LS experience turned stalker

I think there is a route for them to remove them from SLS though

[quote=newbieslnd]If you feel it is appropriate Please share his screen name so he can't do this to other members in the future.[/quote]I agree with you but I think that would violate the terms of SLS

[quote=newbieslnd]If you feel it is appropriate Please share his screen name so he can't do this to other members in the future.[/quote]I think it's against the SLS Terms of Service to do that. :-(

If you feel it is appropriate Please share his screen name so he can't do this to other members in the future.

[quote=Ymichael14]I think this has gone past just annoying and it is time to go war.
Attack before he does.
Contact a lawyer.
You will probably have to delete ever form of communication he has used including getting new phone numbers. I assume the lawyer will notify the FBI and he will be aressted and fired. And he will not be happy.
The lawyer can advise you.
I would just unlock my gun safe, but not everybody has that option.
Another good reason to use burner phones and meet in hotel rooms.[/quote]Thank you!

I think this has gone past just annoying and it is time to go war.
Attack before he does.
Contact a lawyer.
You will probably have to delete ever form of communication he has used including getting new phone numbers. I assume the lawyer will notify the FBI and he will be aressted and fired. And he will not be happy.
The lawyer can advise you.
I would just unlock my gun safe, but not everybody has that option.
Another good reason to use burner phones and meet in hotel rooms.

[quote=RonKathy]If any LEO , Fed employees anyone who works for the criminal justice arena took information form a NCIC computer or any IT info that is a clear FELONY.. do not hesitate to turn that idiot in and sorry its on him!

We have prosecuted and fired several for this same issue after divorces and or stalking situations!

ALL inquiries are tracked![/quote]Thank you!

If any LEO , Fed employees anyone who works for the criminal justice arena took information form a NCIC computer or any IT info that is a clear FELONY.. do not hesitate to turn that idiot in and sorry its on him!

We have prosecuted and fired several for this same issue after divorces and or stalking situations!

ALL inquiries are tracked!

"I've told him that if there is anymore contact, we will get the authorities involved and that may cost him his cushy job with the FBI"

Which explains how he got the contact information that you did not give him.

We had playmates for a while that we did a cursory view of using one of the engines.
It took the husband about 3 hours to have post us that one of his workmates had informed him that he was being researched., and by who. This engine stated explicitly that it was a confidential enquiry.

We told him we always played it safe with new playmates.

After a month or so with them , we filled in the blanks, when talking about what we did. There was more on his end than he was letting on.

[quote=hotluvrs]We haven’t had anything reached the level of requiring a cease order, but my wife has had several guys push beyond what we think is acceptable behavior.

Unfortunately, that’s one of the reasons she doesn’t get very involved with the online communication, and doesn’t encourage “friendship” in the lifestyle. We do have friends, it she’s always on her guard.[/quote]Thank you!

[quote=lcmim]Know anyone named Guido, with a sketchy resume?[/quote]Lol. Thanks for the laugh

[quote=RonKathy]Tripp and Roxy.. Yes I am retired from a Criminal Justice professional job in south Florida and beyond.

I have worked and had presented for prosecution dozens of these cases over the years and had a special victims advocate with us in our unit.

This guy is a flat out nut job.. I would highly suggest you make a formal police report and yes proceed to the next step of a restraining order or whatever it is called in your state.

GD forbid one of you may have to take additional protective "action" it will be on record of your issues with him

Good luck[/quote]Thank you!

[quote=RonKathy]Tripp and Roxy.. Yes I am retired from a Criminal Justice professional job in south Florida and beyond.

I have worked and had presented for prosecution dozens of these cases over the years and had a special victims advocate with us in our unit.

This guy is a flat out nut job.. I would highly suggest you make a formal police report and yes proceed to the next step of a restraining order or whatever it is called in your state.

GD forbid one of you may have to take additional protective "action" it will be on record of your issues with him

Good luck[/quote]I've told him that if there is anymore contact, we will get the authorities involved and that may cost him his cushy job with the FBI

[quote=Onehorneywife]Does his wife know he is doing this? Maybe if he was to get a couple of broken kneecaps he would have to explain to her why. Just a thought![/quote]He has a girlfriend for the last 3 years. I let her know Everytime he contacts my wife. She gets angry and upset and threatened to dump him but she doesn't. They live separately, so ending it would only be a huge emotional loss but not like ending a marriage

Does his wife know he is doing this? Maybe if he was to get a couple of broken kneecaps he would have to explain to her why. Just a thought!

From what you've said, unless you've taken additional action, the guy has no incentive to stop. There's no cost to him to continue the harassment and whatever bizarre pleasure he obtains from it.

Stopping him will cost you time and money. I suggest you consult an experienced attorney and plan things out. Getting a peace/restraining order won't stop him in and of itself, but will allow the police to take action when you call them. And you most likely will be calling the police at some point. It'll cost him legal fees if he wants to fight the restraining order. Your attorney should be able to find some grounds for filing a civil suit against him. More legal fees for him. And it'll make the whole thing public. It's fascinating how lawsuit complaints can find their way into employers' and family members' mailboxes.

I assume you're keeping annotated documentation of all of his contacts. Email prints, text and WhatsApp screen prints, etc. With notes about 2 am texts or escalating language or finding hidden company email addresses. Put together a story a judge can read and conclude that this guy is way out of line. Doing this now will save you time later.

Tripp and Roxy.. Yes I am retired from a Criminal Justice professional job in south Florida and beyond.

I have worked and had presented for prosecution dozens of these cases over the years and had a special victims advocate with us in our unit.

This guy is a flat out nut job.. I would highly suggest you make a formal police report and yes proceed to the next step of a restraining order or whatever it is called in your state.

GD forbid one of you may have to take additional protective "action" it will be on record of your issues with him

Good luck

Know anyone named Guido, with a sketchy resume?

[quote=lcmim]Just curious, is contact via email, text,telephone,in person?

In person -restraining order may be appropriate.Proximity might be dangerous.

Email, that is what filters are for. Send straight into the oubliette.

Telephone , you can probably block it. or just refuse the call. If he is sneaky enough to use other numbers, try an airhorn or rape whistle.

Texts can be blocked or ignored

If he escalates into your vanilla life restraining order, possible legal action, and probably letting some friends know about this wacko that for some reason you do not understand is harassing your wife..
This latter scarce on details and just in passing is a backstory. So if he does go that way the response would be ,"Ah that must be her wacko stalker"[/quote]He has used it all. He is very good at finding ways to communicate. It's been text, email, phone calls, invaded her Whatsapp that we only use when traveling internationally. Wiggled into her Facetime while she was on a call with one of our adult kids. Don't know how that happened. Started sending to my wife's work email which she never gave him. The company doesn't list email addresses on its website but he figured out what it was.

It's just been a nightmare

Just curious, is contact via email, text,telephone,in person?

In person -restraining order may be appropriate.Proximity might be dangerous.

Email, that is what filters are for. Send straight into the oubliette.

Telephone , you can probably block it. or just refuse the call. If he is sneaky enough to use other numbers, try an airhorn or rape whistle.

Texts can be blocked or ignored

If he escalates into your vanilla life restraining order, possible legal action, and probably letting some friends know about this wacko that for some reason you do not understand is harassing your wife..
This latter scarce on details and just in passing is a backstory. So if he does go that way the response would be ,"Ah that must be her wacko stalker"

[quote=irishrose22]No, but I'm wondering what a "peace offer" is and how the authorities would have anything to do with the situation.[/quote]A peace order is basically a stop contacting them and stay away from where they live and work order from the court. Battered spouses often get it. It used to be called a restraining order

We haven’t had anything reached the level of requiring a cease order, but my wife has had several guys push beyond what we think is acceptable behavior.

Unfortunately, that’s one of the reasons she doesn’t get very involved with the online communication, and doesn’t encourage “friendship” in the lifestyle. We do have friends, it she’s always on her guard.

No, but I'm wondering what a "peace offer" is and how the authorities would have anything to do with the situation.

We had a couple that we played pretty regularly with for about 9 months. Everything came to a screeching halt last May when I found out the the man in the other couple was trying lure my wife into an affair (poaching). If he had his way, he would have dumped his girlfriend and gotten my wife to move in with him.

She played along with the flirty one on one texts/calls at first which was against our rules. But, when he started getting serious she asked him to stop. He keeps going and we haven't seen them since May but it's still going on Jan of 2026. We are to the point of contacting authorities and getting a peace order.

Anyone else have an experience like this?