Weight

@nclookn
Swinging is about taking a sexual and emotional risk. Everyone determines their level of comfort with that risk and they all come to the search with a basic idea of the physical attributes they want in a partner. Your comment about people being "superficial". News flash..Humans are superficial. It's well documented. That's about as silly as saying members here on this site are human.
Swinging is about trying to find a sexual connection and everyone has a method they use to find that. Some are going to be more focus on certain attributes than others.
Bottom line own yourself. Be happy with yourself. Because at the end of the day your success will be on your endurance to find the right matches not on being negative about people being superficial.

@OH2NY2NC2022
Disagree. "Somewhat" ... yes what you said is true for some people. However the vast majority are just looking for people that have similar or better physiques than themselves.
If people would be honest with their pictures it would save so much time. Too often you have people doing up close pics or body part pics. We find this tactic to be very immature.
Sexual interest is a very personal decision. We won't guilt anyone for theirs and we hope our interests will be respected as well.

OH2

Your constant negativity about this site on various threads will get you nothing more than a closer relationship with your own hand. Ditch the glass half empty BS, you might actually see things in a different perspective.

People on here are looking for people in their dreams in most cases. If you are not fit, have a six pack, a long ding dong, etc. Forget about it.

I wrote the original post. I appreciate all the input. I'm comfortable in my own skin and so is Mrs, but we just get tired of superficial people who judge us otherwise

Weight, may, but usually does not impact sexiness. If you are comfortable in your own skin, and love to play, that vibe makes you sexy and partner will know and appreciate.

Recent pictures takes all the guesswork out of it. We update our pictures regularly so there is never any question as to our appearance. As we age, go through surgeries, and other life events we have gone from being what we consider fit/athletic to weighing more than we ever have, to somewhere in between. We continually work on it and sometimes it works, and sometimes we see setbacks. No one is perfect, so we tend to just go with the flow. If others are interested and we connect great, if not well we seem to always find a good time...

Weight is a pointless stat to me. Unless you are competing in a weight division sport, I don't care.
I am not going to bring a scale to a date innordsr to keep you honest.

Look like your pictures, simple as that.

We have met people that forgot to add a 100 pounds to their profile. No, that isn't a hundred pounds total for the couple it was 100 pounds just for the female. We have met couples that forgot adding the ten years that had passed since they joined SLS. Or those that stated they were non-smokers when they smelled like an ashtray. It is like they didn't think anyone would notice.

People need to be honest with their age, height and weight. We all know that as we age gravity takes over. We both weigh less than we did in college, doesn't mean we still have the bodies we had in college. Honesty, goes a long way in the lifestyle. In fact it is more important than a person looks. It is what actually defines them as someone that you actually want to meet, become friends and play with.

For the most part, "HWP" is meaningless. Any two numbers are proportional. 230# & 5'1"? Proportional. 125# & 5'9"? Proportional. To get past this, our profile says we look for those where our "HWP's match up nicely".

Side note: the number of women who list their weight on SLS as 159 has got to be a statistical impossibility.

We have met several 150 pound people who said they were 120. And they were - once.

You gotta go where you'll be appreciated. Online is generally not that place.

Eh people can have their physical preferences. My issue with HWP is that it is a modern day mealy mouthed term that means nothing.

For instance, I'm 6'2 and about 240 (just started a cut, so I'll probably be around 215-220 in a few weeks here). You could line me next to two other guys with the same exact stats, and all three of us could have vastly different physiques.

What people mean when they say HWP is no fatties. Just put that in the profile and stop pussyfooting around.

Exactly.. we have seen what some consider "overweight" who had great personalizes, exude sexiness and were just fun... on other hand overweight or not if you dont have some class, dress sexy and fun.. we are NOT even considering going to bed with you..

Now Kat who at the most is 125 lbs.. does not enjoy a guy missionary style with overweight guys on her as the weight is just too much!

But as stated someone for everyone.. and we get it.. dont take offense to anyone's wishes!

One simply cannot answer why some people are attractive to others. As the saying goes, "Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder". Some people are attracted to the "HWP" person. Others look beyond the height vs weigh proportion. The good thing is that there are enough people in the lifestyle for everyone to find someone attractive to them.