, we'd have a couple. We'd have a couple. So, yeah, I mean, he's living the life, man. Yeah, that's great. And by that, not necessarily something we practice, but it is something he is doing and loving every second and expanding upon it and enjoying every moment. We gave him advice advice he talked about how he would love to tell more people about it but it's like no it's one of the things about the swinger lifestyle about the lifestyle oh yeah it's kind of erotic that you have this dirty little secret it is very erotic you can't tell your vanilla friends but since we're on a when you're a lifestyle website or meet and greet type of thing, to them it's it's no big deal so you could have the most kinkiest fetish and people will be like yeah i might not be into that but i have friends who are and they can you know well they'll be accepting they'll be very accepting it's like we talked about like working commercial america you know like you You were saying you would go into work. Corporate America. On a Monday, corporate America. Yeah, yeah. And they're like, hey, Donna, how was your weekend? And you couldn't sit there and go, well, I had sex with eight different guys. Yeah. You couldn't say that. Yeah, I was like, oh, man, I had two black guys and blah. No, you can't say that. You can't say that, yeah. In my mind, I am, ah. I just said, oh, it was very relaxing.
Speaker2:
I had a fun weekend. I had a fun weekend. It was fun. I'll tell you what I did that was fun. What would you do? My definition of fun, your definition of fun, maybe different. Might be different, yep.
Speaker1:
If you had the same idea, we would compare notes. Have you ever done DP?
Speaker2:
No.
Speaker1:
Then my weekend was much more interesting. Well, you haven't done DP. Not in a real long time. Just a long, long time ago. But let me just say it. Once you get healed, watch out. Oh, boy. No holes barred? Is that what that is? Basically. But, yeah, no, we love hearing from people. Like we heard from somebody. Now, I'm going to give his name out. Uh-oh. I'm sure he's the only one named this in the whole world. Right, exactly, in the whole world. World, because it's weird to think that people in other countries listen to us, but apparently they do. Charlie. Okay, so Charlie, you're out. We all know that. I know there's seven Charlies in the entire world. On the seven Charlies you know, the first three aren't the ones. It's the fourth Charlie you know. That fourth Charlie? Oh, yeah. This is who we're talking about. He's a little freak. Oh. No, it's a compliment. Kind of odd for me, but okay. He confessed that he loves to masturbate to our show. He loves to be a nudist. He loves to do a nudist, yep. Stuff like that. So Charlie, if you're out there and nude, I hope you're stroking it to our voices. Not mine. Okay, definitely to mine. Yeah. You can stroke it to my voice. I don't mind. There you go. Yeah, he said he has a clean-up comma. Yeah, God's great, man. He must have a big load. I'd like to see that. Write to Donna yeah email us a little video that'd be great vince i'm watching her but only knows his info at hot yeah well i pass it on oh there you go if someone sends me a video of this video is for donna i make sure he passes it on i don't don't need to see it what you're jealous is that what it is no i just don't need to see it you know it's yeah can't you appreciate the art of a big load vince it is i can appreciate it but i don't have to see it it's like cat videos i can appreciate them i don't need to see them i like a big lover cat dog videos i love i like pussy videos oh that's a different okay all right i found that out the hard way um but anyway so tonight's topic is all about friendships in the lifestyle and again these emails we get once you start emailing us you're're a friend. You're a friend. You're not bugging us. Now, we like it. You know, a couple of you, I was like, oh, I just wanted to say this. This is the last email. I don't want to bug you. You're not bugging us. We are no one special. At least I'm not. Donna tells me all the time. Yeah, I do. I make sure he knows, honey, you're no one special.
Speaker2:
Yeah. There you are.
Speaker1:
And that has nothing to do with the podcast.
Speaker3:
That's just life in general.
Speaker1:
That's just life in general. Oh, come on. I think you're very special, hon. Come on. Yeah, with the helmet and I ride the short bus. Well, I didn't say what kind of special. I just said you're special. Thank you. That's all right. That's all right. I'm okay with that. You're going to cry yourself this thing, though? Window is my favorite flavor. But anyway. So we want to, you know, again, if you're a listener, we consider you a friend that you, for whatever reason, tolerate us, and, you know, people like Charlie and my favorite cookie, you know, who email us and let us know, and others, and we're going to talk about last night and tonight, now, this will be, it shouldn't yeah what day last few nights how's that yeah we've actually uh gone out with um some of our friends slash donna's playmates yep just for casual dinner and friends yep there's a social activity no sex involved and that that's kind of the nice thing i do like about the lifestyle is like you do have friends and you do have sex with them but in certain circumstances it could be just social and everybody's cool with that i'm sure most people are yeah we try to stress friends friends first yes absolutely and i'm sure these guys would have been very happy to accommodate them i said hey why don't you come back and come back and bang the shit out of me? I'm sure they would be like, oh, okay. Well, maybe they would have said, hey, another time. Who knows? I mean, they might have other commitments. Wait, I'm buying drinks, and I could have just banged you instead? Banged you instead? Oh, my God. But, I mean, they were so cool. It's like, no, this is just a social thing because they had things to do afterwards. Yeah. You know, so it's great. It's always great to have the friends that are in the lifestyle. Like we said before, they're so accepting. Mm-hmm. And everybody has different things going on in their lives, and both these guys do too, like all kinds of, you know. Different aspects. Different aspects of it. And everybody's very accommodating and accepting, and, you know, you have to have that leeway because everybody has different commitments in life and things that they have to do besides sex believe it or not sex is not always the top priority whoa whoa i know what show am i on i know i should break my tongue on that one i know you're looking at i don't even know you anymore i know priority. Oh, you said it again. I know. Isn't it horrible? I should bite my tongue, right? Welcome to the Hot Husband Podcast, where sex is everything. Speaking like a true man. Wow. Okay, wait, that's not necessarily... That's not an insult. That's not an insult. Okay, I'm good with that. Most men are definitely more sex-driven than most women. In general. And you know what? It'd be a better world if more women were sex-driven. And women would say, I wish men were not quite so sex-driven. What do women? I know, exactly. What do we know? We're just in the kitchen cooking. No, you're not. Exactly. Exactly my point. I have never walked in the kitchen to cook. That is not my- Words never said by Donna. What can I make you for dinner? No, unless it's something like salad. Where can I go buy you dinner? Yeah, that's more like it. That's more of it. But anyway, no, like, so last night we had dinner with a friend who, as I've stated countless times on the show, I am not gay. But, you know what? There's a but in there. But, you know what? After last night, if I had any inclinations, and I don't, to take on a lover, male, that would have been him. That would have been him. Yeah. Not only is he a great guy. Right. He is a great guy. He's a phenomenal guy. He's a phenomenal guy. Love talking with him, hanging out with him. It was great. As was the guy we went out to tonight. Tonight. The guy last night brought me two bottles of Buffalo Trace. Bourbon. Yep. I got a gift of chocolates. I could be a gay bitch for him. I really could. Vincent, what you would do for a bottle of Buffalo Trace? Now, what would you do? Two bottles. No, no. One bottle? Yeah, I'll shake his hand real good. Two bottles now we're talking. A chance something might happen. Especially if you drank them both. Well, if I did then, yeah. You wouldn't know. You'd be a blabber. Four bottles. Oh, my God. You'd be his bitch for life. Oh, okay. Well, at least the four bottles ran out. Exactly. There you go. You do have your limits. I'm so glad you are. I'm not that cheap. Not that cheap. Exactly. You know, every time you put that in front of a word, it is that bad. Oh, I'm not that bad. I'm not that fat i'm not that i might be yes you are desperate you might be that desperate no but anyway let's get back to the friendship thing um no we have i mean we've made friends with guys um come over and help us do work around the house yes Yes, my playmates have actually helped us put down and tear up decks and stuff. And we have plenty of offers from other guys. Hey, let me know. I'll come over and help.
Speaker2:
You know.
Speaker1:
I wonder if there's like payback in there or something. Well, I'm sure there's some spunk loop needed. So we're done working. Do we get to, I get to bang a deck. i get the bang donna too banging nails donna's next you shouldn't be banging nails we're screwing oh that's even better oh that's even better yeah no it's um again it can be said for regular friends that you could have good friends that come over and help you and everything else but one of the cool things it's a different relationship oh yeah because most these guys are i well no actually all these guys have had sex with me or i've had sex with all of them or if there's women involved they have a girlfriend we've all had sex together so you know it's it's different we've been intimate physically intimate. Most people can't say that about their best friends or friends in general. The thing is, I found that, like, the normal friends that don't involve swinging. Right. They're okay. They'll come by occasionally or whatever. Right. But a lot of times, like, oh, I'm doing my hair that day. I can't help you with that. I hate that excuse. But, you know, a lot of times, like, the friends we've made through the lifestyle are a lot more genuine. Yeah, that one friend, he actually did come over and actually did help us. A couple times. Yeah, he was like, don't you have anything heavy for me to lift? I want to work out. I'm like, really? And he's not a big guy. No, no, he's not. But he likes to work out. He's fairly muscular. I mean, he's our age. So it's great. I was like, oh, I can give you something heavy. Wait till we have firewood, buddy. Ooh, that's why I should get to help us with the next one. Well, we had the one last night asked. He said, oh, let me know.
Speaker2:
Let me know.
Speaker1:
You know, we could have a chain of guys.
Speaker3:
Oh, my God.
Speaker1:
I better get my mouth ready. Or whatever. Or whatever. Whatever hole was available that day. Thank you. night asked yeah let me know let me know you know we could have a chain of oh my god i better get my mouth ready and stuff or whatever or whatever whatever hole was available that day keep one warm one place and i gotta i gotta get healed quickly it's even like i said i actually find um that they tend to be more genuine genuine yes you did you know again people in the lifestyle i I mean, it's not genuine, yes. You know, again, people in the lifestyle, I mean, it's not like, oh, you know, like a married friend or whatever. It's like, oh, well, my wife's got me doing this or whatever, you know. Again, in a married thing, a vanilla thing. Yeah, right, vanilla. You know, it's like, oh, you're going to go over there.
Speaker2:
You know, and there could be the potential thing of, you know, even though I'm here or whatever, they could be like, oh, you know, you're going to go over and, you know, Donna, you know, some people are jealous of you. You're an attractive woman. They're never jealous of me, but. Oh, stop. I think I'm a damn okay i don't know i i i really think the hot husband podcast is it's it has something you just wait it's gonna take over i i think it will take joe rogan get out of the way um no but that's just frightening. It is.
Speaker1:
Oh God. Um, but no, they tend to be, um, I don't know, more sincere.
Speaker2:
Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker1:
I, I agree. Like the couple that holds a house party. I mean, you know, um, I know in general, either one of them would help us with anything we
Speaker2:
need. Yeah.
Speaker1:
I know they would.
Speaker2:
Absolutely. You know? Um.
Speaker1:
I mean, within reason.
Speaker2:
Yeah.
Speaker1:
Thank you. So in general, either one of them would help us with anything we need. Yeah, I know they would, absolutely. You know? I mean, within reason, yeah. If you're physically able to do it, I wouldn't expect you to. I mean, I'm not saying like, hey, I need you to build me a new house. Yeah, exactly, nothing like that. Yeah, I find, again, we our, our profile that we're looking for friends first. Well, that way you have like, I mean, the sex is great. Don't get me wrong. It's like we talked about a million times. Strange sex is very erotic, but when you have a chemistry with somebody that you really like as a person, it actually means a lot more to you when you do get together. if you don't get together it's still that's fine like if our relationship or my relationship with my playmates was only based on sex and sex alone going out to dinner them would not maybe mean as much or the hot date wouldn't be quite as socially involved and you wouldn't have the dynamic of going out on a quote hot date it'd just be sex right you don't have that social interaction yeah and that's what i really like i mean they're just great people to hang with and the dating aspect is nice in a sense of one there's a level of eroticism to it sure absolutely like you know um a couple who has a house party right exactly we could easily i could go out on a date with his wife absolutely and yeah there's a level of eroticism there right that you know people would buy you could be his partner and they would oh yeah i could be it's not like not like I'm going out with someone who's like 19. Yeah. I look a little odd. Oh. And the fact that we kind of all enjoy each other's company. Right. Loaner together. Exactly. Loaner in pairs up and down stairs whatever it is. Slinky. Slinky. The mind is a terrible thing to waste. Yeah, that's why I never got one. But yeah, it's kind of fun and relaxing, if that makes sense. Well, it's a very comfortable relationship because we have built that friendship. The friendship and the trust. And the trust. So we, we built this relationship and yes while sex is a part of it it is not the main part it is a part sure and it's a fun part don't get me wrong i mean you know the house party is always erotic and having sex with different people is always erotic and fun but there is something nice i just have a casual social, which is just as fulfilling as a sexual one could be, you know? It's just more comfortable. You could call it sexual. But even like when we go to, say, a house party.
Speaker2:
Right.
Speaker1:
And one of the women comes over and sits on my lap.
Speaker2:
Right.
Speaker1:
And then just starts talking to me and we kiss or whatever. Or I look across the room and I see, you know, guys, guys arm around you and you guys are kissing. Right. You know, it's it's comforting right in a sense it's like okay i know she's not in a dangerous situation exactly and two it's like she's having fun right i don't i don't read more into it yeah exactly yeah some people would but that's why they're probably not in the lifestyle that's true that's very true and and having the friends that are that are just part of the lifestyle like we said before that whatever you're into it just seems like this whole community is a little more accepting they're a little more embracing like the the auditive fetishes those have. I think there is a level of which critiquing happens to make sure you fit inside of their comfort zone. Okay, we went to dinner the other week with a couple that wanted me originally to take pictures. Oh, yes, I remember. And they were a nice couple. Oh, they were fun to be be with but i think when it was all said and done they didn't feel the connection they were looking for i mean i went there just because they wanted me to take pictures right exactly there's no playing no concept of anything else right but i don't know what they were looking for but i got the general gist like nope this isn't gonna work whatever they wanted somebody to take pictures and also somebody they might or a couple they might want to play with yeah but in the fact that right now you're still in repair right um i think that voided it for them i don't know i don't know i haven't heard i haven't heard from nope nope and you probably won't. That's okay. That's fine. No sweat off my ass. Nope. That's a disgusting thought. But anyway, you know, so, and that's fine. That's where we go to a public place and have drinks and or food together. Right. And we determine, is there going to be any connection for anything and for a connection to happen you need both sides to click so no sweat but that's the really nice thing about meeting in a public place because if it doesn't click it's like oh look got to go home and, you know, take care of my dogs or whatever excuse you use. You know, you can leave. If they come to your house, you're kind of, ah, stuck there. You know, it's like that. Well, here's a question. Do you know of a website for vanilla couples to meet other vanilla couples to develop friendships? Good question. I know there's dating sites out there, obviously. Yeah, couples don't date or they'd be swingers, wouldn't they? Well, yeah. Well, maybe. Yeah. So I'm saying outside of, if you are married and you don't have friends. Right. You're only going to make friends either A, someone you work with. Right. B, your neighbors. Or C, like something that is a social activity that maybe your kids are in. Or there might be other websites that are, usually they're hobby-based. You might have a reading website where people get together, like reading groups or book clubs or knitting or whatever people, you know, there's little airplanes, I i'm sure there's groups there's all kinds of groups that have those little motorized airplanes and remote control remote control cars and airplanes that fuck you going yeah there's all kinds of those kinds of hobby like groups hobby centric yeah but i mean other than like couples meeting other couples i no idea. Unless you go on some kind of a cruise where people have similar interests, I have no idea. That's a good point. I don't know. Swingers always have a website that they can kind of- Meet other people. Meet other people who are like-minded. Yeah, and your profile generally spells out what you like, the kind of people you're looking to meet. Yep. picture of who you are, generally. Generally, at least certain parts of you anyway. Well, you know, it depends what you want to show. Exactly. And generally you can determine, like, okay, that takes out a lot of, again, we're looking for someone or someone's for this. Right, if that's a lot of people who may not fit that. You can gauge, okay, we live this close or that far from that. Yeah, we've had people reach out to us from like California and, you know. Florida. Florida, I'm like, yeah. A lot of New York people. Yeah, it's like, I'm not going up to New York and they're not going to come down here. So, I mean, it's nice that they reach out and say hi, but that's as far as it's going gonna go i'm not yeah can't take a day trip but again again the um theme of the show is about friendships in the lifestyle and uh again not trying to sell anyone on being in the lifestyle we're just telling you here's some of the what we see is a benefit yeah benefits and maybe not the benefits I don't know it depends how you want to look at it oh no the friendship is definitely a benefit i think again building friendships with people that are of the same mindset so people you can trust you know um you know um that might share the same fetish that's important especially if you have something that's a little bit outside the normal realm sure again normal is all subjective exactly exactly what's normal for us is you know not normal for vanilla people but we know people that are way more off on the edge than we are with things and we're like oh right we're not into that, but you have fun with that. Like the whole cuckold thing. That's what I marvel at. I'm like, hey, if you like it, buy it. But again, it's like my favorite cookie. He's into the cuckold stuff. He's into it. That's great, man. God bless you. Yeah. That's, you know, he's living his life. Yeah. And he has to do him. Exactly. You do have to, you have to be you. Yeah. And be true to yourself. That's it. Life's short. Yeah. As long as no one's being hurt and you're all consenting. Embrace it. And enjoy it. And of age. And of age, absolutely. Just, you know, enjoy it. Again, if we've said it before, you base your life on an orgasm. you know, if you have distrust that you think your mate is going to leave you because they got an orgasm from somebody else, you need to step back, take a look at like, okay, is there anything wrong that this person, my mate is going to leave me because they got an orgasm from XYZ over there? Yeah, there's a whole lot more to dig up than that maybe take a look at that relationship because you there's other things there yep that you're not looking at right so again um if you're in the lifestyle i'm sure you can confirm with us that um you know you treasure the relationships you have and if you're not in the lifestyle you're thinking about it you might want to experiment and find out that, you know you treasure the relationships you have and if you're not in the lifestyle and you're thinking about it you might want to experiment and find out that you know there's a lot more to it than just sex I mean yeah the the couple that has a house party have another couple that they've been friends with for years and years vacation together yeah they go scuba diving together and vacation so I mean I don't know how often they do or do not have sex together. It seems like it's whatever. I think it's semi-regular. Yeah, semi-regular. So, I mean, but even they have so much more that they do together as a friend. And as a foursome, they go all kinds of places. So that just adds to it. And, I mean, what can be greater than that? You i mean yeah so friends friends with benefits that's it all right and again info and hot wife podcast love to hear from you um whether you have comments questions statements uh ideas for shows i'd love to hear it so with that i'm gonna'm going to tell everyone to stay horny. Have a great night, everybody.
