In this episode of the Hot Wife Podcast, the hosts discuss the concept of Death Grip Syndrome, a non-medical term describing the consequences of excessive tight gripping during masturbation. Joe, a guest on the show, shares his personal experiences with this syndrome, including how it affected his sexual health and relationships. The conversation delves into the dynamics of masturbation, the impact of abstaining from sexual activities, and the differences in sexual drives between men and women. The hosts also reflect on societal perceptions of masturbation and its importance in adult life.takeawaysThe Hot Wife Podcast explores relationships and intimacy.Death Grip Syndrome is a real concern for some men.Masturbation can lead to physical issues if done excessively.Abstaining from sexual activities can be challenging but necessary for recovery.Masturbation allows for personal exploration of sexual desires.There are differences in how men and women experience sexual drive.Societal views on masturbation are evolving.Communication about sexual health is important in relationships.Personal experiences can shed light on broader sexual health issues.Understanding one's body is key to maintaining sexual health.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/hot-wife-podcast-and-the-swinger-lifestyle--5343522/support. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
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Speaker1: Welcome to the Hot Wife Podcast, where we dive into discussions about relationships, intimacy, and everything in between. Before we begin, we want to make it clear that the views expressed on this podcast are solely those of the host and guests, and should be taken as opinions, not professional or medical advice. Additionally, we remind all listeners that this podcast is intended for adults over the age of 18. Unauthorized rebroadcast of this show is strictly prohibited without the written permission of the owners of Hot Wife Podcast. Now let's heat things up. hello everybody this is donna lynn and welcome to my heart by podcast of course i'm here with the brains behind the whole operation is vince right then and the looks oh geez i forgot that I don the brains. Oh, yeah, you're the inspiration, you are the alpha and the omega, okay. Well, we have a special guest with us today. I'm going to introduce Joe. Hello, everybody. Yeah, we've known Joe for quite a while. A couple years now. He needs to get out and make better friends. I was thinking that. Yeah, and Joe's been a playmate of mine. Am I allowed to say that? Okay. So we've had some fun in the past. A lot of fun, actually. And why don't you heal up a little more in the future? I hope so. This is just going on way too long. Let's go on a happier note now. Well, it's quick info at Hot Wife Podcast. So if you want to reach out to us, we just had an email today that we got that we're going to do a second podcast after this one, addressing that gentleman's email. Ooh, so we'll be listening for that one. That one's going to be spacey. But anyway. Speaker2: Yeah. Speaker1: Yeah, so info at Hot Wife Podcast. Any ideas, questions, comments, things you want to talk about? If you want to call into the show, let us know. We'll set it up. All right, and Joe is here to talk about? Death grip syndrome. Thank you. If you want to call into the show, let us know. We'll set it up. So, all right. And Joe is here to talk about... Death grip syndrome. I did not even look this up. I meant to. I love their music. Death grip. That would be a great name of a group. I'm thinking five-figure death punch. Yeah, death grip syndrome. So, Joe, you got to tell us a little bit of back story about this because how the heck did you get this syndrome we went out to dinner yeah uh two weeks ago yeah yes and in just our conversations and catching up uh you know since we hadn't seen him in a while uh he had mentioned he suffered from death grip syndrome and and we said both looked I'm like, what the fuck is that? Don't talk about this. We're going to talk about this. Well, he explained briefly what it was and that it's a real thing. And then we said, okay, we need to do a show. This is going to be very interesting. So take it away, Joe. All right. So. Oh, you brought notes in. Yeah. The definition is a non-scientific name to describe the consequences of masturbating with too tight a grip on your pecker. I didn't know that was a thing. Does that count pinching? Because some of us don't have no pinching. Okay. I mean, some of us can't really get a grip on our dicks. Our dicks aren't that big just got to pinch it you know two fingers that's two fingers oh um and it's not officially recognized in the medical war medical world yet okay no too bad all right well what are the symptoms of this yeah so let me just uh back up? How did you get here? So I was in a sexless marriage for many years. And after the birth of our two daughters, sex completely stopped. As I know, it slows down a bit for some folks. Yeah, once you get the marriage license. Yeah. So my bride decided, you know, we both decided that she would stay home and raise them and um i had a second job and was working my tail off and and quite frankly it was the first time ever that i you know think about a guy thinks about sex 24 7 right um just was wiped out and sleep became my number one priority um along with taking care of the girls and the missus. Sure. So when I needed a release, yeah, self-pleasuring took center stage. And over time, yeah, I would just, you know, I needed a release and didn't realize that I was gripping on quite tightly. And so it was typically a quick, you know, I need a release. Ah, yeah. Some girl at work just got fired up. Especially now with spring coming. You know, you go see girls wearing less and less. Right. So I'd go take care of business. And of course, it was a quickie. So it was grip it tight, go fast, and get your release. And not really realizing that I was doing some damage to my… So this happened a while ago. This was a while. Yeah. I thought this was a recent… This might have started, I'm going back, 24 years. Wow. When you haven't been afflicted with it for 24 years. No. That's when it just kind of, when it happened. Again, self-pleasuring started taking center stage to having regular sex. Oh, boy. Yeah. So over time, let's see, introduction of porn on the website didn't help things. And I was addicted to porn. And then I started working from home, which was even worse because, well, let's just check this, you know. And my porn needs and wants got more, you know, more taboo, if you will, you know. Wow. I didn't know about this. So, but with the death grip part, is it a matter, because you shot with guys, I can't say we, you shot with guys, that they want their dick gripped really, really tight.
Speaker2:
Really hard.
Speaker1:
And that's the only way they received pleasure, had to be, you know, like vice gripped.
Speaker2:
Sure.
Speaker1:
Is that where it got to be for you? It started naturally.
Speaker3:
It was organic.
Speaker1:
It was just the way I masturbated. I gripped it tight, and I wanted it to happen quick and as fast as I can. Wow. Boom. But not realizing I was doing some nerve damage. Oh, wow. Okay, so you can hurt yourself. Yes. Yeah, it's pretty serious. I'm thinking just like an arthritic condition. After several years, I remember raking leaves. One November, and we have quite a few leaves in our yard. And my right shoulder was just, oh, shit. I think this is rotator. Oh, that's what- So I went to the doctor, and he said, oh, you don't need surgery, but you're getting there. Whatever you're doing, like, are you playing baseball or what's going on? And, of course, I was embarrassed to tell him what was happening. You think that's what caused the problem not the raking of the leaves but the masturbation I think it was a combination yeah like the raking overuse right on top of what some damage was already kind of so wow stop the right that was a bummer so what what do you do? Left hand. Gotta go left. Gotta go left. So it took a while, a couple weeks, and I perfected the left. Wow, that's good. Practice. Oh, my God. Wow. Every time I think about this story, I was telling Vince this this morning i said i reflect back to the one episode of family guy where quagmire realizes that there's free porn on the internet and they don't see him for days where is he they see him again his right arm is huge and muscular his left arm is normal and they're like hey have you been working out yeah but only one arm but yeah so then um when sex started back up a little bit um i could not ejaculate that vaginal sex i was unable to and was like oh my god is it hers you know and again um and folks if you haven't seen 50 shades yeahades, yeah, definitely check out this month's episode. Or not episode.
Speaker2:
The magazine.
Speaker1:
The magazine issue. Fifty Shades of Pleasure, yeah. But there is an article that Vince put for Death Grip Syndrome. It's well-written.
Speaker2:
Thank you.
Speaker1:
And it does mention it can cause some marital or partner issues. Oh, my God. Yeah, I guess your body gets used to a certain sensation, and that's when you equate with ejaculation and orgasm. Right. And then going back to something else that doesn't feel the same might inhibit your orgasm, or you can't have an orgasm. The one thing about, and we've talked about this, masturbation, one thing good about masturbation is you can really get into whatever floats your boat that day you know you sit there and say hey um you know i'm into an older woman today or hey today i'm into um you know i want to see anal or whatever it might be right you know versus when you you're having sex with your partner, you know, some partners only do certain things and it's just very repetitive. You know, you could say, hey, I'm in the mood for a redhead. I'm in the mood for a blonde. I'm in the mood for whatever. I'm in the mood for multiple women, you know. So masturbation allows you to feed that fantasy or that desire or hunger, so to speak, I think. I get that. So that's where, if you're in a relationship potentially, again, we're officially authorities on nothing. True. And you want something different if your mate, I mean, I had a girl I dated for a while that we talked about, that she only did missionary or doggy. That was it. She didn't give oral. She didn't, you know, didn't even want to put her hand on my dick. So, you know, if you're in a relationship like that, I can see where, like, masturbation becomes, you know, I don't want cheese pizza every time. I'd like, hey, I want some mushrooms on it. I want some sausage on it. I want some pepperoni on it, whatever. You know, so you get to mix it up. The only thing that I'm seeing in this, besides the psychological effect, is that the fact that Joe needed to grab it quick, grab it tight, grab it quick, and have an orgasm. There wasn't, like, that time for fantasy, was there? Well, if you're living at home with a wife and kids. Yeah, you just want to get it over with right you know so you don't have time for that you can't go in the bathroom you know for you know half an hour an hour and pleasures yeah well the interest interesting thing was um when i was working from home and nobody was there i could watch six minute porn and um but still it was uh i was just used to the rapid right i might not even finish the and I'm whoop I get it but it causes nerve damage again it's not a medically recognized so anyway fast forward a year ago what's wrong I a physical. I haven't been to the doc in a while. So go in, tell him what's happening. And he says he encountered something a couple years ago. Again, it's not a medical term. And he's the first one that said death grip syndrome. And logically, it made sense. So he said, before we get into fixing that, let's get blood work. Let's check your vitals, blood pressure, all that good stuff. So we went through a whole battery of tests. Everything came back positive. Good testosterone levels. Ruled out that there was nothing physically wrong with me. So step two was, all right, how do we remedy this this yeah so um did they do any kind of probably neurological test like an electromylogram or something like that they did not no you're lucky but yeah but that would have definitely there's some kind of nerve damage that would be another battery of tests they could do so the doc said sit down strap in a cure or recommend a cure abstain from sex self-pleasuring porn and any racy tv shows for 30 days Thank you. A cure, or recommend a cure, abstain from sex, self-pleasuring, porn, and any racy TV shows for 30 days. Oh, my God. Did you go through withdrawal? It was the hardest thing I ever did. How many days do you think I lasted? Three. I think he's strong enough to do a week. A week, okay. 12 days, believe it or closest without going over so that was part of the remedy the second remedy if i had to take care of myself looser grip and slower and more lube exactly yeah and that's in this case spunk lube you gotta use spunk lube for that. I hope you're using something.
Speaker2:
Actually, some guys don't like lubricant when they're jerking off. They like that. They can't get a good grip with spunk lube or any kind of lubricant,
Speaker1:
and they like that.
Speaker2:
But that could be problems, lead to problems.
Speaker1:
Yeah, I don't use it.
Speaker2:
I don't grip it tight, though. No.
Speaker1:
Yeah. I don't grip it lightly. I can't remember where it's at. Bop it. You know where it's at. So I must say, yeah, abstaining. And then when I went to take care of myself. Yeah, it was a huge orgasm, of course. Oh, yeah, of course. Actually, that would make it. Corticum. Yeah. Plus. And again, yeah, it's. I wonder if women can have a syndrome like that. I'm pretty sure. I wouldn't call it death grip. I don't know what you'd call it. I don't, but, you know, but using vibrators so much. I mean, I can see that. But do you ever hear women getting addicted to porn? No. No. I'm sure it happens, but it's just not the common. We're not typically visual creatures like you guys are. We're more emotional. You know, I can look at something and say, yeah, it's very sexy, but I don't think I could jerk off to it or rub one out to it. I don't know if I could do that. I mean, sometimes it's very erotic, but... Well, it's a lot easier for a woman. If a woman gets horny, she could find a guy, her husband, boyfriend, both, whatever. Oh, not necessarily. Strangers on the corner and get it taken care of.
Speaker2:
Right.
Speaker1:
Where men... Yeah. You know, like I said, whoever has the pussy rules. I've been told that. I've been told that. It's the truth. No, I... Agreed. Yeah. That's why... If women had the same sex drive as men, we wouldn't have road rage. You wouldn't have marriage because everybody would just be fucking. Yeah, that could be a problem. Well, we could have marriage. I mean, some people... Oh, yeah, but I mean, that definitely could lead to either... I guess if they were equal, I guess it would be a little more harmonious because both would be thinking along the same things. I just don't know if things would get done as quickly. You know what I mean? I think marriages might last longer because how many couples break up because sex stops and then they go cheat or whatever. because, you know, how many couples break up because sex stops? Then they go cheat or whatever. So, you know. And that's why we're in the lifestyle. But if, okay, Joe is kind of in a situation like that where, like he said about the loveless kind of marriage, he can't really swing legally. Right, right. It's not breaking the law, but, you know, I'm sure if his partner said, Thank you. He can't really swing legally. Right, right. It's not breaking the law, but, you know, I'm sure if his partner said, you know, no, I don't want you doing that, which I'm sure she probably has, you know, and if she was to find out, that wouldn't be a good thing. No. Mm-mm. You gotta keep it under wraps. You know what I'm saying? So if everybody had the same sex drive, swinging would be a bigger thing. And I think fewer marriages would potentially break up. Because even people, one of the number one things people divorce over is finances. You know what? People, they could have a fight and then have make up sex or they would just go, you know what? Sex is free. Let's go do that. We don't have to go out there. We can't afford to go out there. Let's go out there. We can't afford to go to the movies. We'll stay home and fuck. Yeah. Yeah. No, I, I agree. There's nothing on TV. Let's go fuck. These are words men would live for. Absolutely. Oh, I forgot to pay the cable bill, honey There's nothing to watch Nothing to watch Oh, forgot to pay the power bill We can't watch TV, honey Oh, yeah, we should go fuck We should go fuck I don't know if that would work out so well But okay, you're entitled to your
Speaker2:
It's my fantasy
Speaker1:
You're entitled to your fantasies You might know it, but I'm over here jerking off right now I couldn't even tell You're so stealthy So has this problem kind of worked its way out for you yet? Partially. It's a work in progress. But yeah, we're trying to get back on track. I'm trying to get back on track. Yeah, I get it. But no, masturbation, I think, is an important part of life. I agree. But you have to do it. Safety first, Joe. Safety first know he can strap you in i put your helmet on i'm gonna go masturbate i think i've said this before on the show i think it's funny how like when you were in high school no one would admit you masturbate oh my god yeah that was like oh my no no no i don't do that no i don't do that we all know you're raging doing as soon as you got alone you know. But, you know, like I'll be sitting at the cigar shop or something like that with a bunch of guys, and, you know, one of the guys is like, man, the other day I was rubbing one out, and the other guy's like, yeah. This morning I was like, it's like, I like it better when we all say we didn't do it. I don't know what to think about you, German, at all. Well, I'm glad they're comfortable with their own sexuality and needs. Yeah, no. Don't shy away from that. It's a matter of, we'll call it maturity. Right. That we all acknowledge. Yeah, we all do that. What do you think the percentage of women that masturbate is compared to the percentage of men that masturbate? Oh, definitely much lower for women, I definitely would imagine. I didn't do any research for this, so don't take my word for it. But, yeah, men are just more sexually driven than women in general. There's the problem. Well, that's just, I can't change the hormones. We don't need no warm-up. Yeah, women get a lot more warm-up, and there needs to be a little more lubrication. So their wiring is all wrong on women. Well, maybe their wiring is all wrong on men. Maybe you should stop thinking with your dick. Good point. We always talk about the guys with the magic dick. Those guys are focused focused on their dicks yeah and how wonderful their dick is but i think they think everything about them revolves around their dick right so you have that on one side and then you have women that are you know kind of like in the middle then some they're just like nope sex nope i'm going there that you pee out of that i'm not going there yeah. So there's a huge gamut here of possibilities. But I just think that women definitely don't masturbate as much as men. But I think it's climbing. I think women are, I think women were shamed about masturbation. Like you shouldn't do that, you know. And now I think it's becoming more accepted. Well, they have so many goddamn sex toys. Why should they be ashamed? Exactly. I just think, back in the day, I'm talking like when I was younger, masturbating, like you said, Vince, oh, we didn't talk about it. We don't do that. Oh, my God. I don't do that. But now it's like, I've got all these great toys. I don't care. Well, again, when you're in high school. Rocks my world. People are looking for a reason to make fun of you. Right. So that's why you don't want to admit it. Right. Now, you're an adult. You're like, I don't give a fuck. What are you going to do? I'm 58, married. I can do whatever I want. So I'm going to do whatever I want. It's mine. I'll wash it as much and as fast as I want to. You're going to get rip death syndrome there, mister. So be careful. Just be careful. My vision's already going bad, so it's already obvious I'd spent too many years doing it I would like to poll our guests on masturbation let's go back 10 years oh during the week how many times 10 years ago no a bit more than ever but like when I was in my 20s when my sex drive was at the highest and i was drinking at my most oh i mean i'd get sex sometimes twice a day not always from the same woman um and then but i'd still masturbate yeah i'd still masturbate Sometimes just to make sure that when I was having sex a little bit later that, you know, I didn't go off too early. Mm-hmm.
Speaker2:
Mm-hmm.
Speaker1:
That's true. A lot of guys do that before they go out on a date, so.
Speaker2:
Yeah.
Speaker1:
I'd be interested in hearing from anybody, info at hotwifepodcast.com. If you think you might suffer or have suffered from the death grip syndrome, potentially, you know, you have muscle pain or nerve pain in your shoulders. That's where it is, shoulder. We have... suffer or have suffered from the death grip syndrome potentially if you know you have muscle pain or nerve pain in your shoulders or that's where it is shoulder how many times a day do you rub one out or did rub one out it was one once or twice oh okay yeah but you wouldn't think that would be uh damaging well it was the grip yeah it wasn't the frequency you were really squeezing the shit out of it oh yeah i don't think shit is what he's trying to squeeze out of it his dick probably has fingerprints embedded in it okay he could fingerprint his dick it's like oh this is his and i was also going to throw out if you want to reach out to me it's stamina master at the island of misys.com. Oh, my God. It's terrible. All right. Have you kicked this horse enough or what? So do you think if someone has something like this, they should see their doctor? Absolutely. Don't be embarrassed to admit it might be from over-masturbation. Could be. And Donna, I'm thinking about one of the playmates that we talked in the past about, you know, that he can't cum inside you. Yeah, that one guy. I was thinking about that earlier. He may have that. Yeah, that's what I was thinking as we were talking about this. Oh. Yes, the dude. The one that could shoot his cum like over my head? Yeah. Oh, my God, he gets distanced like you wouldn't believe. He's never cum inside me. He he can never he always has to pull out and masturbate and jerk off on me which i think is hotter anyway for for me but whatever i'm not saying anything wrong with no no but yeah you're right that's that i was wondering that because because he does too he grips it and goes like He's trying to pull start a lawnmower, man. No, it's worse than that, man. Fast movement. But yeah, he's gripping that thing for all it's got. Yeah, I don't. You might be right. Yeah. We'll have to ask him next time he's here. Just like, hey, how's your shoulder feeling? Interesting. That could be a whole different thing, though. There's a couple guys, actually, that think about it that were like that. They fuck you, but they wouldn't come that way. The only way they could come is if they pulled out and jerked off on you. I just thought it was just a preference. You know? Yeah. Oh. They might, the visual might be there. For me, it was all the visual. That was like the coolest thing, knowing I was going to get this gigantic load on my face. That was cool. Or wherever. Or wherever. But like the one he shot it over my head and I kept moving in. He goes, don't, move back, move back. And I'm like, no, no. It's like one of those t-shirt guns at the stadium. Yeah, yeah, it was. And here goes a load of cum to the upper deck. Yeah, he would, I have the videos that we shot, like when he would pull it out, it literally, I can't lift my arm that high, but it was off the bed. It's a podcast I can't see. Well, yeah, I'm trying to show you guys. Remember, it was off the bed, and video caught it i was like maybe that's it me i thought it was like if he jerked off he could get more more distance like it was that kind of a thing like it wasn't that he couldn't come the other way but this he for some reason like jerking off on me so i don't know maybe that's one of the complications with the death grip syndrome is that you can't come any other way like like you're saying joe exactly you know because that sensation isn't what you've been your body's become accustomed that kind of tension tension or um sensation that movements yeah this is what gets you off so i don't know yeah that's yeah Be safe out there guys Have fun But be safe, safety first Thanks for having me Love your show Anyway, I was listening to the Previous show on the ride in And all I have to say Road trip Dubai. Did you get to check her out? I don't have Instagram. Oh, no, man. Okay, well, while I got you on here, I'll go there. Okay. I want to let you give these people your opinion. Lovely specimen. This, yeah, you didn't bring your glasses down in your hair. Here's a pair. I have a pair over there. I just can't reach them. Yeah, the old man needs his glasses his glasses the thing that we're referring to like we talked about last show is this woman from dubai who does this erotic yoga and she wears these um kind of sheerish like uh yeah see she's wearing like a flip up through them she's work using like a sports bra and yoga pants but then she starts moving her hips like they'll like, they'll do it from behind. And you can see that she – Flip up. Just scroll up. Oh, no. No, just – you just flip. Oh, which way is he going here? Guys, this is not very – no, no. I don't – I miss it. Where was your – I don't know your Instagram, hon. It just flipped off to somebody else's feed. But what I was saying, that you could see the you you can see the ball right i don't know clit and they're glowing and yeah we went to another site by accident but look what she's doing with her hips i mean she's thrusting them forward and you can see then she squats all the way down and then you can you can see that fucking little glowing ball or a little pussy her little bullet bulging pussy is like jiggling right now i can't get the flip up on your phone is not for me but now she's yeah she so what is her handle again do you have that um it's at the top of screens l i b d o dot usa yeah okay thank you on instagram instagram she is so neurotic to watch and it's not sexual yeah look at that move I mean she's like dry fucking a horse now you know it's a whole exercise class for yeah but then she wears the piercings oh look at that tight little butt oh my god I mean this is yummy I could do that all day long look I'm exercising'm exercising. Oh, there it is. Follow the bouncing ball. Like, she's squatting down, and her, like, a low, super low squat, just hanging there, and then she's thrusting her hips backward and forward, and he's got... WTF. Yeah. Yeah, so she's got these balls glowing. It's very cool. She's got my balls glowing, too. Oh, there you go. Oh. Anyway, yeah, that's one follower. If you don't have Instagram, it's worth getting just for her account. Yeah, she's really quite amazing and talented. It's not just vulgar. It's sensual. She's not outrageously gorgeous. She's attractive. I'm not even looking at her face. I'm looking at her. Smoking body. Smoking body, what she's doing with her hips. Oh, she fucks you. You don't fuck her. Yeah, you said that before. That's true. It's like, oh, my God. Yeah. Very cool. She'd rip your dick out by its roots. Mm-hmm. Absolutely. I'm willing to sacrifice to find out if it's true. I'm sure there's, you'd be in a line of many, dear. I mean, how drunk do you think she'd have to be to do that? I'm never going to go there, okay? I'm done with that. All right, fine, be that way. Okay. All right, I want to thank Joe for coming in and sharing that with us. Absolutely. Yeah, I didn't know anything about it. I mean, I figured that could happen, but it's a real thing. Just not recognized by the medical community, but I mean, we get it. It wasn't, it's Larry's Larry Cable Guy Says Should I blame Should I sue Hustler For giving me carpal tunnel Yeah
Speaker2:
Yeah Exactly
Speaker1:
Same thing Same kind of thing there
Speaker2:
So
Speaker1:
Alright so Again thanks Joe And everybody stay horny And have a great night Stay horny We'll see you next time.
