I was involved with a couple that played solo not just with me but others as well. They were Very open with each other. They knew what each other was planning and with whom. I remember after a meet up her calling him to let him know what happened and that she was coming home with a cream pie and me talking to him too. They were A Lot of fun
Instead of saying "maturing" we would say "developing" or "changing."
We joyfully encourage solo play for both of us, though it is not our preferred method. We're very secure emotionally with our marriage and don't want either of us to miss out on a sexy opportunity if it presents itself.
We do really like and feel affection for our play partners. Most have become good friends. So, we're very supportive of solo play. This may scare some couples, but we still prefer to be in the room when gittin' freaky just because it's so much fun watching your spouse enjoy a new sensation.
My wife and I play together (from a different account), and also play solo. We started out strictly playing with couples, but as we gained experience, we grew more confident about what we wanted, and also about relationship risks -- we are sure that neither one of us is going to run off with someone after a great sexual experience. We started playing solo because 1) it's fun, and 2) a 4-way connection is very hard to come by.
Our biggest concern about solo play is about the other person. We don't want a partner developing feelings and expectations that my wife or I cannot and will not reciprocate.
Welcome.. so after 25 plus years swinging.. we have also played alone many times with trusted long time partners. Those who get it, go out for a nice dinner, dancing and fun times.. since swinging we also surprise each with a night out at a hotel with a FWB for ones birthday or special occasion.
We laugh at those in the 40s-50s who say they are getting old.. LOL we are 71 and 68 and YES recent photos from our trip last week.
We love to reconnect after a single night out or stay over ... the sex after is really off the charts reliving what happened.
We have found that not many can do this but we are so secure and have been swinging so long we talk about all and just want to continue our fantastic journey!
Make swinging what you 2 want and nothing else.. make a bucket list and add to it with the new year. Its a great lifestyle with the right partner who gets it!
We have been active in the LS since 2010 and are getting older lol, the last couple years we have been playing solo more often. Not at clubs, parties or events, but playing with couples or singles that we find. Over the years we have grown from soft swap to lets be open to new adventures. .Schedules are hard to get aligned but we are patient and always enjoy a great encounter. i know its always easier for me to get an invite to play, but alway look forward to him getting invites as well
We're cautious about calling that kind of thing "maturing" because for some people that might equate to us saying we're better than them or something when we're not. It's just a thing. Something we do. We suck at this thing as much as the next person. Now let's get naked and make mistakes together ;)
My opinion is that as we mature and have more experiences it is natural that we explore and investigate new pleasures. That is the case with me as I have enjoyed some bi play with couples over the years. I changed my listing to bi in order to alert an interested couple that I am not one dimensional. Doesn't it boil down to doing what you enjoy with whomever you choose ?
We have been active in the LS for 15 years and are an older couple
The last two years we have been playing solo more often. Not at parties or events so much, but seeing couples or singles that we find interesting and the other does not
Is that maturing and in the LS or signs we need to reconnect in our LS choices.
Your thoughts and experiences are welcomed.
