Eroticamazon - point number 4 - I am willing to bet 95% of the couples on here don’t have kids at least from what I can tell. Those that do normally say they do and need time to schedule. I don’t want to hear about being busy and all horse shit. I see these people on here all day sometimes and they just blow you off. I am still waiting to possibly confirm plans s with somebody who I reached out I on 4/23!!!! You fucking kidding me.
Eroticamazon - point number 3 - there are a lot of couples on here from the south that are Motörhead’s. They talk in their description about going biking and all that. You think some biker dude wants to hang out with a white collar professional? I don’t know shit about motorcycles. And yes I see a lot on here that want to go boating or go camping together. Isn’t this all about having a connection?
Eroticamazon - point number 2 - I don’t reach out to people 4 hours away. The max is 2 hours if they are really hot. Most are under 30 miles at most. I would never drive that far to see anyone. Come on now.
Eroticamazon - you are not seeing this from a single males perspective. You can do whatever you want with single males. You rule on here.
And yes I told you and others many times before BBC rules in the south. They have black only parties for women that love it. They line up at the door for it.
3 months, 7 months, my point still stands.
You think people owe you something. Your message is all about you.
But you are another know everything that knows nothing.
In a few days you will be gone like a fart in a hurricane.
And no one will miss you...
MusicalPair - I don’t act like a dick until the couples start treating me like a dick. You can say what you want about my message but it is probably one of the nicer ones you have seen from a single male.
Your member since is 02/17/2021.
3 months.
You are wrong...I have been on here for 7 months in total. Shame on you for not reading my profile.
Guy has been a member for 3 month and is upset that unicorns are not falling out of the sky and landing on his dick...
"- don’t waste your time on here and go to a club to see if you can connect."
Much truth in that. It's always been rare for us to meet people through SLS. The best thing about it is the information on parties and clubs, and you get a preview of who will be there with the sign up lists.
I find the "you wouldn't approach someone at a club this way" logic both flawed and counter to common complaints about messages received on this site, namely they are too short and don't provide enough information.
Because an online message is more static than an approach at a club, it shouldn't be the same.
To all single men: Do not listen to disaffected and entitled men. They set a bad example, blaming others for their own lack of success (and by lack of success, I mean the way women have failed to jump on their dicks). Instead, listen to the ones that do well. Yeah, I know, kind of obvious, right?
@eroticamazon: Best written response I've seen on here in years! We agree 100%! Act like a person, not a dick!
@OH
"To all single males:
Before my subscription ends on the seventeenth of May I want to share some lessons learned over a seven month period.
HUH? As a couple that has no problems with SMs, you got all of that wrong from our perspective.
I think you are equating some as meaning all.
Do SOME women want BIG cocks? Yes. Do ALL? HELL NO.
Do SOME women want Black Males? Yes. Do ALL? HELL NO.
You will be ignored by 99.5%. This is tricky because it opens pandora's box. Do we ignore some SMs? FUCK YEAH. If we get a message from a SM that is 4 hours away, not even gonna bother responding. Why? We would not respond to a couple 4 hours away as well! The issue is the distance, not anything else. Now, if the SM communicated by saying, Hi, my name is ___. BLAH BLAH BLAH with a bunch of other interesting stuff and then said, I am going to be in your area these dates for this long. That would change our perspective. And oh yeah, don't fucking tell us 2 days before. That is so arrogant. To think that we are sitting at home waiting for YOU to show up is extremely selfish.
I have no idea if any of the SMs we know have a motorcycle, RV or boat. We, as a couple do not have a checklist that says, "Hmm. Are you black, yes or no? Do you have a big cock, yes or no? Do you have an RV, yes or no? What about a motorcycle, yes or no? A boat, yes or no?" Ok, so you answered yes to the first two and one of the other three, now let me ask you this on the list that is here on my clipboard, "What do you do for a living? Is it blue or white collar? " Ok, good you answered that correctly, now let's talk, ok, well, now that we talked, I am going to ignore you.
Yeah that doesn't happen.
I think your expectations are MUCH higher than reality. If you want to learn from the SMs that are successful, they can teach you a ton of things. The first thing to understand is that this is not fucking McDonalds where you are ordering off the menu. There are people on the other side. They have lives that they are living. They have their priorities. To think that YOU are their priority is arrogant.
AND . . .
That opening communication, from my perspective . . . would get you ignored. I bet you can't even figure out why. Think about it what you wrote carefully.
The answer is simple. That communication is NEVER what you would say as the opening line to someone you met ANYWHERE. You are not going to a club and say, "Hi, my name is Joe and I am into MFM and I am respectful and considerate." Really? That tells me that your little head is thinking more than your big head. Try writing what you would normally say to start a conversation with someone. That may change your success rate.
And read the contradictory sentence, "I am looking to make friends in the lifestyle and have no expectations except to have fun." What does that even mean? You only expect to have fun but make friends? HUH?
Single males are no different than couples. Messaging and how you 'advertise' is what people react to. You would never go buy laundry detergent that just says, "Laundry Detergent" on the package. There has to be more. There has to be a message that convinces you to buy it. That is where I think you are stuck.
CKjordan - well said...let me share with you what I send to couples. This is nice short and sweet and to the point. All I get is silence.
Hello!
I hope all is well. I wanted to take a moment and introduce myself.
As you might expect, being a single male I am into MFM. As a partner, I would be respectful and considerate of your needs and desires. I am looking to make friends in the lifestyle and have no expectations except to have fun.
Let me know if you would you be interested in setting something up to get a drink and chat, see if there's chemistry?
I have opened my private pics for you.
Thanks!
Funny how people have different views about single male success. I do just fine on here. For me a good attitude and friendly demeanor go much farther that a ripped body and model looks. I would consider my self slightly above average in the looks / body department. However, most couples that I have had success with said the thing that stood out most about me was that I could carry on an intelligent conversation and I am easygoing and fun.
Not trying to give away my secrets but attitude makes everyone more attractive. Adjust your outlook and you will go far.
I would say that this goes for couples too. I have met my share of people with bad attitudes on here as well. It's a huge turn off.
Good luck.
Thank you for confirming my findings.
To all single males. The only thing he got correct was this...
"" you will be ignored by 99.9% of the couples or singles you reach out to. ""
To all single males:
Before my subscription ends on the seventeenth of May I want to share some lessons learned over a seven month period.
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"Yes I agree. Don't waste your hard earned money on this site. It's a waste and not really for you! Find you a nice vanilla girl and have a wonderful life together...:)"
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Good advise. In the meantime, the rest of us guys will continue to take care of the LS ladies. The less crowded the field is the better. Lol
You know he said the same thing last time.. with his OLD profile
As "Arnold" says I Will Be Back!
He loves the attention and abuse..
Yes I agree. Don't waste your hard earned money on this site. It's a waste and not really for you! Find you a nice vanilla girl and have a wonderful life together...:)
OH,
There are issues with the site for sure. Used to be email and better chat client. In the effort to move from web site to phone ap, the owners of the site really fucked it up.
No email and lame chat. Bad combination.
Add in the ease of requesting friends or requesting private pics, and it is just too much bullshit.
As I said, many just use it to find out about events.
There have been times when I have had 10-15 messages waiting... when I get around to looking at them its half guys that we've never been in contact with asking for access to private pics, quarter asking to friend (which gives access to pics) and the rest clearly stock "how you doin'?"
The owners felt the need to try to turn it into a Tinder type thing, but that isn't what swingers(at least old timers) are looking for at all.
The problem is, despite how suck this site is now. I have yet to come across better. mewe, casadie, fetlife are almost all women trying to get you to subscribe to their Only Fans.
Best of luck to you in finding what it is you are looking for.
Best thing you've said so far is not renewing.
Rabbit -
My membership expires on 5/17 and I will unlikely renew. I am finding this site is not the way to meet people. I agree I need to get out to a party or a club. I am just not comfortable doing so just yet.I have received my first Pfizer shot and I am scheduled for my second dose on 05/04. After my second dose I would feel more comfortable around larger gatherings.
You can take my comments as whining or whatever you want to call it, but I am trying to make a point. The point being, treat others how you would want to be treated. It literally takes seconds to send a reply and/or acknowledge somebody took the time to reach out. Will I change everyone? No, but maybe, just maybe somebody said to themselves you know what he is right.
Having said that, I reached out to a single female a week or so ago. I took my time to write a really good introductory email. I followed up the other day nicely.. She came back and told me she just deleted it.
At the end of the day for those people that ignored me or declined me they will wish some day they didn’t. I really am a carasmatic, well mannered gentlemen, but if you mistreat me that is when things go sideways.
Regards
