In this podcast Donna Lynn and her husband Vince discuss the empowerment and positive self-image that women experience in the swinging lifestyle. They highlight how women at house parties are made to feel sexy and desired, regardless of their physical appearance. Vince expresses his admiration for Donna Lynn and how he finds it empowering to see other men appreciating her beauty. They both agree that the swinging world puts women on a pedestal and celebrates their sexuality, contrasting it with monogamous relationships where such attention may not be present. Also mentioning how compliments from others outside the relationship hold more weight and are more meaningful.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/hot-wife-podcast-and-the-swinger-lifestyle--5343522/support. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
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Speaker1: This program contains strong sexual content. No one under the age of 18 is permitted to listen to or download the podcast in any manner. The host, guest, and performers are all over the age of 18. Rebroadcasting this podcast in any manner is strictly prohibited without the written consent of the owners of the Hot Wife podcast. The commentary of this program is the sole opinion of its host or guest. It does not reflect that of the owners of the hot white podcast the commentary of this program is the sole opinion of its hosts or guests it does not reflect that of the opinion of the hot white podcast owners agents or representatives this podcast is not meant to be taken as professional advice hi this is donna lynn and my Hot Wife Podcast, where we discuss all the good, the bad, and the really erotic of this winger lifestyle. Hello, everybody. This is Donna Lynn, and welcome to my Hot Wife Podcast. Of course, I'm here again with my wonderful husband, Vince. Speaker2: Hey, Vince. Speaker1: Haven't seen you all day. You saw me most of the day. No, not really enough for work. Well, you left at three, but whatever. It's nice to see your smiling face again. Oh, yeah, real smiling. Come on. Jeez, not that bad. I've been relaxing, binge-watching a TV show and drinking bourbon so oh my god kind of mellow oh geez yeah i'm out there slaving and working so hard for those who want to know because we do get the uh emails yeah we do the bourbon i am drinking tonight is actually um on the lower scale of price right. This is Jim Beam's Double Oak. Oh. It's like $24 a bottle. Really good taste. Oh, really? Great. Yeah. Good to know. Yeah, enjoy it. It doesn't have to be high-end stuff because I can't afford high-end stuff. Yeah. I have some, but, you know, just a nice one. I've always been curious can you really i mean really tell the difference between a top shelf and a depends on the manufacturer oh okay i could give you some top but what's considered top shelf stuff and it tastes like shit and something that's incredible the same if i can give you lower shelf stuff that tastes like shit or something that tastes pretty goddamn good. Like Wild Turkey is an example, Wild Turkey 101. Amongst a lot of ratings out there, professional ratings, they put Wild Turkey 101 in the top, you know, five to ten. Yeah, I remember watching stuff. In all fairness, most people who drink are like, oh, my my god i can't drink that shit but it it's phenomenal stuff and that's that's really um that and um woodford reserve double oak are my two favorite bourbons i can always drink those yeah the go-to's yeah that makes sense yeah one's 24 a bottle one's24 a bottle. One's $64 a bottle. Ooh, yeah, $64. That's a little bit. That's why I don't have as many bottles of that. Yeah, I guess. That would be the double oak one, the Woodford Reserve. Yeah, it's a little pricey. Anyway, enough of my Alcoholics Anonymous thing. So the topic for tonight's show, actually came up with um shortly before you came home tonight um and i was reflecting again we have another house party this weekend we're not going to beat that to a dead horse we talk about these parties all the time which are fun oh yeah they're fun but um i was thinking about how not just you but the other women at the parties um Thank you. Oh, yeah, they're fun. But I was thinking about how not just you, but the other women at the parties kind of walk around. Like our shit doesn't stink? Is that what you're trying to say? No. But, I mean, some of the women are, I want to say this in a polite way. No, I don't mean in a bad way, but I mean, like, some of them. We're all average bills. I'm going to go back to high school. Some of these girls aren't head turners. Right. Okay? And then there's some of you that are head turners. And even at today's date you know there's still some of you that are very very attractive and some that are okay but the the neat thing with swinging is that generally everyone accepts generally especially in the small groups like you go to meet and greets and stuff we've seen where they don't accept things but in the smaller groups it's like everyone accepts and likes and cares about everyone and so every woman is made to feel sexy so the empowerment given to you know because the attention they get and you know guys will come up and talk to them put their Arm around them and, you know, guys will come up and talk to them, put their arm around them and, you know, massage their ass or whatever, kiss them or, you know, it's just like, it's a very empowering type of a thing for a woman. I think you have to go home from, like, the house parties, it's my example, as feeling very positive about yourself what's the point i know how i'm going to be coming home yeah well that's another story i'm gonna be yeah but okay so i'm gonna be pounded like a salvation army drum we know that it's already been told to you but okay but still at 63 the fact that these men are still very very attracted to you has to be very empowering it makes you feel good yeah it's a good feeling yeah and believe you they're because we're not the pretty people we're not the we're pretty much average oh okay you're the pretty only pretty person the whole bunch but most of us are a little you know a little bit of weight or a little bit of stretch marks or scars or this or that. So we're not the models. We're like more the, quote, average person. We have people there in their later 60s or maybe older. They're still treated. Yeah. They're still treated very attractive. And then we have some there in their 40s. They're the young kids of the group young kids there are times like there was uh there are times that some of the women have said like hey no i didn't get to play with anyone tonight now sometimes that's because they're too busy chatting up all night to sit there being social right and then sit there and just go grab somebody and go hey we're gonna mess around yeah like somebody will say oh no not tonight i have a headache you know yeah um but in general i mean if you want to feel good about yourself someone's there to help you oh oh yeah that's not really a you know and i think and that's that that was my my thought process for the topic for tonight was how like even for me you know um you know the uh women i get to play with and then they're always you know telling me afterwards like oh my god next party you know i got women now like almost fighting who's going to be the first one that i get to be with when i get there um yes in fact i just remember there's one one person that was on our we were on our way Thank you.
Speaker3:
Thank you.
Speaker1:
Thank you.
Speaker3:
Thank you.
Speaker1:
Thank you.
Speaker2:
Thank you. when i get there um yes in fact i just remember there's one one person that was on our we were on our way out from the last part she's like because i'm gonna be the first one so i don't know well that yeah that woman i had been with again um great woman um yeah she wants to play with you um but there was two women that were like,
Speaker1:
I haven't got to play with you in two parties.
Speaker2:
And, you know, and I'm going to play. No, I'm going to play with them first. I'm going to play with them first. We'll just have to wrestle it out. Wouldn't that be funny if they, like, okay,
Speaker1:
you're going to wrestle, and then whoever wins gets to play with Vince. Well, does it make a difference when you go first or second? No. Yeah. Although I think it would be fun to see them wrestle. I think, well, that's another story. All right, putting wrestling, here we go. I mean, when you're dealing with four to six women in a night, it doesn't matter if you're first or sixth. No, not really. They all sit there and like, oh, my god whatever um but no they i and that's part of way i enjoy what i do there right because and i give these women that special attention their empowerment yeah i i do think um the swinging world and correct me if i'm wrong it is definitely all about the women. The guys come in and the women are usually dressed sexier. The guys come in, they're always dressed usually pretty nice. But the women come in like, you know, not dressed in nines, but definitely dressed in something a lot more sexy. And they're, I don't want to say that they're put on a pedestal, but they're definitely escorted in and held up. Oh, as they should be. As they should be, sure. It's a unique situation, unique dynamic, I think. And as a husband, I find it empowering to me because I'm not intimidated. Right, exactly. Um, that the fact that these guys are showing you how sexy and wonderful they think you are right and giving you that attention and i see you just beam with oh yeah it's always fun you know and then you know we go home and you're still kind of on that cloud nine usually too tired but yeah i'm still yeah but but again you know like even And the next day when you and I get to play and stuff, you kind of on that cloud nine. I'm usually too tired. Yeah, I'm still tired. Yeah, but again, you know, like even the next day when you and I get to play and stuff, you kind of, it's like, oh, so much fun with this guy and that guy, you know? Yeah, and you know what? I don't think, correct me if I'm wrong again, but I don't think you see that in a monogamous type situation. Well, in a monogamous, you wouldn't have that situation. Well, no, no, I mean, you could. Like, let's say you go to a a not a an unswinger party not vanilla party sure and you know are do the men there held their women up uh as high do they put them on that i hate using the word pedestal but no i think what tends to happen at the vanilla parties i mean i've been to them in the past with my previous mistake um you know most people i'm not that i'm not that person even when i wasn't a quote-unquote swinger right um if someone tells my mate or partner or companion or whatever it's like oh my god you look incredible you're beautiful that's a sexy dress i'm not intimidated or jealous yeah yeah exactly it's like yeah that's right she's on my arm you know yeah yeah and you know the same you know people who might be vanilla that listen to this podcast um when someone sits there and like like after you've played with somebody and they they're like, oh, my God, you're so lucky. She's so hot. She's so fun. It's like, yep. You got to sample it.
Speaker2:
You got to sample it.
Speaker1:
But that's what I get to live with. You just don't know all the other shit's coming on.
Speaker2:
Yeah.
Speaker1:
You don't know what she does. You don't know how bad your farts stink. Oh, I got you. She doesn't put the toilet seat down. You know. You know. She refuses to close the back door all the way i don't mean your back door i mean the back door in the house yeah what back door do you mean dear but um no the it's i i find you know i've even seen in numerous occasions where we're out and I see guys walk past you or something and they, as they walk past you, they turn around and they look at you as you're walking away. I find that, I find that a huge compliment that that's like, yeah, I have, I got myself a beautiful woman. Oh dear. Yeah. I was just thinking about the time I was mowing the lawn and there's leggings, and I didn't know it, but he said a truck came by, stopped in the middle of the road to watch me go by mowing the lawn in these skin-tight leggings. Yeah. I've seen it back when we used to go to the malls and stuff like that. You know, so. Oops. well welcome well if they would come over you might have but it depends yeah if they've the pens oh god you're awful don't go there come on but i was having a nice thought you just like soiled it i see that the connection there depends soiled yeah i get it it wasn't funny um but um the uh no i i find it it's empowering i think to in my mind to both of us yeah you know the fact that you get these uh men and women stroking your tail feathers telling you how sexy they think you are they want to be with you and all this stuff or how much fun it was to be with you can't wait to be with you again and everything else I see that and it's like yeah it's quite a compliment I mean I do the same thing with women I always tell them you know I had fun if I'm with them or their boyfriend or both or whatever husband or boyfriend or both yeah exactly whoever they brought to the party yeah you know you never know what their their situation is but you know we had a we have a lot of fun you know and yeah but i'm talking even outside the party aspect too just oh yeah you know after after a party um or even after we've played with another couple or whatever, that there's that whole, again, your mate can tell you how sexy they find you or whatever. And you go, oh, that's great. Thank you, honey. Blah. But when someone else tells you, well, yeah, it's our story. But when another person tells you, it somehow means more. your mate you expect your mate to tell you right exactly you know but when someone else tells you it just kind of i think again we've talked about this before i just i do believe that somebody or in my mind somebody look who's outside the relationship i think will be more critical than somebody that i'm in love with like we overlook each other's little nuances and little defects i know you don't have any good thing you said that but you know we kind of like overlooked i i would think somebody looking in would be like well you know there's she does this she does that or he does this or does that it's but whatever they i would think they'd be more critical and that's just that's not how it really is so you get a compliment from somebody who you think is more critical it does mean more well someone who's not your mate doesn't have to say anything yeah they don't they don't just go wow okay thanks yeah that's it or hey that was fun and leave yeah They don't have to. But, you know, when they, like, hang over you and they're still, like, pawing at you and stuff like that.
Speaker2:
They do. thanks you know that's it or hey that was fun and leave yeah they don't you know but you know
Speaker1:
when they like hang over and they're still like pawing at you and stuff like that you know um it's kind of uh you know or in my case like when i get to point to women they're all sitting there at the table look like they're all hit by trucks yeah pretty much not a bad thing it's all done with love or my tongue but yeah I find it um probably one of the most overlooked aspects of swinging well you know and like you were talking about before this empowerment also carries itself into your regular life you know how you uh carry yourself at the office let's say or how you you know your self-esteem yeah it's simple just you know i mean again now in today's world you can go into work and people can't tell you hey you look nice or whatever um hey you know i saw you lost some weight you can't you can't say that shit now but you know you get done like having swinger friends however that might be whether it be a couple you met and go out for dinner or go to a house party or a party or a club or whatever and you're made to feel good about yourself and that's that's in your head it's like yeah you know and tell me as a swinger you don't sometimes when you're in a vanilla world pardon me sit there and like you know you see someone look at you do you think how's he looking at me you know because you don't know no you don't know you know and in your head you're thinking yeah you you want what you can't have if it was a different world and or sometimes you're like if you only knew the fun i had last weekend and what i did and who i did it with because if you if we go into like a vanilla world and people think we're vanilla they just think oh they're just a happy couple with each other they have no idea like what happened the weekend before or who we were playing with. Well, but yeah yeah but and we're talking we're not talking about like we don't just look at everybody who happens to glance at you and think that no but you know you're someplace and you really catch someone really looking at you or we've been with couples that were vanilla and they happen to mention like um oh they mentioned some some friends that they had that they're they were swingers and they were you know wife swapping and they were like oh man these people are like really sick and you and i looked at each other like oh yeah they're terrible oh my god yeah i don't know how they do that i don't know how they do that give me their name and number i'm to contact them and talk to them. See when they're available. Maybe they're on the site. See if they're going to go for dinner some night. Do they have pictures up? What are they looking at? Do you know their handle? Hypothetically, let's pretend they had a swing or a profile. What do you think their handle would be? Hypothetically speaking, of course. Yeah, what site do you think they might be on you think they'd be on fet line for adult friend finder so don't friend find yeah these sick these sick bastards it's horrible oh my gosh when what do you think the wife is into it do you think she's by oh he's by now i don't know yeah we gotta go bye yeah bye i don't need their number that would be the only thing that would be the you know be the turn off for you but for me like yeah it's all good it's all good yeah it's not yeah it's not turn on that's for sure no but um yeah we've played with people that were the men was bi but you know i don't get anywhere near them no and he was very respectful so sure well we have a few people that were situationally bi now we know that they're really bi now we know they're more than bi so but um you gotta be true to yourself whatever that's fine i got no problem with that but uh um but um yeah no i think it's a it's one of the best things and again i think that gets into like we talked about before how like at that one hotel party we were at how the couples in the pool were more romantic and everything else i think it's because they have the excitement that inner energy of the empowerment that they know it's like yeah yeah you know um you know the average person might not find me sexy but people inside the lifestyle they appreciate me right for me exactly and you know what they're going to treat me wonderful and beautiful and you know i'm going to make them have orgasms and they're going to make me have orgasms and yet you know and these are people again it's not like okay there's a room of 20 guys i'm i hope to find one guy you know most women can have more than one guy oh yeah easily and and again it's not that you have to be a beautiful person with a perfect body and all this and that and it looked like the the model you don't have to be perfect you have to be a good person you have to be a good person and and we've said this before you're you're what you exude sexually comes through regardless of what your body type is you know if you if you exude that sexiness it doesn't matter what you and again like we've talked about before too i actually think that translates back into your main relationship sure you know it helps boost your sex life you know your relationship and romance and everything else i mean i'm waiting for it to kick in but oh yeah well you just keep waiting it'll happen don't worry it'll but um no i think um you know i i think that you know it adds so much to like we've talked about before you know after we play with other people it makes our sex life that much better is and for people who are vanilla probably can't understand that well when you first got into swinging i mean i was into it before you right you were like that is weird it's a weird concept it's a weird concept it does yeah you know the same as it was initially weird that you thought me watching you with someone else with you know i told you i found that erotic yeah that's weird and then you know at first you were kind of skeptical watching me with somebody you know but then all of a sudden there was a switch that went and you're like no it's kind of fun it's kind of fun it's kind of cool now i enjoy it so that's it's all good yeah because you have the trust level yeah that's that i'm not out you know i'm not on the computer trying to hook up with other women or out of the bars picking up women and now and that's like the whole weird thing it's it's all that stuff you and i are on the we can check out the sites together and we'll be like oh well they look like that'd be fun or like who's going to go to the party oh that's a nice looking couple oh you know and we were kind of doing our shopping ahead of time together that's that's a whole different thing we do things together you know or maybe you'll be like hey like this morning you're like oh i have a guy here but you know what you're not going to want to be with him you know you just no don't don't this guy reached out to us you made it sound like i'm out there trying to whore you out oh no well okay he reached out to us yeah he emailed us very pleasant yeah very very nice he was you're like oh i don't think you're overweight small penis he gave me all this he drives by a gym goes right to mcdonald's so he said you you gotta come over and i'm like all right i was just gonna blow you off i was just gonna say oh forget it really yeah you were blowing me off oh shut up not this morning. I was going to say that every morning. I was going to tell you, okay, forget it then. Well, I said, yeah, I can't believe this guy thinks he can be with you. That's what it was. And she comes over. I come over, I'm like, holy crap. No, it's the exact opposite of what you're talking about. He's a gym rat. Yeah, good looking guy. He has, like, model pictures. A great smile. I mean, you know, he's, like, he's got these bright white teeth. He's definitely, he could definitely be, like, a football player. He's a larger guy, but he's pretty ripped. Yeah, he's not a front, he's not a lineman. He'd be more of a running back or something. Yeah, or something, I don't know. But, yeah, no, good-shaped guy. Good-shaped abs. Good- good looking guy his pictures look like they were professionally done big big penis not that it matters so that made us cancel it donna goes hey i'm looking for mr two inch hey whatever you're packing is what you're packing i'll make it we didn't get to order we've been over that i i'm sorry for amazon to deliver mine it was like he he shows his bul like, in his little short things he's wearing, little spandex-y, you know, workout short things. And he's got this big, giant bulge that, like, practically wraps around half of his body. It's like, oh, my God. What the hell is it, Anaconda? So he gave him your phone number to text you. Yeah, he did. We were chatting back and forth yeah earlier today so yeah i sent him a i gave him the link to my all my links and i said hey just go and see see what i'm into he's like oh my god i'm at work he goes i gotta stop watching this because i'm gonna walk around the office with a big old boner i was like yeah don't don't do that that wouldn't be that wouldn't be good just bring that over here i'll have to help you relieve it that's pretty much what i told him i said she'll have to help you not me yeah we know saying that as her oh oh okay just in case people want to interpret that the wrong way no i think we've established you're definitely having your penis allergy yes i do that was certainly uh interesting so we'll see i mean it'd be a lot of fun. He's already, you know, has a sense of humor and, you know, he's very outgoing. He's got to set a date and time. Yep. That's all we have to do now. Yeehaw. That'd be fun. I have a couple. There is another guy who's like very, he's working the vet life and he's like really energetic, but it's going to be after the holidays and it's like damn it'll be a lot of fun just keep your track he also has a girlfriend like our friend either it's a girlfriend or a friend with benefits and they all have girls with benefits and they never show up with them it's like what about I like to come on I I like women too so do I there you go that's all I like yeah you know, throw us a bone here once in a while. So that was the topic for tonight. We didn't get into, again, we're going to quick promo, Spunk Lube. Spunk Lube. Make sure, if you need lubricant, go to spunklube.com. In the promo code area, punch in hot wife, all one word, you get a 10% discount. Great lubricant, non-sticky um we swear by them um yeah we do if you want to reach out to us to email us um our email is hot wife podcast at gmail.com um if you want to see where donna is and what she's doing i have it uh hot wife donnalyn.com and all the links are in there to all the platforms i'm on. I'm always uploading stuff. We're having fun here. We're having fun. That's it. We're not taking it too serious. No, no, God, no. And we are going to cut back our shows now to twice a week instead of three times a week. We can only bullshit so much. You know what I'm saying? We're going through a tough schedule right now with uh our work schedules or lack of work schedules and my choice is much work schedules yeah so um and frankly we're we're making sure we just don't want to burn ourselves out and run out of topics i mean so um but the good news is um by time this show gets done being heard right today not we're recording this on monday night but by the end of tuesday night we will definitely have surpassed 150 000 downloads that is amazing in less than two years that's crazy so we want to thank everyone for listening. And again, we ask you to tell two friends. Absolutely. If you think the show is any good. We've seen a couple reviews that some people didn't like it. You don't have to like it. That's fine. Like we've said before, this is just our therapy. This is just something that we said, well, we're already talking about this stuff like over breakfast we might as well just put microphones in front of us and just record it and see where it goes again um you know i think people i mean we have a bunch of good comments too but i've always been amazed even before we had a podcast that people use the internet more to bitch about stuff uh yeah than to brag about stuff yeah if i see something i don't like i just i just scroll by if you're gonna bitch about something hey make it constructive well if you're gonna be yeah be constructive and tell us what you've done that's better don't just sit there and well you did this wrong you've done this yeah you sit there hey i hate the chinese food at this place down the street well what can chinese food do you cook you know so or whatever pizza whatever it might be so you know um and again i didn't take it too seriously i kind of laugh it off um we had far more positive comments which is great um and uh we thank you all for that And again like i said we're going to surpass 150 000 downloads that's just that's nuts yeah so i didn't know we were full of that much shit i really i really did we're not anymore we we we get rid of it in in one one hour intervals a couple times a half hour in, half hour in this case. In this case, okay. But, yeah, no, we thank you all. Follow us on Twitter, at HotWavePodcast. You know, we just broke 900. We're looking to break 1,000 and, you know, keep going from there. Well, I do retweet this stuff on my Twitter account. That's helpful. Yeah. But, yeah, no, we have fun. This is our therapy, and hopefully we give you a small break or make you think or arouse or whatever we may do. I don't know. I'm speechless. I have no idea what we do. So, but anyway, that's all I got to say.
Speaker2:
All right.
Speaker1:
Well, keep staying and being empowered and, you know, have fun out there for once.
