Single guys

OH- you’re not a swinger. You don’t understand swingers and swinging, you show open disgust for the lifestyle and now you seem to be trying to find a virgin , “ I personally would not attend a party that size not knowing who has what, who has been with who”

You are wasting your time and money and come across like a toddler having a tantrum. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and grow the balls to get out, meet women, and get into your own relationship. No one is going to invite someone that exhibits disdain into theirs.

~rabbit~

Have you gone to those parties pre-COVID, when you didn't know the STD status of anyone?

One of the major things one has to do in their life is determine their risk tolerance.

But people aren't very good about it, myself included.

One of the recent examples is the suspension of the J & J vaccine. The odds of getting the blood clot issue from the vaccine is 1:1,000,000. The chance of getting COVID being unvaccinated is 1:625.

I'll take the odds of getting the blood clot thing anytime over the odds of getting COVID.

Single people, couples, doesn't matter. The point is that generally there is evidence that a lot of people are substituting virtual social life and interaction for physical due to Covid.

But I was not talking about single people looking to meet their one special person.

I am talking about couples that play with single men, that have a collection of single men (and couples) they play with, but haven't played with anyone for a year.

Before going looking for new strange, we are first contacting friends we've played with in the past, been have been isolated from for the last 14 months.

We got our second shot 1.5 weeks ago, so won't technically be "fully vaccinated" until this weekend. Have not played yet.

Interesting points, AZ. Somehow, we manage to land significantly more single female play partners than couples. I have no idea why.

I hear the Covid 19 as reason for lack of success theory offered here and on other sites, but I don't buy it. I think someone who struggles to get DM responses during Covid times is just as likely to have trouble when/if normalcy returns.

I see it this way, many people have cabin fever and are looking for any social outlet. So, wouldn't they be more inclined to respond now? I was reading some news item the other day about dating app participation being at all time highs. This seems to buttress my line of thinking.

And don't forget that it is a very awkward time right now with the phase of the pandemic.

Many of us haven't played in over a year, and are just starting to dip toes in again. Having not played with regulars, not looking aggressively to expand the circle.

No matter how perfect you are as a candidate, there is still a supply/demand problem.

There are like 100 single men for each couple looking to hook up with a single male.

Same problem couples looking for single female have, except there it is 1000 looking per 1.

NC whiner, you are finally on to your recipe for success. Get on you tube and look up comedian Jay Hickman's "boat ride". That is your role model.

"Her is the typical swinger: tattoos, ride motorcycles, drives an RV’s, lives in the boondocks, no career Or future."

Neither my wife nor I have tattoos. We own quads for riding the dunes; does that count as motorcycles? We have a travel trailer, but can't drive that, just tow it. We live in the burbs. We both have computer science degrees and earn too much to have gotten any of the 3 stimulus checks.

Based on your attitude, I expected the typical single male profile of "fun guy looking for fun times with fun people". Pleasantly surprised to be wrong on that one.

Most people that have been in the lifestyle for awhile, already have a circle of play friends. A lot are here just to keep up with events, or in case that one new person/couple shows up that just seems to click and maybe you want to add them to your circle of lifestyle friends.

When we get contacted by a single male, what we are looking for is evidence you read our profile, that you found something about us that you found interesting, that you are not just passing an identical come-on to every couple.

Think of it like your profile is you resume, and the dm is the cover letter. Take time to personalize it, and explain why you are a good fit for the position.

If you aren't used to having to apply for a job, and instead are God's gift to humanity gracing us with your presence, then you probably won't have much luck as a single male in this lifestyle.

In Overeducated’s defense, he did state in an earlier post that he wasn’t successful as a SM. So, it makes sense that he sees a kindred spirit in NCguy and is offering his support.

BT

Do we need to resurrect the “Attention Whore” thread?

So we have a self proclaimed rich guy who considers off the rack JOS Banks designer clothes and claims intellectual superiority yet can’t spell or use proper grammar.

And his sidekick “overeducated” who proves once again the difference between education and intelligence. (Hint: you can only buy one)

~Scamp

Bazinga! Good one part two!

BT

LOOK AT ME! LOOK AT ME! LOOK AT ME!

Sorry, I just had to get in on some of this exhibitionist action...

:)

Bazinga! Good one!

BT

Real Boomer hours in here. What's next, "Rich Dad, Poor Dad"?

First, it’s Carnegie. If you’re going to try and claim some kind of intellectual superiority, you should probably be able to spell.

Second, it’s Dale. You should Google him. His life’s work is exactly what you’re missing. He “... was an American writer and lecturer, and the developer of courses in self-improvement, salesmanship, corporate training, public speaking, and interpersonal skills.”

Buh-bye now,

BT

"if you're nearly always the smartest person in the room, change rooms."

Post of the day worthy even. My Dad drilled this sentiment in my head from an early age. I'll never forget that.

"if you're nearly always the smartest person in the room, change rooms."

Words to live by...

“ Also, just because, if you're nearly always the smartest person in the room, change rooms.” -GGMM

The challenge is that one of them can’t seem to find the IN or the OUT door and the other one appears to keep coming back to post in order to explain things to you so you can finally see how smart and right they (always) are. No, it ain’t easy being them! (BT raises arm until back of hand hits his forehead, tilts head back and wiggles fingers in angst)

...still having a redonkulously great day...

BT

And as for money you have no idea we are very comfortable kids college is already paid for and haven’t even started . Multiple homes but hey l might already be retired you just assumed lm not.

Now now if you actually looked at our yes OUR profile you would already know we are a couple fool . Your a twat go away isn’t your mothers basement and wack off into a tube sock .
You will never get it and lm glad because some do and they are great guys that couple want .
You are not

Hush now, BT. After all, you can be replaced by something that's only $29 on Amazon and quiet. *

• I don't actually believe this, but it made me laugh.

Also, just because, if you're nearly always the smartest person in the room, change rooms.

Coolguy, be careful, I hear his intelligence is superior. ...like one half of The Wonder Twins... Form of...a whiny, entitled, incel single man-child...(sorry, you may have had to grow up watching 70’s cartoons to understand the reference, or maybe just be able to work the Google?)

Not that anyone asked, but I’m having a great freaking week. Hope everyone else out there in WeirdoLand is too!

BT

...don’t go away mad, kid. Just go away.

Dale Carnegie.

Paging Dale Carnegie...

Exactly Cool.. all should block him and maybe he will go away.. all he wants is attention and to complain on a swinger site.. amazing.. and YES word does get around!