When people message

[quote=RNV2025]When someone sends you the bird what is considered rude, to say we are not a match or just ignore the message.
Just had someone message me and I said we were probably not a match and they came back with “wow that was rude”. I’m confused[/quote]They are doing you a favor by letting you know to block them.
I perfer a "not a match " over no reply.
You were not rude. They were.

I am going to guess thier response was a tactic to get you to respond so they could keep talking to you and they hoped they could convince you to meet.

well said Travelers.. exactly!

If the profile is reasonable and the message was not stupid (e.g. "hi" or "wanna fuck this big cock" or "how ya doin") then we will respond even when we don't have an interest. Usually some version of "Thanks but we don't feel a match".

The ones with class often reply with some version of "thanks for the reply". The ones with no class reply with "why not we are perfect" or "fuck you assholes" or some such shit. The no class ones get an immediate block.

We typically respond with...Thanks for reaching out, we are all set with (couples, SM's, SF's, etc)

Thank you, I thought I was doing the right thing, stringing them along our just not answering would be rude.

We do same " sorry not a match"

Oh YES block and move on its on them.. so many here cant even read what we enjoy in our profile.

One liners, no photos, have no idea how to put a sentence together, 20 years old., those who are rude and crude. we can go on forever. Our block list is very big and makes our journey when on much better.

My response in that situation is something like "Thanks for reaching out, it's much appreciated. However, I'm afraid that we probably aren't a match. Best of luck to you."

Anyone who gets pissy about that response or your version is really just an asshole looking for a reason to sling insults, and aren't worth a second thought at that point. You did NOTHING wrong. Block and forget about them.

[quote=RNV2025]When someone sends you the bird what is considered rude, to say we are not a match or just ignore the message.
Just had someone message me and I said we were probably not a match and they came back with “wow that was rude”. I’m confused[/quote]In our opinion, that would be their problem, not yours.

You were direct and you were honest. That's an admirable quality.

It sucks to hear, but we'd rather the direct and honest approach over not getting a reply at all.

Congrats, you played it with class. Not everyone will match with everyone.

When someone sends you the bird what is considered rude, to say we are not a match or just ignore the message.
Just had someone message me and I said we were probably not a match and they came back with “wow that was rude”. I’m confused