Send us Fan MailTuesday Talks: What to Wear and How to Prepare for Your First Club | Episode 106In this episode of The Swing Nation Podcast, Dan and Lacy are back with another Tuesday Talks, answering a listener’s question about preparing for their very first club takeover as a married couple. From what to wear to how to feel confident walking in, Lacy shares her go-to fashion advice—including how to leave your hotel or home comfortably (and discreetly) with a lightweight trench coat over your outfit. Beyond the outfits, Dan and Lacy dive into the more important prep: the conversations couples should have before stepping into a club, setting expectations, boundaries, and making sure you’re on the same page. They also emphasize the importance of taking things slow, soaking in the experience, and prioritizing connection over pressure. Whether you’re planning your first event or just curious about the lifestyle, this episode is full of practical tips to help you walk in feeling prepared and confident.Link to Lacy s Trench CoatGet Tickets to Electric Pleasures- The Swing Nation - Main Website Quick Navigation Website: -- (Find all our social media links more!)- Swinger Society - Our Website to meet, connect events Swinger Society Discord Our Facebook Group- Swinger Websites -Kasadie 90 day free trialUsername: TheSwingNation SDC 14 day free trial Username: TheSwingNation** Use code 36313 for 14 days free! ** SLSUsername: NorthernGuynSouthernGirl- Merch More -Order Your Merch Here!- Lacy’s Fun Links -VIP OnlyFansPREMIUM OnlyFans-- THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS --Wisp : Making sexual healthcare inclusive, cost-effective, and accessible—for everyoneUse Code SWING at checkout for 15% off your oder!Shameless Care: ED Medication and at home STD testingUse Code TSN at checkout for $30 off your order!Promescent® Make Love Longer, It’s Time for Great SexUse Code SwingNation for 5% off!- Thank you for the support! -
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Speaker2: Come with us and share our pineapple journey as we travel the globe. Interview the experts, learn and grow together. Join the nation. Tuesday Talks. Just send your questions to Dan and Lacey. Tuesday Talks. Swing Nation got you feeling sexy. Tuesday Talks. Talking Tuesday with Dan and Lacey. Ooh, how about that high note? That was perfect. Hey there, pineapple people and welcome to the swing nation podcast we are your host northern guy and southern girl and we are back with another rendition of tuesday talks we are talking tuesday With Dan and Lissy. Wacey and Dan. My stomach's growing. Wacey and Dan.
Speaker1: It is 7 o'clock, two days before we leave for the Bliss Cruise. Wacey and Dan. Hush. Trying to knock out all of these podcasts so we can. Wacey and Dan. I might kill my husband. Wacey's going to kill me.
Speaker2: Please don't kill me, Wacey. This is our third party has in a row. Please don't kill me, Wacey. Okay. All right, let's go to the phone line and hear this week's Tuesday Talk question. Thank God. Hello, dear Wacey. Got to hold the end. We are really excited for our very first ever swinger events to be your club takeover at the sanctuary in salt lake city coming up in may and my wife and i are brand new to this and we have two questions for your tuesday talks each of them a little different first my wife wants to know If you're trying to dress super sexy for the event what do you wear from the hotel to the event that to cover up what may not be appropriate in the hotel or the walkover or the uber ride etc and then i was wondering since it's our first time how do do you recommend we approach this with our mindset as far as what we're comfortable doing, not doing? Should we night one have certain boundaries? Oh. Did you? The phone just, okay, here we go. Sorry, sorry. And then maybe move them for night two after a discussion. How would you approach this for your very first time, but for two people who are wildly happily married and incredibly sexual? Let us know.
Speaker1: So anonymous couple, I'm going to assume we're going to call them couple because they uh i'm assuming they're somewhere in that area right uh and so what they're talking about is we are doing a takeover of the sanctuary which is a new club that i just opened uh late last year i believe uh and it's right there in salt lake city utah i've heard it's a beautiful club it's like three stories in this old building downtown very swanky very upscale uh you know i don't know but i would guess they've invested significant um money into said club we've actually had several meetings with the owners we've actually met the owners the management staff they're super nice people really um seem to care about the community seem to be very like consent forward, very female positive, making sure it's a safe place for females and kind of letting them take the lead. So super. I could not say enough good things about the sanctuary and the experiences that we've interactions we've had with them thus far. Yeah. OK, so we are going there in May. It's May 15th and 16th. Yeah, for a takeover. And that Friday, we're doing Little Black Dress. Yes. And Saturday, we're going to do a glow party. Yes. And we're actually, I'll be DJing, and we're actually bringing Sophie with us. So Sophie Vore, if you don't know her, she's a female DJ she djs for us with electric pleasures on a personal level i love her because she plays all the music that i love like she has like a girly pop vibe guys don't worry i mean she definitely plays a little bit of everything but if if she would to lean a certain way it's definitely the girls and she's's a full-time college club DJ. So, I mean, she knows how to... She DJs several nights a week. Right. Like, she's always doing this. So, she knows how to get a club moving, bumping, grinding, all of the things. So, super... I think this is me and her. I think it's going to be... Yeah, I'm excited. I've never done a back-to-to-back with her so i'm excited to see how this goes but uh should be a good time so looking forward uh to that um okay so your questions are this is apparently going to be your first lifestyle great questions by the event ever and so you have a few concerns one is your wife getting to the club in her sexy outfit yeah lacey knows exactly how to do this because she does it about once a month. Yeah. So for me, I bought a relatively inexpensive trench coat from Amazon literally like five years ago. And I still use, I use the same trench coat every single time. So, you know, outward facing, I just look like I have like a trench coat on in my heels underneath there sometimes I am nude sometimes I have a dress sometimes I have a lingerie but the cool thing is nobody knows it gives a little like Kerman San Diego vibe you can get all different types of you know whatever you want but that's what i have done in the past now some girls will like especially like i guess not girls women like if they have children they will like they don't want their they'll change you know they'll bring they'll have their hair and makeup done and then they'll get to the club and then usually there's some sort of dressing or locker area rooms you can do that as well always a bathroom usually there is some kind of changing locker room area you're going to see a combo of you know being covered as you enter versus you changing or you know so it really depends on where you're coming right and some some theme outfits just look like Halloween-type outfits,
Speaker2: and you could probably get away with walking through a hotel lobby.
Speaker3: Yeah.
Speaker1: Now, for example, little black dress, the dress that I'm wearing, I bought three because I need...
Speaker3: Oh, really?
Speaker2: You bought three, did you? Is this going to become a trend? Because I think this is the second event in a row where you've bought three dresses.
Speaker1: Well, little black dresses, I always buy more than one because when we do tour videos, I always wear little black dresses. We also have...
Speaker2: So what you're saying is you already had some, and you bought three.
Speaker1: Thank you. you've bought three dresses well little black dresses i always buy more than one because when we do tour videos i always wear little black dresses we also have what you're saying is you already had some and you bought three yes that's exactly what i'm saying anyway so like my dresses are they're sexy but they're appropriate like i could wear them through the lobby with some heels and it not be inappropriate now like my glow out i the glow outfit for the next night because this is a club and and it's kind of neither you bring this up because we actually on our discord channel we had this conversation yesterday somebody was asked somebody said well i was thinking about just wearing just straight laundry glow lingerie And I said, well, because it is a club and usually clubs skew more traditional you know like men men in pants men in a collared shirts no backwards opposed to like a secrets that's more like ravey um so because of that i just got a glow dress And Dan has a glow, the matching glow shirt. So even the glow dress, it is like a bodycon dress and it's pretty sexy. Other than like, why is this girl wearing a glow dress in the middle of May? You know, like I could still really walk through a lobby in that, you know? So both of them I can, but I still will probably cover up just because i am a mom first and foremost always and when i stay in a hotel that's not a lifestyle or like swinger takeover i want to make sure that i'm respectful of the other parents in the club in the not the club in the hotel right so i always cover even if i even if i'm pretty appropriate i still cover yeah now I will say the particular trench coat that you, I still cover. Yeah.
Speaker3: Now, I will say the particular trench coat that you have is very thin. Yeah.
Speaker2: So it's not overly hot.
Speaker3: No.
Speaker1: And I don't know if we can do like an Amazon link in our show notes. But if we can, I'll be more than happy to drop that.
Speaker2: We can do that.
Speaker1: And so if you just want the exact way.
Speaker2: You'll have to give it to.
Speaker3: Yeah.
Speaker2: It's very thin. I've wore it 40 pounds heavier and 20 pounds lighter so it fits a it fits me no matter what size i am i can wear it in the summer and i can wear it in the winter and it's fine so it's a good like if i forget it if we go to a club and i forget it i'm like fuck forgot my code. It just makes me feel, as a mom, it makes me feel a little bit more respectful of the hotel and the staff and the people. Even though I'm usually pretty. If you're just wearing lingerie, you could probably throw shorts and a t-shirt over it or something like that. There's other ways to do a similar thing, right? Yeah, you 100% can. And then you get there and you just take that off. Yeah, 100 yeah 100 so it's just whatever i think the coke is a little bit like fancier way it makes me feel a little fancier than having sweatpants and you're not like pulling stuff over your hair and messing all that yeah yeah correct so yeah that's that would be my advice to the first half of your question the second half is that i think this is a great question and one we've gotten quite often And especially when there's two nights. And do you want to take the lead on it because I just answered the other part or do you want me to go? Remind me of what the second part of the question was. What was the second part of the question? I forgot already. Okay, so they're brand new. How should they navigate it? Oh, setting the rules, right. Setting the rules. So the first night they only do certain things and then you know the second night so exactly kind of where he was leaning is where i would tell you to go if you've never seen your wife or vice versa you've never seen your husband with anyone walking into a sex club and like fully swapping with someone can be a lot that's a huge that's you're jumping into the deep end so in my opinion if it wasn't and listen has have a lot of people jumped into the deep end and swam yes they have it's not worth the risk right in my opinion yeah when we talk to couples about at what pace they should enter the lifestyle we do talk about it kind of like swimming right like there are absolutely you can paddle out into the middle of the freaking ocean and jump off the boat and learn to swim that way and you may or may not drown right and the lifestyle is kind of the same way like you could go to the somewhere for the very first time and you could participate in an orgy or a gangbang or swap full swap with a couple and you might experience that and be like oh my gosh that was the best thing ever and i love it or you might end up divorced right like those are the two options and to me it's too risky the fact that the divorce is even a possibility in that situation means you maybe probably shouldn't do that right and only you know your your relationship right so maybe you guys were like no we're the we need to rip the band-aid off kind of people and this is you know it's not gonna we can't slow roll this we just need to go all in or else we're never gonna do it and so that's what we're doing and we we've talked about it we've talked about all the what ifs and what happens and the best case scenario worst case scenarios and we've decided we're gonna rip the band-aid off and if that's the conversation that you guys have had and this is the way you want to approach it me and lacyacey don't understand your relationship enough to tell you to do it any other way. Now, if you're asking us just for generic advice that we give to most people, we recommend the weighed in from the shallowing. So if it was me and Dan going for the first time and we know all that we know now and we're not just like jumping in, would say the first night go and and have certain things that you're comfortable with like for example dance with somebody maybe even make out with somebody you know like whatever you're comfortable with and then you go home friday night and you talk about it right you know i wouldn't even say okay so this is like a good like you said we to go. Lacey, if you want to dance with another guy, I'm perfectly okay with that. Lacey, if you want to make out with another guy, perfectly okay with that. I would assume it would be a reciprocal rule where you would allow me to do those same things. And then maybe we'll even say, hey, at the end of the night, and it depends on your comfort level, let's go to the playroom and me and you fuck.
Speaker1: Or let's just, hey, at the end of the night, let's walk through the playroom. Maybe we're going to fuck maybe we won't be comfortable fucking but let's just let's just take a lap and walk through there and see what's going on and then when we get back to the hotel we'll fuck to me that's a great perfect first night because what you're going to go home is you're going to go to your hotel room or your house or wherever and you're going to talk about those experiences if you saw your husband kissing someone and you were wanting to like choke a bitch yeah okay you don't need to go the next night and fuck someone you know like that doesn't mean the lifestyle is not for you that just means we need to do some work we need to work on those not even issues but you need to figure out why why those emotions are happening why do i feel like i need to choke yeah so instead of choking the bitch you you learned right you now know that that is something and so but if you if you watch him kiss a girl and you get your pussy gets wet and you're turned on then then the next time you go home and you're like babe when you were kissing her i was so fucking turned on you're probably gonna fuck each other and you're gonna talk about it and you're gonna be like did that make. Yes. Or it could be a little bit of both. Like, you know, it turned me on. And that's probably like what most peers. Yeah. It turned me on, but I'm also very confused by it because I love you and I know you love me, but I don't know how to process these emotions, you know? So you're going to have some level of that. And then, you know, the next night, so you just take these little baby sets and you might you know maybe the next night you you've like soft swap with somebody you're not ready for a full swap whatever you're comfortable with my advice would be to set those boundaries before you walk in the door and don't veer from them for example let's say we decide we're just going to kiss somebody. We're going to do what we said. We're going to be okay with dancing, okay with kissing. Our plan is to walk through the playground at the end of the night and see everybody fucking and then go back to our room and fuck. So Dan kisses this girl and he is churned. And I had a couple, you know, because I was a little nervous about kissing this girl. So I had like three shots of fireball. I've been drinking high at noons all night. He is ready like this is really fun yeah and i kissed the guy and i mean he's okay you know he's not my favorite he's not ugly but he's not like i'm not like my pussy's not dripping wet you know and then so then dan pulls me to the side and he's like you like him and i'm like i think we should fuck them really are you sure and i'm like what and so then now he's been drinking i feel pressure and i've been drinking so my inhibitions might be a little down and then so then we do it right and like that couple seems like they're into you so you don't want to disappoint them you don't want to disappoint your husband so you do it and it's not terrible it's maybe not the greatest thing it's not the worst but then the next morning you're like fuck did i i don't think i would have fucked that guy if you and you pressured me into doing it you told me we weren't gonna do this and you pressured me into doing it and this is all your fault you are the one that wanted to do this and now i fucked some random dude that i didn't want to fuck that's what's gonna happen so that's why you don't change your boundaries now what could happen let's let's do that let's do that scenario again but let's do it as we went home so we go home and dan's like man Thank you. change your boundaries now what could happen let's let's do that let's do that scenario again but let's do it as we went home so we go home and dan's like man i was ready i was down like how it was hot watching you with that girl but i just didn't like that guy you know i wasn't into him and like i'm down for you know like that's a whole different conversation like okay so okay so then now we know we really need to find somebody that you're equally attracted we need to check in yeah right maybe after you know like hey check in like hey are you into him or and listen that you've not both being equally into the couple that's going to be an ongoing issue that's always going to happen right so then you're going to be like well even if you're not into them them like do you have to be that into them to be able to want to have a swap like maybe just go in and have fun and who cares that like he's not like a nine out of ten or ten out of ten for you you know sometimes you can have a lot of fun with a five out of ten like but talking through all that is the process here yes and not even though you don't think you're putting pressure on someone you may still be they may be putting pressure on themselves because they want you to have a good time you know so that's why just taking it off of the table sleeping on it having a conversation the next morning at breakfast you know like letting that digest is very important yeah and i could see even you know if you're coming friday and saturday night to our event in salt lake i mean you could do the just a lap through the playroom friday and maybe you end up with a soft swap on saturday you know i mean if you come back friday very successful weekend if you come back friday and your guys are all green lights and you're fucking the shit out of each other and talking about how hot it was you know maybe the next time you know on saturday you want to come through and soft you know soft swap so soft swap being non-penetrative sex like you're just kissing and touching on each other while you're fucking. Maybe you want to do that. Or maybe you just want to fuck each other in the playroom next to somebody or parallel play. Which I think a lot of people don't take into account that that's fucking hot. If you have been with the same partner for any amount of years, just fucking next to someone or flirting or people watching, that in itself will enhance... Me and Lance, you still get off to that stuff that will enhance your sex life for the amazing for the next three months like almost enjoy that high while it's there you know and so like i think people like skip to a full swap because they think that that's like the end goal and there's i think swingers feel like that's what they're supposed to do. Yeah, and the goal is to have hot, amazing sex. Now, whatever it takes to get there is fine. If walking, doing a lab through a playroom is enough to turn you on where you're pulling each other's clothes off on the drive home, then you are successful, my friend. I don't even know if the goal should be to have hot, amazing sex. I almost feel like the goal in the lifestyle... But I mean with your partner. But you know what I mean? I think it's more than that. I think the goal in the lifestyle is to like find your confidence. Yeah. Find your desires. Find your fantasy. You know what I mean? Like. Yeah. It's like so much. Yeah. I do think though what I mean by have hot, amazing sex. I mean like so many people put so much pressure on like swapping in the act of like fucking someone not your spouse and the truth is is that you should just be having a good time you should be having good sex and and well that's the how many times have me and you had better sex in a playroom that's what i mean sex we've had in a full swap yeah same that's what that's what i was trying to get at yeah yeah just the experience itself enhances that area so anywho that that's that's it that's what we got for you yeah and i hope that i mean i think that was i thought that was a pretty good conversation yeah uh and i hope that helps so you know you and your your wife or you know talk about all the scenarios talk about the things you're comfortable with uh talk about what your goals are for the end of the weekend um you guys said that you're you know high sex drive kinky kind of people so you know figure out what what a successful weekend looks like for you i would say though err on the side of caution for sure take it slow your marriage is worth a night of fun in my opinion it's not worth a night of fun yeah that's what i mean like it's it's important to protect that at all costs agreed and you can protect it as well as in is tiptoe into this lifestyle agreed all right so if you have a tuesday talk hopefully that answers your question um but if somebody else has a listening has a tuesday talk question we would love to hear from you yeah there's a few different ways that you can get a hold of. You can email us at theswingnation at gmail.com. You can send your question in the email or you can attach an audio file where you ask us a question via audio. Or you can attach a video file. And if can get figure out how to get this tv to work again
Speaker2: uh we'll put your video up on the tv and so people on youtube can actually see you asking us the question yes which would be kind of fun um other than that you can call or text and that
Speaker1: phone number is 972-302-7716 one more time 972-302-7716 uh One more time. 972-302-7716. And that phone line, you can also text or call and leave us a voice message. Send Lacey dick pictures. Dan got all, you haven't looked, but lots of women heard you and seen you. Why didn't you show me? I just didn't think about it. But you have lots of titty pictures. You're probably replying to all the dick pictures
Speaker2: and you're not even telling me that there's titty and vagina pictures.
Speaker1: There is titty and vagina pictures.
Speaker2: Well, I need to get that phone and I need to message some of these girls back.
Speaker1: You should do that.
Speaker2: Send them some dick pictures.
Speaker3: Do it. I love it.
Speaker2: So they know what's up.
Speaker3: Yeah. Okay. That's it.
Speaker2: Put that on my to-do list.
Speaker3: I will.
Speaker2: And then, you know, if you're listening, send some more titties and vagina pictures. Yeah. And Lacey needs all those dick my to-do list. I will. And then, you know, if you're listening, send some more titties and vagina pictures. And Lacey needs all those dick pictures. She loves them.
Speaker3: I do.
Speaker2: I didn't know you were ordering that from me, though.
Speaker1: I think I mentioned it the other day.
Speaker3: Okay.
Speaker1: I think we got to secrets as last week's Tuesday Talk was coming out. And they were coming in as we were, like, setting. So there's still a lot going on.
Speaker3: Boobies. Boobies. Awesome.
Speaker2: I mean, these are good problems to have.
Speaker3: Yeah. Okay. Yep.
Speaker2: Anything else for the Swing Nation listeners?
Speaker3: Thank you. So there's a lot going on. Boobies. Boobies. Awesome. I mean, these are good problems to have. Yeah. Okay. Yep. Anything else for the Swing Nation listeners? That's it. All right, guys. I think with that, in a world full of apples. Be the pineapple. Be the pineapple, guys. Bye. Bye. If you've enjoyed our podcast and want to support us, leave a five-star review wherever you're listening if you want to see more of our content you can find links to snapchat twitter instagram only fans and more in the show notes come join the conversation with us and other swinger content creators on our swinger society discord server if you have questions or feedback email them to us at theswingnation at gmail.com. Make sure you head on over to theswingnation.net and keep up to date on all things Swing Nation. We thank you so much for joining us and we'll see you next time. Goodbye. That's so hot.
