Couples and Rules

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Yeah yeah there's actually two spreads donna is in both by chance um one she was there was a gentleman who came with us on a photo shoot in an old factory and that was fun and uh she kind of saw him getting all excited watching her and next thing you know and then there was one that i i entitled it um your vision or something like that i don't remember now but basically your story okay so there was a picture it's a picture series of donna and these two other girls that uh again there's a photo shoot and they all started playing together unscripted right and um but i didn't want to go into what the script could be i want everyone to look at at the photo series and come up with your own, whatever.

You know, again, you look at it once or twice or five or 20 times, maybe see a different story each time. You don't know. And there's also some bonus articles in there too. Okay, great. That's awesome. Yeah, we had to repost an older show, which was a good show, on Monday, because today's show is going to be about something we experienced on Sunday. We kind of had a little get-together. A swinger swim party. A swinger swim party. Yes, and that sounded great. I thought, this is going to be fun. Yeah. You know, it's like we could chill.

We could, you know, I didn't really know how much playing was going to go on but whatever i mean we have a private pool so sure all right why not so the theme of tonight's show is about possessive and insecure people yes especially people that we thought were very secure in these two we're not going to. But, you know, people, I was really surprised that there was a problem. There was a disconnect. There was some friction going on there. The one I wasn't surprised with, the other I was. Yeah. Yeah, there was two couples, and both of them ended up leaving kind of angry at each other. Yeah.

Because one was playing, and the other did not one person in each couple was playing and the other person the couple wasn't right and the other person got disenchanted got angry so they were not happy people yeah um and that's You know that that does sometimes happen well i mean let's preface everything by saying if as we've talked about before if you're in a relationship and you have rules sure okay we can't tell you what rules are good what rules are bad exactly you know you you have to abide by your rules whatever they are they might not make sense to us exactly they don't need to make sense to us they need to make sense to you so yep i'm going to start with the newer couple okay so this couple from the beginning i think was kind of kind of, or still is, they're still together, I think, kind of almost doomed from the get-go.

Yeah, like we've always said, and Lisa's swinging, you can't be, you really can't be possessive. And this, the one half of the couple, I won't even say whether it's the male or the female is very possessive they are and they oh he's very dominant okay you just said which one it was but okay you said he was a dominant a female's gonna be dominant well you said he oh okay whatever okay he's dominant i'm not caring what's he gonna do yeah come over here I'm going to hang up my studio. Okay. he's dominant. I don't care. What's he going to do? Yeah, come over here. Stink up my studio? Okay.

And there's a story behind that, but it's another show. Yeah, he's very controlling and manipulative. Very arrogant. Yeah, like he boasted that, you know, I have a very high sex drive. Like, oh, okay, good for you. That's fine. I got a big hard drive, so. I i have a couple big hard drives with all sorts of stuff on them you don't see me bragging you don't see you swaggering around with your hard drive how many big my terabytes are yeah so that was and i think he felt very put off because she invited another playmate that she used to be pretty sweet on.

So that might have been mistake number one. And let's also back up. Sure. This couple we're talking about currently, when we did our magic dick show, it was about him. There were a couple guys with a magic dick. Oh, we'll get to that too. But in general, that show was based on this guy. Yeah. He's been a source of much material. One of the things he doesn't like about this other guy that she invited. Right. Yeah, she invited me. We know him. You've played with him once. Yeah, I've played with him. Nice guy. Yeah, nice guy. He has a big dick.

Yeah, he is not as big as Beer Can, but he's certainly the second runner up well he's got more length than beer can just as the girth beer can had right it's still a big dick don't get me wrong it's very comparable it's it's he drops his pants i still salute you know and not with your hands either No, that'd be about it. One hand to my forehead. That's it. Okay. I thought maybe he'd be saluting with something else. No gay Vince voice here. So this is, but no, God blessed him with that. But anyway, so she must not have gotten permission to play with him. Yeah.

Or the fact that no one was there to play with him in return while she was being busy. No. Yeah, that's probably what it was. The attitude and evil looks. He was like spitting mad.

He's on the side of the like one of those he's in the chase lounge and um the other person is hey hey are you okay and he's like i'm fine he's like oh no you're not you're anything but he was trying to like use his laser i-beams to bore a hole in that guy's head yeah it was it's like really again if you can't be like that if you're going to be swingers there has to be some you can't but you need to have the rules that you know your partner whichever way this is going your partner can't do things without something you both agree upon well apparently that wasn't talked about before this incident that's my point exactly so if you do have weird and funky rules you got to make sure everybody's Thank you.

upon well apparently that wasn't talked about before this incident that's my point exactly so if you do have weird and funky rules you got to make sure everybody's on the same page everybody agrees to them you know if you like go to a place and your rule is uh like if you're gonna go play just ask me first did you have to get a permission slip yeah yeah if you literally come with a permission slip it's like oh my god whatever my God, whatever. My boyfriend says I can play with your penis. Look, he even signed it. I got 50 cents for a container of milk and a brown bag lunch.

Yeah, that's terrible. Show my age with that one. Yeah, so that was pretty uncomfortable. That was uncomfortable. Yeah. This is Bethany Frankel from Just Be With Bethany Frankel. Listen, I have a bone to pick with these dog food brands calling themselves fresh, natural, healthy. Sounds great, but a lot of these quote-unquote fresh dog foods in your fridge are not even 100% human grade, which is why feed your babies just food for dogs. It's good enough for Biggie and Smalls, my precious babies, so it's good enough for your babies.

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And the other one was very similar to that yeah exactly exactly same thing was like the woman came into the pool and she was getting all kinds of attention and well i was giving her all sorts of attention sure you were and other people i'll take yeah but again her and i kind of have a little click. Yeah, you did monopolize her for like almost a whole party. So I... I didn't see anyone else trying to butt in. I don't know. Again, the other two single males there, you know, the one was with the other woman. Right.

And the other single male, I actually said said to her go become acquainted with them and she went and did um boy did she ever yeah so i i think that kind of well pissed her partner off which is her partner was again they practice a a rule system I'll put it that way of you need to get the other one's permission it's more of a dominant um game they play right dom submissive type game um and i think he was upset initially about that but i also think he runs a little high with an ego thing, just like the other gentlemen, using nice words, where they kind of think they should be the center of attention.

And when nobody's really paying sexual attention to them, they both of them got very put off and got very... I think they've both been pissed off even if their mates hadn't played, if their mates hadn't tried to play with them. I think those two want attention. Yeah, I can see that, yeah. Especially the one. But...

So it was an interesting and uh dynamic that happened and i was actually surprised because i here we were telling like yo you know swingers are like so much you're laid back and you know they're we've talked before about swingers have rules rules oh yeah the rules but they've been in the other couple was has been in the lifestyle for a significant amount of time. If there were permissions to get, that should have been upheld, whatever their rules are. Sure. And for whatever reason. If you're going to have rules, you should. You have to abide by them.

You both have to agree and you both have to abide by them. Yeah. You know, like we have the rule that every other thursday you're supposed to bring home to asian women yeah i've been negligent in my yeah over 20 years you've not done it once i'm very negligent sorry about that i will i will get you don't even bring home chinese food but that'd be a lot easier though but you don't even do that but it would be easier to do that but yet you don't do it you see my point I have you're saying oh But you don't even do that? But it would be easier to do that. But yet you don't do it. You see my point?

I have. You're saying, oh, that's a lot easier. Not going to do it. But that's a lot easier. Who broke your arms? Wait. Who cooks 99.9% of the time? Oh, let's not go to the tit for that. It's not going to be pretty. Let's not go to the tit for that. Who paints all the pickets? We put them up. We're basically pretty good with sharing things. You cook, I clean. I cook, you eat it. That's true too. But I clean because I did the kitchen floor yesterday. I did the wooden floor. I did the laundry.

oh it's fun it's so much fun being an adult but but again these same rules can can um can span multiple type things instead of just being sexual it's also how do you divvy up the the workloads in the non-sexual aspect and it it bleeds right into the sexual aspect you and i have a give and take to for most things and some things you do more than me and some things i do more than you just depending on what it is so i give you shit you take it ah well there you go again give and take i see there's my point you're getting hot hon you're open up all the windows and stuff yeah we can't have the air on boy it would be so loud so yeah it's fine got a cross breeze is beautiful okay but yeah i mean and our relationship has always been we don't we don't have rules per se but we have a definite give and take we try and that even that even goes into the whole play aspect if i were at a party i i want you to have fun and i'm not going to stand there but i i'm not going to be the center of attention for every little thing either sure so i like there to be a like 50 50 come on that's well i think our rule for anything works for us is safety first that's it you know and again if we're At a party,'s it's a matter of you know you just let me know if someone's bugging you that you don't want to you know don't want to be bugged by right i'll take care of it well i've been lucky so far yeah because yeah people see me yeah they don't want to deal with me um well the the ladies might well it's different so um and i think again um that's one of the things that i think upset that one lady's husband is that oh you're giving her like orgasm after orgasm after orgasm yeah that's the one that i've given 64 orgasms to or whatever it was in like 45 minutes yeah and so it was like she's on the ramp she's on the side of the pool you have her here you have her there it's like oh my goodness she wasn't trying to get away no i saw that why not i mean why just just enjoy it right but again getting upset over something like that i sit there and like i mean i've seen you have fun with other people i don't get upset about it's like that's great and then i know later on like this guy should have been thinking i'm gonna go home with her and she's gonna talk about how erotic i'm gonna tell her how turned on i am by watching it right right i mean if you're a swinger i'm sorry you can't not be turned on by watching your mate if that pisses you off you should not be you shouldn't be swinging no no i agree i agree it should be something you both enjoy otherwise you wouldn't be swinging to begin with you both have to enjoy watching your partner being pleasured by or giving pleasure to somebody else i mean if you're a guy and you get jealous because your wife's sucking to some guy he's got this huge dick and you don't then dude don't be a swinger don't be a swinger you know get a penis pump whatever i don't think they work but i don't know i don't know just say no then just stick just you and your wife yeah you think you know oh that guy's you honey the rule is you can only play with guys with smaller dicks and they have to premature ejaculators I don't know.

wife yeah you think you know oh that guy's you honey the rule is you can only play with guys with smaller dicks and they have to be premature ejaculators i bet you there are guys that are out there though still you know they do they have to vet their playmates oh i'm sure of it i mean we kind of do oh yeah not like a sexual test but you know we tend to try to meet hang out with them first and find out if they're a smack-ass or not. Yeah, we met a couple that have been very, a little too pushy for my taste. Yeah. And that's like a big turnoff for me. So I don't like the pushy.

Don't be pushing me. I don't like that at all. But, you know, again, so, I mean, the whole topic gets back more into the, individual couple rules you know what you guys determine you both need to sit down and be honest with each other what what are you willing to accept right and what are you not willing to accept you know um you know like i said are you not willing to see your wife with someone of a different culture? Yeah, some people do get upset about that. Or race or whatever. Whatever, yeah. Do you not want to see your wife with someone more endowed than you?

Does the wife not want to see their husband with anyone she deems a lot prettier than she is? Or a better body she has right or does something she doesn't do that's true you know um you know i mean whatever your rules are you know there might be someone that the wife's like listen i'm only going to give anal to you and you only do anal with me as an example okay that's yourhmm. Okay. That's your rules. Stick to them. Yep. Like you said, Ben, the secret to a good relationship and a good swing of relationship is communication and honesty. Communication and communication. I agree. I agree.

Because I was thinking, reflecting back to one party we were at, and I was sitting on the boyfriend, and I was, we were going to do some some intercourse and she kind of got in there she's like oh but he has to wear a condom i'm like whatever your rules are i don't care he's kind of like oh i gotta put a condom on like well whatever your rules are i'm fine with that i'm absolutely fine with that doesn't bother me one way or the other. But, yeah, he really wanted to go bareback. And he was like, oh, man, I really want to do bareback. And I was like, I'm okay with it. Your wife, it's the rules.

Keep peace in the home. Yeah, keep peace in the home. I want fresh Maine lobster flown in here, but not going to happen. I'm on the phone right now. No, you're not. Ordering one for yourself. I would never do that tonight. But, yeah, I mean, and the rules are there, so both. Keeps peace. Keeps the peace, and both people can feel comfortable. This is extracurricular fun. This doesn't need. It's not a. For us, it's not a lifestyle. No, it's not a mandatory. Swinging is meant to be an accessory, not a mandatory lifestyle thing. I, for us it's not a lifestyle.

No, it's not a mandatory, swinging is meant to be an accessory, not a mandatory lifestyle thing. For us it is, we do know people that it is their lifestyle, and I just, I don't know, I think. I think you said that kind of wrong, for us it isn't a mandatory thing. It is not mandatory, no, no it is not, it is not, it's like the cherry that's's on the cake or on the sundae. It's just that little extra spice. It's extra sugar I can't have. Okay. It's a little extra cayenne. See, I can't come up with these images. I'm not a cook. So anyway, it's just a little extra excitement.

How about you do something that relates? It's like, oh, it's that little extra lick of your balls while I suck your dick. Okay? That's good for my health. Good for your health. Makes me smile. Makes you smile. No. Just go right to, you know, oh, let's make fun of the diabetic. Sugary sweets. Yeah, that's exactly what I had in mind. I'm so deviant. I'm an awful, awful person. That's becoming a sound bite right there. What's that? I'm an awful, awful person? There it goes again. I will say it for you some other time. You can just grab it.

But, no, it's really important, again, especially if you're a couple. This is Bethany Frankel from Just Be With Bethany Frankel. Listen, I have a bone to pick with these dog food brands calling themselves fresh, natural, healthy. Sounds great, but a lot of these quote-unquote fresh dog foods in your fridge are not even 100% human grade, which is why feed your babies just food for dogs. It's good enough for Biggie and Small's, my precious babies, so it's good enough for your babies. 100% human grade, real ingredients, beef, sweet potatoes, green beans, delicious.

These are foods that you would want to eat, not that the babies would ever share. Just Food for Dogs is the number one vet recommended fresh dog food backed by over a decade of research. No marketing fluff. My dogs lose their minds at dinner. They run to the bowl, tags wagging, paws tapping, full Broadway performance every single night. So I do care about the food I feed Biggie and Smalls. So go to justfoodfordogs.com for 50% off your first box. No code, no gimmicks, just real fresh food. Just getting started in it. One of you is a little unsure.

The rules are very, very important that you establish and follow yes abide by them abide by them i'm going to say probably majority of the time it's the wife is a skeptical one right and she's gonna you know have some rules might be a condom thing again that's where some couples are um into soft swap yeah they don't know intercourse with the other couple right right same room how you get to watch them but no one touches each other or there's the soft swap too where there's also like okay we could do oral but no one but there's no penetration no there might be no vaginal but there's no yeah yeah but you know and again um yeah there's something to be said about starting out that way you know let that excitement build for both of you not just one of you no i agree one of you obviously is going to want to be uh you know put something somewhere whether it's yours or the other person's who you want you know whatever whatever make it a fun trip you know it doesn't need to be something where it's going to make it you know, that you don't get to play anymore one of you gets pissed off that the other one broke a rule right, right then.

Then all of a sudden it's like, no. You know, and then you go, is it really worth ending a relationship for? For some extracurricular. It's like, okay, it was extracurricular. Yeah. I mean, I love this person for all these other reasons. That was just something we were doing for fun. Exactly. You know, obviously it's a swinger couple or whatever. You know, I'm not going to leave my wife or whatever for her or whatever. It's just, yeah, she's happy or whatever. It's, it's just meant to be something fun. Exactly. And, you know, it needs to be taken responsibly. Right. I agree.

So knowing the rules or I, do you think that, um, like in the case of, of the, the pool party, like I had actually no idea that the one guy was upset at all until we got a text message or an email the next day or whatever. Yeah, I had no idea. So it wasn't even the kind of thing that you should have. He could have. But again, you know, the individual reached out to me and told me he was very upset and everything else. I answered him first with a text message. Right. And then I called him. Mm-hmm. And I talked to him because he's an hour away. Right.

I mean, I would have gotten, I would have gone, you know, face-to-face with him. Right. And it wouldn't have been, it wasn't a violent or. No, no, just, oh, I'm sorry you feel that way. We're not going to go it again. You know, I'm a big believer. If you have a problem with me, talk to me. Right. Don't talk to everybody else. Talk to me. No, I bet I... Say just if I have a problem, as you know, I go to you. Right, and you go to me all the time with your problems. Yeah, and that's a whole separate podcast called the Bitching About Donna podcast. Mm, got it so... I actually have enough material.

I do three episodes a i i bet i bet you do there's so much to bitch about i have no idea yes i i feel the love there's a love there that's what i was missing here you're missing so much so much the love is just one thing but but yeah i don't know i was i was really surprised by that one because he he's been in the lifestyle for a significant amount of time they're not newbies they have you know they're they're but seasoned but they're also again this isn't everybody so please don't ever don't anyone interpret this that i'm pinpointing anything like oh if you're this that's what you are um this is just our experience they play in the dom sub world right and he kind of is a type a personality and i think so for him to kind of stay in that realm i mean he wasn't wearing a leather bathing suit or a bathing suit at all actually but um nope he he says i'm coming naked i'm like that's fine i mean i don't think it's i i don't know how much our neighbors can actually see i would whatever i don't care.

Whatever, dude. You know, when you, I think, expected attention from somebody. There was somebody else he had, apparently, I wasn't privy to it, and that's fine, you don't need to be, that he had flirted with kind of heavily. Right, right. And I think he anticipated some flirting back that didn't happen. Not at all. You know? And so, whatever. I mean, but it just, you know, don't, again, it's a matter of a breakdown of their structure. Okay? I'd be lying if I say I agree with it, their structure. If it works for them, that's fine. That's what I'm saying.

I don't have to like it or agree with it. It's what they've established, and that's between the two of them, and God bless them. And I think that they were able to reconcile things by, what did he call it call it he had to recolor her yeah is that i've heard that term before thing is one of the major things he was complaining about was you know she played with a single male that we had there that was a friend of yours yeah just a friend and playmate of mine and uh you know he resented the fact that uh she played with him without getting his permission. Right.

And now, you know, he was all bent out of shape about it. Apparently, he wasn't, like, real thrilled that you monopolized her, too. But it was like a double whammy. Well, I think that was probably a lot more anticipated because at the parties, I spent time with her.

But then now he's like, can we do a photo shoot with her with yeah the whole thing is turned around you went from being derogatory towards this gentleman to like all sudden it's like oh now i can't wait to see her with him again yeah i don't i don't understand that i'm not gonna begin to speculate i have no official training so i have my opinion but that's all all it is. Like we said at the beginning of the show, this is just our opinion. This is just something really weird that we... You might witness something like this.

You might go to a party somewhere, a swinger party, not just Johnny's birthday party. Yeah. And see something like this happen. Be aware of it.

Watch out for it that somebody might be somebody's husband or wife could go either way might be getting jealous right over watching with somebody else i'm not saying you might be involved or no i'm talking about you i'm talking about yeah you in general sure yeah it's it could be well here's a question for you if If you are at a party where you don't know the potential playmates that well and you want to play with somebody, would it make sense to say, hey, is it okay if we get together? Do you need to get permission from your husband? Or do you have any rules I should know about?

Are these things that you should ask before getting into any kind of sexual... It's not bad etiquette. Right. It is a little awkward. I've had people come up to me at the parties and go, hey, is it okay if Donna and I... Yes. Go. I've had that happen a few times. That's not bad etiquette. No, I don't think it's bad etiquette. And I've had you come up to me a few times and go, hey, why don't I go play with XYZ? Oh, that XYZ boy, he's hot. I knew you were going to do that. But anyway, you and I have rules that as long as it's something you want to do. Right. Or someone you want to do.

And you feel safe and everything, it's fine. You know, because you know I'm there in this case. Exactly. Well, half the fun is having you there. Well, I'm just saying. But I'm saying for people. But if you're a single male, it's probably incredibly good etiquette. To ask permission.

If you're asking to be with woman who or a man who was there with somebody else right a significant other right it's like you know um hey do you mind if i go ask your partner if we can have time together it's not a bad thing no i don't think it's a bad thing maybe that's what should have happened i don't know i don't. But again, it's also put it in the other seat. Okay. So now the person who's aware of the people, people in the, like I said, you've come to me before. It's like, hey, do you mind if I go play? Yeah, exactly. That is always open to the person being asked to go play. That's true.

Let me go ask my significant other if if i can have some time with you oh so if you remember remember there was a one woman at the early parties you went to that um like everybody else was like oh my god oh my god and she was busy playing with um the one person we're talking about and she was at the table and everything else and and the girls were all bragging right and you know they're like you have to try it you have to try it and um so i went up to her husband first i said would you mind if i spend some time with your wife i remember that when the early party that's up to her so i said would you like to spend some time so i i did do do that.

Right. Yes, yes. That is very good etiquette. It's being very polite. You're not trying to out-alpha another male or whatever it is. I also had very little conversation with this woman because she was being occupied the whole part. Right, right. Whereas she was getting all the positive reinforcement from the other women like, go see Vince. Go spend time with Vince. So she was like, I could see she was like, I don't know. Yeah, I know. She was like, ah. That's why I asked the husband first, because I don't want to approach her and her get mad. But I was like, okay.

And he says, no, it's up to her. I was like, okay, if you would like to. This is Bethany Frankel from Just Be With Bethany Frankel. Listen, I have a bone to pick with these dog food brands calling themselves fresh, natural, healthy. Sounds great. But a lot of these quote unquote fresh dog foods in your fridge are not even 100% human grade, which is why feed your babies just food for dogs. It's good enough for Biggie and Smalls, my precious babies, so it's good enough for your babies. 100% human-grade, real ingredients, beef, sweet potatoes, green beans, delicious.

These are foods that you would want to eat, not that the babies would ever share. Just food for dogs is the number one vet-recommended fresh dog food backed by over a decade of research. No marketing fluff. My dogs lose their minds at dinner. They run to the bowl, tags wagging, paws tapping, full Broadway performance every single night. So I do care about the food I feed Biggie and Smalls. So go to justfoodfordogs.com for 50% off your first box. No code, no gimmicks, just real fresh food. You know, it's not bad etiquette. No, I agree. It's not bad etiquette at all.

You know, it's like when I used to date, actually, I would always ask a woman if I could kiss her. I never just tried. I always asked. I had more women thank me for that. That is nice, you know. I mean, they would hand me a Lifesaver first. Here's a mint. Take five. Bottle of Scope. Toothbrush. Floss. Here's a card to a dentist. You might want to go see the dentist first. Free appointment card. Then when you come back, oh, we're going to have one heck of a kiss. I will give you that one kiss. I will give you that one kiss. It'll still be a peck on the cheek, but yeah. Yeah.

It's like six months later. Braces come off. Braces come off. God. Oh, my God. That's terrible. But, yeah, I mean, asking is, I think it's just being polite. Yeah.

And you're right the person that is um the center of attention while the other partner is kind of i'll use the word neglected or just you know if you ask and they turn you down right they're not going to have a negative thing to say about you they're going to respect you for it right the woman or man may not want to play with you right and no i'm okay thank you uh you know i'm really not here for that or whatever excuse you may come up with but you know what if they do they're probably going to thank you and think like that was very considerate right you know no one wants to be you know you don't want you know some like i've had that one woman walked up to me in a party i didn't know her from i was that the one i grabbed your my fucking nipples and twisted like she was fucking trying to dial in a radio station and it's like what the i almost punched her in the fucking head it's like who the fuck are you i don't even know your fucking name you don't walk up to someone and grab their fucking nipples i mean i almost gave her a fucking elbow to the fucking forehead what was her response she was oh i thought you might enjoy it uh no i haven't even said i don't know your name didn't i don't know who you are did you hear me announce please someone tweak my fucking nipples no that didn't happen i've never heard you say that ever yeah yeah words i've never said they'll never come out of your mouth i mean i'd be like walking through the mall you just walk up to somebody walk up to them grab their fucking nipples and it's like you're gonna get killed yeah that's that's not good yeah i'm surprised that see that's really bad etiquette that's super bad etiquette you don't you don't do that or um the one couple we were with it had the listerine strips oh boy we've talked about that one yeah i'm sorry that was enough that's bad etiquette i mean we can appreciate the concept of trying to surprise somebody yeah we can we can definitely.

You know, just because you like a red hot poker brass doesn't mean everyone else does. All right. I don't know what you mean. You sit there and say, hey, my surprise is I'm going to lick your balls. Like, okay, that's a nice surprise. That's a nice surprise. Okay.

You sit there and go, hey, I'm going to fist fuck your ass not a surprise that's your death oh you know i mean there are good surprises yeah that was not a that was not a good one if a woman walks up to me it's like i'm gonna sit here and masturbate in front of you to tease you for the next 10 minutes that's a great surprise that's a great surprise the husband says hey i'm gonna walk up in front of you and masturbate for the next 10 minutes i'm gonna go get the fuck out of my face that's not a good surprise i got a surprise for you i'm gonna punch you in the forehead oh come on that's terrible but that'd be for my i don't want that kind of surprise you don't want that kind of surprise okay see i i might enjoy kind of surprise.

No, I don't want that surprise. Okay. See, I... You might enjoy that surprise. I might enjoy that surprise. Depending on what the guy looked like. Right. Sometimes it's a little... Like he's using two fingers or the whole hand. What, on my ass? No, but he's got to pinch his little pee-pee to jerk off. Oh, okay. He's got his hand on there, you know. Okay. Yeah. I thought you were doing a whole fisting thing. Like, wait a minute, I don't think that...

Some guy's using two fingers to pinch his pee-pee to jerk to jerk off you're not gonna be quite as turned on as a guy who can get around his whole fucking hand and still have something around it well it depends on the technique i've seen guys that with bigger dicks and they still use the three finger method which i find interesting even the finger method yeah it's like two fingers on one side and then the thumb so i guess it's finger and two thumbs like just hold like the cock like just below the head and they'll just jerk it off there i'm like that's interesting or then they do the whole switcheroo with your hand like you know you're gonna it's like you're gonna grab your dick but you switch and rotate you know i've never like jerked off the other way you know what i'm a long time since i masturbated and like my masturbate it was like i never put much thought into it you know i just like grabbed my dick found something that was arousing or thought of something arousing and just stroked i didn't like i mean i see these guys man yeah they move their hands yeah different pulling their balls at the same time standing on one foot flapping their fucking arms blinking each eye a different pace it's like really i mean this is you know okay whatever yeah i i've i've seen a lot of guys jerking off and there's a lot of different techniques out there that i find interesting and there there are some that like are very like nerve-wracking there's one friend and like the way he first he goes super, super fast, and then he does it from one side, then quick flips it over the head, and then jerks it off from the other side, twisting his hand, and then comes back to the other side, and back and forth like that.

I'm like, most guys, when I blow them, they like a slow, rhythmical. So the way he jerked off and the way he likes blowjobs are two totally different techniques yeah well it's it's really weird it's just like when you like the same thing yeah like sucking my dick i like you know a nice slow slow yeah feel it but then there's guys like when to grab your hair oh man like they're pumping for water i know of their mouth. I know. Oh, dear God. It's just like, I don't know. I don't know either. Oh, what a wicked... So, all right. Well, we killed 40 minutes. Oh, my goodness. Almost 40.

Just remember if you're in a situation where somebody might possibly get jealous, even, I was very surprised at that, but whatever. Not a bad idea. if you want to a situation where somebody might possibly get jealous, even, I was very surprised at that, but whatever. Not a bad idea if you want to play with a person. Even if you've previously played with them. Yes. You know what, I think it's now officially good etiquette to just go up and, hey, do you mind if I knock the bottom out of her? Maybe I would phrase it a little more delicately than... Can I make her a Boston cream donut?

See, that's very eloquent then. Can I bang her a Salvation Army drum? An Army drum. Yeah, exactly. Ask if you can have some time with her. Special time. Time with him, depending on who you're asking. Right, that's true. Who it is and who you're asking. But yeah, respect.

Make make up your rules make sure you both adhere to them yeah if you have to review them before you go into a party or a club or whatever do they have hand signals from across the room get the sheet out have an initial by each one that they read each one then they have hand signals when they're in the room it's like they're waving their hands like oh i think a gee. I think a couple even had timers. Like, you were with her too long. Oh, I didn't see how much time I had bought. I thought I put my credit card in the meter. In the meter. Yeah, that was another thing, the whole time thing.

You spent too much time with that person. Because I can and you can't. I'm wrong. I don't know what to tell you i don't know what are in the pool now so just be mindful that if you ever get into this situation that sometimes even people that you think really had a good grasp and have a good communication and a rock solid relationship it might be a little more shaky than what you think it is, which is unusual. Make sure you have someone to occupy their other spouse. Yeah, or something. All right, everyone. Have a great night. Have a good night, everybody.

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