In this episode of the Hot Wife Podcast, hosts Donna and her husband discuss a listener's email seeking advice on exploring his sexual fantasies, particularly involving cuckolding and bisexuality. They emphasize the importance of owning one's sexuality, navigating the swinger community, and finding safe spaces to explore alternative lifestyles. The conversation highlights the normalization of diverse sexual desires and encourages listeners to be open and honest about their interests.TakeawaysThe podcast is for adults over 18 and focuses on relationships and intimacy.Listeners are encouraged to reach out for advice and share their experiences.Owning one's sexuality is crucial for personal fulfillment.Labels in the sexual community are not necessary; it's about personal preference.Meeting potential partners in public places is important for safety.There are many people with similar kinks and fantasies; you're not alone.The swinger community is a safe space for exploring sexual desires.Being a single male in the swinger community can be challenging but not impossible.Exploring BDSM and alternative lifestyles can be fulfilling and safe.Life is short, and it's important to enjoy your sexual experiences.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/hot-wife-podcast-and-the-swinger-lifestyle--5343522/support. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
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Speaker1: Welcome to the Hot Wife Podcast, where we dive into discussions about relationships, intimacy, and everything in between. Before we begin, we want to make it clear that the views expressed on this podcast are solely those of the host and guests, and should be taken as opinions, not professional or medical advice. Additionally, we remind all listeners that this podcast is intended for adults over the age of 18. Unauthorized rebroadcast of this show is strictly prohibited without the written permission of the owners of Hot Wife Podcast. Now, let's heat things up. hello everybody this is donna lynn and welcome to my hot white podcast of course i'm here with my ever-loving wonderful husband oh my god you Oh, my God. You pile it on thick. Oh, I know. I do. It's just getting deep. I hope you wore your boots. I didn't, do I? Roll the pants out. They're gone. Your feet are going to get really dirty. My sneakers are missing. Sneakers are missing. So it's been a little while while we didn't have heat in the studio yeah something about uh calling the propane company to come to come fill the tank oops so we're just using little heaters here if i will yeah last show we had to repost an older show so sorry about that so it was quite chilly out here so yeah, hey, quick note. If you are someone who listens to us in the California area, and again, I'll repeat this part, the North Carolina, the Tennessee, Hawaii, all this devastation going on, our prayers and thoughts are out for you. So it's horrific what's going on. So we need to. If you have a good charity to contribute to to help any of these areas, we strongly ask you to help. If you can, sure. It makes sense. Anyway, we always talk about reaching out to us if you want to. Our email is info at hotwifepodcast.com uh we enjoy hearing from people uh today's show is solely on a letter we got from a listener a listener and you know when he said it it was just help me and i was like okay what do you want help with you know you you even reached out and said okay help you how what do you need help with? And he returned it. A very long email. Not too long. It's fine. It's expensive. Yeah. It's not a paragraph. You could tell when you read it that this is something that troubles him. Yeah. That's fine. It's, you know, we will, I will be honest. It's not of interest to you, but it's not my, yeah, it's not my wheelhouse. Right. Um, but I understand it and I'll put my two cents. That's about all it's worth. Um, and you can give your two cents from someone who's, you've been more in that scenario kind of thing than I have. Oh, yeah. Younger years. Sure. Should we read the email? You could read it or paraphrase it. I'm going to try to, like, I don't know if I can paraphrase it on the fly, but I can read what he wrote. It's kind of interesting, actually. So he says, okay, so here's my story. One day I was chilling with my girlfriend in my room that i was renting at a friend's house i always wanted to suck my friend's dick so i left my girlfriend in my room went upstairs to his room i put a point on the playstation that he had connected to the tv and made sure he watched the part where the girl gives a blow job i told him that part yeah yeah okay it makes sense? I don't understand wanting to suck my friend's dick, but that's me. Yeah, I told him I was. I am not critiquing this individual. But he says that he apologized, he likes watching porn, and let me see, I use all my courage to eventually say that I've always wanted to know what sucking a dick was like. Okay, I can get behind that. I thinking that that's me i don't have that curiosity those who do like this gentleman that's fine yeah and lo and behold um this guy pulls out his dick and said come come try suck my dick and so he did and and he said he took a long time to come and that he was scared so he had his friend jerk off into his face and into his mouth and he swallowed all of it so he said while he's still hot from that experience i went downstairs to my girlfriend and asked for a blowjob from her she did she swallowed my cum too time passed and no one found out about his little escapade here, right?
Speaker2:
Then eventually, me and my girl split,
Speaker1:
and one day he saw her in a car with him at 2 o'clock in the morning with other people, too. Since that day, he's been having fantasies about the two of them fucking and sucking in front of him. So, I mean, I get that. So, part of that's voyeur. The two fucking and her sucking his dick in front of this gentleman. Sure. Right. So, there's going to be sucking and fucking in front of him. My glasses back on. Go ahead. Yeah, I just shortened that up. Sorry. No, it's okay. Now, fast forward. I guess it's been many years. It says there are many years. So, every time he has a crush on somebody, like a girl that might be in a supermarket or a restaurant or anybody just walks by like a, you know, just any woman. I could see her give someone head in front of him or get fucked in front of him. And I want to eat the cum out of her or she can spit it in my mouth. Like she gets a mouthful of cum and then spits in. You't have to paint the picture that can be a little messy uh he says a lot of people think that's not cuckold because he's not married and he doesn't know one way or the other so um now his last sentence i'm not even gonna worry about because i don't do you i don't understand it i guess i don't want to miss well he's a little apprehensive about trying to set that up okay is that what this is yeah basically he's saying he's scared to be alone with a couple right a girl and another guy and ask for that and be turned down i that can be i think that's basically what he said okay oh yeah I wasn't sure what he was getting at with that, but that's okay.
Speaker2:
So we're here to give him some advice. First off, I'm going to say, right off the bat, again, this is not my thing, but you know what? No, it's yours, man. Own it. That's great. Own your sexuality. Life is short. Yep. You need to enjoy what you enjoy as long as everyone is of age and consenting. Sure. Okay? Be true to yourself. And you will find out that
Speaker1:
this is not your own fantasy that no one else has come up with. No, it's a little out there, but all you'd have to do is make up a profile on like, I'll just say, use SLS and say, hey, this is what I really want to do. And you'll be surprised how many people will be like, hey, I'll help you do that. You know, I mean.
Speaker2:
Yeah.
Speaker1:
And again, he says that some people tell him it's not cuckolding because he's not married i don't think the marriage i don't think the marriage part is a necessity you could be dating you could even put yourself out there remotely i guess as a. And say, I like to service both the man and the woman and clean up after. Clean up, sure. You know? You don't have to be married to be a cuckold. Yeah. And do you have to label it? No, you really don't. If he likes it, it's his fantasy. He's really into it. He wants to experience it. By all means. Don't be shy in your your profile whichever site you might be on yeah spell out what you enjoy believe me there's a lot of people on those sites that have the same things that have the same kinks and fetishes you do you're not that different this is not that far out there and and really you're not looking in a world that like people normally are going to. No. Even if people aren't into that, generally people we know in the lifestyle. They're supportive, but they're like, hey. Oh, man, hey, that's great. I'm not into that. I'm not into that. Knock your socks off with that. That's great. Be true to yourself, right? Obviously, you're going to want to label your profile as bisexual. Sure. You're obviously not gay, but you're also not straight. That might qualify as bi-curious. If he's not asking to have someone have intercourse to him, that's probably the wrong terminology, but with him, but him being the recipient, or to boff another guy, I might stick with the bi-curious thing, I guess. Sure, he's still feeling things out. In your profile, like on SLS, it says, what's your fantasies? Yeah. You could easily spell out kind of what you said here. Yeah. It's like, hey, I like to watch another couple go at it, and then I want to clean up after them. Yeah. There you go. Yeah, that's all I got you gotta do you don't have to label it a cuckold no no you really don't i mean i don't know why people need labels anyway but it's out there uh is he a cuckold i don't know i don't care is it important no it's really not important it's not a label you have to have no you know we did a show a while back. I mean, this is our fourth season, a while back, about uniforms and labels. Yes. Yeah, we did. You know, and I'll pick on the Harley riders. You know, they all, you own a Harley, you have to get Harley t-shirts, Harley belts, Harley, you know, baseball hat, Harley boots. Oh, I mean, the one guy had a Harley truck. It's like, oh, okay. We talk about a lot of people that are into being a dom. They all have the leather vest. They all have the chaps. They all have, you know, the mess shirt. They all have, it's like, is that what you need to be, to have, to, you know, I don't think we need to label. Dom, Disney, uniform you need to wear. Not necessarily, really. It's like a bowling team, man. You don't all have to wear the same fucking jersey. You know? But it might be like a bowling team if you're... Well, it's a bowling team, man. A bowling team. But, yeah, man, if this is your thing, by all means, own it. Put it out there. Spell it out. You don't have to put your face on the on the website you know no no you know and this gentleman asked that we not use his name and we're not we don't we don't use anyone's yeah I don't I don't think it's necessary I'll give you his address and his bank account we would never do that we don't have it why would they do exactly well I thought it was just interesting they reached out to us and say, hey, I'm grateful. I think it's great. Yeah. I think it's great that, and this is what we kind of enjoy is the listeners, you know, reaching out to us with questions or whatever and getting our opinion. Not that our opinion means anything. No. And that's all we, like we said in the disclaimer, this is just our opinion. This is not medical advice. No, we are not professionals in any level. No, but I do think if you really are serious about experiencing this, a safe place to do it would be something like a swinger website, whether it's SLS or not. But we are more familiar with that. We know what other people's profiles look like. And a lot of them, yes, by Curious, it's out there there they spell out exactly what they want and we'll go over things we're like oh boy i don't know this is definitely not in my wheelhouse but hey other people are into some freaky shit this is not that freaky this is really not that freaky but no it's not he might feel it is depending on his level of experience yeah we've seen some profiles i'm like what the heck but there's like alt.com yeah stuff like that which that's really to be a lot a little more uh over the top yeah so that might be where you want to try to oh again wherever you put your profile i will warn you to be careful meet people in a public place first sure absolutely almost never try to meet the play right then and there i agree okay do what you want telling your opinion yeah only because it builds a level of trust and you know you can kind of feel them out and make sure that you guys click you know and it's a lot easier to do in a public place that way if things don't work i'll be like oh look at the time i got to Oh, yeah, we'll talk later. You don't want anyone to oversell or undersell themselves. Exactly. You'll find that out. If a woman's looking for a well-hung man and she reads these articles like, oh, my God, this guy says he's so big. And she meets him and it's like, well, whose definition of big are we using? Well, you're not going to find that out in a public place necessarily, but you'll see if at least he clicks. Okay, if he doesn't have his face picture in there, and he tells you, oh, I look like the rock, you know?
Speaker2:
We've had a couple. We've had it. Oh, yeah.
Speaker1:
When I tried to set up that one threesome for you, that the pictures of the one guy looked just like the other guy. There's no facial pictures, but the body pictures, when the guy showed up, it's like, That was you 30 pounds ago. Yeah, that was him two years ago before he discovered pastry you know um nice guy but yeah we had another guy we met that wasn't disappointing when we met him but the pictures definitely didn't match and we and he's like you know because of his his profession right? He's like, I want to be discreet. I'm like, I don't care. We met you in person. You're still a good-looking guy, just that you're not the person. That was it. Yeah, you're not that guy. You're not that guy. Yeah. And I wasn't offended by it. No, you had your fun with his dick multiple times. Oh, yeah, I did. So that wasn't a problem. But, I mean, I get it. And I just, I feel kind of like people should be able to be themselves, even if you block out your face, I mean, we don't, I don't care, I just don't care, but if you feel the need to do that, put the real body up there, I mean, this whole thing with the one guy they met, that person was not him in any way, shape, or form. Well, and we get, I mean, another aspect, and we've talked about this. I'm flattered that some people think that this show's more popular than it is. We do okay. We do okay. Yeah, come on. With listeners, we appreciate every single one. Somebody might recognize my voice. Well, we've tried to invite countless people in here, and they're like, oh, no, someone might know my voice. Like, I'm sorry, we're not the morning drive show we want to be. The morning swing with Donna and Vince. Listen on the way to work. I mean, I'm flattered, but no, we're not. Nobody's going to recognize your voice. Nobody's recognized my voice. They might, but chances are, if they're listening to our podcast, they're a swinger, too. Probably more than likely. You know, I talked about my ex-wife. We went into an adult bookstore. She's like, what if I see somebody I know? Well, they're there too. They're there too. So anyway, but no, I think, again, as long as everyone is of age and agree upon what's going to happen, own it, man. If you're doing something really sick and twisted, you need to see maybe a doctor and go, hey, I'd like to stuff G.I. Joe's up my ass and sing show tunes. Well, that might not be right. Who's that really going to hurt, though? G.I. Joe. That Kung Fu grip gets a hole in your colon, man. It's not letting go. Maybe not. That's terrible. It's an embarrassing emergency room visit. Oh, we've heard a couple of them, haven't we? That's a whole other show. Oh, my goodness gracious. But anyway, yeah, no, to this gentleman, yeah, what's your fantasy or desire, how we want to word it, to a lot of people, that's not... It's not that far out there. No, you're, I mean, Donna has played with guys that after they fuck her, they've licked their cum out of her twat. Oh, yeah. I mean, that's fine. I don't care. I really don't care. That's what you want to do. It's theirs. No one's being offended. It's like's like yeah i mean i i don't have a problem with my own juice i really don't like if i take your dick out of me out of my and i suck on it it's it's just talk about that real slow i slide your dick into my mouth i taste my tang tangy pussy juice all over it. Or somebody else's pussy juice. I don't have a problem with that. Oh, that's okay, too. Yeah, that one works. Yeah, I don't have a problem with that. I wish my tongue was longer. No, I don't want to taste your pussy and taste someone else's dick, but that's me. That's true. That's me. You just don't kiss me while that happens. No, I don't kiss you. I don't eat your pussy. Once somebody's dick has entered your pussy. Right, right. It's like, okay, I'm done. My time is off limits until a shower has happened. Yeah, that's fine. That's me. That is me. That's it. I'm not critiquing anyone else. I'm saying my policies. Yes. And again, you have to be true to them. And I am. Yeah, and you are. So that's good. Yeah, but this gentleman, there are plenty of guys that are cuckolds or bi or just whatever name you want to put to it. God bless you with that. Yeah. You know, not important to put a name to it. A label to it, sure. If that's your thing, man, go for it. Go for it. Put it out there. Spell it out. Tell people what you want to do. You're going to find people going, we're looking for someone like that uh you know what even if um i'm just reflecting back onto the uh the swinger websites being a single male can be very very off-putting because most couples don't want to see a single male they haven't blocked it's it's being a single male just sucks we've even done shows about that we've been told um i just don't have time to play around on it nor do i wish to um reddit that website there's a whole big swinger community on there um so if you have experience with that go check that out that might you might be able to find uh groups that can direct you where to go or you know look to find fetish groups in your area you know i don't even really I really think necessarily, pardon me, I was burping and re-burping, that that is as big a fetish. I don't know if it's even got a name per se. You might have to put it under a cuckold. I mean, cuckolds generally like to be belittled. Not necessarily. There's different levels of cuckold yeah we've talked about that before yeah so this is just a different thing i'm sure if you spell it out there on any one of those sites what you're looking for even as a single male you will have couples yeah that will be interested sure i i mean i know a lot of times cuckolding that involves this aspect some that doesn't. The guy sucks the other guy's dick to get him hard to fuck his woman. Right. I'll put it that way, girlfriend, wife, actress, whatever it might be. You know, I mean, in videos, I'm guaranteeing it's not always a wife. Right. You know. It's whatever. But, yeah. Yeah, it's out there. People want that. They're looking for it. enjoy that um i think there's probably more out there looking for something like this than you would think because every time we've um we've guys that uh reach out to me they're like you know oh we'll be chatting for a little bit then it'll come by it'll it'll come out that you know oh you know i really like to be with men once in a while you've had guys um that one guy from central pa said he wanted to come out watch you fuck some guy and then clean up his stuff yes yes yeah and there was another gentleman who moved he was uh he wanted me to peg him but he also wanted to clean up clean up from somebody else um so it's not that i mean it may not be your cup of tea but it's not that uncommon it's really not it's not no i think i think you don't need to be embarrassed by it no you don't need to be scared own it man it's you know just find people that uh exactly you know we uh here's a little weird scenario we just went through today um i just started a new job, and it's been training all week, and there's a younger guy that we went out. He and I, and Donna joined us, to go over our sales pitch and work on that before we go back into training tomorrow. And there was no sexual talk at all. No. And I don't remember what exactly up but then i brought up this podcast oh yes and then he talked about and he's going to be on the show at some time that he's part owner of some latex clothing line and we're like yeah i mean i was like skeptical i okay. And he pulled out pictures of himself wearing latex clothes that weren't just male clothes.
Speaker2:
Yep.
Speaker1:
And he even had, like, a chest plate that made it look like he had boobs, and he had a wig on with his beard. I was like, oh, that's. It's like, holy shit. So, yeah, he was excited to come on the show eventually. Yeah, that would be interesting. It was interesting.
Speaker2:
But, you know, you'd be surprised where conversations can take you without any knowledge yeah that's true you know that's really true you know you make friends with a couple you know especially if the couple if they're both by it might not be an issue exactly and that's you see that i won't say It's becoming more common so so this to me doesn't seem that far out there it's it might be a little kinky the cock call is a little you know it's a little bit of a fetish but yeah he could just join one of these sites and he can get to experience something his fantasy any way that he wants you could do it. Oh, absolutely. You know, you could become a sub for a dom, and it might be, you know, I mean, a lot of times the BDSM world doesn't involve intercourse, but you could find someone who is more dominant. Right. And, you know, he, you know, if you want to be submissive, that, you know, he makes you clean up after he fucks one of his, you know, another sub or something. Exactly. Oh, there's so many scenarios out there. Well, you could be a sub with another male sub with a female dom. Oh, yeah. You know, I mean, there's a lot of avenues you could explore with this. It's a matter of how much do you want to own it. Yeah. So, that's my two cents. being safe is probably the number one thing. Obviously, that goes without saying, but we'll say it. But I'm thinking a safe space for you to explore this would definitely be any Swinger website or kinkwebsite, alt.com, any of those. Or try to find a BDSM group. I have no idea where this gentleman's from, so I can't even steer him. But like on sos there's groups that are all over oh yeah uh you might be able to find a group in your area that is more of a bdsm or bisexual or whatever i don't know um just do some homework and you know you'll find something yeah get out and meet people you know what's gonna happen is once you find one, you're going to find 20. Yeah, that's pretty much how it works. Then you'll be cleaning up so much cum you want to do it yourself. Well, let that be the problem, right? For those who want it, let that be the problem. No, I thought that was pretty interesting, you know. Like I said, dude, not my thing, but by all means, if that's what you want, own it, man. Life is short. Enjoy it. You're not hurting anyone. No, you're really not. You know? God bless you with that. All right. Still check out the free 50 Shades of Pleasure magazine. Yeah. I haven't got a chance to look at it yet. Oops, I'm a bad wife. Thanks. Thanks. I put all that fucking work on you. Sorry, I do have a day job, you know. You're the, you know. I support you so much, right? You don't read my magazine, bitch. You're the chief editor, and you didn't even read the magazine. I had to go. It's, honey, you do such a great job. You do. I'm like, oh, so that's a picture you used to make. Great. Yes. I love it. You're awesome. I don't even get a smiley face to put on the fridge. Okay, I'll get you a smiley face. No gold star, nothing. Oh, wah. Anyway, all right, man, I want to thank this gentleman for writing in to us. And being brave enough to expose himself. I'm sure it took a lot of. He just sent a picture. I don't need one. No. I exposed what he wants to experience. That can be scary, hon. I mean, no. I'm glad he took that. I'm telling you, man. It's not my gig. But he wrote in. He asked a question. And he gave him some kind of an answer. Yeah. Well, hopefully it helps. Yeah. Like I said, his first email was, help me. Yeah, I was like, that did nothing for him. I was like, what do you need help with? Yeah. Well, I need to have my house painted. Well, I can't help you with that. What do I need help with? I got some a house painted well i can't help me that what do you need help with i got some bills i gotta put exactly a lot of help i need i hope this helps um gives you something to think about sure and just uh like i said own it be careful and have fun yeah i like that all right Stay horny. Have a great night, everybody.
