Bull Hunting

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Hi, this is Donna Lynn and welcome to my hot wife podcast, where we discuss all the good, the bad, and the really erotic of the swinger lifestyle. Hello everybody. This is Donna Lynn and welcome to the Welcome to my Hot Wife podcast. I'm here with my wonderful husband, Vince, once again. Oh, here we go. Hey, wonderful husband, Vince. Hey. Haven't seen him for half the day, so. Yeah, lucky for you. Yeah, I know. It was a nice vacation from... So it's called work, right? So, yeah. It's Christmas already. Almost. Close enough. Right? Yeah, six days. Yeah, when we're recording it, six days.

That was probably even less when it... Hosted. This might not go up until after Christmas. Oh, really? Yeah, probably the Tuesday after Christmas. Oh, wow. Which, you know, we'll see when people listen to it. Hope you have a, hope everyone has a great, you know, whenever you listen to it. Hope you have a great holiday season, whatever that season may be for you. If it's Christmas, happy Merry Christmas. If it's Hanukkah, happy Hanukkah. If it's Kwanzaa, happy Kwanzaa. Whatever it is. Whatever it might be, we wish you all the best. Festivus. Just for the rest of this is what I always like.

And hope to plan for a happy and healthy new year. So if we can only get better, hopefully. So tonight's topic came from one of our friends, Chance. Okay. And he wrote in asking about that he and his wife are trying to find a, there's terminology you can use, a bull, a boyfriend, whatever you want to call it. You know, what's the process we go through to find you a play toy or a bull, you know? So the episode is going to be called bull hunting. Bull hunting. Well, see, for me, a bull is a certain type of person, not just any person. I don't think we actually got looking for bulls.

No, but I'm just saying. We just happen to find guys with big dicks. Sometimes, yeah. You know, sometimes it just works out that we. We find guys who don't have big dicks, too. Yeah, I mean, I don't go by that, so I'm never. I've never been bull hunting. I'm not interested in bull hunting. It's a term. Yeah, it is. It is. But a lot of people, that's what they're specific. Well, okay. If you're looking to add a single male to your relationship for, it could be just for your wife. It could be technically for both of you. Not in our case, but for some people it could be. Right. Exactly. Okay.

So what's in the process that we go through? Yeah. What are, what's our process and our recommendations and, things I think about and whatever. So, um, first of all, I'll start from my end of things. Um, if you're new to it, it's something you haven't done yet. You have to be very, very secure in your relationship and yourself. Oh yeah. We've said that a million times. And I can't, I can't, you know, say it enough, you know, because you're now giving your wife a playmate. Mm hmm. And again, we'll get into scheduling and stuff like that. How often does your wife want to play with this bull?

Are you to know about it all the time? There's various aspects. And we can't tell you what it should be. We're going to tell you what you should consider. Right. You have to make up your own, I'll say rules for lack of a better word, but your own parameters. of what you want. But first, you need to be comfortable with the fact that this is just something that is extracurricular activity. Exactly. I agree. And that you're secure enough that your wife isn't going to leave you for this particular person or persons. You can set up more than one. We've kind of done. Yeah, true.

And that you're going to be okay with... your wife playing while you're either a watching or not watching. I mean, there's times you have gone on hot dates with guys and, and you know, you play either at their place or you've come back here and I'm not watching. I'm sitting outside on the deck having a cigar or something. It's, you know, solo time. I'm not privy to what's going on. There's no cameras running. There's no microphone hidden. There's nothing. Nope. But, but I, afterwards I, I, Yeah, you share with me afterwards. But again, that depends on what you have set up. Exactly.

Everybody has their own parameters that they want to play by. So I get that. It makes sense. So in my opinion, the next step would be determining what it is your wife or significant other is looking for. Mm-hmm. Okay. So I guess since we're talking about bulls, that's going to be... We're just saying playmates. Or just playmates at this point. We're just saying playmates. We're just saying playmates. Unless, I mean, if your wife is looking for someone that is very well endowed, then it would be a bull, technically. Yeah.

You know, if she's just looking for someone else to play with, you know, just a... And I kind of got the feeling from Chance's email, it wasn't necessarily a bull. I could be wrong. Yeah. But it's someone they can trust, they can be comfortable with. Exactly. And that's all very important. Yeah, regardless of penis size. But again, how important is penis size to your significant other's desires? Exactly, exactly. I noticed one thing, just as a little aside to the whole bull thing, I talked to some guys that consider themselves bulls on, I think it was like one of the social media sites.

Whatever, yeah. it was a whole different attitude. I mean, they tend to be more forceful too. Yes. And I was not bull is generally larger endowed and is a little more forceful. Um, and that doesn't, and that doesn't fit into what you slash we enjoy. Exactly. I found it. I don't want to see you being roughed up, so to speak, not beat up or anything. Exactly. Yeah. Rough sex or like one thing we don't go for. We said before is the choking aspect. Nope. Don't go for that one bit. You'll get an uppercut right to the jaw. I find that.

And you better hope that's all you get because that's only what she's going to do to you. Then I step in and then it just gets ugly. The thing is, I found it like, for me, and this is just my opinion, I found it like a real turn off. And I have been with guys with big, big cocks. If you're a woman who wants to truly be, if you're a woman who truly wants to be dominated. That's one thing. Go for it. That's fine. But that is not mine. No, not my cup of tea. You're more of a soft dominant. Yeah. And it's like the guys that I get more vigorous with, I can't even say it's rough sex.

It's more vigorous sex. Sure. Or guys I know. They know my limits. They know what they can and cannot do. Okay. Well, let's back up before we get to that part. Yeah. So before you even start hunting for a playmate, you have to establish what are your game rules. Yeah, that's true. You know, is this going to be where she gets to go one-on-one with them? Mm-hmm. Is it something that is going to be once a week, once a month, once every other month, once a quarter, once a year? Oh, so you look at frequency. Yeah, that's up to them to decide. Yeah, oh yeah, absolutely.

It might be even kind of thing like just when the mood strikes you. And that's it. Who knows how long that is. Just spontaneity, like, oh, let's just invite someone over tonight and see what happens. Yeah, and like I said, you both have to establish what's the reasoning for this. Is it just to add some spark to the relationship? Sure. Okay. You know, is it something that, you know, the wife has the kids all the time and she just needs that little stress relief. So to give her something a little... A little pick-me-up. Yeah. A little pepper step. Yeah. I get it.

Or is it something that you want to, you know, you're like me, a voyeur, and want to watch your wife having the fun. Right. It's all how you want to handle this situation. Yeah. And there's, like, there's so many different ways. You have to really know what you want. I can't tell you. Yeah, you have to determine. We're just giving you basic guidelines. Yeah, that's true. Okay. And then... Once you have that criteria established and what she's looking for, is she looking for a certain skin color? Is she looking for an ethnicity? Is she looking for a shape? Yeah.

Is she looking for a guy who's ripped? You know, like the fantasy guy or whatever. The fantasy guy. Is she looking for a guy with the big schwans or is not the schwans that are important? Yeah, no. Yeah. All those things can come into play. Is he going to be younger? Is he going to be older? Is he going to be, you know. And then start your hunting on whichever site or sites you may belong to. So you're talking about swinger sites. Swinger sites, yeah. And all those adult sites you can find potential playmates. Yeah. There's tons of single men. Oh, yeah.

Some of them are married men posing as single. Of course. That's always the case. Yeah. Not always. the case but it's very frequent that might work for you too because now that person's getting their little little relief and you're not so much worried about them running away with your wife right potentially it could happen it could happen i guess it could i don't you know so i mean okay i mean let's pretend we weren't doing this what would you say would be the criteria for which you would look for a guy? Oh, boy, oh, boy. Well, I guess a boy would be part of it.

Well, I really love going through the Swinger websites because it's almost like going through a catalog. You know, like the old Sears catalog and you're like, oh, that one looks nice. Oh, that one. Oh, what about that one? Oh, you know, and then you can compare. I like somebody who's, you know, attractive looking. I don't care about skin color and all that. And, you know, the body doesn't have to be ripped or whatever. So I have a, I, my guidelines are pretty fluid. They have to be a nice person. You don't really know that until you meet them. So I usually go by. That's the next step. Yeah.

Well, we usually we go with, you see somebody who looks nice. They're not like 7,000 miles away. They're more local. So getting together is easier. That's something we've more recently discovered. You know, we get contacted by people. Oh my God. from all over the country, believe it or not. Or people that are like two and a half hours away and you're like, no, why would you do that? That's crazy. If you had a prior meeting. Right, that's one thing. That's one thing. But to sit there and go, okay, I'm going to drive two hours to go meet these people.

And, you know, again, you'll find sometimes the person in those pictures on the site aren't them. Or are them a lot of years ago. Yeah, that's true too. And where they might be complete assholes. Yep, we've met a couple of them too. It does happen. So those are the thing. Until you meet them and if they're a nice person, then everything else just falls into line. You know, that's the crux there. And you don't know what you're going to get just by looking on the website until you meet them. Or, you know, even... and calling is, it's helpful, but it's not foolproof. No, no.

You know, because, you know, we have great conversations with people and all of a sudden they ghost us and I'm like, what the heck? Yeah, we've had phone calls with people and then they don't show up. Talked to them for like an hour. They didn't, nope. Multiple times we've had that. Yeah. We've talked about that too. So you don't know. So once you make contact with a particular person or persons, I suggest a face-to-face meet. Oh, yeah. I mean, we had one of our, a couple of our playmates we did a FaceTime with, which is actually not bad. Yeah, no, that's okay, too. That was helpful.

But there's, I mean, we're talking about something that is a little more intimate than applying for a job. Sure, sure. You know. I agree. And I think going and meeting someone for dinner, drinks, or lunch. or something, go to a restaurant or someplace and meet them and hang out. You get a sense whether you kind of click with them or not. Exactly. Where all of a sudden they don't have good bathing habits or deodorant or too much aftershave. Whatever. But you might find out. And in turn, they might find out. It's like, well, I thought she was a little different than what I saw in the pictures.

So that's the next level of filtering. Well, the next...

nice thing about meeting somebody in a public place is it's um no pressure no pressure because you can be like okay we have to get home you can you know if it doesn't work out you know you don't you're not feeling like oh you know how we met some guys are like oh we're gonna play tonight and it's like whoa whoa i don't even know who you are and you know yeah and chill so if you meet in a public place you can always make up the excuse oh you know i have to go home and take out our dogs or my dog whatever whatever excuse oh i'm my daughter's coming over. Yeah.

So you can get out of the, and then you just like, don't contact them. You get my VD shots. Oh God. No. And that's what I said. It's a non-pressure thing. Again, it's that layer of, and again, these kind of apply to even if you're just meeting other people in the lifestyle, if you're not, if you're not meeting them at a club or meeting them at a meet and greet or whatever, it's kind of the process we go by. Yeah, yeah. So, and then again, when you have those meetings now, you're going to discuss with them more the aspect of like, okay, what are you into? Mm-hmm.

And, you know, he or she is going to hopefully ask what you guys are into and, you know, what's expected or what's looked forward to. And, you know, you might find out like, oh, I'm really into fisting. And you're like, no, you're not putting your fist in my life. So, it's really important because especially if you're trying to find someone like I believe Chance had kind of alluded to, looking to find someone who's going to be a regular rotation, you know, again, whether it be once a week, once every other week, once a month, whatever. You know, and you want to be a friend.

You want to find a friend, someone you can trust because I, we suggest that initially when the playing goes on, that the husband be there. Oh, yeah, just for all kinds of reasons. Just for safety. Safety and the erotic aspect to it, too. And ultimately, you're trying to filter out enough of the potential bad things that maybe it gets to the point where your wife can go on a hot date with the person. I mean, Donna goes on a hot date.

but these are guys we've known and she's played with numerous times many times and you know so it's not like hi how are you i'm bob and then it's like okay what's going on hot date no it's not like that you know i mean we don't know if bob's got women tied up in the back of the van he showed up here in you know i heard banging and thumping but that doesn't mean anything it doesn't mean anything it could be anything back there yeah yeah so but um you know so it's a You know, it's important that if you're going to meet a playmate, potential playmate, you have your, and again, I'd like to think it's just like a job interview.

You know, you go to a company, they interview you, but you should be interviewing them too. Oh, exactly. It should be a two-way interview. Yeah, absolutely. You know, and you know what? You might find someone that you play with one time and it's like, oh, you know, that was really great. Um, And you think that could be the... And all of a sudden, they just flake on you. Yeah. They got there one time. They put on the show. They're a good actor. They put on the show. It's like, yeah, this was great. I can't wait to play again. And all of a sudden, you never hear from them.

And you reach out to them, and they never return. Yeah, we've had that, too. You don't know. I can't say how long the hunt will take. But in some ways, the hunt is half of the excitement. Yeah, it's definitely... there's an erotic aspect that, that anticipation of, you know, meeting this person for the first time and are we going to click and is it going to work out? And, you know, I mean, I'm just thinking about our, our last, um, meeting with the, the gentleman and he was rather well endowed. I have to admit that, but he was great. I mean, conversation, we had dinner. He was on the show.

He was on the show. So yeah, you heard from, he was just, uh, Man, he was a diamond. He really was. And he was great to play. He still texts almost every day. Hey, man, what's going on? What's going on? How you doing? Yep. So I'm looking forward to being with him because there's a lot more... Creativity. Well, there's creativity. There's a vibe. There's a conversation. He's articulate. He's, you know, he's got a sense of humor. So that, all those things play into it. No, he's a great guy. Yeah, so... We have a few great guys. Really great guys. You know.

That you hang out and you actually do things that are not sex. Yeah, you'll find in your hunt for the bulls, out of 10 guys, I'd say, you'll meet two, maybe three. I was going to say two. One, maybe two. Potentially could be regulars. The rest would be onesies. Onesies. We have a lot of onesies. Yeah. Half of the onesies I'm fine with because I, you know. Yeah. Sometimes you think they're going to be one thing and then they. Well, now for us, it's a little different. It is a little different. Our criteria is a little different. It's, I don't know.

There has to be more, there has to be more showmanship. Again, we talk about Donna shoots content to post on Oni fans and other sites. So, you know, we meet a lot of guys and they have to agree to sign a release. Right. And, you know, some guys push back with that and that's fine and they don't play or anything. They don't do it. But, you know, so it, and then some guys being in front of the camera gives them camera shy. They get camera shy. So that's a problem. And all of a sudden performance issues. So all of a sudden they don't want to come back because now they're embarrassed.

And I don't think we make them embarrassed. We're like, hey man, we understand it. You know, I can't get in front of the camera. Oh, yeah, I absolutely understand that. I mean, I get that. Yeah, but he has to have people that are a little more outgoing. So, yeah, one to two out of ten, you'll meet somebody potentially worthwhile. I agree. And... That's not a terrible average, really. And even that person has a shelf life. Because one of the unique things, like, I had talked some time ago to, I can't think of her name right now. Brain fart? No, that's not her name. That's her Indian name.

That'd be a tough Indian name. Brain fart. Two feathers. How would I get my name? Couldn't think when you were born, so we named you Brain fart. Brain fart. She was here with her friend. Yeah. Mickey? Yes, Mickey. Okay. So I told Mickey, one of the things that I see in the lifestyle is that the quote-unquote relationships have a shelf life. Yeah, yeah, people change, you know, things happen. Again, you're a fat kid in a candy store. There's so many people out there to play with. where they want to play. Right, exactly.

And you sit there and go, hey, okay, Bob over here is a lot of fun and everything else. But it's like, okay, I've played with Bob five times. He showed me all his tricks. That's a terrible way to put it. But it's the truth. I mean, you know, so that's where it's like, okay, do you go to like Baskin Robbins where they have 175 flavors of ice cream and always get Vanilla? I like the ripple, that fudge ripple. That just does it for me.

But then after, if you ate just fudge ripple, then it's like, wow, there's Rocky Road, there's peanut butter, there's mint chocolate chip, there's, you know, you sit there and go, okay, I get to sample a little bit of everything. Once you're a diabetic, then you can't have any of it. You can't have anything. Then there's three flavors you get to have. That's another show. You're just an angry diabetic, that's all. That's it. But, um, And that's one of the beautiful things about swinging. You can really mix it up. If you want to, and to whatever level. Yeah.

We know people that they go out and they want to hook up with different people every weekend. Then there's people who go out maybe once a month just to get that date night out of the way, go out and have some fun with that, get a babysitter for the kids and go wild. And then there's certain people that just have a certain... circle of friends that they play with. And that's fine too. And they invite other people in from time to time, but it's always the same circle of three couples or four couples. And none of those are bad. They're just whatever works for you.

So it's, you know, so, you know, the hunt for the elusive bull is, it's not so much a hunt as it is a process. Yeah. Well, that's still a kind of a hunt. There's certain criteria you have to look for. And you have to, like you said before, you have to know what you want. So that's number one. Yeah, you have to know, okay, what's the ultimate goal? What's your goal? What does the wife want in this case? I mean, like when I contact single men for you, I know what you like. And I know what we expect from somebody. It's like, okay, no choking. Right. No rough sex. Right.

But, you know, and you've got to make sure of that. So, I mean, ultimately, every guy we meet, for you, I go at it with hopes that it could be somebody that you could go on a hot date with. Right, exactly. In time. In time, exactly. So, but, yeah, I mean, we have a couple guys that have come over and helped. to surround the house here. Yep, yep. I was just thinking about that. So they develop a friendship. A friendship, yep, absolutely. So. You know, we all have them over for dinner or cookouts or whatever, and there's more to it. And if play happens, great.

If it doesn't, that's fine too because we're friends now. Mm-hmm. Yeah. And that makes it, actually makes it a little nicer, I think. Yeah. Sure. Well, I mean, yeah, if you have a... little, I'll call it a little spark. Mm-hmm. Nothing romantic, necessarily. It's a light romantic, I guess. Yeah, sure, because they're nice people. They're, you know, they're fun to be with. They're, you know, I don't know. The only way I can put it, they're just fun to be with. There's, you know, great conversation. And one thing I'm going to put out there. What's that? Is one of our friends...

He's the one that helped us with the back walk and stuff. Some of the guys out there that get passed over are guys that are average looking guys. They might not have the greatest pictures on their profile or whatever, but don't rule them out. You don't have to go for the guys who think they're great looking like me. There we go. I was waiting for that. But yeah, I mean, sometimes. Don't sell those guys out. Those guys are actually probably the better at sex and more fun to hang out with than the guys who love themselves and scream their own name out during sex. I could not agree more.

I could not. And yeah, the guys with, I'll say average, like the average looks will usually surprise you.

Either they, either have a talent you don't a hidden talent you don't know about or they're very uh creative in in the bedroom in some aspect you know when they all of a sudden this trapeze comes down from the you know the ceiling and all of a sudden you're like oh my god yeah so yeah it's um it's always a it's always a nice surprise if their profile is loaded full of dick pics probably stay away from them yeah they're all about their dick and how great they think they are Right, I'm not, yeah, I'm not about that.

There's a whole lot more than, if I just want a dick, I just go use one of my vibrators, you know? I'll get more out of it. Yeah, thanks. I'm right here. Yeah, I don't see your dick pics everywhere. No, no, you don't see any of my dick pics. There's been no, there's officialities that I'm aware of. There are no dick pics. While I have been awake and sober, I can guarantee you there are no dick pics. I try taking a picture, I lift up the covers, and it's just... Get my camera in there. Right, sure. Try to get the right angle of your camera. I want 10 pictures of that process.

10 pictures of your dick. Yeah. What, 10 pictures? You try to take a picture of my dick. You have zero interest in taking photos of my dick. You have less interest in it than I have in it. Yeah, so. But, yeah, I mean, I mean, that's just our advice. You know, I'd love to hear other people's advice we can share with Chance. You can email us at hotwifepodcast at gmail.com. And if you're, you know, in the mood and stuff and you need some lubricant, I recommend Spunk Lube. Oh, yeah.

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We're trying to pull it together, so I'll let you know in the future shows, by a woman who is a, I'm going to say a sexual and relationship expert. Why did she want to talk to us? Probably wants to tell us what we're talking about. Well, we say at the beginning that this is not professional advice. And she's a very pretty woman. I saw the pictures. I know. I see. She even has some really kind of sexy pictures. I only just saw the one. I didn't see all of them. She's got it going on. I don't care. She doesn't know anything. But no. So we're coordinating that for after the first year, I think.

So I'm still waiting to hear back from our publicist. Yeah, we'll see what happens. They reached out to us. I don't know. So. Go figure. Some people have no brains. I shouldn't say that. But again, I'm talking about myself. So again, I want to wish, I'm going to, first of all, we're approaching our two-year anniversary. Holy shit. Of the show. We've broken 150,000 downloads. Wow. That's crazy. Who would have thought, right? We're rapidly approaching our 200th episode, which is even crazier. That's crazier. And everyone who listens, we owe you a huge thank you. Yeah. So thank you so much.

Yeah, thank you. And again, I want to wish all of you a happy holiday season and And if for some reason you don't, you know, because you're home with the kids or whatever, I'm hoping that when New Year's comes, this new year, 2024, is a healthy and prosperous one for you. I'll take that. All right, so I'm going to say good night, and we will talk soon. Have a good night, everybody, and happy hunting. you