Cuckolding vs. Hot Wifing

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Speaker2: hi this is donna lynn and welcome to my hot wife podcast a candid insight into navigating the complexities of modern romance and the swinger lifestyle hello everybody this is donna lynn and welcome to my hot wife podcast you happy now uh yeah i'm still not sure it sounds like i'm tripping over those words with the opening but whatever i am not a professional by any stretch but anyway i'm here with my wonderful husband hey how's it going i know you're asking? I know, are you asking me? It's going good. Just fine. Like you care. Don't. Not at all. Zero fucks given. Nice. Well, that's a fine how do you do. But okay. I guess you're just mad because we didn't do something special on your birthday today. Oh, it's okay. I've been busy all day. Oh, me's a perfect birthday it's rainy cold dreary raw and what other adjectives can we use for a shit-ass day my daughter says she's gonna make me dinner but i wind up cooking it i knew you're gonna bitch about that i knew you guys i don't mind but then you bitch about it no i'm not bitch i I'm making a statement. That's not, that's a bitch. There's a bitch tone right in there. The bitch is the one that's talking. Thank you. It's just that she's not, you know, she's still learning cooking and stuff. So she was helping you. She had the idea. You did most of the execution. That's fine.
Speaker1: It was very good.
Speaker2: What would you call that chicken thing anyway? Chicken wrapped in bacon, cheese? It was garlic chicken.
Speaker1: Garlic chicken. Bacon wrapped garlic chicken.
Speaker2: It was good.
Speaker1: And asparagus with garlic. And asparagus. So we'll be fighting up a storm. And our pee will smell. Mine already does. It's like TMI. Oh, come on. The shit we talk about on this show, are you kidding me, TMI? Well, I just got, you know, had some guy duanal, and then I licked his balls. Yeah, right. As long as you say that, not me. Yeah, TMI. I don't think there is any TMI here. No, that's true. Does not even exist. So, again, I'll give you the info up front. You can email us. The old email works, but we're going to try to get you over to the new email at info at hotwifepodcast.com. Wow. And if you want to see where Donna is or what she's doing, who's she doing? Hotwifedonnalyn.com. It's a platform of all my links and all the places I'm posting to, as well as a podcast is on the all my links as well. Yeah. And the magazine, the 50 Shades of Pleasure magazine. That's 50. And as of today, I posted the April issue a couple days early. Oh, look at you being all, like, proactive and stuff. I'm trying, I'm trying. Wow, look at you.
Speaker2: He's always doing something. Well, you know. Always something, but yeah.
Speaker1: Always doing someone.
Speaker2: Dairy dream.
Speaker1: Yeah, exactly. So, tonight's topic is something that some people, I actually had a gentleman reach out to me the other day, and it's like, like oh so you're a cuck couple like no we're not no i'm not a cuck uh in every aspect yes again we've gone over that in the past no quick synopsis of cucking again cucking generally is a thing where um the male likes to be humiliated well that can be part of it we're in general yeah we're contrasting just being a hot wife and a heart wife yeah relationship as well well let's explain the two and then we'll go over the real differences okay let's do that so in a cuck relationship a lot of times the wife will sit there with a bull if you want to use that term um and tell the husband you know it's like oh he's fucking me so much better than you look his dick is so much bigger than yours um you know and there's aspects too where the cuck will sit there and help possibly clean up clean up or helps get the guy off off uh i've seen you know i've seen videos and stuff where the cuck actually helps suck the guy's dick he'll have put the guy's dick in his wife's pussy he'll clean the guy the wife's pussy up after the cuck has cream pied her um or whatever and again it's a power thing where the husband gives up the power to the wife for all intents and purposes um not my not my gig it's not our thing at all and we're not a power couple anyway it's not i mean theoretically i'm more dominant than you but Not like like yeah i can't get you to make me a fucking sandwich that's for god damn sure yeah i'm i'm not the hostess with the mostest that's for sure but uh she could screw up a glass of water oh stop it's not that bad i burnt my cornflakes the other day you shouldn't be eating them anyway so they're i won't when you burn them anyway um so and then the hot wife thing is more the aspect it's more voyeuristic or more right um in our in our situation anyway it's more of like you enjoy your wife giving and receiving I'll see you next time. um in our in our situation anyway it's more of like you enjoy your wife giving and receiving pleasure but you're not you're still maintaining your um level of power dignity yeah there's no humiliation going on here at all i can't even say heterosexuality because some people could still be bi and do a hot wife thing so i can't say that right you're we have determined for us that that the humiliation part does not even enter that realm that is a realm that we i i don't play i don't find it pleasurable i don't those who do that's fine yeah i don't find it erotic i find it demeaning it's it's a turnoff for me so i we just don't just don't do it it's just just our cup of tea you know that we don't want to do that yeah well it's sort of like the one young guy that you've played with a handful of times that you've talked about um you know he was texting me a few weeks ago he used to text me almost every day and he hasn't. Oh, did you hurt his feelings? I think I did. I think I didn't. Too bad. Get over it. Yeah, it wasn't a bad thing. I wasn't attacking him. He was talking about how I said how we don't like choking and rough sex. And you're like, oh, he says, there's this one woman who said, love me to really knock her around a little bit and choke her and i said you do that to donna i will kill you you will never no donna will be the last thing you're gonna know is you died naked and humiliated and you know and i'll just throw you out the curb i don't give two shit um and and he's like well But she liked it. said well that's fine oh she liked it if the woman you were with liked it that's you know i'm just saying dude this is what we're yeah into what we're not into and you know and i said you know then i try to get back to a normal conversation which is hard to believe with me right um that i personally look at like why would i want to abuse someone who is giving me pleasure and then i'm trying to give them pleasure at what point do i think well hey i'm gonna smack her in the face i'm gonna choke the bitch out and and then you know i'm gonna fuck her like i'm trying to drive a fucking nail into a concrete wall it's like wait a minute well let's back up just a little bit when i was in that threesome with a couple from that we had the parties with in the throes of passion i was yelling at him to fuck me harder and pull my hair hard and it was it was pretty vigorous but i can't say it was rough it was vigorous but it wasn't rough he's not Yeah, he is dominant.
Speaker2: He's dominant.
Speaker1: He gets close to the line, but he knows borders. Yeah, because he is a trained dom. I mean, he's definitely trained. And he knows I'm standing right there. Well, he also knows my limitation. We've been together enough times, so I think. But we've collectively have talked. talked and i and he knows that i'm not into that aspect because of my upbringing being beat so heavily that you know and everything else so he's aware that if he if he was to do something wrong he's going to. I will. Sure. Yeah. But so, but anyway, where I was getting with that is I think the young guy, since he hasn't texted me in weeks, I think I scared him off. Too bad, man. No. I thought we had that conversation. That's really important. If we go into these kinds of relationships with other couples or a single male or whatever it is that you lay down those that groundwork to begin with and if you're in a cuckold relationship it might it might be nice to lay down the groundwork of which that cuckolding exists you know how much cuckolding is there humiliation is it not it's just simple if you're with somebody else's significant, you have to remember to abide by their rules. Not what you want to do, what you're allowed to do. Right, exactly. I mean, you could say, hey, I'm really into this. Maybe you could throw it out there. Have you ever thought of? And what we're talking about now actually applies to whether you're a cuckold couple or a hot wife couple. And we're definitely not a cuckold couple. No, we're definitely not. But these are the same rules no matter which way you play. And, again, we've talked about this in the past too, that you've got to make clear with the people that you're playing with, if it's a single person you're playing with or if it's a couple, both couples need to exchange like, hey, we're okay with this, we're not okay with that. Right, right. And it's really couple both couples need to exchange like hey we we're okay with this we're not okay with that right you know um and it's really important everybody remembers that in the throes of of sex right right i don't know if i want to say passion but i'll say sex you you can't lose your head and sit there and go well i really want to fist fuck her ass well it's like well she doesn't do that you know yeah that that'll be a problem oh yeah but um but so that's you know that that's a commonality between the two between cuckolding and and uh the hot wife relationship so i mean people who um are into cuckolding it's a you know they they're into the humiliation not always there's like like i said there's also different levels of cuckold is it just a thing that he's has to watch and can't participate or and then you can there could be like hey look at this watch me fuck this guy he's got a nice dick not being necessarily humiliating but just but generally it does i mean it can there's there's a fine line there is a fine between being a hot wife means i can sit there and watch you and i have many times um you know play with other men but at no point is anyone humiliating me no you know the one time the one gentleman you were playing with said um you know um said something to the effect and and you haven't played with him since um to the effect of like this is my pussy yeah this is my pussy now dude no you're you're getting to play with it but it's still my borrowing it yeah it's my playground you get play there. That's just all role play, I figure. I don't take any of that. I guess it gets caught up in the fantasy, I guess. I don't know. Actually, I don't have a problem with that because I know in my heart of hearts, it's not his pussy. I ask you to talk like Donald Duck, but that doesn't mean we're at Disney. That's true. I don't even know if i can talk like donald duck i can't that's why my fantasy doesn't come through no i i can't i can't do it but anyway so you know where i mean they both i guess give pleasure um well it also depends on what you consider pleasure that's the whole other subjective thing too there might be people listening just like i can't do either one you know there are i see plenty of profiles on these websites um that you know it's like now we play together same room you know there's and that's fine there's nothing wrong with no no that and And, security i mean we did that for a lot of years um yeah we weren't really in a hot wife situation until a couple years ago a couple three years ago yeah something like that but um yeah it's one of those things that uh you know for people who are like you know what is the major differences I think that, you know, for people who are like, you know, what is the major differences? I think that, you know, one is, you know, obviously for the most part, one is going to involve some level of humiliation.
Speaker2: Possibly.
Speaker1: The other one is more of a, I look at it because, you know, I consider myself more the hot wife.
Speaker2: Oh, you are the hot wife, baby? Well, let's be sorry. I saying you're definitely the hot husband um no i look at it more like from the uh i'm a voyeur right right and that the fact of i enjoy watching you give and receive pleasure you know and again i've told you when i see you play with people that i know you're not having a good time like they're not rocking the world right it's not even erotic to me and then you're like oh so and so called i'll say nah it has to have some level sometimes the chemistry is there then you actually get to the get to the you know get to play with them and it's either sometimes you have an off day or they have an off day and it's like the chemistry just isn't clicking and then other times you're the same person and it the chemistry is there things are clicking you know i mean it it's a whole different experience so i we all have bad days we all have off days so sometimes the uh the chemistry isn't isn't quite there and i know the chemistry isn't there for me i know it's not going to be there for you i mean i still have fun don't tell me i i don't mean i don't have fun it's just it's not as much fun as it could be if the chemistry was there you know you could either ride the roller coaster or the merry-go-round which one are you going to really go like that was a fucking fun time there you go around it is damn right man don't even hold on to the strap on the horse oh man i don't touch the pole you just go hands in the air in the air i'm living dangerously you're in the center but you're still reaching out to the edge to get to the brass ring aren't you yeah i am just i am i'm living on the edge there you go i'm all about that edge. Okay, yeah. No, mine would be those teacups rides.
Speaker1: You're on the little kid's bumper boats.
Speaker2: No, I like those teacups, man. The ones that make you spin.
Speaker1: No, you're those little kiddie rides outside the grocery store that just rock back and forth. Okay. And your feet still can't touch your ground. No, they usually don't. So, yeah, I just got handed. Yep, yep. I just got my butt handed to me. Thank you very much. And it took both hands. I'm just. Hey, someday I could grow. Obviously, we're in a mood picking on each other tonight. So, you could grow. Nonsense. I never pick on you. I never, ever do, but... Oh, that was her nose hitting you. It was a gross. It's a microphone. Are you so mean to me? Why are you so mean? Soon you're going to be back here talking because your nose is sticking so far out I wish your nose would grow I might do something with it give me something to put my nose in I don't want to smell it oh you're terrible obviously we're definitely not into the cuckolding thing we humili humiliate ourselves without sex with each other. So maybe we just have a non-sexual cuckolding relationship. Maybe that's what it is. Is that a thing? Maybe it could be. It could be a thing. I mean, that's just one part of the whole swinging thing. I never, I could speak for you, too. Never could understand the whole cuckoldoding thing. You should have a deeper voice, you're going to speak for me. Oh, you're right. Yeah, I mean, I've had guys, you know. One or two. No, that wanted to be humiliated, that wanted that, and I'm not even good at it. They were more like guys online stuff. Yeah, guys online that wanted to do like the webcam, cam things or video chats. And they're like, you know, humiliate me. And I'm like, oh, boy. It's just not my wheelhouse. I mean, I can do it, but I know it's not real. Picture your husband. Oh, that is easy. You lousy piece of shit. Get over here and vacuum this fucking rug. You some of this pussy get over here you don't have any hair it's on a rug that's true it's hardwood floors um but um yeah i i personally um again that's all i can say is personally that i don't understand where that comes from wanting to be how how being humiliated is an arousal i mean if that was the case man in high school i'd been walked around with a heart all the time and the kids made fun of me but it's a different it's a different situation first of all i don't i wish we had somebody who was into that that could actually shed some light on that whole, you know, cock holding experience. Because for us, we're like, it just looks like it's not fun. But there are people that are really, really into it. And they derive a lot of satisfaction and pleasure from it. I mean, for me, it's like, it's like slamming my toe into a car door, you know, like it's good to the toe thing oh sorry okay my finger into a car door you don't have any i have all 10 of them yeah but not so much toes but yeah i mean for me i just don't understand the whole dynamic there i mean some of it i kind of i kind of get but well in all fairness now what's that i'll play devil's advocate some people are gonna go i can't get into the hot wife thing just let my wife go out on a date with somebody and go do whatever she wants or you know yeah but it's not all free willy you know willy dilly but that's what we know it as right you know someone looking at it same as we're looking at cuckolding right you know in all honesty um you know someone looks at it's like you let your wife go out on dates aren't you afraid she's gonna you know which we covered down a million times but i mean still well first of all and again okay you know i'm sure some people might not understand that too we don't you don't get to go on hot dates with somebody that we haven't been around numerous times and have a trust level with. Exactly. It's people that, it's like our favorite playmates, or my favorite playmates. Thank you for fixing that. Yeah, but it's usually people that you trust, you like, they're nice people, they're trustworthy. It has to be someone besides that, which is also the most important, has to be someone that I know I know you're going to have fun with. Yeah, exactly. It's not going to be someone like, oh, my God, he's such a lame dick. If I wanted that, I'd save my husband. Well, it's also somebody that you have to have kind of a social connection with. Oh, that's what I'm saying. Across the board, someone we have fun hanging out with. Yeah, they can have a conversation. Someone that I can trust. And someone that I know you have fun playing with. Right. So it's a win-win. So that's, for us, it's the whole hot wife thing. It's like, okay, I go on dates every now and again with a certain special someone. We got to dinner, and we have a nice conversation. We have a nice time out. We come back here. We have some fun. And there's been a few times you've gone to somebody else's house. I've gone to their house, yeah. And then they bring you home, so. Yeah, and I've never had a problem because these are people we know and trust. Yeah. And it doesn't happen every day. It doesn't happen every week. If it happens every few months, that's fine. Like you say, you want to keep things special. If I did that every single weekend, eh, it's not so special anymore. Yeah. You know? It's that every night for dinner exactly not to mention at the you know the the one restaurant they're like she's here with a different guy every week what the hell and she was in here the other day celebrating a wedding anniversary with this other other guy i thought she was married to him but she's not's not. Who is she married to? I've never seen him. She's always with some other younger guy. Yeah. A different color guy. Oh, yep. Different nationalities. Different nationalities, yep. Ethnicities. Easy for you to say, huh? No, it's not. So I don't know. Do we cover this or not? I don't think so I don't know. But yeah, so, I mean, if you're really interested in, my daughter just sent me a happy birthday. Oh, that's nice. The difference between cuckolding and hot wife is one generally involves more humiliation. Yeah, it certainly can. And cuckolding definitely involves generally the husband being there or well sometimes over the phone humiliating like i'm getting fucked by this guy the big dick and your little dick you know whatever whereas hot wifing is more i'm more sharing it with you if i'm if i'm yeah it's more almost like a i hate to use the determinant terms of ownership because it's not, I don't own you, but it, no, it's more almost like a – I hate to use the terms of ownership because it's not – I don't own you. But no, it's more like – Wait till we get out of here. You'll be like putting my shackles on and putting me back in the basement. Yeah, right. Change me into the kitchen. We'll maybe know what's good for you. Why would I change you into the kitchen? You're not going to make me anything. I might clean the – You can make me a cup of coffee. That's all you can do in there you you weren't having this occurring so we're good no i'd be more like the cleaning washing the dishes those kind of things not cooking good god no but anyway um it's terrible no what i'm saying is i don't want to use the term ownership but it's it's a matter of like yes she's with me i'm proud of her um right right like even proud isn't the word i want to use it's no yeah you know i'm saying my thesaurus out here you know i'm trying to say though it's more like i mean you are truly sharing okay i guess i'm sharing something very important with you know and i'm also now i'm sharing you with this gentleman or team I don't know. i'm sharing something very important with you know and i'm also now i'm sharing you with this gentleman or team um but but also i want i'm like i want you to have fun right right you know i want you to feel good i want you to you know and that's the that's another thing that um i think hot whiffing is has more to do with is the sexual pleasure has a lot more of a pleasure aspect of it more than humiliation there's definitely that and when i go on dates or if i'm having fun with somebody i i might do a video chat with you or take pictures or whatever it's to share with you what i'm doing it's not to put you down or say oh you know you're whatever it is the part when you send me what you're eating at dinner you know it's like oh you're home having you know you're more pissed off about that chicken tenders and look at me i'm having steak i've never had steak i had a salad steak salad well yeah but it's still a salad yeah but the thing yeah you're more upset about me with the food I'm sharing with you than I'm having sex with the guy. Damn her, he's eating real food. Don't bring me home a doggie bag or nothing. Well, a salad doesn't travel well. Get some help, dammit. Like what? Okay, next time I go out on a hot date, you're going to tell me, like, what I'm going to order, and I'm going to cut it in hand. I'm going to hand i'm gonna call ahead call ahead find out what's fresh my luck you could just come home throw me a fucking burger from wendy's here you guys went to wendy's no no but you got you something from wendy's here shut up that's awful i would never do that to you you're thinking about? I think it would be pretty fucking funny. Just make sure there's no onions on that burger, okay? Okay. No onions. I remember that. No raw onions. You like cook onions. Yeah, whatever, whatever, yeah. Okay. Just whatever. I'm making notes here, so. You're writing on your hand with your other hand. Okay. I've, hopefully we covered it. 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